What to do when Christians ANNOY me?

[@utubeskreename9516]

"And they'll know that we are Christians by our love by our love."

[@Angelalex242]

I usually struggle with this. Introverts can be Christians too, and we can also get pretty detached. Jesus was certainly an extrovert. I find myself more the scholar, granted things like reading very quickly but poor socialization. But this is so love based, and then I look around and ask, "Love who, exactly?" For I am not really bonded with anyone. I was given the gift of celibacy, and don't really form strong friendships either.

[@CalebForslund]

Well, Jesus actually answered that very question. You've probably heard of the story of the Good Samaritan before, when the lawyer who prompted the story responded that it was a Samaritan that showed love towards the hurt man; what do you think went on inside the head of the man beaten by robbers *before* his journey? A racist thought against Samaritans? How better it would've been to take a longer yet safer road? What he'd do after his journey? No one really knows, and that's actually the point. It's not wrong to want to know the circumstances behind what happened; but the point of showing God's love isn't just knowing about a situation. It's about loving others in spite of the situation. That's the love Jesus showed to us, and being God, He knows everything about us.

[@monaghanfan18]

Hey friend! I just saw your post. I know I'm a little late to reply, but I felt compelled to reach out. First of all, I want to challenge you a bit on your calling Jesus an actual extrovert. Hear me out! ;) I actually like to joke that Jesus was a total introvert, but His pure love pushed through all that. If you look closely at scripture, Jesus sought solitude a lot! lol Granted, He used that solitude to pray and be with His Father in Heaven, but can you imagine the difficulty of being in human flesh, dealing with crowds pushing around you 24/7, AND hearing all their thoughts to boot? He even said in Matthew 17:17: 'You faithless and corrupt people! How long must I be with you? How long must I put up with you?' Any human other than Christ would have most likely imploded in a few moments. I believe that Jesus understands the introvert's plight in the struggle to socialize. I'm a true introvert myself and I've kind of delved into these topics and studied in the Word to find help in this matter. What I find is both challenging and comforting! Romans 8:13 talks about "dying to self"...not something that comes easy when our flesh doesn't want anything to do with God. Jesus told us we must be born again. Once I became born again and completely changed my thinking, my actions, in my life, I began to feel a love that I couldn't even comprehend for random strangers on the street(or commentators on youtube. ;)! ) I am an extremely awkward and shy soul, but when I surrendered to Jesus...told him I was scared, but that I wanted to be obedient to Him and follow Him, He gave me a passion for the lost and a sacrificial love for my brothers and sisters in Christ. I also wanted to be like my Savior and pick up my cross daily for Him....that meant pushing aside my introverted self for a higher calling. Some days are better than others. I trip up a lot and sometimes struggle with severe anxiety, but Jesus ALWAYS rescues me and carries me through. Friend, you said, "love who, exactly?" ....Have you prayed that God would put more love in your heart? Have you prayed for 'someone to love' as Jesus loves you? Are you dying to self? Please don't misunderstand me. I'm not judging you AT ALL, and I struggle with these same things a lot and I don't know anything about you. I just know myself...and I know that Jesus has given me everything I need and uses me despite my introversion. In fact, being introverted is a gift! We are slow to speak, my friend! We are quiet, sometimes patient, and meek....these are good qualities and all of God's children have a place in the Body of Christ. Also, you don't need to be in a marital relationship to love deeply. That is a lie many churchgoers like to promote, but it just isn't true. Many of the early Christians chose to be celibates or eunuchs as they planted the seeds of the gospel. But love is still a command of Jesus and the most important thing we can do for others. If you've been hurt by anyone, I just want to say that I'm so sorry. If you need healing, I will absolutely pray for you...and if you're content with where you are, I would simply challenge you to dig deeper. Search for Jesus, surrender, repent of any unconfessed sins(that might hinder you from growing in Christ), and see what you find...see what happens. There is a place for you in God's kingdom! There is a place for you in the body of Christ. Don't listen to the enemy that makes you doubt that. Leap in and trust the Savior. Ask Him audibly about love in your prayer time. :) I hope this message is encouraging and does not in any way come across as rude or haughty. I guess I just love and care about you without even needing to know you. Because Jesus does that. He's amazing. God bless you, dear friend.

