what to do when someone ‘breadcrumbs’ you

[@JKNat9004]

Odds are they're breadcrumbing you, while someone else is breadcrumbing them.

[@Tempus0ptic]

If that's the case, best thing to do is to just leave this one alone. Sounds like the kind of situation that only gets worse the more you try.

[@ilsedemolder3973]

Why would somebody else breadcrumb them at the same time?

[@mama2flythesidehustlequeen164]

Yep I have experienced this....Smh

[@mama2flythesidehustlequeen164]

​@ilsedemolder3973 They want someone that doesn't want them....

[@sunkintree]

@@ilsedemolder3973 Because someone else thinks they're not good enough for them, like the way they feel about you

[@ms.mariarodriguez2637]

I picked up breadcrumbs for almost 20 years... from the same person. This is the year I finally stopped. I'm learning to love myself.

[@devonjupiterlogic12]

Fuck yeah! I'm so happy for you! 👏🏾💯♥️

[@redminote3938]

For 20 years😮😮

[@enbusquedadeperlita3133]

Same💕, 20+yrs. So glad I left.

[@yougotgroove]

Ditto

[@SeelenTaucher]

I hated that this Person came Into my Dreams, after He did Ghost me many years ago. I told His Ghost: Go away! U are Not even allowed to enter my Dreams, coz I hated how you gave me No good commited Action, but you Had been with an uncountable number of other women. Good Bye. I deserve best and Devine Love, and I selfrespect my Soul via roaring saying: No to that ugly Behaviors towards my Soul. Bye. ☺️💕😁🕊️ Feels very good. Hope you all enjoy your own Soul. Shine dears Shine 🌞

[@antoinetteglover2940]

When you are confused about their feelings towards you, that's the sign that they are not that into you. Love they say is SIMPLE! As difficult as this may seem, do not wait for him to catch up on his love for you. he never will. Just end things and move on. Every breadcrumber knows exactly what they are doing. Don't fall for all that once in a while 'my love, my baby' etc , it's a trap.

[@polly_34]

It makes sense.

[@chechuivanov1706]

Ahhhhhhh 100 percent agree

[@theMartisans]

this is so painful to hear but what you said is the truest I have heard and this is my situation now. Now iam choosing myself.

[@dimakatsomasoga8966]

I think I should block someone

[@dm.25]

If you block them , you will be giving him value , attention and care Just tell him to never come closer and to forget about you

[@rockrecordreport7136]

@@dm.25 That IS what blocking does, right!

[@dm.25]

​@@rockrecordreport7136 But it's a childish way . The best revenge is ignore and indifference

[@lolabrini3758]

@@rockrecordreport7136when u block them: you're showing u still have feelings for him. Even anger is emotional investement. The other response is correct: INDIFFERENCE is the best revenge. Even better: receive his messages and let him see you never read them. No blue check mark. And if he messages you months late ofnthe blue: respond with "who's this?" 😂 And if he says "adam" or whatever his name is, say "adam from work?" or whatever you want. He will be pissed that not only you moved on, but u forgot about him completely🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Jocelynjade]

@@dm.25Bold of you to assume they’ll listen. They usually don’t. That’s why we block.

[@BigBen-wb1kl]

I told somebody that I didn't want their crumbs, and that there's no hard feelings and good luck. They responded with oh i was just bored, I didn't want anything from you (even though I was asking to cuddle you a couple weeks ago) Haha, thanks for proving my point there bro 🙄 These people dont have a clue how to communicate with conviction, theyre trying to fill a void, and they are more unhappy than they let on. Emotionally healthy people don't do this abusive and gaslighty behavior. Count your blessings ❤️

[@diatribe5]

At least whoever it was was honest, but knowing that you were kept around because they were bored really is insulting.

[@lurklingX]

sounds like this person i used to be friends with. using people for boredom. i got sick of hearing her say trash things like that. wef. so, ex friends. i'm glad you cut things off with them. you deserve better.

[@melodiejohnston9528]

I've been living this for the last four months. I had never heard of breadcrumbing before. Initially, I was empathetic because I thought he was depressed due to life events. What a fool I was. I sent him packing, although I will admit I miss all the love-bombing and attention. It took me ten years after my husband died to let anyone in, and this is what I let through the door. I need to forgive and like myself. Thank you for this.

[@gailpanici2964]

At least you did it, he scammed me for 10,000 he always paid me BK in the past with interest not this time,I learned my lesson well!

