Why did this HUSBAND do this!? (Wife Swap Australia) Luxeria

Wife Swap AUSTRALIA! EPISODE 2! Wife Swap is a show that has always been controversial and full of drama, two wives swap lives to experience how each family lives. This episode follows Alise and Cassie as they change lives, from a wild FORTNITE gaming house to a MILITARY style home. School drama, fitness, Fortnite, technology and complex family dynamics cause all sorts of chaos!
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Wife Swap Australia S01E02 (2021)
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[@sufficiently_damp6227]

Did anyone else get danger vibes from the strict dad? The way he went straight for the emotional gut punch, clearly enjoyed it (that smirk!), and what his wife said about him at the end coming on a bit strong or something. The red flags and alarm bells in my mind were going haywire. Especially as an Australian, there's a specific type of Aussie dude whose voice and expression are laidback but there's so much condescension and rage behind it.

[@ohcontraire1915]

YES. He's also clearly enjoying an abnormal level of control over his children and it's unsettling AF.

[@veryboredpug]

The "did you do what I asked? Why would you get what you want..." Also seems like a great set up for all sorts of future abuse in romantic relationships. Turning relationships into pure transaction and telling someone they have to earn everything and if they don't get what they need it's their fault for not giving enough. Oof

[@HaintblueRee]

Yahhh, there’s something up with that man. 😬Oof demons down under chile 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@limner123]

He said “People don’t get to step out of line.” That would seem to include not just the children. Chills.

[@JennaGetsCreative]

Major danger vibes. That would be someone I would never allow to be anywhere near my daughter if he lived near me.

[@WithoutAnAnchor]

Watching that little girl smile for the first time 40 minutes in, at the prospect of having what she wanted for breakfast was HEARTBREAKING.

[@ZasukiJean]

For real, it's awful, both parenting techniques were horrid but I feel like the boys hurt each other and others but the girl and her little brother are both gonna be super fucked up and probably do fucked up stuff too, like at some point they're gonna be adults and have all this newfound freedom and I don't see that going well

[@eugenie8661]

And her delighted face at the "no more punishments, rewards only" makes me feel so bittersweet (46:04)

[@mermaiddiyartist8119]

😢😢😢 that’s so horrible. That’s a type of child abuser

[@betsy1803]

@@ZasukiJeanas that girl, it indeed does NOT go well. I had zero grasp on the real world and I got to eat anything I wanted and gained so much weight. The only sweets in the house were my mother’s and she would count them. Amongst other, worse, abuse. Makes you tailspin the second you age out of the house! Finally getting my life sorted in my 30’s.

[@ThimbleFox350]

those kids are so malnourished it broke my heart!! the little girl had darker under eye bags than the 50 some year old mom

[@PazuzuPaws1515]

I love the classic WifeSwap dichotomy of "This woman forces her children to work in a coal mine to build character, while this other wife lets her 4 year old drive themselves to school!"

[@Luxeria]

💀💀💀💀

[@thomascarpenter8750]

Children lost their fingers in the coal mines..triggered

[@spicybeantofu]

Yeah well regular people wouldn't make good tv lol

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Best comment 😂

[@alexfortin4984]

I choked on my iced tea 😂😂

[@julianfernand0]

The protein shake dad is the kind of person who’s going to be all baffled once his kids abandon him at an old folks home 👀

[@nonexistingvoid]

If his wife hasn't found a way out for her and children before that time

[@kassemir]

I couldn't help but think the same thing. I mean, it's mean to say. But, if I'd been treated like that since age 6, then I'm pretty sure I would do the bare minimum when he entered old age, honestly.

[@kztwitter]

i hope they abandon him. i really do. watching previous episode makes me think a trailer family and bougie rich one are quite chill😭

[@JulietteHelene]

My dad used to make me feel absolutely awful if I wasn’t able to finish all of my food at a restaurant, he would raise his voice and guilt trip me about money in front of everyone at the restaurant- I was around 6 or 7 - I would always feel nauseous having to go out to dinner with him as a child. I now live in a different state and barely talk to him ✌🏼

[@flarethefox9836]

He is literally giving the children Stockholm syndrome

[@cataliu]

I don't understand how a therapist isn't involved in this, the behavior of these parents is so dangerous, the punishments trigger me so much

[@gigifabulous]

Because a healthy family isn't the purpose of the show. It's to be scandalized at the families. It's exploitation.

[@kee2791]

I do believe this show would be better if they brought in a physiatrist/therapist for each family to sit and observe how the mums do things and then when they all have the sit down the psychiatrists can join in and discuss what they believe is healthy/unhealthy for the children involved, and then it’s up to the mums what they choose to take from their experiences after hearing the other mums opinion as well as an educated psychiatrist/therapist 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@mb-the-enby]

Agreed! The Lister family are literally emotionally abusing their children on national television. It’s hard to watch.

[@lovebirdbaby1]

@@kee2791 I would have been SCREAMING to see a professional rip that hateful "dad" a new one for feeding protein shakes to a 6 year old. It literally says on the tin - not for children. That, and way to give your kids an eating disorder. Sable was silent 99% of the time around her dad and that says a lot.

[@Nimoes_archive]

Its scripted reality, maybe the kids might even have had on set therapists for scene mentoring.

[@akinanishikawa6193]

Luxeria, you really clocked Cassie's husband correctly because he was a HATEFUL man and I was very emotional watching Alise actually be encouraging and excited for Cooper eating just a few bites of food instead of being punished for not finishing his dinner. Both families had their issues, but the whole food situation with Cooper was extremely upsetting to watch (and also how unhappy Sable looked until she finally smiled when Alise suggested fewer amounts of chores).

[@alicetoyou448]

Her smile! Omg. And the dad, who is a nightmare, saw his daughter smiling and tore Alise apart. And his evil pleased smirk when he made Alise cry - jail!!!!

[@merwheeler]

my parents did something similar and we had to sit at the table for over an hour every day as they yelled at my brother to finish all of his food. i hadn’t thought of how traumatizing it was for him until now, and it hurts my heart. i can’t believe that i already know more about parenting, as a young adult, than my own parents.

[@mermaiddiyartist8119]

😢😢 punishments like that cause eating disorders

[@mermaiddiyartist8119]

@@merwheeler 😢😢😢😢 poor brother.

[@annah7648]

That man was a disaster. His 4 steaks vs 1 comment made no sense-too much protein can in fact damage the liver and kidneys. Also I’m pretty sure that the medical consensus is that young children should not be fed protein powder.

[@arualblues_zero]

My husband is convinced that strict dad is somewhat of a sociopath. Curiously enough, the aftermath was similar to last episode: messy family learns something, strict family learns nothing and goes back to their own ways.

[@anacsadder]

I find myself wondering if maybe messy/less strict people are more likely to go with a flow as changes arise, so they're less stubborn about change as long as it's easy or feels good. On the other side, maybe strict people are more stubborn/rigid, so they're less likely to admit that they need to change, or hate deviation from order so much that they'd rather stick to a broken routine than change the routine. Just some speculation off the top of my head, I dunno.

