Why Can't Men Express Their Feelings Without Being Shamed?!

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[@timoffthewall1561]

Celebrity doesn’t give you exceptions for being human. I’m tired of us putting celebrities on pedestals and giving passes

[@jaysco7355]

After listening to these young ladies talk, now I see why they’re single 🤣🤣 the modern woman mindset is dangerous AF😮

[@royalty843]

Justina can at least get a date...ion know what's wrong with B 😅

[@deebobryson]

​@@royalty843she maybe can get a date but can she get a man to claim her until she can get a man to do that she's still single because of this modern women bullshit

[@MrCLee94]

@@royalty843 True I'd smash and dash, but if a woman sees nothing wrong with dancing flirtatiously with another man while in a see-through dress, I'm not taking her seriously lol

[@startrak9548]

as men we need to start allowing other men to express themselves without judgement tho that's the problem. We clown other men for expressing themselves then wonder why society as a whole doesn't take our feelings into account.

[@jonathanwalker3135]

Well because a man who that uses his emotions is weak .

[@startrak9548]

@@jonathanwalker3135 and this is why men are in the position they are now lmao. We see emotion as weak and hold everything in which isn’t healthy.

[@saphire2214]

This is the consequence of the patriarchy. It hurts men too. It teaches men that anything related to femininity is weak and that emotions are feminine traits. Which isn't true. Both men and women can equally express emotions. Men have been socialized to repress all emotions except anger. This is not good because repressed emotions later manifest themselves in destructive ways.

[@startrak9548]

@@saphire2214 you ain’t say one lie.

[@r.m.90]

Exactly. Finally a male who understands the word accountability. Nobody preaches toxic masculinity more than MEN.

[@cjwrice7155]

They don't want us to express our feelings They want us to validate theirs

[@aviaunaantoine8414]

Maybe in a sense of needing reassurance, validate me in feeling like I’m your ace and nothing can change that. And it’s not like you need to do that everyday but often. In the world we live in today with so many ways to be sneaky and unloyal and so many people taking advantage of those, not constant but continuous emotional reassurance and affection is really necessary. If a man can’t understand that then stay single 💁🏽‍♀️

[@kevinajcabey1655]

​@aviaunaantoine8414 did they broke your heart

[@stayfocuseddi]

🎯

[@chupamipolla6940]

Express your feelings just don’t be a 304 about it

[@TheNiggaReview]

​@aviaunaantoine8414 or maybe women should stay single if they can't properly deal with their own thoughts and emotions without needing a man for continuous reassurance? It's not our job to manage your emotions for you, we're adults. If someone can't manage their emotions on their own they should seek a therapist.

[@ebbyc1817]

Vulnerability is not " You're a mum tho...." Vulnerability is "I feel hurt seeing you dancing with another man like that ".

[@cbcooks]

Thank u!!!

[@XxiliketwinkiesxX]

Exactly. What he said was demeaning and he also could’ve spoken to her in private and not on the internet to get everyone involved in their drama.

[@etf42]

@@XxiliketwinkiesxX and when you do it in private, there's no guarantee she won't make it public like Jonah Hill's ex...

[@CN-ke8te]

@@etf42Jonah Hill was dictating what his girl should do, which is just as negative as shaming your gf. Neither of those dudes were expressing themselves in a healthy manner for their relationships.

[@etf42]

@@CN-ke8te your moral view is irrelevant. any man with any experience already knows that women will find an issue with whatever way he expresses himself according to their own interests. the bigger issue is why did she make it *PUBLIC?* it was a private conversation, wasnt it???

[@SpaceBunz4Life]

There is a time and place to share feelings and everyone needs to learn how to express them properly. Popping off on someone unexpectedly isn’t expressing your feelings. Conversations about your feelings need to be had without letting your emotions take over. That can make you say hurtful things you can’t take back just because you’re feeling hurt. That goes for everyone, not just men or women

[@dspence1902]

💯💯💯💯

[@daedae1522]

Women need to learn how not to put men in situations like that .

[@beefortebrea9386]

@@daedae1522 what are you talking about? That's not two women. That's a man and a woman, and he tried to shame her publicly.

[@daedae1522]

@@beefortebrea9386 thank you , I corrected it .

[@gunsdown4497]

Top Shaming Tactics by Women. 1. "Who Hurt you?" 2. " you're insecure" 3. "You're Controlling" 4. The list Goes on. Don't let women shame you. It's not a shaming tactic if you don't feel the shame. Women will always try to lower you.

[@r.m.90]

The first 2 are what men spew anytime a woman states her feelings on relationships but nice try.

