When he REGRETS losing you, he'll do this...

[@sarah.j.777]

I don't care if he regrets losing me, I don't ever want to regret losing me again.

[@heathermetz6576]

Well said!!

[@ashgirl9]

Amen

[@elizabethclarke2005]

Brilliant answer be true to yourself and look after yourself. Some men think the are toooo buff!

[@kathybelle3326]

Thank you

[@pattyry]

That part!

[@Ejowolfhqlqhv]

When he regrets loosing her and he comes back, he is not there to treat you better, he is there to soothe his wounds.

[@tee3842]

Is this true?

[@sherriflemming3218]

Absolutely. They don't change. Why would you want them back.?

[@CreativePower.]

Whoa! Deeep

[@abigaildavidholistichealth5878]

​@tee3842 yip...most of these men are broken...

[@jenniferlorence185]

SO TRUE & Feed His EGO.

[@smartkookie]

Just move on and be happy. If you are happy this shouldn't be a thought in your mind. Heal from these toxic men that aren't meant for you ladies.

[@jolekbolek]

Very powerful 👏

[@taniawilliams14]

Easier said than done

[@s.lemonaideforall]

Hoooraaay🙌🏽👏🏽

[@jwa7378]

It should read Lonely Kookie nobody wants you! Like most of ya'll lonely regular smegular black women

[@smartkookie]

@@taniawilliams14 It takes will power. It can be done.

[@laurajoy1180]

A goal of mine in life is to find a man who is not a toddler. Emotionally anyway. It's hard.

[@kimmiet.8962]

Exactly, & they need to be honest & heal. Poor patterns.

[@tricethomas9653]

You're not supposed to "find" him... You are going to "attract" him & he's going to find you.

[@pearlhunter2440]

Good goal. 😊

[@beachlover9705]

It's very difficult they are 99,% infantile

[@shaythemortician5180]

Absolutely

[@user-iu6bv8vu8o]

7:48- A woman who is properly loved becomes 10x’s the woman she was- benefits of a properly loved woman- PRICELESS- 🔥

[@tappingintuit5977]

Amen

[@PainToPurposewithNickieBrown]

Exactly

[@kenishahammond3935]

A woman who loves herself becomes 100x's the woman she was.

[@TreeofLife_111]

When not properly loved she doesn’t succeed

[@pearlhunter2440]

Exactly. 💯💯💯

[@jptak77]

I don’t care if he cares if he lost me. He played too many games. I was all of those things to this man…I supported and encouraged, unconditional love and acceptance. I know I was showing up as my best self. I will heal and move on and lesson learned. One chance and done. I’m too old for games.

[@karenmalone6316]

Yes that right play to many games he despect me I cry alot I pray for him I told him I'm praying for him we are just not might to be yes my heart is broken I kept going back to him alot but it was just a lesson I needed to leared im done this time I do still love him and always will but he didn't show me love so I let him go for good I can't wait for him I'm very upset but god got my heart

[@cloeb2505]

PERIOD SIS💯,and you not alone im going through the process

[@zsmith7590]

Facts!

[@nattyb2924]

This!!! 🔥 🔥 🔥

[@viviancheek8044]

Low level losers games.

[@mariaddis9341]

When you finally walk away, stay gone! Worrying about if they care and if they want you back is null and void. Whatever they did to finally lose you will not change. If they try to get you back, it's mostly just because they can't accept the rejection. Make like a dryer sheet and Bounce!

[@tee3842]

Yep!!

[@henriettaandrews5807]

Now that’s real, I applaud you for that, a lot of ladies needed to hear that!

[@marstar24]

True ! Don’t want to see u happy with nobody else

[@lashundramarsh412]

Now that is real. They most definitely can not accept rejection.

[@toniaparker3543]

Some men it doesn't matter what you do. Some men you will never be enough!!

[@treasureforashes3497]

Most of them!

[@angelabowen7137]

True!

[@prettynikki3667]

Always

[@shalalala868]

Specially if they have greener grass syndrome

[@MaesRemedy]

That's because they are low-key gay and treat women like objects!!!

[@marthamullinax8247]

Keep this in mind Ladies. If someone goes far enough to leave you then let them go. Do not let someone come back to leave you again.

[@silods3S]

So I must be a ladie because I did take her back after she left me and yes she left me again... But I must say that the second time it doesn't hurt as much as the first time.