[@gailpanici2964]

It took me 20 years to.let someone in and this is what I got to don't feel bad your not alone

[@Mockduck2020]

That can of behavior is exactly what was needed together you out again…and now you are out. Thank them and move on.

[@melodiejohnston9528]

@@gailpanici2964 Thank you for this. I appreciate your kindness.

[@melodiejohnston9528]

@@gailpanici2964 Thank you for this.

[@CharlotteR-k5g]

They will ghost for a whole day. This is the only sign you’ll need.

[@k8sl]

Sometimes, people are busy. Sometimes you are exchanging breadcrumbs.

[@vernita0216]

I addressed it once. He did it again. BYE.

[@krullewietje]

my crush ghosted me for entire weeks and only texted me when he's drunk. this has been going on for about a year, i even called him out on it but then he would not really address it just saying 'im not really looking to date but we should meet up one time for sure' and when he's drunk he would say 'i want you' or 'i'm falling in love with you' just to ghost me again the next weeks.. anyways i called him out again, gave him a last chance to explain his behavior, he left me on read for 2 days after that so i blocked him

[@fugitivemoses7515]

I disagree. People have their hands full sometimes.

[@villajj]

Yes, they cant reply but they can post, myday, etc. Lol. And then when you stop tolerating it, they'll be back making you feel that you are the one ghosting now.

[@kellyhamilton7453]

literally in tears. OMG, this is what is happening to me and it is so difficult to reason with my logical side that is screaming STOP, while my emotional side is like I just want him back.

[@damienwelch9067]

Me2

[@بالسوداني-ص9ف]

Why life is so unfair ? Why is it that men who are serious bump into manipulators and the same is true for women too ?

[@yougotgroove]

I am in the same situation.... But I have detached, letting her go, and working really hard on myself, and I am so caplable of loving, it is wonderful. MY EXGILFIEND IS NOT. Sorry I hit the tab key caps by accident. Love yourself, and you will find and attract love.... LETTHAT PERSON GO GOOD LUCK

[@geckoop2848]

And this is what happens, if that guy or a women comes back to you even after several years later. You happily accept them without any hesitations, due to those emotions of yours. This can be mostly seen in boys than any girls, they easily help someone whom they have hardly got over either after blocking them in social media or moving on. I usually call it a devils comeback, when they try reaching out to you again

[@yougotgroove]

Well,

[@BLee09]

It's the most frustrating thing ever to be caught in such a situation. There were real genuine feelings there and somebody decided to be fake about their's and lead you on. The worst part is they could've just been honest from the beginning but they are so selfish that they wanted to keep you to themselves all while they did whatever they wanted.

[@RandomThot]

Well said it just increases anxiety , if people have genuine intentions they will communicate , they will find a way to do so - I feel for the young generation at least with maturity you know when one is playing around (with certain period of time) and you put a full stop - but youngsters may battle for a longer period of time - love is so hurtful - shouldn't have been

[@moriturite]

Exactly! And to add to all of this, when you realise you were just being played around, the other side has already found their the significant other and had cut you off as a piece of trash, as if you had never existed at all. And you end up broken in pieces.

[@carlrav5660]

I can't believe it happened to me....I fell in love with this person. She is messed up. I feel sorry for her now actually. She won't ever get into a normal healthy relationship....even if there is one staring her in the face

[@bachopinbee5991]

Well, some honesty here. They could have been honest and you could not listen. For me it mostly happened

[@BLee09]

@bachopinbee5991 I agree to a degree. I can say I ignored some honesty looking back. It was a little honesty here and there mixed with a lot of lies in between. I didn't know which part was true, especially with my feelings involved. I feel like she liked the idea of me chasing her and giving her all of my attention whenever she snapped her finger. It was the moment I finally stopped chasing her when i noticed she would come around more and always wanted to talk to me. That was when it all just felt like a game.

[@Thetorontonews]

This is what happens. Your mind keeps battling with the feelings and eventually if your feelings win, you land yourself in a pit full of sorrow. Just remember, its better to suffer now and instantly move on instead of sticking around and being hurt every single day beating yourself up.

[@coolcat3452]

I was breadcrumbed for 8 years of my life that I’ll never gets back!!! I was finally done 3 years ago & my life changed fo better!!- thanks!❤❤

[@serenitygilles7064]

me too...!

