Why A Man Commits To A Woman

[@lmklavert6648]

A man will only commit to a woman when he is mentally ready for it. You can be the best woman in the world. If the man ain't ready, all that you do won't change that 💁🏽‍♀️

[@feliciap.2297]

This is very true!!!💯💯

[@clarissajohnson7353]

Bars

[@TequilaTurner]

Period

[@NODE1975]

And sometimes you're just the place holder. He commits to the next woman. It is what it is

[@lorrainejohnson5461]

Preach!

[@roannawatkins5443]

Don't do wifely duties on a girlfriend budget it doesn't pay. 💯

[@tanitrarobinson7477]

You don't do wifely duties for a boyfriend, that doesn't aspire to become your husband..

[@milu1910]

I agree. I did that mistake and regret. Lost 10 years of my life

[@SisterGee1]

💯👏🏿 Say it loud!

[@SazonBae]

Facts!

[@susnasongbird1277]

🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@liztowers2058]

i did too much and he threw me in the friends with benefits category. NEVER AGAIN. live your life, dont make him YOUR FOCUS EVER, focus on yourself.

[@jasminelewis406]

So true same happened to me it's a lot of man that has trauma mommy daddy got device wen at a young age lead to believe that love hurts n comment only last but so far his heart is block off l

[@MeshunnaSiggers]

Right

[@godsgirl7201]

❤❤

[@angelagray736]

Very very true liz

[@abduljabbarmohammed4188]

To be honest with you, he was not attracted to you in the first place, no matter how hard you tried he would not have accepted you. Learn this fact from me and never allow any man play with your mind or body again if he doesn't desire you. Sister learn the ABCs of men from me. Listen sister, men are visual beings. Some men like full figured women, some men like petite women , some like hour glass figure, some like big boobed women, some like small boobed women, some like short women, some men like white women, some men like black women, some men like asian women. The afformentioned list is not an exhaustive list of men physical attributes in women but the most common ones . Sisters you don't have to change your body through surgery so as to attract the men you want. Do these instead, just do physical exercise so as to have a fit and healthy body. Sister every man has his taste, the men who desire you for marriage will come after you if you fall in their category but for men who you don't fall in their category will just smash and go coz so many men will smash anything in a skirt even if a lady is obese. Another advice my dear beloved sister, don't chase handsome men that don't want you. Instead agree to get married to average looking men that desire you, you will have marital bliss . Don't misquote me I have never said you are ugly by any means. Just like you ladies are attracted to tall slim men does not mean that all short men are undesirable to women. So many men will not tell you this facts because they are afraid of hurting your feelings, they will rather keep quiet and keep on smashing different women they come across. I'm a Muslim and I don't play with women's feelings because I respect them like I do to my sisters. I told you this facts because I care about you and wish you to get the right husband. Sister most of the time the men you want don't want you and in men the women they want don't want them. This is the reality of this world, most people are not married to their dream man or woman. Most people get married to the best they can get.

[@mphomolotlegi127]

Preach! Never be a wifey to a man who is reluctant to call you his girlfriend.

[@candykis33]

Speaking volumes.

[@4seasons546]

Better yet dont be wifey if your only a GF. Unless you to only want him as a BF.

[@poetrygirl5309]

Made that mistake way too many times. NEVER AGAIN.😢

[@traceybaytops8681]

Grandma use to say, Tracey a man only stays if he truly wants to. Cut glass is fake and he can get it anywhere, anytime, but a real diamond is rare and priceless and comes across once (maybe twice) in a lifetime!

[@AJ-kb9hf]

This is so right.

[@notyobestie4220]

“Once “ is accurate.

[@tcharp4nursing]

My namesake😊

[@JazzyV1000]

Your grandmother was a wise woman!!! Beautiful way to put this!! ❤

[@joanbennett4217]

I am a diamond in the rough

[@TM-se5jf]

Men commit to who they want. Whomever suits the life they envision for themselves. So ladies never take it personal! Some people prefer a burger instead of a good steak....its just about their taste

[@orjibaby]

Thanks for this. I refused to take things personal some times ago

[@shamikiabanks3946]

Snapple Apple Fact

[@TM-se5jf]

@@orjibaby awesome they aren't worth it and trust me it's not always about you.

[@georgisinsabaugh5751]

I love...some prefer burgers to steak😂

[@horschiday9449]

💯 correct

[@KourtKhronicles]

Ladies, focus on enjoying life. Women don’t chase man. Men chase women. All these dating coach is telling women how to be better women, but no one tells me how to be better more masculine men. Ladies, go and be free. You do not have to change anything about yourself. You are the prize. Men chase women. This is biblical.

[@supriyachauhan6814]

Exactly

[@Dr.Sharron]

Thank you for confirming. They make it seems like we need a course and just let things happen naturally. Men eho finds a wife finds a good thing. Women should not seek or throw herself at a man, especially someone else's husband.

[@iamdannita]

🙌🏼

[@ms.r.w.3404]

This comment should be pinned❤❤

[@paulaadeoye987]

Absolutely no is telling them how to be real men. Love your reply ❤

[@LMiller363]

A man will commit to you if he wants to commit...

