Why BABY REINDEER Is Hauntingly PERFECT

[@BrainPilot]

Where is Baby Reindeer in your list of TV shows released this year? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

[@pattywolford]

Absolutely riveting, and yes perfect.

[@3lle272]

For me its 8th. It might change as the year goes on but its a great show.

[@DeepDiveintoMedia]

I know this show is gonna wreck me so I'm waiting until I'm in a comfortable place mentally, to start watching it

[@Kimurakev]

Best show I've seen this year. Reminds me of "Beef" from last year, but obviously much darker.

[@kimberlya9901]

Actually the woman's stalkers name is Fiona

[@readytoenditall]

I’ve lived the nightmare happening in episode 4. It was extremely triggering to watch but absolutely worth it. His speech at the end, when he talks about his shame and blaming himself and how he shouldn’t have gone back is just so spot on. But shame dies in the light, and the more we talk and share our stories the more we heal. This show has been so important to me and has helped me forgive myself a bit. I hope that it does the same for Richard and every other survivor watching.

[@weeklystruggle4205]

youre strong.

[@shwetaaaaaaaaaaaa]

"Shame dies in the light".. beautiful ❤

[@bluebird6300]

Same 😢

[@deepoole820]

For someone that wanted to be a comedian, he is a first class dramatic actor. I hope he wins awards for both writing and acting.

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah lets hope so!

[@starkman78]

It’s unfortunate that it took him almost being completely destroyed to discover where his true talents were. 😢

[@yully89]

As they say, drama is easy, comedy is hard

[@theamazingmouse2441]

Something I don’t see anyone talking about at all is that some of the camera shots in the episodes following an attack from Martha have you looking behind characters into hallways, windows, or doorways and you just kind of expect her to be there, stalking Donny. And that is super terrifying. 10/10 series.

[@Amateracu1991DFFOO]

Baby Reindeer is gonna be in the top 3 shows this year hands down. I started watching it when I went to bed a week ago and I found myself binging the whole thing.

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah there's nothing else like it at all!

[@t.n.h.ptheneohumanpatterna8334]

I find it too disgusting too watch like the scenes are way to graphic at times for the sake of shock value it reminds me of 13 reasons why and their unnecessary scenes for the sake of shocking you

[@ashrielreid7639]

​@t.n.h.ptheneohumanpatterna8334 " for the sake of shock value" ......question are you dumb? I need to know before I continue 🤔

[@flowerh691]

@@t.n.h.ptheneohumanpatterna8334i binged it as well it was so good but ngl i skipped the graphic scenes

[@yangasidziya3245]

I'm obsessed hahahaha I love it 😅

[@brunamagrini9014]

We learn that it is not only about stalking but trauma bonding. We know nothing about her past but learn everything about his, his journey to try to escape and how he remains trapped in the false comfort of abuse. Wow a masterpiece, not to mention the brilliant performances ❤

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah you're totally right! The performances were incredible

[@NN-re7cy]

Yes, episode 4 depicted the trauma bond flawlessly.

[@boagski]

False comfort of abuse? His willingness to be abused was sparked by a sense of comfort, boredom and arrogance.

[@WynnWynn-gl3fk]

Plus Teri and Donny trauma bonded

[@jesseelliot4804]

The part about him not reporting Martha without reporting his abuser I felt that a lot. Then the part when he told his parents what he was going through I felt that extra hard

[@elikerr785]

A lot of the topics in the show would usually turn me off, but they nailed it with this show. I knew nothing about it when I started it, and man It was Great! Such convincing acting as well.

[@angela.luntian]

the portrayal of everything is so real. the internalized homophobia, the downplaying, even the harrassment

[@BrainPilot]

Totally agree! The performances were just incredible!

[@thorscootzz8870]

​@@BrainPilot Lol dude This was 10000XX Better than helluva Boss even though I love that show so much. "Like a little Baby Reindeer" God, This show Was just Incredible..