[@tomatoberry]

​@@anacsadder That makes a lot of sense!

[@Cyhcg5uhgb]

Oh, he defenitely is. He litteraly said that the more tou punish kids, the more they start to enjoy it. That's a kink.

[@Meangirl22]

100%

[@queenyblahblah]

Putting aside the way the kids acted...There's something legitimately scary about the strict family's husband. Every time he talked down to someone whether it be the kids or the wife he did it with a great big smile on his face and it was really disgusting. Especially when he implied she was a bad mother, he looked so proud of himself! when she brought it up at the reunion and he recontextualised the entire interaction because she was talking about his attitude in front of his wife was really telling... and his wife when she said "the way you deliver stuff is-" and then he immediately cut her off? i wanted to know what she was going to say about him before he interrupted! He takes pride in putting others down until there's a chance it can make him look bad in front of other people.

[@queenyblahblah]

On the other hand... i love this lip colour on you! recently i've been appreciating a neutral a little more partly thanks to your makeup videos :'D

[@eev14]

It's giving abusive narcissist vibes..

[@ttintagel]

And WTF is his obsession with protein? Why would you need four steaks' worth instead of one?!?

[@nonexistingvoid]

He seems a lot like my ex with some gym bro mixed in. I just had a conversation with my social worker about my past, since I'm forced to stay in contact with my ex because of the kids. Apparently, no one picked up on the fact that me pointing out his behaviours during group meetings was a defence mechanism, making people aware that I feel unsafe. I feel like Cassie was trying to do something similar when she tried to say his delivery is (I'm guessing too strong or aggressive) I think that guy sees every bit of criticism as a personal attack.

[@GrungeGalactica]

Yeah think he’s got more than just a stick up his arse, more like a cold metal pipe. His tone was so menacing and cold. Creepy.

[@HippieHC]

“Children aren’t there to do what you tell them, they’re there to learn from your example” 👏🏼👏🏼 and in that moment Luxeria knew more about good parenting than 50%+ of people who actually have children!

[@CherrrrBear]

Yep

[@DestructionGlitter]

As a parent, this is 100% true

[@Hufflestitcher87]

As a parent, I heartily agree with Luxeria. My kids do as I do. If I help an old lady at the shops move her heavy shopping, I notice my eldest helps his younger brother with things. They speak to each other (mostly) how I speak to them.

[@zprouk3091]

I feel sorry for the mother of the quadruplets... remember, she wanted ONE child. The other family, on the other hand, gets one daughter, raises her until she's five, and gets another kid when she's well and truly disciplined. The difficulty level is not the same. Insufferable drill sergeant dad can take his protein shakes with him and GET IN THE BIN. Also: exercise is super important, but... regimented weekly 3k runs?! The boy is SIX. It would be different if the dad was going for a run anyway and the kid wanted to join in, but that didn't seem to be the case. Just let him play soccer with his friends or something

[@deadlymelody27]

I have one child and i only want one child. My partner kept joking what if its twins and i said well one pregnancy then, i only want to do this once (the whole thing was tough mentally). But my reason is that i know parenting is tough and i have seen so many parents have more than one kid because its the done thing or "to have one of each" and keep trying til they do, because clearly gender is more important than having enough resources for all the children you choose to have. Now when i say resources im not specifically talking money and im definitely not saying poor people cant have kids. Im saying like emotional energy and time. I see people who struggle emotionally with one kid and they still definitely want another and im like why would you do that to yourself if you are really struggling to cope now and how is that fair on your child/children. I have seen people close to me struggle to give their kids adequate attention and they have grown up to have issues because of it. For me im like one is all i need (and people keep saying i will change my mind which infuriates me). If i thought i was having one and i had multiples, even twins, i would be like wtf but more than twins! Triplets or quadruplets i would probably have asked for a selective reduction or whatever they call it if it was an option. Because honestly i dont think it wouldve been good for anyone involved. I honestly think that while she does need to set some firmer boundaries, she really is doing pretty well in comparison and she has a lot more love and compassion than the others (and honestly i mainly mean thr dad of the other family because i think he is the cause of the issue).

[@BlueFlames094]

The girl looked almost scared of her dad whenever his strictness came into things. She looked so happy in the pool and stuff but then when it came to the food thing, she looked so timid and quiet. It just makes me think that the kids just aren’t happy with that militant bs.

[@clairekookoo]

Alise is such a patient woman, it feels like her "parenting style" was more given up, than no rules. Her having an even one-on-one with the little boy in the army-style house, her parenting could shine through since there weren't three other babies desperately seeking attention. As you said if Dad is acting like one of the lads with his own sons then, of course, she will be overwhelmed with daily life, and her original parenting rules may have slipped with it. I also don't think the production team leaned into the fact that it was FOUR INFANT NEWBORNS AT ONCE for a couple who wanted 1 single baby. The editing criticized her, and her husband (warranted in his case), for a life they never wanted. In that open letter Alise didn't say 'oh we always wanted a big happy family and we got blessed with our wildest dreams' she said they wanted one baby, but they got four. Their home did not deserve the "Bad Mom" label the editing gave them.

[@bluesoulsearcher5424]

Agreed

[@helenf.7221]

I didn’t get the vibe the editing was showing them as bad parents. Just overwhelmed like you said. It was clear the husband does nothing and she gets no help. I got from her that she is a compassionate person capable of change and seeing her own mistakes. The other couple came off as just total morons. Unwilling to learn or think differently, which is the basic definition of stupid. I feel so bad for their daughter. She will end up going nuts once free from that hell hole.

[@DivaAllyC]

This. I think she was just overwhelmed raising 4 boys all at once. She seemed quite balanced in her approach when there was only 2 children to deal with

[@emleo48]

Yes, I think maybe she felt helpless trying to parent 4 boys and 1 immature husband who perhaps doesn’t emotionally support her in terms of parent and household duties. It seems to have got to the point where she has no authority…

[@arb0t707]

It was SUCH a telling moment when Alise proposed that Sable might do the weekly "physical activities" (like the 7am 5k 💀) with her friends- so she would still get the benefit of the exercise and could also socialize a bit more. That poor girl says "Yeah I tried that, got a lot of grief about it.." and that, to me, says the parents don't care half as much about their kids' health as they do about having control over them. It's all about control- they want contol of their bodies, their behavior, even their thoughts! That kind of relationship, parental or not, is so insidious! My heart breaks for those two kids 💔

[@bellarina]

59mins into the video I realised Sable was actually ONLY 11?!? I thought she was like 14-15 because of how calm and responsible she seemed 😅

[@jupiterzombies]

she doesn't look calm and responsible to me, she looks fully broken down... that's no life for a kid

[@emleo48]

Yeap, you could tell she was disassociating, knew it wasn’t worth challenging the status quo. That scene when dad asked about the pancakes and copper being six was honest… her body language was oh my god he’s in trouble… please don’t notice me.

[@TheMindOf_Reason]

She is acting like a kid who has been abused. I know I have seen it, I am one of those kids.

