Why Can’t I Break The Trauma Bond With A NARCISSIST?

[@Hannah2265]

"The hole in the soul"...boy is that ever true! I finally ended & blocked my ex narc from my life, after 8 long yrs. I'm healing & I feel so amazing! God is so very good! ❤🎉

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Breaking a trauma bond is worse than breaking an addiction to heroin. Your body will legit go into withdrawal

[@swissms5808]

This is correct. Unless you have gone through it yourself, know someone who has/is, or are professionally dedicated to learning about narcissistic relationships and supporting someone trying to escape and heal from this form of trauma, it is absolutely devastating and nearly impossible to get past this chapter of their life. Add children who have been raised with/by a narcissist, and it is nearly impossible to surpass. Parents and schools should educate about the red flags of these abusers. Abuse is NOT Only Physically Destructive, but Psychologically, and Financially Devastating to Survivors. This Is One of The Better Descriptive Awareness ones I have heard. I am almost 11 months out of a 16 year, utterly corrupted relationship, and I am No Where Near Healed. My Son also was raised in this household, and is my #1 Concern as we try to change our daily lives to Wholesome, Loving and Completely Opposite of our life before we were able to escape !!

[@amygerstle2037]

Same one over and over. Thanks for explaining the addiction on the physiological level.

[@darleneprescott4942]

Yessss yes and yes 🙌🏼 Ty

[@Ultra_Ultraline_27]

Treat the narcissist the way they treat you, it's that simple, you're welcome

[@joshuamutombo4927]

Hmm now I know why 🤔 Any idea how to stop an addiction to narcissists?

[@mic396]

radical self acceptance.. educate yourself !! therapy ..RID OF EMPATHY !!if nothing else narc will give you purpose , after the experience with one you know who you are fast ! if u survive 😉

[@obeyheart3667]

Finding physiologically other ways to fill dopamine and serotonine needs and healing re-parenting own inner child. Being with safe and caring company.

[@mariantebb6730]

Don't agree whatsoever.

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

@@mic396 Sounds actually good. Getting rid of empathy. I'm to responsive in communication which doesn't help either ( replying quickly, bc I never want to make ppl feel bad especially when I care about them but I forget not everyone cares and narcissists don't care at all. Being less available and feeling at home in my own life ( lost this basis happines lately after moving houses twice and job change) I feel that (online) dating has impacted my wellbeing too. I will take.a long break. It's like dating made me feel more alone than before I started it in 2021. It's a blessing and curse bc I see patterns of manipulation tactics but also my own pattern.

[@JustMe-uw6yd]

How did I stop my addiction to Narcs Deep dive self nourish self care Helps all of it does ❤

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

The last man I dated said "do you want to feel safe like a little girl with a man?". He said exactly what I want to feel with a man. Shy and safe. When we met I felt safe and shy. It felt very harmonious but there was also a cold distant vibe coming from him. It was very confusing. He didn't future fake. What he did do was going quiet for 3 or more days after a romantic evening. Idk if he is a narcissist but I felt like this energy and spark was unique and I won't find it anymore bc compared to former man, he was polite and well mannered except...the distant and silences. Eventually he said he is emptionally unavailable after I exoressed my confusion. He said "don't wait for me just live your life" I always lived my own life but explained to him: in order to relax and focus on myself there needs to be some balance. I felt like walking on eggshels to not disturb him. I felt arrogance. He is gone now, after his last texr "allright...next week I will be travelling but after I'm back we can talk". I replied automatically " sure no pressure". I haven't heard from him anymore and I even beat myself up that I pushed him away bc I told him we are not compatible long term. I'm just resting now ato get over another rejection pain. It feels like: I'm not good enough for a man to stay with me. I'm not appreciated i was sweet kind but it was not equal. I will speak up and in the beginning he wanted to talk about it so I was surprised that he wanted to put effort! Etc. It's indeed a brain effect but I also truly care about him and liked him as a person and it rarily happens to meet such a a spark. Making it feel extra painful. I also had painful thoughts like: he will marry someone who he will approve and it's proof I am not good enough. I want him to think well of me. It's pathetic but this is probably the effect of manipulation....

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Let me tell you right now that you are more than good enough. He has opened up you inner child wound of not feeling good enough & that's why you are feeling this way. When you start to heal & focus on you, you will start to be able to live your life how you deserve to, as your true, wonderful, good enough self xx

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

@@CarolineStrawsonHealing Thank you for your kind words. It helps to hear someone else say I'm good enough. Rationally I can tell myself but the emotional part...I am going to try some EMDR sessions to process several bad experiences including old wounds. I will watch more of your video's and process this dating experience. I still hope he will call me or text..as if everything would open and blossom if that happened and I could smile again. Part of loss emotions I'm aware but it's almost like depression and I feel ashamed bc I'm over 40 so I feel like a teenager having these emotions. I will deal with my pain in therapy and reset myself hopefully. Thanks 🪻

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

You can absolutely reset yourself, all the power is within YOU 💖@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 here is a link to my recovery programme which has flash EMDR & Brainspotting in it becksales--carolinestrawson.thrivecart.com/ntrp-gbp/

[@detteh4292]

ooeh could that mean that someone with ADHD has a higher chance of getting addicted to a narcissistic relationship? because of the dopamine it provides? would put some things in perspective for me😅

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

ADHD can exacerbate the feelings that come with a trauma bond, making it more challenging for people with ADHD to break free. More research is needed though x

[@detteh4292]

@@CarolineStrawsonHealing thank you for responding🙏

[@jamieleigh807]

Full video?

[@CC..Jeremiah9_24]

What addictive feeling are you people talking about? Being abused? I’m not addicted to being hurt or abused, quite the contrary. All I want to do is get away. You people with these channels need to be more descriptive about what it is you’re referring to. Thank you.

[@RafaelGonzalez-ww4tv]

I’m not dating anyone after all the crap I went through. I’m waiting for you.

[@Catlady1210]

Yes

[@Joshua-mb6rm]

Anything having to do with the physical flesh is eventually irrelevant when dealing with the narcissistic demonic witch/sorcerer. Whats gonna matter is if Jesus christ is your lord and savior or not while dicovering the spiritual warfare involved. I think its helpful to know that THE FREE WILL,THE MIND AND EMOTIONS = THE SOUL

[@carlburris9158]

What happens if both parties are narcissist?

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Because of cognitive dissonance, arousal jag, shared fantasy… should I continue?

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Yes and also attraction. Apart from the trauma systems and abuse effects mind fck, we are also humans with needs We want to enjoy the man- woman ( or whatever gender preference combi) dynamics and have affection / intimacy.

[@alexrodriguez1100]

Not Anymore. Bye!

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

YES!! 😍

[@Ultra_Ultraline_27]

Same

[@rainrush3484]

He did have a supply on the back burner for 4 years. I was still shocked when I found out after we broke up. I couldn't stop thinking of him and missed him but thank the universe that I found out bc it cut the tie I had for good! I had to move out of state to leave this relationship. My heart was so broken😢 but I'm better now and thriving in way I never ever expected! Ty❤

[@dindy-z1h]

So true

[@leojablonski2309]

The answer ? ...Look at your prototype. Origins of hole in the soul.The rest is unconscious chemistry.

[@dragonclaws9367]

He abandoned me, yet wants to continue to use me. He is fine with this. He does not say he loves me, has not in years. Completely ignorant and rude. I gotta stop this.

[@saucejones]

Im really curious, what is the reaction of a narcissist if one were to show them or let them see this or any video about trauma bonding and narcissism. 🤔

[@Catlady1210]

Interesting!

[@Mo0shii]

Ha..haha.. nothing..none...