[@gunsdown4497]

@r.m.90 Female Shaming Tactics: -"Weirdo!" -"Are you gay?" -"Stop whining!" -"Who hurt you?" -"You are a loser" -"You are in Incel" -"You have issues" -"You need therapy" -"Man up,You pussy!" -"You misogynist creep!" -"You’re just bitter cause you can’t get laid" Beware Of Women Who Uses These Phrases And Arguments On You Anytime You Speak The Truth, Stand Your Ground, Or Express Yourself As A Man. She Does This To EMASCULATE You.⚠️

[@IllMatic97]

​@@r.m.90it doesn't matter, both men and women are guilty of the same thing.

[@r.m.90]

@IllMatic97 But you notice how only women get called out and blamed? Literally, every single male I have debated relationships with threw #1 and #2 at me. A man's whole world revolves around blaming women for everything.

[@IllMatic97]

​@@r.m.90from my perspective it doesn't matter. This gaslighting shit is getting old.

[@dorianmarchelgray5292]

Why on earth did the red head say her man better let her bust it open on Drake and not say anything about her outfit ... Just listen to how that sounds... That's super ridiculous.. A woman should want a masculine man. Not some quiet boy.

[@carl3063]

This conversation shows how little women empathize with and understand being in a relationship with men. It explains why dating and relationships are in such a low point right now.

[@ebbyc1817]

I think it's both, men don't appreciate that for a woman to have a baby is an enoooooormous task, like nothing else she will ever do in her life, and to come out of that, and regain confidence, energy, is HUGE. Some women never recover from having children.

[@carl3063]

@@ebbyc1817what does that have to do with this situation?

[@ebbyc1817]

@@carl3063 the situation involving Keke Palmer and her baby daddy ?

[@theronjackson3500]

@@ebbyc1817 So it is not possible to be proud without going outside with your ass cheeks hanging out and hanging all over some other dude!?! FOH

[@carl3063]

@@ebbyc1817 you talking about a whole separate thing that got nothing to do with the topic

[@frankmartinez1164]

That’s why a lot of men get so aggressive, because we keep our feelings bottled up inside and society tells us not to express our feelings. When he try to express our feelings people say we’re being sensitive or dramatic.

[@milleezy]

I feel bad for the younger generation of men. These women have the mindset that has destroyed the connection between men and women. It’s never been ok to buss it open on another man while she in a relationship. There is no “I’m in the industry” or “jealousy” or “insecure” it’s called respect.

[@Blackronin357]

The you can't also go to the strip club.

[@brittanyjohnson375]

Men have been doing disrespectful shit in public for decades and women were expected to just understand and accept. At this point y'all are just getting y'all energy back. 👌🏾

[@rodneyjohnson2210]

​@@brittanyjohnson375 this why lot of black men is not protect black women and this why black men is get passport and leave this country y'all black women are delusion

[@StillAwesome21]

​​@@brittanyjohnson375what a childish argument, grow up and get help. 😂

[@ninjasta4970]

You must've never been to a Caribbean party cause they do that on the regular

[@Tayslay1215]

As a woman, majority of women make me sick with the lack of accountability displayed!!! Whole time they making excuses for keke. We all love her but when you wrong, u wrong. Don’t try to turn it around and make Darius the bad guy. U don’t do certain shit when you’re in a relationship period! Respect goes both ways. Celebrity or not. Cuz last time I checked, that was usher show and keke was not performing or getting paid to do all that

[@sammyD62]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿💯🎯

[@kennethcoleman580]

As a man I can express how I feel without putting down others who hurt me, disappointed me etc!!! We have to learn when men attack others based on our insecurities the focus shifts to who we attack and not how we feel. #letstalkaboutit

[@YuhasLol]

That's not the point. The point is that men don't have a safe space to express how they feel. Part of the reason men DO put others down when expressing is because we're expected to appear "masculine" at all times. Even during a moment that should show vulnerability and weakness, we aren't given that privilege from society, so it becomes aggression. That's just as much fault with society as "men". Like the saying goes, "The child that doesn't feel love from it's village will burn it to the ground to feel it's warmth". It's a system/society issue, not just one sided.

[@dspence1902]

💯💯💯💯

[@producedbyfieri]

maybe its time for us men to start growing up and doing what is right for us without being concerned about being shamed

[@dorianmarchelgray5292]

The red head just said that her man better let her bust it open on Drake and not say nothing about her outfit. That's just ridiculous. It's her man. Why should he be cool with that .? He better?? Tf. She want a boy not a masculine man

[@TOPHITTA463]

Right forget these hoz💯

[@trillionaireteddie]

I agree men cry to much about opinions that don’t matter

[@divineintervention212]

If you're a boss that's what you've been doing. If your chick is doing better then you in life this is the BS you deal with. Be a kept man and take the bull💩 or be a boss and handle your business.

[@r.m.90]

That'll never happen lol. It's easier to blame women.

