Thanks for video. My husband cheated twice in 12 years together married and now blaming me and telling other women that I he was never happy in relation. He left home me and my 5 year daughter for other women just meet her 5 months back. Due to blaming I cry and make my self sad
@mr.wright98673 жыл бұрын
I've been blamed for bringing it up since i found out. Her first reaction was "I'm leaving."
@ItsLady_Ray2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that you went through that. My husbands reply was “okay”. It is okay. God has a plan even better than theirs. Keep your head up. I’ll keep you in my prayers. 🌱💙
@mvb8195 жыл бұрын
I am a betrayed husband stuck in my wife’s blame game. When I ask questions, when I try to discuss why she cheated, every response I get starts with “I thought YOU...” or “I felt like YOU...”. I have asked her so many times to try to give me even once sentence of explanation that does not contain “you.” She can’t do it.
@Articfox21474 жыл бұрын
Same here...
@BenDover-zg5uy4 жыл бұрын
I'm in same situation I understand
@tonyc13934 жыл бұрын
Same here. Continue to pray friend
@ryanchacanias83894 жыл бұрын
In the same situation brother
@terrydowning23084 жыл бұрын
Lo, that'smy wife. In fact I don't even know my first name. I think it's "You". And i cant get more than 3or 4 words per sentence.
@hunterrobinson-13953 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend spent months gaslighting me into thinking i was a bad boyfriend but in reality she was just covering up the fact that she was cheating.
@Luna-oo3fl3 жыл бұрын
I'm hear with you right now man
@tafazula89793 жыл бұрын
Same. stay strong both of you. Please.
@traceydumase2 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend. And the way he was so nonchalant about his "confession" then proceeded to tell me to see what role I played like......????
@dason7242 жыл бұрын
Me too but it’s my wife
@ST-cy6we Жыл бұрын
Exactly. My wife has been texting some dude for 2 years. 200-400 texts per month. And I'm to blame
@4lioncubs3 жыл бұрын
Not only does my partner blame me, takes no responsibility, nor has any compassion for how much he's hurt me, but he says that our relationship wouldn't have survived as long as it did if he didn't cheat, and continues to. That he is so lonely in our relationship that he has not choice but to find others to alleviate that loneliness.
@animefan2454 Жыл бұрын
Lady I can relate. My gf of two years ditched me all because apparently I took to long in our long distance
@lanaw7304 Жыл бұрын
update?
@eastsiderider2 жыл бұрын
Perfectly said. They justify the cheating and try to just move on. Little to no care about how much they’ve hurt you
@dopeintellect1 Жыл бұрын
So true, I’m guilty of it too
@animefan2454 Жыл бұрын
True words
@mayaseah9678 Жыл бұрын
Not a word of sorry, no remorse, no guilt ..
@mfawls96243 жыл бұрын
A sit down with her mother was the real eye opener for me. My mother in law parroted the same 'reasons'. Stepping back and looking at those reasons from a perspective that they might be 'valid' in the sense that I was not perfect it became so apparent how shallow those justifications were. I wrote off both my wife's and MIL's opinions and simply focused on what I could change in myself in terms of things I validly needed to change. Not focusing on 'fixing' things because it was so obvious that I would never 'fix' enough. Over time it is more sad than maddening to continue living together because if both parties were willing to work on things we could have a very nice marriage. That is so plain to me, that we have all the ingredients, but while I remain open to reconciliation I also realize it doesn't work on a unilateral basis. Internally my life is better now than it has been since the early years of the marriage. I see her painted into a corner by her own actions and narcissism and her mother's reinforcement of them.
@L.A.N.O.R.I893 жыл бұрын
I dealt with this ..my whole family turned against me because he lied about the cheating
@tonyboswell76543 жыл бұрын
Married 38 yrs divorced for 2 not my Choice and she still blames me was not affection. Blames myself until now no more I was a good godly husband not perfect but a good man. I will not accept her choice to be my fault enough pain from this.
