what sorority rush at indiana university is really like...

[@TamaraAvinami]

Hi! I wanted to pop in to thank everyone for the insane amount of love and support

[@noreyelle0000]

I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. rejection is definitely protection!!! & you absolutely did the right thing even if it wasn't easy❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

Yesss agreed❤ i'm so happy with my decision and wouldn't change any of what happened!

[@beautybyashleyTV]

I cannot believe these houses dropped you because of your following, all you do is promote positivity and happiness. Ive been watching you for so many years now and am always here for you

[@carmennnnnnn]

girls are absolutely ruthless and see everything as competition, sad but the truth

[@TamaraAvinami]

AWW that makes me so happy to hear, sending u love!

[@marissam2138]

You are so amazing Tamara! The sorority’s that dropped you because of your channel are ridiculous. I've been watching you for 4 or 5 years now and every time I watch your videos it automatically makes my day better. I love your mindset to not do informal recruitment because if they dropped you now they don't deserve to have you in their sorority.

[@TamaraAvinami]

BAEEEE I love to hear that I have a positive impact on ur days !!!

[@jessikam99]

I went through rush at IU and dropped. The process is rough and emotionally draining. Some sororities are very toxic and it’s good you aren’t going to put yourself through that. I did go through informal and I did find a sorority that was so fun and not as prissy as the others. Regardless, there are so many other opportunities than a sorority. You know what’s best for yourself. Im sorry the process wasn’t better. I will honestly say I’m surprised it was due to your KZbin because in the past some wanted girls because of the following. But in the end it’s their loss because you seem like such a genuine woman.

[@TamaraAvinami]

Glad to hear you found a house that was right for you! Yeah it's a little strange but I think it's more of Panhellenic that doesn't like people with platforms because it's a "liability" but regardless I'm not stressing anymore :)

[@arthurgearheard4701]

It's the same way at Bama!

[@eidermartin5952]

girl their freaking loss you are amazing so don't let them break you because de are uneducated about your channel and all that stuff

[@michelineplante7090]

Juilen

[@TamaraAvinami]

So sweet

[@eidermartin5952]

@@TamaraAvinami of course i am so glad you feel better about it now, everything happens for a reason xoxo

[@jenniferseuring4459]

Seeing you hopeful and excited to be sad and crushed makes me so mad for you, so glad you are happy now

[@McBrideJuin123]

so proud of you for recognizing that once it wasn't fun, you didn't want to be apart of it. being true to urself is so real bro.

[@TamaraAvinami]

🥰 yes!!! exactly, thank you so much!

[@Juliss22xo]

It's truly their loss tamara. Rejection is redirection and I thank you so much for bringing us along and showing us what it's like. We love you so so much girl

[@TamaraAvinami]

SO MUCH LOVE TO U

[@josiejohnson3158]

Had this exact experience happen to me at the university of Arkansas last year and your emotions are completely valid. When I tell you I had the exact same thing happen to you happen to me. Even with my friends getting what they want and I didn’t. Happy that you did what felt right! Proud of you dude, it’s freaking hard!

[@TamaraAvinami]

PREACHHH

[@arthurgearheard4701]

Small world! I graduated from the U of A and found quite a few of the Frats to be quite toxic - especially SAE!

[@Anonymous-ks1mk]

Thank you for being real and showing the brutal side of rushing. You’re making people feel better knowing they’re not alone when going through this whole process. Thank you so much ❤

[@jacquelinenull3653]

I went through rush at Purdue and I’ve felt the same exact way. I made a video about the process and my struggles with it. I ended up dropping two weeks after being the house. It was not right for me but it was so hard to leave. You make me feel so much better about my choice because Greek life isn’t everything! Good for you putting yourself first!!

[@karmamaton1962]

You are so real. And your positive outlook on life comes through in this video. It sometimes just takes a little time to find the light again when bad things happen, which you do. My daughter is a friend of yours at IU and you have really been super helpful to her with her difficult rush experience as well. For those who follow you or find your channel, this honest video is not only great from an educational prospective about rush at IU but also from an emotional level too because it is a scary and difficult process for all. For future PNM's to know that they are not alone, or lesser of a person than others whose luck turns out better should this happen to them, will help so many girls going forward. Best to you Tamara! I look forward to meeting you in the future.

