Why are people with ADHD so Emotionally Sensitive?

[@adhdvision]

Hello Friends, I hope you enjoy this weeks episode on hypersensitivity. Here is a quick overview of the different sections: 00:00 - What is Hypersensitivity 2:35 - Where does Hypersensivity come from 4:56 - How you work with it Enjoy and let me know what your experiences with hypersensivity are down below!

[@breakfreewithlauren]

You forgot 1:59 cute rabbits lol. ❤

[@elizabethkelsey8087]

For me personally, the emotional/mood/hypersensitivty issues are by far the worst thing I deal with as an ADHDer. I'm convinced that as a woman, hormone fluctuations make it a ton worse. RSD is also a nightmare from hell, especially when life throws at us say a break up or some form of a major rejection. The anxiety is also nightmarish too. I can take the distraction issues I deal with, but the emotional ones are flat out torture.

[@VivSees]

Yup! Wait till you hit menopause - you’ll literally feel like you’re losing your mind.

[@Laura-zc3ee]

​@@VivSeesI am pre right now and it's hell the week before and during my period do you have any tips? Thank you

[@Dancestar1981]

It’s huge and if you are a woman who has a dual diagnosis of ASD and combined ADHD and happen to be perimenapausal it’s even worse

[@elizabethkelsey8087]

@@Dancestar1981 I’m in that boat right now!

[@Dancestar1981]

@@Laura-zc3eethe first few days of your cycle don’t make any important decisions this is the time to hibernate and focus on self care as our energy levels hit rock bottom. Further along in the cycle when you are more energetic you will cope better with the normal every day stressors if you have work arounds in place to protect yourself from the negative effects of emotional disregulation and the struggles with executive functioning

[@Aestareth_]

Anyone else lived their life with ADHD and purposefully numbed their emotions to be more normal ?

[@ricoender8020]

Yes. When you lived with a controlling parent, hyper emotional mother who dumped all their problems and issues on you and an autistic brother who becomes out of control when severely depressed, yes you learn to do it so well at times you have a difficult time expressing and relating to others. Making connections with others is the most difficult at times. But I've managed to where I'm functional with an established network of a few close friends.

[@SiddhiChaukate]

Yes I'm experiencing it currently it's so hard when you're in a University and everyone around is neurotypical and seem to do everything so well with everyday interactions and studies I try to act normal around those people so that I don't get rejected but it's hard hiding your true self

[@TocYounger]

​@@SiddhiChaukatehave you connected with the access and Inclusion department of your university? Assuming you're in North America, or somewhere else where that's a thing? My university runs a few things through that department specifically geared towards connecting students with, among other things, adhd. I haven't checked it out personally because I'm a lot older than most others at university, but I keep getting emails about it. You sound like exactly the type of student that these things were made to help. Remember, you pay a lot of money, so make sure to take advantage of all the services that are available. Also, trite though it may sound, don't be afraid to ask for help. There are people whose literal job is to help you out with these sorts of things and, in my experience, they tend to like doing it. Good luck!

[@RevolutionGamingShorts]

i sat here crying watching your videos because i realized that my parents let me down my entire life. I'm 30 and am just realizing that i need to get tested for ADHD and am not just a lazy piece of shit.

[@DarkKittenx]

They didn't let you down 🥰 they just didn't know. My heart goes out to you for your struggles. I've gone through the same recently but only when I finally realised not only do these symptoms actually fully relate to me (48 years old and just diagnosed 12 days ago) but also to my 19 year old daughter who has struggled for most of her life. As a parent I feel devastated that I've only just learnt about this. I feel let down by schools and doctors.

[@overthehedge7591]

Darn, i feel you. My mom doesn't believe that adhd even exists but im also scared to tell my dad... oof

[@nonyobisniss7928]