[@TheRialGlamLife]

Nutshell!

[@billgates3279]

Exactly, it doesn’t matter if you nurture him, empower him or calculate.

[@rummanamoledina4973]

I would say if he needs to commit ... if he thinks he can get better he wont ...

[@smartkookie]

Period

[@MizzSweetTe]

That’s it!!!

[@JessSoReal]

A man doesn’t commit based on you: cooking for him, cleaning for him, giving him sex, watching his kids, and showing him your a down chick. Men don’t commit to what you can do for them instead it’s who you can be to them. Such as then calculating, are you a nurturer? Do you empower him? Do you make him want to become a better version of himself? This is really good.

[@ShevetteJackson]

Yess

[@itsRudeGal]

Hmm that makes sense.

[@BestLifeBagLady]

🙌🏾

[@tisheikarickard-whyte3548]

I understand now

[@-glitch-8195]

But, but, but, I thought men just wanted peace? So in other words, you could be doing everything right and dudes is looking for a spiritual counselor? It's obvious they're just looking for another excuse not to commit. You see here is my problem with this argument. We see men all the time asking for women to do something tangible, prove their worth and not act entitled. Only for them to turn around and talk about empowerment? 😂😂😂😂 I'm starting to think men want to be wives. The whole point of her doing all those things is so that she can be invested in the relationship physically, but come to find out men want some sort of spiritual uplifter 😂😂 All those things you listed has to actually come from him. You can't change a man, remember? They don't like that either.

[@kimberlyplatt2382]

Basically no matter what you do for some men it will never be enough for them to commit. Ladies do you and live your life.

[@MarsharenaLee01]

THAT part!

[@roxanamalkawi7264]

The best advice EVER ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@PapayanPepper]

We don't want them anymore, we're committed to joy and peace.

[@beebabe5606]

Thought I was the only one feeling this way🎉😂❤

[@Onepieceistheworstanime]

Cope

[@rottielove2012]

Amen

[@nofybn7794]

Exactly

[@BUHLEBUZILE]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Amen

[@MrsTruthTeller]

When I look at all of my serious relationships and my engagement versus my situationships with men who wouldn’t commit, there was one key difference between them all. The difference was that I was either the man’s type/dream woman or I was not. And there was absolutely nothing I could do to convince him otherwise. Meaning when they looked at me, they thought to themselves “this is exactly the kind of woman that I want.” Every man who has thought this about me was immediately ready to commit and they didn’t play any weird games. They were persistent as hell when we were dating too. Even if they didn’t think they were ready to commit, they became ready for me. If a man has another idea of the type of woman he wants, and it’s not you, you might as well bow out gracefully. When I knew that a man preferred a woman who looked different from me or acts differently than me, it was always hard to get them to see my value. I would try to sex them, cook for them, being extra helpful and it never mattered because I wasn’t his “it” girl. Long story short, I learned that hard way that a man is gotta be crazy about me and in a room full of women, I gotta be his first pick. If not, it won’t work.

[@ishish8816]

Thank you for taking the time to share this. Blessed me greatly!

[@Dalenaxx3]

Yep, exactly what I learned too.

[@brendalee1188]

" after the attraction... alignment with goals, values, morals, family etc... "

[@poetrygirl5309]

I have a friend who's crazy about me. If I were emotionally available for him he would have married me yesterday. Sadly I'm in love with a man with whom I had a situationship. Right now I'm in the process of trying to get over him which is very difficult to do. Even though he has baggage, I know that if he and I were on the same wavelength of love for each other, we would have gotten married by now. What an irony with regards to these two men eh? You love someone who doesn't love you like you want to be loved and then someone loves you that you don't love. Go figure🤷🏽‍♀️

[@MrsTruthTeller]

@ I learned how to stop doing this by telling myself that my dream man is not a man who doesn’t choose me. I’m at a point in my life where I just can’t even attempt to chase men who don’t want me. It feels wrong, like I’m doing myself a huge disservice. I dated a man who absolutely showed me, in more ways than one, that I was not the woman he wanted. I didn’t realize then but he made me feel so terrible about myself. Fast forward to now, I’m dating a man who very clearly likes me and wants me. He loves everything I say, do, how I look. He’s just enamored. And you know what? I feel so beautiful and so confident with him. There is no world where I could ever let a man make me feel “less than” again. You gotta raise your standards for yourself. And maybe your friend isn’t meant for you either. Maybe it’s just someone else. Because as cliche as it sounds…you will know and so will he.

[@CC-pu6qn]

Some men don’t want to be better, they want control. Some are fearful of a woman who requires more.

[@balisticone2654]

That's why you have to make them believe they're in control but your actually pulling the strings. They're like children they make noise, beg , plead, bargin, and cry for all your attention... for control.

[@CC-pu6qn]

@@balisticone2654 I’m not making a man believe they are in control. I’m not interested in raising a boy. If you have to do all that, he’s not worth it.

[@ambern.9887]

Yup , then next

[@rebeccarobinson2547]

Yes

[@cscs2003]

​@@balisticone2654thats is not a man it is a child....

