Why did I choose to marry a Chinese woman???

[@maikelaoshi]

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[@Luke-e8m8i]

Nice

[@trevis1334]

请问是在哪个平台上直播？

[@dylanknight8964]

Wish you all the things good. Love your vedioes.

[@ensonx.s22]

訂閱十1

[@peterreeves8844]

麦克老师，你追过那么多女孩，回家不会跪搓衣板吗？

[@celestrefrancesouth5211]

麦克老师你好！我在法国由于要面试一家欧洲国际企业需要加强英语，所以发现了你的视频。非常好！由于你了解中国人的思维，课程很贴切，我顺利通过了英语面试。看到你的这篇视频，我虽然没有在任何社交网络注册（我非常理解你夫人为什么不愿意出现在公众面前），但也忍不住给你点赞和留言。我的老公比你幸运，我的父母完全支持我找一个法国人结婚。从我决定在法国工作和生活起，我父母就告诉我，在法国生活就要找一个法国人结婚，如果找了一个中国男朋友，就要回国内发展。我妈妈受过高等教育，非常开明。她从小就教育我，一个女人要学会独立，经济独立，人格独立，不管在哪里生活，都要靠自己，不要靠男人。你能想象吗， 在我结婚的时候，我父母送我的结婚礼物，竟然是和我在美国的姐姐，国内的哥哥一起凑的离婚基金，一笔可以让我可以在离婚的情况下，独立在法国生活两年的费用。他们认为，既然法国离婚率高，那么就要给我准备后路，他们告诉我，家人就是无论你过得怎么样，困难的时候都是你的后盾。日子不是过给别人看的，跟法国人过不下去了，就自己过。我真的很幸运，生活在小城镇的父母能有这样的心胸和眼界。在欧洲生活这么多年，见过全世界各个国家的人，经常会遇到人们问东西方文化差异的问题。借你的频道也发表一下我的见解：其实，就象你说的，每个地方都有好男人，好姑娘。我不喜欢人们说法国人怎样，美国人怎样，中国人怎样，中国有十亿人，经过了40年快速发展，每个人的经历不同，每个人都有不同的想法，怎么会存在一个 “中国人的想法“，“法国人的想法”，“美国人的想法”？我经常对娶了中国老婆的欧洲朋友说：“不要问我怎样解决你们夫妻间的问题，你只是娶了一个中国女人，你不是跟整个中国的女人结婚了，你要把你老婆首先看作一个独一无二的女人，然后中国文化只是她性格特征的一部分，不要认为，只要她不同意你的想法，就是东西方文化差异。”我认为国家和国家之间的差异，远不如每个国家内部各个社会阶层的差异来的深刻。一个法国农民和一个中国农民的想法是差不多的，一个美国的老师和一个中国的老师也可以相互理解，我在法国大学的研究所看到一个教授娶了一个北京大学教授的女儿，他们对科研的共同兴趣让他们的日子过得很和谐，与中国岳父岳母关系也很好。反而是在北京的朋友，有钱的老板娶了中国的漂亮姑娘，当医生的儿媳妇和农村保守的公公婆婆，日子过得矛盾重重。在欧洲，每3个婚姻就有一个是跨国婚姻，法国人嫁一个德国人，意大利人同样会与对方家人有语言障碍。夫妻关系好不好完全在于两个人的人生观和价值观。说太多了，最后，再次感谢麦克老师的课程让我通过了英语面试 !!!

[@MrLix83]

說得真好。祝您一直幸福。 07/20/2024

[@soniajiangjiang]

十分认可麦克老师的为人处事的态度和方式方法👍三观认可80%以上

[@yournippon]

給老師一個讚，就連中文我都無法講兩個人的婚姻，解釋的那麼有邏輯，太酷了

[@mengjiehao1464]

宝宝太可爱了，祝老师全家幸福快乐

[@dl440-c6x]

老师很客观，是个好老师

[@明天更好-o4d]

中国好女婿，好老师，谢谢你为武汉打气💪💪

[@葫芦娃-l4z]

很棒的麦克老师的视频

[@callwallyu4565]

Lisa 美国佬滚粗中国

[@ランラン-p5i]

Callwall Yu 你有毒吧

[@simplynailogical1934]

@@callwallyu4565 ?????