[@LadyMarigoldWithers]

You give me hope, I’m 4 years in and just stopped seeing him 3 weeks ago, it’s so hard!

[@pulidobl]

5 years for me. I am to blame…

[@coolcat3452]

Good to know that you guys are doing something; it gets better & am much more happier & relaxed loving myself!! The red flags you ignored at the beginning of your relationship is exactly the red flags that will end your relationship!!…better than now never!! All the best!!🥰🥰👍

[@coolcat3452]

@@LadyMarigoldWithers it gets better trust me, I know because I was there!! This is the beginning of living your best life!! Focus more on something you love to do, outdoors, about career; time out with families!! ❤️

[@polly_34]

it hurts a lot, it's worse than disappearing We feel used, it's very difficult to understand that.

[@antoinetteglover2940]

xoxo

[@JohnADuerk]

Used is the perfect word. Just experienced this over a two month period. When I called out the mixed signal initially, she put it back on me. Never again. Lesson learned.

[@irisrose4732]

Same here. Mine lasted a few months, but I am very hurt still, and feel like such a fool. Lesson learned, and NEVER AGAIN! Won't play that game, nope. Good riddance to the jerk.@@JohnADuerk

[@JohnADuerk]

@@irisrose4732 I'm sorry that you had this experience. It's awful.

[@moriturite]

​@@irisrose4732Same here 😢 It left deep wounds. Hurts like a hell. Feeling used, worthless, like a fool... He lead me on for months and then found another one whom he's marrying now.

[@aj-zv1zk]

Here the process what I think breadcrumbers follow from my experience: I think that they just play very smartly with you like they wish you/ ping you up when they know you are alone and then they can suddenly become the world for you (we suddenly believe that they really care for us and we treat them like queen/king) or they just use you till they need you and then suddenly go silent when they even got the slightest of response of our attraction towards them. We even part ways with our once closed ones for them and then we realise that we are suddenly more alone than before. Now you more and more keep longing for them in a hope they will realise your worth and in between they keep throwing those breadcrumbs just enough to keep your hopes alive. They neither give complete signs of parting away and nor for a future relationship.

[@stephennicewarner216]

This happens with friendships too!

[@leasparkles2861]

Yes and jobs

[@NeoAutodroid]

I feel guilty now because I think I've been doing this without realizing it with my friends, but it's just hard when you have more than a handful of friends how do you balance out how much time you spend with each person or talk with each person ? I mean it's not that I don't like them all I love all my friends all of them even the ones I haven't spoken to in years but genuinely how do you stay in meaningful contact with everybody when we have so limited time in our daily lives?

[@krishmandal9769]

The reason breadcrumbing works is because they are triggering your dopamine response. This is the same mechanism casinos use with their slot machines to keep you sitting there pulling that lever. The occasional and unscheduled reward is what makes you think there's more to come. I recently got myself out of a situation like this. I had known for a while that this was happening, but like the character Beowulf I was happy to keep the fantasy going. After our last afternoon delight, I pulled out a similar video and made her watch it. She would look at me and smile and then turn to the video and her face would become very concerned. I told her this is what you've been doing to me. I told her for many months you're keeping me addicted to you and that day I told her this is how you're doing it, when I showed her the video. The cherry on top was when she left me and got on the train, and I texted her that I needed her to do me a favor. I asked her to block me on her phone so I could never contact her again. It's amazing what happens to your mind when you release yourself from being played with.

[@seanfrance3182]

Good shit! I hope you’ve been standing firm in your decision.

[@mamadoom9724]

Wow the casino comparison is spot on and I never thought of it that way. I love slot machines and I also fall for bread crumbing. And just like the slots there are moments where you think you’re ahead but those moments quickly pass.

[@TruthInspector]

The problem is you hand it over your power to her even at the end. You should have been the one blocking her. I just had this happen to me for a week straight and I finally texted the person and said that's it add flat out told him I'm done being bread crumbs I don't like being disrespected or ignored. Happy holidays and I'm moving on

[@worldofcats9611]

This young man is so respectful 🏆

[@BlitzenSpeaks]

I put up with this for a year, then called it quits. I refuse to be someone's second choice! Not when I've put them first! _"It's better to be alone than to be in bad company."_ George Washington

[@christinainthecity]

This gives a good explanation on breadcrumbers. This summer I realized it more and more that this person only wants me when it's convenient for him, after communicating with him for almost 2 years. The weird thing is he is almost 38 years old. I have no time for that nonsense anymore.