@ashleykathryn90382 жыл бұрын
Don't blame yourself! My husband has cheated on me several times. I refuse to get involved with another man until the divorce is long over. I could cheat on him now and blame him for it but I choose to stay faithful. Don't blame yourself for someone else's sins
@brandonharmon55563 жыл бұрын
This sucks. I need help with the nightmares. They don’t stop. It’s only been a week and a half but They Won’t Stop
@khaliawright89044 жыл бұрын
Great video. My husband always says he doesn’t want to talk about it. He will scream and leave to his moms house to avoid talking about it. Also tell me it’s my fault that he talked to all these woman. So sad. Recently got married and got pregnant for all this? I don’t understand why he married me for? Because only 2 months in my marriage it’s only showing me he won’t stop!!!
@pennylanekane3 жыл бұрын
Same marriage was his idea I accepted. I don’t understand the mind of an individual who gets married and thinks that’s it no more work to be done.🤷🏽♀️ wrong it’s a lifetime commitment of work, vulnerable discussions, support , and fidelity
@dreamthoughtplays3 жыл бұрын
4:49 - "We all have work to do to be better human beings. That doesnt mean your frailties caused them to cheat, it just means that you're not perfect." In hindsight, 3 years out of a narcissitic relationship, I wish this was something I'd known. I cant believe I allowed myself to be led to believe that the things I needed to work on in my life caused my ex to cheat. Even crazier, Im only just now realizing the truth of that, 3 years later. "And now because of that we have a lot more work to do to heal, and pick up the pieces of your own life, and find healing.." Rings true too, having had to unpack everything that comes with being betrayed in a relationship. Its just crazy when the "veil" is pulled back, so-to-speak, and you begin to REALLY see how terrible someone was to you.
@iramsavir56312 жыл бұрын
My partner has the gall to say it's my fault for finding out! His philosophy is what she doesn't know won't hurt her. I should not invaded his privacy by looking at his phone or computer and that he tried to shield me from the pain by keeping things under wraps. That I am making a big deal and blowing things out of proportion. I never gave him any excuses or reasons to cheat. He got praise, validation, compliments, support, love, and anything that a man would want, but apparently it wasn't enough. He just wanted excitement, novelty, variety and thrill of secrecy.
@TheSaggiGirlsTarot2 жыл бұрын
My husband cheating on me, now i found out ...he is blaming me for not trusting him....😅😓😔
@dynamitedil17895 жыл бұрын
Hello Samuel, it`s a honour to meet you and hear you speak so openly and wisely. I am new to this community and like to ask you a strange phenomenon; the unfaithfull spouse blame the ap (his ex) that she can not let him go. And even that she did some black magic over him, (which is not uncommon in the Arab culture and I do believe in darkness and witchcraft) I k now you are a believer, like I am. But I would really like your point of view of this.
@carisma.1443 жыл бұрын
I am curious.. what is the unfaithful hurt about? In order to project a d deflect this blame. Their past wounding?
@SoCalLadyLux Жыл бұрын
Omg, this video is incredible!! Thank you so much for making it.
@trashman93955 ай бұрын
Because she doesn’t want to take responsibility… for anything!
@elizabethamprah38262 жыл бұрын
I hope someone can share with me how to share this information with my unfaithful husband without him making trouble from the gesture because every move of my becomes a disaster or cold war?
@samshealingpodcast2 жыл бұрын
an expert third party. is he open to doing any work with a professional? is he open to doing anything like an intensive at all?
@lanaw7304 Жыл бұрын
Update
@rustymcpherson36683 жыл бұрын
My unfaithful partner literally blamed me on everything and then went as far as to try and hurt me by literally leaving and has been gone for almost 6 months now and never once on purpose has spoke a single word because she knows the damages it having on me. This is the third relationship she's had and has not stopped it as far as I know. She doest understand that just cause your not sleeping with these woman doesn't mean its not a big deal because every time I've wanted it stopped and for her to not continue contact she takes there sides and she leaves me . She chooses to have all her holidays with them and she starts fights 2/3 days prior to them knowing that she is leaving me at that time so she doesn't feel bad for it. And picks and pokes until I rage and then blames it all on me. I'm so pissed off and so mad every day I can't sleep, eat nothing is normal and she could care less.
@reneejones26273 жыл бұрын
My ex told me i made it easy to cheat since i didn't chase him for the cell phone and look through it.