[@silods3S]

But yet it still hurts

[@tammygarrett8427]

@@silods3S Sorry that happened to you .

[@toniaparker3543]

Some men don't regret losing women. If he doesn't love himself or know what he actually had. It's like a ole well!

[@shalalala868]

That part. Our ego would like to think so but sometimes (although not often), they don’t regret losing you.

[@tee3842]

Right!! But they will definitely see what they had when you start flourishing even more!

[@whiteliner2253]

Not always… if they never really wanted you, You could become the president & you will still mean Nothing to them… They may use you… But they don’t want nor care about you… ( That’s life…

[@dwilliams5700]

If you go stay gone !!! If you go back it'll be 10 times worse‼️

[@marstar24]

Yup ! Story of my life

[@osinachiblessing6272]

I don't care if he regret loosing me...All I care is FORWARD EVER, BACKWARD NEVER👌🏿👍💖

[@antrianewsome2463]

Thank God for Apostle Selman! 😇🕊🙌🏾

[@muslimahdiva587]

❤

[@nicholariffin2551]

Jacob killer miller ❤

[@candyjames1075]

Exactly

[@sarahsmile2883]

Exactly!

[@kita-1116]

Unfortunately narcs have no soul, empathy nor regrets.

[@ericabelcher8760]

💯💯💯💯

[@latashakendrick9709]

They regret... that's why they watch from a distance and ask bout ya

[@peace1729]

A woman could never take me from my woman ❤️ See real women are rare just like real men are rare 💯So why trade my diamond 💎 for a stone ❤️

[@DA_2010]

where are men like u😪

[@charniecearielle]

What if the woman that was there first is the stone and the one that comes later is the Diamond and due to the amount of time put in or circumstances such as children with the first woman, makes you think that she’s the one (first woman) when actually the other woman (the one who came later) is the real gem.

[@aliciaaustin4030]

Period😊

[@JG.NG222]

​@charniecearielle7147 what if the one before bullied the first one....than she probably was never the one just one that possibly dealt with him or they js "talked"

[@lsb9881]

Bro it happens every day

[@Uncensoredwithsevynk]

Never allow a person to leave you twice. ❤

[@Barbara-hw3xz]

He lost me for a valid reason. Why would I care about how he feels after losing me?

[@sallychow1252]

I’m moving on from this relationship so I’m good thank you Jesus 🙏✝️🙏💖

[@mekajones7273]

Me too sis 🤎✊🏽

[@ClaudiaDancingDove]

Just move on who cares if he regrets losing you or not . Too busy blossoming 🌸

[@intentionallyqueen.478]

If they have personality disorder, they may not express or show signs of remorse.

[@alphahandy2021]

Lmbo that’s the whole truth

[@realmsofthespiritarts8557]

Yep! I can testify to that.

[@Cararara1987]

💯

[@rue258]

I agree

[@mythoughtsarenothisthoughts]

Word!!

[@shondahamilton752]

Exhausted 😩 with people Seriously 😒! I’m good to everyone. You fumble me. You’ve suffered a huge lost. Not arrogant. Just know my worth. Humble and Happy 😃 Me✨. Sometimes an individual find it more fulfilling with self and being alone.

[@s.lemonaideforall]

Yes

[@Aquariuswonder86]

I feel you 🙌🏽❤️

[@jwa7378]

Nobody is regretting losing you. It is literally 350 million people in the US. Women come and go just like men.. Oh well

[@shondahamilton752]

@@jwa7378 Do you know me Jerk Off!😠 I’m am the answer, the one ☝️, the Queen 👸🏽 and highly blessed! Go stand in a corner and get yo mind right before you come talking shit to a Queen 👸🏽 my man!!!

[@MariaMartinez_07]

Yes, I feel this and I hear you. 🙌🏽❤️

[@jubeebby3]

One thing I've learned is that no matter what you do or don't do, it's not going to affect the outcome of what your partner does. Another thing I've learned is how your partner treats you rarely has anything to actually do with you. the small details don't matter. They did what they did. They made their decision.

[@Ellen2378-b5k]

“And you’re gonna learn what it’s like to really miss me.” _ Beyoncé “Put a Ring💍🖖🏾 On It.” Single ladies 2006.

[@zsmith7590]

Yeah, that way.