[@oceanus6472]

@@callwallyu4565 @Teacher Mike 看见这个评论你应该知道了：世界上有各式各样的人，但傻逼总是一样！

[@daisytsang4590]

宝宝好可爱！

[@teddyshang4973]

孩子很可爱.喜欢保守派的婚姻. 这样才是对子女最好的教育.👍

[@glorylienard7747]

祝你们婚姻幸福，很高兴看到你们这样的mix family, 是世界美好的一面。 我们是中法家庭，希望我们的孩子们将来能为世界的和平相处做些贡献。

[@脚踩蔡蔡子绿龟]

我认为寻找爱人的过程，就是寻找真正自己的过程！！ 两个人真正的爱情，就是基于两个人是否愿意为对方改变。

[@roseha9253]

Raymond luo l

[@JoJo-ix9fh]

谢谢麦克老师这一期的视频，非常棒！来自湖北的祝福。

[@grashew4323]

It’s refreshing to hear your candid views of mixed marriage. I also married a foreigner, so I can relate to most your concerns & lifestyle differences, but we’ve been together for 30 years now, so it’s working out great for us :) Thanks for sharing !!!

[@tracyl5639]

International marriage is for people who are willing to fully embrace different cultures. Wish these people the best.

[@georgelarris3661]

最喜欢MIKE老师这种边走边侃还特别逻辑清晰的视频。祝福！

[@liuyizhen8951]

Wonderful story，Mike 老师。我在爱尔兰，我老公是爱尔兰人，我觉得你说的很对，只要两个人相爱，哪个国家真的不重要。祝你们全家幸福！我的儿子已经17岁了，看到你的baby想起他小时候的样子。Enjoy the baby now. He will grow up very quickly. Best of Luck!

[@xiulili9149]

宝宝好可爱哦！祝麦克老师家庭幸福 ！开心快乐每一天！

[@chengpeng24]

The reason is very simple, you fall in love with that woman, and she happens to be a Chinese.

[@hemanshuchudasama3535]

Nah man they're easy for whites 🤣🤣

[@jonathangardner2307]

你好麦克老师，你们的宝宝好可愛，祝你们幸福长长久久

[@JAIME-150]

我的岳父岳母帮我把孩子带到4岁 真的很感激他们

[@湯媚媚]

我喜歡你用英文跟中文並用地上課的,這使我學習上方便的

[@Alex-fo6kq]

I am a Chines woman and my boyfriend is an American guy. We have different habits. He likes skiing, car racing but I like watching movies, hiking, etc. He likes greasy and fatty food but I like Chinese food. He likes football a lot but I am more a fan of soccer.He does not know too much about China , either. But we have a strong connection. We always do things that both of us enjoy doing. For the food part, I always cook Chinese American food when we eat together. Overall our relationship is sweet. ❤️

[@hemanshuchudasama3535]

He is gonna use you and then adios amigos you idiot

[@louises9911]

你太太很智慧地决定不出镜。这样可以避免看到任何评论。敬佩她坚持己见的力量，这样才是新中国的独立女性。

[@robinsonbright2671]

你是很好的丈夫，如果你妻子不喜欢出镜就别勉强她，我很喜欢你的视频。

[@jan3751]

Robinson Bright 真是个好男人🧍‍♂️！

[@Freddychao]

@王全真 都什么年代了，你他妈回火星吧

[@kanepan1381]

@王全真 别出来丢人现眼

[@estherhuang6801]

王全真 那你干嘛还辛辛苦苦翻墙用外国人做的视频网站，还不滚回墙内？！少出来丢人现眼！

[@estherhuang6801]

王全真 你辛辛苦苦翻墙出来干什么我真的没兴趣知道也没兴趣管你，但是你的确是要先管好你自己别出来丢人现眼！就是你这样的人真的把中国人的脸都丢尽了！你还好意思？！

[@kzyah5484]

你兒子太可愛了！好幸福呀！

[@Dafudagui]

麥克的太太，一定很漂亮。因為寶寶帥氣又可愛！

[@MK-mp1yz]

看了迈克老师的小故事，觉得他是一個平易近人的外国人，很好，会继续关注你的。

[@jbaobao3790]

I watched this video few months ago. I do not know why, but I had the feeling that I would like to watch it again. fantastic video, very meaningful.

