Why Being HONEST Will Save Your Dating Life and Career

[@gabriellendo3398]

When you said "You should be able to Deal with a thousand Rejections based on Honesty, Than a 100 Approvals based on Lies" That really spoke to me, I think it's cause i've been using Lies so much, that i am almost kinda... how do i say this.. I feel like i am losing myself as a Person. It's a really strange feeling. I need to just Start telling the Truth for People who want to hear it, Ignore those who don't and just Deal with the Consequences, whatever they may be.

[@Mikesmindsets]

The truth will set you free even though it's not always comfortable.

[@voidthespacecreator6010]

Please let me know if I’m wrong here, but in my eyes I just leave it if I know it won’t work. Friends or not I shouldn’t be putting myself or other people in a potential toxic dynamic. Cuz istg, rather get told no than nothing at all. That way it’s easier for me to continue in a positive manner that isn’t held by means I tried to force my will on. I try to do that(to the best of my ability), but see myself almost trapping myself in a potential loop that might hurt me. Not even me but rather hurt them. Recent experience here: thought I felt a way about someone, and the fact I was unsure but also had some type of feelings was the exact reason why I let it go. Like you said in the vid about actually putting effort in what you actually want instead of faking it, I used to self gaslight myself into liking something on the pre-tense that it was for someone else’s gain that would make me feel good, in the case that they are happy. Realized this after I got completely slammed by someone even though I had treated them how I’d love the be treated, and that is exactly why I realized there isn’t just a golden rule but rather a platinum one. Gold would be “treat others how YOU want to be treated”, and platinum is “treat others how THEY want to be treated”. I was dumb asf for not realizing it but it made sense since I could just ask them or feel things out to understand what they like and dislike and give them what they need. Saying this in terms of friendships now cuz it’s looking grim rn LMFAO. But the point stands. Being just me and only me has given me more freedom and happiness as compared to when I was a “poster boy” or a “follower” to some people in the ways that it benefited them.

[@Mikesmindsets]

Nah I agree, it's much more productive to be genuine to all parties involved, it's more than just yourself in relationships so making the sometimes uncomfortable choice of being real will pan out much better. Appreciate your comment 🙏 also I'm glad you got through your previous hardships.

[@ghost-dx5jw]

Listen to "too holy for heaven" by Ryan Caraveo Lyrics kinda about this. Don't use logic in dating. It leads to resentment and problems. Just be real and genuine

[@Mikesmindsets]

That's a fact 💯