[@IndigoUchiha26]

We gotta break this cycle of things that these old people used to say were "weak" or "feminine" 💯 half these old people are miserable

[@tiggersrevenge]

80% are miserable

[@fearablackheaven1198]

Fact is they are weak if one solar flare goes off and takes out all electricity we would devolve back to cave men quickly and these bs emotions wouldn’t keep us alive

[@dblocknyc]

This is why Men arent Dating or proposing anymore. IF a Man has standards like Not dating Women with Kids, he's shamed. A Man says he prefer slim or big Women, he's shamed by ine or the other. A Man says he doesnt like a Woman who parties he's shamed. So Men are just fuxking and keeping it moving. It's not with the headache, time or money 💯

[@DrBoofMar]

U said a lot of nothing ngl

[@joliegurl7527]

@@DrBoofMarexactly A Lot of NOTHING!!!

[@XxiliketwinkiesxX]

Then leave women alone dude. Women don’t like being policed. Idk how long it’ll take before y’all finally realize that. Women are a lot better off without y’all toxic ass men trying to dictate everything we do.

[@r.m.90]

🤡🤡🤡🤡

[@zxcccccc1]

Stand in your truth. Amish men look for Amish women, go where you are appreciated.

[@Diquem97]

"My man better let me buss it open on drake " you can't make this shit up 😂😂😂

[@kingm5425]

And you better let yo mans get buss opened by megan the stallion lol or Cardi B

[@ArkelChatman45]

That statement was WILD 😂😂💀💀

[@deelove9375]

😂😂😂😂😂💯

[@409prince]

See this is why I say women love to practice SELECTIVE OUTRAGE because “Keke should get a pass because she is an entertainer “ but when Chance the rapper got rolled up at that festival it was a issue please have several seats

[@Only1WithAnE]

They are both wrong, I saw that video and think Keke should be held to the same outrage. I don't think Chance wife made a big deal about it like Keke boyfriend though

[@TheZane03]

That opening statement from those thots is crazy, bust it open, am I cuck to you?? Wtf

[@aurorahernandez1813]

Fucking madness 🤦🏻‍♀️ h03 ish

[@XxiliketwinkiesxX]

That was the white woman saying that which isn’t surprising because black men let white women do whatever they want as long as they’re white they’re happy.

[@qp4367]

right , celebrities and entertainers and 'influencers" should not be controlling the narrative....children and younger generations have them to 'look up' to

[@jayDee92133]

Society wants men to suffer quietly.

[@szn1580]

While being wallets for women and cigs in the machine that fuels multiple capitalistic engines and economies

[@divineintervention212]

Why would a man be suffering in the first place? If your with a woman that makes you suffer charge that hoe to the game. There's billions of them. One gone ain't gone stop my shine. And yes. Men should suffer silently about any other subject. Whining never fixed anything.

[@Bepeze]

Booooyah. This is the subject and the predicate

[@feddi7693]

💯

[@etf42]

This is pretty much what it comes down to

[@Hendrixxx9427]

Society has told men that expressing their feelings/emotions is a female trait. Todays generation is smart enough to leave that old mindset in the past.

[@DrBoofMar]

Society? U mean other men wtf

[@jayDee92133]

Facts. I'd never shame a brotha for being heartbroken him and his girl broke up or if he just had a bad day.

[@jas1565]

Lol PATRIARCHY told you it's gay for men to share their feelings.. and yet men continue to hold up the patriarchy

[@MRLONG758]

@@DrBoofMar are other men not part of society? Would women not look at men who express emotions differently? You think if women found men expressing feeling attractive more men wouldn't be doing it?

[@DrBoofMar]

@@MRLONG758 I don’t remember ever listening to a woman about expressing my feelings 🤷🏿‍♂️ but my dad would say “don’t be a bitch” I’m not complaining but men need to be more accountable of how we talk to each other 🤷🏿‍♂️ I don’t blame society it gets you nowhere

[@wilshady775]

Envy takes every opportunity to tell the world he couldn't make his women orgasm. We get it Envy...she didn't...😂😅😂

[@frenledarius347]

Everytime he gets a chance to tell the world he talks about. I would ashame

[@TravelWitMi]

Men example express their feelings but in a correct way. Doesn't matter what gender you are, if you are being negative towards people then you will get negativity back.

[@YuhasLol]

Women get the luxury of not displaying their feelings in the "correct" way, but men dont. Women will get coddled and consoled, but men are expected to do mental gymnastics to find the "right" way to express. And even when we do, our feelings are never considered, only how it makes THEM feel.

[@bundydachosen1]

What is the correct way ? Only the way women wanna receive it is the correct way ? Like what are we really talking about here ?

[@sneakykamon]

If I had a nickel for every time I tried to express to someone in my life how much something was bothering me and I got told to either shut up or that I need to just “let it go” as if it was that simple. That’s why I try to be that person that the right people in my life can feel comfortable talking to when something is troubling them. Whether its my boys or just someone in my family.

