Why Black Women Need to Reject Hustle Culture | Design YOUR Life of Ease

[@mariepierre3980]

OMG I feel like I just heard someone tell my story. I need to make the full transition to rejecting the hustle of life. HELP ladies!

[@LC_ATL]

9 mins into the replay and I’m saying “Kira is preaching”

[@lawondalawonda4u602]

This was great! You said "You cannot perform your way to acceptance" that resonates with me to the core.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@jessicascreenwritingservices]

I love seeing black women choosing themselves 💕💕💕

[@blackhannahofficial]

57:35 mic 🎤 drop Adalia speaking of Hustle Culture: "this CAN NOT be why we are here..."

[@madiej.7516]

I was three years before I turned 55 with 30+ years of working. I had panic attacks anxiety and every body ache imaginable. I retired as soon as I qualified. Is we are ready to move away from this hustle crowded city. Thank you for this reminder.

[@MoorenaEl]

33:44 Kira brought up a valid point!!! WHY SHOULD WE HAVE TO ANSWER TO ANYONE ABOUT OUR PERSONAL DECISION? This is our life!! As we struggle with health issues due to the stressers from our environment, etc there's not one person that can take away your pain, stresses AND your illness! You have FULL RESPONSIBILITY OVER YOUR OWN BODY AND MIND!! It is up to YOU to fix your life!! Just one statement: IT FEELS GOOD IS THE BEST REASON TO MAKE A MAJOR DECISION IN YOUR LIFE!!!!

[@workingtwiceashard]

I got (good) chills listening to Kira's response to why Black women should reject hustle culture. So powerful 🙌🏾

[@karenmarinez]

Adalia, you're an excellent interviewer!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thank you very much

[@DesigningEase]

I could not agree more

[@kitten8249]

Ladies thank you both for this wonderful conversation. You don’t know what an impact you have on women like me when y’all dare to say out loud that you choose yourselves. I struggle with the idea of leaving my kids with their dad. It’s one of the things that keeps me stuck from not moving abroad. This conversation helped to give myself permission to choose myself too.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@tonyetheselfcaremaven]

Catching the replay and I must confess, this just reinforces the conclusion I’ve arrived at. It’s time to exit this hustle and grind culture.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@RNDiva33]

Oh my goodness i'm so glad I stumbled upon this video. I can so relate to everything she is saying about unsubscribing from it. I am a nurse and when I try to explain to people that I am tired of being a nerves that I am exhausted. The only thing people have advice for me is. Well, why would you give up a career that pays good money? Because I'm exhausted and tired and overworked and not being appreciated. And I try to explain to them about the sacrifices that nurses make, including their life, including their children.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Those people will not understand. Those are not your people. Glad you found the Picky Girl Nation. We get it.

[@shesssosavvy]

I'm so wrapped up in these videos! From picky girl travels - originally opened my eyes. To Stephanie Perry practically picking me up and sitting me on foreign land! 😂 I'm so grateful🙏🏾 The guests! So much so I'm watching this one, just as engulfed as I was when it first aired. I couldn't make it passed 20 minutes of the State of the union. Now their priority is TT??? Oh, america, america it's near time to bid thee farewell.

[@elenawalker517]

I just want to step in and say please please keep these videos coming. With tears in my eyes waiting at this bus stop for this long 12 hour shift I am screaming I cannot don’t this anymore

[@AdaliaAborisade]

So glad this conversation resonated with you

[@beyondthesunpodcast]

This interview and conversation is very relevant to me and I don’t even consider myself to have embraced hustle culture or do all the things that many who over achieve do… blown away that I’m still at the place where Ms. Kira found herself. Thank you for this transparent conversation.

[@Maya-uy2xx]

Love this. Listening on my way to work. I am so close to quitting my job and moving to Mexico too!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

That might be just what you need

[@DesigningEase]

I will see you when you get here! 😉

[@cheftiffany1060]

When you just said you were doing a dual degree program and you still didn't feel like it was enough.... OMG! I had to pause the video to cry. I'm doing that a second time. 1st with a masters degree and new teacher institute in 2013 and now for my specialist and my doctorate. I identify with SO much of what you are saying, we are so similar in how we move...it is unbelievable. I'm grateful that I have a wonderful workplace like when you felt lucky to have the covering you had before. I feel that way too. Much of my stress is self imposed because I have wanted to live abroad since I was a teenager. Now that the kids are grown and I'm out of that 21 year marriage, I know I can do it and am taking steps in preparation. Thank you for this conversation, both of you.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

You're so welcome!

[@DesigningEase]

You are enough. ❤ Good luck on your journey, Tiffany.