[@TamaraAvinami]

Hi! Thank you so much for such kind feedback ☺ I'm so glad I was able to help your daughter and anyone else out through the process! Can I ask who your daughter is?

[@Terrificgoodnes]

This literally happened to me last week and I’ve been feeling down about it since then until watching this video. I’m so glad you were real and decided to post your experience because you made so many girls feel like they’re not alone.

[@TamaraAvinami]

Aw I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you but I’m glad I could help you feel better ❤

[@soobunii4871]

you’re the only vlog youtuber i can sit through and watch all videos of because i love the way that you’re so real and show that life doesn’t always go the way you want it to

[@TamaraAvinami]

That means so much to me ❤️ thank u, glad u enjoy ily

[@stella_gmbr]

i feel like rush is so hard and dehumanizing... it breaks my heart to see that it didn't work out when we've been excited for you for mooonths !! but it don't define whoo you are, you're increedible Tamara and we love you

[@kasiezack]

Tamara, I'm so sorry things didn't work out as you had planned. I truly believe EVERYTHING happens for a reason. You will thrive with or without them! It was truly their loss and I hate that your channel/platform wasn't seen in a more positive light because you truly are the most real, POSITIVE, and truly genuine KZbinr/person all around. Even if it's hard to see it now, you are better off, rejection is redirection! sending so so much love. Have an amazing semester

[@TamaraAvinami]

My heart is SO fullll. I'm so grateful for people like u who support me and see what I try to do

[@kasiezack]

@@TamaraAvinami of course, i’m SO glad 🥹 i’m so happy to have ever come across a platform like yours, I LOVE U TOO

[@jaidenrivera9625]

19:07 it makes me think that there’s a possibility they could be afraid I’d being exposed … and dropping you bc of your following is a huge red flag! I am sorry this happened to you i have never been through rush or any from of Greek life myself but i truly empathize with you in this situation. Seeing your positivity radiant through this video as a first time viewer lets me know you could’ve truly helped those houses and would’ve brought such a positive change but they aren’t willing to see that! Go where you’re wanted and where you feel secure! They don’t deserve a you or your craft wishing you the best 💕

[@mischastephens]

I know it’s disappointing because this was something that you were looking forward to. However, putting yourself out there by stepping out of your comfort zone is something to be proud of because it is not easy. At least, you tried and you experienced sorority rush. It might be disheartening, but I’m sure that bigger opportunities will be coming your way! 😊 Also, here’s an affirmation for whenever you experiencing a setback in life. You can read as little or as much needed. “All is well. All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe.”

[@TamaraAvinami]

Thank you for this! I know it all happened the way it was suppose to and don't regret it at all :)

[@malambar21]

Thank you so much for being so authentic and sharing the good and the bad with us. We love you Tamara ❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

LOVE U ❤

[@camillephillips3524]

Rush is so exhausting!! Love you and I’m so proud of you for putting yourself first! You will end up where you’re supposed to end up!

[@vanessamaerere9006]

Aww Tam! Sorry you had to go through that but you stayed so true to yourself and thats all that matters. Everything happens for a reason ❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

Yesss it does ❤ I'm already super happy with my choice

[@lesleyxesty7332]

You’re so real for posting it! Thank you❤ rejection is redirection

[@TamaraAvinami]

This!!!! ❤

[@emmaschallmo3709]

I'm a freshman at IU and I dropped rush because of the unnecessary stress it was causing me. my friend had the same experience in having very good conversations and thought she had great connections but they dropped her too, it can be such a cruel process :(

[@isabellaacastellanos]

this video was one of my favorites of yours!! the rush process was so stressful for me when I started college and it really shouldn't be like that. so glad you stuck with your gut feeling and did what was best for you!! xoxo

[@TamaraAvinami]

YAY i'm glad u liked this!! and ofc

[@aliciarossiter7899]

GIRLLLLL- I went through the recruitment process at my school as well. While I had a good experience and accepted a bid to my sorority, I will fully admit that this process is draining and BRUTAL! Half the time it feels like you’re stuck in middle school again trying to be friends with the cool girls and they are just plain fake to your face! I loved my time being in my sorority but if I ever had to put myself through that process again, I wouldn’t do it. You are you and that’s what matters most! Shame on those girls for making you feel unworthy just because of your content. Which I should also add, is amazing! You are simply you in your videos and you can tell. Don’t let them get you down. They definitely missed out on having you!

