Why are DIVORCED Muslim Women giving bad MARRIAGE ADVICE?

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Why are DIVORCED Muslim Women giving bad MARRIAGE ADVICE?

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@EllyzGoodwill 2 ай бұрын

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; each one is special. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've realized that there's always a way to solve problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost getting divorced because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort things out. It was a difficult time, but we got through it.

@EllyzGoodwill 2 ай бұрын

Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

@EllyzGoodwill 2 ай бұрын

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@fatmazhraa9502 2 ай бұрын

The first time I am not with you in a video, my mom WAS SAVED because of the backup money that he didn’t allow her to have, only the household money. I WAS SAVED because I went to university this year, thanks to my mom’s money. He wasn’t good with finances, and my mom saw that 20 years prior. I will do the same; I can't depend on a man or any human, in fact. What if he dies? Any smart woman will think of herself and her kids.

@user-ns9oe5yn9g 2 ай бұрын

Thanks to Allah THEN your mom's money

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Speaking about your last part If her husband left her, Islamically he still has to pay for the children, if he is no longer there, then her father should take care of her, if he isn’t there, then her brothers then her uncles then her grandfather, her children will taken care financially by their paternal side, don’t tell me they don’t have paternal uncles or grandparents So technically you will never actually “need” to be financially independent

@arwakhan5693 2 ай бұрын

@fatmazhraa9502, right! That's how I felt too! I usually love all Faiyad's videos but this one seemed a little unnecessary

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

You quite literally depend on your husband after marriage because he has to provide and take care of you? Should men stop being Qawam now? Looks like both genders are going to extremes. Now I understand why some men feel that marriage in this day and age is just everything to lose for the man. Women want the benefits of Islam and benefits of the Liberal Western system. Men are becoming more and more repulsed at the idea of marriage and think all women are feminist trash. I’m not blaming one side here, but damn are we divided.

@nissa4644 2 ай бұрын

Subhanllah! some people really live in lala land. Well, for the rest of us who live in 2024 and know that men often do not act as such (this is actually why Faiyad,Romany and others do have platform to teach 2024 men about being real men ), let me tell you that many times all these beautiful Islamic principles are not applied .My close friend got abandoned when pregnant with her husband twins. I was left to financially provide for my family. Another friend's husband was addicted to gambling. Some are reverts and don't have the support, some have muslims brothers with hard financial problems some have very old fathers that cannot care for them. what should they do?sit in front of the masjid and beg?

@almostmybedtime 2 ай бұрын

I definitely think her point about maintaining her individuality in the marriage and giving each other space when needed was pretty good advice. I think that’s not talked about a lot

@user-ns9oe5yn9g 2 ай бұрын

Agree with you

@GabrielA-mw4in 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like doing what she pleases with whom and when she wants. Not sure that's conducive to a good relationship. Yes time for self is important but we must learn to be selfless.

@CurrentAssistant 2 ай бұрын

@@GabrielA-mw4inwhy have such a bad assumption of her when in her case she WAS selfless all the time

@Freepalestine2024_-.6 2 ай бұрын

that's true

@almostmybedtime 2 ай бұрын

@@GabrielA-mw4in watch the video, she said that she struggled with being her own person and giving her husband space. She said she was giving her all and not taking care of herself

@Anasd33n 2 ай бұрын

The truth is fathers are failing. Non of this would happen if men didn’t man up and learn there deen and give this knowledge to there children. honestly the lack of knowledge of the deen is crazy we have everything we need knowledge wise and we don’t use it . I’ve been a Muslim for 2 years alhamdulillah and the main problem ii see is the truly lack of real men according to Quran and sunnah the next generation must make this their main goal to seek Islamic knowledge not just secular knowledge that will only benefit their dunya

@Muslim-87 2 ай бұрын

100% i have seen this happen weak men are terrible leaders

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

First thing men need to do is take control of society(aint gona happen unless theres revoution), if the law is above fathers and is encouraging this evil and mannnny other evils, by considering farthers oppressive, the father's can't do shit but end up losing their children in divorce(it all comes down to islam vs everything else)

@afifahputri559 2 ай бұрын

Your words are true, my dad left us, like literally, and my mom always tell me to finish my study, work, dont depend on anyone, you cant trust men nowadays

@muslimalhamdulillah5433 2 ай бұрын

@@afifahputri559dont generalize all men as bad

@soob9178 2 ай бұрын

@@afifahputri559 my uncle's ex wife completely picked up her things and left my uncle with children? what's your point? mothers and fathers are failing.

@Ayesha______ 2 ай бұрын

Okay even Assim Al hakeem said the husband and wife’s finances should be separate and there should be no concept of a joint account. Being financially independent is halal in Islam as long as the means you are getting money through is halal.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Yes it is as halal as a man having 4 wives (Unnecessary) If her husband left her, Islamically he still has to pay for the children, if he is no longer there, then her father should take care of her, if he isn’t there, then her brothers then her uncles then her grandfathers, first paternal side, if all of them are not there, then the maternal side Literally she will never need to have a financial plan, its a want

@alexpast9453 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519and if she is a revert she will starve to death then. Not everyone is born Muslim. Not everyone have this luck to be sponsored by father, uncle or brother. I know some sisters they literally have no family whatsoever as everyone is dead, she is a revert and she is divorced.

@Ayesha______ 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519 no brother there are a lot of women even my best friend whose fathers will not support, love or care for them. I’m in Pakistan, what about the poor sisters in the west. It’s not ideal e.g. myself, I don’t think I need a financial plan BUT many women do.

@neko7981 2 ай бұрын

@@alexpast9453 u do realize single women without a wali dont need their wali's permission to get a job? but yes- the ummah should do more for sisters without support

@Kepler10b 2 ай бұрын

Ikr. Why does my future husband need to know about my money? It's non of his business. Separate accounts all the way. Why would I want to be so powerless as to not even have a penny to my name? I've been working since age 17 bc my dad didn't just give me everything I want. If I wanted a phone and a laptop I had to pay for those myself, so that's what I did. I don't know why any woman in 2024 wouldn't want her own money.

@alizzahkhann 2 ай бұрын

i'm done w these "hijabi" influencers. being an influencer and documenting your life on the internet is antithetical to very idea of hijab. sadly, muslimahs seem to draw inspiration from them and buying into the feminist hoodwink.

@reemabdi2316 2 ай бұрын

this is their tactic to target muslim women, sadly a lot of sisters fall for these influencers fake lives. may Allah protect us from them

@alizzahkhann 2 ай бұрын

@@reemabdi2316 yeah, where is the lie. aameen ukhti !!

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

especially when theyre plastic cake faces who cant even wear a hijab properly

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

Yeah agreed. These Muslimahs and some of these podcast bros are two sides of the same coin. I completely cut out social media after seeing this mess because it was messing with my mental health and judgement of fellow Muslims.

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

Not all Muslim women follow these trends. Don't believe all of us do.

@Idkwhatthisiz 2 ай бұрын

I understand your point on misery vultures and pessimistic narrative that accentuates the divide between men and women but I don’t necessarily think the lady in the vid is one of them. Her advice was pretty solid and she acknowledged her own mistakes too. There’s a difference between being realistic and pessimistic.

@user-pe9zh1um5t 2 ай бұрын

agreed !

@mary5305j Ай бұрын

As a former follower of this woman, she is not pessimistic at all but I do think there are other issues in her content that could have been spoken about instead. We also have to keep in mind that Muslims raised in western countries have a completely different life experience than other countries and while, yes, we should all try to live by the Islamic laws and standards, it is 100% the case that these women have not been raised or taught to know what that means or looks like. Whether right or wrong, I’m not sure making videos shaming them is the way to increase their knowledge or iman.

@icydrinks4347 2 ай бұрын

The women in those tiktoks were not encouraging other women to "keep one foot out the door". They were advising them to be financially literate and to give their mental health the care it needs during marriage. We know that Muslim men and women have strayed from Islam. As a result, divorce rates are through the roof. This is a fact, but it's not a problem that Muslim women created, both sides are equally responsible. The issues that divorce creates for Muslim women are unique, and if they want to set up avenues of protection for themselves (that are halal, of course), who are you to accuse them of being feminists or "misery vultures" for advising this? Social media is dangerous, and videos like yours only fuel the divide and the lack of understanding between the genders.

@jjacob3872 2 ай бұрын

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@ytrk2j 2 ай бұрын

If you want to divorce your husband, good for you, do so. But do not be entitled to his money. Feeling entitled to his money even after marriage are for the Misery Vultures.

@neko7981 2 ай бұрын

while i agree he should have been more detailed- the 4:50 still addresses the point. islam doesnt tell u not to give urself time and attention. but her advices are at an extreme. there is no restriction on women gaining the bare minimum knowledge on finance that literally every1 should have but u can not change islam for smthing that stems out of unislamic values or misinterpretation of islam. if the husband chooses that his wife doesnt participate in earning- he has that authority. he also has his dutys. again in the last part of the vid too he made it clear- 'it did happen' but u'r knowledge and experience does not apply to others so dont give random advices that creates seeds of doubt. and specially if the advices deviate u from islamic values. he only addressed the problems in her advices and not the cause of it- but he made it clear thats what he's doing. while 'solving' an ongoing problem (which he didnt do) is prefered- preventing it from getting worse( which he is doing by discouraging ppl from playing expert for a single experience in their life) is smthing that should be appreciated

@afifahputri559 2 ай бұрын

@@ytrk2juhm, men are obligated to still provide for his wives after divorced, the basic necessity, until she get remarried

@ytrk2j 2 ай бұрын

@@afifahputri559 let’s not cook up our own emotions into religious commands. That is a clear transgression against God and a challenge against his authority. Show me a verse from the Quran or Hadith supporting your claim. Here are some references from Hadith that a divorced woman is not entitled to anything from her ex-husband.