[@Uneclipsed]

Also: Weird dad knows that he can make **gasp** PROTEIN PANCAKES right?! He's forcing such a weird lifestyle on children. Edit: Watching the rest of this, I'm convinced that he's emotionally abusing his kids and that strict mom is an enabler with "good intentions". These are parents that don't actually enjoy kids. The kids are appliances that get punished when they don't function in the house the way the adults want them to. This is so messed up.

[@ttintagel]

I... I'm not always comfortable doing armchair psychoanalysis, but I get the idea his wife is also just kind of under his thumb and drinking the Kool-Aid. She earns his approval by enforcing his rules, and she can't do it without telling herself she agrees with them. By the end of the time she was with the quads, she was loosening up and looked kind of happy. But then it was all back to her husband's way.

[@nonexistingvoid]

I don't think the wife doesn't enjoy kids. I think she's being controlled. Unfortunately, men like that tend to be smart enough to lure you in, and will slowly up the control as the relationship grows. Cassie probably didn't notice how bad it was, but you can tell that there was more going on than just her enforcing his strict house rules. Her behaviour with the four boys was very different, and I think the swap has made some things very clear to her. I'm honestly impressed with Alise, not letting him control her, and not allowing him to sabotage her as she implemented the new rules for the children. And I honestly think her and Cassie could get along really well, if Cassie's husband would allow them to stay in contact.

[@Uneclipsed]

@@nonexistingvoid what really got to me (other than the food stuff) was the sign that said no screaming. Most of the screaming we saw from the 6 year old was him yelling out of excitement. I want to know if they were punishing him for that off camera. With the dad I 100% think that’s the case but the strict mom at the beginning also says something that indicates she doesn’t like a noisy household. That’s part and parcel of having kids and what makes me think she maybe doesn’t like them that much. But you’re right. Her relationship with the boys by the end was sweet and why I think she has good intentions. But I’m with you, that dad is the main driver sucking the life out of that family

[@Uneclipsed]

@@nonexistingvoid also the only reason I’m not sure if she’s being controlled is because the only interaction we saw of the couple together has been loving and she was very quick to tell him he delivers talking points badly. She knows how he can be and said it outright. She doesn’t seem like someone who lacks agency in her household, but is allowing him to be actively mean to their kids and call it discipline. Edit: also his mindset that the more you discipline kids the more they like it is so disgusting. If I heard that from a spouse, I’d want out immediately. Consequences for children should always have the intention of learning something: empathy, responsibility, coping mechanisms for emotional regulation, etc… not whatever this shit is

[@emleo48]

I think she just has that old school parenting style… children should be adults expect when they have an opinion than they are just children.

[@rebelwithacause666]

Watching that boy get punished for eating is so sad to me and brings up deep memories. My grandma literally used to fill up my plate with a grown man's portion when I was the same age as that little boy. When I couldn't eat it all she'd punish me and wouldn't let me eat dessert and would yell at me to finish it. Meanwhile she wouldn't give my brother who was 5 years older than me the same portions. He always got less than I did and would finish first and would get to do whatever he wanted while I was being sat at the table and yelled at. This didn't stop even after my mom yelled at her for treating me so bad. It really affected my relationship with food even 25 years later. My son's pediatrician said it was best to just let them eat and let them know this is what we're eating, eat as much as you want and eat what you want that we've made but we aren't making anything else for dinner. That advice I got just seems so much healthier to me.

[@noemiemi7213]

Absolutely good advice from the pediatrician! My mom would often force food on us, I decided to let my kid choose his portions and I usually serve a safe food (like plain pasta) with sauce on the side if it’s a tricky one and then add on veggies, protein and fruit as he wants them family style. This way I made sure he had some sustenance but also I make him a part of mine and my husband’s dinner choices and I don’t cook for 5 (the pasta I am either already cooking, or I just add a tiny pot during cooking)

[@Ventuswill]

It makes me sad and also angry as someone who couldn't eat much or very fast due to a motility disorder that went undiagnosed until well into adulthood. I'm not saying this boy has anything like this but there are plenty of reasons why children can't eat very much at a time or quickly, some of which include medical issues. His parents definitely seem like the type to chalk up medical issues as acting out, and would rather just put him in time out instead of listening to him and trying to understand his needs and manage them appropriately.

[@kee2791]

Exactly I think that may be how a lot of eating disorders are created

[@sarahpooler2330]

Yeah, my little sister still has some issues with food because our mom's abusive ex-boyfriend used to sit right next to her and STARE her down until she was done eating. There was no punishment because he had us all terrified into submission because of how bad he hit my mom. The only option was to do what he said, no matter how it made her feel, or if she got sick, ugh. Yeah. I also get pretty riled up when parents do stuff like that around food.

[@elizabethsmith3374]

Yes as someone with adhd i agree with the ideology of fed is best meaning its better as a human that kids or adults are better off fed than starving cause they are punished for eating things that are sensory issues for them or they are allergic to or already tried and know they hate.

[@PrincessXayah]

That man so gets a kick out of his rules and being in charge. The little smirk when he asked if she thinks she's a great mother said it all, filth.

[@elizabthharris6741]

He is getting off on the control.and its sick. I wish we could have a where are they now on those kids

[@littleflick]

I used to work in the justice system and over half my clients were men who had committed DV offences. Michael is giving me ALL the red flags.

[@kittydollkori]

How has nobody clocked the part where Sable says “Michael makes me work out” and then lists a pretty extreme week of exercising??? Major creep vibes from him.

[@SerenitySoonish]

I know and she's only 11 😔

[@mjwildy2359]

And called him Michael instead of "Dad" or "My Dad'? Such an odd thing.

[@kittydollkori]

@@mjwildy2359 right?? Even if it’s her step parent. I feel like it’s a bit inappropriate for a child to call you by your name.

[@mjwildy2359]

@@kittydollkori Even talking with others about my parents, I always say "my mum/dad", I feel like it would be so odd to call them anything else. Maybe it's an Australia thing? But it definitely seems like there's an emotional disconnect for everyone in that household.

[@kittydollkori]

@@mjwildy2359 on occasion I’ll call my dad by his real name but it’s only because we’ve worked together in a company for years. There is emotional disconnect there for sure. Pretty unsettling for a teen or kid to feel more comfy with it.

[@kassemir]

The dad with the beard was clearly a monster. Timing dinner for a 6 year old and demanding him to sit on the floor for 6 minutes, which is an insanely long time for a 6 year old. Also the way he asked her if she felt like she was a good mother, in front of his children, like not even taking that in private. Fuck me, that gave me chills. Also, asking if he checked with a doctor if protein shakes was an okay breakfast for a 6 year old was a perfectly fair question to ask! I imagine the answer would be no. And the whole goal oriented thing. I really got the vibe he desperately wanted his children to be a carbon copy of himself - which is an awful approach to parenting, like your children are individuals, they are their own person - that, at the bare minimum has to be the starting point of any parenting, really. And, yes, you can get results, but that doesn't make it right or okay! No, no, no! It's a little bit like dog training. Yes, you can get results by yelling at them and hitting them, but that is abuse and traumatizes them as well in the process. And, you can get much better results in the long run through encouragement and positive reinforcement. And yes, it might be more frustrating, and take more time, but if you aren't ready to make that effort, go get a vasectomy, please! 'Cause you're not cut out to be a loving parent, then.

