Which Is Worse, Japanese Wife or Japanese Husband

[@Meshida]

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[@desperateboy]

I have heard stories where Japanese boss give employees bonus using cash , so they can keep it and not pass it to their actual boss (wife) .

[@rinzo2009]

Those Japanese bosses are real men. They have the milk of human kindness flowing through them.

[@jameshanlon5689]

What’s to keep the Japanese wife from frisking or doing body cavity searches of their husband for monetary contraband like they do in prisons all over the world. LOL

[@JoshIsles]

Yeah this is 100% true lol

[@rinzo2009]

@@jameshanlon5689 You mean the women would go as far as to tell their husbands to bend over while they get enema to flush out the cash? Or the wives go choking their husbands just to confirm the lack of cash contraband? That would be sweet (if I was Ken Suzuki). 😂🤣😂🤣

[@SuperHyperNoob]

@@jameshanlon5689 Spend the money before going home!!!

[@Daniel-xb3ot]

That’s funny! I lived in Japan for 15 years and my EX-wife was Japanese. I know a lot of this is really true!

[@toplespecah666]

Are Japanese wife really stop their husbands for having sex with them? And wife start cheat?

[@PNOYPWR]

In the Philippines, You marry a Filipina, you marry her tribe/relatives. Marriage in the Philippines is not a slavery. It's more of a torture chamber that is why when friends ask me how long I been married, I told them, I'm already being tortured 41 years and still counting. 👀🤔🙄😳😳😳

[@onisuryaman408]

More or less the same in other south eastern asian countries. Speaking from an Indonesian

[@erickrivera292]

What about Laos? 🤣

[@vitadude5004]

Same here in India tho

[@witch18Lho]

I guess you really wanted to be tortured sir..you lasted 41 years🤣🤣😅

[@deleteme924]

Same in Ukraine

[@MrJojomylove]

You gotta ignore the haters. They are just looking for reasons to dislike things. Love the roast !

[@ChickensAndGardening]

My neighbors when I was in grad student housing in Massachusetts were a married couple, the guy from New Zealand and the gal from Japan. She was pregnant with their first child. Unfortunately, they were not getting along very well. When they moved from Japan to New Zealand, she said she hated it there and wished they were back in Japan. Then they moved to Australia, and she started saying she hated Australia and wished they were back in New Zealand. Then, when they came to America, she hated it here and started saying Australia wasn't so bad after all! They had terrible shouting matches, with him saying "YOU F----G B-TCH!" and so forth. Once I went over there to ask her to write some kanji for me (I was studying Chinese history at the time) and she was quite unfriendly and said, in broken English, "I'm preg-a-nant!" which I guess was her excuse why she couldn't write a few characters on a piece of paper for me. (Ultimately she did do it.) I felt sorry for the both of them. Maybe I felt more sorry for her, but I will say, she was not very likable, whereas he was a nice, laid back New Zealander. Then again, I also knew a couple who had a very charming and exuberant young boy, around 10 years old; she was Japanese and he was a retired U.S. Army guy, on the older side. They seemed to have a good relationship; he called her his "Minister of Finance" and accepted that her role was to control the money, while he was evidently receiving a nice 20-year military pension and was in town to do a degree in Japanese art history. Very nice people and they seemed to get along, perhaps because he was older, so he was mellow and loved his wife and was happy to let her run the family and raise their son as she saw fit. Yeah it's difficult and people should be very careful getting married in Asia because expectations are different from in the West. Even in the West, with equal relationships and shared household duties and shared financial duties, people fall out of love and split up all the time. I don't know which system is better, honestly.