@Automatique-DJ Жыл бұрын
Bought the t-shirt and lving it right now. Blame, blame blame, I've found out. Blame, shouting. Her life is out of control in a spectactcular fashion. Thing is I don't care. 2 weeks I'm out of here to leave her forever. Then, the full realization of her identity and what life was like post-betrayal will hit her like a train. Bye, bye.
@lanaw7304 Жыл бұрын
Update
@johnnyd3852 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@normarobinson59563 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@jaydoublegee28312 жыл бұрын
I cheated on my partner. Am I a bad person? You decide. My partner was gaslighting me, baiting me, constantly provoking me, saying nasty things, giving me the silent treatment sometimes for a week, and refusing to have sex with me. I resisted for almost a year. Until…. Yes. I cheated. And yes I made the choice. I chose to do it. Up to you to decide. I don’t mind the criticism. But when you’re treated like that, to me, that’s the first betrayal.
@jesusvera1210 Жыл бұрын
I married my wife with 3 kids, me is a man I work so hard to give them what they never had , and I never did enough, I paid for her surgery to loose weight when she lost a lot of weight she lost her mind with facebook and and instagram fake life doesn'thelp, the weak will always be weak....
@mary90125 жыл бұрын
Excellent video. My now ex-husband claims he had many affairs during 32 of our 36 year marriage because ‘we got married too young.’ I told him that is an excuse and I now realize he is not dealing with his issues. Now I can only focus on healing myself from this nightmare.
@glorialopezlara16944 жыл бұрын
Thank you. The blame hurts almost as much or more than the cheating.
@Lav_Adam982 жыл бұрын
Definitely hurts more
@throughthefire19805 жыл бұрын
My husband says it's my fault he cheated and that I pushed him into her arms I know that's not true i can't make someone cheat they have to be a willing participant
@lindaasulin72002 жыл бұрын
That’s such bs!that’s just him not taking responsibility!!!!!!!
@caseyshaneboutique3692 жыл бұрын
That's exactly what my husband said to me too. That's not true though
@caseyshaneboutique3692 жыл бұрын
Did you and your husband get a divorce
@tstokemb5 жыл бұрын
So far this video has spoken to me the most. This is so damn accurate. As a betrayed spouse that has been abandoned, thank you.
@ianreed76054 жыл бұрын
Almost without fail, the unfaithful spouse will blame their partner directly or indirectly. The reason for this is that an affair is inherently a selfish act committed by a selfish person. Whether that selfishness is simply in the moment/during the affair or whether the selfishness extends beyond the affair it is simply a selfish and catastrophic act. My wife ran from the marriage the second she was uncovered. She had binned the affair months before she was discovered but the second she was found out it was apparently the case that our marriage was a total failure through and through and allegedly, even though she had been seemingly very happy, apparently she was massively unhappy for years. If this is the case then it’s even worse because she lied to everyone for years and then had an affair anyway.
@dayoftheidealist4 жыл бұрын
I just cant do this anymore. I cant wait for her to get healthy and see the light. Even if she did, the love has died for her. I just wish I could get all of this out of my mind and move on. It's been 8 months and it still feels like yesterday. The PTSD symptoms still haunt me everyday, multiple times a day. I deserve better. I deserve to be happy. Not this.
@jugulator04 жыл бұрын
Take it from someone that is 7 years further along than you....I guarantee you will be happier than you can imagine...She lost a good man and you lost....a broken woman...I'd.say you win big.
@brandonharmon55563 жыл бұрын
So now do I have PTSD? The nightmares are so horrible. They just Keep messing me up. When they start It’s like we still love each other then I find out she don’t care and is cheating, each dream gets worse. Wake up can’t go back to bed! Can’t get that much sleep and this just happened a week and a half ago
@TripleToeSloth19 күн бұрын
@brandonharmon5556 Stay strong! 13 years faithful, and we have 3 kids. I just found out less than 2 wks ago. I also have horrendous dreams. Seek to put your energy into yourself and find some kind of spiritual guidance. I'm hoping that will get me through this.