[@k8sl]

At 71 with breadcrumbs after starvation, I’m good.

[@brianhill6842]

Same thing with me. I communicated with him for 3 years and he’d tell me how attracted he was, he’d FaceTime me, or send me video of him with his friends, he’d invite me to do something then say he was shelving the idea, when I brought up concerns he’d tell me I was a whiny ass teenage girl, the insults got more and more …he’d make excuses that his feelers are broken and he’s in a dark place….yet he has no problem being on hook up apps….oh and he’s also 38. You’d think that by that age they’d grow up.

[@KimFuller-fh5bw]

The guy that i’m talking to is almost 38 as well. He’s friend-zoned now.

[@mma4l]

Theses games is why I dont date anymore, not worth the trouble. Staying on my purpose.

[@TheTruthFadeswithTime28]

Same

[@missJolie85]

You don't have to date of course if you are not in that headspace at the moment, but not doing something because of bad experiences and fear is just a very sad thing.

[@DebbieLee-dr3hr]

These games are why I hate my brother's mother.

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

Yep 👍

[@RevealedFilms]

@@DebbieLee-dr3hrtf you’re dating your own mom?

[@rosiejoie]

I wish I had seen this video or learned about the red flags of dating a year and a half ago, especially bread crumbing. I could've saved myself from heartache, but lessons need to be experienced.

[@damienwelch9067]

Me2

[@Arcabelle]

Me too! I wish I knew about this 2years ago! @joanerosal668. I just ended it all now for good.

[@truth322]

Shame on those who do this..I like to think karma comes for these liars

[@SeelenTaucher]

Was self lying. I SAW the Potential of bis Soul...yea, Just Potential, but in Real Life I got His ugly karmic Ego and I sayed NO to the Ego. IT felt Like the Original Sin, but I want devine Love and Soul, Not any shallow Ego. So I sayed Byebye to Ego and hello one Day to great Soul entering my Life. My Standart is litten Soul, never settle for less. Here I find some honest Souls at this Platform. Greetings. Blessings 💕🔥 Respect your Soul and seek and Go for Heart and light and truth. 🙏🏻🌟☺️

[@irisrose4732]

Well said. Same here.@@SeelenTaucher

[@alxcdc3076]

No, you have to make them pay so that they understand what they're doing is bad

[@cameron.t]

Sometimes, the karma arrived before you were ever in front of them. And to the video creators point: being a breadcrumber IS the karma.

[@AmyK007]

I really hope so.

[@NOZH777]

I've been a victim of bread crumbing before and your explanation is amazing and on straight point. New sub won :)

[@mmommo10]

so so beautiful, needed this, was married 34 years to a guy who cheated since day 1. My mom died when I was 9 and the new mom didn't like us 4 children. My 3 children are grown now, I am single now for nearly 4 years, I have super high hopes...loved this talk..

[@liannna212]

Beautifully said. Thank you 🙏 . Its so subtle and hurtful. Just getting out of one situation like that. My lesson learned- if you are not feeling good is because its not good. Romance should be uplifting especially on the beginning.

[@dm.25]

The most thing I love about you . Is that you are the first person to focus on not taking it too seriously , so that you can conserve your energy to build yourself

[@kijana2030]

Blocked her immediately I watched this clip.

[@travelsafelyalways]

"Get serious about yourself...." Yes! Absolutely. When one is serious about self it becomes easier to observe, identify, and reject subpar experiences....sometimes in a self-amusing way. :) My sooner-than-later response to historically unchecked "sad behavior" is often one of accountability: "You've taught me not to trust your ability to make decisions; You've also taught me that you're not (yet) able to stand behind your given word. As one who (indeed) makes decisions, stands behind them, and keeps her word.....you'll eventually feel that I run circles around you." Leaves em' stuttering in silence every time, hopefully, with something to think about toward becoming "better".🤭 I've never quite understood flirting, but that's due to feeling it's yet another vehicle for being indirect. True story: Once bought someone a bottle of Bausch & Lomb eye-wash because their eye had been "twitching" for a week, or so I believed. 🤓

[@kloatlanta]

If someone won’t respect your time, they won’t respect you.

[@sayanarabrown6060]

So true alot of people do this, unintentionally and Intentionally, weak 🙄

[@daphnen5296]

I wish I found this a month ago I just did it today put a stop to this. It has made me sad but I guess this feeling will go away.