[@zhenchuanzhao5702]

讲的很好很真诚，希望你们一家永远健康幸福。

[@莊佩琪-z6w]

希望你們永遠幸福下去

[@方小萍-w5v]

麥克老師擁有成熟的價值觀

[@daisyliem9640]

I can tell that you changed your mind because you have the sense of learning and observing. And for people who like to learn and observe, they get to have more understanding about certain things, and become more "matured" in their thoughts. I have seen lots of people who think they are the superior and just cannot accept the differences and the values of other cultures. Too bad that they never even bother to come out from their "shells". Good to see people like you who are willing to share the valuable experience.👍

[@wenhui900]

My husband and I have been married for 16 years and we are still together! Two kids together. American husband and Chinese wife :)

[@greenchoux1160]

十六年了英语还是硬伤

[@qy6061]

green Choux 语言是用来交流的，不用用来改错的。阅读理解都跑题，还说别人。

[@stefbbq1898]

@@qy6061 这个我赞同你

[@apolloleo9801]

@@qy6061 语言不说不好 很难好的交流 ，连自己的本意都表达不好 怎么交流？靠body language吗？

[@qy6061]

Apollo leo 那是你低估人类理解能力的差异，觉得讲同一个语言就通了。 讲不通的人，说同一个语言也不通。愿意理解你的人，body language也愿意去了解。

[@chanherman7731]

Congratulations, Teacher Mike. Enjoy your life in China, I hope everything goes well for your family.

[@stephending9992]

Mike老師的人生精彩。能感受東西方文化，羨慕。

[@xianr65]

不分國界衹要找到自己心動的，可以永遠都在一起的才是完美幸福的人生

[@Mollyp9264]

说的非常现实，客观，能够勇敢地坦诚内心的想法是不容易的，但这是真实的。而且博主也是一位思想开放的人，愿意了解中国女性，并放下自己的成见，这不是很棒的事情吗？如果这个世界上每个人都像博主一样愿意了解不同的文化和生活在那里的人，世界就会少很多争端。

[@melmelonie1112]

I never thought to marry “Lao wai” either, until I met my husband.☺️

[@vz8443]

I really appreciate your disclaimer on generalization at 1:39. I've seen many other KZbin videos turned into a 20min of stereotypes & over-generalization. Your video here is really unique

[@yanruiwang7669]

OMG! Currently, I have the same concerns as you mentioned! It's really a dilemma for me now and in the past two years in Aus. I try to prevent myself from overthinking this issue by focusing on my English study; however, this stress (pressure) is still there.

[@pinghuang8813]

麥克老師，很喜歡你這個美國人。善良真誠！

[@HH-cq2fc]

走岀去別在舒適圈看中國，你看的或許也許你失望ㄧ面，別只待在繁華城市，那只能看到ㄧ部份

[@travisthompson555]

Haha my wife is also from hubei, doesn't like to be recorded, and pretty much everything else you described lol. I'm also conservative and super happy about our decision. Been married for almost 8 years with three wonderful children. Good luck in Shanghai, hope everything works out safely for you and your family. Her parents helped with our first two kids while we were in China. That was so great!

[@vickyzhao-silvestro59]

Thanks for sharing your story. I felt the same when I first moved to the U.S. about marrying an american man. Then all the reasons don’t matter anymore after I met my husband. People are people no matter where you are from.

[@limingsu4873]

你现在美国那个城市啊

[@bluebird2552]

谢谢麦克老师这么多实诚的视频分享，看了让人觉得很温馨，希望你安然解封

[@NotoriousMinded]

It is not the nationality, it’s really is the person who you love.

[@kamsimyip4966]

Yes, it's true. A Malaysian married a German guy for 20 years. 大家加油，互相理解，互相尊重。

[@Tom-fk3nk]

中国人民族主义很严重，在美国民众指责拜恩、川普总统干不好，政府腐败是件很正常的事，但在中国，你要是说政府不好周围人会说你思想有问题，被境外势力洗脑了等等，我和我对象因为这个问题都争吵了很多次，感情变淡以至于现在终于走到分手的地步，跨国婚姻一定有更多的culture shock. 需要互相包容，不容易

[@yangxiao6437]

All your points are so honest, it's all about everyone's experience, glad you and your wife found each other, stay in happy marriage.

