Why D&D feels stressful now

[@alexanderwinn9407]

Important distinction: comparing your game to Critical Role or Dimension 20 isn’t just bad because they’re professionals, they also have a DIFFERENT GOAL than you do. You’re playing to have fun, they’re playing to put on a good show. It’s not that they’re unreasonably good at this, it’s that they’re doing something FUNDAMENTALLY DIFFERENT than you are. It’s less like comparing your friends’ football game to the NFL, and more like comparing your family photos to TIME Magazine covers. It’s just a completely different endeavor.

[@GinnyDi]

Yes, exactly! 🙌 That’s such an important distinction.

[@sleepinggiant4062]

They are most certainly playing to having fun, but they are also making a product to be enjoyed.

[@AvengerYouT]

Well said. An example is the time spent in Critical Role when just one or two players are taking part in a scene. In a regular game, the other players get bored after a while, but in the show, if it's still interesting for the audience, the scene goes on for as long as it needs.

[@achimsinn6189]

yeah. It also really shows in their terrain set ups and minis. Those leds, smoke engines, elaborate minis and buildings are almost pieces of art at times and they are spectacular for a show, but they just would not work well for us setting up a game on the living room table after having eating pizza in the dinning room next door.

[@C1umsyJester]

⁠@@sleepinggiant4062like I imagine actors have fun filming, or comics enjoy doing their sets. They’re making a product, they’re having fun, imo they’re just better at the game than most

[@hqueso]

I've been playing D&D since the late 70's, and when I first saw your commentaries, I thought, "Great, just what I need- some kid half my age who's been playing for less time than some of my campaigns have run, giving me advice." And I still think that. Without any sarcasm or irony. It's so easy to get so set in one's ways after literal decades of play, that it's refreshing and inspiring to see someone with all the excitement I have for the game, but from a fresh point of view. It doesn't hurt that you're creative, funny and have a lot of good things to say about the hobby, either. I even liked the mimic video (double-checks to make sure the Like button was actually hit- OK, it is now). Keep up the good work!

[@MonkeyJedi99]

I'm also a "since the late 1970's" player. Well, I was the forever DM for the first decade and a half... Anyhow, our gaming has pretty much died with one player dying, two moving to another state, one drifting away from the group... Leaving two of us still in the state and still interested. I may have to try out that "playing in PUGs in a gaming store" thing. Now to find a gaming store that still exists...

[@GinnyDi]

I don’t even know if I should’ve made this video! I have no doubt it will be misunderstood in all kinds of exciting ways I couldn’t even predict. But I, like many of you, am having a weird week. SO HERE WE GO

[@MarkCherkowski]

Never second-guess yourself! Just make the videos!

[@StephaniePlaysGames]

What? People misunderstanding things and jumping to conclusions on KZbin? Puhleeease 🙄😂

[@NathanCamp]

I think it was well worth making. Even when you think you're quite self aware of algorithms and doomscrolling it can get you. P.s. I liked the mimic video.

[@seaborgium919]

@@NathanCamp what nathan said

[@AmishDemonHunter]

The Mimic video was truly Amazing. You are a treasure, and a breath of fresh air in these trying times. Thank You for what you do.

[@pleasemyplants3447]

I'm so happy that all my youtubers are putting out cozy content and mental-health healthy videos right now. I can see that it's on purpose and I'm so grateful. Also, stardew :) Also also, how is your mimic video not doing amazing in the algorithm?! It's so cool!

[@CrispysTavern]

Hey I watched that Mimic video like 4 times while working on a big LEGO build. Just incidentally kept clicking it. I'm doing my part!

[@hoid9407]

I honestly don't understand why that flopped. It was such a fun video. Cat-mimic alliance alone was worth the watch

[@Party13197Gurl]

There's a cute kitten in it for goodness sakes!!😻

[@The_Brainsturgeon]

Crispy!

[@johnshioli1499]

I loved that video! How could it be a flop? I don’t understand people anymore…

[@iananelson8256]

I watched and enjoyed the heck out of it! One of these days I might even try and replicate it when I am not feeling lazy or involved in other things. So, maybe, some day, probably, for sure!

[@modularrealms]

Thank you Ginny for doing the sponsorship video! It's always incredibly exciting for me to see my stuff on other creators channels!! ❤ Your ad last time helped me get steel tools for injection moulded dungeon tiles, now we're already into stretch goals and about to get loads more magnetic scenery! 😄 I am so excited to see my labour of love come to life like this! 😁 You're further along in your journey than I am (with this Kickstarter I'll be paying my mum for the first time!), and it's so great to see the example you set. It's something to aspire to! 😁 Thank you again! - Annabelle

[@emilymartin5418]

This is so many kinds of amazing!

[@GinnyDi]

It's a genuine pleasure! 🥰 Huge congrats getting funded so quickly and being able to pay your mom this time around-that’s AMAZING! Can’t wait to see you power through the stretch goals!