[@AyooMurray]

I had the same thing happen to me like a month ago. Smh it's so frustrating. Makes me not even wanna tell them what's wrong anymore.

[@beefortebrea9386]

@@AyooMurray He didn't tell her, he told YOU and ME. He blasted her over the internet. Stop acting like he sent her a text and she shunned him.

[@Call_Me_Con]

Women these days think they should be able to do whatever they want with absolutely no consequences and it’s honestly maddening

[@ebbyc1817]

Some women.

[@saphire2214]

Translation: Women these days think they can do all the things we men have been doing for thousands of years without consequences. How dare they!😂

[@blkheromusic]

Sooner we stop seeing each other as competition the better. I always heard the same from the older generation "young people these days blah blah blah". It's always one against the other. Social media has yall so messed up

[@gothamtyler]

@@saphire2214you were around all that time bozo?

[@nicolenicki162]

@@saphire2214 😂😂😂😂

[@Mischief716]

It's because our generation failed to truly mature and understand what it is to be an adult in a relationship. Nowadays people equate having a business, taking care of business and having money as the main ways of being grown and being able to be in a relationship. But when you spent most of your young adult years sleeping with everybody and doing whatever and feeling like you can't have anybody jealous over it, then one day flip a switch and try to be a mature adult in a relationship that stuff doesn't go away. We should have been learning that the whole time from being a young adult to what we are now. So that's why people are the way they are because our generation is screwed up

[@AmillionRays]

🎯

[@ChopGod23]

Bro these are some BIRDS stay away from anything that sounds anything like this fellas.

[@IAMDJKOOLROD1200]

💯

[@tiggersrevenge]

Swear to god. I was thinking the same thing especially the red hair girl

[@logent80]

These dudes better 🛫🛫✌🏽✌🏽

[@BlackOdin27]

For the longest as a black man for sure, we were taught it was a weakness to express any emotion or feelings, and that shit stuck with us throughout the years

[@hotboy757]

Nope just you.

[@daedae1522]

@@hotboy757naw it was a culture thing growing up .

[@beefortebrea9386]

Maybe express it in private instead of trying to shame your girlfriend in public.

[@BlackOdin27]

@@beefortebrea9386 I’m talm bout black men as a culture not this one random nigga 😒

[@kato_sga]

The crazy part is if this was a female doing what he did everybody would be at her defense. Now she’s an entertainer so she gets a pass this is wild.

[@mylesbrew5410]

YUP. They would’ve never excused future or drake or Justin briber etc. for this behavior. It’s F-ing cap. Respect is respect. Period. They just willfully choose to not see our perspective.

[@kato_sga]

@@mylesbrew5410 facts

[@Djturnt]

She really said cause she Keke palmer she can get a pass wtf that don't work like that

[@kato_sga]

@@Djturnt exactly that just shows you how they think

[@justblack1]

If this was a woman, people would be brutally holding her accountable saying "you knew what you signed up for, being with a celeb. Deal with it". Now that its the other way around, the woman in the situation is still being held accountable and we're are told to coddle the mans feelings, like always.

[@RapidoRafi-MTB]

This is why marriage rate decrease and divorce rates increasing.

[@jaredlhulum]

Its ironic because we do it to each other,too. I remember telling a homie i was dealing with depression; he dismissed it and told me i had no reason to be depressed. Some of us, if not many, dont wanna hear emoting either

[@ebbyc1817]

it's from our parents, and their parents, and their parents, and their parents... Someone has to break the cycle. I guess.

[@LTJuni0r]

If women speak up, they’re empowered. If men do it, we’re whining, insecure or not a real man. This is why we don’t wanna get married.

[@jas1565]

Lol who created this idea that men aren't "real men" if they share their feelings.. cause it wasn't women.

[@shottakush8404]

No, we don’t want to get married because these bitches don’t want to cook or clean, but they still want to be taken care of like it’s still the 50s

[@remywhite4377]

​@@jas1565If you think it wasn't women that created that narrative then I have an igloo in Nevada to sell ya. 😂

[@Blackronin357]

Both sexes have contributed to this stigma.

[@jas1565]

@@remywhite4377 is it not patriarchy that has created this archaic idea of what masculinity is? Is it not patriarchy that teaches men that being vulnerable, showing emotion, and expressing themselves is "feminine" or "gay"? Who created patriarchy?

[@DPeezy3158]

“Keke ain’t do nothing wrong”. 5 minutes later, it’s just innocent hoeing. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@MomentPhotographyG1]

Crazy smh

[@B.I.G.TEA707]

Next time I see a famous and married male actor or singer or athlete riz up a random girl imma say: Thats innocent Pimpin' or thats innocent womanizing" and Ill qoute valentina.

[@randalwest5800]

These girls are a prime example of why relationships are failing...