[@dougedoug2105]

Lyrics written by ✌🏽 men but sung by Beyoncé. 😉

[@blackpeach5]

No!!! A ring is sometimes how toxic men hold you down. Do not rush NOTHING

[@Vicxenish]

No, there are plenty safe spaces.. Broken men just have an ego and love to make excuses and justify why they do what they do.

[@lovedbeyond6422]

You're amazing. I went through this. I let go and focused on myself. My life grew and he wanted to try again. I love him so I said yes. It's been hard but we are a We now. I'm really glad I ended it instead of trying to make it work back then. He wasn't ready

[@MindBodySoul333]

May iAsk How Have Yall Both Grew Since Reconnecting?

[@user-yy1sb3zt6y]

Aw I love this

[@samanthasalmon3102]

Love this

[@sh.g83]

lots of blessings n love here

[@kristabistaify]

That's awesome!!! Is everything ok now ? I'd love to see if this could work

[@divergentone777]

You can tell by the way he treats the next woman. If he's truly remorseful, he will not make the same mistakes with the next lady

[@maricristinacastel]

In my case I feel that whatever he did to me, he did it a lot of times for the ones before, and he will do it with the next one, unless he works on his own healing.

[@marstar24]

Yup !

[@marstar24]

Heal first to change that trend

[@kimmiller5083]

Makes perfect sense when he mentioned if you bring up things at the wrong time and not being properly loved, I can relate to that. That's how my ex husband was to me, this August will be two years since our divorce and I'm finally getting back the best loving version of myself

[@wandahoward8767]

Yes lord, God's love is stronger than fleshly love and now my heart ♥ belongs to God and me cause I've been there done that and now I'm saying I really don't give a "DAMN" HOW THEY FEEL. MY HEART ♥ IS NOW UNDER GODS PROTECTION 😇😇😇😇😇🤝🤝🤝🤲🏻🤲🏻🤲🏻 SO NO WEAPONS FORM AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OUR LORD AND SAVIOR AMEN AMEN

[@soniasolomon5388]

Amen 🙌🙏

[@Michelle-jm7hh]

Amen and God Bless you ♥️🙏♥️

[@cynthiagomes2979]

Say that again!! A woman that is PROPERLY loved....!!!!!!! Yes, you will get Fantasy Island out of me.

[@creating1_c1999]

Everyone regrets something. Stay future-focused. Proper love is 100! It isn't measured by the length of time but the quality of time.

[@JKNat9004]

"Mentally he's a toddler.". 😆😆😆😆. That one got me. 😅

[@totalhealthtrip]

I’m done with healing myself and resubmitting my energy towards him only to end up hurt again and the cycle repeats. Done and done.

[@sidesaddle001]

Aye it’s a roller coaster ride that we don’t need to be a part of. How has your life shaped up now?

[@rosiebelf955]

what did you do? I'm suffering im want yo leave him but I cant.

[@bonny3199]

He was emotionless. Now, if i had $$$....he'd be right beside me til it was all gone.

[@Naturallyro_]

So true, that hit home!

[@noneya2355]

my ex is narcissistic so many times I blamed myself for things not working out but in reality he didn’t love me right that’s why I wasn’t bringing my best self to the relationship

[@amyahwright7371]

Turn to the Lord they’re watching and returning get it together before they return 🙏🏽💕

[@capriedwardsguidry]

That's why we ladies need to have self-love FIRST. ❤

[@trinigirlcharlie6559]

WOW! This showed up in my feed today and it is RIGHT ON TIME for what I am going through. I think this is my angels, guides and the universe letting me know they got my back! 😇🙏

[@DA_2010]

Tell me about it

[@lizaw.7313]

This is EXACTLY what my husband is doing right now... makes me feel better, so helpful.

[@latashahumphrey769]

Some people know how to say the right things when u going through the motions. Thanks Lord.

[@DA_2010]

Can say that again

[@latashahumphrey769]

Right

[@csibiedit8046]

They do not regret it at all, instead they are entering quickly in another relationahip and "badly" behaving women are always better appretiated than" good" women.

[@justred5164]

Welp! I’m satisfied…everyone of my exs did exactly everything you mentioned after the breakup! 😉😏

[@amyk8488]

7:45-8:02 time...... Thank you. You're the only one that talks about this. It's so nice to finally be validated

[@amyk8488]

And you're handsome

[@AprilHare]

My ex doesn't know how to treat a woman. I don't care how he feels. I'm all cared out. I'm sure he's angry that I'm not falling for his sobs of never being the same. Go take that somewhere else, you're blocked.