[@enuphsayd9746]

When you do too much for a potential partner, there's a good chance that partner will start believing that it is a "trap" to commit. I say go with the flow and give equal energy instead and adjust as needed.

[@tisheikarickard-whyte3548]

I love this so much that I had to screenshot it. This is excellent! This is exactly what I will be doing

[@enuphsayd9746]

@@tisheikarickard-whyte3548 😁....it is true, majority of the time, especially for those who don't want to be put in that position prematurely and/or unprepared. It frightens them. Therefore move equally to the point he or she will be so comfortable that he or she will show and express the words you've been waiting for....then pounce on it 😂

[@enuphsayd9746]

@@Eastpointe I say it worked...you kept him for 3 yrs.

[@enuphsayd9746]

@m.entertainment yes ma'am/sir, BOTH committed. Unfortunately it last8 for that "X" amount of yrs, I'm sure both tried and fought for the relationship, but....🤷‍♀️ #haveagoodday

[@fl7107]

Equal energy! Also, be yourself don’t allow someone to dictate who you are if you like him go for it, if he does reciprocate move on. This is only done without sex.

[@jerzygrl8896]

First and foremost, don't give husband privileges to a boyfriend.

[@jovelhamilton601]

I dont agree with him on most. But this is so true. I dated a girl who was in the army. And everytime she wanted me to do something around the house she would be like ill give you some later, and i was like yo. Did you do this in all your relationships. I do this stuff for you cuz i want to and i think you deserve it.

[@Onepieceistheworstanime]

Don't give wife privilege to a gf

[@user-dv9xx3yy8v]

Bakit? Eh dun nga papunta yun, diba kaya nga looking for partner

[@violetinispaltas7274]

If you want a man to commit..start doing nothing.

[@patriciawilliams246]

This is soooo true. The more you do , the worse they treat you. You do nothing, they put you on a pedestal

[@Blessedbyvenus92]

When you do stuff to prove your value isnt the right way..they have to prove that they’re good for your standards. Which starts with mind set and self love willing to let go of everyone that doesn’t fit what your soul craves. Lol yes do nothing

[@deadbeats4417]

@@patriciawilliams246 yup

[@cherryblossom9482]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 They HAVE TO get the validation you're not showing them.

[@honeyasonja522]

🤭👏

[@thebeauprix34]

Preach Coach! This is so true, My man committed to me, after conversations and only a few dates. I hadn't done anything for him besides accept his dates, and gave a hug and a PG kiss. He said, "When you find a diamond in the road, you don't leave it there, for someone else to get". 🥰

[@thebeauprix34]

@m.entertainment Absolutely! Both parties definitely need to ask questions. While it's up to the man to initiate the commitment piece to the relationship, the woman has to feel comfortable with him and know that he aligns with who she even needs to be committed to.

[@chiamakaanozie3387]

Please what did he do to show he committed to you?

[@allbyhisgrace8925]

I met my husband and dated within 3-5 months we were talking about our lives together -didnt even need the unnecessary engagements ,told him the money for the engagement ring and big wedding we put towards our future together ,we planned our marriage ,withing 2 years we got married ,now built family businesses and means more than huge wedding and expensive engagement rings and stuff, we give God glory for the wisdom and guidance to do what really matters and counts and brings value to our family and yes I did pray about it even when all felt right before I said yes to the marriage and to date still pray everyday for God to be present ,guide us and replenish or wisdom in all decisions and thankful for the love, respect,honor, peace and growth in all areas.God must be central in your relationships don't forget that.

[@fabioladamis4194]

Good For u Girly. U kkow your worth and value and u stick to it.

[@MeshunnaSiggers]

I love it!

[@Empress_Energyyy]

Leave and ignore him. Go no contact immediately and he will run towards you. You need to do absolutely nothing. Ladies you are doing the most disappear take your power back n the do the absolutely least. If he doesn’t show up then you’re wasting your time.

[@sampsonlittle7368]

Guys are so transparent. The second you do one thing for him, he translates you into the category of disrespect. You don’t know you were just put there. And you don’t know that it’s now a ways away to get back over into respect. You’re talking a minefield into the man’s placement of you and which treatment he’s going to unleash on you, if you falter even a little. That’s why the commitment you’re waiting for from him, has to become the commitment you have to make with yourself.

[@SisterGee1]

Agreed and don't put sex in the equation, why buy the calf when the milk is free🤷🏿‍♀️

[@sophiachin1262]

So ghetto... Look here high value people don't think like you do. Low vibrationals and high vibrationals don't mix. It's all Light versus Darkness thang. Good people don't give you shitty ass problems they are comfort and will try to immediately resolve issues. Y'all can get the hell on with all that bad mind business. You people are trouble just not worth any kind of true goodness and prosperity. Your karma doesn't command the reaping of blessings in relationships of any kind. Just GET AWAY. That is it.

[@kimlarge4077]

Exactly 💯 it works. The man needs time to miss you and if he's yours he'll always find a way back, even if you are stubborn. Don't do anything. Literally. This will weed out the lazy men.

[@jayrobinson4591]

These little highschool power games do not work. This man just gave y’all some facts and you stiill ignore what he said and resort to foolish methods. I understand why you stubborn power hungry females are alone and unloved

[@yerushalom87]

if he don't want you he just don't want you. it's simple as that.