[@FunkyBukkyo]

Cross cultural marriage is hard, even if it's same country but different cultures/backgrounds. A lot of compromises and understanding need to be done, even when both has embraced a modern western way of living. Well, that could be said for any marriages, but it is especially harder for couples from different backgrounds. Those who can overcome their differences and reach some kind of compromise would really help the marriage. It sounds obvious, but it's damn hard. It could takes years, and they will need to be able to last until they reach that point

[@jameshanlon5689]

To ask who’s worse Japanese men or women, as far as marriage is concerned? It is like asking who’s worse at burning Tokyo to the ground, Godzilla or Gamera? You decide

[@mabuse786]

Unfortunately, everything you say in this video is true. I also stepped into this trap, however, some things like the money grabbing doesn't apply in my case. The rest is like you said in the video. Thank you very much Meshida for telling the truth and warn everybody. In the west, we are idolizing Japanese women too much. 👍👍👍 However, my Japanese wife and me are living in Germany since 2000 and are married since 25 years in 2023. November 8th if this is of some significance to anyone. We had our up and downs and some cultural misunderstandings. Well, that is the way... BUT, we still have a common understanding and two adult daughters. My wife is 'Todai', she has a degree from Tokyo University. Which means not very much to me. I am a graduate from TU-Berlin and held talks all over the world on conferences AND I still love her, even what Meshida pointed out in the video applied to us. No S... after our children were born, a big change after we had our first child and then the second. BUT easy, it was upsetting me and was, all in one, a misunderstanding of cultural differences and I still love my wife. Can also happen to you in another cultural environment, even your own. Exchange with the other sex, can be challenging, is my experience. Mostly lead by misunderstanding. However, we are still together and we still love each other. But I see this as a mutual respect, between two humans and not as a difference between - so called - Western and Asian culture. Respect between woman and man is all there is, or human beings in general. Just my two cents after nearly 60 years of - also - intercultural experience in this world. This doesn't change anything in what Meshida said in his video about Japanese culture. I can only agree, but this doesn't mean that this could not be changed!

[@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438]

So u want a free slave, cook, nanny, asistant, maid? 🐷

[@Pericalypsis]

Meshida-san, please do not worry about crazy Western feminists. When they visit Japan, Ken-san and his small banana will show them who is the boss!

[@creedmaxmaster]

As he should

[@blue_asahi]

The "housewives taking all money from husbands and giving them monthly allowance in return system" is not prelvant in Japan alone. It is also there in Korea, China and some other Asian countries.

[@Umeshukitsune]

Vietnam too. Western people don't realise Asian women often have more financial control than Western woman. It's harder to financially abuse an asian woman. I've known asian women who are bad with money but if the husband doesn't let her handle it then it's pretty much asking for a divorce.

[@Anime_Animation_Illustration]

Our india too😢😢😢

[@_Mayyou_]

That's what happening to you when you give yourself the role of providers 💀

[@AlvesHeim]

​​@@_Mayyou_That role of the providers males have since prehistoric times, btw Such situation with men providing to their families and wifes being actual bosses of the families also exists in Eastern Europe, in Latin America, well, I believe basically everywhere in the world.

[@MaryTownsendRyokansDomain]

This was quite interesting thank you and oh I like it when you made the joke about the wife being a Yakuza Boss, that was funny😂

[@JasonSmithIT]

I work from home, unfortunately, I can't escape to go drinking after work! lol

[@Dream_more_age_less]

It's true, you do make fun of women and men equally..I'm a woman and I really enjoy your humor 😂

[@ginchangallant4990]

Genuine and honest vlogger from japan❤️

[@ags1370]

Thanks!

[@bloodynessie1]

This is pretty funny, but very informative too. 😅

[@vivoslibertos]

When Japanese worst wife and husband collide, A masterpiece Japanese comedy is born XD

[@manmeetsingh1712]

Its a Tragedy not a Comedy.

[@vivoslibertos]

@@manmeetsingh1712 Science of endorphins said human crying is the same with human laughing.

[@Angry_Canadien]

Meshida is doing 神さま's work!

[@Drevenhaven]

Seriously, that is why you do not stay in Japan after marriage. Meshida is funny as always!

[@lb1789]

28 years in Japan, married 12 years. "May you have a Japanese wife" is a cruel curse. You don't need enemies when you have a Japanese wife

[@paul6925]

“House Yakuza” 😂

[@foughtthelol]

I guess the naked apron welcome and the dilemma of food,bath or her, is a lie.