@@DarkKittenx I typed this so am going to send it, but try not to take it personally, I just wanted to vent my feelings on the issue. Parents are a let down in general. Many are completely unable to admit they were wrong and accept responsibility for the harm they caused their children. If they did admit it there would be huge guilt involved, and rightly so, so it's easy to understand why parents recoil from the truth. Some parents mistreat their children, constantly judge them, even if they hold their tongue some of the time, and allow their child to lose all self esteem and feel they are a bad person as a result. It can lead to self harm. Yes there are many parties who should be blamed. The health and school services which do not perform outreach and education but wait for parents and the child to seek help when the parent and child probably do not even know what ADHD means. The same services failing to diagnose people who do seek help correctly. It's very hard for the parents and the child, but children rely on their parents to spot their issues and help them with them. Kids with ADHD are particularly vulnerable because many aren't able to trust anyone after years of mistreatment, and have lost all hope if they had any to begin with. A symptom some people have is a fixed mindset, where they don't even recognise they can change or be helped. I'm happy for you that you and your daughter were diagnosed finally, and I don't think you should feel bad for your ignorance, but part of your job as a parent is to figure out what issues your children are facing and help them with those issues. Nobody's perfect, and you've done better than many parents to figure this out at all, and absolutely you've been failed by schools and doctors. The reason I'm sending this is just because I do feel my parents let me down also, and I don't think pleading ignorance is a great excuse, but if you were misled by doctors and the school then it is you that were failed.

[@kerryhitzke4490]

Unfortunately, 30 yrs agoADHD wasn’t a thing. Parents need to be prompted by teachers, doctors etc to get children assessed. It is a,so genetic….so at least one of your parents had it without knowing. This is a difficult time for you all. The same thing has happened with my family. We’re lucky in that we found someone to teach us. I hope you find peace and acceptance.

[@nishantyadav8184]

Hey society was generally happier and less competitive earlier. But now people aren't content with average life achievements. They need more and more.

[@Abc123z1000]

When I was a kid, my sister repeatedly told me I was sensitive and to this day, whenever someone calls me sensitive or asks why I'm "so sensitive", I get easily overwhelmed by anger and it's so hard to stay calm when this happens. I wish I was diagnosed earlier than 21 or maybe just didn't have it at all, but imagining a life without ADHD seems impossible because it's all I've ever known.

[@janpetsch620]

Yes, this is soo me. And I don't have any friends who are fellow ADHD so most folk, especially my sister get frustrated with me.

[@maxgill2594]

I just want to know why everything hurts so much, as I’ve gotten older it feels more and more like nobody loves me or cares about me and now I want to blame it on adhd but it still doesn’t help much

[@adhdvision]

Hey Max, im really sorry to hear that. ADHD can make you a lot more sensitive but it's important to realize that it this is not the reality of other people. I am sure there are people that love and care about you. Stay strong🙏

[@maxgill2594]

@@adhdvision thank you so much! I think I’m starting to realize that

[@rwitt3vloggs]

I feel you man. Been there too... Just keep your head up. nothing to be ashamed of, you are who you are and you should be proud of that (-:

[@maxgill2594]

@@rwitt3vloggs I love the community on here, thank you!

[@boyfmbalcatta]

As one who has being diagnosed with 'top level' adhd in my 30's (now 64), the doctors were astounded that I had no police record, did not smoke or take illicit drugs, no points off my driving licence and was (still) married to my wife. On top of that they told me I was clinically depressed, probably from infancy! I was hospitalised for the 9 months at birth, wasn't expected to live, did with a limited life expectancy (which I have missed), as well as supposedly having had TB and smallpox whilst in hospital (records lost), orphaned and adopted at 3! Where does leave me, as a failure to the perceptions of what an adhd clinically depressed person should be - ie where you start does not necessarily mean what you can achieve or who you can be. Warrior Grey!

[@tammymiller9773]

Great video. 56 yo female. Hopefully getting diagnosed formally very soon. Just found out I 99% track with ADHD and it gives me a road to forgive myself for so many "failures" in my life...

[@takeajillpillfoo]

Love what you are saying, but as someone with adhd…the music in the background is so distracting…

[@abikhavenga]

I related to this video so much. I also have intense guilt around my grades and entire school life because methods of learning that work for my peers often just don’t work for me.

[@smallofferings]

Thank you for this! I only very recently realised I had ADHD and it’s been quite a revelation. I really recognised myself in this video - especially the bit about being hyper aware of other people’s tone of voice. That alone has caused a lot of marital stress when I had no understanding of what was going on for me. Anyway, your videos are helping me to see myself in a more positive light, so thanks again!