[@candykis33]

And, it is as simple as that.

[@tequeshaharris4794]

I brought my husband kids some books as gifts when I first met him.....learned he was still messing with the mama. I immediately broke it off with him, he started stalking me at me job, caught me on others dates and begging me to give him another chance. I dragged it for months, he caught me one day off guard and vowed to never try me like that again. I said why do you want me, he said because of how you treated my 2 daughters. We been married 23 years now.

[@kendramonroe5666]

Wow!!!!!

[@rottielove2012]

Don't want thzt kind of marriage

[@Scorpio12348]

Whatever you did, it worked!

[@ldaisysharvest8658]

Don’t let social media fool yaw. There is lots of worthy, Great black men out here. Just like there is worthy, Great black women. The problem usually is ourselves. Not because we are causing the problem but because we keep choosing the wrong people. When people start loving what is good for them and not exactly looks good, thats when we win usually. Do the work on yourself so you can choose better for yourself and not try to change people.

[@khrisi9410]

Lol

[@shayhall4344]

Amen!!!

[@feliciap.2297]

THIS!!!💯💯👌🏽🙏🏽

[@godsgirl7201]

It definitely it's I've met some recently and even though I don't have my stuff together that's why they didn't want to commit I wish them the best of luck❤

[@godsgirl7201]

Facts

[@jwg9338]

Took a leap of faith recently and started dating a girl whom I always considered "plain jane" and more of a friend. My good God, is it ever amazing to date an emotionally mature and stable woman! I can actually see a future with her!

[@darleneyarusinsky251]

A man is not going too commit too you until he is truly ready too ! You can be the best woman in the world but he is not going too commit too you if he is exploring options or hooking up it just proves he is not ready or serious about you ! Until he gets rid of third parties nothing is going too happen no matter how much you want it too !🧔😭

[@ednaa4382]

Wow

[@pammi2725]

I also was told this by a man, he said there were a few women that he would’ve married, but he just wasn’t ready. Then one woman came along at the right time, and boom just like that he married her. Sometimes it doesn’t take rocket science.

[@Lelough_]

Strangely cheating men still married somebody and still continued their cheating with the now wife knowing or not knowing at all. Even a man who disrespect you and not committed to you can marry you. Let's stop making marriage the goal, e healthy relationship should be the goal.

[@JeniSanMusic]

You don’t get a man to commit. A man commits via his own fruition. If your focus is on his commitment, you are focused on the wrong thing. Your focus should be on your own livelihood. If a man can add to that already beautiful life you’re living, then you may consider him to be a life partner, if all your needs are being met and he’s made you an offer. Without all the proper ingredients, you wouldn’t expect to bake a cake, now would you?

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Lord, when I was younger, I was focusing on the wrong things and we were not married yet. I was so ignorant about these things. Did all the things she did. Today, I know. I became teachable. I learned to love myself then the authentic me came forth. I inspire him, I am trustworthy to him, I support him, I know what I want, I am confident. I hold up my standards. No cheating, lying, abusing me. I am forgiving, and God has healed my heart from past relationships because I asked Him too and was willing to get therapy and do the work. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO. 🙌🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏽😊

[@HHH81]

This applies to friendship and business too. Have your mind made up who you are first.

[@Sky-om3rc]

If commitment means securing a position linked to dirty shorts, dishes, n sex... I'll jus order a hardshell taco.

[@porcelainbear3]

Never give those things to a man who hasn't committed to you. Don't let men string you along as if you're a couple when you're not. I made that mistake in the past... I was just being used. It had nothing to do with me. He just didn't truly love me and chose to use me. I've learned better and realized that commitment must come first. I'm now in a good relationship with someone who loves and values me. I do agree that it's important for a woman to treat her man well, but what's equally important is having the discernment to choose the right man. Not all men are good people just as not all women are good people.

[@Chambermenz]

Nah, he commits based on how much he's doing for you. He gotta feel like "I done put too much in this to walk away now!"😂

[@TASHAS_CROWN]

🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

[@SpiritualStar-p2r]

Yup

[@drearydancer]

They either like you or they don't. If you are trying and they obviously don't care, that is the wrong person for you.

[@betty568]

Be honest about what you want, say, “ I want to be in an exclusive relationship with you. Is that something you want as well?” Then let him answer. You’ll know from his answer. If he says, yes, be my girlfriend, then you two are now committed. If he says, let’s take it slow or anything that doesn’t sound like a definite yes, then move on. Learn to walk away!!!!

[@godsgirl7201]

And also what you do for yourself and also he commits based off his fear of losing you❤

[@frankydottir8762]

It comes down to - are you a convenience for him, or are you someone he has to put an effort to get by bettering himself - that is you inspiring him. Never give all the bonuses that only are for your husband, because if you do - you're convenience. There's no reason to commit.

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Many of us were taught wrong, because our caregivers were taught wrong.

[@user-xj1ok9xb3f]

In short, don't waste your energy. Just live your best life.