[@digitaljanus]

Those earrings are so sharp, they're regime-changing!

[@AlrisaChrex]

Literally came into the comments to just gush over how much I loved these earrings. There's so cute and very appropriate when casually mentioning how we have enough to be stressed out about in real life to be stressing over DnD too.

[@jon-paulfilkins7820]

You could say that they are cutting edge fashion...

[@Syedaxox]

went into the comments to find if we were talking about the earrings lol

[@murphieslaw6932]

Still undecied wether or not the Guillotine or the Longsword earrings are better. That being sad, I totally own a BG 3 char rocking sword earrings. They would look rediculous on me, but if I were a girl I´d want some in real life... Okay, I have a sword pendant, that will do too, I guess.

[@emilyz4104]

They're amazing.

[@PaleImperator]

In the SCA, we had a recurring saying "We do this because it is fun." It was a constant reminder that if it stopped being fun - for whatever reason - to do it less, or do it with less intensity, or stop doing it entirely for a bit.

[@alexbistagne1713]

yes! SCA!

[@homeiswonderland]

I'm really thinking about getting involved in the SCA, it sounds so interesting.

[@PaleImperator]

@@homeiswonderland it can be a blast. It can also be expensive and sometimes a bit cliquish. My major advice is to play at the level you want to - if that's super-researched super-authentic, that's great. If it's way more casual, that's great, too. Take care!

[@Mark-ki7ic]

My granddaughter got her DMG yesterday and shes already texted me about the game she'll running Saturday.

[@GinnyDi]

I love that! 🥰 Sounds like you’ve got a future legendary DM in the making!

[@Mark-ki7ic]

@@GinnyDi with her dad, stepmom (my daughter) and me she'll have lots of role models

[@Doomsword0]

That's awesome!

[@AvengerYouT]

@@Mark-ki7ic a family of DMs. What a lucky girl!

[@escapadesrpg]

Remind her that life offline is better ❤

[@zionosphere]

Having a "checking in" video from time to time is great. Sometimes, people need to breathe, or touch grass, or find a different way to relax.

[@Dru20]

Thank you for being a “vaguely teal” light in the gaming KZbin space. Watching your videos actively reduces my overall anxiety levels.

[@MomirsLabTech]

I second this.

[@DanSolo41]

Yes! (In most channels) the stuff that "gets the clicks" is loud, energetic, explosive, rage-inducing, anxiety-causing, and is often bright, with "hot" colours, and all that combined tends to cause my photosensitivity and noise-sensitivity to spike.

[@chaosfrogs7]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="27">0:27</a> When 69k views is a flop you did something right! I watched it and really enjoyed it.

[@dubbingsync]

I don’t know why a video of someone talking about the stresses of running something fun is actually quite a calming video… but it is.

[@mikkaelathorne4459]

This sums it all up! 😊

[@bryand7667]

It's giving "sense of community over shared suffering"

[@jtmaxwell]

Agreed. It just feels...cozy!

[@Exaltable]

Hey Ginny, just saying thank you for making a video about this. It feels especially important with what we’re all going through now in the world to have more people lend their voices to talk about the massive impact of ragebait. You handled the subject with a lot of grace keeping it mostly about TTRPGS and I respect that even if I would have gladly listened to your full opinions. Thanks for the day improvement and the extra inspiration to finally banish Twitter from my phone too.

[@diebosseyyy4904]

Good news! Your videos always make me feel better, and that life sized mimic was totally worth the 3 days you spent on it!

[@GinnyDi]

I’m so glad to hear my videos bring you some joy! And thank you for appreciating the mimic-I had way too much fun making that thing, even if it was a wild 3 days 😂

[@Bagley2014]

Ironically, the sponsored bits of Ginny's videos are some of the best parts, which is amazing because there are so many good parts

[@TifTr5cfc]

Exactly! I swear everyone does sponsors from a certain brand the same each time vs I would watch a 3 hour long video of all of Ginny’s sponsored skits

[@theLohan]

"Comparison tends to roll high on Sleight of Hand and sneak off with your Joy." Ginny-fucious saying of Deep Wisdom, phrased so cutely

[@GinnyDi]

oh my gosh, I love this! “Ginny-fucious” might be my new favorite title 😂

[@PaladinProse]

Ginny, thank you so much for making this video. I think its a great reminder for creators, and a really important look behind the scenes for viewers. Our mental health is so important, and awareness of how our playforms work is equally so.

[@3nertia]

I can't believe the mimic video flopped! How could that possibly be!? It's so good! You're a fantastic storyteller AND artist!

[@JFuller0305]

Pointing out several things here: The guillotine earrings are awesome, that mimic looked absolutely amazing, and I don't know how many games I've also DM'd with "3 bullet points and a prayer". Alot of your videos have helped me run better games, so keep up the great videos, Ginny!