[@Strawberryforlife]

The strict dad was absolutely trying to make her feel as small and shitty about herself as possible, that was really hard to watch 😞

[@nonexistingvoid]

I think Alise was overwhelmed when she had her sons. Which would explain why it's so hard for her to be strict with them. But she showed with Cooper that she doesn't really want them to go about without rules. She was so patient with him, encouraging him to eat more than he usually would on his own, making him feel safer around dinner, encouraging a healthy relationship with food. It also struck me that she would usually give in with her four boys, but with Cooper, when she offered to let him eat an apple later, and he asked if it could be something else, she told him that an apple will do fine. So what she said about realising she has more patience than she thought shows that she did want to be more strict with her children, but needed a bit more guidance and support to find the right way to go about it. Meanwhile, Cassie was able to prepare the boys for a life with more structure, in a way that seems very different from how she would go about it at her own home. She gave each child a few chores, but also encouraged them to think about what they'd like to achieve. And she seems to understand that the way she micromanaged the children, and how strict she was with her own children, was more harmful than she initially thought. The dramatic music, and cutting lines to make it seem like the wives were fighting, really bothered me in this episode. They both grew a lot, and while they have differences, they seemed to mostly understand each other well. But the editing didn't convey it properly, making it seem like they just went along with their extreme parenting routines. And yes, the husbands. One is extremely controlling, and hates being wrong, to the point where it affects his children. He seems to think that his children listening to him out of fear means that they respect him. Meanwhile, the other dad simply doesn't want to be bothered with any of the responsibilities of parenting. To the point where he was grinning at the sight of his sons doing chores, but being surprised that he was expected to do something too. I hope Alise was able to hold onto that confidence she gained, and I hope Cassie was able to stand up for her children more. Neither of them are bad mothers, and I think both of them deserve compliments for how they handled the swap.

[@CalloohCalley]

Cassie's husband is one of those people who purposefully push others' buttons and provoke others' aggression, then act like they were totally innocent or make you feel like the idiot when you call them out. I don't know this man, and I can't make any comments besides what I saw. But his actions are very concerning. Every person I've known who is like that has been abusive. And I feel bad for that whole family because of that man.

[@SquishyArt1]

That poor girl (Sable) looked so depressed and her face LIT UP when the other mum told her she could eat what she wants for breakfast. Gosh she just looked so sad... AND THAT HUSBAND NEEDS TO GET IN THE BIN. So disrespecful. Also those boys are just foul , the mum was nice but gosh if I had kids and they were swearing calling people bitches they would be in the bin too. What on EARTH.

[@lottiebackhouse2669]

i think the thing about the strict parents is that their kids will be as rebellious when they are teenagers as the quadruplets - the parents just won't know about it

[@iinkee]

I feel so bad for the daughter, she clearly struggles with all the responsibilities and her parents don't even think she has that many. She does just as much, if not more, than a parent and it's not even acknowledged... she seemed so happy just to get a break, and so scared when she wanted to voice she preferred the other mums way of things. It makes me wonder /her/ consequences if she did something wrong, if she feels such a strong need to do as told and not voice her own feelings.

[@MbeHappYMiam2]

I agree I feel like she would not grow up into a healthy beautiful adult she ought to become without a lot of therapy/ internal work.

[@eev14]

@@MbeHappYMiam2 Yep, I know for sure she's going to end up needing therapy at some point, my homelife wasn't AS strict but it was definitely very authoritative as well, I got punished a lot and as the only girl at home I was also given more tasks than my brothers. I also felt unseen and unappreciated at home, I did a lot of 'parental' care for my little brother because both my parents worked full-time, I made sure he showered, put him to bed, got him dressed, had to ensure he did his homework and that he ate his food. Now I'm almost 30 and my childhood (or lack thereof) resulted in me developing an eating disorder in my early 20's, I had years of therapy and am currently no-contact with one of my parents.. So I have a strong feeling she might end up resenting her parents later on or dealing with some serious mental health problems.

[@JennaGetsCreative]

I feel like she's being setup to be the trad wife of someone just like her father, and she's going to realize when she's 40 that she deserves better.

[@jamient]

I agree. When children aren't allowed to be themselves, they grow up not knowing who they really are and develop a sense of emptiness they aren't able to healthily fill without therapy. Tragically, she's being forced to be who her parents want her to be, instead of being given the support and security needed to develop her true self. It's a covet form of emotional abuse/neglect that often goes untalked about, because on the surface she looks well cared for, when in reality a core human need is being denied her.

[@Lara77473]

​@Jenna Gets Creative I didn't wake-up from imposed bs until I was also almost 40... now, happy, divorced and freedom is cherished

[@waterdragon2224]

She made dinner more pleasant for the child and compromised with him. It’s encouraging and at least progress is being made.

[@Luci_loves_Bangtan]

I felt that “eldest daughter/surrogate mother” comment in my SOUL! My siblings are 8 and 11 years younger, and so I was ALWAYS the “second mommy”, especially when our parents were at work. I cleaned, cooked, bathed them, took them to and from school (once I was driving age), watched them after school, took them to doctor appointments, etc. I don’t resent my upbringing nor my parents; they worked very hard to make sure we had our needs met and that we were able to do extracurriculars when we desired. But it truly was a lot of work and pressure.

[@sarahwithstars]

The two Lister children get the same amount of tech time despite the age gap?! What the hell? I could feel the rage rising in you too, Lux! Force feeding your children does not breed healthy food habits in adulthood. The man disrespecting his guest- wife in his house was the single worst case of parenting by bad example I've ever seen on this show.

[@sarahwithstars]

Lux I loved what you said about 'chores' Vs 'missions/quests' I used to tutor teen boys in science... Nearly the entire GCSE science syllabus can be taught in terms of a) making drugs b) crazy ways to die c) cars, trains and boats d) baking indulgent snacks. You talk about things that interest the kids and learning happens on the way... Trick kids into thinking they are having fun and being taught stuff in a way they feel valued and seen as capable people, not a baby and not a machine to regurgitate information.

[@Tiger89Lilly]

Omg this sounds awesome can you teach me these things too?

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

Lmao yeah I love science anyway but I'd love to take lessons on it where its explained in terms of drugs hahah ​@@Tiger89Lilly

[@starparodier91]

Love that you mentioned that gaming can lead to a career! I’m autistic and have very mild cerebral palsy and severe anxiety, so I didn’t really like playing with most kids growing up and I’m also an only child. I started playing video games at three and my parents noticed how happy and passionate I was about them and always supported me. I’ll be 32 in June and I now localize video games professionally and I’m also an indie dev. 😊

[@chesiresays]

That’s very cool actually

[@Lizzypoohxo]

That's awesome! Video games can encourage imagination and passion, they can be a great tool for young people.