@Violentbeat3940 2 ай бұрын

My father destroyed our family and was an extreme financial and financial abuser despite us having a picture perfect family. My mother poured her soul into the deen and holding on to the marriage. If my mom did not establish financial security for herself and her children, then everyone would have been on the street with how malicious my father is. The modern “Muslim” man likes to enforce his Islamic rights as a man without providing the bare minimum Islamic responsibilities to his family. The majority of modern men do not uphold any of their responsibilities, thereby putting women into their masculine, widening the resentment and chipping away at their fitra. There is a cause and effect to everything.

@EnergeiaRhythmos 2 ай бұрын

I feel sorry for you . This is the thing tgat brother is talking about

@soubermed2175 2 ай бұрын

@@EnergeiaRhythmos the brother is talking about divorce women giving terrible advice to married sisters. But go, blame men and stay single.you can just faste Mondays and Thursdays

@cleartrueblue66 2 ай бұрын

Respectfully, You missed the mark with this video. A woman having her own money is never a bad idea. Look around you. Who is actually taking care of Muslim women and their children when their husbands die or they get divorced? Nobody. For the most part they're on their own. Maybe because the men in their families have failed them or are financially unable to help them due to too many responsibilities, maybe they don't have men in the family that will help them (such as reverts who were cut off from family after reverting or women who don't have uncles/brothers, or whose fathers have died), These women are on their own the vast majority of the time. I don't know what world you're living in where women can fall back on their fathers/brothers/uncles to be provided for in case of calamity. Open your eyes bro, these women are on their own. Women having their own money is a matter of survival.

@mary5305j Ай бұрын

It’s also our right Islamically to have our own money separate from our husbands.

@wassaaa710 Ай бұрын

Islamicly it is. Ain’t readin all dat

@notyourcupoftea6774 29 күн бұрын

@@wassaaa710no, its not a bad thing for women to have thier own money, even according to Islam. As long as the job is halal and does not allow free mixing

@baseerhussain 2 ай бұрын

I understand your point but tbh those advises weren't that bad.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Her are actually bad

@believersince_1997 2 ай бұрын

ARE WOMEN REALLY FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT WHEN ALLAH HAS MADE MEN PROVIDERS? EVEN IF WOMEN EARN, THEY STILL ARE DEPENDENT ON THEIR HUSBANDS AS MEN BY DEFAULT ARE PROVIDERS. AND THOSE WHO ARE DIVORCED, AND THINK THEY CAN LIVE HAPPILY WITH THEIR MONEY AND INDEPENDENT SINGLE LIFE, SHOULD KNOW THAT THEY'RE MATERIALISTS, NOT MUSLIMS. AS THEIR PRIORITY IS WORLDLY POSSESSIONS AND NOT PLEASING ALLAH. BY MAINTAINING FAMILY BONDS, ALLAH IS PLEASED WITH US. BUT THEIR AIM IS TO NOT HAVE FAMILY, BUT TO STAY SINGLE AND "INDEPENDENT". SO THEY'RE MATERIALISTS CHASING DUNYA EXACTLY LIKE THE DISBELIEVERS DO. IF SHE DIVORCED, WHO ASKED HER TO REMAIN SINGLE ALL HER LIFE? ISN'T IT THAT SHE SHOULD MARRY ANOTHER MAN WHO IS BETTER AND DEPEND ON HIM FINANCIALLY, RATHER THAN BEING "SINGLE" AND TRYING TO BE "FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT"? FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE WON'T GIVE HER PEACE OF MIND, LOVE, CARE, FAMILY, CHILDREN, AND OTHER THINGS HUMANS NEED IN LIFE. SO TO CHASE CAREER OR BECOME FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT WON'T HELP IN THE LONG RUN. EVENTUALLY, EVERY WOMAN WILL NEED A HUSBAND, CHILDREN, FAMILY, ETC. SHE CAN'T MARRY HER MONEY AND LIVE WITH IT ALL HER LIFE. DON'T RELY ON MONEY. FOR BACKUP IT'S ALRIGHT, BUT YOU CAN'T RELY ON IT BECAUSE IT'S ANTI ISLAMIC TO STAY SINGLE WHEN YOU CAN GET MARRIED. THOSE WHO TAKE DISBELIEVERS AS THEIR ROLE MODELS WILL DEFINITELY SKIP MARRIAGE, AND WILL CHASE DUNYA AND IT'S MATERIALISTIC THINGS WHICH NEVER GIVES PEACE. AS THE PROPHET ﷺ SAID, “WHOEVER IS CONCERNED ABOUT THE HEREAFTER (AAKHIRAH), ALLAH WILL PLACE RICHNESS IN HIS HEART, BRING HIS AFFAIRS TOGETHER, AND THE WORLD WILL INEVITABLY COME TO HIM. WHOEVER IS CONCERNED ABOUT THE WORLD, ALLAH WILL PLACE POVERTY BETWEEN HIS EYES, DISORDER HIS AFFAIRS, AND HE WILL GET NOTHING OF THE WORLD BUT WHAT IS DECREED FOR HIM.” Source: Sunan at-Tirmidhi 2465 IN CONCLUSION: PROMOTE WIDOW MARRIAGES AND POLYGYNY (LIMIT 4 WIVES), INSTEAD OF PROMOTING THIS BS - WOMEN BECOMING FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT AND STAYING SINGLE. BECAUSE SHE WON'T EVER BE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT UNLESS SHE STAYS SINGLE AND STAYING SINGLE WITHOUT EXCUSE IS NOT PERMISSIBLE IN ISLAM.

@Kepler10b 2 ай бұрын

Sorry but you come across as completely tone deaf in this video. What she said about financial literacy and maintaining separate accounts is spot on. Having your own money is important for a woman in 2024. That doesn't mean you shouldn't trust your husband but it does mean that having your own finances in order provides a safety net if needed.

@sw-yw9zr 2 ай бұрын

PLEASE DO NOT DISMISS THE ADVICE OF THESE WOMEN. Women need to protect themselves . I was left with nothing after 31 years of marriage. He took EVERYTHING, stating it was all his, because I DIDN'T WORK. I have ended up having to start from the bottom, like a teenager at 51 years old and life is incredibly hard. Had I listened to this advice when it was given to me, as a young lady, my children and I would not be suffering and struggling so much now. I also know so many women in the same position as me. I just thought it would never happen to me! Remember, when a spouse no longer cares, you become a burden they want to erase. We are all idealistic when things are going well!

@soubermed2175 2 ай бұрын

1. The husband was and is evil 2. You contributed to ending marriage 3. Like a my lil bro when he tells on me he only say what I did and hides what he's done. A decent person doesn't change for the worse after 30 years of marriage.

@ismaelahmed8034 2 ай бұрын

Hang on She hanged out with his friends 🤨

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

😂😂 red flag af

@alizzahkhann 2 ай бұрын

halal to haram ratio💀

@havz4444 2 ай бұрын

Imagine one of the reasons she divorced him was because he hung out with hers 😭

@ismaelahmed8034 2 ай бұрын

@@alizzahkhann About 3:46 Possibly 😂😂😂😂

@ismaelahmed8034 2 ай бұрын

@@havz4444 Match made in heaven

@ahsanaashraf2142 2 ай бұрын

don’t think she was necessarily being a misery vulture she’s a divorcee, and we don’t know what went wrong so best not to assume, and she just gave advice on being financially literate and having some money to yourself in case something goes wrong and not losing yourself in a marriage. Take all that with a pinch of salt and it’s actually pretty good advice. As a muslima, i’d listen to people in healthy marriages and people who got divorced bc why not? do we only need to know a single reality? can we not learn valuable lessons even from people who go through divorce? Someone in the comments said islamically a women would never need money and will always have someone to look after her, a bit shallow tbh. I’ve heard so many things go so wrong for so many sisters. Islamically that’s true, but there are also cases where women are left alone with no one to look after them. So what then? many live in societies with no value to islamic rulings and many unfortunately grow up like this and just don’t care. So definitely get into marriage after learning the rights and responsibilities of each other, but also be educated about money and if it doesn’t compromise your deen or family or mental health, earn. Why not 🥶 Keep making good content ‎إن شاء الله personally don’t watch these influencers nor do I know anything about this particular influencer but i don’t agree to labeling or name calling another muslim for no reason. Some of these comments are just vile.

@dalhaanu 2 ай бұрын

Using a credit card means riba and riba means a war against Allah and His messenger peace and blessings be upon him. All of what you said is void and nonsense. Having a credit card is not worth it unless you want to be burned for eternity. And p.s, you will NEVER win a war against Allah.

@believersince_1997 2 ай бұрын

@fatumahussein9604 2 ай бұрын

Yeah no such thing as “influencer” in Islam, it’s sad we even have Muslims posting themselves online so much tabaruuj and Dayouth Muslims acting exactly like non Muslims that we even divorce for dumb reasons and make it seem like it’s cool, these are all signs of judgement day the Ummah is getting lost every single day!

