What Your Grown Child Needs To Hear If He's Still Living With You -- Dr. Phil

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[@Anidem9]

Contrary to what people want to believe, shaming doesn't work.

[@Jenda-ld8dj]

Shaming done correctly does work.

[@woodyssnake8562]

​@@Jenda-ld8djwhat is the correct way to do it? Honest question

[@billmcnealofwnyxnewyork]

Yea it does. Tell a 400 pound person they look beautiful every day, or call them a fatass every day. See which one triggers weight loss.

[@rahuldahoob]

​@@woodyssnake8562well they ended up kicking him out into a motel... Then a van

[@glenistergrotj3022]

Agreed. Shaming someone and humiliating someone in front of the world will most likely make them want to hide away and crawl under a rock even more.

[@LauraWalker-uj2iu]

Folks making excuses for him aren’t taking into account his parents are exhausted and financially drained. He is grown. He can get a job. Doesn’t have to be a high paying job. But he is responsible for his life at this point. He’s taking advantage of his parents instead of taking accountability. Plenty of people, including myself, work even with anxiety and depression. It’s part of life and more common than you think. Some of the most successful people deal with anxiety, depression, ADHD, etc. Someone needs to give him some tough love. Coddling only makes it easier for him to stay stuck.

[@sunflowerzelda45]

Laura thank you, yes my mind went to gee guy must be depressed. ok. this could be my son tho he is currently in prison. But he wants to come home to parole. oh trust me he is 47 strong as a bull. I gotta find a way to back out of agreeing for him to come home. He caught me off guard when he asked. What is wrong with Me? Like do I forget what a nightmare the last time he was here? If anyone can give me advice on how to have this conversation about not coming home. There are many valid problems with that picture. One No car. Two, live about an hour from town. 3, he is not gonna drive my car. So I say, but can see myself caving just so I do not have to drive him. ugh. sick and tired. Give me some ideas on how to start telling him No, not this time. Should I just say he caught me off guard? Help.

[@momsmushroomsjodyfoster5786]

I don’t mind having adult children live at home. As long as they are making progress and working towards independence. It’s not love to allow someone to waste their life at your expense. Life is a terrible thing to waste.

[@jon6309]

What are your thoughts of adult children who do work full time and contribute some help whether financial or physical labor in the house? A friend of mine is proud of his independence and owns a home but he is drowning in debt where there is literally nothing left from his salary to save anything. He has a lot of student loans, a mortgage he just took on and a wedding expense which was on loan. It’s so bad he couldn’t afford his medical bill and ended up getting another loan for it. What is the true definition of financial independence? Is it really independent when the person is trapped in debt? My family has a huge fear of debt and properties my family owned were paid in cash. They were affluent which helped them achieve that but for ordinary working people it’s literally impossible unless some windfall were to happen. It has always been ingrained in me to never take on debt. I always pay my credit card balance in full and I paid for my college tuition in cash. I don’t earn as much money and applying for a better job is always an option but it’s really on the mercy of the employer and I’ve never been hired for those high paying jobs I applied for.

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

I don't mind either. As long as they are working and contributing to the household expenses.

[@kmc1steelers998]

@@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 - Yup. Exactly. The problem is many of them DO NOT, some even bring their babies home with them as well.

[@sunflowerzelda45]

yes, but once you open that door and they do not help themself you have to kick them out. My son told me he would rather be homeless than live with me the last time he left. He was homeless middle of Kansas winter. Talk about guilt on my end. He ended up in Jail long story. But what does it say when you feel better about things when they are in prison, compared to the homeless?

[@rahuldahoob]

​@@sunflowerzelda45yes was unbearable for me to live with mother. I got evicted and am currently in a hotel. This guy also eventually ended up living in a hotel... Then living in a van... From what I saw on three update videos he did

[@pontifixmax]

Old people don't sleep until two in the afternoon. They are usually up at 5 AM.

[@coutureleotards]

Cause the MONEY is up at 4am 🤑😉😂

[@oldrooster7084]

Cause insomnia never sleeps!!!

[@ArtVandelayOfficial]

​@@coutureleotards literally nothing to do with that

[@zg3671]

He looks depressed 😔. He may need a psychiatrist and a career coach to get his life on track. Life is crazy. Sometimes we get off track.

[@swolfe9668]

He's not depressed, he's a user, he's using his parents and they've allowed it to happen

[@russiantroubleyakutsk1612]

He needs to work at least 40 hours a week THEN see a psychiatrist or whatever

[@markpalavosvrahotes5575]

No he needs the psychiatrist first to see if he needs meds or not. He may not be able to work without them. Wait a year see if the meds help then he can decide if work or SSI is the better option.