[@zetagamings]

@@Lizzypoohxo 100% I’m an adult now and still get shamed for my gaming but it’s the best thing I’ve found to help control my bipolar is depressive states and even sometimes manic, it’s my only healthy coping mechanisms I’ve found that actually helps. Just because people don’t understand it, it is a good and healthy thing to have as lux says with limitations. I make sure I don’t consume my life with it x

[@Lizzypoohxo]

@@zetagamings when my boys started school full time I started playing WOW and after a few months I came to realize I couldn't play real time games because I was absolutely hooked. I let my oldest son play games when he was 2. By 3 he could blow through COD (before we had Xbox live). I've always had issue with people blaming video games on kids being violent because he is still the most responsible, respectful, sweetest person I know. It taught him to respect authority and he dreamt of being in the military and wanted to fly helicopters. Because his vision is impaired his eye doctor told him he would not be able to do that and crushed his 7 year old heart. Now he's studying in the fire academy to be a fire fighter. He may have gone down that route without video games but I do believe it played a huge part in the young man he is now. (Along with being raised by an awesome mother haha).

[@Itri_Vega]

Having survived an eating disorder I am seeing a lot of red flags. Mine started as an obsession with healthy, fresh food and quickly spiralled into excluding entire food groups.

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

Agreed. My parents were actually very reasonable with food but I'm autistic and take things a bit too personally, so I ended up with a binge eating disorder in my teens that mostly stemmed from me *percieving* my parents to be strict with junk food. I can't imagine what these poor kids will do once they get full freedom to eat whatever they want whenever they want

[@PazuzuPaws1515]

Thank you so much for mentioning how harmful it is to force kids to eat a certain way! I grew up with the Weigh Down Workshop and - surprise Pikachu face! - developed an ED. 🙄

[@wolfwise1135]

Holy crap, I hope your doing better now. That program/religion is vile.

[@DahliaOlive]

Guest mom dealing with militant dad during the timed dinners was strong AF, just observing. I think I’d have cried.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Turmeric is the food of the week. As an Indian, I’m so happy to be represented on the show 😂

[@JenR1215]

Indian recipes are proven to be the best for overall health too. 🤘

[@heyzeushoards1405]

I use it in most dishes. Good for you too.

[@leggi_bois4eva]

I love it in coffee 🤤

[@lilme7052]

My Mum has an Indian friend ( soz I'm from a very white area) and she says he swears by turmeric for everything!!

[@jostewart554]

We have been making "golden paste" which is coconut oil, turmeric & Black pepper. But you probably know that. It's made as a paste and then taken as a teaspoon or thereabouts and it's a health tonic. Even for your pets. It's a marvellous health product.

[@ocean_vampire]

Both dads are hateful! The anger I feel towards both of them for absolute different reasons 🤣🤣

[@anfearaerach]

I was harshly punished for "talking back" even when my parents demanded an explanation for my behaviour. Not talking as well. Now I'm an anxious mess who smothers people but also fears the worst whenever I do or say something that's on my mind. And my parents wonder why I moved to Ireland lol

[@maddygullotta2551]

I was always a pretty rational kid and just wanted to understand. sometimes id be asked to do something or asked why something was the way it was and my parents would say "because i said so!" when I was genuinly wondering. It was such a giant fucking pet peeve of mine!! Not being able to explain my way of thinking was also always infuriatinging to me and now i have developed really bad attitudes when it comes to authority lmao. "WHAT DO YOU MEAN I NEED TO DO MY JOB!?"

[@ttintagel]

Yeah, when I saw that "Learn-Think-Respond" sign it flashed me back to some really ugly episodes from my childhood. Like, how much do you want to bet there are swift punishments if you take too long to think before you respond? And equal punishments if you don't think long enough to come up with a response they like?

[@JennaGetsCreative]

My husband's father still thinks he can push "the kids" around for daring to "talk back." He'll be an absolute bully about whatever the issue is to his sons and all of us wives, even though we're full grown adults, if anyone disagrees with him. Disagreeing = talking back. The last time I was on the receiving end of it was for pointing out that it's unreasonable to expect that I've seen every single message sent in the family chat when they've blown it up for a few hours and nobody used the @ to tag people on the one important question in the midst of car talk.

[@UnCreativeBeliever]

The little girl Sable is so sweet, her smile when she was told she didn't have to do all the chores was amazing!

[@rebelwithacause666]

One thing that bothers me about parents is they always try to recruit you into the club of parenting. As a woman who has a son and is pregnant with my second I will always tell my child free friends they are making the right choice. I love my son but being pregnant is the literal worst and being a parent is so hard.

[@Isadore-able]

Can't imagine having a sign in my home that says "don't act like a baby" when there's a 6 year old living there

[@Checker_The_Bard]

I 100% agree with what you said about encouraging debate. I'm still in highschool, but ever since I was little I had been told never to debate or argue and that my opinion as the child litterally never mattered. This has resulted in me breaking down, repeatedly apologizing while crying, and begging to not be punished whenever I even slightly anger someone. Edit: this includes litterally everyone. Whether it's my parents, teachers, classmates, or litterally anyone else my age or older.

[@CherrrrBear]

I was treated that way as well, and was gaslit all the time by my mother. She has treated me like everything she said was right no matter what even into my adult years. Therapy really helped me with my feelings regarding how she treated me growing up and even as an adult at times. And now with a 5 year old I always talk with her about decisions I make so she can understand, ask questions, etc.

[@ZasukiJean]

Oh dear, sounds traumatic but you're still in high school and already this self aware of this issue so that's really impressive I think (not that I have any authority lol but just saying because it might make you feel a bit proud of yourself 💞)

[@Checker_The_Bard]

@@ZasukiJean my friends and teachers actually made me aware of it. I didn't realize it on my own.

[@DivaAllyC]

I wouldn’t say encourage debate though, being argumentative is not a good trait. Encourage discussion and expressing opinions in a healthy way

[@Checker_The_Bard]

@@DivaAllyC by debate I meant voicing your opinions and whatnot. To me arguing and debating are 2 vastly different things

[@skylarjohnson7779]

"Do you think you're an amazing woman and mum?" You know, I think she is, because she spent two weeks with him without killing him and I don't think I'm that strong. And the worst thing I've seen about her parenting is that her kids do not always listen to adults, which is a pretty minor thing compared to giving a toddler an eating disorder and parentifying an eleven year old.

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

Absolutely this. The way the quads behaved with the wife swap mum reminds me exactly how I react when I'm extremely overwhelmed and/or anxious, or when I *struggle adapting to change*. I lose control of my emotions a bit and the outburst works to reduce the demands and anxiety. Now, I am autistic, but they're children so their emotional control and intelligence would understandably be around the same level lol

[@lilithacacia]

“Imagine having quadruplets.” No, Luxeria, I don’t think I want to. 😂

[@will-o-the-wisp-witch]

Militant dad is awful, he made that blond lady cry and he seemed rather pleased with himself for it. He seemed like he wasn't being strict because its good for them but because he enjoyed having them under his thumb. Also, kids shouldn't be having protein shakes for breakfast unless their family doctor or nutritionist said it was okay. Mercy, I hope those kids grew up ok.