[@ifubuildit]

Its a true story based off the real events that happened to the actor who plays the main character. Hes basically re-living tragedy. I was thinking to myself when he had the breakdown on stage "Damn, this guy is a great actor!!" Now I know why.

[@sheamcgrann1896]

His honesty with his masculinity is inspiring ❤

[@boagski]

He was not masculine enough to shutdown Martha with dignity. He instead lied and changed his own values to accommodate someone under the guise of pity. Also he was willing to sacrifice his morals for a chance at validating his ego. Also is too ashamed of his own preferences to acknowledge other peoples issues. What part was masculine?

[@hannardee]

@@boagski I think you got it exactly right. I'm not OP but I assume that's what they meant. How Richard became honest with his struggles with masculinity.

[@cutthelandline]

i've just about watched EVERY video essay about this show now lmao this show was so thought-provoking about what real life can look like

[@Liz-wz8dh]

This show is SO true to life that it was triggering.

[@ibn6437]

Can you suggest others

[@me-gx6gk]

I struggled to watch this and had to walk away a few times, this show hits home alot, and it made me cry and depressed for days. I loved this show, it raises awareness to alot of things people don't talk about, and that is what makes it a masterpiece

[@T_D_B_]

That's not what I look for in entertainment but glad you enjoyed it

[@me-gx6gk]

@@T_D_B_ plenty entertainment makes people uncomfortable, I did not know going in that I would relate to alot of things, he's a broken man who makes foolish decisions, he has almost no value for himself or anyone around him. He's dealing with demons no one knows about, this is why it made me upset. Alot of people loved this because it brings alot issues that are not talked about enough to the surface, not to mention the acting was great

[@gbeach85]

You sound weak

[@evansonhakeem]

No one can understand unless they have been through it. It's like mental illness or any condition, everyone feels differently. As well as feeling empathy and compassion for other people, no one is perfect and I feel absolute understanding for how he feels and even some compassion for her. This is unfiltered, unvarnished imperfect humans as we really are. I applaud and appreciate the bravery of this man. The story is compelling, well written, brilliantly acted, and directed perfectly. Watch this on your own or with a friend, you will need a box of tissues. This is exceptional and you will want to binge watch it.

[@hsanchezisidora]

It was so good, im so glad richard did not shy away from the reality of being a victim, even the ugly, confusing and self destructing parts of it. I think that's why it was so good, cause it touched in the real complexities of trauma

[@GangsterNerd1]

I agree. I see people in the comments say “he could have ended it quickly”. However trama isn’t a one size fits all. We all deal/cope with things differently.

[@Lkhrobertson]

I would argue that this film does enable one to essentially experience what is intended.

[@shikhashaw6393]

His statement about how he put himself into a situation to be abysed again so he can understand the first time was so heartbreaking and triggering. It touched the part of my heart which i had buried for so long. Not a lot of people talk about how trauma can make some people put on a path of self destruction and attract abuse only so they can make sense of what actually happened. As you said, it was hauntingly perfect. The most harrowing yet amazing showcase of his own story. ❤️

[@Ribbitplease]

Agreed. I had to listen to that part so many times because it resonated with me. Hope you’re better now. ❤

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

People do, but they tend to be women and so get criticised and shamed for it.

[@Sfb396]

A great fucking show. Richard Gadd deserves an award for his acting. Bloody amazing. PS best show of the year in my opinion sent from my iPhone

[@yangasidziya3245]

Sent from my iPhone 🤣🤣🤣

[@housefannn]

ilphun

[@Liz-wz8dh]

@@housefannn LOL

[@BlueMoonlight777]

Watched it yesterday. I mean I binged the whole thing.Thought okay this is no1 in the top ten. Must be good then. I ugly cried so hard when he told his parents about everything.

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah it was such a powerful watch!

[@SnowMexican96]

*SPOILER* When his dad asked 'Would you think of me as less of a man? I grew up in the Catholic church." Man I bawled.

[@SRHisntSilent]

Same!!! It was so heartbreaking and also bittersweet because they poured out support I'm resisting the urge to trauma dump rn Basically not everybody has supportive parents

[@aly4920]

Thank you for putting this show in my radar. The series is a masterpiece. Deserves all the praise.