@mary5305j Ай бұрын

I have watched this influencer in the past and while her videos are not for me, she definitely is not pessimistic or man-hating at all. She does share her own experiences and recently has made videos sharing her own struggles with her Iman and how she wants to focus more on Allah. She also was born and raised in the US (or Canada, I can’t remember) and has lived a fairly westernized life. From seeing some of my friends’ experiences with finances in their marriage, I think having your own account (as well as a joint) is perfectly acceptable for women, especially because it is our RIGHT for our money to be our money and some men in todays world really do not understand how to be responsible in their finances. Even from an Islamic perspective, our own accounts makes sense. Now for the Riba and debt, that’s totally different 😅

@user-pe9zh1um5t 2 ай бұрын

don't mix your weird red-pill stuff into Islam please ! This was a rare miss. You can establish yourself as a woman, have your own money etc and still have a successful marriage. I think its important for every woman to have their own money, qualifications etc because that's not only a way of protecting yourself, but it's generally one solid way you can progress in society nowadays. What's the harm in that honestly. I think traditional relationships are great if done correctly, but you need to be realistic.

@liyana8556 2 ай бұрын

I usually agree w you but that is an Ideal society that we don't live in. "tie your camel then have trust in Allah" - the having separate accounts and knowing on family finances is my version of tying my came for the end goal of a thriving family. Poverty and kufr are closely related as per Hadith, and knowing about money and having it is protection from both. Allahuallam

@Zmm4168 2 ай бұрын

Ladies be grateful for the men in your life who take care of you because Allah SWT does not like the ungrateful humans . But remember to only depend on Allah 100% . Also Save up as much money as u can and remember your money is only ur money. But u can choose share with your family and it’s charity for you if help ur own family in need . You can buy gold with your money as a saving as well . One day that money might come handy for you and ur family Inshaa Allah May Allah SWT guide and protect this ummah , Amiin

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

Of course. Some husbands income is not enough. This does not mean a woman is ungrateful for him. It just means she may have to make another source of income. An remember: the best among you are those who are best to their wives.

@shanahdil7981 2 ай бұрын

Don't agree with credit cards.. But there are points I have agree.. Lots of men don't know their duties and some are weak when things get hard.. men looking for working women but when women have children people are not prepared for it.. Even women expect a lot from men.. We are all human and should seek help from Allah but should be from both side to get the right help.

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

People don't do due diligence and chase after their feels and then cry when marriage don't workout

@shanahdil7981 2 ай бұрын

@@wawaweewa9159 some people do arrange marriage but still cry after.. Both are adult and have their responsibility.. We are human and not perfect but we should be willing to try and be better for things to work.

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

@@shanahdil7981 arrange marriage doesnot mean you do not speak and ask questions

@shanahdil7981 2 ай бұрын

@@wawaweewa9159 asking questions and living with someone is 2 different things.. People always hide their flaws.

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

@@shanahdil7981 you also ask questions to those around, i.e. her family, NOT in her presence, lot sof questions, if theyre being vague and dodging questions or being voerly positive, then its a red flag, you also meet them many many times, not just once so you see how their behaviour and facial expressions are during conversation, if you can improve your chances by an extra 50% 70% o whats ever %, then why would you not want to improve your chance and do this proper due diligence? you want good things to be found easily? .

@niharikaarora3450 2 ай бұрын

this is so sad. she said nothing but truth. precautions are always great and not knowing your home's finances doesnt makes u feminine but actually makes u dumb. pls know about the costs of things and other things as divorce can happen but also in case of family's tragedy u should not be clueless. she just made a video telling women some things and this man here is so affected by it. insane

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

Why are women instantly labeled feminist for wanting financial freedom and security in the even of something happening? I don't like Faiyad videos anymore... this causes too much fitnah. It also focuses too much on negative women. Some of those Tik Toks and videos are fake. Some of the people on social media aren't even real Muslims. Some are fake paid people to portray themselves as Muslim.

@purnamanight 2 ай бұрын

Having experience about it doesn't mean you fully have knowledge about it. Even the married ones didn't have much advices to give to singles. Someone whos still single but know how to handle topic about marriage is because they learn about and have knowledge. It just Allah SWT didn't give them chance to experiencing having a spouse yet.

@shanahdil7981 2 ай бұрын

But wisdom do exist and can only be achieved through experience...we just need the right word and attitude to express it.. She might not have said it the right way but she does have a point

@SoSo-ec2xl 2 ай бұрын

Salam wa 3eleykoum in general I appreciate your videos, but sometimes I have the impression that you don't put yourself in the woman's POV (if you have a sister don't hesitate to have discussions with her to understand our point of view) . You are right, we live in a generation where there is no more patience in a couple, whether the man or the woman. But I have the impression that you haven't really understood the meaning of their message: having a plan B. Sometimes it's not even a question of divorce (or independence) but of death for example or illness. Who will support me financially (even worse if I have children) my brother? He will be busy with his own family. Imagine if you have a daughter, you won't be happy that she has a plan B = having money to be able to eat?

@SoSo-ec2xl 2 ай бұрын

The fact that you have REAL MUSLIM MAN in your social circle (el hamdoulil'Allah) means that you do not really understand our point of view. When I look around me at the type of men that girls I know have married, I understand why having a plan B is very important!

@SoSo-ec2xl 2 ай бұрын

I hope that for your next video about women you will do a real investigation and analysis and that you will do you research. " why women think like that ? It's just there trauma or modern muslim men push women to be like this?

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

If she divorced him then she has her parents? Brothers? Uncles? Grandparents? All of those will be obligated to take care of her

@SS-cu8se 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519you speak in theory. In real life this doesn’t happen. So should women and their children be homeless? In the real world, everyone is responsible for themselves.

@firdowsjohnson5766 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519let me tell you something, just because they are your relatives doesn’t automatically mean that they can take care of you. My mom for example has no father , grandparent anymore as they are all dead and additionally she is the one paying mostly for her moms housing and food fees. Additionally to that she also pays money to her brothers as they cant afford medicine and help them with their rent with the little amount she herself earns. Now lets say her husband dies , who would take care of her? The men she has to take care of ? Such statements are oftentimes very out of touch with reality. And what is so haram with having an own account with your own money? According to islam it is her very own money that she can spend however she likes as long as it isn’t haram. So pretending that it is the end of the world simply by not having a joint account is very inaccurate. This wasn’t meant in any mocking way and i hope you don’t take it negatively.

@shaziamian5579 2 ай бұрын

You’re condemning people who were/are in difficult situations. Re the go bag, you literally clipped a video talking about having a go bag if you’re in an abusive environment. These can be life and death situations which many people go through. To generalize that this advice is harming a healthy relationship is sort of wild, because any normal person in a normal relationship would know that that advice does not apply to them. You criticize the state of the ummah in that men and women are offering advice against the Quran and sunnah but you yourself villainize them without understanding nuance and that UNFORTUNATELY our ummah more often than not doesn’t know how to respect one another. I appreciate your take in wanting to give people advice from the deen, but don’t rely on clickbait videos to get your message across. All your videos are about commenting on what others say. Be original and maybe you’ll have more ears iA.

@warishahk.5456 2 ай бұрын

Exactlyyyy 👏👏👏👏

@cooljool1 2 ай бұрын

most people don't go through these situations and to focus on them from the outset shows a lack of succeeding at any relationship you enter in life. there's no nuance. its just bad advice from divorced women

@Noname-vu1om 2 ай бұрын

Divorce is no longer the exception. It has become the norm. So women needing to protect themselves and be financially prepared should this happen is a real concern. Most women who don’t work and are homemakers are blind-sided by divorce. And how many men nowadays take any form of responsibility for their kids during a divorce? Islamically, the kids are his responsibility, but most men don’t like that because the new woman they’re interested in doesn’t want him with baggage. They leave the kids with the mother with little to no financial support. If being a realist makes people a misery vulture ok. Women need to protect themselves from the dayouth ‘so-called men’ that are prolific nowadays. Have you not seen these men asking a woman what she brings to the table? Is looking after the home and the kids worth nothing? In the same breath they tell you they want you to contribute financially to the household and also that you need to be feminine.

@leyanamze09 2 ай бұрын

Show him our reality

@Noname-vu1om 2 ай бұрын

@@kojo2773 leech off him? لا إله إلا الله 😂 I don’t even know how try reply to that. She has an obligation to look after the home and children, but when you provide for her, which is your obligation, she is leeching off you? This mentality right here is why women need to be making their own money. The financial abuse they are subjected to by men who tell them that you just want to leech off me. May Allah have mercy on any man who is a رجل man in the real sense of the word. May Allah increase them in number and protect our daughters from whatever we can call the majority of the male species around today.

@okolollolo 2 ай бұрын

@@kojo2773 don't bring this kufar red pill mentality into our islam religion. what the woman asks, are her rights per religion. Unless you are against that then... and go do your research in our deen and you will find that the woman is only obliged to take care of her kids and obey her husband in what god wills. He can't order her to get up and scrub the floor :) anything she does, she gets hassanat and ajer for. Ask Allah what women bring to the table. keep following this red pill you are all ruining our deen! and it is always the western priveledged people not even people living in ACTUAL MUSLIM countries????????

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Islamically if the husband died her father will take care of her If he isn’t there then her brothers then her uncles then her grandparents Don’t tell me she has none of that

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

Then avoid these types of men? Simple? Dont give them attention like you wouldn’t give attention to careerist feminists.

@leyanamze09 2 ай бұрын

I think we need To wake up. How do you want a women To just be a stay at home, nowadays women don't trust men even their own husband, some women are afraid to undress in front of their hubby (like they litteraly had kids with them). Nowadays women have to possess their own bank account cause a lot of men are not trusworthy and also if they divorce she could survive. YOU NEED TO TALK TO OUR BROTHER IN ISLAM, CAUSE IT SHOULD NOT BE NORMAL THAT MUSLIM WOMEN ARE AFRAID OF MARIAGE, IT HAPPENED WAY TO OFTEN AB*SE, BULLYING DAUGTHERS IN LAW.