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

These poor kids are gonna need so much therapy I can just tell. I wanna turn back time and give them back their childhood

[@RagDollCookie]

"I have no interest in what you have to say. You are beige." I can't. Omg. This is exactly what my brain is thinking when having to interact with certain people. This quote specifically will now be circling through my head on repeat.

[@Lizzypoohxo]

My biggest piece of advice as a mother is to encourage your kids to communicate with you. When they do communicate, don't judge. Listen, offer advice, inform them so they can make educated decisions. Let your children express their thoughts and emotions without taking anything personally and let them know their feelings are heard and valid. Having open communication will go a long way with how they treat you and others. It's something so simple that is so impactful throughout their life. I wasn't the best mom when my boys were younger but I am confident in saying I raised well rounded young men that have beautiful hearts, good manners, and aren't assholes.

[@小鹿-p8f]

this is how my mom raised me and i will forever believe that it is by far the best way. i grew up confident and able to form my own opinions and beliefs that didn't always match with her but she respected them and always treated me like an equal in discussions. Now that i'm an adult, she is like my best friend and biggest support system and i am so thankful to her for the childhood she gave me.

[@Lizzypoohxo]

@@小鹿-p8f that is so sweet! You are very fortunate to have such a supportive mother ☺️. I wish I was raised that way but I'm proud to have figured it out for my kids

[@HZ-fg9sf]

Sound advice. I wish my mom and I had this kind of relationship. Trauma dump warning: Unfortunately with my mother, she rarely listened to me when I was younger and the few times I asked for advice it turned into judgement or 'we have to do it her way or the highway' even though I wanted to try out another way. So after completely disregarding my opinion and thought process, I learned to not bring anything up to her. And she wonders why I didn't tell her when something bad happened in college and why I don't feel comfortable opening up to her even now. Non-judgemental, open listening is so important in building trust with people. Hope to break the cycle if I ever have kids in the future as I realize she isn't the only one like this in my family. It can be a passed down trait if people don't realize and reflect on it, and can have devastating consequences especially if someone becomes at risk without the people surrounding them knowing. I hope more parents realize how important communication and listening is.

[@jennydorrance1884]

The only thing I hate more than the "you have to eat everything on your plate" is when YOU make the plate for SOMEONE ELSE and tell them that. What if I wasn't very hungry and now you give me a full plate? What if I try something and don't like it? Do I now have to force myself to eat it because you gave it to me? I hate everything about that family's relationship with food

[@bobbiecapewell5333]

You're right Luxeria, the phrase "naughty corner" or "naughty step", enforces the idea "I am naughty" in a child's mind and have huge ramifications l, even way down the line. "If I am naughty, I may as well do naughty things". It also implies low value in the mind of a child, leading to low confidence and poor performance outcomes. It's better to teach a child how to reflect and self improve!

[@qwinlyn]

Even spanking can do this. I have a chronic pain problem now and catch myself not using as much pain killers as I “should” according to docs because “I deserve to hurt” was drilled into me as a child as a punishment.

[@nicholegallo1090]

Naughtier chair does not make them think they are naughty- the PROPER way to do the naughty chair is this: 1 minute per age number, then when it’s time to collect your child off and let them free from the spot, you tell them what they had done wrong (AND WHY it’s not good!!) ask them to apologize and then you give them and hug and kiss and send them on their way.

[@anniemoultray3437]

@@nicholegallo1090 having a time out is different than a “naughty chair”. What you are describing are general guides for time outs according to some psychologists (totally legit). Calling something a “naughty” chair or place or spot makes them, labeling it that way and associating the word with it, is what causes issues.

[@ryan-anarchist-2535]

​@@nicholegallo1090 there's been so many studies now on why naughty chairs and time outs don't work, even SUPERNANNY now says she hates them and regrets using them!!!

[@ohmyshescute]

"It's like a Roomba that you've bread!" was so good, it created several after-laughs. I had to pause when I thought I had calmed down and you went "DEAD!" You took my breath away. 🤣 Also- delightful editing ❣ I will be creating a household-quest-list for myself now.

[@emilyemily3748]

The mum's here gave SO MUCH decency and respect and empathy for one another.

[@cerbercus]

I'm getting pure American Psycho vibes from the strict dad. He's got a kink and you know it.

[@jiminjungkookmin]

the Mitchell child from the 4 boys seemed to be the least mischievous or rude out of them all, and was quite sweet, all the times she told them to do something or changed the rules he sat there quietly, I think he only thing he did was not finish his dinner the night before

[@dumpsterfire3214]

and even about the food thing, children are small, and their stomachs are proportionally small, and they can’t finish as much as we as adults can

[@allisonking3553]

As someone who has a complicated relationship with food, I have one VERY picky child and one child who literally loves everything. I respect my picky teen's limits. I will add veggies into soups and stews to make sure he gets what he needs. My tween who eats everything gets to help me decide dinners for the week. You have to meet kids where they are with food.

[@Meangirl22]

EXACTLY ❤ that’s what good parents do

[@addietrademark432]

God, the dad from the strict family was just so vile. He's pretty much guaranteeing his kids eating disorders, and the way he spoke to Alise was so degrading. I definitely see his kids having bad relationships with him in the future.

[@oyasuminerd]

the strict family was really uncomf to watch cuz the things with food and only punishments just reminded me of my dad. and now i cry at the slightest hint of conflict so yea that worked well.

[@thelittlestpika]

The way the less strict kids talk to their temporary mom gives me anxiety because, if I said something like that to my mom, I'd never be seen again.

[@acehilmz]

the clip of the chihuahua 'speaking english' makes me scream every time 😭😭😭your content is truly a blessing

[@whitalleys5893]

Oh yeah, I had strict parents like in this episode as well. We had to “earn” tv time with exercise and as eldest daughter, you hit the nail on the head Luxeria… Not sure if it definitively affected me and my mental health, but I was an awkward child, struggled to relate to my same age peers, and still have anxiety issues as an adult. Although I believe structure is good for kids, they also need to develop confidence and self sufficiency that are not allowed in homes with authoritarian styled parenting.

[@yoinksscoob4889]

How is the editing of the Australian wife swap more dramatic than American TV editing lol

[@Luxeria]

It really is!

[@ttintagel]

It's a horror movie or something!

[@Sarriiaa]

Australia is just so extra all the time 💀

[@aviolasympony]

STRAYLYA C*NTZ

[@dabi-is-online23]

​@@Sarriiaa No we're not lol

[@laurengriffiths4501]

Eldest daughter almost always winds up being the extra parent. It's horrible and creates such a skewed idea of what we expect of ourselves as adults.