[@rinzo2009]

Welcome to reality, Comrade.

[@deleteme924]

It's true until you have children

[@alecfoor2665]

Had me laughing all the way till the end! Thanks bro

[@ВэньханьВэнь]

I heard a saying: "Wife is for duty, but mistress is for fun." So there you go.

[@AlvesHeim]

Good phrase. The secret here is to either keep a mistress within your wife even after the marriage, or to find mutual compromisses, refresh your relations and turn your waifu back into your mistress again (same about husbands too).

[@Mecks089]

But Gaijin men have a special weapon against Japanese women though. It's called a Hug. And if the Gaijin is 180cm or taller, and they can cook & clean, it's actually the women that turn back into a kid lol. Then Gaijin's have an excuse to call them a Brat/Gaki to make other Japanese women feel jealous that they can't retain their youth lol.

[@alecfoor2665]

OMG this is sooo true! I enjoy keeping the house organized and clean, which upsets her because there’s only the kids to focus on. However, she loves to tell her friends that her main focus is just the kids. When asked, “ isn’t it a pain to do all the chores too?” Her response is, “Nash, he’s really good at maintaining the house!” So many “Whaaaaa! Omg 😱!”

[@tempestsonata1102]

My husband is 175 cm, I'm 155 cm. We share our jobs (we run a small family business) and our chores. We also speak each other's languages. My husband is Japanese and I'm a long-nosed Gaijin. But I still think that guys don't really grow up until they start getting old.

[@queen.in.the.country]

Lack of true communication is probably the root of most Japanese marital problems. And it's not because of the language barrier if a foreign spouse is half of the marriage. If both husbands and wives would focus on satisfying the needs of their partner, there would be far fewer sexless marriages.

[@johndale1300]

Yeah most young Japanese women lately prefer black men not white men so you are a bit out of date

[@deleteme924]

@@johndale1300 1. How is this relevant to the video? 2. They're ok with white men in my experience 😂

[@willumpjuh]

Thanks! Had a good laugh with this one .. :)

[@Meshida]

Willem san Arigatooo!!!

[@somerandomfella]

Meshida san, I watched a recent video on 60 Minutes regarding children being kidnapped and seperated from their partners. Although quite serious, please give us your insight and cover this issue 🙏

[@eloquent2200]

Thank you, Meshida-san)

[@consuelobettinelli9746]

One of my brothers married a Japanese from Maizuru. When they came to visit us in Italy she was constanty naggig him even in public. Initially, when they were just boyfriend and girlfriend, she looked so sweet, elegant and demure. However, after their wedding, she changed completely: she doesn't want him at home, takes his entierly salary leaving only little for him. Refuses to have children while my brother was very keen on kids. She buys most of the food from kombini.We are astonished. I am also married to an Englishman and he would never tolerate such a behaviour from me. In order to understand such a methamorphosis my brother and I started to learn Japanese literature and we came across novels written by Tanizaki Junichirou, particularly "chijin no ai". it was enlighening.

[@VenomFT2000]

What are some memorable points you recall from Chiijin no ai?

[@consuelobettinelli9746]

@@VenomFT2000 The trasfomation of this pretty fourteen in a faithless woman and her husband's submission to what he called her whims. The masochistic streak that makes him accept everything. In Tanizaki this is often found as in Fūten Rōjin Nikki 瘋癲老人日記

[@consuelobettinelli9746]

As often happens, Japanese novels are candid and cruel at the same time

[@TheShimming]

The situation you depicted is similar to the situation in Post WWII USSR. The main difference, however, that Japan looks like a future dream country and USSR outside 5-7 large cities looked like a gray piece of sheet.

[@tkyap2524]

Marriage is never a bed of roses. Nothing to do with gender. It takes two to tango. No compromise, and mutual respect for private space, the relationship will not last.

[@garryferrington811]

Sounds tough! Better salaries would help, though.

[@iaam8141]

You make a lot of sense.