[@jetlikethat5754]

i almost didn’t watch it because of the title but i’m glad that i did

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah it's definitely worth a watch!

[@henryong5856]

I think this show is so important especially to show how common Men get abused and have a hard time speaking about it and why. Speaking up about abuse should be made common practice and not ridiculed. Like no one is really prepared for that first time and then it’s like why didn’t you do something about it? “I don’t know” is pretty much the perfect answer and that should be okay.

[@unorodriguez]

Netflix will oftentimes drop something that will blew our minds and we will find ourselves invested , and before we know it, we are all soooo hooked and it’s affecting us deeply! Baby Reindeer is such a beautiful powerful and OUTSTANDING tv series with performances that can very well win in BAFTA, SAG, Golden Globes and the EMMYS. Damn, episode 4 left me speechless and come episode 6 , gosh, it wowed me.. that monologue indeed… i was weeping… I hope he will be given a best actor award come awards season for his powerful heartbreaking performance. BRAVO! Jessica who played Martha was just so terrifying and reminded me of how I felt when I watched Kathy Bates in Misery. Such an excellent performance as Martha! One of the best indeed i ever watched and knowing it happened to him in reality… i do not know how he wrote all his experiences and relived it again as he was playing the role of Donney… such a powerful series indeed! 10/10

[@sandranynj7118]

I was just searching on Netflix this weekend, Decided to watch and I was blown away! The ending was perfect! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[@BrainPilot]

It was amazing wasn't it!

[@ulthea]

I felt deeply uncomfortable throughout the series, but utterly captivated. The brutal honesty of many hard-to-watch scenes exposed those parts of myself which could deeply relate. In talking through his journey it was like I was being allowed to acknowledge mine but made more special by the fact that it gave pause for me to realise how terribly neglected a man's perspective is on that side of relationships. His self reflection a reminder of the impact our experiences can have on self confidence and self belief, leading to a perpetuation of bad decisions. I love-hated it! What a ride of emotions and frustration and regret, but no regret that I saw this masterpiece. I had to rinse my mind out with mindless entertainment afterwards to escape the despair it left me in. Highly recommend! 😂

[@masonthecoyote]

just finished, started today, finished today. absolutely perfection

[@BrainPilot]

It really is!

[@T_D_B_]

Agree to disagree

[@indiablue3162]

Definitely will be in my top shows this year along with Shogun. I’ve never seen anything like this & glad it’s getting the attention it deserves!

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah both were incredible!

[@violas97]

I didn't know who Gadd was... Watched the whole thing then googled him and was STUNNED to find out he was playing "himself"... Really really touching and impressive. It's a shame people went searching for the real Martha and allegedly found her, but if that lady is really her, Gadd didn't do enough to protect her identity.. He should have changed more details if he truly did not want to hurt her or for people to find her

[@DanieB322]

Lmao that is one hell of an accusation. The producers as well as himself already said they did everything to hide her true identity. The internet is wild these days so of course it’s possible for them to find her. It’s not on him or his team. They never mentioned her twice and they tried to put a galaxy between the real person and the character on the show for people not to recognise her. Who do you think you are judging like that and putting it all on him ? He didn’t even have to hide her, but he did cause the man’s a saint.

[@chelscara]

I can’t say they did what they could as I wasn’t there, but I do think people would have found her either way. She was going to want to “defend herself” anyway plus “internet sleuths” are ridiculous when they get the itch for something. I definitely wouldn’t blame him completely since he’s managed to do the show just fine as a play for years without anyone pointing her out before.

[@Kenzo_oNa-Benzo]

Baby reindeer really hit me hard oh my god I’d rather not go into details but I’ve been through everything donny went through the show. Everything except the stalking part and let me say that again “I related to everything except the stalking”

[@VinaySharmaComedy]

it was original, fresh and unlike anything you've seen before! hats off for the honesty!!