[@katherinedelaney-disiervi9369]

Amen you spoke right to me!!! This is what i try to tell people about dating!!! Know what you want what are your deal breakers & your self worth . In a relationship yes you should be your best version but your child always be better with or without a partner but in the eve of it ask you should both add to each other!!! Agree with you become even a better version. Btw healing does make you a better person … wisdom to know!! Love your videos… Right on point

[@victoria.mlynnn]

This came just in time for me. Have been struggling with the “what ifs” and endless questions. 😮‍💨

[@debbiepeterson6829]

He did lose a good one. Loyal to the death, but once I say enough. You won't be changing my mind. Be not deceived by yourself.

[@gloriakeeto8337]

You read my mind. My desire is to be the best version of myself!!! I'm in the process healing from pass relationships. Thank you, thank you. 🙏

[@cuttinohicks1232]

I jus took an L I regret it so much bhut she moved on didn’t want nothin to do wimme so I feel all alone but , i gotta focus on myself and grind and become the best version of me.

[@Crazzzyhead_xx]

Your lost respectfully

[@NoName-nj4mw]

Very mature to admit it. Learn grow and heal before you move on

[@spaul3291]

Do better next time!!!

[@debraannedimezza8075]

Unfortunately, as much as I loved him, he brought the absolute worst, doubting me. I didn’t even know where it was coming from. I became so toxic from the constant disappointment from the constant criticism from the constant telling me I wasn’t good enough one day, and then I was too good the next day he drove me insane. I need to get me some toxic. He threw me out.

[@Lissitchka]

THIS IS SO RIGHT!!! A WOMAN WHO IS PROPERLY LOVED❤❤❤❤

[@kermearomain5847]

You just described my whole daughter father. And he still calls me to help him and I still do. I just want to accept his wrong and I know what that looks and sounds like. Self acceptance changing,turning never going BACK to wrong ways.

[@joannawofford]

When I am gone I am gone and want look back. Because that's the reason for God's delivering me from him. I don't care about what could have been

[@patsyhampton3698]

I liked that. Bringing your best self to the next relationship. And reminding me I don't want a relationship where I feel more alone than when I'm single.

[@m.o.s.h.1836]

WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND, that's why some men regrets of losing good women.

[@mackey-y6s]

I have to agree cuz I gave what I got so I know I wasn’t my best self because I fed off of what he gave me…

[@DA_2010]

me

[@chseylver4180]

Thank you.💕 It’s good to see that you’re still doing these type of videos. You have very powerful messages in your videos.

[@queengaskin943]

He got in contact with my mother after I changed my phone number. Calling me 4 times a day daily now. Told me how much he regret loosing me and he wants to start again

[@ashleykathryn9038]

Did you go back?

[@Naturallyro_]

Don’t fall for it

[@ayanda007]

Thank you from South Africa🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@toniaparker3543]

Yeah my ex-boyfriend was like that no accountability whatsoever!

[@Trustheprocess23]

So true he just ran away onto the next like a child

[@Clearly123]

Spokane, WA

[@underconinout5796]

I will be attending your master class! Can’t wait to obtain some valuable insight. Thank you for the perspective 💯🎯

[@Charayaluvs2Dr3am]

I have experienced blessings in a new relationship but I understand and accept the part of me that’s still healing and still has questions about why/how my past happened the way it did. I loved how well he explained this and it’s helping me continue to move forward💜.

[@DA_2010]

what was the duration of your breakup before you engaged yourself in a new relationship? And was it easy. Because I am going through a lot in my current relationship which I am soon to leave. And not ready for any other relationship. I would love to concentrate on myself and my 1 year old daughter

[@anonymous-od1gv]

@@DA_2010 I hope you have left from the toxic. Your health is important and is your life. It gets a bit easier.

[@niquetta1170]

You are incredibly knowledgeable I really appreciate what you do. I really wish men would take a class from you on healing and mentorship.

[@kimmiet.8962]

Then how about be honest and stop playing to your coping mechanisms. I was angry at the end, because I was wiped to exhaustion because of his passive aggressive behavior. He did protect me, we both were going through a lot. I hold me & him accountable. Counseling & God.