[@SeraYagami]

Ignore these pseudo-feminists, they're incapable of researching and are just masked online bullies. Even women and good feminists are tired of them. So sorry you had to deal with them, my apologies from their side. Please keep up the amazing content! 💖

[@trishayable]

I hope to be a Japanese housewife in my next life.

[@rinzo2009]

Meshida-San, how could you!? How could you agree to be spanked by Ken-San's Queen? The guy in 2:02 receiving the spanking should have been Ken-San, not you. OH THE TREACHERY! 😂🤣😂🤣 Oh by the way, you were spot-on when you said that Japanese men helping with housework are like American politicians helping with the Middle-East.

[@Ice_2228]

ありがとうございます！面白かったです～

[@explorermike19]

this is done with comedic style, but there is a lot of truth to it.

[@es7228]

Thanks!! Where were you 5years ago!!!

[@nijinokanata111]

Excellent information sensei

[@mikehunt2162]

I'm all for it!

[@onisuryaman408]

I see Anya, I click like

[@Insightful_Inquiries]

From Charmander to Charizard, lmao 🤣

[@IakiKhongsngi]

I've seen it in doreamon that nobita's mother is strict but in Kiteretsu Kiteretsu 's mother don't show madness to her husband and kind to her son

[@ozzyay9720]

Going from having the best sex ever to no sex ever with Japanese women.

[@qcgarcia]

should we be expecting japanese passport bros? 😄

[@balerikirmu.11]

They already are going to south east Asia

[@AmbuBadger]

Not if they're smart. I see plenty of Americans thinking they'll find a submissive wife here, only to have the rug yanked out from under them. They then think they'll learn red pill stuff and take control back of the relationship, only to be threatened by the wife leaving with the kids and going back to Japan! The only guys I've seen get it worse are the ones that marry Chinese women 😂

[@alexjackson429]

Nope!

[@FunkyBukkyo]

Meshida is an equal opportunity sexist, he targets both women and men equally 😅

[@bidossessi]

_like American politicians in the Middle East_ !! アー！これ、まさに事実だ！I laughed so hard I cried!!!

[@FerdaGuler]

Meshida as feminists, me and my friends love and appreciate your work. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with a dash of sarcasm, lol you always make me laugh while teaching the Japanese perspective at the same time. We love you ❤ 💪🙏

[@Prithwik__25]

I really love your videos 😉

[@mohommadshahjad3039]

Keep going

[@scene2much]

House Yakuza ? How do Japanese Husbands still have so many fingers ?

[@mohommadshahjad3039]

Keep it up

[@mohommadshahjad3039]

Best video

[@cameronhill8023]

hahaha house wife power ranking .. that's awesome

[@abomala1607]

True story i can testify

[@7EvanPAC789]

Actually even though monogamy is wise for a King and very beautiful, many cultures especially Israel allowed women to be married and faithful to 1 Man, the children were also given great work outs and had to excel at work to become successful with family support lol if the family chose to be lawful honorably Holy good that is. The problem is pride and a wrong perception that is manufactured by corrupt people with wealth or arguably stolen wealth in a system people choose to play within by faithfully trusting their process. The Wise scenario would be for 1 Man to have 2-3 wives that can share their creative expression building a family while having less chores etc. because the work would be divided. That would also allow women to be happier/fulfilled while having more time for family events and career opportunities. Also they need to allow young people 12+ types of jobs with mentorships or farming opportunities.

[@johnnytate69]

1) Marriage is IPO for women 2) Divorce is cashing out. 3) Children produces passive income for women enforced by the government

[@mayshusakuhanamurasufferli5438]

So u want a free slave, cook, nanny, asistant, maid? 🐷

[@ВэньханьВэнь]

I wish more young men know this. They didn't see it coming, the bloodbath.

[@keitochan001]

My British boyfriend who lives in Japan acts too much like a Japanese man cuz he’s lives there for 20 years and it scares me.

[@luther1546]

Is gay marriage legal in Japan? asking for Ken Suzuki.

[@rinzo2009]

Ken-San prefers actual Queens, not those of the Dragging category.