[@waterdragon2224]

It’s kids like these that make me happy in my decision not to have any either. 😂

[@Luxeria]

Relatable 💀💀

[@HaintblueRee]

I want kids but a passel of possessed quads are making me think twice 🤣🤣🤣🤣😬

[@Tonii080]

Relatable, BUT parenting usually has a lot to do with it.

[@noneofyourbusiness7094]

Any man who smiles after making a woman or child cry is a walking big red flag of an emotionally abusive person to avoid.

[@yesterdaydream]

My weight loss surgeon: Eat small bites as slowly as possible Wife Swap: 20 minutes EXACTLY

[@Luxeria]

It’s weird isn’t it! Like if a child is hungry, they will let you know 💀

[@yesterdaydream]

@@Luxeria RIGHT?! Also don't understand parents who are like, "EAT YOUR WHOLE PLATE" when the kid doesn't want more.

[@zetagamings]

@@yesterdaydream right?! As an adult I can 100% guarantee u they’ve left food on their plate and some point but they just keep it for tomorrow or throw it away. U don’t get punished for being full it’s a disgusting “rule” x

[@tarynriver]

As a mother of a son who takes literally forever at home to eat I can feel their struggle but I’d never go about it the way they did I just encourage him to eat up I would never make him finish his plate that would cause an eating disorder lol

[@tomatoberry]

​@@zetagamings I hardly ever do that, I almost always finish my plate even if I'm absolutely stuffed and physically uncomfortable. Not sure whether it's because, as a child, I was forced to sit at the table until I'd forced myself to eat every last soggy vegetable, or whether it's because I'm now eating things I actually enjoy... 🤣

[@VikingPride2012]

Nothing like good ol' WifeSwap to precipitate my buried childhood trauma 😂 I love watching Luxeria react to these ❤️

[@cmleidi]

What a great way to start the week. Always a pleasure to see another Luxeria video. BTW, I think the show would be more interesting if the men swapped, but then perhaps they can't do that as fathers tend not to know how the household works.

[@Luxeria]

Can you imagine!! They wouldn’t know what to do!

[@veryboredpug]

Swap men who do 0 household labor with men who try to divide chores appropriately

[@curiousdormouse757]

I feel like a lot of these super strict parents think that their rules and disciplines are creating strong and independent adults, and it probably can if done right, but I am someone who grew up being yelled at, punished for every small thing I did "wrong", told to shut up because my opinions doesn't matter while also being told off for choosing to be silent instead, and all that trauma caused me to develop both extreme anxiety and depression which I'm still struggling with today as an adult.

[@ewtsuro]

I usually don't comment before finishing a video, but oh my Goooooood. The food timing! I've struggled with an ED for most of my life, and the FIRST TRIGGER that started it all was friends making fun of me because I "ate slow"! It caused me to learn to eat so quickly that I've had multiple instance of choking and deal with a constant feeling of dissatisfaction leading to binge eating. The anxiety around people seeing me eat got so bad that I stopped going to restaurants for years, wouldn't eat in school, and avoided any social event where food was involved. When I ended up hospitalized for my ED, we were given an allotted time to finish meals and had to be constantly monitored when eating. I would have anxiety/panic attacks during every meal, and even after discharge, I still have extremely bad reactions to any form of social eating. Seeing the parents not only time their young children, but PUNISH THEM for not meeting the arbitrary limit, is absolutely horrific and likely to be insanely damaging to them in the long run. Maybe they'll be able to deal with it just fine, or maybe they'll end up fighting some type of ED for the rest of their life like I've had to.

[@crystaltwinkletits5732]

I was gunna comment about the same thing! I was also hospitalised for my ED and I remember if you didn't finish your meal in the allotted time you were punished with an ENSURE drink. I still have nightmares about it and anxiety around social eating swell because of it. Its just an awful way of handling it imo

[@eev14]

As someone that's also suffered from an ED and has been in an ED clinic as well I relate to this for sure. Thankfully I'm largely recovered but the dad just staring that kid down was giving me so much anxiety, the kid full on hid under the table because he's scared of being punished.. When Alise came up to him he started hysterically crying and balled up in the fetal position, to me that's indicative of an expectation of punishment (possibly physical), then when Alise just spoke to him and reasoned with him he was so relieved and seemed genuinely proud about finishing a couple more bites. I feel for the kid and I'm worried for the girl, they're making her do a lot of physical exercise and have such strict food rules, to me it looks like the mom and dad have orthorexia and are actively imprinting this disordered eating behavior onto their kids.. It's messed up.

[@nicholegallo1090]

If I’m forced to eat fast I throw up. Plain and simple. The fact that I finish half my meal is a gift.

[@MemoryFloss]

The strict husband gave me the ick right away, my alarm bells are going off in my head for manipulative and toxic behaviours..🤢

[@elaexplorer]

This is so hard to watch. I have to keep taking breaks. That guy has all the signs of an abuser and is currently using psychological abuse. He denies his kid food and then forces him to drink a protein shake (with adult level vitamins) to hide the fact he's being denied food. Did you see how mad he got when the kids looked happy?

[@Tronderose]

Same... that family needs actual help

[@Drft_bxby]

I had an eating disorder as a child, I was told I couldn’t leave the dining table until my plate was empty. I used to sit at that dinner table for hours on end, alone, just staring at a plate of food I didn’t want to eat. I had no support and wasn’t taught to have a healthy relationship with food or meal times. I think if I had been given a timer, I would have been worse and the anxiety of eating would have caused more problems. This is not the right way to handle a possible eating disorder.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

48:32 HE WAS HUMILIATED and I loved the children being honest.

[@CeceJianni]

The thing is, that vile man's daughter got to see the way he treated her. He is setting an example of how his daughter will think it is acceptable to be treated by the men in her life, and it's sick what he's doing.

[@tomsautocadstudio6446]

Discipline dad "does that make you a bad mum?" Laid back "Will your kids put you in a shit nursing home and never visit?"

[@aurora4218]

"Do you think you're an amazing wife and mum?" Like, my dude, you're already gobsmacked, in other words amazed 🙄

[@ConnorAdventure]

I feel like with the kids there is always a certain amount of “substitute teacher”, as to where they just don’t care as much as when their actual mother is there

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The Husbands are both 2 ends of the Family Man Spectrum. Either it’s oppression or the children reverse parenting.

[@Struudeli]

Hello Luxi! I can't wait for this episode and what you have to say! My food traumas as an autistic person are something else. Can't count how many times I was forced to sit through the break in school because I wasn't able to eat something that truly made me feel like I'm eating something inedible :"D

[@Luxeria]

I had loads of issues with food as a child, now as an adult I think I’m better… but still!! This one was weird to watch x

[@Struudeli]

@@Luxeria Me too! I'm even able to eat tomato, lettuce and feta in one forkful! xD But it's still hard sometimes, to anyone who has had any problems with eating.

[@auntiefish4192]

God, yes. That scene of her making the kid eat the food they didn’t eat at the last meal physically hurt me. I still remember, 40 years later, the bowl of weetabix my mum kept in the fridge and put in front of me three days in a row.

