What To Do When You Know It's Over with Katie Maloney | Relationshit w/ Kamie Crawford

Ugh. That feeling when you know the relationship has been over for months but now it's actually time to break things off and move on. This week, we’re joined by star of “Vanderpump Rules” and Host of the “You’re Gonna Love Me” podcast, Katie Maloney, to talk about the hardships of going through a public divorce, why we can’t sit around and wait for people to change, and the best part about starting fresh.
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[@dinajacobs535]

There's nothing worse than feeling dismissed

[@energywellness8834]

Great interview. I’m so glad Katie is now putting herself first ❤️

[@lg4372]

He was awful to her. I’m not saying she was perfect. But he was not willing to be consistent partner

[@CultsBCultin]

Or honestly just a partner. It will always be his needs before anyone else. He tried to say he put her first because when he went to the gas station he would always get her snacks.... that's when you know he has no clue how to be a partner

[@apell5011]

But she knew that and ignored it time and time again.

[@branditorres471]

Love that Katie is hanging out with a ReaL pageant Queen. Love both these beautiful queens.

[@deem132]

my two favs omg this is the best day of my life. this must be old tho bc Katie has her own place & they are definitely not besties, Tom isn’t a great friend to her either.

[@christina1764]

Katie if you ever read this I want to tell you I am so glad you are finally ready to put yourself, your feelings and your life first Don't cry over the years someone will think were wasted on the "manchild" you were married to. Consider it instead a learning process where you learned, developed and became more mature, whereas Tom remained at the same stage of development. Somehow, your relationship seemed like a mother and child from the moment you started filming VPR and you gave him endless chances to grow up, but he refused, on the contrary, he almost got worse over the years I don't know much about his family other than the bit of gossip that has come out, but it seems like it's a problem for several of his closest people to grow up and take responsibility for their lives, so I have no doubt that there is something deeply buried there, but as I said, he has 12 years to process these things with a therapist and that he has not done this is his responsibility, he is a grown man and you are not his mother even though he tried in many ways to make you some kind of mother figure to him Which explains many of the problems you have had over the years. It always sounds so sweet when people getting divorced say they want to stay friends, especially in a relationship like yours where loyalty has been an ongoing issue, the divorce won't make Tom to suddenly be loyal to you and he won't suddenly start respecting you either, which are two things you should be able to expect from a friend, on the contrary, I can imagine him feel him still feeling recentmemt towards you If I were you, I would look at Ariana as more than a business partner. You are both very strong women who have each been through relationships that were psychologically abusive, let go of the past, don't judge each other for what each of you may have said or done while you were in these relationships, but instead try to understand and be there for each other. She like you is a very kind and an extremely loyal woman. You were both set up/manipulated to dislike each other, if you had been close friends the two Toms actions would have been exposed long before the Scandoval. I can see a very strong friendship between the two of you become the greatest success on top of everything else you've achieved after you've left the two of them. Sorry for the length of my post😌

[@vanksism]

A great read - I hope she sees this too.

[@Marbeee14]

Well said! I want friends as loyal as Katie...she is special lady and deserving of a faithful devoted husband!!❤

[@jennifer6833]

Phenomenally important comment.

[@nataliexyz123]

I relate to Katie soooo much. Wish I didn't though!

[@perlaaguilar9180]

I’ve never resonated w/ something/ someone so much 😭

[@butterfliii73]

100% took you for granted and I feel like he regrets it so bad now

[@perlaaguilar9180]

thank you for this episode 🫶🏽

[@carolinejackson3597]

She definitely deserves better. He never defended her and treated her awful. I hope she finds true love that can defend her, reassure her!

[@tanyap7226]

I would so read her book if she ever decided to write one

[@carlycoppi4769]

So amazing of Katie taking care of herself and knowing what she had to do to be happy ❤❤❤

[@qyariapenn5962]

Best interview ever. ❤

[@mariaarias974]

I love both of you! ❤

[@lisaogden9549]

He loved her but didn't like her and disagreed with her opinion. I'm a Libra too and I don't like Katie sometimes. She can be abrasive, and we get loyalty but if we don't agree with your opinion we stand on our truth. They both have things to work on. It's just core issues and it's hard. They weren't going go make it....

[@dawncampbell1284]

Oh be quiet! What a load of tosh! The fact remains that Schwartz is a narcissist, manipulative BUM! Katie did the best thing for herself by divorcing him.