@leyanamze09 2 ай бұрын

You need to talk about our brothers in Islam. You need to tell them to protect their women, to not let someone harm her, insulte her or humiliet her. Tell them to put everyone in their place so his sisters or his mother dont feel like they are in competition with his wife. Tell the brother that we are not willing to submit to a man who don't protect us or is à really bad LEADER.

@MuhammadFaisal-np7tc 2 ай бұрын

@@leyanamze09 shut up radical feminist.

@fatumahussein9604 2 ай бұрын

And the life of this world is nothing but play and Amusement (6:32)

@redpanther9380 2 ай бұрын

Muslim men are still protecting their women but women are not behaving like women or submissive stop blaming the men now and take some accountability. If they are afraid stay single

@leyanamze09 2 ай бұрын

@@redpanther9380 I am not blaming the man I want man to talk to man about man. If I open KZbin what I see most is men talking to men about women issues. There are a lot to talk about men issues. But what I said it's true I see a lot of married men treating their wife like servant, they don't give any protection to their wife (emotionnally, financially) their wife get bullied by his whole family and he sit there watching, his wife is being insulted as a witch, a pr0stitute... he does nothing and sometimes he think these rumors are Real.

@RealCoachMustafa 2 ай бұрын

When you focus more on what to do if your marriage fails, compared to trying to focus on making your marriage a success, then it should be no surprise that you're going to end up at failure

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

facts, its like aiming to get 50% on a test and then crying you got 49% and failed, where as if you aim and work to get 100%, you will get 90%

@leyanamze09 2 ай бұрын

Yes that is psychology. If you think of leaving you are gonna leave if you don't you'll stay longer I got what he say now

@believersince_1997 2 ай бұрын

@Your_Marjay 2 ай бұрын

It’s not even in terms of divorce when financial independence is important. What if your spouse passes away and the money they leave behind isn’t sufficient to take care of your family. Although you make good points, i must admit that I’m still for couples having personal savings to make things simpler.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Just have tawakul on allah When the prophet died his wives barley had money to live And i just said this as an example there are many other good men who died and left their wife and children with no money and things ended up working out at the end of the

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Also forget about that, in islam if her husband dies then her father is obligated to take care of her If he isn’t there then the brothers, uncles, grandparents and so on

@Your_Marjay 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519 good points brother, i totally see where your coming from. However i still believe that having your own money can still help ease the financial stress of families; irregardless of whether the husband is present or absent. We should all aim to have a loving relationship with our spouse, yet do not let that stop you from having an individuality: for men and for women.

@nissa4644 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519 you must be very young and naive man...certainly never been a young mother that has to face eviction with your hungry child , in a dangerous city of the west.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

@@nissa4644 i don’t live in the west, but Isn’t her relatives practicing muslims? If not then she should say that her advice is for revert women living in the west, and not generalize it to women who have a muslim guardian other than her husband

@naimam8212 2 ай бұрын

Sounds like pretty good advice to me 🤷🏽‍♀️ having your own bank account? As she should. There is nothing wrong with “hoping for the best and preparing for the worst” that’s what a wise and realistic person does. It Doesn’t mean you aren’t committed to your relationship, we just don’t want to be screwed in case it doesn’t work out. And you men pushing stay at home lifestyles on us should understand that more than anyone, if you actually have your wife’s best interest at heart. A delusional person will go into something blind, thinking it could never happen to you. Also If a random person can easily ruin your marriage, it probably wasn’t so strong to begin with, stop using these random women as scapegoats, because your failures as a spouse are being highlighted 🤦🏽‍♀️

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

*“every woman must be financially independent, what if her husband died”* In islam you will very very unlikely need to even have money as woman, if you want to have it, then call it a want, and not a need Because if her husband left her, Islamically he still has to pay for the children, if he is no longer there, then her father should take care of her, if he isn’t there, then her brothers then her uncles then her grandfathers And the children will be taken care of financially by the paternal uncles or grandfather Literally she will never need to have a financial plan

@naimam8212 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519 In theory that should work, But how many men actually abide by this in practice? Very few

@hafsahaslam6663 2 ай бұрын

Well then, if you're so worried that you can't trust your future husband (insha-Allah) then why don't you actually take time to know the person and pick the right one instead of jumping straight in with blind eyes? I'm a woman as well however, Insha-Allah, when I get married I will know who my husband is and that's why I would marry him. I shouldn't be afraid OR untrustworthy of him because he will (Insha-Allah) be my companion for the rest of my life. I'm not saying don't go out a work, the decision is totally up to you however I would work and thrn when i have children I would stay at home and help nurture them, educate them and their deen. Your job wont go to the Akhira but YOUR children will and that's whay matters. I believe that If your husband is financially stable then i would rather relax at home. Surah An nusa (the woman) 4:34 "Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially."

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519brother, you don't understand. We got bums at the masjid. Sadly, many men may not be financially responsible, able to provide, or they blatantly refuse. It's all around sad.

@believersince_1997 2 ай бұрын

@92ifsa 2 ай бұрын

financial independence for a female is important because there can be issues that can arise in marriage my mother was married to a man who not only abused her but used money as a way of control when she asked for basic necessities when the marriage broke down and he left we were left broke and almost ended up on the streets as my mum didn't speak a lick of english and was in a country foreign to her she had to ask her neighbours to help her we were on benefits from the government we can't all rely on a man to provide for us i feel like men do not understand how scary it is for a woman to get married and put her whole trust in a man to ensure he wont be mentally physically and financially abuse her this is why many muslim women decide not to get married and just focus on their careers and save money for their safety because if they do get married and something does go wrong they have a back up plan

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Are you aware in islam that her father, brothers, uncles, grandparents should be there to take care of her if her husband died?

@nissa4644 2 ай бұрын

@92ifsa I am so sorry for what you have gone through. At least it made you smarter than most men in this thread to understand first hand why financial independence is a necessity for women.

@92ifsa 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519 her husband didnt die he abandoned her and the children also she has no family in the uk

@92ifsa 2 ай бұрын

@@nissa4644 i am a female myself it's tragic what many women go through i have had 3 women in my family tragically murdered by their husbands one was hacked to death the other strangled and the last one burnt alive it was nothing to do with the religion but culture and control my mother would have been next some of these men do not understand how difficult it is for a woman they think we have it easy muslims come from all walks of life our circumstances differ islam gave women their rights but unfortunately many men use islam and twist it to take them rights away from us females they need to understand that us females work and save money not because we want to show off but for our own protection we work because we want to make sure we have our finances in order just in case if we do decide to get married and it does not work out we have our own money and home often men forget they too have mothers and sisters after seeing so many cases and so many tragedies within my own family towards females it is very very important that a female has her own money property ect

@92ifsa 2 ай бұрын

@@nissa4644 and the sad part it i was threatened with honour killing when i was in my teenage years i was told if i didnt stop crying i would be honour killed by having my head chopped off all because i was scared and having a panic attack because i was being beaten up by my own father and people wonder why us women are so scared to get married and want to focus on our careers and money we want peace we want to feel safe and not go through what our mothers aunts grandmothers went through its east to say a man will provide but what if that man is abusing your islamic rights

@reemabdi2316 2 ай бұрын

wallah these muslim influencers yapping nonsense need to be boycotted. this is how they ruin marriages and muslim households. not trying to be rude but why would you take advice from someone who is divorced it makes more sense to get advice on marriage from a elders who have successfully stayed married for long time and have not divorced.

@chaima7154 2 ай бұрын

Don't just look at it from this side, some women were divorced because of the husband. It is not always the woman's fault. Some sisters would give an accurate good advice on how to choose a spouse for example or to avoid some stuffs....

@Abdur-Rahman862 2 ай бұрын

@@chaima7154thats not what this woman is doing. "I married a man I didn't like so you guys shouldn't get married either" Absolute garbage. Terrible advice.

@chaima7154 2 ай бұрын

Yes i totally agree, but I'm just shedding light on the divorced women who actually have a good advice to give. I believe we should not put all divorced women under one umbrella. @@Abdur-Rahman862

@reemabdi2316 2 ай бұрын

@@chaima7154 well that's not what the majority advice from these divorced Muslim influencers is always negative and making happily married sisters turn against their husbands. This is not how a Muslim marriage should be. There all giving liberal secular mindset advice of the whole typical miss independent. There ruining marriages.

@chaima7154 2 ай бұрын

@@Abdur-Rahman862 yes I totally agree, but what I am saying is that we should not put all divorced women under one umbrella. Some really have good advices.

@AhmedHijab 2 ай бұрын

Can these women please fear Allah. God has created us in pairs, we need each other.

@reemabdi2316 2 ай бұрын

They care more about views and clicks.

@afifahputri559 2 ай бұрын

The truth is fathers are failing. Non of this would happen if men didn't man up and learn there deen and give this knowledge to there children. honestly the lack of knowledge of the deen is crazy we have everything we need knowledge wise and we don't use it. I've been a Muslim for 2 years alhamdulillah and the main problem ii see is the truly lack of real men according to Quran and sunnah the next generation must make this their main goal to seek Islamic knowledge not just secular knowledge that will only benefit their dunya This is the top comment i found, not me

@firdowsjohnson5766 2 ай бұрын

You clearly didn’t understand the point of these woman. They didn’t say they didn’t need men but rather that they should always have some financial independence from the men and to take care of their own mental health as they often tend to neglect it due to kids and husband, putting their needs behind.