[@ceecee811]

ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!❤💯

[@O2BAmachine]

You have to be yourself in order to attract someone that is committed to YOU, genuinely. You may keep someone for awhile because they're comfy... But actual commitment usually requires working on yourself. True colorsssss.

[@KayEll3]

If he wasn’t willing to make changes to be the man needed to be deemed deserving of such a woman, there’s nothing one can do but leave him where he’s at.

[@tashahall1855]

Alot of men commit once theyre done running the streets or cant pull the same women they used to. Just try and find sum1 who wants a commitment. Its too much energy to convince sum1 you're the one.

[@pksensation]

If he does not want to commit to me but likes what I do for him is a trap and is crazy. Thank you for the insight.

[@donnajeffreys8252]

You do not give a man EVERYTHING when you are NOT married to him PERIOD.

[@DeborahBrempong]

Yes I’m 23 years old and my discipline and self respect is through the roof

[@michelerivers6818]

Men aren't worth all that. What is he bringing to the table? Nothing

[@mrstevens70]

You haven't met the right dude. Submit to God first so you can be the right woman a good man will/can commit to. You SUBMIT so a good man will COMMIT. Simple.😅

[@TASHAS_CROWN]

Dusty energy I had to learn the hard boy looking for a mommy figure

[@michelerivers6818]

@@mrstevens70 to be honest, men are weak

[@champagnes5898]

That’s the problem women are made to believe having a man is the end all be all when majority of these men aren’t worthy all four corners.

[@Britt3334]

@@TASHAS_CROWN that’s what I was thinking. I’m not raising someone else’s grown son, they weird

[@npkrn6764]

That assumes he WANTS to become a better man. Most don't.

[@24goodbuddy]

If he doesn't WANT to become a better man, then he ain't the man for you. He is stuck. Don't waste your time.

[@basimahknowshow]

Yup! Men are like this! My ex still calls me we speak n everytime he’s telling me how much he miss me abd loves me. He’s regretting letting me go and loosing me as I walked away from him he wasn’t ready for any relationship. He needs to be alone & work on his self. Get his own place etc. I ain’t got time to be wasting with any man who don’t want to grow into a better version of him. I’m very ambitious & a go getter and I would like my man to be similar to my hustle & drive but it doesn’t have to be exactly the same way he does his thing. Example: My ex of 11 years, he was not into fitness at the gym like me , but he was a walker even tho we drove cars he always walked in NYC when would go blocks & blocks abd everyday he got a chance. We would be together walking in NYC etc. We both did things that we had in common and shared interest but we also participated in each other hobbies etc. It’s about bringing equal balance to a relationship.

[@shes_ah_truckher7716]

Yes ❤ Equal balance! Most men don’t wanna do the work to heal and it can be very difficult for them. Because women are doing what need to be done showing up for ourselves and becoming a Better version of ourselves. Men see this and it’s still not enough. They say they desire a good woman, but when the opportunity present itself they run from it 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@anonanon1998]

Why are you still talking about your ex. Move on.

[@tas-life231]

Some men commit because of how the woman looks.

[@LegendaryHoneySapphire]

I don’t play wife! I won’t wash his clothes or be secretary but I am a nurturer & inspiration ❤ and these men still don’t want it 😂 I’m convinced men want another man atp 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@shes_ah_truckher7716]

😂🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@nickyt3781]

So true 😢

[@balisticone2654]

They're so used to women doing everything b4 marriage or even claiming them that when you don't do those things he assumes your not a good woman. Although all those women were good they still didn't marry them.

[@LegendaryHoneySapphire]

@@balisticone2654 right

[@monaymonay7446]

If you in Georgia then yes they do I been single for 6 years only 1 date 6 years ago from a man I wasn't interested in at all but decided to go out with him we went to dinner and that was all I took my then infant with me and he was kind to us but their was a language and cultural barrier and no attraction. I'm very lonely and not sure why no man speaks to me can only assume it's what you said honey sapphire. Ive not ever been to a club or bar or go out but that never stopped me before moving to Georgia to find a man to at least speak to or go out with a few times. Last man I spoke to here block my.number said I do too much I didn't do nothing said I was a good woman but what I want is not what he wants. All I want is love a relationship and a family I'm a single parent and this is coming from the man who told me his baby momma won't let him see his son liar I really do not like men with children he lied when we met online he said he had no kids then he says he has 1 son. I've tried to talk to other men but they are all pathetic.

[@kenishabrockington8149]

Trying to “get” anyone to do anything is a form of manipulation.. no matter how positive your actions are for or towards that person. Sometimes people think if I do this I expect this reaction and that’s MANIPULATION. Usually women do this to distract themselves from their own traumas. We’re here to constantly serve god, our purpose and our temples! Do this and only this and you will attract others who are on the same page.. you don’t have to force ish because relationships are all timing …

[@nicolej4434]

Dont do anything...be yourself. Love yourself...