@johnjohnson16812 жыл бұрын
if they wont accept what they did and blame shift on to you then they are not just narcissistic they are a narcissist
@JoMama1234512344 жыл бұрын
I was cheated on over 6 times by my ex. She was able to gaslight and manipulate me into believing it was my fault, even till the very end. She also verbally abused me and hit me several times. To this day, I am still experiencing the lingering affects. I still sometimes question myself and blame myself for it. It rocked my self-esteem and nearly destroyed me that I was hospitalized for being suicidal. I know that I was way too nice and didnt set firm enough boundaries because I was afraid of losing her because I didnt think I was worth being treated better. However, had I done so, I would have gotten rid of her long before it ended. And I tried. I tried many times to leave but she was able to woo me back and perpetuate the cycle of abuse. Im in therapy now. And Im reading books and learning how to set healthy boundaries, love and value myself more. But those 4 years were equivalent of a slow traumatic experience that will take years to recover from.
@lisaoelfke21982 жыл бұрын
My husband got caught cheating with an old girlfriend. I confronted him Dec 11th and he told me it had stopped. I just discovered that he is still cheating and never stopped. Nothing is ever his fault. It has all been my fault for 31 years. My husband talked with a Christian counselor. This was his take away...."I talked with the counselor and she said usually in a situation like this where there is an affair the person having the affair is finding something that they aren't getting at home". I am livid. This is victim blaming. I am more angry now than I have ever. been
@Tam974eva2 жыл бұрын
What about when they blame you for their cheating bc you "complained too much" that YOU werent getting enough communication in the relationship? That u were too much. Thats dif from them blaming u bc THEY didnt get enough.
@samshealingpodcast2 жыл бұрын
it's still blame. it's a normal approach from those who are not safe and not getting true expert help. what help are you utilizing? is your partner open to getting help to talk through how to heal?
@chang87793 жыл бұрын
Thank you. She cheated then blamed me, telling others I cheated and emotionally abused her with bs lies. I've only felt anger because I did not know why she does it or if all the lies had some truth, it being something my fault that I can not see. I admit I'm not perfect and I admit I have to avoid her as she moves out to not blow up and argue over something stupid that she wants to lie about, but I also know I trusted and cared how I could. Honestly, this helps me clear my head more and, again, I thank you for that.
@mayra.b.raya.c5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this honest video. God bless you and your family.
@dreamthoughtplays3 жыл бұрын
So crazy to hear it from someone else. My ex was unwilling to embrace the consequences of her betrayal. It was as if she wanted us to pretend it never happened, while simultaneously holding me to normal standards of a relationship. So if I pulled away from her emotionally from time to time while we were trying to work on the relationship after she had just cheated, it was because I was a "bad boyfriend" or "terrible to her", never because I had just recently been betrayed. After a while enough was just enough. The same excuses, the same stories. Its just like, ugh. I see now that it was her own guilt and her own cowardice that made her blame me. And to go through such extents to blame me and to REALLY try to believe her own lies, she must have felt so guilty. Wild.
@lanaw7304 Жыл бұрын
update
@907akraven4 жыл бұрын
She blames me by saying our marriage was bad. I never saw it as bad but as a marriage. Yes married people argue. We didn't argue a lot. But weekly it's something new about how bad our marriage is. Now she's trying to paint me as controlling. I keep sending her your videos. I doubt she watches them.
@charlotterodgers49313 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this
@ColiP24082 жыл бұрын
Im in the exact same situation as you. Been going through it for 3 years now. With my estranged cheating wife.
@ALLTHENEFFYNESSCraftyChannel5 жыл бұрын
Loved your part to the betrayed. Thanks for sharing your understanding.
@benjilucero20015 жыл бұрын
I know we have issues but it was never enough for me to blame my wife for my actions. I truly love my wife but would never blame her for my actions
@benjilucero20015 жыл бұрын
I cheated because I was to much of a chicken to talk to my wife about my faults.
@benjilucero20015 жыл бұрын
If you are his everything like my wife is mine then I hope he realizes it as well. Good luck!