[@weiyuan4347]

很多外教娶中国老婆大多数原因是想留在中国，中国父母也会给孩子经济的资助，所以很多老外习惯了这样的生活，不习惯欧美的独立和生活习惯了

[@yingchao9286]

重点，白人

[@植物疯子西米露]

很喜欢你的视频，祝福你们！

[@Lina-xu6uw]

老师你很善良，你是一个好男人，祝你温馨幸福。

[@stefanchen2419]

Sometimes you have to get in it so that you can know the real situation. I do think people in China and in the US have a lot of differences, but meanwhile they also have a lot in common. Unlike some peple in China, I think you show the great respect of women and you are quite patient with your wife and her parents.

[@wongsosi7627]

當喜歡相愛時，看到一切是融洽可接受。

[@florafu4933]

宝宝好可爱呀～要茁壮成长，健健康康哦👶❤️

[@Rachel-ev1sp]

内容生活化，文化差异化，字幕很棒！生活英语豁然开朗！走心了，从不评论的人，首次评论。感谢Mike !!!

[@zephyrus4943]

喜欢早餐鸡蛋培根，感觉你该尝试一下手抓饼哈哈

[@xtzh9957]

鸡蛋灌饼也不错，哈哈😂

[@ponysw]

中国人婚姻最大的问题是结婚不是两个人的事，而是两个家庭，甚至多个家庭的事，太累了

[@sunal4305]

人两畫太容易寫，做太苦了 只有爱心❤能為人付出才开心🤗㊗️🉑️🉐️🈵️👨‍👩‍👦‍👦🧧 如算计吃大虧更覺🤣🤣

[@kristenzhou11]

那里都一样!婚姻就是婚姻，没有国界人种之分!

[@ruiyuezhang5283]

你可以选择不结婚的，这个在国外很常见，有的人孩子三四个，也有可能跟不同女人的，他们都没有管过孩子，好多六七十了，说有几个孩子，四个，但十几年至几十年都没一个孩子看过他，所以你看到的是，他经常一个人坐在阳台的躺椅上发呆。这就是因果。但你要结婚就要负起相应的责任。当然也有的好多外国人是其乐融融的，这个在中国也一样，这种东西不分国界和种族的。感情是相互的，不论是对子女还是你的长辈，你心里对他们有爱，他们才会感受到，从而对你才会有爱。 好多外国人在中国定居就是喜欢中国的这种氛围，而我到他们这来只是为挣钱，因我的家在中国。中国人的家国情怀很重，相对的他们的这方面很淡。但人类社会属性是群居的从咱们是动物开始一直到现在，没有一个人喜欢天天把自己圈在屋子里，天天一个人的，大部份人都喜欢朋友呀，孩子呀，家人呀的……我身边的好友外国人现在都向往中国这样的大家庭生活，而且相对于国人，当地人我感觉很简单，更容易交往!当然见的你这样中国也有不少，多多交往，多多了解就好了……

[@廷尉-i8b]

尤其是还都习惯于各自以自我为中心... 我感觉中国的离婚率会比GDP总量更早超越美国

[@寒小心-k7p]

吕游 在中国 结婚是倆家人的事 肯定就比两个人要复杂 出问题的概率就高 这是必然的

[@jasonstories1]

恭喜MIKE老师：可爱的小孩 与太太价值观一致 并祝喜乐平安幸福！

[@Xiaoyi_Wang]

隔着屏幕，都能感觉到你的勇气！这是1个强大的决定，愿你们幸福。

[@clairzhou1166]

I married with an American guy. We have so many differences. However, he is a hardworking, dependable man which is what l value most. Right now, we have a happy life

[@tsz1422]

Hq Zhou He married you because you are easy. Everyone knows that we prefer to marry someone of our own kind. He is a loser and can’t find a Caucasian mate. That why he chose you.

[@tsz1422]

Hq Zhou Sorry. That might hurt your feelings but it is indeed truth

[@clairzhou1166]

Vice versa, it is likely that l cannot find a Chinese man to get married since l am a single mom with one kid. Chinese men are very picky:they want beautiful, young, unmarried girls. Women like me never have chance to get married again.