[@yazmayne7737]

How is your life going now ? 💕

[@ladybird491]

NARC breadcrumbs. My family and fame friends did that, and my spouse until I told tnem i want a separation. I cut off two sides of my family for breadcrumbing while i was all in. I am through with breadcrumbers and ghost them at the first time.

[@diatribe5]

Thank you for bringing this to our attention. Especially the term “situationship”. I’m in one of those now, and it’s not my first time. I also appreciate that you said it isn’t because we’re stupid, foolish or naïve. Then, I can stop feeling sorry for myself and look for solutions instead.

[@cuauhtemocx5773]

Thank you for making this video. This makes perfect sense. She sometimes makes me feel wanted, other times she seems to not care about me at all. I thought it was me that was misunderstanding her.

[@katec9893]

I've never watched your channel and I was expecting you to be a typical male dating coach but this was really helpful and insightful especially about the part about not despairing about the world of dating. I met a man on an app recently who seemed nice at first until I realised he kept testing and pushing my boundaries, breadcrumb ing me before suggesting we 'hang out as friends for now' rather than date, whilst acting like we were dating with a lot of mixed signals. It was depressing but its a good idea to remember not all men are like that and some do want an actual loving relationship with respect, clarity and healthy boundaries.

[@asmrfoodieuk7965]

Relationships just dont exist anymore, the sad reality is the most any of us can hope for these days is a situationship. Nobody is coming along to spend the rest of their life with you, it just doesnt exist anymore.

[@shereent3121]

Don't be a part of the crowd that's making you distressed.

[@asmrfoodieuk7965]

@@shereent3121 I'm not part of any crowd 😬

[@rockrecordreport7136]

It can still happen, two people can realize that they get on better than they will with any others and so better make the most of it. Keep some faith.

[@firstnamelastname956]

It very much exists but you have to put in the work to look for those gems. They don’t come easily.

[@asmrfoodieuk7965]

@@firstnamelastname956 Those gems don't exist 😂 about as real as santa claus existing.

[@MS-ns4ki]

Please send this to the men that continuously think that by providing the bare minimum and trying to manipulate it like it’s my fault really need to stop. You can’t play the coach.

[@RevealedFilms]

Start choosing better men and improve your boundaries and self worth…take some accountability

[@seanryan3020]

I was breadcrumbed for 4 years until I finally told her point blank not to contact me again (which I should have done in half that time). It was the hardest thing I had ever done at that point, but when I did, it almost literally felt like an immense weight had been lifted from me (as much as I hate to use that cliché), and it turned out to be the best thing I had done for myself!

[@melawieeinapfel8594]

amongst all those videos about bread crumbing this is one of the few truly valuable ones. thank you so much for your kind words

[@fabiennemalti805]

Fantastic video, transfers to friendships & other relationship dynamics too. Loving your work.

[@LadyyM11]

He texts me first and then doesn’t reply when I answer. Sometimes he’ll reply after weeks or months and we’ll have a short conversation and then he’ll disappear again. We only talk when he wants to, and he rarely does want to talk to me. I feel so dumb because I always reply as soon as I can just to have him ignore me for long periods of time. I tried to not let it bother me but I blocked him yesterday. He probably won’t even notice for a long time that I blocked him.

[@Ravjot-pd7ly]

Good keep him blocked

[@beaa2018]

Trust me he will…

[@momione11]

You are so right. My focus was first on the other person. But actually fell apart in 2021. Out of neglect and breadcrumbs. But opened my eyes and see that this has been going on for generations. And that this also became like an addiction. My body comes to mind. What I don't remember. When I met this energy.Do I automatically fall into fawn.Start serving and just exist.To get the crumbs. Lived in crumbs. But it does something to the inside. You get a self-image. To never be enough. The other person's law becomes my law. But this time. My body screamed no from the inside. Don't surrender yourself anymore for nothing. Realized that I actually became an abandoholic.Not to lose myself.Starting to find me.Where do I disappear when I face this.Standed with myself.Throw away the breadcrumbs and started to know myself.I disappeared when I was 7 years old.Grow up with two adult parents who are addicted people. Used to live on breadcrumbs. I then became addicted to it. This has been a painful journey. I will be 50 this year and never let go of myself again. Had to meet these people in life. But it was my job to get out of this merry-go-round of nothing.Having a life today.Taking myself out on dates.Casual with new acquaintances.Both friendship and love.But learned.But right now I want to spend time with myself.Be away from me for so long. No more ever.