[@NJGIRL22]

Loved this series. It made you laugh hysterically but also had some really heartbreaking 💔 moments. I wish Gladd much successful in the future, he certainly deserves it. 😊

[@IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777]

I rarely watch shows or movies they bore me but I was genuinely intrigued and interested in this. So much heart in this show. I mourn the show it was weirdly comforting does anyone else relate?

[@E_l_l_i_e]

Thanks for the breakdown, baby reindeer. Sent from my iphone

[@BrainPilot]

Scary!

[@joeyp11]

Absolute masterpiece but i dont think i can ever watch it again yet itll stick with forever

[@BrainPilot]

It was powerful for sure!

[@shhlonggy]

What’s crazy is I’ve been molested and raped and drugged yet those scenes didn’t phase me from the show. It was Martha explaining the Reindeer that made me cry my eyes out. I cried because she actually loved him & he cried because he finally knows it

[@rootfish2671]

No she doesn’t love him, loving people don’t abuse. While sad it shows that she’s projecting her childhood abuse onto him and is dangerously delusional.

[@Mexch-ob7df]

She was obsessed not in love

[@cnnterry2]

i love how everyone is broken in some way in this show.

[@CosmicPhilosopher]

I think one of the things that sealed it was the ending. It was not a happy and uplifting "hey, he's beaten his trauma!" Dunn/Gadd is still processing everything he has been through. If ever someone needed some intense therapy, it's Dunn/Gadd.

[@dekishajones282]

My only real critique of the show is Richard should not have played itself. He didn’t look like a person in his late 20s so yes, the age gap was somewhat visible, but they should’ve gotten a person in their 20s to play his self.

[@justc0dy]

I was thinking that too. I saw some old clips of him doing stand-up and thought “Oh my God, he was so young.” Donny’s already a sympathetic character, but he would have been even more sympathetic if Richard got a younger lookalike to play him.

[@MReynaArte]

Excellent show, really good and raw at many levels. It is not for everyone..We watched it in two days, I wanted to know what is going to happen next and how is it going to end. Based on a True Story

[@SikDubzz]

purposely reliving traumas while in complete control is a healing mechanism. Some people are into Consent nonconsent roleplay for this reason.

[@angela.luntian]

the only sort of con this show has is the way the second act sort of "loses" the Martha plot temporarily but in such a way that once we return to present time, Martha tonally feels like shes not the person we saw in episode 1. I suppose that's simply part of the realism of your stalker finally dropping the mask but I couldnt help but still be bothered by the difference

[@saracorwin2784]

Completely agree with you. Brilliant!

[@jabmalassie]

Well done but very sad and dark. It is not for everyone.

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah definitely

[@AlbAlPasa]

Once again we saw how homophobia and transphobia ruin humanity.

[@Uptheroyals80]

The 4th episode is one the most disturbing pieces of media I’ve ever watched

[@YasuEntertainement]

It's a very very good show. It was so good it brought my own mental issues from the past back up (my depression back then and dealing with a stalking ex). It really was an emotional rollercoaster to watch. I learned the hard way " don't put your d*ck in crazy".The show is so good that I binch watched it once and will NEVER EVER watch it again.

[@StockImageOfaRat]

Loved it finished in 2 days extremely well crafted season

[@billyshwem4917]

Think HG Tudor says it best, great breakdwn of the charactors here on YT. HG Tudor Knowing the Narcissist : Ultra

[@sevith5277]

Then scene were he breaks down and tells everyone his story and it goes viral didn’t happen in the real life. I wondered why did they add it and then I realized that it is to mirror him sharing his story via his play and mini series. At least I think I don’t know there really intention. It could just be to stir up drama.

[@UnathiNenete]

I kinda relate to the main character

[@mnky75]

The stalker has had free reign to say "it never happened". Gadd hasn't had that privilege and people have just dismissed this as BS.

[@Laveritenestpasdecemonde]

i'm a big fan

[@PurpleYoshi03]

I love it when British dudes do video essays

[@Liz-wz8dh]

It was hard to watch but good series.