[@traviswalker5228]

Facts

[@elevatedgamer8715]

Innocent hoeing 🤣🤣 smh

[@javiruiz8365]

It’s a black thing! BLK men are females and bLK women are the masculine ones

[@royalflushterry]

Facts

[@louischapman87317]

Exactly and so sad

[@Aschwiftbreeze]

Man I did not have a problem with justinia until she was on the breakfast club lol but people like her is whats wrong with the climate today

[@isaccgilliam1450]

Yea i thought she was different than this but hey... i was wrong

[@WeeZerRascal]

Beyoncé is an entertainer as well. Most women look up to her and she don't do nothing near like that. Being an entertainer is no excuse unless it was planned/rehearsed and both parties know what will happen.

[@ebbyc1817]

I think everyone would be on his side if he hadn't tried to embarrass her. That was the mistake he made.

[@XxiliketwinkiesxX]

She actually has done things like this and given a lap dance to Terrance Howard. Look it up. Stop creating false narratives. At the end of the day. You men are absolutely ridiculous and need to leave women alone because your mentality of trying to police everything women do is exactly why domestic violence against women is on the rise. Please leave women alone.

[@datsapaddlin]

@@ebbyc1817that’s fine but some people are trying to say what she did was ok like these ladies as well. At least CTG and Envy said they both made mistakes. The best you can do with this situation is not pick a side.

[@biancabright1710]

Wrong Beyonce danced on Terrence Howard called him up on stage on BET awards and her husband didn't open his mouth.

[@WeeZerRascal]

@biancabright1710 Again it's was either planned/rehearsed and/or Jay already knew it was going to happen. Read my ENTIRE comment

[@jalillewis5505]

The same woman calling KeKe Palmer's BF insecure are the same women who get upset if their man likes another woman's picture on IG.

[@rasonfrancis5068]

😂 it’s really wild. Like liking a picture is cheating but Kekes situation is completely different. But hey everybody gotta do what works for them.

[@bundydachosen1]

I like that her kids dad stood on what he said and didn’t delete his tweet ! And even doubled down on why he tweeted the original tweet ! 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾 stand on y’all principles guys

[@CalvinGroover]

This generation of women are so lost.

[@ILoveTheAllCreator]

Scary

[@szn1580]

Look at them. Masculine. Combative. No burden of purity or performance. They look up to Kim k and Cardi b. Useless in the kitchen too lmao

[@PomegranatesWeather]

This whole generation 🙄 is throw it out the window and start from scratch please 🙏🏿 ❤

[@nika0700]

Cause the men got it together. Please

[@XxiliketwinkiesxX]

Men are even more lost. Y’all out here killing each other everyday and getting locked up. I’d rather be a woman wearing a sheer dress than be a fucked up man that is destroying society.

[@Tashhtalk]

I don’t think in this particular situation the issue was him expressing himself. I think the issue was him expressing it to the public instead of directly to his partner. Everyone has the right to feel how they feel and express those feelings

[@lamarrkendelltime]

The crazy thing about this whole thing. There’s an interview where KeKe Palmer said she and her man talk about things at home and keep it at home. So for him to publicly speak about this was the last straw for her. It’s not about how she look or how he feel. He broke a code they had which broke the trust between them.

[@jbrown7]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@justblack1]

When I was younger, I used to always want my dad to express himself more because he was always just tough and intimidating. But when he did speak up, it was so toxic, wrong, and violent. This was way before social media and the podcast era. Men can express themselves, but please keep those harmful thoughts off the internet. Get therapy.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

Or maybe you just can't handle your dad's point of view because you don't understand what he went through as a man

[@ebbyc1817]

Exactly. Expressing doesn't mean verbally lashing out at people. Express in a way that makes other people feel safe with you. That's how to express.

[@bradleyjames1379]

@@hueyfreeman5509 Bingo.

[@BluEx22329]

You sound controlling. Let your dad be free verbally just like keke should be free to grind in usher without anyone saying Anthony. Right??

[@ebbyc1817]

​@@BluEx22329​no one is free to express violent thoughts, that's why we have prison, and sentences.

[@Wisdom887]

So let me put this together. Looking at pictures and liking them on IG is cheating when a man does it, but when a woman dances i mean deep dancing with another man is okay. The double standards 🤦🏿‍♂️ and the way values are lowered is mind staggering

[@HJCOD]

Birds all of em

[@Marx1684]

Justina’s voice hits on radio. She stands out super easy. She killed a freestyle on that bull in Wild n Out. 💪🏾

[@royalty843]

One of the best emcees on that show

[@etf42]

she really does...

[@LeekBrimah]

The red head don’t make no sense…Keke was a fangirl that night, she wasn’t working or performing at that concert at all smh

[@Djturnt]

She keep trying say she was entertaining I'm like who??

[@jahnaet8289]

This is why it's hard to have female friends. I am a woman but I do like to held accountable. Women don't do that all the time. They justify bad behavior. How are we expected to grow and mature if our friends keep us thinking everything we do is ok, even if we have hurt someone.

