Why a Male Fantasy is a Beautiful Thing

[@theprousteffect9717]

People often need to be reminded of this. Fantasies are fantasies, a snapshot of one's subconscious, not indicative of how we view people in real life. Just because you enjoy a woman catering to your every need in a sexual context, doesn't mean that you don't view women as complete three dimensional beings with intelligence and autonomy.

[@darrylsenior2055]

The term “one dementional” is means nothing. That’s why we don’t use it, we have to start with “two dementional”, etc. A fantasy is an imaginary compensation to fill a hole or a need created by a damned feminist! -Mr. 81yrs old.

[@johnparadise3134]

8:48 “bye!” I think it was another great video. And I loved that abrupt ending.

[@calinaelenei3156]

"Let me know! Bye!" The most direct and unapologetic end of a video ever!

[@Rand0mN0rwegianGuy]

The sudden, abrupt outros in every video of yours are honestly hilarious hahahh, not sure if its intentional or not. But I find it kind of endearing lol, and really funny

[@mynonleatherlife]

Lol thank u, I feel dumb saying them

[@davidakshay2024]

As a Man Speaking to any Woman Listening, There IS NOTHING wrong About A Man Having Fantasies!! Why? Because Women Have them Too and Yet that is Accepted in Society, and As I mentioned about the Modern Vanilla World of Modern Women and How Apathetic to a Man's Needs and Desires AND Fantasies, Strippers and Sex Workers Make Men Feel Like Gods as U say Victoria!! And they Make Us Feel Human. Make Us Feel Alive. Allow us to Freely Express Our Sexuality and Sexual Freedom Where in the Vanilla World it is so difficult!!

[@radamradam5013]

Very interesting video, thank you for sharing your thoughts !

[@Raymond-rr5iv]

There's a lot of room for fantasies because our hearts, minds and souls are vast and perhaps limitless. Life is full of delicious nooks and crannies !!♡!!

[@zoeliu48]

That is actually really insightful. Thank u for the video

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you, I am very glad you watched and enjoyed and understood what I am talking about!!

[@chikkai2432]

yes you're right , i think that fantasy's have deep beautiful meaning

[@mynonleatherlife]

same...i just haven't figured out what all mine mean..do you have any theories on yours?

[@anupamjoshi7231]

I don't know I want a girl like her if I want to marry or want a girlfriend I want a girlfriend like her Firstly Victoria really makes guys confident in their own skin Secondly she is so honest about her desire and her thoughts She actually makes guys to Be like they are as a man no need to be nice guy She is a jewel , diamond , or the precious person her boyfriend is really got a diamond in his life he accept it or not

[@mynonleatherlife]

Aw thanks Anupam, I hope u find someone who accepts and appreciates u

[@factsovertheyfeelings5303]

Beautiful energy

[@jurgenchristiansen6075]

It helps. Thank you and keep it up. 👍

[@meenki347]

Eureka! You've stumbled on something truly insightful and healing. Thanks, really self affirming for me and potentially all genders. Modernist psychology is completely blind to this. You are a postmodernist. Everything is real to someone. Or everything is objective!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Wow very interesting!

[@meenki347]

@@mynonleatherlife So, happy to hear from you dear. Everything is objective. But some things are more objective than others. Some deconstruction: Why is The Mother of God, Mary in Michelangelo's Pietà wearing a hijab? Of course, because all Christian women wore head coverings or bonnets until the end of the19th Century! So, why is Leonardo's Mona Lisa's so unusual? She's not wearing an opaque head covering! However, Modernists have no idea, because they view everything utilizing modern standards. Certainly, contemporary women would have just giggled and kept their mouths shut. Or when asked by clueless men, "Why is it so funny?" They would just say, "It's her smile....". Context: The Protestant Reformation had just gotten started and people were being burned at the stake by all sides. No point in ladies outing their favorite punk rock star painter! Before the 19th Century, only Ancient Greek Goddesses were painted without a head covering. Absolutely love you Victoria!!!