[@Flower-v8w]

Yes, absolutely true. A woman needs to put herself and her self respect and self worth above all. Once you're married to a man and he has proven that he is committed and devoted to you and is giving to you and doing for you, that's when you give and do for him, not before. A man commits from how he feels when he thinks about you, and if he has had to win you, remember you're the prize. In all of nature, there is not a single species which doesn't follow this principle, except humans whose parents have failed to educate them. So as the lady says, be smart. The rule in nature is that the males pursue the females. The males are the ones who have to prove themselves, to impress, to chase. The females don't have to do a darn thing except go about their lives and accept or reject the males. If you are unbothered by the males and just keep knowing that you're the prize they have to win, then you allow the males to do what nature intended them to do, to pursue you and impress you and win you. So they fight for your attention and your love and then they have invested in you. They feel a big sense of accomplishment, a fulfillment of purpose that they've won your heart. They have had to work for you, fight for you, win you, value you. That's when they commit.

[@TMYPiscesSunandMoonRising5548]

🎯💯👏🏾👏🏾

[@vzaddy694]

This comment right HERE🎉🎉🎉

[@mango1632]

PURE FACTS!!!!!

[@thabodaciousempath]

This is the amount the best most true comment I've read🤟🏾

[@bellagarzia9653]

Do those things for YOU. Focus on YOU and he will then in turn see you are something worth focusing ON.

[@drummergirlmeika777]

Washing his clothes? Taking care of his kids? Writing his resume?? Giving him a lot of sex??? Goodness! …. Ladies, if any of you’all are doing this, please don’t act like a “wife” before you actually become a wife! 😊👌💕

[@oneilfarquharson-ifearthel3253]

Amen... Marriage is the only commitment I know...

[@Tresdrole123]

A man commits because he’s ready. He can be with you for ten years then marry a chick he knew for 6 months after you broke up and he met her.

[@mamanemcakesandtreats3974]

Very true! My husband dated a woman for 9 1/2 years, and they never got married. He and I met and got married two months later.

[@Paulatics]

What's so unfortunate about situations like this is men will be a woman that long knowing good and well he has NO intention of marrying her. I will wait for the content that encourages men to be honest about their intentions and what they want in life and their situation.

[@Tresdrole123]

@@Paulatics sorry but this is one thing that’s the responsibility of the woman to safeguard. We should teach women to value themselves and their biological time. Two years is the courting period. After that, buh bye, on to the next. We already know that men view time differently than woman. It’s nothing new. P.s. I say this with tough love and empathy. I was with a man for 4 years before breaking up w him because he wasn’t budging. Then I went into an intentional marriage minded relationship with my husband. He courted me for a year before our marriage.

[@Paulatics]

@@Tresdrole123 While I do agree that as women we need to safeguard this and value ourselves more to combat this, let's not make it the sole responsibility of women to create healthy boundaries and share intentions in the relationship. Men also need to be honest about their intentions and what they really want so that both parties can make sound decisions about where the relationship is going. Much like you, I wasted much time (11 years between 2 relationships) with hopes that it would lead to marriage which both men said they wanted. Their words didn't align with their actions and I had to face the repercussions of that. Moving forward I learned to be better but as I put in the work, it is my hope that men are doing the same.

[@TequilaTurner]

He commits when he wants to she can meet all the criteria on that list and if he’s not ready he just isn’t. It’s really preference and women must let it be lol. They do what they want. Just like we do.

[@pisceanrat]

Oh so true coach. You cant do nothing to make him commit. The right man for you will commit to you and you dont even need to lift a finger.

[@tiffi271]

That’s crazy 😂. It doesn’t matter if he commits to you or not. What matters is if you care enough to give him that opportunity and if so does he deserve it thru action and intent. If he isn’t showing up, he hasn’t earned it and he belongs in the acquaintance or friends without benefits zone. Time is something you don’t get back, send his ace packing. Focus on inner work and career growth. You’re meant for greatness.

[@lanapalij4014]

Exactly! And, that’s the truth! I’m 66, and just realized that I don’t know how to clean an oven!!! And, cooking isn’t one of my favorite things to do, not on a daily basis, anyway.😊

[@tiffanyyisrael7989]

Whew child, I'm so glad to be divorced, with NO plans of remarrying. I'm seeing someone right now and everything is just laid-back and easy going, because I don't have a deadline on anything. 🤷🏾‍♀️I don't want kids and I don't want to remarry. When you've already been down the aisle and have no desire to do so again, it takes the pressure off of your shoulders. I use alot of my time traveling solo, enjoying family, making jewelry for my business and talking to my guy friend every once in a while. Life is good with no restrictions or deadlines.

[@tellerofunpopulartruths1344]

We really need to stop making being with anyone, the end all be all in life.. You can be perfectly happy exploring life and yourself without the need to have a man or woman... Be secure in yourself and you will never have to wonder, why? or ask why?. because you will be the answer always

[@karynmartin2141]

And there are men out there with commitment phobia! That just won't commit cause they think their missing out on something, or the grass is always greener on the other side.

[@Handle18880]

It’s really not that. Men are way more emotionally fragile than women bc they never have the space to process and heal from heartbreak. When men have been left by women they love bc of they are very fearful of ever experiencing that kind of loss again so they only pursue low risk interactions. Either they leave before you can or they push you away with self fulfilling prophecies so they can say that’s why I don’t commit bc you were going to leave anyway. It’s very sad but soooo many men are cowardly in this way.