[@ebbyc1817]

Don't say women, everyone does this, men don't hold their friends accountable. It's something we all need to do, but it's kind of hard in practice. Because everyone has such huge egos now. And no one wants to take the L for anything

[@msloveflo]

❤

[@XxiliketwinkiesxX]

You’re such a pick me 😂 omg there’s nothing bad about an UNMARRIED woman wearing whatever she wants to wear. Stop trying to police women! Let us do us. She’s happy and single. At this point men and women need to stay apart from each other because this isn’t the old days anymore. Stop trying to dictate what women do. We don’t like it. That’s why relationships don’t last anymore.

[@spadesx9163]

@@ebbyc1817you’re a woman right?

[@spadesx9163]

@@XxiliketwinkiesxXshe damn sure not single she has a whole bd and a living situation with that man anything to justify being a hoe huh

[@moxictasculinity]

because society taught us to be "MEN" and expressing feelings is thought to be "feminine"

[@Soul-cry1]

We demonize what we feminize and to be feminine is seen as being less than.

[@IllMatic97]

It kinda is a bit feminine in a certain aspect.

[@jlawrencewat]

@@IllMatic97feminity is a social construct. Wearing pants was considered masculine at a time and literally crime in some parts of the world.

[@chezronstevenson6825]

Being insecure is a personal journey that needs to be resolved, personally. No outside entity, can cure those insecurities. Those are internal challenges. Emotional management is on each individual.

[@ladykat16]

So true!

[@travisbordley9404]

I'm confused because when Chance the rapper was at the festival grinding on a woman it was disrespect to his wife. Y is this not

[@scoobdoo2008]

She didnt publicly embarrass him. She didnt do anything. She didn't grind on him. She gave him a hug.

[@krisj827]

I do think men need to express and communicate their feelings without being hated on. I think the problem with Darrius was that he should've talked to Keke instead of social media.

[@etf42]

and if he did, there is still a risk she could make it public like Jonah Hill's ex girlfriend....

[@2centsfreelancer]

The man I’m with now is the most vulnerable I ever had man be w/ me. I absolutely love it. That’s one of the reason he said he fell for me, because w/ it comes to his emotion. I don’t dismiss them. KeKe bf was wrong for tweeting, but he’s not wrong for feeling how he feel. But also to ply devils advocate when women date these athletes and entertainments, and they fck up. Ppl are quick to say “you should expect that” now when the roles reverse it’s wrong. I don’t agree but I’m just saying 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ChevTheMechanic]

What I take from this is keep my feelings to myself... Even if its a problem, just keep it to yourself because these women dont care at all.

[@thomasjohnson7441]

But want us to listen to them complain about everything under the sun and its supposed to be okay.

[@TrippyRicky209]

Envy tells this same story about “bang bang bang” once a month at least

[@ghazley85]

Women trip off dudes hitting a like button on Instagram but it's ok to be half ass naked outside, fanning out over a dude while in a relationship. Double standards

[@pre-covid-life]

Charla is READING 😂 right off his laptop @2:55 bruh

[@antwon5866]

Man ain’t nothing wrong what that man said. That’s his woman! You in a relationship idc if it’s public or private he has every right to have a say so because that’s HIS woman. He didn’t threaten her or put his hands on her he expressed his feelings towards HIS woman. The women I talked to about this understands and the women that don’t don’t. I agree when we argue we need to speak to understand each other but all this back and forth about “He should’ve this and that” is wild

[@phantomzxro1]

You can't argue it shouldn't have been on social media regardless if he was in the right on what he said.

[@zxcccccc1]

He's young and is allowed to make mistakes. Women are always saying "well I was young and dumb that's I became pregnant when I was a teenager"

[@ashleyaustin672]

I originally was team Keke, but I understand her man's point of view and I do feel bad for how much he's being dragged. People keep saying "well he should've spoken to her in private about it" the video of her grabbing on him and showcasing the cheeks was PUBLIC. Thinking about it more now I can say she did do a lil too much. He also serenaded Saweetie and she aint do too much. Winnie Harlow was there as well with HER MAN so no one is saying Keke can't enjoy herself or her new body, but there is a way to carry yourself and respect your partner. This isn't about her money, who she is, or any of that. Stop using that as a way to demean her child's father. This is about her behavior bottom line.

[@Erniepotts]

I appreciate your comment. Many times when women are wrong they’ll look for any opening to point the finger back at the man then exaggerate his wrong to diminish hers. That’s exactly what happened with Darius.

[@ensabahnur3104]

If you can't express YOUR feelings without shaming someone else...then no one will hear it, nor should they.