[@zeugenberg]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="210">3:30</a> "Three Bulletpoints and a Prayer" should be a Tshirt.

[@trackeduser2577]

that sounds like a hit song too. get someone on that!

[@graham8443]

+

[@GryphonDes]

Right up there with 5Gold and a party!

[@Doomsword0]

The combo of the pink eyeshadow with the green hair later the pink sweater is so good. Plus with those earrings, style was excellent this video!

[@pleh7019]

For me, a big part of keeping DND low stress is keeping the game low tech. The second most important thing is having a regular date/time to play rather than scheduling each session individually.

[@jreed3842]

This is why you’re my favorite D&D content creator. This kind of genuine, kind advice is something I really needed to hear. I am planning on DMing my first game in March and I have been so worried and stressed and watching the “wow this DM was absolute shit don’t be like them” videos. I really need to step back, focus on me and my players and what works for us. Also I loved your Mimic video. The people who didn’t watch really missed out!!

[@stpacheco01]

I love the guillotine earrings! Awesome 😆

[@muffin-r6m]

i know, i thought they were really cool too!!!

[@tomleonard830]

I'm wondering if they are the right scale to put on the battle map.

[@The_Brainsturgeon]

Ça ira, ça ira, am I right?

[@ArkadiBolschek]

And appropriate af

[@stpacheco01]

@@ArkadiBolschek Absolutely

[@rhodanstarshiptitanic1194]

Brava! Whether it's D&D or obsessing about the latest news cycle, unplugging and getting outside always helps. Thanks for the video and I loved your Mimic!

[@BlossomRaique]

im so glad you mentioned the spell prep thing! My dm at my current table just removed it because none of us find it fun. To some people it might break the game but for us it works cause we trust each other not to abuse the fact we have access to all of our spells all the time. Not to mention it feels awesome to be able to cast whatever you want whenever you want!! (assuming you have the spell slots ofc lol)

[@GinnyDi]

Ah, that’s so awesome to hear! 🥳 Yep, that’s exactly the kind of thing I was talking about-if ditching spell prep makes the game more fun for you and your group, then that’s all that matters! If everyone’s on board and it enhances the experience, who cares what the internet says?

[@ahveil3916]

Couldn't agree more as a DM, personally I think if you're character "knows" that spell, they should *know* that spell. Preparring spells and stuff is something we save for really big fights, if one has a ritual or incantation, something that takes time, I'll give a moment before the Boss for potions, buffs, spells, swapping gear, whatever they wanna do. The only thing I really restrict is changing class, I allow it once per campaign and we can't be more than 75% done. Which I do, not spoil the story, but tell them how full their adventure feels. The more full their stories are the closer they are to the end

[@martastic3359]

That's an interesting idea I might insert into future games, and I have a question, for classes that use known spells (bard, sorcerer, ranger, warlock and wizard to an extent) do you give them all the spells or are still limited to learning level by level?

[@BlossomRaique]

@martastic3359 we keep it level by level for classes with a known spells list! For example my character is a profane soul blood hunter and i do follow the known spells list for that!

[@skullsquad900]

I always run it like that. I just let my players write down everything they think their character would use most of the time and if they want they can switch them out between games. 🤷‍♂️

[@AncientCelestialBird]

I'm thankful every week that my online d&d group somehow meshed well on my first try. I hear so many stories about groups that suck.

[@rainmanjr3]

Ah man, I loved the parents help crafting video!

[@GinnyDi]

They worked so hard they deserve tons of views!!

[@rainmanjr3]

@ they really do! I was also inspired by your video of when you played D&D with them and I am now running a game with my MIL after we played a one shot and she really enjoyed it!

[@melodybales2038]

Same I've loved all the videos your parents get a feature in. Super wholesome 😌

[@JeffHay]

At first I wondered why I was feeling stressed watching this video, and then I remembered that I had my YT app set for 1.2x. Once I slowed it down so I could actually listen to what you were saying (maybe there’s a lesson there somewhere? 🤷‍♂️), I found you made some really good points in a very digestible way. Thanks for the reality (and well-being) check!

[@Szystedt]

YES OMG! This is what I need. 😭❤️ I am often on the verge of anxiety attacks before sessions-heart palpitations, intense nausea, shaking- I do feel better an hour in or so, and I think I enjoy the game! ...but damn am I a blob of anxiety beforehand.

[@GinnyDi]

Oh gosh, I feel this so hard. 😭💛 It’s wild how something we genuinely enjoy can also make us so anxious, right? I’m really glad to hear you’re able to settle in once the game gets going, though. Just remember-you’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to take it slow. You got this! 💪

[@Szystedt]

@@GinnyDiThank you! ❤️

[@colinbalitewicz1030]

​@@SzystedtBased Pfp

[@melodybales2038]

UGH SAME. It's hard but the goblin hoard must mob onward.