[@lorddarthvader6289]

I don't think so. For all the yaoi and yuri shit there exists you'd think it'd be legal, but no it isn't

[@ChickensAndGardening]

They're busy enacting a new law right now to recognize same sex marriage, or at least give them some rights.

[@breakman9738]

In osaka gay marriage is legal but just legal marriage

[@mohommadshahjad3039]

Nice work

[@DK-210]

Papa Katsu / Sugar Dating is the perfect relationship style for Japan.

[@Explorshon123]

House yakuza? !! 😨😱 How did you know that? Do you have a secret camera in my house? 🤣😂

[@kokomacias8632]

😂😂 It's very funny

[@amitpothare]

Actually in my opinion..Japan should again go into 200 yrs of Isolation...like in 17 th Century...also take South Korea with you also😂😂😂 No offence...but both these countries belong to different dimensions

[@koalatysleep]

As a Korean I concur. As funny as this video is so much of it hits close to home here as well. Just a matter of time before we both become an endangered species 😂😂

[@AlvesHeim]

I travelled a lot all over the world, and I would say that THIS PROBLEM (that was masterfully described in the video) is actually not only Japanese but an INTERNATIONAL problem..............

[@silverchairsg]

What happens if the wife is an asshole and spends all the money without saving for retirement, but the husband doesn't know and this happens for decades? Won't the husband be screwed?

[@mohommadshahjad3039]

Nice video

[@emmag8449]

ちなみになんですが日本の男性って働く女性がパートナーとして(妻として)欲しい人っているんでしょうか？というのも結婚しても働き続けたいと元恋人に言った時、劣等感を感じるから専業主婦になって欲しいって遠回しに言われた過去があります。ちなみに彼は私の給料より低い人で、私は正社員、彼は非正規でした。😂

[@NurseGi]

Dude your hilarious! 🤣 Fix to this: Get a vasectomy & never get married. 🤓

[@jonathanhall7815]

I appreciate your dry humour, on what is pretty sad topic. I don't know which is worse, to become an overgrown baby or a money grabbing dictator? Whatever, it looks like romance and marriage are two entirely different things. Maybe romance is the glue that brings two people together which leads to marriage. I think often that glue becomes hard and begins to crack.

[@Tinatina-m7h]

Basically don’t agree international marriages 、two people from different cultures and languages get married are a high risk、just based on a temporary attraction. If both of them had been living a same country but from different countries then that is understood. International marriage has an image of to gain the visa or the woman’s side are not an ordinary person (bar girl)

[@richardk111]

Just don’t get married. We need to delete ourselves as a species.

[@babiryeangellah5008]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂lmao ur so hilarious true comedy 😂😂😂

[@chasinthroughthedecade]

Seriously, with so much expectations in marriage not just in Japan but all over the world, is there any surprise as to why many people refuse to marry nowadays? 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪

[@Bloodlyshiva]

There's also 'not being able to afford it'. Bad salaries and all. Also too tired to do more than get back home and go to bed.

[@johndale1300]

how about thr return of arrange marrage

[@theGENIUSofART-understood]

the other 2/3 don't even look at each other

[@xyborgcubinots]

Funny but true! Some of these as I observed even in my work, colleagues of middle ages extend long hours of work. Maybe they have 'actual boss'. 😂

[@rf8480]

I can understand know.Michio Kaku fembots are going into mass production in the Japan. Everyone wants to hear: Welcome Home Master rather than: Grrr Your Salary is not enough😂😂😂😂

[@TheShimming]

As a Western person I have to admit that many of us think that Western values are absolute and try to impose them on Middle Estern, African Asian etc. people.

[@Trapster99]

I guess I will just have to keep a Japanese girlfriend. Got to treat her right to, as they are all part of the Secret Yakuza.

[@upthedown1]

Guess Japanese men think women are born knowing how to take care of kids, cook and clean. But that is not so. If a woman can learn how to do these things so can men.

[@ayanokoji888]

Lol😂 that's true

[@beezy_b]

I’m black and live in Texas….that’s it that’s my post 😢

[@mohommadshahjad3039]

Nice

[@visualnovelplaythrough132]

if i manage to marry a japanese lady, ill treat her a queen mostly...