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

@@firdowsjohnson5766what do you mean by financial independence though? Because nowadays such can involve getting your feet wet in haram for the sake of “financial independence”

@user-ue4fh5mv9s 2 ай бұрын

The verses of Allah creating things in pair don't have anything to do with marriage

@BigG627 2 ай бұрын

I have to agree with her here, SheikAseem Al Hakeem himself even said have a separate account, and if you have a separate account you probably are going to build your credit up and etc. however credit cards and interest is haram so we need everyone to remember that. Avoid it all cost. Also recording yourself doing the makeup also wasn’t the move. Her advice wasn’t bad but encouraging interest and makeup’s not a good look. This woman didn’t have bad advice at all.

@fatumahussein9604 2 ай бұрын

The shiekhs and scholars have said why do people need these women to say anything, she didn’t give bad advice but she’s not a scholar or shiekh she states her opinions a lot and she definitely Should NOT be posting herself online!

@zaydalaamri2293 2 ай бұрын

I feel like that term is always used for women but there is so many miserable men out there and they have so much influence no one is calling it out especially the red pill

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Because the red pill ones are already hated by the majority of the media Just look at how people treat red pill youtubers

@Idkwhatthisiz 2 ай бұрын

Red pill came about as a response to Feminism. Feminism enchoraged negative views on men so inevitably a movement came about as a defence. Is it necessarily a good movement that follows the way of Islam ? No but people have to understand that the movement didn’t emerge overnight for no reason at all. Also a lot of Muslims have equally criticised Femenism and red pill. It’s not a competition on who is the most miserable. We have to be more understanding to grasp why men and women are acting in such a way.

@neko7981 2 ай бұрын

bro, this vid should have been longer and u should cover both sides- specially since u know this'l cause drama. u pointed out the flaws in her advices but didnt address the underlying issue and its solutions- thats the part that gets ppl triggered as ul see many of the comments r actually valid, doesnt really oppose ur own views- but cause of the 'void' left by this vid- it seem to imply that it does. because her vid addressed several issuses simultanously- u should either specify the points u picked out to comment on or address them all and make a larger vid. but if u bring in a 20 marks question paper and answer the hardest question only- ul still get in F

@aesthete4195 2 ай бұрын

Financial independent is incredibly important. Especially in this day and age. Can you try to get ur head out of ur ass and listen? A woman marries a man, is completely dependent on her, and he leaves her. What now?

@ekkimittrettanafn2242 2 ай бұрын

Now it’s the responsibility of the father to once again provide for her until she finds a better man/she becomes a better woman. Follow the Quran and sunnah when it comes to opinions and decisions, not your own feelings and beliefs. If the husband is ok with it and as long as it is halal there is no problem for a woman to make money for herself or to support the husband and family. However as a wife there is absolutely nothing wrong with being completely dependent on the husband. The problem with Muslims today, especially Muslims in the west, is that they don’t follow the Quran and Sunnah in the vetting process of the marriage and are starting to follow the broken weastern narrative of “marrying for love” instead. Talk about these things before you get married.

@okolollolo 2 ай бұрын

@@ekkimittrettanafn2242 what if her father is dead? Her brother is a bum and her uncles don't exist? Would you rather a woman suffer just for y'all to feel better? therefore it is a good advice to tell women to be financially aware and not FULLY DEPENDENT on her husband only for his obligations.

@SoSo-ec2xl 2 ай бұрын

@@ekkimittrettanafn2242 you are right there is nothing wrong with a woman being dependent on her husband, that would be proof that he is a real man who follows the Sunnah and the Koran BUT you cannot say "Now it's the responsibility of the father" no need to imagine that he is dead but just old, imagine you see your father go back to work at his old age (miskin) I think that men should stop thinking that women have ulterior motives is not a question of feminism or independence but of security: for ourselves, our parents and our children if we have any.

@ekkimittrettanafn2242 2 ай бұрын

@@okolollolo Salamu alaikum. Finish reading my comment. I did not stop at it being the father’s responsibility, I continued. Talk about it to your potential husband before you get married, no problem if you disagree after that, just don’t marry him then. If you want to work some kind of halal job (whether virtual or not) and your husband is ok with it then good for you. I understand the difference between what we are supposed to do (ie what Allah (swt) told us is best and good) and what is realistic today. Unfortunately we have a lot of bum men today and that is the reason why things like feminism and other alternatives are becoming widespread in our Ummah. That does not mean however that women becoming second husbands is good. The responsibility of our brothers today is becoming more like Muhammad (saw) and other good men of the past and to correct our Ummah, but it is also the responsibility of our sisters to not fall in the arms of degeneracy and un Islamic “solutions”. It’s is a very big and hard problem to solve but if we all do our part in keeping to the sunnah and Quran no matter what then in sha Allah He will reward us for it and make it easier. May Allah swt give us hidaya, a good husband/wife and may He give us the strength to do what He wants us to. Amin.

@ekkimittrettanafn2242 2 ай бұрын

@@SoSo-ec2xl ^

@MasWul-billion1 2 ай бұрын

they chosen play boy as there husband now blame all muslim man

@sheblanga024 2 ай бұрын

Exactly, these type of women will blame everything but themselves.

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

they act like play girls and then cry they get playboys.

@afifahputri559 2 ай бұрын

@okolollolo 2 ай бұрын

he is a muslim man too i assume right? shouldn't he be blamed for his bs too? this islam y'all know about in the west is all about men men men. Just call it the red pill and leave the real islam alone. this is what you get when you live abroad and never lived in a proper muslim community.

@Ayesha______ 2 ай бұрын

There are vv good women that end up with horrible men. Are you gonna blame asiyah for having firaun as a husband??

@SirDolce398 2 ай бұрын

i advise you look at these sort of situations from the women's perspective. if we're thinking realistically, in 2024 you have to have your own finances of some sort, and you have to know about finances in some way in order to stay healthy with your money. espeically witht he cost of living crisis, how house prices are skyrocketing here in the uk, and how inflation makes things harder to buy. it's good to advise people to stay in the know about their finances, it helps with their safety and if the man were to ever leave them. i also advise you look at the underlying causes of these issues. theres always more than one point of veiw.

@AllenIverson-to5uy 2 ай бұрын

This is like asking a college dropout on how to do well in university.

@reemabdi2316 2 ай бұрын

Literally

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

100😂

@Ayeeyo1. 2 ай бұрын

😂😂😂 I like it. You are right. 😂😂

@ilhana9308 2 ай бұрын

Well the college dropout can tell you what not to do.

@AllenIverson-to5uy 2 ай бұрын

@@ilhana9308 True.

@user-ue4fh5mv9s 2 ай бұрын

The thing about marriage to keep in mind is that women marry for money and social statues, not for "love," which is a very modern concept and wasn't a thing for most of human history, Like i say no love for the poor man except by his wives in jannah.

@sugoi9680 2 ай бұрын

Not necessarily true to be honest. A lot of my elders tell me about how much love and respect they had for their spouses in the past not just for money or status. It's not the hollywood love bs either just genuine devotion and growth. So much so that the wife would follow the husband in death soon after out of grief. In fact I think it's quite the opposite. This is the time in history when that is pushed completely to the wayside.

@user-ue4fh5mv9s 2 ай бұрын

@sugoi9680 I never said they can't fall in love after getting married, but the idea that women marry for love is total bs

@sugoi9680 2 ай бұрын

@@user-ue4fh5mv9s Well I would have to say that's because historically it wasn't just the woman's choice. But ya ofc most woman want the "knight" rich strong status

@user-wo4ox 2 ай бұрын

Women need their to stand on their own feet, either as a plan B if things go wrong in the marriage or so she is able to slowly trust her husband with the finances after time. Regardless its a necessary lifeskill.

@afiathkhan 2 ай бұрын

What's wrong with Muslim women being independent??..i don't understand, In islam financially depending on husbands/mehrams is okay and being financially independent is also OKAY(as long there is nothing haram involved). Independence helps women to take precautions for calamity and from a abusive relationship in the future. For example, If a women is abused or even widowed then who is going to take care of her??? Her father? It's not possible to be depend on father FOREVER... Like c'mon.. As Muslims we should not rely or get attached on Allah's creations blindly whether if you are a man or a women. But yeah, i disagree with what the girl said in the TikTok vid about encouraging riba and all..etc . However I only agree with her about women being financially independent .

@cooljool1 2 ай бұрын

the problem with independence is the assumptions it brings with it. right off the bat you start with abuse and calamity. these aren't precautions. you end up sabotaging the relationship if you think that way

@afiathkhan 2 ай бұрын

@@cooljool1 its not only about "relationships" but also about a women's career. FaiyadFit made a video about "7 red flags about Modern Muslim Women" in that video he said "don't marry a career women" . Which is totally absurd bcz NO WHERE in the quran or hadith its written about women cannot do job or have career AT ALL. FaiyadFit is going against Allah. All he is a corrupter and he makes Islam look complicated

@cooljool1 2 ай бұрын

@@afiathkhan having a job is not the same thing as having a career and yes career women are unattractive for numerous reasons

@afiathkhan 2 ай бұрын

@@cooljool1 It might be "unattractive" to insecure and low mentality people, but its NOT PROHIBITED BY ISLAM ..know the difference..

@soubermed2175 2 ай бұрын

@@afiathkhanhe made a good point, there is no issue with woman who work, but those who put their work above everything are unattractive call it insecuritie it won't change a thing. In my case if she want to work it's gonna be 20h weekly Max.