[@insertnamehere_]

I’m so sorry it didn’t work out Tamara. If it means anything I really appreciate you doing what felt best to you and being so authentic. I hope you feel better soon ❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

I'm already so happy and so much better ❤ thanks!

[@Mk-kf4km]

I love this girl so much she inspires me soooo when I feel insecure cause we kinda look a like and she has sooo much confidence so thank u Tamara ❤

[@GentleVista]

You are literally going to have so much more freedom, watching you choose to make a decision by you for you is actually really inspiring.

[@TamaraAvinami]

Yay thank you, I'm glad!

[@AvaRosenberg]

They seriously missed out. Your channel is my favorite and never fails to uplift my mood or motivate me. They need to get a grip. You are destined for better things.

[@TamaraAvinami]

🥹🥹 thank you so much ❤

[@red6620]

Tamara you are too amazing they don’t know what they’re missing out on! You’re going to have a whole better experience idk if you’re religious but I believe the Lord rejects our plans when he has something better for us. Something better is coming to you 😊

[@TamaraAvinami]

Aw so sweet, thank u!!

[@emmy8759]

i’m so sorry you had to go through that :( their loss!!! bigger and greater things are coming for you ❤️

[@TamaraAvinami]

Thank you! ❤ and definitely

[@ashleylynn1925]

I just wanted to jump on here and say you made the right choice. I rushed at Purdue over 10 years ago and ended up getting a bid from my second choice. Instead of saying no thank you like my gut was telling me, I went through a whole semester never feeling like I wanted to be there. To know what is important to you at 18 or 19 is so great. I wish I had that confidence then. Good luck with your semester and you earned a new subscriber!

[@TamaraAvinami]

Awww this is so sweet, i appreciate you! Thank you so much ❤️

[@laurynblake3824]

I’m so glad you were so real with this video. You seemed so excited to rush. Everything happens for a reason. ❤️ other amazing things will come along for you I’m sure of it!

[@TamaraAvinami]

🥰❤️thank you so much!

[@sorellenya7792]

the hold greek life videos have on me is insane

[@sassysabs1118]

rejection is redirection girlie!!!! ur channel is so fun, and in the long run, it's gonna take you much further and open up a lot more opportunities than a sorority would

[@TamaraAvinami]

So sweet thank u sm ❤️

[@dabneyoffermein595]

there was no rejection

[@mariseladiaz6659]

I'm so happy for you girl that you get to show us you're lifestyle of collage you're videos has make my day keep doing you and in life you'll become successful and chase you're dreams I love you're videos

[@VeraEnting]

i don't think u understand how much I appreciate you for who you are. I really love how honest you are in every single vlog. your personality is so inspiring like whenever I finish watching a video of yours I feel so happy and in a good mood. you're truly one of a kind. I love you forever and ever. much love as always

[@aflorey]

Hi! I just jumped on here to see how much rush has changed. I am an IU alum/Alpha Phi that rushed in 1999 and 2000, because back then we started rush in November in person going to all 19 houses in 2 days and then came back early from winter break to complete the process. I can’t believe how different things are now!!!

[@RR_mann]

IVE BEEN WAITIN FOR THIS ONE 😮‍💨 we missed you !!

[@TamaraAvinami]

Awww I’m back I’m back ❤

[@danaa4700]

i was waiting for this video!!

[@ChelseyRenay]

Aw so sorry girl!! Your so strong and better things are coming❤️❤️

[@wendy4234]

love you!!! you’re too good for them

[@TamaraAvinami]

ILY

[@ashleytaylorsullivan]

I promise you, you will see how much you didn’t miss out on joining. I never joined a sorority and almost all of my friends who did Join a sorority dropped and regretted joining because of the freedom you don’t have in it. I know In the moment it sucks but you will be so much happier in the end!!