[@iamachosenone9046]

They view marriage as a trap, too.

[@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814]

Ladies: Don't make things harder than they have to be. Don't date a man longer than 18 months. If you are the one, you are the one, and there is no competition period. So if you are constantly worrying about him seeing other women or cheating on you, you are not the one, and you need to move on.

[@imsavedbygrace]

To the others: Get him to sign his divorce papers for you. And how about stop dealing with married men. And you might then get a commitment from man.

[@lauranewilliams]

Haha.. yes! Leave married men alone. Stop being messy

[@ashantistewarttv7308]

A lot of married men still single & looking😂😂😂

[@legalmemories]

And here’s the thing we ladies really need to think about - if he does commit to you because you did his resume and took care of his kids with other women - is that really the kind of relationship you want? Don’t play yourself - stay on your throne and wait for the king to appear. You want a commitment from the one doing your laundry, going out to play catch with your son, going downtown as much as you want (if you know what I mean) and giving you tips on your resume because he’s got it like that. Now if that man still doesn’t want to commit- well atleast you had a really good time. lol

[@fitnesshigherselfhealthand7102]

As a man I’ve been blessed to have many woman who wanted me to commit to them and most I have not. Some of these ladies did everything, cook, clean, give sec often and even brought me expensive gifts. But, for me I have to really feel you. I genuinely have to like you, not just how beautiful you are but how the chemistry is deep inside. Maybe I’ve wrong for that, but one thing o never lie to them about my true feelings. I don’t make false promises or commitments I don’t want to be in.

[@iamachosenone9046]

You just an incubus. You're for the streets, and oayback is a b*tch, bruh.😂😮

[@michelleday5045]

I enjoy watching your videos. I'm nearly 56 and didn't know these things...smh at myself.😮

[@crystalnyla]

Not if he’s a SOCIOPATH NARCISSIST !!!! Let’s talk about that 🎙️💕👑✨

[@candykis33]

👀☝🏾

[@shazzabofficial6523]

Exactly

[@Hellzladee04]

Stop being his maid. You aren’t showing him you’re marriage material, you’re showing him you’re doormat material. Can’t get mad when he walks over you.

[@royalgoddess3284]

Wise words being spoken this is simply for a grown man with a mature mind ❣️💭

[@ConcernedCitizen-fx7du]

Prior to marrying me my husband dated a young lady for 5 years and would not marry her. They ended up breaking up after she gave him an ultimatum. We ended up meeting 3 months after they broke up and he proposed to me 1 year after us dating. I never once asked him about marriage because at the time I was working on my Masters and he had already graduated so I was content with our dating arrangement. We were married 15 months after meeting and we are going on 8 years of marriage with two kids. The morale of the story is when a man is ready to get married and he feels you are the one trust me he will make it be known. Time means nothing when a man falls in love and wants to make you his wife. And you won’t have to wait years or go over and beyond playing wife in order to become his wife

[@nimanixo]

Why did he marry you and not her ?

[@sonyaburton649]

He does not want his mother

[@Superempath101]

So true sir, so true because if you go out of your way to do all that for a man and he still won't commit your doing way too much💯

[@joannedawson-wi3no]

even the most amazing woman will get cheated on just because he's selfish and stuck in his own ways. 🤷‍♀️

[@tamerabetts5309]

Yep

[@mca217]

The last part was the key jewel from the lesson. Ladies, are you a nurturer, are you EMOTIONALLY supportive to him, are you inspiring him. Men who want to settle down don't just look for tangible things. It's the intangibles that get him to commit. If he feels like he's unheard, not supported and misunderstood then you'll never get him to fully commit to youand.

[@tubbie1819]

Overwhelming TRUTH ❤ Based on who are to him.

[@tammysanders1059]

Do I make him want to become a better version of himself Wow now that’s a major key coming from a man

[@brandfactorymedia]

Some men jump into things for simple reasons as, all my boys got someone. I’m getting older and no kids. That’s facts. Then end up unhappy.

[@suesanders1169]

To him NOT FOR HIM. DEEP. THANK YOU FOR THESE WORDS OF WISDOM. 🙂

[@nightswan1234]

A integral part of being married is knowing and accepting that part of it is simply a business. Both parties need to make the best deal/ match for themselves in a thoughtful, unpressured ,realistic manner. Throw away the rose colored glasses. Well matched , well balanced partners make the best teams. Strive and do the necessary internal work and it does require work from BOTH to have and keep a real, yet relaxed and peaceful Union together. Just remember neither of you are perfect. Cut your partner that necessary slack if that is what it takes to keep the respect at those times when the temperature starts to rise!

[@andreaannis1111]

Amen!! 🙏🏼 Aww 💯 beautiful message and thank you for sharing!! God bless you!!💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@Star-pp2ks]

you can do everything right, but if it's with the wrong man, it still won't be enough

[@roomiesroom]

Men are not moved by what you do for them, they are moved based on how they feel right about you. He commits based on who you are to him. 🔥 🔥

[@lasanaonline]

Coach, your short videos are literal mic drops! 🎤💯

[@kalykalypso]

You want a man to commit, get him to spend money on you. Men go where they've invested their money.