[@xiaowang6408]

Yeah, truthfully you love who you love man. Glad that you found happiness. CONGRATS.

[@gleeglee2460]

中文說得真好、希望妳們幸福快樂

[@yichispiritual]

It's meaningful to see how one's preference about marriage could change over time.

[@learning2800]

Excellent and so informative and honest, just found your channel, will certainly watch all, thanks

[@ryanholdfung1571]

孩子好可爱，很漂亮！基因那么好麦克老师的老婆一定是个大美人。

[@xianyubu8597]

老师说了，他夫人beautiful

[@jadel3068]

麦克老师，由此看来你的妻子是个非常聪明，腼腆且具有中国传统美德的女孩，愿你们婚姻幸福，终生相爱！

[@flyingkiki1011]

好可爱的宝宝！谢谢麦克老师对武汉的加油！

[@刘汐然]

婚姻需要互相尊重，不论是哪国人都要用心。

[@ooo-t6nk]

it not a big problem if two people love each other and try to understand their cultural and custom. it is not hard as we thought, just to open mind. bless you and your family Teacher Mike.

[@oo77777]

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[@ronchow2010]

Good to have you sharing your personal views with us. Best wishes to you and your family in Shanghai.

[@jcgoobee]

Hi Mike, I bumped into your video randomly while working from home (dealing with the shelter-in-place in Cali). What an awesome video, and I really like your honesty and speak what's in your mind. I can tell that you're going to have a good marriage as your mindset is, believe it or not, close to Chinese culture, such as willing to adapt, faithfulness and the like. Your kid is cute too! Take care and keep the videos going. Take care!

[@lilyleong3178]

祝你家庭幸福！你儿子真帅。别忘了去教堂，和祷告。

[@VionaShu]

多數的華人父母真的是犧牲自己奉獻給孩子~~ 謝謝爸爸媽媽~~

[@jbently5303]

我不喜欢亚裔父母对待孩子的方式。希望有一天儒家思想被杜绝。

[@riverlee5642]

@@jbently5303 读过几本儒家的书啊？上来就直接把这顶帽子往儒家上扣？

[@yenlingpang2264]

@@jbently5303 你真的懂什麼是儒家文化嗎？就如此輕率的發言？！

[@yutou2295]

确实是个好老师，说话有明显的停顿，尽量说的简单易懂，祝福你们全家

[@franciskswong3159]

I feel so happy to listen to your this piece of video. People have different opinion, sometimes even bitterness, just because they don't understand others. Only if you open your mind and are ready to meet and mingle, then you will found all people, no matter which country are they from, they are basically not too much different from you. we all love our family. There is really more commons than differences. Only if politicians and medias are less aggressive, the world will be more harmonic and livable.

[@joycewong9407]

惧怕是因为未知，当你接近，了解，是会被吸引的，因为我们对生活，对人生，都充满着美好的期望，让我们更有趣！

[@houzih2477]

喜欢听你的故事！宝宝可爱你也帅爆了

[@DianaChurch]

Mike老师能融入中国的文化，发现中国的美好，很棒。还会为湖北打气，不错不错，会继续follow你的视频的哦~

[@jingjingchen8474]

哈哈哈 Mike老师想的好深远呀..宝宝好萌。

[@欧阳路遥]

麦克老师是个靠谱的男人， 持传统价值观， 其实语言文化的不同不是主要的， 重要的是价值观相同。 左派和右派很难融合， 一个虔诚的教徒很难和一个无神论的人生活在一起， 也许短期可以， 但激情过后就看着互相讨厌， 因为思想差距太大， 那点原始的动物本能带来的乐趣也渐渐消失了。

[@baoda4668]

非常赞同。

[@brendansstorytime7552]

Love this video!