[@hs7382]

*Love your videos.*

[@Liftedwheelchair]

Been to a strip club twice. First time I was 18 and my friends and I went as a going away to college thing. The second time I ended up there after thinking my buddies and I were going to the bars. Second time going I felt out of place, weird, and almost disgusted with myself. It may be a male desire, but the idea that I am paying for these services doesn’t sit right with me. It also didn’t help that my buddies and I were the youngest ones there (besides the dancers), all the other men were older and gave me creepy vibes.

[@mynonleatherlife]

It is understandable that you felt that way about it because there are very common sex negative attitudes in society in addition to insecurities that make men feel negatively in a strip club. how you think about a situation affects how you feel about it, like if you think it is wrong to pay for an erotic experience, men who go to strip clubs are creepy, or that going to a strip club means you must not be able to get women yourself, or that the women in there are abused and it is wrong to objectify them, or any number of common distorted beliefs about strip clubs, you won't have any fun

[@gregmatthew5704]

I Love your videos, you are the real deal!

[@mynonleatherlife]

thanks greg!!

[@dougackerman4182]

Really enjoyed this video

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thanks Doug

[@bingbong2257]

6:35 there actually are versions of this in Asia, they're called "host clubs" basically it's a bunch of very confident good looking dudes who give the women tons of attention, tell them how beautiful they are and treat them all around like a princess. It's less overtly sexual than a strip club but it's pretty much the same thing but from a women's perspective lol often the women fall in love with the guys and end up spending 10's of thousands of dollars on them. Ironically the main customer base are strippers and customer service people. Kind of fascinating

[@fromgermany271]

Maybe I’m just to old (school), but I always lived it like Andre Heller (Austrian artist) onc said: „the real adventures(/fantasies) are in your head and only in your head. I know the US is trying to commercialize everything, but that’s not my world.

[@pretheeshgpresannan4172]

what if we could fantasize something and feel it in our body as if real and have a deep intimate satisfying experience--is it not okay if that helps. Alan Watts talks about a tantric sex where partners simply sit together and let the sexual tension do its things spontaneously gracefully--even imagining it helps spontaneous healing movements. Bioenergetic therapist Alexander Lowen says people are stuck in genital area and suck at expanding the pleasure to their whole-body which I think is cause of anxiety or nervousness or faking-friendship (and even premature ejaculation) for male when seeing beautiful women for they might be conditioned to suppress full enjoyment of pleasure in their bodies. Even William Blake utilized imagination related to sexual pleasure to clear his energy blockages as he pleased while being married to a woman.

[@kingkong905]

I completely agree with you. I talked about this the other day. As a man, I feel discriminated against because it feels like men can't have fantasies. I used alot of porn and recently, I'm trying to use live sex cam shows to fulfil my sexual fantasies. Men tell me "why don't you just try the real thing?" which is absurd lol. Just trying the real thing is boring and often doesn't match with your fantasies.

[@mynonleatherlife]

Yea I get it. Our fantasies are very very deep and important. We need a partner who is compatible with the fantasies and embraces them. It is important to explore them imo as long as they do not hurt others and are consensually explored.

[@worm_and_no_man]

Avoid sinful fantasies. Repent

[@kingkong905]

@@worm_and_no_man 😂

[@tefilobraga]

What I have "against" Playboy bunnies is not that they are male fantasies. It is that they have become (especially in the most recent 30 years or so) totally kitsch and sanitized fantasies, which says much about the taste and sophistication of most men... But then this is highly subjective. I prefer my fantasies dirty, imperfect and unique.

[@ENGRAINING]

what would woman fantasize about and how does female fantasy differ from male?

[@mynonleatherlife]

I think it is extremely individual. However you can google an article like top 10 female fantasies and get some of the most common ones, or there is a famous book I've always wanted to read about female fantasies called My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday all about female fantasies. You can also join the website fetlife and check out some of their groups about all the different fetishes there are and also you should just ask some women in your life if you feel comfortable or close enough with any of them to ask. They are very revealing and personal so they might not feel comfortable laying their deepest shames and insecurities bare....but they might also be relieved to tell someone idk. But there is a huge range of things they could fantasize about depending on their individual psychology tho probably some patterns due to gender roles in society or maybe something evolutionary and instinctive.