[@adhdvision]

Thats amazing, I am so glad that the video was able to help you! Yea the tone of voice thing is also a big one for me..🙏

[@smallofferings]

ADHD Vision the more I learn the more I see. It only dawned on me 3 weeks ago that my Dad had undiagnosed ADHD and then very very quickly I realised I did too. I’m 54 btw, so there’s been a fair bit of struggle. A week later we realised my husband is ADHD too, though a different sub type. That said even though there are things I could cheerfully live without, like being so sensitive to tones of voice, a short temper, excruciating shame and so on, I feel for the first time like I fully own who I am and if that is also the reason I am so sensitive to beauty, feel so much joy at even little things and get to bounce around with excitement before a holiday, I think I can accept them. Sorry, I’m spilling all over the place at them moment! Anyway, thanks again for what you do - it’s important.

[@BENIS8D]

The hardest part for me is not gettin stuck in old anxiety patterns, and also knowing what my own boundaries are. Great video tho!

[@adhdvision]

Definitelly true. Our patterns often come back to haunt us, which is why we have to try to completely break out of them. Good Luck and THANK YOU :)

[@ams20518]

I never realized hypersensitivity also included sensitive to emotions!

[@RissaNaomi]

My boyfriend is on a vacation without me right now, im literally crying my eyes out

[@Willy-db3rf]

Does being a adrenaline seeker have anything to do with ADHD? Your video helped me understand myself better. Appreciate it

[@adhdvision]

Definitelly, we can be very risk taking people 😁

[@ams20518]

Dopamine too!

[@vladkagreen1824]

I love to drive really fast!

[@kgbreviews35]

Medication can help with impulstivity part of ADHD. This can help prevent emotional outburst. The overeation to that we have without thinking. Is not going ti be fixed by mediation alone.. Medication and mediation along with having a support network. Will take a person with adhd along ways..

[@ajaym6795]

The amount of KZbinrs who try to convince us that ADHD is a superpower is insane. If you really had ADHD and want to be better, you wouldn't be saying that. You would know how hindering it is. Everyone wants to be associated with something these days.

[@K9monos]

I think is hindering because school systems teach for one form of intelligence (neurotypical). Someone said to me, “ The reason I pass the tests is because the person who made them thinks the way I do”… Imagine if the tests were adapted for ADHDers like us! Like I read in a ADHD book, “ Imagine if the MSD 5 was defined by people with ADHD! It would be a funny circus book!” (Something to that effect)…

[@michaelhogan2256]

Please do a video about micro dosing thc and cbd in service of managing some of the problems w/ ADHD. I have found it very helpful. It mellows my reactivity and greatly improves my motivation to get things done. I am NOT a fan of getting “high” but a little elevation has been positivity noticed by my wife and others around me. I ❤ most of my ADHD but can definitely do without feeling triggered as much as I do sometimes.

[@annaletts6182]

This video is good but it focuses on boys and men with ADHD and also the hyperactive subtype. I'm interested to understand how emotional sensitivity presents in girls and women (culturally we are not 'allowed' to have temper outbursts like men are) and inattentive subtypes. Could you do a video on that?

[@SiddhiChaukate]

Yes I would also love to see that video too as a girl with inattentive ADHD I agree that we girls often keep it all inside unlike boys who have outbursts

[@jacobekker]

This should be a podcast instead of a festival of cringy stock images/videos.

[@taracannon2458]

Ohhh my goodness I just made a video about this but you explained it sooooo much better, you laid everything out so cohesively and well- you sure you have ADHD? 😂 Kidding, you have an instant subscription from me!

[@adhdvision]

Thanks! You had me in the first half not gonna lie😉

[@vladkagreen1824]

I am 58, on antidepressants for 30 years, countless therapies and few psychiatrists and still not diagnosed.

[@barbaradouglas2283]

I’ve just about finished my thoughts & got deleted! Shit! Yeah u heard it! Was trying to type out my personal experiences with my personal experiences with ADHD! Now a church member has been watching me quietly & has seen me experience emotional dysregulation. Can’t control myself very well & cry 😢 quite a bit! It’s like experiencing Niagara Falls. Another church member has herself started that she doesn’t really believe that I’m really experiencing what I say that I am. She’s expressed irritation & anger & annoyance in a way that I’m aware that she’s frustrated I think just being around me. I’m literally heartbroken 😞😭can’t stand this life experience! I’m considering seeing if I can get MAID this coming yr, 2023. A few church members are aware & might try to talk me out of this move due to its serious implications. Anyway before I get knocked off here I’d better sign off for now 👋

[@ritatownsend7408]

It’s been a year. I hope you are okay.

[@MikaFox-k5z]

I have ADHD & i do notice mood swings that i can control.