[@williammathis6044]

He needs to get off his butt. Life is HARD, sitting on your tail feeling sorry for yourself is is not going to help you better yourself. “Depression” is such an American concept. It is a luxury afforded to those in wealthy countries because in the majority of the world if you don’t work because you are “depressed” you will quite literally die because you will NOT be eating or sleeping under a roof.

[@zeethree]

People who think sad = depressed and stress = anxiety are worthless. Depression and anxiety rob you not only of the will, but of the ability to live. Don't think you know what it feels like just because you got sad or stressed. There's sad and then there's not leaving your childhood bedroom for 20 years as an adult. That's not lazy, that's being stuck and giving up.

[@AtticTapes14]

Anxiety too!!!! It's not always easy even get hired at all! Some interviews rejected me!!!

[@mojo_joju]

I’m 30 and I still live at home with my parents, but we all chip in for utilities and bills. I hate traveling, so I usually give my money to my parents so they can go on holidays. So in exchange they let me stay at home. I don’t pay rent, but most of my money goes into the house anyway since I’m gonna inherit it someday. I’m just saying, there’s always a way. In Chinese culture, you’re expected to take care of your parents when they’re old, not the other way around

[@donovanvanderwath2787]

Lets be honest life is so expensive that most jobs dont pay enough for you to move out but a low paying job is still better then nothing. He would be able to afford a few things than when he ws nt working. If he cnt get job i would say atleast help inside and around the house. If you suffering from depression you need to keep busy.

[@kiddclofilm]

I agree 10000%

[@silkoakranchpitchforkranch1205]

Spoken like a true entitled adult child or the enabler.

[@swolfe9668]

Then you get a 2nd job

[@chaseattaway1832]

​@swolfe9668 2nd job and you are burned out and still struggling no wonder the check out stats are growing who wants to be a slave for two jobs just to survive and get by

[@bluevictory1010]

Then you do what we all did 40 years ago and get 2 roommates and rent a 2 bedroom apartment then split the rent between the 3 of you, problem solved.

[@amberwhalen4791]

Well I'm gonna help you and you're gonna like it lmaooo dr.phil is a G.

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

I have to work 72 works per week or else my bills will not get paid. So, forgive me if I cannot sympathize.

[@kiddclofilm]

Not taking taking up for this young man but life has really hit him. He looks hopeless. In todays economy it’s a complete suicide to move out and not have a good paying job but at the same time it looks like he ain’t trying

[@silkoakranchpitchforkranch1205]

Bs.

[@nodeanever3869]

Life hits everyone, let’s not use “living as an adult is too hard for me” as an excuse to be a bum.

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

If you are living with your parents, that means you're not an adult. Adults pay rent. That's what adults do. They pay rent. That's according to Judge Judy.

[@llamapartyy]

​@@bmoshareholderappleshareho855 what? i understand working being important but not an adult? lol okay

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

If you still live with parents, you’re not an adult. You’re the equivalent of child or some cases, you’re a mouse.

[@brokendoll1107]

I like Dr Phil’s sincerity 🤣 “you’re old, you’re gonna die soon”

[@BrioMidber]

I don't like Dr. Phil but he hit the nail on the head with this one. Your parents aren't going to live forever. At some point you gotta work to feed and house yourself

[@DoctorRickSanchez]

@@BrioMidber _At 37 he might as well stay on there until they're gone and keep the house... lmao._

[@lordsidious83]

Look its not ideal, but many many places in the world have parents and children living together till all ages. I cant speak for the states but here at home there is a major housing crises that you hear off every day, owing your own home is a dream. Especially now with the cost of living!

[@jon6309]

I think it really depends. There is a difference between adult children who work full time and live semi-autonomous lives versus adult children who don’t work at all and have no aspiration to financially better themselves but to heavily rely on their parents to get things done.

[@JohnMurphy-mx7pd]

Day a person begins to become an adult is the day they move out of their parents home .

[@rahuldahoob]

😮

[@heatherarndt5280]

Young people today don’t appreciate standing on their own... Im 47 and I was out on my own at 21... Wow!! Lazy man... making an elderly man work so he can lay around!!!

[@SnookOnTheFly]

Yep

[@chache516]

Depression

[@FunGuyFruits]

21? Loser!