@hussainsharmin661 2 ай бұрын

Theres reason why some sisters are talking abt their divorce story .a lot of mens dont provide they might went through hell and maybe they just want sisters to be aware.i believe women should have money what if the husband dies what is the women going to do now and especially if she has kids

@MrGizmoalchemist 2 ай бұрын

General rule: (taught by an elder) And I’m not talking about where abuse it at hand. That’s obviously diff… Rule One keep private business private. Keep conversations to general stuff with mates. Never delve hubby/wife stuff to friends, and friends stuff to hubby/wife. Same goes with keeping parda of your siblings and parents from your wife/hubby AND just as important, keeping the libaas and parda of your wife/hubby from sibs etc. Believe me, it prevents a lot of probs in the future (obviously unless there’s s genuine reason to share). Third party between two is always ends up being the bad one so it’s best to support from a distance. Number two: keep away from the ones who want to put you into their sh*t or put their sh*t onto you. It’s called dumping. RUN. Gtg

@MrGizmoalchemist 2 ай бұрын

Number three: never underestimate the sunnah dua for protection from all… And it doesn’t mean see everyone with suspicion or negativity - just keep own back bone and the rest sometimes falls into place.

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

Allahumabarik, good advice brother/sister. Especially rule one!

@shezaag1171 2 ай бұрын

I really hope you reconsider this video... We know, men know men more, similarly women know women more as well. Irrespective of what she has said in the past, The sister is the beginning of the video talked about something that's pretty common. She might have been emotional but labeling that as a "MISERY VULTURE"? Maybe not? As a Muslim woman, let me tell you something. Women love to spend on themselves, a lot. She prolly made a mistake of having a joint account. So, she might have found it difficult to spend on things she like. There is always a difference when you have your own account, cuz you know someone else is not going to question you on how much you spend and u just don't feel guilty. And since it a nature of man to love wealth so fervently, its not so uncommon for the woman to feel guilty for asking his money and man finding it reluctant to provide money to spend on herself :) As on top of that, by sharing her money, after her divorce she lost all her savings. Calling her a "MISERY VULTURE" for that? Ummm... Also, the content of the video did not match with what the 1st video had to do at all. Mabye for the "go bag" clip makes sense... Lets not judge the 1st sisters intention, after all, she is a muslim! I really hope you consider remove that clip... Plese do not take this as an attack but just a voice of another sister. Asalamualikum!

@arwakhan5693 2 ай бұрын

Lowkey I feel like everyone needs to be financially literate in today's day and age even if the man in the house runs all the finances as it should be. But women should know what's happening. I get where you are coming from, brother, but I can also understand some of these comments. Maybe not all these tik tok Muslimahs are personally advising individuals to not make certain marriage mistakes? And furthermore, maybe it is just that? A tik tok video. I personally love all your videos, but please realize that everyone has to be financially knowledgeable. And if there is a misery vulture, then all we have to do is remind them not to spread information the wrong way. Much appreciation for what you do!!

@jjacob3872 2 ай бұрын

Being independent is not bad advice.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Being “Independent” from men doesn’t exist If you can’t survive alone in the jungle or the desert then you aren’t independent, because modern independent women simply rely more on other men in society than their husbands and now they think they are independent people

@MS32942 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519what a reply!!!!!

@believersince_1997 2 ай бұрын

@saramastan2958 2 ай бұрын

💯 we should all be independent 😂

@MS32942 2 ай бұрын

@@saramastan2958 go and live on an island. No man is allowed to fly you out there tho.

@Freepalestine2024_-.6 2 ай бұрын

To be honest, I don't see why we're ripping on her (especially in some of your comments). I believe she gave some pretty good advise. It's unfortunate that women nowadays have to go through this due of divorces and the fear of being abandoned. I pray to Allah (shwt) that nothing like this occurs to any of us, but He (shwt) knows best. But I still appreciate advise from folks who have had experiences with marriages that did not end happily ever after. As well as advise from married women .

@Freepalestine2024_-.6 2 ай бұрын

I believe you should have done a lengthier video discussing more on the topic because this is a really major issue that both men and women are concerned about.

@mhersi2dude 2 ай бұрын

To be honest as a Muslim guy who isn’t married yet I surely wouldn’t look to divorced men for advice but rather men with longer and more successful marriages

@something5076 2 ай бұрын

Don’t get me wrong I enjoy this dudes videos and there is definitely truth in what he says but a lot of his videos are about marriage he’s even starting a marriage podcast but he’s single?

@leyanamze09 2 ай бұрын

He is married I think

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

He’s married lol

@something5076 2 ай бұрын

@@nxronite9994 how do you know?

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

@@something5076 if you watched the3muslims channel you would have known from their Q&A streams. Although, he’s very private about it.

@muhammadhaider6071 2 ай бұрын

@@something5076how do you know hes not. Why would he make his private life public lol.

@Bigsuli 2 ай бұрын

akhi its not according to majority of scholars cause then they can try use a excuse saying oh a minor opinion says she doesnt have to ( even tho islamically its haram to take an opinion that goes against the majority if everyone says one thing then one or two disagreed with them we say the two made a mistake but if its two groups that disagree we say ikhtilaf and we take one with more evidence) so please rephrase that akhi its not most scholars its all scholars with ijma that say she cant leave without his permmission

@user-ns9oe5yn9g 2 ай бұрын

My message to Muslim women imagine your husband telling you (انتِ طالق) get out of the house and you live far away from your parents where can you go? 'friend house' So I don't see any problem having your bank account

@Sabreen.1 2 ай бұрын

You took an L with this one Faiyad… we really appreciate your videos but I’m sorry to break to you like this… just look around you dear brother, men are becoming the core cause of why mothers tell their daughters to not get married except they have their ˋ ownˋ and it’s because of what the mothers needed to go through because of their husbands…we love our fathers ne brothers but when it comes to money it pains them to give and it pains them so much, that they want to control what we do with that and if they don’t agree to how we spend it or is we save it they lower the amount or take the money, this is the harsh reality…you can’t have a pretty feminine wife if you don’t spend on her and if you see her working ne spending on herself it pains them… there are endless horribl, heartbreaking stories of families where if the woman didn’t do what she needed to do she would have been put on the street with her children… the ideal is that her father, brother, uncles take of her but even in these cases there is abuse involved and it’s a praiseworthy trait in Islam to not burden others and care for yourself ! The brother will in less cases be able to provide for 2 household, let alone three households (hi,self and wife, his divorced sister and their parents) be realistic brother… the issues and hardship that comes with that in this economy…. Let me tell you, focus on improving on the brothers islamically, mentally, financially, ethic and moralwise and don’t indulge too much into the woman, you need to hear from women and see and really listen what they say and what concerns them before you judge this poor sister … focus on your gender and stick to what you know …

@soubermed2175 2 ай бұрын

Never ask a 🐟 how to 🎣

@im_mzj 2 ай бұрын

Fitnah is getting higher and higher 📈, This is why muslims need to seek knowledge before getting married, this is a a result of lack of islamic knowledge in marriage, hence a muslim/muslimah might end up taking marriage advice for tiktok influencer "scholars" who are just giving out in information based on their experience only. People are trying way to hard to modernize islam, especially through western ideologies May Allah guide and protect us🤲🏽

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

However, the same can be said for Faiyad. He is not a scholar and some stuff he has said is wrong. I believe his videos will cause fitnah because men will see this think most, if not all, Western Muslimah are bad and we aren't all the same.

@im_mzj 2 ай бұрын

@shimmer4771 Faiyad's videos are not going to cause fitnah[he at least provides quran & hadith as reference], the fitnah has already found its place because a minority of muslims who think they pick and choose whatever is islamic according to them, which in effect affects the muslim men and women who are actually serious about their Deen.

@im_mzj 2 ай бұрын

@shimmer4771 these tiktok influencer muslims who are a minority are causing so much fitnah it's harming the brothers and sisters who are serious about the Deen. Hence why you getting muslims staying away from Divorcees , single mothers, widow, getting crazy mahr, people choosing zinah over marriage etc

@shahadomar8680 2 ай бұрын

4:35 theres nothing wrong with being aware of yourself financially and theres nothing wrong with a woman being independent. I dont see how her saying this, is cosindered to be encoruging women to be against her husband for some reason. her husband isnt her property over her. he has his own rights and he full fills hers. Her money is her own, its her property not his, she is allowed to do whatever she wants with it.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

He never said its wrong to be aware of yourself financially, but is it shame for woman to not be financially independent? Why do women shame other women if they are dependent on their husbands or fathers? Why does women feel like being dependent is an insult?

@firdowsjohnson5766 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519when did they shame other woman? I watched the clip and didn’t see her anywhere saying that dependent muslim woman were bad. If a woman is in a dependent marriage and happy and worryfree then Alhamdulillah .

@shahadomar8680 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519 she didnt shame other dependent women, she just adviced women on being independent and financially aware. Theres a diffrence between these two things. Stop putting words in her mouth. And its not about If its an insult or not, independents is important in this day in age.

@fatumahussein9604 2 ай бұрын

@@firdowsjohnson5766exactly and that’s how it’s SUPPOSED to be!

@fatumahussein9604 2 ай бұрын

The sheikhs and scholars already talk about this kind of stuff we don’t need Muslim women posting themselves online talking about their opinions and acting like non Muslims!! We follow the QURAN and SUNNAH and if Muslims followed Islam properly none of the is would happen!!

@sergio0458 2 ай бұрын

Wallahi bro, pursue Islamic knowledge. This is a mistake I regretted after 1 year being a Muslim revert. Read Quran, even if it's 1 page a day and the tafsir of the Quran, preferably Tafsir Al Jalalayn for beginners. Then follow the Sunnah- start by reading the 40 ahadith of An nawawi and riyad as saliheen and then Sahih Bukhari. I hope this helps. Barak Allah feekum.