[@iamaroyalpriesthood]

Some men haven't been loved properly either

[@haydeejohnson8290]

How are knowledgeable men with a strong platform teaching these men these golden nuggets. Unfortunately, even when WE show up in our best self, these men won't get it if THEY are not showing up in their best self. It seems as if women who don't want to settle still have to do most of the healing work. However you want to slice it. It's truly unfortunate that women have to wait to get the validation they needed while in the relationship, after the fact. SMH.

[@LAMM117]

Absolutely! Honest reflection is important

[@rubehoxor]

the moment he said : dont be past oriented but future focused. emma stop watching these videos now.

[@Temi-u8x]

Relationship is quite complicated....Just be the best you can be in every situation you find yourself.

[@michelleedwards5058]

You're spot on with your words 🙂

[@joseyndaba5076]

@DerrickJaxn your views are always so surprisingly WISE!

[@kimsmith819]

100% agree with this message

[@jag5798]

I would think about that for a minute, then I’d never wonder about it again. That’s when you know you won. If you are looking at winning.

[@believe7817]

I so wish he regrets loosing me and atleast ask to meet me and Apologize! Yoh am going to give him the taste of his Own medicine

[@queensabs6333]

You don’t need the apology or the ‘meeting’ why? George Herbert said ‘living well is the best revenge’

[@DA_2010]

@@queensabs6333 true, indeed wise words, but as for human nature relationships is a matter of the heart, ''living well'' may sound as easy but in general not easy more especially if the love is still there. But wise words though, I give it a thumbs up

[@kalapaul8192]

I jus love Derrick jaxn...he's full of wisdom nd knowledge. Nd I will always love him...no matter what.

[@JaxnVideos]

❤️❤️❤️

[@lzumm]

Omg I needed to hear this right now literally

[@golden-space]

Your words are just flowing in at such a perfect moment. Brilliantly reflected message with wise ways to move forward and shift that energy towards bliss. Danke ❤

[@daniellemitchell7977]

My ex-husband displaced anger omg!!

[@DA_2010]

why

[@92christinam]

DERRICK I hope u read this- I think you're the best person to listen to following a breakup, thankyou for providing GOOD WISDOM, ur the best 💖💖

[@KA-yz2ld]

Bro you are on point, God bless you.

[@mariaarthur8041]

Watching from Papua New Guinea- Port Moresby

[@crystalglopez91623]

Aww Derrick you’re awesome!!! Thank you!!

[@blingblingnelida]

Orlando Florida...here Thank you 😊

[@pipert4278]

This is why I am staying singlel

[@carmenambriz776]

Sacramento, Cali 💕

[@wanderlamb23]

Madison WI 👍 thank you for this message. i definitely needed to hear it today ❤️

[@urnkimshouse]

A lot of little boys out here looking for a 2nd mom!

[@bentyusufaesha899]

Yes !!!!!

[@abatiloretta3348]

100%

[@calibleu7532]

I really miss seeing you on my timeline you helped me so much over the years ❤️

[@saundradoss41]

Atlanta GA

[@ebonywilliams5116]

Seattle, WA💙

[@ambdallas31]

This happened to me and I had to work on myself I was not happy myself . It was hard but now I know myself I am more happy . I hope now that I know that I can stop my old patterns and move on better so I don’t repeat myself . I chase the same men and it always ends the same

[@maryrainwater6533]

I wouldn't care. If you know you are a good women and did everything to make it work and he did nothing to keep you are reciprocated then you don't need him. He is just selfish.

[@tammyd5720]

Largo, FL

[@lizc4095]

I want to Thank You for your words of wisdom, & encouragement.

[@troyph269]

A million thanks for speaking on this subject!!!!

[@daughterofzion2146]

Men suppressing emotions causes or exacerbates personality disorders

[@tazmania201]

Yes ma’am!!👏🏽👏🏽

[@Vetty-o7g]

Properly loved!!!!! Wow that is profound.

[@blitzkrieg6872]

The takeaway is..................if you find him in bed with your best friend five minutes after you broke up, this means that he regrets losing you! That's right! You won the prize!!!!!!

[@darlenewarren8863]

Los Angeles, California ❤️Nice topic ! Love your jacket.

[@aisamendoza9280]

Thank you so much. I need this badly