[@FisckaleDePolicique]

I have learned that you should never bend anyone's will. Be who you are and if he don't fall in place, you're out of place.

[@tisheikarickard-whyte3548]

Okay coach, I have a question, How do you make a man be a better version of himself? Because I'm a good woman But doesn't mean just being there by his side when needed? Giving him good advice when needed? Etc etc

[@3mpress.3nergy]

It's not your job to make him better. If he doesn't make the decision to change and follow up with action, there's nothing you can do. Expect things to stay the same.

[@Cierajewel]

You can’t MAKE him be better however you can INSPIRE him by being the best version of yourself. Focus on ways to improve yourself for YOU! He will commit if he wants to.. if not that’s ok.. In this moment you realize that he wasn’t meant for you at this time.. You make the sound decision to move on. It may hurt for a bit however one must go on. You know what you want in a man.. if he doesn’t have those qualities then don’t set yourself up for disappointment in the long run ❤

[@3mpress.3nergy]

@Ciera Proctor AGREED! Alot of us waste time on Mr. Wrong and never give Mr. Right the chance to show up. If he does, it's normally too late or we brush him off.

[@godsgirl7201]

Men work off actions and not what you say .... If you're driven have a career, wow l wrote a book, started a organization etc it'll make him want to level up

[@Mayfloweralways]

No, a man becomes better when you give energy that your life is full and balanced before he came along. And to be in your life, he needs to be in alignment with where you are. It’s nothing you say. It’s the life and beliefs you come forward with. After that, it’s what you accept from him. And it’s still nothing you say. You meet a man who doesn’t seem to be supportive? Make more time for friends that are than you do for him and talk about how much you love that your friends are so helpful and are always there for you. Give the guy some opportunities to step up by asking him to certain things. But ultimately if doesn’t, he’s not emotionally invested in you.

[@luisaascencaodossantos5648]

Yes i do. my essence...i love myself, have self confidence and I'm independent...a lovelyfriend that listen and not critize and have expectations

[@angelagray736]

In my experience, i played the wife roll but was only a girlfriend. I used to beat myself up for doing that but now i take it as a lesson learned..if a man wants you, you don't have to do all the extra. ...my opinion

[@selfless-esteem]

They commit to make you stay and protect you. He has to see you as someone under his care.

[@MissTaylorMade101]

This sermon definitely resonated with me

[@Jennifer-o6j8t]

Beautiful reading ❤❤❤❤

[@truetomyself2741]

So true preach brother preach

[@AJ-kb9hf]

I honestly think he will commit when he is ready. It doesn't matter how good or bad you are - if he's not ready then he will not commit. He may never find someone with your qualities again - and may settle for less - but only when he's ready. The best thing to do is not beat yourself up about it. It is what it is. It wasn't meant to be. And I really do think when they want to show you they are serious about you they will show it even if it means going to the end of the earth - and your gut will know!

[@stephaniedonald109]

Ladies if you want a man to commit, act as if you don't care.

[@XcrazymoonX]

I don’t want him to commit unless he is in his heart steady and ready to commit.

[@Corrans]

A man will commit based on him investing in you. The more he invests, and you show him you are worthy, the more he is drawn into this.

[@jennyohjenny02]

With other words, it's out of your control. Just be yourself. The right one for you will commit 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@sophiachin1262]

If you have to work out some program to make him commit... he is not worth the commitment.

[@kleabrown422]

I have a lot going on with my bf and we’re having a son in August! My first child and his third… I lost my job and broke and problems with money and my bills. Now issue with my car and with my relationship. If it ain’t ONE THING ITS ANOTHER! He knows that Im a really great woman to him and his beautiful princesses! But he wants polygamy! 🙄 & im not with that

[@lesialewis8990]

I keep hearing “does she make me wanna be….” Why does anyone need another person to make them want to be “something” I know marriage is a form of partnership and companionship but who want that with someone who is co-dependent on you to “wanna be ….” Sounds a little toxic. Maybe I’m wrong, but that seems like a lot of pressure to put on someone. For the person “wanting to be..” that alot of external dependencies which sets yourself up for disappointment, if and when that person is not enough. My advice be what you want to be first, then find the partner🙂

[@Jamies0n]

A lesson learned a long time ago, if you are desiring a loving commitment from your partner.. you too need to exemplify to your partner, what you are looking for in your partner.. you can do all the tasks for your man all day long, but if you are complaining and have a sad or bad attitude or don't honor your own self = results in you getting a lot of the same!

[@m.s9146]

I follow thé 60 day rule, if he hasn’t committed with 60 days, I’m not the one, face the music. Time to move on. I’ve been married twice (have 3 adult children) and engaged several times more. I’m getting married again, my fiancé committed within 60 days, ring came 60 days afterwards because he designed it himself and chose from his stash of diamonds. It’s your life, don’t play around. And, no, I never had to settle, my current fiancé is a brilliant, kind, 6’3” slightly younger, multibillionaire. I am loving, kind, self sacrificing, well educated and smart. No substitute for intelligence and good grooming.

[@nimanixo]

Uhhh girl what are you doing to make men act like this