[@JJJJ-he8bz]

I lay around and work at the same time

[@patriciacook3981]

I'm 47 too, worked since I was 16, have a autistic son at home and have a two bedroom apartment walking distance to my job, I have a 26 year old daughter who blames me for every screw up in her life, also the fact that I have worked hard her whole childhood and done it myself means nothing to her. She has abandoned one child with my ex husband, pregnant again, and I refuse to let her live here,,,it breaks my heart everyday but I must, must stand my ground

[@momsmushroomsjodyfoster5786]

If a man doesn’t work he doesn’t eat! #Bible

[@pauletterichards4755]

I don’t mind my adult child being at home as long has they are working and contributing

[@TURTLEORIGINAL]

Telling people, “ You have a chip on your shoulder”, really doesn’t help a troubled or mentally unstable person, (Doctor) Phil.

[@williammathis6044]

🙄 omg. You absolutely, 100% SHOULD tell someone with an entitled attitude about themselves. I have had it with the weakness that is supported in this country. I have anxiety, I’m “depressed”, I have mental issues, substance issues, etc, etc. No one gaf, no one, we ALL have problems, losses, and struggles, but we press on. The coddling of the weakest among us must stop. Those of us pulling the wagon are fed up with those sitting in it along for the free ride.

[@swolfe9668]

People are not mentally unstable, there faking it to get attention, we've created a society of lazy entitled brats

[@zeethree]

I think a lot of us are not pressing on anymore. It's like you're arguing we should keep playing our instruments while the Titanic is going down.

[@swolfe9668]

Coddling is worse, people who walk around with a chip on their shoulder need to told, tough love all the way

[@iqherrera]

@@zeethree It’s really ridiculous to compare brave men, to bums who expect their elderly parents to feed and cloth them.. 🤦🏻‍♀️ At least the people on the titanic created beautiful music for those living their last minutes.., It was the weak, the old, the women and children who were given the life boats… it was the brave men who put themselves last, who prayed and encouraged others to carry on as they themselves perished…. I pray for you to give of yourself, to pray for the sick, the orphans and the hungry, only then will you feel like a valuable human being… those who are depressed seem to only focus on themselves and it makes for a miserable existence…

[@jehobden]

I wonder if this man is still alive, since he's already past the life expectancy for people in AZ now.

[@DefKiller90]

He's probably homeless now his parents probably pass away

[@alezandradavila2581]

I don’t judge it’s mainly a mental health issue

[@silkoakranchpitchforkranch1205]

That’s the bs excuse sure. But it doesn’t matter. He is capable to flip burgers

[@zeethree]

It's mainly an economic issue that is causing mental health problems. 50% are living this way now. Happening in America and Europe.

[@nicholasselke5214]

Why the sudden spike in mental health issues? Sure, there are some legitimate cases, but most people use that line as an excuse to be lazy. My own generation does this all the damn time If you have a legitimate mental health issue, it’s your responsibility to get that addressed. Don’t use it as a reason to be lazy

[@llamapartyy]

​@@nicholasselke5214 it's not an excuse? like the whole point of acknowledging that it's a mental health issue is not to make excuses, but to realize your faults and make steps towards independence.

[@candyfloss7283]

Has he got severe depression maybe? He looks down

[@swolfe9668]

Stop blaming everything on depression(Which is fake) he's a lazy entitled brat who is mooching off his parents and he doesn't care

[@swolfe9668]

He doesn't have depression, he's lazy and feels entitled

[@x_bncc9559]

@@swolfe9668how do you know?

[@jeannetteross5352]

60 hrs a week would fix that!

[@llamapartyy]

​@@jeannetteross5352 it would make him kill himself whattt

[@donovanvanderwath2787]

I hate it when Dr.phill tells these ppl why dont you just move out like its so easy to get a nice flat that doesnt cost twice your sallary.

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

Let them eat cake. Remember those famous words.

[@katieporterswhiteboard1433]

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

[@Wisconsinlife]

Indeed he should move out if he isn’t helping, but it’s not a requirement to marry in the Bible.

[@silkoakranchpitchforkranch1205]

@@Wisconsinlife yep. It is better to marry than to burn with lust but if you can do not marry.

[@rahuldahoob]

I'm not gayyyyyyyy

[@alexanderclifton128]

Preach 👏

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

What about incels? They have to find their own place and live alone.

[@J_NYC]

"THAT IS NOT OK"!!!!!!

[@janellemora1728]

I'm wondering if this guy has depression. Sleeping until 2 in the afternoon is simply not normal. Maybe what he needs is a good therapist.