[@No1YanniLover]

This is the first time ive seen this channel...but omg! I absolutely loved this lady's (the guest) definition. I would love to be able to "love" every aspect of my life! Love this message❤

[@AdaliaAborisade]

So glad you found us! Welcome.

[@DesigningEase]

It’s the universe working in your favor.

[@No1YanniLover]

@DesigningEase YESSS! Thank you. I am planning a move myself...to Panama soon. I have relocated myself 3 times already within the US so I'm positive I can move myself out of this country altogether. You ladies are such an inspiration!!!

[@MoorenaEl]

Thank you so much for bringing this to the forefront. ALLLLLL Black Women NEED to hear this!! Even those that think that they are "good" and it goes over their heads, it will click at some point. Black Women have been indoctrinated by SO MANY different dogmas within this colonized experience, and then we have to deal with how our community and our men have these expectations for us, that they would never do. I gotta keep it real. I love our people, we must recognize as much as we can how we've been under a lot of pressures, especially our women. We are NEVER acknowledged for as much as we do and yet so many of our women go through what Kira explained and worse, it breaks my heart. Our womanhood is NOT respected, it is made fun of, mocked and looked as if with no value. I have been saying this since my 30s that all money aint good money in the corporate circle and in my 40s I been wanting to escape this UNITED STATES CORPORATION. I have a lot of friends from abroad and I look at them 2 shades crazy listening to how much they want to come here. I also have a lot of immigrant friends and they talk about their stressers here. All that glitters aint gold. I tell them, while you running to come here, we're running to come to your land for a real quality of life. I understand that nothing is perfect wherever you are from but to live in the west causes your health to deplete!! ANOTHER THING: It's absolutely disrespectful that society and the indoctrination within our communities all told us that being a woman only amounts to being a mother and a wife. Basically we're told that losing your identity is the end all be all. A woman loses her identity in this society as a mother because apparently the child's word is over hers and she loses her identity as a wife LEGALLY with her family name being lost and her catering to her husband is paramount, she has NO voice. I am glad that these ladies are putting it all on the table with this discussion. Excellent build.

[@valm.5243]

Adalia, I love these conversations and your interview style! Keep up the excellent work! 👏

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thank you! Will do!

[@DesigningEase]

I agree, 100%

[@MoNATUREnique]

I really loved this conversation!! I didn’t want it to end!!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Me neither!

[@DesigningEase]

Neither did I. Thank you for watching.

[@monicaadelina9245]

I listened after Exodus Summit 2023. Listening solidified my awareness of what I needed to let go of…. Not a career, I am retired… I needed to let go of “ The Older sibling Responsible Chair Holder”. I am ok living for Monica A’delina and her God, Jehovah!!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

🙌🏾

[@garden4mysoul397]

Girl girl girl!!! I feel you!!!!

[@travinnanerestant7386]

The segment where you ladies discussed motherhood had me yelling PREACH in my cubicle

[@AdaliaAborisade]

So glad you enjoyed it

[@DesigningEase]

😂😂😂

[@DietitianEatsAndTravels]

Great interview!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@edithdonaldson9483]

Sis-Stars 👏🏾✨Thank you both and Kira thank you for being transparent in sharing how you chose you and continue to choose you when it comes to the kids. Wow you spoke gently and directly to our hearts. Even when faced w/ what seems like a reason not to design your life, you chose the design of you 🦋

[@AdaliaAborisade]

You are so welcome

[@DesigningEase]

Thank you so much ☺️

[@denisenoles3159]

This conversation was fantastic!!! Kira is doing the damn thing & I love it!

[@aintnobodycomingtoseeyouotis]

Replay Gang 🎉❤

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Always glad to see you here

[@DesigningEase]

Thank you for watching

[@MoorenaEl]

And we have to think twice about the term, friend. I think that the word has been over used and given to people that do not deserve it. To be a friend is an honor and privledge. I agree I have said that I have friends for different parts of my life and different parts of my personality. But for me, the friend that, "tells it like it is" truly is NOT my type of friend. People like that see only through their lenses without understanding that each person IS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT than you and have their own destiny. As real friends, we can only offer support and if there is perceived danger, there's nothing wrong with speaking the truth WITH DIPLOMACY and most importantly, RESPECT. Sometimes people have to get their asses handed to them to move to the next level, UNFORTUNATELY...that's life.

[@stephanieabdul8860]

Wow. This was a great video. Love it. 😊

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad it resonated with you

[@joyfulsoulcoach]

Loved this interview!! Kira, I resonated with so much of your story. You're and inspiration!

[@SheJustLeft]

So glad to see Kira on here!! Guadalajara in the house. ❤

[@DesigningEase]

You set the tone. Thank you for supporting.