[@beatalevin7735]

Great talk and I agree with most of it. However, judging from the endless websites about breadcrumbing, it seems that it is mostly men who do it and I don´t believe for one second that these guys are all "sad" people. Some men enjoy leading women on and manipulalting them and there are plenty of articles on legitimate psychology websites about this phenomenon. Also, social and dating websites DO make it much easier to breadcrumb.

[@immers2410]

Nonsense, take it from a man that there are plenty of women stringing men along too

[@TemsD]

​Preach!!! Especially if they're asking you out or in an actual relationship with you. As a partner even if I'm busy for days, it'll feel cruel to me to ghost someone i care about for too many days/weeks on end. Some even months only to say I love and miss you on a random 11.13pm on a random day outta the Blues. Sir, we too busy to be waiting up for crumbs. We stay eating well at home so breadcrumbs are totally unacceptable for someone who's amazing with a healthy selfworth/self esteem

[@ZacTBH]

Girl I was seeing a year ago did this to me. I came to terms on what kind of person she actually is, not who I thought she was. She honestly is just a really selfish and self-serving person who only cares about themselves. I walked away from that relationship because it just whittled my self-esteem away and it just wasn't a healthy relationship. She taught me a very valuable lesson on dating and finding love, don't settle for fence-sitters. We all deserve to be wanted 100%, not a commodity to pick up and put down when they're bored.

[@maryquinn6661]

That was such a great explanation! I found all my so called friends…just breadcrumbed me unless I served some benefit to them. When I woke up…I realized I was the one crawling on the floor accepting their scraps. I know and honor my value…In respect to myself I have blocked them. I don’t negotiate with breadcrumbers it is a form of abuse!

[@floragreen6399]

I think the problem is often we don’t see it. We excuse it and wanna believe they actually really care. An important question is why do you think you can’t find someone of a better fit and wanna stay in something that is definitely not making you feel good. The problem is often we’re hungry and breadcrumbs are better than starving but we forget that somewhere else we could feel so much better. Plus a good question I ask myself is why exactly does the rejection and loss of interest hurt so badly, it’s more about you then the person. They’re just not that into you but someone else will be. Plus I love that quote: IF YOURE GONNNA BREAK MY HEART IM BETTER OFF ALONE

[@filosofem03]

This video didn’t really reflect what I’m going through, but I think it was very helpful for other people nonetheless. The positivity, the energy, the honesty and the clarity with which you spoke is truly appreciated. I feel like many people can learn and use this video to improve themselves. So in the name of these nameless souls, I thank you, truly. Have a great day!

[@angelwings7866]

I really needed this today. Thank you.

[@rishabhjain90]

Recently experienced breadcrumbing and God it is bloody addictive! In less than 3 days of knowing a person, it was enough to destabilise me to a point that I started losing sleep over the massive anxiety that it brought with it. Thanks for this video.

[@irisrose4732]

Exactly. Wish I could have seen this BEFORE I got involved with the loser.

[@Mockduck2020]

That’s a great term for what happens! Destabilized!

[@misterhenchmen]

thank you so much for this. you're saying it in the right way where I can hear it and it makes sense and I need to keep hearing this. I love that you say we do not have time for this exchange. I've been talking to my therapist about what they are doing and I don't even want to waste my time focusing on that person anymore. life is way too short. they are broken and they are taking it out on me. I have to keep telling myself there are better people in the world and not let this d-bag make me believe that ppl are all awful like them.

[@idealtara]

Honest to God, this is the best advice I have gotten in a long time. Case, you are a good man. Thank you.

[@lt2547]

This applies to work scenarios, too. Toxic boss, energy vampire boss,…breadcrumbed me for a year and a half leading me to believe I would be promoted. Then I was leapfrogged by a younger coworker. I showed them, focused on myself. I’m now a Judge, literally and actually! JUSTICE she now actually has a reason to be jealous of me! I deserve this, and I have bossed UP!

[@doughfbfb2236]

I like how you advise the viewers to shift the energy. It is totally practical to me. This well said yet concise video resonates to me perfectly. I've been playing this on repeat like hundreds time 😄

[@tam_to_evolve]

Oof I needed this! I love this! Gotta change that midset!! ❤❤ forget the "woe is me" mentality! Shift the focus on yourself and remind yourself there are still healthy and ready people out there for you!! 💯💯

[@devonjupiterlogic12]

Wow. Thanks so much for sharing! I needed to hear this!