[@TamaraAvinami]

Yasss love to hear it! I’m already so happy with my choice dw 😇

[@fabulousmariah4330]

I love your videos - thank you for being REAL!!!!!

[@kyliemontigney3946]

Tamara you are amazing! It’s their loss they dropped you. You are amazing and so positive. Everything happens for a reason

[@rebeccafeola9633]

omg finally somebody made a video like this---- i had a similar experience, so thank you for this!!

[@taylorweinstein3088]

This is so realistic, thank you for posting this.

[@cassidycranor6637]

This rlly helped me understand the rush process. I’m sorry this was so hard for you and good luck in the future. You deserve better and they all deserve you bc you are amazing. You are so positive and everything will be ok thank you for sharing and being honest.❤❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

Thank you so much ❤️ I hope this doesn’t discourage you if u planned on rushing!

[@cassidycranor6637]

i wasn’t rlly planning on it but i’m glad what i know what’s it’s actually like, everyone only talks about the good parts

[@miaharris___]

I love you girl!! You ended up where you needed to be right now. A year from now this will not matter at all.❤❤❤❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

FACTSSS ❤

[@kennedyrwhite]

And that kids is how I met my college roomate and dear friend! Thankful for you, proud of you, and eager for THE DAYS TO COME. No losses here time to thrive. #Real #PG #ApplePi

[@TamaraAvinami]

I LOVE U SOOO MF MUCH SHAWTY

[@serciegee8224]

This really broke my heart for you. But soo happy you showed us this raw emotion of what it’s actually like. I’m so proud of you for choosing what’s best for you!! love you💜

[@TamaraAvinami]

Love you!! Thank you for the support ❤️❤️

[@maurabrophy7488]

Tamara I love your channel and happy you did what was best for YOU. Your decision truly shows what kind of person you are and what you stand for. Never stop being you. I look forward to your videos so much. Lots of love and cannot wait for the next video

[@TamaraAvinami]

MY HEART ❤ thank u so much, u don’t understand how happy this makes me

[@mariameneses9738]

You don’t need them!! Everything happens for a reason. I personally think you’re too powerful for those type of groups and are destined for much bigger things.

[@TamaraAvinami]

AWWW LOVE U!!!

[@marccolomayt82094]

love this & I enjoyed your sorority rush vlog so much! 😍💖

[@hannahherbst7765]

Oh my goodness. You are not alone in your experience. When I got to college I just knew I was going to be in a sorority and it was going to be picture perfect but the first day 8/12 houses dropped me and they were my top 8. The second day I was left with my bottom 3, then bottom 2. The only house that wouldn’t drop me was the house I was a legacy to. Rush was a very hard experience but I hope looking back you can have peace about your decision like I do now.

[@katie9294]

love this video and especially the end! ur awesome girl

[@LisaHerbstreit11531]

Had the similar rush experience at IU 3 decades ago (IU Kelley SOB class of ‘91) 😊 my advice that brought peace is to focus on fact that at school size of IU a small percentage is Greek…found my people by diving into other activities I enjoyed & it was meant to be my path…keep chin up & invest in friendships Truly ❤ your posts to see the best college campus…so fun

[@nicolemeehan6219]

You are my favorite KZbinr and I love your content so so much. You impact so many people and if they don't accept you than you're better off without them. Keep pushing through we love you !!

[@TamaraAvinami]

ILY THANK YOU

[@Sonakshi_S]

Thank you so much for making this video! As an upcoming freshman at IU it's so great to see things from the perspective of a current freshman. This gave me such a realistic perspective on rush which is appreciated. We love you girly>3

[@vrgosun]

you are so real for this❤️❤️ thank you for showing both side of you.

[@TamaraAvinami]

Ofc ❤️

[@michellegema5259]

Their lost Tamara! Your channel is amazing and if they couldn’t see that, then that’s on them. Keep doing you!!!

[@MrScentedsharpies]

You are so strong! It is very draining!! I went to IU had the same experience while rushing.