[@notthatvashti8127]

Thanks Kira for sharing your story. I really appreciate how you just said 'I'm gonna do it' and you did it. Kudos to you and best wishes for your new life in Mexico! Oh, and you are rocking that hair cut and style. Beautiful smile also.

[@DesigningEase]

That means a lot to me. Thank you.

[@notthatvashti8127]

@@DesigningEase 🙏😊

[@GeaDonnaMoore-h9s]

Ladies, pay attention to the question and answer at 1:09. Listen and then do it. That means me as well. This is really good stuff.

[@virginiajones9217]

Hello, new and willing to listen.

[@ToyshiaHughesJohnson]

What a great interview 🎉 thanks for sharing 🥰❤️

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Claudy2000]

Absolutely great interview... Selfcare, Nurture, Shower Gratitude, living life for ME.

[@GeaDonnaMoore-h9s]

This was really good. I'm glad you all are living the life you want and need to live.

[@fropropanop]

This was an amazing discussion!!! Thank you both!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@constanceescobar58]

Exactly!

[@Hello_Pri]

Great conversation!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@YogaBlissDance]

Wow she is hardcore @42:40, in terms of the actions she took! No wonder she was a success in business.

[@DesigningEase]

I saw no other way. Go big or go home, right?

[@juanitasmartofremaxexcelle5080]

Thank you soo much! I am planning on going to Panama this winter for a tour.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Have fun!

[@LandaRodriguez-y6d]

❣️

[@stacy-annwilliams3440]

Great conversation. I enjoy it

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thanks for watching

[@justpassingthrough7437]

This was great! Thank you both so much!!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Our pleasure!

[@macavelli8905]

Good video and to see women supporting other women even better... Continued success...

[@aprilthompson5154]

Hello there nice to meet you, my first time here. I so resonate with Adalia. I never wanted to hustle and work hard and do the most. I honestly prefer a quieter more thoughtful environment and I have been penalized for it.

[@kris5949]

Good message. Thank you ladies.

[@mimilemond3179]

My KZbin channel is a newly created space named UNDENSIFY where I try to promote everything relating to living with ease and stressfree but from a more spiritual perspective, so this really resonates. I too followed that compelling call to first leave the UK to the US, to then feel the 'pull' to travel to Mexico. Like you, I studied YT videos on the pros and the cons, didn't tell a single person ( for the same reasons), and made the decision within months on my own. Your message here, convinces that I'm not alone and not crazy like some 'friends & family' think I am in making such a much needed decision, for my body, mind & energy. Thanks for sharing.💜

[@DesigningEase]

You are seen, you are heard you are valued

[@mimilemond3179]

Namaste@@DesigningEase 💜

[@SassyveeSceneries]

❤❤❤

[@CLAttorney]

Excellent video.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad you liked it!

[@ashpiredliving]

This was sooooo good ❤❤❤❤

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@momjakjak4108]

THIS!! Thank you! ❤

[@AdaliaAborisade]

You're so welcome!

[@DNNWorld-Wide]

Kira IS still the gold star child 😊

[@AdaliaAborisade]

⭐⭐⭐

[@DesigningEase]

🥹 Thank you

[@reginamorris9908]

Wonderful ❤

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thank you 😄

[@annabellak4033]

This was very informative

[@AdaliaAborisade]

very!

[@naye5178]

Great discussion 💜

[@AdaliaAborisade]

Thank you!

[@jamettajohnson6172]

Really enjoyed this conversation. 💜

[@AdaliaAborisade]

So glad!

[@queen1004]

🙌🏽

[@aprilthompson5154]

God forbid you don't have children, like myself. People are so offended. You're not doing what you're supposed to be doing. I don't feel that way at all, but it took me a while to get to this point. The judgement is real!

[@AdaliaAborisade]

It continues to amaze me how entitled to women's everything people are. Everything a woman does is supposed to fit someone else's plan, not her own.

[@madiej.7516]

Please share how Mexico is safer than the US. Always heard how dangerous it is how the immigrants are escaping in mass. Thank you.

[@AdaliaAborisade]

You should check out this playlist of Black women in Mexico kzbin.info/aero/PLEY3LY7BLBz9bz2iNCgSlWznGl2G3sqBH

[@madiej.7516]

@@AdaliaAborisade I truly appreciate your swift response and recommendation. 🥰

[@dianeheidelberg3791]

Kira your story is just as inspiring as it was with @AdaliaAborsade @Picky GirlTravelstheWorld 8 months ago. I am so happy for you🙏🏼

[@DesigningEase]

Thank you for your support 😊