[@tren4669]

太太長得純真美麗👍 與單純、善良的美國男士很絕配。願上帝祝福你們一家！

[@chowterry3709]

Thank you teacher Mike🙏🏻🙏🏻Your baby is so cute🥰🥰🥰Love to see your channel💕💕

[@xiaojunzhang8858]

我也是有了孩子后，岳父母就搬过来跟我们一起生活了。作为过来人，我想告诉你:当孩子小的时候，父母的帮助是很有必要的，当孩子可以上幼儿园以后，最好还是分开住，否则，她过去的家庭文化就会全部搬到你家的，包括一些你并不接受的，不可否认这是真实存在的。过去我也没有很强烈的感受，当我们移民澳洲后，我有大把时间陪孩子们的时候，才发现他们身上有很多不好的习惯，完全依靠大人，不会处理个人卫生，懒散、任性，完全不是我喜欢的那样。

[@maychu7447]

看寶寶就知道媽媽是個美女. 謝謝老師分享, 贊!!

[@fionali6853]

感谢有麦克，老马，郭杰瑞火锅大王，等等这些国外人能尊重理性平等的对待中国人

[@clairzhou1166]

I feel like your being a friend. You are honest, friendly to your audiences.

[@jiaxunchat]

我没有看错，从你孩子的面孔我就断定你老婆是个中国人。祝你们幸福！白头偕老。

[@好茉莉]

麦克老师真的蛮不错 👍中国人都喜欢你

[@SweetieYun]

It’s all about attitudes. Mike is an exception. He chose to break the stereotype, embrace different culture and be truthful to himself. Unfortunately a lot of Americans can’t do that . I don’t recommend Chinese girls marry American guys. There’re not many American guys like Mike.

[@kfrank8521]

I am Taiwanese. My wife is Filipino. We met in Taiwan when she worked in here 16 years ago. I have the same feeling with you. I was worry too much but now I am so happy to live with my wife.

[@yzx8938]

上善若水 也可以加的

[@jindanwang2398]

I like how you talked about the generalization part at the beginning, which avoided my judging comments hahaha.

[@諸葛青雲]

谢谢麦克老师，您的中文讲得很棒。视频7：07秒处，中文字幕用错了同音字，麦克老师制作中文字幕用的拼音输入法吗？很多时候拼音输入法容易出现这个问题。不是“变得更佳成熟”而是“变得更加成熟”感谢麦克老师的分享!

[@foxtrothu2831]

内嵌字幕修改很麻烦的，这也是许多人发布视频后不想修改的原因。因为你要改，就要找回原视频的字幕，然后改正，然后和原视频压制，然后发布。假如一个up主会改字幕，那真的很让人敬佩。

[@yongmcqueen6397]

Teacher Mike is very brave . But love overcomes all obstacles. Hope the two of you live happily ever after.

[@sissi5264]

Yeah for you! Can you also talk about the baby's nationality choices and paperwork process please?

[@maikelaoshi]

It's complicated. If you want a Chinese nationality and 户口 you need to put Chinese on the birth certificate. Otherwise, you can't do it. We did a US passport for ease of travel.

[@qlbb]

@@maikelaoshi I had the same situation

[@ericlam6017]

@@maikelaoshi US passport is not just for ease of travel. Chinese passport cannot save your kid and it will make more trouble in the future. You know that

[@maikelaoshi]

@@ericlam6017 Yes, there are many reasons why we decided on a US passport for our son.

[@AndyJones-e9x]

我在美国这边也交过白人女友，其实麦克老师提到你之前所顾虑的问题确实存在。在我看来饮食差异大与生活习惯是最难平衡的，她是一个连美式中餐都拒绝的人，除了broccoli其他蔬菜一律不吃，做饭来来去去都是cheese chicken、cheese spaghetti，而我是除了中餐其他一切饮食也不感冒；生活习惯上她喜欢社交而我是个home person，毫不夸张地说夏末至初冬她几乎每周都和朋友到处去玩去露营，跟他们去过两次之后我就再没去过了。当然分开的原因还有很多其他方面的不可调和的问题，在这里就不一一细数了。最后祝福你们幸福美满！

[@cindyhewatt3406]

Oh no we didn’t get to see your wife....but your baby is absolutely adorable! By the way, I love everything about what you say about marriage, I think both you and your wife are lucky to have each other. Beautiful family!

[@欧阳路遥]

最近看了许多麦克老师的视频， 超级棒， 越来越喜欢。 You are killing it!

[@btw-zz4vb]

Agree with you especially on the “faithfulness” one!

[@chenchuck3554]

很坦诚的谈话，希望你们持续幸福