[@hughgraham6587]

He's just lazy. Living the good life at expense of aged parents. There should be a law that if they live like that for two years, that gives the right for parents to contact the state to retrieve the worthless cruff and harvest their organs for transplant. That way, they would have made a contribution to humanity

[@quv2035]

​@@hughgraham6587Dude that is dark asf

[@swolfe9668]

It's perfectly normal when you stay up til after midnight or your sitting around feeling sorry for yourself Because life hasn't gone your way

[@zeethree]

Where do you find a good therapist when you have no money? I've gone through 6 in the past year. They are terrible. It's basically SSRI or learn to code. There I saved you $10K. Now your wouldbe therapist can live with their parents too.

[@swolfe9668]

He's lazy and entitled, he's been allowed to get away with it and using it to his advantage, stop saying it's mental health

[@DanielPerez-xl6lf]

It's the mothers who keep their 30 old still breastfeeding those aren't mothers it's embarrassing

[@silkoakranchpitchforkranch1205]

If you think fathers don’t do that you are delusional

[@bplovelove3119]

Look at all these man child commenters supporting him. When I was 16-17 year old gal, I would skip school all the time and show up late to school…until the middle of the school year, I would just be brave enough to walk to school and start from the bottom and reach to the top. I got all F’s to A’s and B’s. And I was a depressed person back then. But the main message I want to get across to all these freeloaders is, if you’re depress you can still get a job. I remember back when I had a job, still have the same job right now, but back then I use to be really depressed but would fight off the urge to sleep through my shift or skip it because I know that I had bills to pay simple as that.

[@JamesVestal-dz5qm]

I love how Dr. Phil is sexually motivated to educate society about adult men living at their parents houses, and other grown men who moved out at 18 and paid their own way love it!

[@rahuldahoob]

Sexually?!?!

[@JamesVestal-dz5qm]

@@rahuldahoob Yeah. 60 year old men who are thinking about their retirement are often sexually motivated to punish 30 year old men who live at their parents houses. It's a generational thing, the perception of man children and the idea that young men living at their parents houses deserve to be sexually violated.

[@bumpasaurus487]

A little more on the old guys side? Cmon now dr Phil, you’re almost the same age as him. Dr Phil was about 65 when this was taped, so not even 10 years younger.

[@prophecyrevelations5653]

This video was 9 years ago & I bet he's STILL not working 😂

[@hzq-yg8bj]

I’m willing to bet he’s treated like garbage at every job he’s worked at, otherwise why would someone go out of their way to avoid getting a job for years

[@rahuldahoob]

​@@hzq-yg8bjhis father and mother were 74 a decade ago... They might be dead by now!!

[@DefKiller90]

​@@rahuldahoob he's probably homeless 😢

[@justfree6213]

These coddling comments making excuses for a man who can work and see a therapist to manage a supposed depression. Many people do it! Had he not had living parents he would be working. Even when they pass away and he gets their home, a job is needed to pay the mortgage and other bills.

[@erich84502b]

😅😂parents don't let your children do this after 21

[@MoneyMan28]

c0nd0m

[@RunningWithSewingShears]

Exactly!!! No excuse.

[@rahuldahoob]

​@@RunningWithSewingShearswhat about at 19?

[@doloresmartinezortega4822]

It's not their fault. We've always blamed young people for their situation. But this system offers no future for this generation. What's happening nowadays has never happened in the past.

[@rahuldahoob]

Not that young....

[@Circlecirclecirclecirclecirclo]

My old man just left for another family when I was 16 made it easy for me to be independent

[@chrisaida123]

I am disabled with fresh broken bones bleeding in my insides my grown son the youngest 25 yrs old don't care about my situation he won't help me when I'm calling for help it's scarey

[@MoneyMan28]

condom

[@mokgadisekepe8356]

I'm sorry ❤it will get better in time

[@petecakes-rm9go]

What Dr Phil don't realize 70% of the aging process happens in one sleep. I think he knows that so I don't understand why he's telling the older he as should be sleeping till 2 pm.Unless he wants him dead.

[@Tiger_Woods]

Everyone always have excuses 😂😂😂

[@kylemonkiewicz2803]

When am 40 am going to tell my kid stay with me as long as you like. Duck Dr Phil

[@williammathis6044]

How, pray tell. If you wait till you are 35 till finally get out on your own. Or are you planning to “inherent” the house Someone ELSE worked and earned.

[@zeethree]

​@@williammathis6044There is no other reasonable way to get a house today. Would be dumb to buy for 90% of people.

[@FamilyHistoriandude]

She failed as a mommy.