[@DaniDVinelife]

All that C and E are saying is valid HOWEVER that man did not express his emotions on Twitter, he attempted to chastised her for wearing what she had on and being mom. Maybe if he said "this activity makes me feel uncomfortable and hurts my feelings that would beca different story. But that is not what he did.

[@ramontehunter9042]

All I hear 👂 nobody wants to hold women accountable

[@sincerelyykay]

I don’t think it’s about shaming them because they have feelings I think it’s about the emotional intelligence of the person they are giving this information to and also how they articulate their feelings. As a 35 year old man saying things like “my parents are to blame for my actions” just doesn’t sit well .. for men I think it’s more about those that have victim mentality with no real accountability to resolve their problems. .

[@hueyfreeman5509]

Not even sure what you mean by "emotional intelligence" but that's kind of ironic because men are the only ones consistently held accountable, so any issue a 35 year old would be expressing would probably be something a lot deeper than “my parents are to blame for my actions”

[@ebbyc1817]

"victim mentality". mmm, I dunno, arguably everyone has victim mentality these days... It's all about what person x, y, z did TO me. He made me feel. She made me feel. No one's accountable for their own emotions.

[@sincerelyykay]

@@hueyfreeman5509 Not everyone can receive information or knows how to be there for others when they are vulnerable and also respectfully exclude their own feelings to even let a man have his moment. Being held accountable by others and holding oneself accountable is two different things. Now whether it's a man or not.. venting is essential, but resolution should be followed behind that. How many times are you willing to listen to someone "vent" about the same thing? Most men even use it to their advantage that it isn't normalized enough for them to be vulnerable just to be secretive. So yes.. victim mentality.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

@@sincerelyykay It seems like you have a specific person or a few people in mind and you're using them to generalize men, which couldn't be further from the truth. Your first sentence basically describes a lot of women. They don't know how to be there for a man if he gets vulnerable because they don't understand the male experience and prioritize their feelings. Then to your next sentence, being held accountable and taking accountability yourself are two different things yes, but they often go hand in hand. Other people holding you accountable is often the wake up call a man needs to look in the mirror and improve, which again is ironic to your point because unlike men, women have their bad decisions reinforced and rarely ever take accountability and self improve. You're also kind of contradicting yourself saying men vent about the same thing but then in the next saying men are being secretive. So how can you be secretive and vent? Men are "secretive" because we know women can't handle our problems, so we deal with them ourselves. So where is the "victim mentality" here? If anybody that's women who don't really see accountability, just look at this past couple weeks of jt and keke palmer

[@Unc654]

Look at who y’all talking to about this

[@davidjohnson2662]

I’m so glad my wife and I are both 85 babies and have respect for each other’s opinions cuz I’ll catch a case with these new generation of women

[@takeomasaki260]

thank god im single with no kids, whew. bullets dodged.

[@Tno901]

I Don't Let Women Tell Me SHIT!! Lmaooo 😂😂

[@trillionaireteddie]

The real question is why do men care what people think about them expressing themselves

[@qp4367]

because their are benefits and rewards given to the ones who uphold that toxic 'standard'..... sex being one of them

[@byronclear6332]

Justina and B are correct! Keke’s man was well within his right to feel insecure, but he was dead wrong to blast his baby mother out of his own insecurities! Shaming Keke made him look like a fool. And when he had the opportunity to say what was leading to his feelings, he doubled down with some bs!

[@Unc654]

Y would u want yo dude to be jealous of u😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@tcknox76]

I encourage my to express all of his feelings, good or bad. The world is harsh so home is a safe place.

[@horsepower5466]

Self respect is being traded for attention

[@ih8thebacofforrestwhitakerneck]

Justine sounds like a lawnmower trying to start when she talks lol

[@southpau]

They need some more mature people to talk about this to. It’s embarrassing to have a grown conversation with certain people. No shade on these lady’s but they don’t get it!

[@freakytalespod]

Thought the same thing 😂😂the red head was sayin she should be able to twerk on drake ECT was crazy

[@ILoveNaeSayers]

At these big ages, it’s on that person to learn emotional intelligence if it wasn’t taught in their upbringing. Men should absolutely feel safe in expressing their feelings however, the delivery matters. Social media does not rehabilitate or help people heal. That’s what licensed specialists are for. That’s what your spirituality is for. That’s what your village is for.

[@romarisewilliams7429]

I feel sorry for their men 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@tony-yl8gp]

Me too 😁

[@flyguy7825]

That was taught to us by our parents that was taught to us by the people who guide us in our lives about feelings and this goes for not just men but women too because of how they were taught me as a man I have no problem expressing my feelings because I’ve noticed I’m never ever gonna get anywhere in life if I don’t but at the same time people who don’t understand my feelings can’t be shaming me or judging me based upon what I shared to them

[@romarisewilliams7429]

These new batch of woman sheesh 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ this chick said innocent hoeing

[@davile4596]

That milk starting to age justina😭😭😭

[@jjdrum22]

Women not holding other women accountable

[@Notch804above]

Respected enough to have your children but not enough to respect your opinion and boundaries

[@clutchk5240]

Breakfast Club dropped the ball not interviewing Kevin Samuels when they had a chance.