[@ttomgast1769]

Thanks Victoria, your presence alone has added to my male sexual fantasies. Kudos to your boyfriend for the genius to recognize genius and his great taste in a woman.

[@cedricburkhart3738]

I think that's very interesting. I think fantasy can be dangerous. It's intriguing to me that you enjoyed bring a striper. When you said you wished there was an equivalent for women to cater to their fantasys I thought of Elvis Presley and how crazy women were about him. I think being a human is such a strange experience. Having a long memory makes it strange as well. I remember being so smart that women weren't attractive to me in any way except as caretakers. I also think it's worth noting that bunnys just feel like there really missing something. I don't want a dumb girl. I don't want girls to act stupid. When a woman starts talking about something to do with biology and psychology excitedlyI find myself feeling excited it changes how I see her.

[@Jazzthink]

Insane genius

[@mynonleatherlife]

Thank you!!

[@Jazzthink]

@@mynonleatherlife i am an idiot tho so take that into account

[@guillaumefaure5533]

@@Jazzthink Hey bro don't beat yourself down, stay confident and proud

[@trevorwest3457]

So this is where your current videos come from? ... introspective women are so rare.

[@tarektumia3287]

I am partially disagree Victoria , human nature is a good thing and I think that fancy is a part of it or let me say a. Reflect on our nature , but the danger comes when the materialism comes which is founded by a huge entertainment firms that they want to gain a money out of it by use it in a wrong way , with all my respect for people choices in life .cause every one is responsible for his or her choices in life . On the other hand , we are in life for a reason , we didn’t come out of no where without purpose but then that’s another subject I don’t want to get into it now . All My respect .

[@simondan3828]

For me, there's always a duality here: During intercourse it's allowed to objectify your partner and do really "outrageous" things (consent needed...). Afterwards it's expected to go back into being a couple, be kind to each other and be all romantic again. In other words, I always wanted to explain that to my partners: "I will f**k you like a s**t, eat you up, whatever- and afterwards I will make you breakfast and tell you you're the prettiest girl ever- so much that I can't believe you're real and I worship you"

[@michaelmohrle1773]

I like the shy type of girl, submissive, do not like strip clubs at all.

[@mynonleatherlife]

so what tho

[@michaelmohrle1773]

@@mynonleatherlife IDK, just saying. Maybe a diffetent type of club can be created. Strippers are like holding lobster and filet mignon in my face and then taking it back before I can take a bite and saying no you can't have this !!

[@hurstdevin]

There’s a comment you made about objectification of women. As you pointed out it was a role you stepped into. Time lines need to be taken into consideration. For that “moment” that is what’s going on! That doesn’t mean it’s forever or a value judgement.... it’s what it is for that magical moment!! Not forever! So it’s also a way for a bratty critique! (covered in another of your videos) putting down male fantasy. Maybe the person leveling the critique wants... maybe needs to be turned over the knee and given a proper spanking or cropping. For the moment it can be bliss. Don’t mean you exercise it to ALL women. We’re brighter than that!

[@cedricburkhart3738]

If you like fantasys I daydream about......

[@cedricburkhart3738]

He was strong tall and his eyes had an inner light. He was more than human. Neither age nor weariness could slow his gate. Not fair of in the house made of stone a baby was crying. It was his child. The baby had the same blazing eyes is his father. The great one smile to himself he remembered the day he had chosen his wife how he had spoken with her father. The great one smiled and laughed. The fear aw and in shock in the family members faces was sweat.The family was deeply flattered that one of them had been chosen to be his. There she was standing beside him the baby in her arms. She looked up at him adoringly Those blue eyes with their soft face framed by golden hair. He brushed he hair aside and poled her to him. The kissed the little one between them. He was deeply happy but a small ting of sadness pand his heart. My wife and all her beauty and vibrancy will fade. He looked into her eyes. He smiled and thought yes but not yet.