[@BrainPilot]

Yeah really difficult to watch but I think it was great!

[@Liz-wz8dh]

@@BrainPilot Yes, I can tell it's one of those shows that will haunt me for quite a while. I think if you know people going through severe mental issues like Martha is, it really hits hard.

[@nachobertossi]

best series i have seen in like five years. fr.

[@BrainPilot]

It was a great show!

[@The_Red_Pill__]

Best show! Hands down!

[@jimi2929]

Such an amazing show Sent from my iphoen

[@b.p6949]

0 comments?lemme fix it rq

[@yangasidziya3245]

sent from my iPhone

[@sssf55]

The show had great moments, but overall it ended disappointingly because of a lack of clear execution on its themes. I think it tries so hard to go in so many directions that it ultimately seems pointless at the end. Especially when he goes back to his groomer and continues his relationship with him. Weak ending.

[@dabordietrying]

not a weak ending at all if you've ever been through something like this yourself. you would know just how hard it is, and how the cycle of abuse works.

[@sssf55]

@@dabordietryingDon't get me wrong, I think this is an accurate portrayal of the cycle of abuse. However, the show shouldn't end like this because it's a weak ending. It's basically seeing our main character succumb to his abuser even after everything he has gone through. All the growth that Donny has made up till this point just for him to bring himself back to 0 is just a weak way to end the story.

[@dabordietrying]

@@sssf55 okay but what if that's how it actually happened? should he have just lied so that the show had a good ending?

[@sssf55]

@@dabordietrying He should tell the story as is, but not end it on that note. If the story truly had the dark ending that it did, then perhaps it should go on a few extra minutes showing Donny go to therapy or try to fix his situation. He doesn't need to succeed but it should show that he's trying to move in a productive/positive direction. This ending signifies the triumph of the abuser with no consequences for his actions.

[@ChrstphreCampbell]

I haven’t heard of this show until 4_minutes ago… But as I was watching this, there occurred to me a delightfully evil scheme to gaslight some performer that you don’t like ! & you’re willing to spend a few thousand dollars destroying them ! You use some talent agency network to find a series of amateur actors that look “about” The same as one another. You use each of them only once, & tell them as little of their job as possible, so that if any one or more of them is ‘picked up’ they will reveal very little about your scheme. The plot is; to dress up each actor in The same very distinctive ( yet ‘ordinary looking’ ) costume & send them to just one of your target performer’s performances, & to be Very Enthusiastic as an audience member ! The perform will eventually believe that they’re being stalked by The same person, & they’re following them around The country, but every attempt to stop or dissuade them, has no effect on The plot ! How would it end ?

[@adamtzsch]

“paint out”? “main key reasons”?

[@BreakEm22]

What's the confusion? Feel like this would only be odd to you if you were an ESL gremlin

[@weswsp01]

It’s shite Sent from IPhone

[@masonthecoyote]

phone

[@weswsp01]

@@masonthecoyote phon

[@maddyc2412]

Yes its true but its also heavily embellished, keep that in mind

[@rootfish2671]

Well yeah it’s not a documentary, anything that is “based on true events” means it the story is changed to be entertaining

[@glennbraun9204]

Nobody cares what rotten tomatoes rates movies but it was a very good show

[@claritylouise2347]

Like to see Part 2 , Martha hunts down The Monster in a dressing gown, Uk History!

[@noahknight4039]

I thought it was just ok. Not something I care to watch again .

[@DripinhoRL]

Show is so black mirror coded

[@xtcy5922]

Am I the only one that hated the ending

[@boredboxing]

Just because something is based on a real story doesn’t make it good. From a film standpoint I loved the art direction and photography but that’s where my praise ende

[@quietlightning4063]

It’s was a woke downer ..