[@Angelalex242]

@@monaghanfan18 i actually did think to pray for more love. It has not happened yet. I'm going to need more persistent prayer

[@no8592]

​@@Angelalex242 Before praying for more of something, pray that you see what you have already

[@itstoasty7089]

Jesus often drew himself away from crowds to pray. Remember that.

[@hlb0111]

I really needed this. I really struggle with someone who says they are a Christian and flaunts it (ex. When in a group, and he hears someone tell the rest of us something unkind somebody they met did, he'll say, 'Well, as a Christian, I'd never do that') but then his life doesn't reflect how we are called to live - he gets drunk, does all kinds of drugs, gambles and loses thousands of dollars, and doesn't care about the strain all this creates on his marriage). He shouts he's saved by grace yet ignores the rest of scripture that says we will be known by our fruit. As I type this, I realize he's kind of a type of Pharisee. Jesus interacted with Judas in a very different way than the Pharisees.

[@itstoasty7089]

Worry for him. Get personal with him and ask him how his relationship with Jesus is. If you notice the sin or errors our brother is going through, point scripture that judges that behavior. Tell them about it if God places it in your heart to do so.

[@Mxr1e-i1v]

Remind him that drunkenness and lust is a sin and faith without work is dear

[@RichardStarfish]

I think the statement “forgive but don’t forget” means: Girlfriend: *I cheated on you* Boyfriend: *I forgive you, but I’m breaking up with you* Girlfriend: *but you just forgave me?* Boyfriend: *that doesn’t mean I’m stupid enough to continue dating you*

[@Mxr1e-i1v]

I suppose so😊

[@Meowmeowmeowmeowmeow-meow]

You are too underrated man! This video is so good but only has 26 comments? And ur whole channel has helped and change me but it only has 300k subscribers? U are too underrated man. May God also bless you for still making alot of videos with effort even if they dont get noticed much. ❤❤

[@fruitoverfirebyfaith]

Thank you for your constant truth and such helpful, biblical, and clear tools to assist in the challenges in sanctification. Your channel continues to bless me🙂💛

[@avisionofloveliness4962]

Healthy boundaries help too. John 2:24-25 ... Jesus would not entrust himself to them, because he knew all people. He did not need anyone to testify about man, for he knew what was in man.

[@mesibahiru7890]

Thank you I was going so apart from church not to hate people were acting like they’re teachers but they were spreading bad things with their action and I’ve already decided to go apart but this lecture really give me courage to talk to them and correct them.

[@jamescreation6612]

Fellowship is about spending time focused around Christ. Many people go to Church as a country club or because they are socially awkward and it's sort of a judgement free zone. As much as we are called to love everyone we are not called to pretend that someone is actually following after Jesus and become unequally yoked with them. Fellowship is with others who truly know and love him. That can be hard enough as is at times so we need to stop lying and saying that everyone who shows up at a building on Sunday is a true brother and sister in Christ. The way to love someone who is not actually following Christ yet and a brother/sister is completely different

[@suomi5297]

Whether you forgive those who have hurt you and caused you pain or not, God always loves you and wants to be on your side. So I hope that as Christians, forgiveness does not become a source of distress or hurt for you. David also entrusted revenge to the Lord, and in Romans, it is said that God will repay enemies. Therefore, I hope that you entrust the issues of forgiveness and wounds to the Lord and live your life to the fullest. Once again, I hope that forgiveness does not cause you any pain. God always loves you.