[@TheDurektor]

This sounds a lot like the stage jitters I'd get just before showtime for ANY AND EVERY play I was in. Terrified that I'd flub a line, or forget my stage directions and accidently knock over a fake wall or something. But behind my stage fright, I always knew that after my first scene all (or at least, most) of my fears would be eclipsed by the pure joy of performing with my friends. Sure lines might get skipped, or the sound guy might jump the gun on a music cue, but at the end of the day, everyone is just there to have a good time.

[@livingtanith]

Thank you for being a beacon of joy, levity, and positivity in this community. You are greatly appreciated and adored.

[@russdarracott395]

Damn, that mimic looks good.

[@GinnyDi]

She's a looker!!

[@russdarracott395]

@GinnyDi indeed she is.

[@TimNoyce]

Thank you for being thoughtful and KIND. Every time a see a video by you it cheers me up and relaxes me.

[@Boone_Faustus]

I am so glad my group has started playing again after a year of being on hold. The joy definitely overrides the anxiety once we get going. I tend to forget to comment on things but I'll try to make more of an effort to engage with and boost more positive things and let the negative ones disappear into the ether. (There are many channels I just won't watch due to the always negative feel of their titles and thumbnails.)

[@GinnyDi]

That’s awesome to hear that you guys are back and that the joy is outweighing the stress. It’s definitely a reminder that the good stuff is worth the effort!

[@BabylonZeus]

This channel is pure gold. Thank you Ginny for this work, competency and dedication. I've been knowing d&d for 30 years now, and all you say in your videos are so right and pinpoint precisely things. This community is lucky to have you!

[@zenith110]

This video is a massive W in terms of meta-commentary on the games we play right now. Huge, huge gratitude here. I've struggled with this and so has my group. Big thanks, and we will have to be strong and organize to get through these next 4 years. You have my support. -Random Viewer.

[@Chameleonred5]

Or, you know, the foreseeable future. You have to know how bad a problem is in order to have a shot at fixing it.

[@kovacsviola4393]

Another good advice that worked for me. If DND stresses you out, TRY ANOTHER SYSTEM. i was absolutely miserable DM-ing DnD. Every session vagy at least half an hour of argument over rules, or trying to decern how any thing would work. I fing hated every second of it. Went to another system to try out and play, Free League. So much easyer, every rule is straight forward. Started DMing Call of Cthulhu, never looked back. DnD is so busy trying to cater to everyone, they will not lay down decent rules, and even the ones they do can be interpreted 9 ways. It was madening

[@yamazaki752]

Can confirm. I used to rage about my players when I ran Pathfinder 1e because they never wore got it. They were fine with the basics, but nobody got more invested beyond that, which made things much harder for me in the long haul. In the recent years, however, I swapped for lighter rulesets, especially those of the PbtA and FitD design space (also Wildsea when I find the free time to run again). Games that are so light that a cheat sheet or two is all the players need to play. And the amount of effort I need to put in between sessions dropped drastically from an hour to 10 minutes on average. I still love my crunchy complex systems, but it's not worth the effort to run them most of the time for me anymore. It took me far too long to learn that and accept it, but I'm glad I did.

[@wowanothercookie]

Would you be so gracious as to give me the full name of those abbreviations? I'm currrently on the hunt for what I'd like to play in after my current (wayyy to prep and rule-heavy for me) campaign T-T ​@@yamazaki752

[@lukedavis307]

I really appreciated this video. I think these sort of "let's just talk" videos are something I'd love to consume more of. Algorithm or no, I want to find a way to locate calming content. I will also say that I oddly felt a sort of despair about my game this week, "with all there is to worry about in the world, should I be playing my silly little game of elves and wizards", but I think joy is a close cousin to courage. It's why the existence of the shire is so important in lord of the rings. So I'm going to keep playing and not dismiss it as trivial. To play heroes is a sort of act of hope, and hope is always welcome.

[@Fishfiend2820]

This video reminds me how important it is to comment on positive videos, thanks for such a warm and welcoming channel

[@WarrenLaFrance]

I started feeling this a couple years ago. Especially when I brought in virtual tabletop software and other computer based assistance.

[@GinnyDi]

Ugh, yeah, I get that! Sometimes the tech that’s supposed to make things easier can actually end up making it feel more like a chore. It’s like adding another layer of prep, right? Hope you’ve found a balance that works better for you now! 😊

[@tupalev]

That's a really good point and something I've felt as well - adding possible tech issues to the anxiety of running a game can be a lot! I'm thankful for my super chill group that a) helps me with said tech issues and b) simply doesn't make them a big deal at all.

[@FzNd]

How come? I find running the game on a VTT a lot easier than doing it at a table, because it immensly reduces the amount of note taking I have to do as a GM (monster hp, initiative, who has which condition etc.)

[@WarrenLaFrance]

@ I run a lot more on the fly games and sketching, maps and such out on wet erase surfaces is easier, and quicker I guess.