@surayyahm1922 2 ай бұрын

It’s sad how men talk about things they have no personal experience with. An intelligent man would want their wife to be financially educated and have money or a way to support herself no matter what happens. Be it divorce or death. I’ve been married for 15 years and have 4 children, that I sacrificed establishing any type of financial security. It is horrible to be completely subjugated to a man’s whims, and desires and be powerless if he decides he wants a divorce. After you have sacrificed your youth and ability to make an income . A woman should have her own personal finances be it a retirement, savings, or investments. Unfortunately most people are not wealthy and can’t afford to have a husband put together these things. What these women are talking about has nothing to do with being one foot in one foot out. Just ask a woman in her 40’s about how it feels, out side of her children what she has to maintain her self if anything happens to her husband or marriage. Islam is beautiful. The unfortunate truth is we don’t live in societies where a woman can be cared for if her marriage fails. Therefore women do need to be financially educated and have money and assets of her own. I don’t understand why men have such a big problem with women having financial security.

@soob9178 2 ай бұрын

Men don't have a problem with women making money. The problem arises when this "financial security" is prioritized over raising children and building a family and is motivated out of fear. Most men are okay with women having their own businesses, working from home as long as they have time for him and the children and they work in a halal environment. There are so many options nowadays to make money without stepping a foot out the door. Her male mahrams should be the ones taking care of her in case of a divorce.

@okolollolo 2 ай бұрын

@@soob9178 and you want her to live as a burden with her male mahrams afterwards? forever humiliated ! You guys would certainly prefer that women die the moment they divorce or cease to exist hhhhhhhhhhhhh ew

@luphuong5239 2 ай бұрын

What are you talking about ? The world is gynocentric

@faizaadam3605 2 ай бұрын

“Male mahrams should take care of the woman in case of a divorce” this a nice statement but in todays society this is no longer the case, especially for Muslims who live in the west. Men nowadays do not even support their children financially after a divorce and majority of the times the woman will be responsible for them in case of a divorce. Nowadays it has become so easy for men to give up their own responsibilities, so women need to think about this as well. Let’s not forget that the woman has got more to lose than the man after a divorce. So yes we definitely need to protect ourselves but doesn’t mean we are creating ourselves problems. This can be tackled in so many ways without negatively affecting the family (children and husband).

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

No one cares about women wanting financial security. The problem is the pursuit of this causes them to care more about career/money than raising a family. It’s why day by day we are more divided and the GOOD men out there are “going their own way.”

@Sarah00787 2 ай бұрын

Stop Ai-ing your face. Then we can talk

@iamsalama 2 ай бұрын

I have a GO bag….in case there is a fire 🔥

@misslink783 2 ай бұрын

Coming from experience; I have some point and I do agree with you Faiyad, largely but I have some critisims. 1. Fathers are failing - this is outside the muslim world. Zina everywhere and Men not being hold accountable are creating broken homes and broken women. Women need to guard themselves too! Accountablity to both. 2. Men and not 'men' at the moment. Women are becoming less trusting because men aren't menning. Men are becoming femminine or indulging in haram (Corn) or becoming financially selfish etc... which does make them less trusting. 3. Feminism. Even if men and being 'men', 'toxic' femminism is shining those men as possessive or abusive. 4. Marriage is suppose to be teamwork. Men need to be 'Men' and need to be calm and clear minded to make women trust them. And then Women need to trust these men and listen to them. In regards to finance. Women should be educated (entirely and this is possible with kids, I did it!) and well educated in finance. Islam clearly sites learning, continous learning and does not limit this to men. And women maintain the home, a part of this is finance! In regards to keep savings, I agree with this... not a 'to go bag' but a 'rainy day' fund which can also go towards your husband/children/family. Not all men will finance their children and ex-wives, so yes, women need to be competent to financially support themselves until they get re-married or if they don't remarry (or if they never marry in the first place). Women need to have savings (like men) and women need to be educated and financially competent, but this should not effect the home and marriage.

@yazuka2023 2 ай бұрын

instead of talking about Gaza and j ihad u are here commenting on a nobody harmless tiktok woman bruuh

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

She isn’t harmless lol, her tiktok is influencing many women in a bad way

@Ms.4ever33 Ай бұрын

"Misery vulture." 😏. What was so wrong in what she said? Many women are exactly like she described...fully trusting their husbands to take care of them financially. Unfortunately some women will be blindsided when he walks out on her or decides he would rather watch movies all day than work. Protect yourselves sisters. No grown woman should be broke and fully depending on a man. And if you are a stay at joke mother, make sure you're setting some money aside for yourself.

@Nadia-wo2sx 2 ай бұрын

You clearly did not listen to understand her, being financially literate is important for women period why not know the finances in ur house and have your own money

@FernandoTorrera 2 ай бұрын

PsA every person on this planet should have a go bag. I don’t have a go bag but I have important things that are easy to reach in case I have to run. However everyone should have a go bag or have stuff ready to grab in case of an extreme weather event. I grew up dealing with flooding and tropical storms. So I have jugs of fresh water, canned food, survival light, and my legal documents are sealed in plastic. Everyone should have a go bag

@thf_ 2 ай бұрын

Faiyad, u would be surprised on how many people say: take care of marrying reverts, someone that I know his wife left him and run away with the kids… etc etc etc

@shadowguy6737 2 ай бұрын

Because 70% of there time its there problem and the one who caused the separation some of them are affected by feminism or some of them dont trust there husbands or some of them hate there husbands for stupid reasons, that doesn’t make men innocent because 70% of there times is also there problem because they either they don’t fully commit or they dont lower there gaze therefore losing interest in there wives or they believe in the myth of having freedom in marriage which is the worst myth a men can believe, bad friends also influence both by corrupting there minds and giving them terrible advices, in all honesty both of them cause problem equally and we need to learn from there mistakes and follow rules of sharia to protect ourselves from these corruption and terrible choices

@user-wu3rn3zj8x 2 ай бұрын

I do not understand why financial independance is so threatening to some men . The only way to explain it is that they want slaves not wives.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

No but most women don’t need to be financially independent and get jobs, its like a men having multiple wives and concubines at the same time, it is unnecessary A woman always has a man to take care of her financially, if her husband isn’t there, then her son if he can, if he is young then its her father, if her father isn’t there, then her brothers, if non of her brothers are there, then her uncles, if none of her uncles are there, then her grandfather, if he isn’t there then her maternal uncles, if they aren’t there then her maternal grand parent You see, less than 0.0001% of women would lose all of those

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Just like how most women view their husbands having a second wife threatening

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

What a stupid and simplistic way to see things.

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519if concubinage was still a thing, I can say that most men today wouldn’t get married cause it’s not worth it 😂 The enemies of Islam knew who to target and they’ve done a lot of damage. We can see it today with all the gender wars.

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519not all women have sons. There's revert sisters who have no family and their husbands have died, leaving them with nothing.

@Azizullah95th 2 ай бұрын

#PODCAST excited for it. May Allah protect healthy muslim and non-muslim's relationships from bad advices that turns them against each other ameen.

@teetee-zq3og 2 ай бұрын

4:58 “who told her to do that in the first place “ LMFAOAO

@meshumi1 2 ай бұрын

Dude. Her husband cheated on her. I’m glad she had some protections in place to start a new life after her divorce.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Yes but she said “must” as if her family and relatives don’t exist?

@Kyoku-pr1fw 2 ай бұрын

Perosnally i haev experienced this my mother built her own business and my father soon after jumped in and began helping her and my mother trusted my father and gave him full access and ownership fo the business only to realize that my father then started to use it against her and started to thing too highly of himself, so its not unislamic to have seprate accounts i would say its more convient knowing your own funds and even most scholars advice women to keep seprate bank accounts and be prepared you never know when someone changes their mind and in todays era financial independence is crucial to surive

@soob9178 2 ай бұрын

It's understandable to have financial literacy to a degree and some sort of fall back. But often times creating that fall back plan comes at the expense of a healthy marriage and the frame flips from building a healthy marriage to what if he divorces me, does this, that, etc. People may not like to hear this but often times it is motivated by fear and mistrust, rather than pragmatism, they just won't admit it. To me it is the hypocrisy of certain women. These women talk about financial security for women. But when it comes to men wanting to sign a pre-nup, putting a house that he paid for in his name, basically financial security for men, they balk at the notion. It is somewhat understandable esp if the women helped the man to also have the house in her name too as they want to feel secure in a home. However they have no answer to women abusing the courts to force the man pay alimony, taking assets that aren't rightfully hers, etc. Or them using the courts to prevent the fathers from seeing children. It's like they can't even fathom or even acknowledge how at risk men can be and are just like 🤷‍♀🤷‍♀as if we shouldn't protect ourselves and should just accept it. It's like they are mentally incapable or can't even fathom men being abused because of the notion that it is the patriarchy and that all abusers are men in a relationship. If women want to talk about security and financial independence, two can play at that game. Men should then demand to go 50/50 because what if the wife divorces him and forces alimony on him. Men should reduce spending on his wife and instead use that money for a safety net and park that money overseas or leave that money with his mom (i.e: Hakiminomics). Men should pursue a second wife to fulfill his desires because what if his first wife doesn't provide this? They can't have their cake and eat it too. But of course women don't want this. But this is the implication of what they are suggesting. A man is giving up his rights by allowing the woman to work if he is well equipped to provide for the both of them and she pockets it all.

@Kepler10b 2 ай бұрын

I'd like to meet some of these women because I certainly don't think like that. I'm all for men protecting themselves financially too. If I'm allowed to work I don't need a penny from my husband after divorce.

@soob9178 2 ай бұрын

@@Kepler10b well they exist, of course not everybody thinks like that but many that do.

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

Prenups aren't allowed in Islam. Secondly, these women need a backup plan if all else fails.