[@TomboyCEO]

I struggled with this in my youth

[@joshbringspain4198]

What about healthy boundaries? If someone is being downright evil towards me. Then should I continue to hurt myself and destroy myself inside to continue trying to be in fellowship with this person? Like I can forgive them but do I really have to stay around them if it hurts me? Doesn’t God want me to not hurt myself? I really don’t get it… 😕

[@EthericalXO]

No, you aren’t obligated to keep that person around. It’s actually important to have set boundaries, even Jesus had boundaries, they’re established for someone to feel safe, valued, & loved, they’re set in place 2 protect you. Not everyone will find your boundaries beneficial to them but that’s when you have to be ok with that and set them anyways, everyone will love you when you tell them yes or when you allow them to do something that crosses your boundaries, some people want you for what you can do for them, and they don’t want u for who you are. The Devil is here to kill, steal, & destroy, he’ll tell you to keep that person around so that you can continue to live in pain & agony. And No God doesn’t want you to hurt yourself, 1 Corinthians 6:19 “ Don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own.” He wants you to love yourself, and treat yourself with love. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7) 1 Corinthians 5:11 “But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.” 1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be misled: “Bad company ruins good character.” “ Hope this helps 💟

[@TheNinjapancake14]

Definitely decipher for yourself if you are holding a petty grudge or setting a healthy boundary. Forgiveness doesn’t mean there are no consequences, and you don’t have to continue to put yourselves in harm’s way. With that in mind, don’t find a reason to cut out every human who crossed you. Discernment is important here.

[@Boohpoop]

God bless you for your white board sermons! I have a hard time reading, but you make the Bible so easy to understand God's word!

[@deborah9674]

Thank you for making this video...... It's amazing

[@lilacDaisy111]

THANK YOU. Very timely. And I suppose this is about dying to ourselves - not being our petty selves but being like our father in heaven, who is rich in mercy and kindness.

[@victorialaing4227]

I struggle with forgiveness and there are people that I find it impossible to forgive and forget what they’ve done. I think it’s good to forgive others not just for them but because it heals our hearts. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting what someone did. If they did something wrong we should still remember it because that way we understand why we must be careful about how much we decided to trust someone who has done something wrong. Forgetting what someone did may mean allowing them to break our trust again. Satan the devil he wants to tear apart relationships and he wants to turn friends against each other so they will fight each other when they should be working together to fight him

[@Mxr1e-i1v]

Oh ik how to forgive them easier.. whenever u think about what they did, just remember "this person is trapped by sin and needs to be saved".

[@Park-zv8tf]

Amen!!!!! 😭🙏🏼🤗🥹💕 Thank you for sharing!! God bless you ❤‍🔥

[@Bunnygottalive]

Definitely one of the things I struggle with the most 😅

[@SHADOWSCOOp2829]

Jesus loves me 🙏🏼

[@deborah9674]

Pls keep continue

[@lol_itsxmas8472]

literally everyone makes me mad idk why

[@Banjokazooie-e1q]

I think you should make a video on the debating on whether Christians can love someone without liking them

[@Katbat8]

Jesus loves you all God bless you all 💛

[@lexetunez]

I was just recently disrespected by a fellow Christian in the church... It was so annoying. My question is, even after i forgive and forget and give grace to the brother. Is it wrong of me to discipline him by limiting his duty and try as much as possible to not give that leverage to allow myself being disrespected again? I don't want to go into details of what happened, but i am way older than this brother and relate to him and give him more access like my mate. So does limiting that access for the purpose of maintaining my respect wrong? After i have forgave him?

[@whatisthisalgorithm]

Imagine you gave someone a spare key to your house. You gave them the key because you trust them. Now imagine they went into your house and stole from you. You're able to get your stuff back, and you also take the key back, maybe even change the lock entirely. You come to forgive that person and truly hold no resentment towards them. Would it be wrong to not give them the key again? Limiting the possibility of you or other people getting hurt is not wrong, nor is it the same as unforgiveness. It's just taking a precaution. From what I can tell from your situation, it sounds like you just want your key back.