[@pgpluss1076]

Now add chronic depression

[@leprot.h7887]

I don't know If it's normal to be sensitive in some not important situations like videos movies, and be insensitive to real life situations like death,or it not ADHD that I have ?

[@Picla_Peremohy]

Agreed

[@varuningole]

2:02 did you use the thumbnail from Olympic Ayres-Magic i love that song :)

[@doe9000]

writting a nuerotypical character is weirdly hard as someone with ADHD. I know that others dont just jump from one emotion to the next so i cant just write them like that when i want to protray someone without a disorder. But since i dont talk to people, i have no idea how other's shift emotion, so its hard to write normal people.

[@momione11]

Ditio.❤

[@jakeku2662]

Intense positive emotions? I don't have any positive emotions. Not being angry or sad is the emotional high watermark.

[@simonefisher4881]

Parties, music , clubs, dancing, that is what I use. There are socials for older people

[@andredarden7052]

It's funny that they can be emotionally sensitive yet can lack empathy for what they do. I'm in a relationship with one and it can be draining.

[@undertheriverstone]

Yes exactly, I've also noticed a tendency to self-centredness. There is this common AD(H)D trait of speaking out in the face of injustice (defending friends, etc), and yet there also seems to be some kind of over-preoccupation with our own moods/perceptions/outbursts/hyperfocus and mental dreaminess that seem to lower our ability to meet another person's needs, or see how our behaviour impacts others, etc. (This is one of the things I find incredibly difficult in autistic people.) Due to my own blindness, I've noticed mostly in others, of course!

[@Flowers0603]

@@undertheriverstoneliterally me😭

[@undertheriverstone]

@@Flowers0603 and even more confusing, people with AD(H)D are more susceptible to personality disorders 😭

[@aj010139]

can anyone tell me if taking the ADHD meds help with being mindfulness practice? Trying to start the habit but it is very very difficult to regulate my emotions and stick to a daily structure. Thanks

[@nsawatchlistbait289]

I need to quit my job bro

[@pgpluss1076]

Only 10% then why does everyone say they're adhd

[@غاضب-ك4س]

والله لأصمل

[@editinglearn4395]

Why theres no cure for this?

[@chriscros13]

I know :(

[@Bolshoytsheburek]

Well, good medication, meditation and doing regular sports helps me a lot.

[@editinglearn4395]

@@Bolshoytsheburek same i do calisthenics but my mood swing affect my motivation

[@Bolshoytsheburek]

@@editinglearn4395 me either tho. That’s why I landed here lol 🤦🏻 but don’t let us only on it. Those situations in this period of Covid has also a lot of affect on us all.

[@warriorqueen8285]

Of course but they won't share it they WANT us like this and giving it to us via vaccines since birth

[@Tom-vq2hw]

Thank you for the rabbits

[@turq0isehe4rt]

Hello, do you know if having RSD could lead a guy to playing mind games to the girl he loves? The girl rejected his indirect advances because of his past of being a player. He is currently ignoring her texts and dms after meeting her about 2 weeks ago but has been watching her ig stories timely one week ago(based on the first story posted and would watch it all in one go once a day). She has not been on ig for going 3 days now as she refuses to entertain the mind games. She really cares and has deep feelings for him but dont want to entertain the mind games. She is really understanding and would want to work through the ADHD issues with him but how long or what should she do when he's shutting her out like that? Just let him be? Disappear on him? Or keep showing that she wont leave him eventhough previously she's been rejecting him? She finally knows that she's ready and willing to accept him for who he is although the journey will be tough. She knows he is worth it now because he is the only one who could understand her in her silence, and that emotional connection is a rarity. Also, he looks like he is managing his symptoms better especially when he is with her because he remembers the smallest details about her having drifted apart for many years... able to know she is deep in thought when not many could discern that.. made her the most feel loved, safe and well understood. but his "wild reputation" when not with her is causing doubt to her....

[@kieron39]

Anecdotal evidence has shown that "mindfulness" can be an utter load of crap bordering on dangerous for the ADHD brain because it relies on the idea that you should be able to shut everything out and "quiet your mind". The more you try and do that the harder the ADHD brain will push to find a stimuli. AUM chanting could be a more effective alternative for some people.

[@lechatleblanc]

its almost like I can't imagine finding anyone that could just accept me .... i wish i could meet those people that i didnt have to mask for...ive become extremely good at masking, which is proly why im such a talented actor...

[@markmuller7962]

Can you add the new option to turn off the music?