[@KnowWhat]

It’s NOT Keke’s job to teach him how to express himself! He can 💯 express his emotions PRIVATELY with his partner!!

[@DirtySouthMVPTexasEdition]

2 birds on the show chirping

[@tony-yl8gp]

Yes

[@dedwards2385]

Y'all all the way crazy if you don't think HOW you do something is just as important as WHAT you. No matter the topic calling someone out in public over social media is not okay... I don't know why so many people pretend to not understand that. Feel how you feel but express it in a way that doesn't make the situation worse.. it's really THAT simple

[@juliusdv6657]

No one has a problem with him being upset and expressing himself. We all have valid feelings, but that expression should have been between him and Keke, I think we're losing track of what the actual issue was. You owe it to your partner to validate their feelings, but he messed up when he tried to intentionally humiliate her. People can say "well she humiliated him first", which is subjective but intent matters which is why I personally hope she left that fool, and this entire time she has not addressed him/situation publicly and has only made money off it lol. That's someone i'd want in my pocket.

[@topazx9801]

I agree 🎯

[@phantomzxro1]

I don't think that was the point of the topic tho. He was wrong in how he did it but the level of dragging this man like he told every women in the world to get back into the kitchen is too much. Granted that's what happens when you post things on social media but the topic is that what would it look like for men to healthy express their feelings and how would it be recieved regarding moments of weakness.

[@juliusdv6657]

@@phantomzxro1 We can't say though "that's what it would be like for men to healthy express their feelings and how it would be received" because he did not express himself in a healthy way. Now putting that aside (because I do agree everyone's feelings should be validated), he was also dragged for his hypocrisy. He spoke on traditional values, yet, he was not a man of traditional values - he had a baby out of wedlock, was not the bread winner, was not the head of his household (nor was that even his house). Also, he was complaining about his woman dancing on Usher but has thirst trap photos on instagram. He had himself looking silly. If you're going to rant, at least make sense. This grown man had other grown men publicly scrutinizing and call his lady a whore/slut for the whole world to see because he got jealous. That's messed up. I do agree though there are plenty of women (and men) that will drag a man through the mud for expressing themselves, even when they do it in a positive way.

[@septemberjai5216]

5:00 💯

[@septemberjai5216]

5:42, 8:08

[@topdogvids]

The energy is different than wen chance the rapper did it 2 months ago

[@lets_play_a_game268]

Fellas, keep your feelings, emotions and concerns reserved for yourself, your mother and your daughter only. There's no win for us in society today. Double standards cut our way also.

[@r.m.90]

The better question is, why do men feel the need to shame their women publicly? Especially when it's due to their own insecurity.

[@dillon2829]

Simp or toxic feminist?

[@r.m.90]

@dillon2829 Perhaps if you had a father, you wouldn't be spewing toxic manosphere buzz words.

[@skinnysky]

Same women that praise keke palmer dancing on usher are the same women that bash chance the rapper dancing at the carnival

[@mharp6166]

Ain't no pass, it's respect. Kyle kuzmas girl let it be known, he's a nice singer but I'm enjoying him while sitting on her man's lap.

[@martymarc8586]

what I really think it was is that dude is used to being “That Dude” and that was his first real life reality check that there’s someone out there better than you, and it just happened to be on the grand stage of them all,the Internet.

[@brandonbrown6918]

Why we always getting opinions from chicks who we dont want as role models for our youth.....

[@thatlovegirl12]

KeKe's man has beige rage 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@gunsdown4497]

A lot of y’all don’t want a good man. Y’all want a trick or a simp!! Y’all want a yes man. A man whose only purpose is to serve you and not himself or goals!! Y’all couldn’t handle a “real good man.” Y’all can’t handle a man correcting you. or calling you out on yo bs and habits and holding you accountable. Y’all want a sponsor. A real man is going to lead and not be led. A real man isn’t going to allow you to have those same habits you been having. A real man is going to stand up for himself and know his worth. A lot of y’all definitions of a good man is a man that y’all can control.

[@Emoney455]

Preach Pastor

[@RoseG_Official]

We are witnessing the death of relationships first hand! Next 10 years nobody will even consider relationships! Watch! 😒

[@CeeWorld69]

3 things modern women in America will always be defined by. 1 Allergic to accountability 2 Addicted to attention 3 Suffering from jealousy

[@freakytalespod]

Not takin advice from a chick that said she don't shower every day or a white girl who think she black

[@KingSpaceySprockets]

I learned from my mistakes with my ex. I am on currently on the healing journey.

[@JohnSmith-er5gv]

I really enjoyed this conversation from both the women and men