@fatumahussein9604 2 ай бұрын

@@shimmer4771exactly 👏🏽💯

@shamina2000 2 ай бұрын

Clicked on the video so fast. I’m excited for your new podcast 🔥

@Abdur-Rahman862 2 ай бұрын

Where are his podcasts uploaded?

@fusion.s242 2 ай бұрын

@@Abdur-Rahman862 they havent come out yet he just said hes gonna be releasing them soon

@missa2302 2 ай бұрын

Faiyed. I really wished you'd be this channel that gives the right and correct info regardless of red pill stuff. this one channel that does not stick to the red pill idea of completely canceling the woman identity and having her whole life controlled by the man and gorget all about what the prophet said. You tend to forget how he instructed us to be our ownselves while living in harmoney. What the women said is not "haram" and its a good advice. Most of it is correct according to Islam. Women need to protect themselves, there is no "one foot in and one out" If a man does you dirty then there is no helping yourself if u had no back ip, and are completely dependant on him. In Islam a woman's money is her money. No one is an angel. Men are certainly aren't. Of course not all but only stupid people trust other human 100% if a person is ok cheeting god why would he not be ok cheating u. Of course do not live in fear and not trust your partner but be smart and have a plan b. You can NEVER knkw what a person is capable of. Your advice is very harmful for women especially when u know how the world can be really cruel to divorced women .why on earth would u make seem haram for women to protect themselves just in case. Please come back to Allah brother and stop this nonesense

@OrangeMilkBlossom 2 ай бұрын

Assalamu alaykum brother, The advise given by the sister still stands. In fact, a man has no right over his wife's finances and some sheyookh (e.g. Shaykh Assim Al Hakeem, a student of knowledge, may Allaah bless him) go as far as saying that the man has no right to even seeing her finances (savings, income etc.). Also, a woman should be educated on financial literacy etc. It's a basic life skill.

@durdurdikir4021 2 ай бұрын

Husband and wife are Partners in life no one is submitting to any Creation...Be independent and fulfill their rights and your rights✅️✅️

@samatarilyas2953 2 ай бұрын

In islam the wife should submit to her husband in what is permissible. Don't bring this western perspective her.

@durdurdikir4021 2 ай бұрын

@samatarilyas2953 No is Shirk...ALLAH Almighty Declares in Holy Quran...That Submission is To Him alone...STOP Your Misunderstanding🚫

@sheblanga024 2 ай бұрын

@@samatarilyas2953 you are right about this, trying to put western perspectives in muslim people's lives is the reason why all of these problems even exsting

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

its more he is the boss, not partners.

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

@@durdurdikir4021 ok but women still should obey their husbands with what doesn’t anger allah SWT

@nxronite9994 2 ай бұрын

May Allah bless you brother for the work you are doing. It’s nice to see a sane Muslim brother saying it how it is with backing from Quran and Sunnah. May Allah guide us all and protect us from the modern day liberal fitnah.

@jummagaming6133 2 ай бұрын

Jazakallah khair brother for aware us from that type of fitnah Alhamdulillah still in my country feminism fitnah not enter. But that all come from western and European people.

@IBNmuslimeen158 2 ай бұрын

Bro she's divorced for a reason lol 😂😂😂😂 0:21

@themorocstar 2 ай бұрын

I cant wait for this podcast to launch inshAllah

@X266. 2 ай бұрын

The truth is what suits me may not suit another woman so when you have a problem try to solve it without listening to women who think they became marriage consultants just because they divorced their husbands!

@mcshlushies7179 2 ай бұрын

This is why I don’t use TikTok and Instagram, messes with my deen

@toikan526 2 ай бұрын

I disagree with you , i didnt you didnt get her point , is it haram to talke about one specific case and the solution for it ? Does Allah want us to wait intill we experience misery ourselves unstead of learning of other's experience , she was talking about her experience what she learned in that specific case and its right in islam is it haram to work if your husband dont provide and act bad ? What do you expect ? She divorce and wait for another man and how ? Are you thinking about the issue here or just pointing on the haram and what may be haram of her doing ? ...the issue here is when a man act like he is the creator and start control you like a slave in a marriage there isnt leadership or whatever we have duties men have responsabilties and women too , they both follow the commands of Allah SAW but when you start acting like you are superior and you fail as a husband dont expect from her to wait 20 y to see if you can change a single life is worth more than a the one that you share with a bad person that make you doubts you religion given how bad they use their rights and how it make you feel low...so yeah in her case lets not doubt the truth of what she is saying about how bad he was to her then what ? What is haram in this case ? In 2024 when its hard to get married to a man who will treat you well care for you respect you and font make you feel like your place is the kitchen dont dmnd more unstead of cherishing you and ask you about your personal need as if you were his queen even if he is broke bruh or having a problem a man with those values will make you fight with him cause you know how genuinely he treat you well and care for you in his good time and try in his bad time so will stay even if it mean go to work for him .

@thegirl30 2 ай бұрын

If you need to leave a marriage of course you have to be prepared to do that. Have a halal income. But don't look for excuses to leave the marriage for nothing.

@jubei3219 2 ай бұрын

Saying you should get a job in case your husband dies is the same as a man saying he wants to marry a second wife in case his first dies.... you see where that type of logic will lead you? Life isn't black and white maybe the wife will work because the husband lost his job or is injured. Yet if your husband is providing for you the basic necessities (housing, food, clothing etc) and then you go to work because of the "just in case rule" then you really don't understand faith and trust in Allah. If Allah has blessed you to be a stay at home wife, then appreciate it and be grateful because chasing that bag might lead you to fall in a deep hole.

@Braveservantofficial Ай бұрын

Brother, what happened to the 3 Muslim podcast

@rachidoumal4889 2 ай бұрын

Salam aleykoum brother , Nice vidéo ! A genuine notice at 1:38 the soundtrack is made with an musical instruments that i forgot the name

@user-tk6em1lx4p 2 ай бұрын

Nothing wrong in keeping her money

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

Most of the comments are literally *“every woman must be financially independent, what if her husband died”* In islam you will very very unlikely need to even have money as woman, if you want to have it, then call it a want, and not a need Because if her husband left her, Islamically he still has to pay for the children, if he is no longer there, then her father should take care of her, if he isn’t there, then her brothers then her uncles then her grandfathers And the children will be taken care of financially by the paternal uncles or grandfather Literally she will never need to have a financial plan

@nissa4644 2 ай бұрын

in Islam yes, but not with muslims.

@zaze8376 2 ай бұрын

And what If her father and brother aren't able to finance her? What If she has nobody? So it is better to be finacial independet with having a halsl job

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

@@zaze8376 if they aren’t able then they should become able, what are you talking about?

@shimmer4771 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519you have no idea. In an ideal world, everyone would do as Allah told us. However, this isn't always the case. There's men who aren't responsible, period and they refuse to be. Please, don't assume that it's that easy. There are also cases of the husband losing his job, illness, injury, and numerous other cases. You never know.

@zaze8376 2 ай бұрын

@@cyberyousef7519 What an ignorant mindset. There are many women who are able to earn money on their own. It is a financial burden for relatives, they have their own family and children. I even would not accept to get money from them and live under the same roof. And beside this, not every woman has a rich Arab family in the gulf state. Where is the problem If a full grown, healthy woman can earn her own money in a halal way to be finacially independent from her relatives? Why should I stay at home and be a burden for them? And Alhamdulillah I live in a country where ppl and especially women who aren't able to work and have kids get financial help from social welfare. This should be in every Muslim country.

@halilradoncic6395 2 ай бұрын

Teasing me with a trailer has got to be haram

@passportheavy5505 2 ай бұрын

So women saying it inside to be independent, in case divorce happens is wrong now.

@fatumahussein9604 2 ай бұрын

And the life of this world is nothing but play and Amusement (6:32)

@wawaweewa9159 2 ай бұрын

You need ask a lot of questions b4 marrying a person, also be qeary of someone who is being vague

@MrRazorronin 2 ай бұрын

The chipmunk voice has to be a regular going forward.

@Displaced_person 2 ай бұрын

Where is the podcast link?

@ChromeMan04 2 ай бұрын

I’d never take marriage advice from a woman lol

@JEAGERlST 2 ай бұрын

I dont think misery vultures deserve sympathy, the same way red pill and mgtow dont deserve so.

@okolollolo 2 ай бұрын

don't u think this guy is a red pill mgtow influencer literally?

@cyberyousef7519 2 ай бұрын

@@okolollolo no he isn’t If you want to see a real red pill guy then search about “fresh and fit”

@nor7435 2 ай бұрын

funny your name is jaegerist from attack titan. Muslims are described as Eldian’s. Islams history is of war and submission of the sword. Eventually the Christian work together and stopped the Islamic invasion with the crusades. Now Islam tries to erase its orgin ( no proof of muhammed existing historically/archaeologically) and rewrites history with Hadiths. The wolrd push you to a corner because we know the truth of your barbaric religion. Now you have terr*rist organizations like al-Q*eda, Is*s, H*mas! They are not radicals they are actually following what islam says to do, everyone else doesn’t fully follow Islam. You want to j*had all unbelievers and either way pay blo*d tax or we get the sword. Just like Eldians, they are inherently Monsters. conquer the world through Titans (sword), the eldian king went back to paradise with the push back of the Marleyans (crusaders), and erased Eldians memory (uthman burning 10 different Quran) loosing the truth of their origins. Now the eldians is mad at the rest of the world separating eldians, so the JAEGERIST is created (Terr*rist) calling for the death of 80% of the word(j*had). Oh the irony!

@user-vy6oi2wg4c 2 ай бұрын

But what can we do for the feminism filled generation of women. Some of us are on the sides looking at such women. their time is running out. Islam will stand and win.