[@adiasagna]

They don't know what they are missing out on, keep your chin up girly. Remember everything happens for a reason❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

❤ yess maam !!!

[@JCLD27]

You can always explore joining as alumnae initiate. I joined last year a sorority at the age of 37 it was better timing and better experience because as an undergrad I felt at that time I couldn’t fit in. Don’t give up if you want to join :)

[@bayleerose5269]

So proud of you and your outlook on the situation ❤their loss babe! Love that you continue to stay true to you

[@TamaraAvinami]

Thank you so much ❤

[@Floonetworks]

I've rushed twice now. The first time, I got dropped by every single house at my school except for one after the first round. The second time, it went so great, like actually amazing until pref round when I only had one house and it was my last choice the whole time through. All the houses I'd made connections with dropped me, and I like seeing your mindset about it because I still have moments where I just wonder what was wrong with me. Thank you for sharing your experience, I think there is too much hyper-positivity about the rush process on social media, and we don't really get to see the reality that SO many girls actually do have a disappointing experience.

[@lizscooper]

truly feel so bad for u :( indiana comes across as very close minded just know ur not the problem❤️‍🔥

[@TamaraAvinami]

I'm okay! It was just a part of life I was meant to experience but thank you ❤

[@nylawilliams5984]

It’s the way I literally squealed when I saw there’s a new video by you I absolutely LOVE your videos.🧡

[@TamaraAvinami]

AWW SWEETNESS❤

[@ShelbySolus]

what's meant to be will be

[@sydneyfrance]

all i have to say is, I LOVE YOU & YOUR MINDSET & THIS VIDEO

[@TamaraAvinami]

THANK YOU ILY

[@emilycecil6543]

just went through rush and had the exact same experience except i found my house. Your video really made me feel better!!!

[@sierradepasqua7645]

Aww I’m so sorry you had to go through this, just know there is something big waiting for you in the future. ❤❤️

[@TamaraAvinami]

THANK U SO MUCH ❤

[@sierradepasqua7645]

@@TamaraAvinami nppp ❤️🥰

[@njx801]

lets keep it a buck, sororities like to recruit people they deem as followers or sheeps, they knew of your channel, your influence and saw that as threatening because clearly you can influence people and alter personas. Their loss not yours!

[@TamaraAvinami]

🥰🥰🫶🏻

[@phyllispawa5793]

Also as someone who has managed rush for Panhellenic it is literally data driven a girl can be one for every single house but it kind of depends on every single girls ratings how it shakes out.

[@onthemove3069]

@tamaraavinamo u r a beautiful, strong, independent woman. Go with ur gut. Sometimes it is hard being a strong woman because others can’t handle it. Enjoy every moment because it goes by too fast. Stay positive and beautiful as always! Sending a hug “(air hug)”

[@TamaraAvinami]

Sooo sweet if you, thank you so much! I appreciate it

[@ryanamerica2938]

i’m sorry but your doing amazing positive vibes !!

[@laurennuzum5275]

thank you so much for posting this and being so genuine!! i just went through the exact same situation in spring primary recruitment and dropped too. i thought something was wrong with me lol but your video made me feel a lot better and now i know i made the right decision too ❤

[@annakocol7116]

as somebody who rushed last semester through formal rush...you did the right thing!!!!! I understand the nerves, anxiety and frustration. I didn't get back my #1 but I was lucky i fell in love with my #2. But you stuck to your gut, and I commend you for that!!!!! is there COB? Like informal rush? That could be an opportunity to get sororities to know you better if you really want to pursue it-- BUT you do you girl! Own and claim that :)

[@twilightsun8109]

I’m so sorry u had a bad experience. I went through rush once and dropped but then I found my home during cob! I hope you consider it if u still wanna be in greek life but u have so much going for u

[@katyreillymusic]

Hi love- I went through recruitment at IU for the FOURTH time this year as a sophomore. It was so rough. I kept asking myself why I would be going back to a process that has disappointed me so many times. I now am in a chapter I’m so excited about. But it was absolute HELL to get to this point. There were so many moments this recruitment cycle where I wanted to drop and instead I stuck it out and tried to give the houses I went to a fair chance. That being said, there is nothing wrong with not being in a sorority, I’ve done it for three semesters now and had an awesome time. Wishing you the best, I’m sorry the process is so shitty, because every PNM deserves to find a home. It’s okay if that means you choose to drop and make your own home here.

