Where have I been - update/apology video

[@zakariya25]

Yo I know I'ma but late to comment but it's good to see ya g hope ur well

[@Jonkidd98]

Nice to see you too bro

[@DenimsTTVArchive]

Hi! I just wanted to start by saying its good to hear your alright. Nobody deserves to be doxed, threatened or harassed. Idk if this is helpful but something that has helped me was recognizing that while physical attraction is certainly related to how people choose who to have relationships with (platonic, romantic or otherwise), it is absolutely not the end all be all and often not the most important thing. There are a ton of men out there that are generally considered to be embodying the social standards for masculine attractiveness but do not get a lot of attention from women (typically because of their personality, attitude and demeanor). Meanwhile there are a ton of men out there that don't meet those same social standards who are beloved by many women. Apart from some small basis in symmetry and proportions, attractiveness is very subjective and easily outshined by personality. I want to be honest here: in your "25 no GF" video your 'vibe' was a little intense and might have come off as putting the blame for your singleness on others (idk about your other older videos). I think this is where the comments about you giving off "serial killer", etc come from. I'm no expert in facial expressions (NTM a lot of psychoanalysis of facial quirks is bunk science anyway) but I personally would try to find a good therapist to talk to about that kind of stuff with. Unfortunately good therapists for men are hard to come by. Small thing: Telling someone you are seeking a relationship with that you are unworthy of it will kill the momentum of that relationship. Talking about and working out your insecurities and feelings in any relationship is extremely important but don't put yourself down. Elephant in the room: I appreciate that you address that taking the images from the one person's profile was unacceptable. It is creepy to share a random person's dating profile images that they did not consent to being shared in that way (by random I mean they are not a celebrity or public personality, etc). I can certainly see how the stalking rumor formed from that. Sometimes I see people (mostly lonely single men) refer to "insanity: trying the same thing over and over and expecting a different result" to justify giving up on looking for a partner. I think that mentality is flawed in one very big way. It forgets that every single person is unique and thus a completely different circumstance. If you only try 'shooting your shot' with one or two people the likelihood of finding compatibility is very low. It's very difficult, but you do have to process rejection, move on in life and try again with someone else when your ready. All (good/real) relationships are based on both parties being enthusiastic about it. You are not any less valuable as a person because of another persons rejection. There are to many factors that go into a choice like that to make the assumption that it's because of you or your looks. - Channel Editor for DenimsTTVArchive

[@Jonkidd98]

Hello, sorry for my late response; I just haven't had the time to write until now For the social standards I have seen men over the years that (at least in my opinion) that were not good looking but were somehow able to attract women and was always kinda confused by that It wasn't until I found out a few years later it was due to their personality and confidence that they were able to attract women despite their looks. But I do get what you mean by the men that reach that social standards of masculinity but don't attract women due their overconfidence and demeanor There are times I kinda regret making the "25 never had a gf" video due to the backlash it received despite the fact that the reason why I made that video was not only cause it was a trend but was also a cry for help Over the years since I spoke with those women I have made mental notes on what not to do or say whenever I talk with a new girl that I like Also about the pictures - yes I know what I did was not ok and still regret doing that and will never do that again After going AWOL I did a lot of self reflection on some things that were not ok and how I can improve on them Not sure if I ever told anyone this but the reason why I made my old channel was not only to document my struggles to find a partner but also document my self improvement journey such as (social skills, appearance, and confidence) But after the whole fiasco I'm trying to change the way I see relationships As not a priority but rather something that will come to me naturally Even though despite the fact I may have appeared to be a bit desperate in my older videos

[@pumkinsocks-ig6jk]

YOU are such a kind human being. You’re wonderful, so intelligent, you’re so strong to go through everything you’ve went through and still come back today to talk about all of this. You are the most wonderful person I have met so far this year. You look so sweet and charming. Your ability to reflect about all of this, understand your emotions, yet choose to be kind and not let all those horrible people let you do something horrible. It doesn’t matter what people think, especially on Twitter. I know you know this, but all of those people on Twitter are just channeling all of their insecurities and trauma onto anyone they can, for temporary relief that will only leave them more hateful, bitter and misserable. You’re a BEAUTIFUL human being man ❤❤ I love you, and you’re amazing. That’s all I want to say. I am 20, male, and I can relate to a lot of the things you have experienced. It’s therefore easy for me to tell a gem from stone and you are such a gem dude. Do what you love. Never stop chasing that dream dude. You will do incredible things in life. You have a bright future. You are FANTASTIC. And you’re doing so well. Thank you so much for this video. Bless you and your family. All the love from Norway ❤❤

[@Jonkidd98]

Thank you

[@hdmac]

glad you’re okay family 🤝

[@Jonkidd98]

