When Your Ex Blows Cold and Hot

[@amytiffanyhemingway]

I like how patient a dad you are 😊

[@sophiastuart4357]

Hey Alexis this has been useful as my ex reached out 5 times two weeks after he dumped me and it was not small talk but asking questions and trying to be friendly etc so quite positive interest and I responded friendly but not too overly interested. For the past two months there has been silence. It does feel like mixed signals but I guess it could be a number of reasons. I won’t be waiting just moving on with my life.

[@AlexisFriedlander]

Keep me posted, I can bet you, you will be very surprised about what will happen :)

[@sophiastuart4357]

@@AlexisFriedlander Thank you Alexis for your responses.

[@The_Darrell]

I had no idea about attachment styles before my breakup... She pushed me away when we got super close, and it destroyed me. I ended things because for the last month she barely wanted to see me. I've accepted that we will likely never be together again, and I'm fine with that now. I still feel like I have to reach out to explain that I understand things from a different perspective now (she's a fearful avoidant due to a past abusive long-term relationship). I was going to reach out with a video (we're both video/editing nerds) explaining that I understand things now,and also explain why I acted certain ways. I think I need it for closure. I was going to do this in about a month (which would be 60 days of no contact)... Just wondering what your thoughts are on this? Thanks

[@AlexisFriedlander]

That would be very cute. However, I would keep things very simple to start with. The video would be the last step

[@The_Darrell]

@@AlexisFriedlander Thanks for the reply... I thought about it for sometime after I wrote that comment. Although it's hard and it sucks, I've decided that I'm not going to reach out again. A relationship where only one person tries to communicate isn't the right relationship for me.