[@jennifermarquez4823]

How ridiculous that a person with so much to offer would be cut from any house. The Rush system is so brutal. I want my daughter to join a sorority, but stories like this make me realize it may not be the best advice. I think it's insane that the IU system is set up to willingly cut so many young women. At least at other campuses there are enough spots for all who rush. Best Wishes to you-- truly their loss ❤

[@nyalee04]

there is no way you got dropped cause of your channel. It seems like toxicity and jealousy to me

[@izabellaharris1673]

Everything happens for a reason but I definitely feel it was unfair of those houses to drop you because of your KZbin channel. On that note I do really recommend going through the informal rush process for anyone who gets dropped by the house they really love. Most of the time it is a number game and not necessarily the house not wanting you. I just went through the formal recruitment process myself and was also dropped by one of my top houses. So I ended up dropping out because I didn’t want to join a sorority I didn’t 100% love. Fast forward a couple weeks later and that same sorority was participating in informal recruitment. While rush was draining I decided to try. Long story short I ended up getting a bid and have had the time of my life since. Honestly the informal process in my opinion was way better then the formal because you get more time to talk and learn more about the sorority and they get to learn more about you. Overall, I encourage everyone to give informal rush a chance if you didn’t get the sorority you wanted.

[@LateefahTV]

girl you did your best. MANY MORE WINS🥰🥰

[@luvnor]

They missed out big time Tamara honestly…also I feel like that one girl who asked you about your KZbin knew that they didn’t want you smh

[@imranger98]

i had the worst experience rushing at university of miami but girl you are so much better without them keep shining

[@louisamugisha7168]

Never clicked so fast

[@arouu]

Aint no way they didn’t want u bc ur youtube channel💀💀💀

[@TamaraAvinami]

It’s a “liability” ( the term they used )😋

[@billchen6260]

I go to IU and I got some friends at Sororities. Trust me, your not missing out on much. You can definitely still have fun hitting up house parties and bars. Frats and Soririties are overrated af

[@AnneDejong99]

Everything happens for a reason! They didn’t want you because of your channel? Good! your channel will grow and grow and so will your popularity. Because of that, YOU will grow as a person too and get amazing opportunities and eventually get the life you want and deserve! Those sororities will only hold you back from becoming the person you want to be! Your work ethic will for KZbin will help you get your dream life!

[@TamaraAvinami]

Love this, thank you so much ❤ means so so much to me!!

[@clairepetkov214]

Girl they’re threatened by your great energy

[@TamaraAvinami]

HEHEHHE

[@nikkiepicness5801]

I went through rush at mizzou and I balled my eyes out so much for houses dropping me. I ended up dropping too but COB after the houses and am now in the best place where I belong and I’m very happy. Little did I know your conversations don’t matter and it’s not personal when they drop you… it’s a cruel process Ngl

[@kyliefurlong2316]

Love you boo thang ❤❤❤❤

[@TamaraAvinami]

MY GIRL ❤ ILY

[@Toomuchfakeinthisworld]

Sweetheart, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. Tbh; you prolly got saved from something that could have actually influenced you to become someone you never wanted to be. Now you have an open door to be who you are meant to be:)

[@ninagagliano9823]

haha i love being from a suburb of chi and knowing some of the girls in the video! anyways, boiler up!!!!

[@CasperWest]

I tell what sorority life is really like on my recent. What do you think about that? Being that you are in a sorority.

[@TamaraAvinami]

I’m not in a sorority… that’s the whole point of this video

[@carlanserrano]

Absolutely shook! It’s their loss anyway

[@soobunii4871]

this same thing happened to marissa ayers. they dropped her because her following was a liability.

[@laraxx5450]

it is their loss !! you just keep on slaying as you usually do because sororities are overrated anyways . love you lots

[@TamaraAvinami]

ILY