[@timmadigan]

I love VTTs to make it easier to find and play games when nobody in your area either plays or the few gaming stores have fixed-crowd games that aren't inviting. Nobody in my gaming group lives within a 90min of me and a couple in different times zones - VTT allows this to be done easiiy. But it adds a HUGE amount of additional work to DMs and some work to players if you want things to be TT-like. even basic map creation can be a nightmare. as noted, sometimes it's better to remember it's better to be good and just have fun than try to be "perfect".

[@TeamofLouie]

We had a player turned DM that seemed to enjoy making us have a bad time. Not giving clear directions, having to give super specific directions (ie “I grab the knob, twist, and pull” as opposed to “I open the door”), killing us willy nilly, etc. were all his forte. We brought up concerns and he subsided a bit but we ended up having to fire him as a DM (not just for these reasons) and now he’s out of the group and we’re having a good time again. Side note, I LOVE that shirt in the beginning!

[@KaiHouston-m6j]

Sounds like he had every reason to be stressed. You guys not so much?

[@Catalyst767]

Reminds me of a DM I once had who killed my character because I walked into a room and fell down a 10ft wide deep hole. I had asked for a description of the room before hand and there was no mention of a hole or even that it was dark. The dm's response was "well you didn't explicitly ask about the floor".

[@TeamofLouie]

@@Catalyst767 something just like that happened to us. My character was charmed and taken away for a whole session. The party came looking for me and were actually at the prison I was in but didn’t see the sign and skipped going in because there was a big guard inside. But they didn’t know that there was a sign that said prison above it. Why? Because they didn’t look up.

[@Catalyst767]

@@TeamofLouie Yeah, it's really annoying when a DM doesn't tell you an obvious fact about something that your character should see or know. Then they punish you for not asking about it even though in your case it's a clearly signposted public building and in mine an obvious lack of a floor in a room.

[@Catalyst767]

I've also witnessed a DM stall a party for almost an hour trying to get through a single door they thought was locked because the player said "I want to push open the door". The DM said "it won't open, you think it's locked". He thought it was hilarious that we wasted an hour thinking the door was locked when really it was a pull forward door. Our characters obviously would have tried to open the door both ways and saying "push it open" was just a poor choice of wording which the DM got super pedantic on.. why? To make the game less fun I guess.

[@Squirtally]

It's honestly very nice to hear someone else talk about how stressful D&D can be sometimes. When I'd bring it up to my friends and family, they would dismiss my feelings because "it's just a game," but it's definitely a social thing too! It's nice to spend time with friends in a shared activity, and it's difficult when that activity feels stressful as well. Your thoughts were very well-spoken in this video, and I liked the 4-step plan you had at the end- it's always nice to have a way to put the video's lessons into action!

[@Ravenovia]

Idk why the Mimic video flopped-I loved it! Plus we finally got to learn the name of Gellian the Gelatinous Cutie!

[@peterw2880]

You’re such a positive light in this space, Ginny. Thanks for doing what you do!

[@faithfullyfaithless]

Those guillotine earrings are a mood

[@cmeggison]

Long time listener, first time caller here… THANK YOU for doing this, your timing is perfect. I’m struggling a bit and your perspective was very helpful. Thank you for your care and for sharing your experiences!

[@GinnyDi]

Welcome to the comments section! Hope things get better soon - you got this 🙌

[@kerbangol.8386]

I liked the mimic video. Also, "lie on the floor for the next four years" I have dust bunnies in my hair already and I live in California.

[@GinnyDi]

Thank you!! I'm glad someone did 🥰

[@rotemcohen7425]

Thank you for making this video. As someone who’s DEEPLY anxious this topic touches deep and hearing the wholesome and funny you talking about it is great

[@Newfers77]

Why make rage bait content when you can make Barbarian Rage Content? I'm glad I found your channel. It's a breath of fresh air in the community. D&D is, has always been, and will always be a game. Games are for fun. D&D/TTRPGs allow us to take what we want and ignore what we don't and make the best of it. People need to chill out.

[@thebookworm90]

I appreciate the effort you put into creating new and different skits for your sponsorship ads. They're always entertaining.

[@Oðrun]

Truly a refreshing take on our hobby. I'm going to go back to the "Mi-Maw the Mimic" video to make sure that I gave it a thumbs-up the first time I watched it.

[@GinnyDi]

You know it! Mama Mimic deserves all the love!

[@scottlujan552]

Ginny, you are a treasure. I regularly ask my players to watch your videos, including my kids. Thank you.

[@diii8840]

Loading up the Mimic video now, hope you have a pleasant day! EDIT: There's a kitten in the mimic video! 10/10, no notes.