[@martyn-hayes]

Best advice on breadcrumbing. Thank you

[@walterkeane3380]

Thanks for this video. You've helped me realize this was happening to me.

[@ibnenkigalileo9256]

Me too

[@antinancy]

I had 2 guys in a row do this to me in my forties, after I'd ceased to even hope for love. Both men made a point to sit next to me in group activities, watched me with other men, followed me out to my car, locked me in full-body hugs, etc., etc. Neither of them ever got around to asking me out or calling me. Maybe they thought if they stalked me hard enough I'd cave. One of them asked me to go to his apartment with him while he had me in a bear hug. I actually spun away and laughed. So glad I did...I never did figure out what either one hoped to get out of this.

[@christineribone9351]

Naw. I got tired of the frustration. I just walked away after I asked myself how long I would put up with it. The answer was easy and it gave me control.

[@MarinaV15]

Thank you for this video. Very sincere and real. Just subscribed. I’m in this situation for the first time in my life because most men have done better for a while at first and this one is trying to make me a first time dummy to his shenanigans immediately after we developed feelings or I did.

[@crazyphoton5111]

Felt seen and understood ❤

[@youssefhadchiti1130]

Most helpful !!....keep posting

[@pc3721]

Case ❤️ i was breadcrumbed for 7 years. Till he finally confessed that he was cheating on me. Your podcasts really helped me survive each day. Got to know about you from Rachel Southerd

[@redminote3938]

Shit that fucker ruined you for 7 years😡😡

[@RevealedFilms]

He wasn’t cheating if you were breadcrumbed…as you’re not even in a relationship. You’re either the side chick or the booty call.

[@ScarletteXoxo-wg2ui]

You just gotta be self aware of what youre going into. You have to weigh everything, pros and cons. Youre still gonna be hurt but at least you've warned yourself already to the possibilities and when you finally realize that that person is really breadcrumbing you, you can easily let go. Just know your limits and know your worth. I hope yall find yall's soulmates!

[@sadiyacoomasie7828]

You are doing a great job💪🏼 I have been through all this, I’m from Nigeria 🥰 I’m addicted to your channel.

[@JessicaenIngles]

May God bless you and bless your channel and your work. Thank you for helping women all around the world. I had no idea breadcrumbing existed and I had the most miserable time in the last few months feeling confused by this person that wants to keep my attention. This video really gave me freedom, I see things clearly and I won’t be negative about it. I will move on and keep loving God and myself since I wait for the right person with a honest heart that can love me the right way. THANK YOU!!!!

[@Happychappy-c5z]

Needed to hear this….THANK YOU!

[@Adele.Bielski]

Just ended it with a man that's breadcrumbing me . I was going nuts and each Monday I'd be hit with a melt down of emotions of being lonely in a relationship..no thankyou, bye bye now🙏

[@JohnADuerk]

I felt similarly while dating someone over the past couple of months. Nothing but mixed signals that leave you doubting yourself.

[@diatribe5]

Yes, “lonely in a relationship “ is the best description, IMO. The purpose of being involved with someone is so we’re not lonely. In this scenario, we’re lonely even if we’re not actually alone. It’s depressing.

[@priscila5612]

Great advice. Thank you.

[@senior.danzig]

I met someone out a couple weeks ago who I felt amazing chemistry with. recently she left me on delivered. I know with Gen Z girls it’s all games, but it made me feel worth about 10 cents. I deleted the text thread and hopefully it will help me forget her because I’m not playing that ‘chasing’ shit this time, life’s too short

[@gregmccomas3750]

What a sweet way to explain this. Thank you! Very well done young man!

[@melodypudding]

Oh this short video really leveled my head. Thank you!!

[@PoppyHerbert-t5r]

See what I have been doing to myself by waiting four years for someone who is being breadcrumbed constantly and keeps hoping it will become something more. As long as there is someone else in the picture, breadcrumbs will be all I ever get out of this relationship. Worth a lot more than that. ❤❤😊

[@billcook9639]

Thank you Case, you really opened by eyes and gave me a different perspectives.

[@elijahwilson1422]

Leading you along to make you think they like you(more than they do). Without enough honesty to be up front, or even any clue what they want out of another person.

