When You've Done Something Unforgivable, Forgive Yourself

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A reader is distraught about something he has been accused of at his university. He seems to be tormented by guilt. I explain that when we have committed transgressions, we need to mitigate the damage and then move on.
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@SD_Chosen 2 жыл бұрын

Please Pray for Me I Have Done Horrible Things And it is Tough, Hoping to Find Forgiveness.

@sadkeannu 5 жыл бұрын

Living with shame is so tough. This is the fatherly advice I needed today. Thanks Quintus

@larastap 2 жыл бұрын

Man, there is too much criticism of the letter writer's use of language. Why?

@GregariousAntithesis 2 жыл бұрын

No its not done, i have horrible thoughts and i feel guilty for them and no they dont just go away.

@DH-oj2ru Жыл бұрын

It is often a slow process. All I can offer is my own experience, but this has helped me alleviate some guilt over the years: 1. Confiding in another person that wont judge you for your past - this may be tough to find, but there is someone out there who will listen to you - therapy can help or a close friend, family member, etc. If none of those are an option, maybe try a church group or something? I promise it helps to tell someone. 2. Understand that your present self is not your past self - whatever you did, there was a reason you did it - whatever it was, you clearly feel remorse because you came to this video. This alone shows me that you are not an evil person, whatever you did. Maybe you did something evil in the past, but YOU are not evil because you feel the remorse. Dont forget this. The person that feels remorse and wants to be better is not the same as the person that did the actions in the past. Remember this, and move forward, not backward. 3. Remember that NO ONE is as perfect as they seem. You and I may have done things in our pasts that are worse than what the average person might have done, but if you are truly sorry and want to change, it doesnt matter - we are all the same creature born into different circumstances and with different experiences. You did what you did with what you had at the time - now you can use the terrible feelings you get of remorse to use as fuel for making the world a better place for the future. 4. Find a way to serve others - volunteer, etc. - it will make you feel good. Sometimes guilt never fully goes away, but literally all we can do is either mope around living in the past, or face the feelongs head on, accept that you did what you did, and vow to use that experience to help others. If you do this lomg enough, it will at least help, it did for me. Best of luck to you friend, may you find peace.

@okjeffy6581 12 күн бұрын

Me who wants to be judged for my past.