[@bys4ever380]

You for give but and give him another chance if that dosent work let them know how you feel and back off the enemy uses them to get to you. Pls pray and ask christ for wisdom on how to proceed with the relationship James 1:5 .

[@bys4ever380]

Not everyone going to church believes in God and are not Christians so l pray for wisdom in every circumstance James 1:5

[@cindybattey3476]

We should definitely try to see the good even in people who can be difficult and annoying,however, there is one woman in my church who goes beyond difficult and annoying. she claims to be a believer but I know her from outside of church and she is actually a narcissist. half of what she says is a lie and most of her lies are intended to make other people look bad. she speaks disrespectfully about our pastor and Elders behind their backs as well. I will always be kind and polite when I run into her at church but that's as far as it goes. she's not someone I will hang out with outside of church, not someone I would ever confide in or even chat with on the phone with. She has many people at our church fooled, but God knows how she really is and I don't believe He wants me fellowshipping with her.

[@nuthin2lose688]

''Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger'' This is not acceptable behavior in a church from this women sinning or mouthing off behind peoples backs, I want you to email or complain to your pastor about this womens behavior before or if confronting her, forgive her as well, narcistic behavior is the number 1 reason why a lot of church communities rot and decay. Godbless you Cindy.

[@space2079]

Jesus is the LORD!!!!

[@Katbat8]

Amen!!!!

[@perspicacity89]

Thanks, I needed this video just now, haha.

[@jessiem.8301]

What if the pastor uses politics in his sermon. Today i was in Church and it was politics first. Should i be afraid to disagree with a political party in Church? Im all for forgiving a fellow brother and sister in Christ. But if the whole congregation serves God and political idols.. like help me. I dont know what to do. I would rather just find another congregation.

[@Bollehobgoblin]

does he because i haven't forgiven my bullies and haven't since grade school if jesus still loves me because he doesn't answer my prayer I tried to pray for forgiveness to jesus

[@Juliana65]

I seriously doubt that the maker of this video and/or the narrator is capable of living up to what is taught in this video. We are human and do feel annoyed. Many times our annoyance is justified. Some people, even Christians behave badly and they KNOW BETTER. I will not keep company, at least not on a regular basis with someone whose behavior is undesirable.

[@ImpactVideoMinistries]

its all about focusing on Gods grace and to keep trying despite our failures :)

[@sharkinator7819]

Nobody can, but God wants us anyways. That’s the poijtt

[@xxsleepingkotaroxx8865]

I would say most of our annoyance is rooted in bitterness and pride in our lives to let God open our hearts and to not closed them off in the word God tells us He is the potter and we are the clay and He starts over and molds us into how Christ wants us to love people and to love our enemies and pray for them too and we need to

[@WatchmanNazar]

Thanks !

[@matthewsolis4214]

Amen 🙏 ❤❤❤

[@pezzle8542]

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[@fortunemofokeng1955]

The Messiah's Hebrew name is Yahusha The Heavenly Father's name is Yahuah

[@nicholaswheeler507]

If God forgot the sins we commit, then He is not all knowing.

[@sharkinator7819]

Forgive, not forget

[@xxsleepingkotaroxx8865]

Psalm 103: 7-12 God is all knowing Love covers a multitude of sins we have to understand Gods character from scripture everything else needs to be discarded or we become trapped by the enemy

[@nicholaswheeler507]

@xxsleepingkotaroxx8865 So you take all of the Bible literally? Do you believe Jesus is a door? Have you ever heard of exegesis? What about using our minds to understand the world God formed?

[@xxsleepingkotaroxx8865]

@@nicholaswheeler507 Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life no one comes to the Father except through Him first

[@xxsleepingkotaroxx8865]

@@nicholaswheeler507 To understand the world around us we need to ask for wisdom, knowledge, and understanding it’s humility to understand and interpret scripture and for correction from the Word of God

[@kamrynrainntree695]

Thank you so much for this. ❤