[@stcntymcfckoff5805]

Richard gadd made no effort to disguise whonthe real martha is. Yeah she did wrong but he also kept cultivating a relationship after he googled her and found out about her stalking a lawyer. The whole hatred has been directed towards her. Theres something doesnt hit right about the whole thing

[@liar231]

I agree with you in some way, but on the other hand we got an explanation to why he was attached to her in that way, it was almost like a trauma bond after the SA, but I do agree with you in the sense that Martha will never get to tell her side of this nor ever be believed by anyone, I know she is a convicted stalker and probably an awful person but just the whole thing about him going back to her again and again but in the same time showcasing her as this sick monster, yeah something seems off w that?

[@violas97]

Yeah I found it odd that he said in an interview they went to great lengths to "disguise" her but the lady who is allegedly "Martha" is scottish, a lawyer, sent him some of the exact same messages that are in the show.. Like come on..

[@niax782]

@@violas97Agreed. His attempts to disguise her, are laughable.

[@mysticjen379]

I think the same. Plus he’s playing himself - not much acting.

[@janechoy2073]

I can't understand why the subject matter is entertaining

[@cliffarroyo9554]

It's no about entertainment, but about art that moves the audience.

[@sarasays9883]

I think a lot found it fascinating to watch. So many have been through trauma. It is also rare to see male victims. He never portrayed himself as the perfect victim. It was so complex.

[@cliffarroyo9554]

@@sarasays9883 At some level he kept thinking of her as a fan... and no entertainer wants to lose fans if they can help it. As inconvenient as it can be, it's also kind of... flattering to find yourself as the center of someone else's existence... A different, but no less complex dynamic was going on with Darrien.

[@chaos-fk6fs]

overrated if you dont need characters with some kind of common sense its alright but otherwise you probably get frustrated

[@oberonmartell7158]

Dont think its a good show at all… think its a load of lies and rubbish

[@tawandaJerry]

I hated this show

[@marshallsvideo]

🗑️

[@ZACKtheWISEMAN]

Why'd you say that name?!

[@Tiniestwombat]

What name?

[@jimmyramirez7377]

Perfect is a…big stretch

[@T_D_B_]

I thought it was pretty terrible. Predictable and not relatable. Seemed almost like written by AI, for the current culture. Felt insulting to my intelligence as a viewer. But hey that's me. If you all enjoyed it, please watch over and over to your hearts content. I won't stop you. 😊

[@me-gx6gk]

What do you mean by that, it's a story written from a man's real life experience, you can't relate because you have not experienced these issues, people love it because they can relate, mabye to you it felt like ai, but for a large percentage of us it hits home.

[@chrisloney3200]

You seem like AI

[@trappedcat3615]

This show was depressing narcissistic pervy trash.

[@ryan80166]

Protagonist was a moron, I thought it fell off hard midway through

[@hanniffydinn6019]

Very black mirror ish, he could of easily put it to a stop, so it’s dumb in the end. Also I think it got made because it had gay & trans themes in it. So it’s “woke”. 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯😔😔😔😔😣

[@GangsterNerd1]

People deal with truma in different ways. Just because you would have approached a situation differently doesn’t mean we’ll all approach it the same way. It’s not one size fits all. Also learn to show some empathy.

[@amandadassonville4043]

Another woke show. I think it's awful. But hey we seem to be into that at this stage. Maybe in another decade we'll get some real men and women in movies again. Sorry this is not for me.🐝

[@madeofmeats]

It’s based on someone’s real life, it’s not pandering to anyone it’s just an autobiography. What the fuck is wrong with you 💀

[@t.n.h.ptheneohumanpatterna8334]

I also find it awful

[@Urpichachacha]

I don't think is woke, in this case shows a ma story when he is the victim

[@Adotworm]

How is it woke

[@freajinboredyysy4331]

how it being stalked woke lmao

[@dr.tamaraworley6174]

Wow.......fire & brimstone should arrive anytime NOW. 🔥💥💣🔥💥💣🔥💥💣🔥💥💣

[@MoonwalkerLewisMJ]

People are crazy. the show was stupid as f 👎

[@TheFamousLoser]

It was great until about the halfway point.

[@BrainPilot]

Really? I think it got stronger in the second half!