[@ilvpowerrangers]

Well you've seen my comments for the wives one. But honestly man I don't care one way or the other. But the way my girls is we're on the same page when it comes to things. But I guess this is coming from before being married. Maybe things will change but after but I'm putting my trust in God to get me the best life.

[@jasonreviews]

it america they mostly marry chinese women.... or vietnamnese or filipino. I'll be lucky to even meet a japanese person.

[@SabrinaBelladonna]

In Japan: A real family=Down the misery 😅

[@twinningintokyo5487]

So glad you mentioned Japanese husband's 😅Vs. Japanese boyfriend being a demanding king and second bigger kid 😂No lies detected! Luckily I enjoy cooking, cleaning and making the Ofuro otherwise 😂😅😅

[@Insightful_Inquiries]

A traditional Japanese an Catholic wife would just be perfect for me.. I think Japanese women are some of the most beautiful on earth!

[@queen.in.the.country]

Guess you love living in Fantasy Land.

[@dDoodle788]

She'll be either Japanese or catholic, the two things don't go together

[@Insightful_Inquiries]

@@queen.in.the.country Yes I can dream, and I’m not an idiot I know it’s a rare thing. Also there are Japanese Catholic women they do exist. There are even Japanese Nuns. It’s hard enough finding a Christian woman let alone Catholic who is prepared to date an remain Celibate until marriage. So for me adding Japanese into the equation doesn’t change much. I would be happy with any Catholic God fearing woman. (attraction still has to be there) “Pray the Rosary every day, in order to obtain Peace in the world…” -Our Lady’s Words at Fatima May 13th, 1917 --As always, Repent & believe in the Gospel! God Bless!

[@Mick_Aub]

I hope you can meet a special lady like that someday. I hope you make sure she has inner beauty as well as outer beauty. 😊

[@Insightful_Inquiries]

@@Mick_Aub Inner beauty was always implied because any God fearing woman has inner beauty! Outwardly I never meant she had drop dead Gorgeous but just somewhat my type if that makes sense. Thank you btw! “Pray the Rosary every day, in order to obtain Peace in the world…” -Our Lady’s Words at Fatima May 13th, 1917 --As always, Repent & believe in the Gospel! God Bless!

[@hangeishot7919]

Japanese Comedian Meshida. Well... not every marriage system is perfect.

[@upthedown1]

I cannot imagine being in a sexless marriage that's insane!!!

[@SuperHyperNoob]

dont worry you still have plenty with younger W____

[@ogremgtow990]

Thanks for the Warning about Japanese women . Reminds me of my Ex Wife. lol

[@kitsura]

Meshida-san, is this video talking about the reason why you are still single?

[@AMNOPTY]

Please tell me what percentage of Japanese society is undisturbed and healthy in terms of mental health. What percentage of young women are traditional and willing to perform their female duties? What percentage of the population knows English? Additionally, I have seen a lot of videos about sexual deviations in Japan and the promiscuity of the society there, which is also influenced by Japanese culture. The problem of promiscuity is also in Poland, anyway. Additionally, what percentage of Japanese society treats male-female relationships at a normal level, in accordance with the standards of high morality? What percentage of male-female relationships are such that Godzilla does not appear, but is a cute female panda? Of course, any viewer who has been and has experience with Japan can also answer.

[@Meshida]

🤔🤔🤔

[@CrazyHermitVizard]

One thing I don’t get why is then birthrate so low if the woman are home

[@olive4naito]

Because the marriage rate is low. But also the cost of raising children is high.

[@CrazyHermitVizard]

@@olive4naito makes sense

[@tempestsonata1102]

Homes are tiny and expensive, schools don't teach properly so kids must go to expensive cram schools, colleges are expensive, salaries are low, hubby is too tired to have s...x when he gets home from his black company workplace etc.

[@peacelove654]

Got married 😂😂😂🤪🤪🤪

[@ac98521]

when I see someone ignore toxic feminists, I admire them