[@GinnyDi]

I shouldn't have buried the lede, huh! 🥰

[@ryuteki]

@@GinnyDi Indeed! I humbly request apologies for I did indeed send my wife a screengrab of the kitten instead of making her watch the entiere video... Please forgive me? Everyone involved in that video was adorable to watch, the kitten is more up her alley though. :)

[@branchmoor]

The life-sized mimic is my favourite video of the year. It timed perfectly with a new crafting obsession and my first time making a cosplay. It might not be enough to help the algorithm, but I was very inspired. Thank you! 🙏 I can't believe how more people aren't intrigued by the thumbnail alone 🤔 It's so cool!

[@samb1055]

I loved the mimic video. I not only watched the whole thing, but I saved it for my daughters to watch as well.

[@Scorkey333]

Thanks for the encouragement to relax. And the mimic was amazing and it was fun to watch you and your family build it!

[@rhodrambles3943]

That ending at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="824">13:44</a> is all such amazing advice and not just for D&D but life in general. I always run / advertise games as "homebrew" even if nothing is homebrewed just because it means everything is in play and nothing can be "wrong". After trying to be the prefect DM for years, this change made this 130 pound ball of anxiety in human skin far less stressed. Now if a player wants to do something technically not in 5e but it wont break the game, sure go for it. Oh you played a new video game with a cool country / character you want to base yours on, go for it. Whatever adds fun, just do it (as long as everyone is ok with it).

[@Vanyarma]

Thanks a lot for this! This video resonated so hard with me because once I started running my own campaign I had to stop watching "how to" DnD videos completely, or I would never stop second guessing myself. With so much to plan and do the worst thing you can allow yourself to happen is to let your insecurities take the wheel. Until you find your (and your players) own style don't force yourself to try new things unless you feel absolutely comfortable doing so, and remember that the goal is for everyone to have fun, including the guy/gal behind the DM screen. Once I feel confident enough (or when I take a break) I'll be back, promise :D

[@ThymeKeeper]

The mimic video is AWESOME.

[@danielfarrugia5492]

I'm a D&D player in my late 40's, who got back into D&D after leaving it in my early 20's because I needed to focus on my studies. Your videos have always been fun and helpful, and it breaks my heart a little that comments on-line have left you feeling rubbish and dwelling on them, and detracted from the vast number of positivity in your comments. But I also get it - I tend to focus on my negative reviews for my business too. I hardly ever comment on KZbin videos, but to add some weight to the positive ones - love your work, and your mission to make the TTRPG space more enjoyable, positive and safe for everyone. And I'm going to go watch the mimic video now. 😀

[@sirsentry1769]

I watch very few D&D creators on youtube. Because as you mentioned, a lot are created just to fuel rage. There was one that would pop up on my feed every once and a while (and without naming them) I would click on a few just to see, but almost every title was "Wizards scandal just got words" and "New WOTC scandal worse than last" and every time I would click on their video, it made me angry, not at WOTC or anything else but at the creator. The thing they were talking about, I never saw as serious as they, and their comments did. It just felt like they were blowing things out of proportion. That entire story to say, thank you for being a good force in the D&D youtube community, because even if your titles are more negative sounding than others, at least your videos help people with any issues they may be having and not just throwing fuel on the fire. I can't think of any of your videos that are wholly negative.

[@MollyHuffle]

Same. I think I know who you’re talking about too. Had to unfollow them.

[@mooxim]

Hi Ginny. I love what you do and this video really resonated with me. I recently decided to drop my homebrew campaign in dedicate me DMing energy to running mainly prewritten modules with an interchangeable group of dwarf PCs with three optional sidekicks so I can even play on days when only one or two people can play. I also met up with a group that I only see in person about every 6 months (very stressful) and came clean about how I feel about DMing for them and they were super-supportive. I have a lot of baggage about worrying about being underprepared for them but that's another story. On the topic of having a healthy relationship with my KZbin watching habits, I've noticed that I feel a social obligation to support some youtubers and continue watching their content even if I haven't really got the time or the interest. I'm actively resisting the urge to feel guilted into watching the KZbin videos of my subscription. So as much as I appreciate the other stuff you do, I won't be watching the mimic video out of principle.

[@lukamurphy2021]

You made a life-size mimic?! That sounds like a delightful time for all, I'll have to watch that video immediately!! I'm glad you were able to get your thoughts out here. We've been poisoned by cynicism, irony and negative feedback loops online, and people talking about and providing actionable steps toward taking a broader view is very psychologically healthy.

[@jackmarek587]

Ginny, I just want to say that I loved your mimic video! That and I really agree about moderating online content. I follow a bunch of TTRPG content creators here on KZbin, but a while back, I unsubscribed from a channel that always left me feeling irritated and frustrated when I was done watching a video. Whatever the topic was, it wasn't worth leaving myself feeling bad when it was over. Keep doing what you're doing, you're one of my favorite content creators on KZbin, and not just within the TTRPG community! P.S. I love your earrings!