[@jbrimble1957]

Two people I really admire 💜💜

[@lorikoenig6111]

Here’s a concept! When you see red flags don’t get married, then you won’t have to figure out what to do when it’s over. Marriage isn’t easy you actually have to work at it. Did he ever make you a priority? No! So why did you marry him knowing that?

[@butterfliii73]

Sometimes it's hard to see the forest for the trees

[@apell5011]

Right.. I didn’t know she initiated the bf/gf relationship. That right there.. then went on to give the ultimatum about getting engaged. The whole time he showed who he was. She ignored it and now everyone wants to blame Tom.

[@lorikoenig6111]

@@butterfliii73She saw who he was and made the choice to marry him anyway. She know he cheated on her. She know he put everyone before her. He poured a beer on her head. He never defended her. Even when I’m in the wrong my Husband either says out of it or defends me in public. Then when we are in private he talks to me about it.

[@carlycoppi4769]

Oh I'm so so excited I love Vanderpump and I love love love Kamie so much ❤❤❤🥰🥰🥰

[@ashleyonix4622]

I love me some Katie!

[@jennyonthecoast]

I know I am late to the party, but want to add a comment on the travel/breakup question. I totally agree with the advice on the guy, but also point out he's breaking up with you at that point you need to move on. The begging for him back also shows maybe it's time to work on yourself...

[@helenfikire4987]

She looks different 🤔 In a good way👍

[@saradrummond8598]

Team Katie!!!! What makes it so strange why now is everyone team Katie?? For years she has been mistreated and put to one side and her opinion has never counted!!!! I have never known someone to be so slated as a person and what baffles me is the fact he was the worst to her!!! Never deserved her and never will……. Ppl think Katie is the devil not this season but for many b4 hand Too everyone who singled her out to be the worst wife/person ever you should be so ashamed cos I couldn’t put up with his stupid arse shit poor attempt of being a husband that’s why she took the dog!!! Katie is a boss😘

[@kiwideb4824]

this is old? they now have their own places so this has been posted late? or reposted.

[@ChimingIn]

I was thinking the same thing, they have had their own places for a while.

[@paris13sanders]

Wondering the same lol

[@jessicasantana1692]

She has my exact same big 3 🤯

[@indigofairy]

I adore Katie- I see / know so many Capricorn- libra relationships. It’s a thing. a lot of love there but I think I have seen all of them split. Either way, not cool people put your guys stuff out there. I don’t like people speaking on my behalf either (true Virgo here! lol 9/15 I suppose same day as Lisa) Katie if you see this I wonder if you know Haley snow. She was a childhood friend.. I seen her in the background and was like Haley what! She was always so sweet growing up I couldn’t see her on the show

[@butterfliii73]

That's hardcore abuse and she needs to get the heck away from that guy she deserve so much better! A separate hotel in a foreign country! Are you kidding me

[@Fayith1trains]

She was so loyal to him and he was NOT at all!!!!

[@Aliz56]

This is an old interview, she is saying they are still living together, so this is Spring 2022 before they filmed last season. Katie and Tom are not so friends anymore…

[@ryanhowell4492]

Katie Maloney is attractive

[@denisepopan3369]

Bring her back.Her & Ariana deli is down the street. So they will be in & out🤗

[@LisaMaNod]

It's obvious the host is not over her ex... 😅

[@CHK12319]

Of course she’s not. They were together 12 years. It will take a long time to fully move on and that’s nothing for her to be ashamed of. It’s clear he’s not over her either.

[@michellejessey8654]

She has been chasing him since the divorce

[@gl0c039]

This didn't age well

[@SiobhanBrandman]

Barack took a break from dropping them bombs

[@carolcontreras9771]

She needs to get sober

[@Serenaincali]

Katie is toxic and a bully. She never admits her wrongdoing or apologizes. I don’t feel bad for her I feel bad for everyone around her

[@irishjojo5]

Not true

[@eachandeverything1836]

@@irishjojo5I agree! Sooooo not true.

[@Serenaincali]

@@irishjojo5 show me a time when Katie was kind and non-judge mental and she actually apologized for hurting someone’s feelings

[@CHK12319]

@@Serenaincalishe was pretty nice to Raquel for the majority of this season

[@saradrummond8598]

I feel bad for you!!!! 💯 and everyone round you!!!

[@irishjojo5]

Love or fake love makes us do really really really stupid stuff. My fiancé cheated while I was in the hospital fighting for my life a year ago and I just found out he refused to admit so I called the girl and he freaked out because I called the girl hahahaha he said I ruined his friendship with her hahahahaha. He cared about her feelings more than me DUH! Obviously he didn’t give a shit