[@Diamondbeach20]

Thank you for this. Needed to hear it.

[@yohannacarrasco5811]

Thank you for you words it really helps so much ❤

[@justinJ689]

Really needed to hear that, thanks bro.

[@OnboardingInformation]

Breadcrumbs are typically used in cooking recipes but never thought they could also be used in the mind

[@Noonien96-nx6yj]

When I was young I breadcrumbed a few women, but then I felt like a tremendous ass and I stopped doing it. I was embarassed at how selfish I was. And then later in life I began getting breadcrumbed by some women who I liked very much. I already knew that song so I got rid of them, bit it made me feel very bad about myself. I got what I deserved

[@peaceindarkness.darknessis3494]

I need more of these type videos my guy, thanks a lot brother

[@peaceindarkness.darknessis3494]

Listened 2* the second with eyes full of tears. Subbed

[@andziagreen4922]

Brilliant video and motivation👏thank you

[@riasb]

God, you are refreshing. Sometimes I need to be gently struck with logic 😂

[@ccthefibro_freak97]

Thank you, I needed this🫶🏻

[@5ddenny]

I’m convinced that even the biggest and drastic change in a person is considered breadcrumbs. If a person offers the greatest emotional safety and security then it will always be breadcrumbs. Women who don’t get what they want in their man than it is offering breadcrumbs. Men cannot win in this environment. Men you have to ask the tough questions. You have to ask: What does our relationship look like if I no breadcrumbs are offered and real change takes place? If you agree with her answer, and follow through, then hold her to it. If you don’t, it will be breadcrumbs.

[@claracruz9066]

I love the way you present this content. Very caring. ❤

[@lurklingX]

girl here. had this happen when dating another girl. it was like wtf is this..... sometimes stuff is poor communication and you try and give people some slack. but when it keeps up even after talking about it... nah. but it's hard to call the line sometimes, as you don't wanna seem demanding or whatever. or too serious? idk. seemed weird to do hangouts in person but phonecalls were completely out. like how are you supposed to get to know someone? seems laborious to do it spread out like that. you'll get breadcrumbed but also get excuses. and ultimately.... if someone is being weird like that, or id doesn't work for you, just disengage, cut it off. you have to show people how you want to be treated. and if you don't feel like you're embarking on a 'ship with them when that's what you're looking for, just step away, as it will probably continue like that. if people ARE super interested, and you bring something up, you'd see some tangible change or effort. it shows they give a fkk and don't wanna drop the ball. this girl was nasty as hell when i broke it off, too. i was polite, wrote a nice text, just said i think maybe we're looking for different things, etc. and i hope she finds what she's looking for. and i got attacked. it was so WTF. can you say true colors? yep. it was trash. and now i get why all her mutual friends with her ex left her to be just friends with the ex. among other things she told me. just wow. bro, pretty sure YOU are the problem. have a nice life. /s

[@mhill88ify]

You need to make sure you've communicated exactly what you want, before decrying "I'm being breadcrumbed" .... If you haven't communicated thoroughly, it's still your fault for going along with it.

[@PoojaSharma-bd9pf]

Someone was breadcrumbing me. I adopted No-Contact policy , No-Contact changed dynamics of the relation. Now i am breadcrumbing that person

[@TedSawyer-v5o]

WOW! This was something I needed to hear!!!

[@RaymondHebert-zf5dv]

It's being done to me right now and I'm tired of the BS. As soon as i did what she wanted she backed off saying she needs time.

[@Jaydyan]

Wow,this video came right on time!!! Thank you so,so much! ❤️‍🩹

[@adelg6698]

What great advice! Love it!

[@ThePrudentKing]

Case, I really appreciate you for this video. Thanks bro

[@birthinfluenceembrace]

Best approach really. Don't even give it time or attention ❤😊 some advice gives confronting the person a chance but no thanks

[@denisecorwin5863]

Thank you. I needed to listen to this today. Awesome

[@cupcakes4444]

I needed this

[@500skubes]

Excellent video, thanks!!

[@janapelikanova3278]

Sad thing is 90 percent of people around me do this. It's not probably their intention to to that and manipulate me but they just dont want to put almost any energy into our 'relationship'. It is sooo typical these days

[@advsanketbilagoji97]

Thanks just what I needed to hear I am the best and I want the whole thing or nothing....