[@peachxtaehyung]

@@Struudeli I have horrible eating issues both with being able to swallow certain things and with texture issues

[@SpookyDollLady]

As someone who still struggles with sensory issues with food as an adult, I feel this! For the longest time I could NOT stomach grilled chicken for some reason. I'd take a bite and literally start gagging. No amount of begging or offering alternatives ever got me anywhere, it was just "this is what we're eating, so either eat it or starve and also I'll scream at you and make you feel bad while you sit here and gag for an hour trying to force it down so really you lose either way." UGH

[@pssurvivor]

I had fairly strict mum but even I had more screen time (in the 2000s) than 30 mins, provided all my homework was done. i did some minor chores but didn't have 'household responsibilities'. My chores were brushing my teeth, flossing, keeping my books and toys organized, kiddy stuff like that

[@pjmlem1450]

I feel bad for Sable... I was in that exact same position. The "Eldest Daughter Surrogate Mother" position. I was expected to do more than my little sisters most times, you know... "be a role model". To wannabe parents: DO NOT treat your eldest like a third/second parent. Do not give them more responsibilities than they can handle. Kids can feel stress, too.

[@ttintagel]

And as a younger sister, I can tell you it screwed me up just as badly. I grew up believing that I was stupid, that I couldn't do anything, that I could never be as smart or as capable as my older sister, etc. And there were periods of time when I would have LOVED to have been able to just enjoy my sister's company and play together as equals without knowing that substitute parent could come out at any minute. That whole phenomenon just needs to end. (Maybe if more mothers got more support from fathers, they wouldn't try to press-gang the oldest kids.)

[@qwerty109ful]

“Something about men just gets my back up” GIRL ME TOO

[@carenray1168]

I so desperately need you to do commentary on the"God mom" episode of Trading Spouses. Most unhinged thing I've ever seen. Thank you so much for another episode!

[@alphabetsoup6681]

Marguerite Perrin. Mental illness. She got help.

[@carenray1168]

@@alphabetsoup6681 did she?? I'm so glad! She definitely seemed to need SOMETHING so I'm hoping she's doing better now.

[@TokeTiger]

I’d love to see Luxeria reaction to some episodes of shows like Supernanny, etc. I love her commentary and views on raising children. I’ve noticed people that are child free by choice would make the best parents

[@vanillanoxfleuret]

Wow, that lady went along with his rules but as soon as it was her turn he took great delight in making her cry! What a monster! Love the lip colour btw

[@zoid5911]

I refused to eat much as a kid, and luckily we had a child psychologist at the time. They basically told my parents to not force me to eat and if I refused to eat, save the food for later or give me something else healthy when I asked (apples were my go to too). Pretty psyched it worked and I have a good relationship with food!

[@Felecia917]

My mother used to do the whole you'll eat the whole meal or you'll eat it for every meal until it's finished. She also used to serve it cold. It just created a power struggle over food and an eating disorder for me. Food ended up being one thing I could control in an otherwise horrific childhood. I never made my children eat anything they didn't want to.

[@J_Mock92]

My mom has been a preschool/kindergarten teacher for most of her life, and she has told me REPEATEDLY that you cannot force a child to finish their plate. Not only can it give them a messed up relationship with food, but oftentimes they're just NOT hungry and don't actually need the calories. Most adults dont seem to realize how small portion sizes for the majority of children are in order to subsist, and little kids are generally a lot more aware of when they actually require food than adults are... Obviously kids can just be picky eaters or difficult sometimes, but if they dont have a problem with the food itself and simply don't want to eat it, then they _probably_ aren't actually hungry or require the caloric intake. The "three more bites" sort of rule is what she's always gone by just to make sure she _sees_ the kid eat a little bit of everything, but as long as the they don't ask for food later and aren't underweight or malnourished, then they most likely don't need (or are literally unable) to eat as much as you gave them....

[@belvedere6368]

I feel like the children in the strict family are headed straight for being terrified of making any mistake for fear of being punished. They don't have any freedom to make a mistake and learn from it, they just get punished.

[@carenray1168]

I absolutely adore my children (who are all in their 20s now) but completely get why it's not for everyone. I love watching these shows because they make me feel better about my parenting choices 😆

[@charlottecurling-kedward8444]

i absolutely love the whole sugar debate whilst im sat here with 1kg bag of mini eggs

[@combustible7267]

they sell kilo bags of mini eggs? where can I get some? 👀

[@charlottecurling-kedward8444]

@combustible amazon they are like £10 but its soooo good

[@heathertallent6010]

As a child I wasn't allowed to leave the table till all my plate was cleared. I am 27, I still remember sitting by myself for hours and crying when I thought they couldn't see me. Now as an adult I still have issues with it, I eat my food too fast during meals so I am the first done or telling whoever I am eating with that I'm hurrying and feeling stressed. I am still learning to eat slower and listen to my body to see if I am actually full.

[@ileolai]

what kind of joyless person demands absolute silence at the dinner table. does she even like her family?

[@DoritoBot9000]

They should could call this show “Disfunctional Family Swap” . The quadruplets were horrifying, but the “strict” parents were straight up abusive, someone should call CPS on them and save those poor kids from further trauma.

[@reginaprotectione9533]

"never trust a straight man without any lips" why is this so accurate? I couldn't stop laughing :')

[@lilme7052]

my dad and correct

[@sourmilk5827]

Every politician in Australia. Not a lip in sight! 😂

[@reginaprotectione9533]

@@sourmilk5827 agreed!!

[@Kat-zz2mj]

The military dad grinds my gears so badly because he's 100% the kind of person that I can't stand. Sarcastic and thinks he's always right and won't listen to anyone else. I have a teacher just like him and he's so hateful

[@krisg3568]

Nope nope, not too many morbid jokes - thats EXACTLY why I love watching you :D You are hilarious and holding yourself back ..well, it's your channel, innit? Also, wow you look so beautiful! A very good hair day :3

[@ttintagel]

Every once in a while something awful will be going on and "A dead body!" will randomly pop into my head and cheer me up.

[@m.jackson6802]

I have a lot to say about the families, but instead, I'm gonna say that I ❤️ Alise's outfits, especially the dress at the end! She just looked so cute and sunny 🌞

[@lizwcarlson]

raging narcissism aside, the strict dad has absolutely NO critical thinking ability. he's like those rise and grind losers who tell you that if you stopped buying coffee, you could live on the moon and eat gold bars for every meal. his only logic for the protein supplements is "more is obviously better," which is ironic considering how he restricts literally everything else in his kids' lives. does this man know you're not supposed to eat four steaks in a row? has he considered there might be a reason for that? has he had a single thought in his head beyond "beep boop robot noises"?

[@coasttocoast2011]

Australian here and every bottle of protein powder I’ve bought says to use it in consultation with your doctor

[@lemongrabloids3103]

I can tell you right now that daughter is frightened of her dad

[@Meangirl22]

Those strict parents HATE children, you can’t convince me they don’t. And they’re abusing them in every way