[@RashaudMonroe]

Exactly , and you see how many men in there??? That shows that so many of them are empty inside cause women are too insecure to do that stuff in real life

[@mynonleatherlife]

do which stuff in real life?

[@kingslate1]

What’s a female’s fantasy

[@mynonleatherlife]

Why don’t u ask a girl ur close with what hers is, u could also read some romance novels as they contain hundreds of different common sexual fantasy scenarios

[@jkd9637]

I call bullshit on people who want to correct a woman's behavior. Stripping or any thing considered a sex worker is a job, a good paying job. There are a lot of men in these fields, also. I doubt they get shamed into some BEHAVIORAL change. Mostly because they don't care they are making money and its nobody's business to them. I personally enjoy Burlesque more than strip clubs. I have my personal taste in women's body types that burlesque performers usually have, plus they tend to be of a matured age. I knew a young lady that was a stripping dancer in a large city a couple hours away. She had the goods for the job and the mentality. Everybody doesn't have the mentality and physical ability to be a Marine. Does that mean being employed as a highly trained killing machine wrong as a profession? Think about it.

[@mynonleatherlife]

fantastic points!!! Sorry I missed this. I love your point about the marine. That's brilliant.

[@nstopology]

Can you do a video on interracial relationships

[@mynonleatherlife]

I've never been in one unfortunately otherwise I would

[@ManettiAngelo]

visited a strip club once - did not enjoy it. Have a girl around me who plays on these exact fantasy - I do not enjoy her company at all. It all seems ingenuine to me and I just cannot see it as a real thing, cannot lose myself in these situations. Maybe something wrong with me.

[@mynonleatherlife]

u may not be kinky but that doesn't mean it's not genuine for her.

[@ManettiAngelo]

@@mynonleatherlife Oh, I am kinky, although vanilla. I am really not sure about her intentions, though. Yet. Will talk this out with her soon.

[@vve2059]

Pls review black pill

[@mynonleatherlife]

What would be a good video that captures the essence of it. I’ve seen a faceandlms vid I thought it was hilarious some good points but many I disagreed with

[@vve2059]

@@mynonleatherlife kzbin.info/www/bejne/nXyUqGSZdrCGbdE

[@mynonleatherlife]

I just watched it. A lot of the points I thought were very good. I definitely disagreed with a couple strongly like how he thinks if you are a “five or below” (all the guys he rated as 5-7s looked very good and almost identical to the higher up guys and even the 3 on his opening chart looked like he could have been a model) personality and confidence is meaningless. I would like to rewatch and address my opinion on all those points. I was impressed by how good many of them were, thank u for sharing such a clear and concise video!!

[@mynonleatherlife]

Do you agree with all the points or what are your thoughts on it

[@vve2059]

@@mynonleatherlife yes the video nails many points very bluntly your perspective would be nice.

[@danstylus1]

Anyone who felt smarter than you back then Victoria that really was a fantasy and they had no idea how deep a thinker you actually are lol

[@mynonleatherlife]

ur comment really stroked my ego on a deep level dan thank you so much!!! :))

[@georgee4810]

Love your emphasis on the value of sex fantasies and the deep place they come from. But I wouldn't agree that fantasies have to do with needs or yearnings that remain "unfulfilled" in a person's everyday life. Cause how would you explain submissive/masochistic fantasies lots of males have? Or even cuckold fantasies (being cheated on)? It doesn't seem to add up.

[@mynonleatherlife]

yea no one knows the true cause of fantasies yet. I wish they did. Many theories on it. Sometimes submissive/masochistic fantasies can come from shame and anxiety about not living up to one of your values and you're just stuck and deeply troubled by it...and need to explore it over and over again. I have some submissive and masochistic fantasies that developed after shame and violation from real life events...but was the seed already there or was it created in that moment. Idk. what do you think

[@worm_and_no_man]

Avoid sinful fantasies. Repent