[@daniellemurnett2534]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="576">9:36</a> I disagree actually. I would love a video of just like, compiled GM affirmations.

[@meggzbenni]

Girl, this video could not have come at a better time for me. Just started DMing and feeling so overwhelmed by the online do's and dont's and comparisons and discourse just getting myself totally stressed out about a game I absolutely LOVE! Giving me a reminder to step back, take a deep breath and run the game how me and my players want to run it - it's for us and only us at the end of the day. Thank you

[@soyun.unicornio]

Thanks for this, Ginny! This is something the whole fandom must address now: playing is supposed to be fun, not making our lives more stressful. Greeting from Mexico!

[@gaiaorigin9569]

Honestly, your channel and your videos always feel like a calm, warm and safe space, even though (or maybe because) you often talk about the stressful sides of DnD. As I read in another comment here, it almost feels like your videos actively calm anxiety.

[@ZandyrBier004]

The mimic video is the one I shared with my free labor source (parents) as well. We love it! And your videos are top tier content. You make my day and my games better.

[@GinnyDi]

Aw, thank you! That means a lot to hear. 🥰

[@mantra_ephemera]

You’re the only account I consistently watch. The online community stresses me out. This video is great. And for the record, my backstories are cliche, if I’m a bard it’s a slutty bard (but I make all my characters slutty), and I love when my DM includes DMPCs.

[@Zorpo-zoom]

I love this video it’s a great message and a much needed bit of constructive positivity. Also the mimic video is so good. The algorithm really sucks sometimes. Y’all better watch it!

[@GinnyDi]

Ahhh, thank you so much! 🥹💛 I’m really glad the message resonated. And yes, the mimic video deserves more love! The algorithm may be tough, but it’s comments like this that keep me going. 🫶

[@Rayne_Storms]

My favorite manager once told me "There's no such thing as a blog emergency." I'm glad you're spreading that message to more people.

[@TheRealTopHatOnYT]

These sponsorship skits are incredible; I think I just found the true meaning of ‘underrated’

[@Zai-kyu]

I have to say, as a long time DM/GM (long time.. damn I'm getting old) I really love your videos. I don't get a lot of new stuff out of them (though, sometimes you still surprise me), but I do enjoy your take on a lot of the topics you cover. I think your content is fantastic and especially great for those still learning the game (I mean, I am still learning the game after all these years... fuck I'm getting old). You always tend to have this positive vibe and that is very refreshing, especially with how a lot of people are on media. So, thank you for all you do! Now.. I am going to go watch your life sized mimic video! Support! (Also, you looked incredible in this video. Your husband is a lucky guy!)

[@Lightcaster123]

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="155">2:35</a> as someone who is gonna have the session 0 for their first ever game in a few days and is bringing an elf wizard to the table, i'm feeling extremely called out rn

[@dmingtheworld]

Thanks for this Ginny! I've had to take a six month break on my channel due to anxiety and stress. I'm just now starting to feel like coming back to it and this video sums it all up fairly accurately. Greatly appreciate your positive vibe in the community!

[@davidcashin1894]

I enjoyed the life sized mimic video. It was hilarious. Many is the time I have contemplated weird and wonderful projects like that and it is great to build the critter vicariously through someone else. On that note similarly enjoyed the funny centaur costume video.

[@GinnyDi]

Ahh, thank you so much! I’m glad you enjoyed both the mimic and the centaur shenanigans! 😂 Honestly, sometimes it’s just fun to dive into weird projects

[@davidcashin1894]

@@GinnyDi One reason I like videos like that one is discovering new techniques and materials. Did not know that air drying Foam Clay existed. What a find.

[@annagarman8016]

A really helpful video to see a mere 3 days after backing out of a game due to life stressors. I had to talk myself into backing out for a literal month, I felt so bad.

[@intoontown]

Love the messages here! Videos like this are really important, and it's so nice to see it come from someone involved in the hobby, speaking from a place of concern and stress instead of snotty judgment. Very well done, with the perfect amount of snark in the mix imo. Also, just want to say... I know it doesn't do anything for numbers, but my spouse - who adores mimics more than any D&D monster - and I loved the mimic video, and it got us brainstorming plans to do our own take, on the smaller end of the scale. So I hope it gets more views over time!

[@GinnyDi]

Aw, that's so sweet! I'm glad the mimic video sparked some creative inspiration! Let me know if you finish your own version 🙏

[@TheDarkRealmProject]

As a DM and player, this really touched me and DnD can be stressful at times but in my opinion, it's worth is to have fun and hang out with friends.

[@trofim9059]

I am shocked that life-sized mimic didn't perform well. In my books it is one of the highlights! Something dnd-esqe, that is not a piece of advice

[@GinnyDi]

Thank you - glad you enjoyed it 🥰

[@GothridgeManor]

I've been watching your videos for the past year and this is my first time commenting. I'm one of those ancient gamers that started back in the 70s. I think this video, like most of the videos I've seen if yours, has a great message. Timely. I just wanted to say well done and thanks for keeping it positive.