@@hdmac thank you

[@jonhide5730]

So all of this was just one huge misunderstanding I’m sorry that you had to go through that; well… at least you're doing better now

[@CalebOzuna]

What up brother

[@redeyes3475]

Hey Jonathan, you're not the only one that is single. I'm single too and there are lots of other guys that are in the same similar situation and making videos like you did. I don't if you've seen it, but there's another video titled "I'm 27 and never had a girlfriend" made by this guy named Jaron that has a KZbin channel called Mr Gaming Guitarist. There's one part where he says he was kicked out of a bar for saying hello to a girl because they thought he was harassing her. Then he tells another story where he was in love with a girl and they were best friends, but she had a boyfriend. Then she told him in a text message that she didn't want to be friends with him because he put her relationship in danger, and he almost took his life for that.

[@Jonkidd98]

I saw the thumbnail from that video but I've never seen it since seeing videos like that really depresses me Also are you serious? I didn't know that about him I'm surprised he didn't get a lot of hate

[@redeyes3475]

@@Jonkidd98 Well I don't know if he has any hate or not, but all I've seen was people doing reactions and video responses, giving there feedback and advice. And the thing about that video is that it currently over 883,000 views, and that's actually the most views out of all the other videos on his channel. Yeah I was serious when I said he almost took his life. He said that he had a box cutter and drove to a dark parking lot so no one could see him, and he was going cut his wrist underneath the palm of his hand, but ended up cutting the outside of his forearm instead.

[@livinginoklahomacityofficial]

I don't mean to come off aggressive or rude or anything, but it kinda seems like maybe you don't understand the severity of posting someone's picture on the internet, and ESPECIALLY their child. It's a massive violation of someone's privacy, and posting a picture of their child is pretty wild. In this video it seems like you are under the impression that the biggest issue people had was that people thought this Tinder girl was the same as the middle school crush girl, and THAT was the issue. What I'm trying to make sure you understand, is that you posting a picture online of ANYONE without their permission is wildly inappropriate, especially someone you never dated, and ESPECIALLY with their child. Does that make sense?

[@sdfhdz]

I disagree, TMZ does it all the time why arn't you going after them?

[@livinginoklahomacityofficial]

@@sdfhdz because they aren't some random 25 year old on the internet who seems completely unaware why this is inappropriate, or makes people think they come off as creepy? What are you even going on about TMZ for? Unrelated lol

[@Jonkidd98]

Hello, @livinginoklahomacityofficial if you look at old posts/comments about my videos lots of people confused The Tinder Girl as my middle crush which is where I dismiss the rumor in this video Also I've learned my lesson and I will never again do that

[@Laschietotsk]

​@@sdfhdz both are bad, why can't we call out both?

[@Daking_Alter]

What

[@Jonkidd98]

@@Daking_Alter yeah... I know

[@manosijroy8282]

Is 23 quite late in your opinion if it took me this long to overcome my shyness towards girls? I am a 23 year old guy living in Bangalore in India but born in Siliguri in West Bengal in India who never had a girlfriend before, only been on 1 first date months ago at the age of 22 and then hanged out with a female friend and hugged only 2 girls in person and never been kissed. I am studying MBA now and had a few crushes in my 1st year of MBA which didn't work but now 2nd year just started for me and I finally initiated conversation with 8 girls in these 3-4 days after University reopened. One of them(lets call her D) is also within 21-23 age range and is my junior who is in 1st year of her MBA and we have been having good conversations and 2 days ago we followed each other on Instagram too and on that same day I met another girl(lets call her R) who is in my University too in my same year of MBA and also within 22-24 age range and she is a North Indian and we were walking and talking while going to University and then while going to the bus stop too we went together and she let me under her umbrella too as it was raining. So both D and R had been nice and friendly to me so far but idk whether I have any chance as R is a really confident girl whereas I am just overcoming my shyness nowadays. Its a big improvement as I was shy during school days and avoided talking to girls due to facing severe bullying in school. Not only that I also talked with foreign women in our city Bangalore by initiating conversations with them. As Bangalore is a major metropolitan city and the IT hub of India, foreigners do come here as expats. I talked with 3 expat women so far. Almost 5 months ago was with a French woman who was about 22-26 age range and then 2 months ago was with a German woman who was probably anywhere within 26-35 age range. But yesterday I had the best conversation with an American woman in the cafe in this big shopping complex in the most upscale area of our city. She is an expat too and she is 29 and she was really friendly to me and was comfortable talking with me and we had a long conversation. I asked for her Instagram but unfortunately she said she doesn't even use Insta so we couldn't connect with each other but I really hope I get to meet her again as she is really pretty too but I look nerdy in my glasses too.