[@chandrahakim6632]

Damn not calling buddy old id be like damn I’m on my way out

[@tobeforgottenisworsethande8995]

Yeah this is exactly what somebody who's in a vulnerable and depressed situation needs to be clowned out by the whole world of the fact they're still living with their mom. Y'all trying to make men feel worse

[@rasbighigh5146]

The mother ran off and has done nothing so that forces the father to be mother and father but can't even sign his name on the lease to put his kids in a home the cost of living is three times higher than what it used to be what's your explanation to solve that

[@janghardy]

That is not ok.. man up

[@602ent3]

I feel bad for his parents I hope that he at least helps with chores around the house.

[@rahuldahoob]

This is from a decade ago. The parents may well be dead!!

[@afox15101]

How did they afford to be on the show 😂

[@rahuldahoob]

???

[@podsmpsg1]

Easy for a millionaire like Dr. Phil to say.

[@michaelramone9262]

He worked hard for it though.... stupid comment, just like the people who complain about Jeff Bezos.

[@podsmpsg1]

@@paulgeorge3517 true.

[@podsmpsg1]

@@michaelramone9262 true.

[@MoneyMan28]

He was homeless

[@sixstanger00]

@@michaelramone9262 Jeff Bezos doesn't "work" for anything he has now. The workers dying in his warehouses make his fortune for him.

[@666dynomax]

Dr Phil is so cool.

[@johannak9064]

Dr Phil, its easy to say than do I can’t trow my son out and forget about him no God

[@glitch200]

NEETs rise up! All work is slavery.

[@rasbighigh5146]

So what about the criminal raising three kids working 120 hours a week but can buy a home because he can't file to buy a home because of domestic charges stemming from the mother

[@rahuldahoob]

??

[@cuzzohh2768]

Dr. Phil doesn't offer like any solutions and also literally doesn't even ask like... WHY? Why is he sleeping til 2pm and obviously depressed?

[@janghardy]

Time to grow up. Yikes I married a man that still has his 29 year old only child living at home. She works 4 days a week. He works 60 plus hours a week . I take care of all household responsibilities.yard work ect .. it drives me crazy’s 2:59

[@zeethree]

There's not really an incentive to work hard anymore now that we realize homes, children, retirement are unobtainable. Seems smarter to just coast and enjoy the family you have today because there won't be any family in the future for us. Your husband works hard because he got to have wife, child, and home. Not sure if it was worth it to him, but at least he had an incentive. Why would you work 60 hours if you could never afford that stuff?

[@DoctorRickSanchez]

_And how old are you? You're definitely not under 49 lmao._

[@DoctorRickSanchez]

I wonder how old he is... looks to be 30.

[@StarShapedHopes]

He is 37

[@swolfe9668]

He's lazy and entitled and mooching off his parents

[@zeethree]

At 37 he was just ahead of the curve. Poor guy got shamed on TV for something common today. I'm sure that helped his mental health. Let me tell you when you're a 37 year old with no career living with parents your self esteem doesn't need any more holes poked in it. I guarantee whatever was going on in his head was far worse than any insults people want to hurl.

[@kmc1steelers998]

This is NOT a laughing matter, if something happens to his parents he would be left in the world F%IU%% up, and he will be unprepared with reality of life. Insurance $, most people leave behind will run out quickly with him not working , and no other savings. To me enabling a child is child abuse. He think he has depression now, he really will if he had no help and facing homelessness like so many. I have a 21 year old traveling and working in tourism, he still a younging and doing it, and this FULL GROWN man can't come on..

[@xxcarazybabexx]

When you said enabling a child is child abuse, I feel like you hit the nail on the head.

[@ctgeorgia]

...I learned nothing from this video other than Dr Phil humiliated the guy (he deserved it). However, what I was hoping to learn was what the outcome was and how did they get this young guy to develop some self esteem and get motivated to gain his independence???

[@sandysmith71]

You don’t need self esteem to work a job . Depression can get better when you are doing something that makes you feel like you are contributing to society. He needs to get a job even if it’s just a job at 7-11 that’s the only way to get somewhere is to start .

[@russiantroubleyakutsk1612]

“You are stuck” 😅

[@nathansorrells7131]

It’s called……. I am a lazy pice

[@nosnitchpolicy1949]

You people? What do mean by, you people?

[@silkoakranchpitchforkranch1205]

😂 get offended elsewhere Karen

[@vclocals5536]

Whuuut?

[@rahuldahoob]

Indians

[@Apmannen]

Me, myself, and Irene

[@user-fq6um8pe1d]

Get a job or get out

[@joseangelsandoval911]

Lol. Lazy!!!!!!!!! Get up.

[@jasongoodwin2489]

25th