[@QuestcastPenandPaper]

Always the right video at the right time!

[@KriusAerion]

After being a ForeverDM for years, I finally found a group that I clicked with and have completed my first full campaign EVER as a player.

[@jacktough]

Your content has been transcendently good lately. Thank you, and stay effervescent ✨

[@cynthiacrescent]

Remember that being a lazy perfectionist is a real thing, and putting incoherent ideas down as prep to update it 30 minutes before the session is better than twiddling your thumbs.

[@daveb6390]

Just want to say that. I always find your take on whatever issue. You choose to discuss to be positive upbeat. And wholesome you've been making videos for KZbin for 5 years. I think that is incredible and I'm honestly a little jealous but only a little. Have a great day.I'm going to go watch a video about making a life size mimic now

[@ChrisKochel]

Did you catch 4-Sided dive last night? They name-dropped you. You c(sh)ould be Jester as an influencer! This video speaks to that as well. I would watch the heck outta some Ginny Jester content for contents sake.

[@GinnyDi]

Yes! A couple of people mentioned it to me! 🥰 I'll have to go and watch it asap.

[@groovemedium]

I loved your mimic video, The collab with your parents was adorable. They came out so good. I haven't played DnD in several years but I still enjoy your channel. Gaming theories are fascinating. Your ad reads are also the best in the business. I just really love your content and I've gone back and watched a lot of your older stuff. Keep up the good work!

[@Voidblitzs]

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH GINNY You inspired me to finally get my family to play dnd

[@GinnyDi]

I hope they enjoy it!! 🥰

[@Voidblitzs]

@@GinnyDi me too I've made my own miniatures out of cardboard some are tokens some are kinda 3d I will film tomorrow of my minis and I also made a dm screen

[@GinnyDi]

Wow this is awesome! Have a wonderful time

[@marcusdire8057]

Mimic video was a flop!?! I LOVED that video/build!! From the idea, to the execution. Your parents being such sweet and incredible people and helping you in another video. That you built it so you can fit inside and surpise people. The entire thing is amazing!

[@Fever2113]

I am not an anxious person whatsoever in general, but as a DM, DND def does stress me out :D It is all self induced due to putting too much expectation on myself. I feel like I cannot be qualified to DM unless I know absolutely everything about forgotten realms lore.

[@GinnyDi]

I feel that 😅 I think even the most well-adjusted person would get stressed with something as massive as Forgotten Realms lore.

[@yule8008]

Watched this an hour before a campaign session I've been semi-stressing about for 3 weeks. In the grand scheme of things, I know that d&d is about everyone having a good time. But sometimes I forget that I'm supposed to have fun too when I'm agonizing over if my ideas & homebrew are good enough. It's so silly cause I know my players are having fun; they tell me that all the time. Really trying to not be so hard on myself but it's hard. Thanks for sharing your experiences with this! Helpful to know even people who talk about d&d for a living struggle with these feelings too

[@SirTheoVT]

Man, those are some sharp earrings!

[@michaelford4148]

I come here for the positivity and the great information you provide. And I loved the life size mimic! Thanks for making this corner of the internet a more positive space. Keep up the good work, and keep your sword handy!!

[@pleh7019]

I wish I could talk online about playing DND as performance without constantly being interrupted by cries of "Dont try to be Critical Role! You can't do it, you're not actors, and trying to will ruin your experience." Actually, I'm a professional actor at a table of other professional actors, and we want to discuss this playstyle. We've all been playing for a decade. Please I beg.

[@SrTNick1]

This! It's a minor thing, but everyone saying you shouldn't compare yourself to good GMs or players in live play shows because you could never be that good gets on my nerves a bit. It's not arrogant to think that people at my table can sure as hell be as funny as live play actors! It's like a self-defeatist limitation I see all over online.

[@AfroditeBell]

In a world where everyone goes straight to decorating for Xmas the day after Halloween, I as a fall baby appreciate the autumn decor and guillotine earrings soooo much!!! 🍁🍂🎃

[@badwolfforge]

Here is a comment- I'm not angry about anything. But I will feign anger and say controversial things to help your engagement. ummm.....Pineapple belongs on pizza. Go to town KZbin Comment Section

[@GinnyDi]

Real talk, pineapple and jalapeño pizza is delicious and whenever people talk shit about pineapple on pizza, it's just more pizza for meeeeee

[@jmcclintick1980]

What! But pineapple isn't canon in the world of D&D. A chicken and meat pizza is much more appropriate for the Forgotten Realms. (I have no idea what I'm talking about - but if my lore is wrong, someone will tell me soon!)

[@zemdurza5939]

I was quite impressed with your Mimic Build, the fact that your parents even got involved was extremely gratifying to see!