@fireeye332 жыл бұрын
you truly love her but you cheat on her? This - I don't get this is illogical
@caseyshaneboutique3692 жыл бұрын
Why did you cheat Benji? I've been married for 8 years and I found out my husband had sex with another woman and he says to me things that are ridiculous like well you don't show me enough affection or why I didn't think you even care I didn't think you love me but I do so much for him so much for him I don't even understand how he can even say that to me it doesn't make any sense
@LisaCulton2 жыл бұрын
But seriously, if a man neglects, ignores, and starves his wife of attention for years, why is he surprised when she wants to be with a man who gives her those things?
@ray.bailey2 жыл бұрын
I don’t think surprised is the right word here. Its hurt. Because he doesn’t show his wife these things, for whatever reason, doesn’t make it right to go outside of the marriage. See why this happening. Often time, most men suffer from emotional unavailability because most of us have been taught from an early age to suppress certain emotions that may be seen as feminine. That leads to not being able to show those emotions or share them with our spouses. Happened to me!
@hawktchr85 жыл бұрын
This is perfect.
@jesushadaegis21892 жыл бұрын
My wife if 17 years asked me for a separation 3 months ago and wanted me to leave but because if finances I couldn’t leave and I continued to try and save my marriage because we have kids and I loved her. I found out 1 month later she was making out and cheating on me with someone else. She was caught and afterwords she only could keep saying “I asked you to leave I didn’t want to hurt you “…she apologized after but continued to keep a friendship with this person. I was upset about that and she kept fighting me on it and it wasn’t until the kids got upset with her she backed off a little from this person but still talked to this person because they work together. 2 weeks after that we decided to work on things and 3 days later she pushed me away again for the 6th time and found out 2 weeks after that she was flirting through text with another different person. This she only shared because I knew something was up and told her to be honest and she finally told me. The text were super flirty but she won’t admit to it. She than tried justifying everything by bringing up my past 13 years ago when I flirted with another girl when I was younger but failed to bring up the time she did the same thing around that same time. She literally cannot take responsibility for anything she does and honestly could care less if she hurts me. I finally made the choice to leave her and stop talking to her or being involved in her personal life but it’s hard because I still love her. :( …. Trying to get funds to leave the house but we are still living together so it’s super hard to see her everyday and especially when she is supposed to be off at a certain time but doesn’t come home for hours after.
@marianatequiero28 Жыл бұрын
Ya it’s tuff try living with someone on the same property , together for 12 years , with a kid , and trying to say no to them when your the betrayed….never admitting accountability or responsibility for there actions, even though you do
@c.j.92485 жыл бұрын
Wow, if my wife had even an ounce of remorse, empathy and connection in how she shattered my heart, it would help me so much in my healing process. But she still gets defensive when I bring up the affair (4 years post D-Day now - her excuses were I was so clingy and needy as I was suffering through multiple job losses during a 2-year span that "pushed" her over the edge) and keeps me at a distance with no physical, spiritual or emotional connection. It's only by the grace of God we are still under the same roof and still married.
@tstokemb5 жыл бұрын
She isn't putting any work towards fixing your marriage. I am sorry you're still struggling but none of those excuses sound like a reason to do what she did. Not saying that there is ever any excuse because there isn't, but if she still holds her stance in the situation 4 years post DDay then I think that she needs counseling or you may need to analyze your situation further. Is it worth it to stay when she has clearly given up? You deserve happiness my friend and at this rate, you will not find it.
@organicita6023 жыл бұрын
As Samuel stated in the video, if the Unfaithful Spouse is STILL blaming you or failing to take responsibility, then you likely need to put boundaries in place. I discovered my UH felt entitled to cheat for his frustrations and anxiety for the last 16 years - 2 affairs and load of porn. Discovered Jan 2020 about latest short affair of 4 months (at the time). As of THIS month, May 2021, he is still blaming me.
@ItsLady_Ray2 жыл бұрын
God has a plan for you don’t worry. 💕
@bee44bee44bee442 жыл бұрын
I am the same no remorse not asking for forgiveness. he even have the face to say it never happened. I was 36 week pregnant when it happen he use to leave me alone for hours .
@vanessarenae51692 жыл бұрын
That's not a marriage. That's disfunction. If she isn't open to looking at herself and you are trying for years, and your unhappy, Maybe consider that you deserve better?
@stacyrice3922 жыл бұрын
My husband just recently got found out.He was coming home everyday like nothing was wrong. Then when i found out and confronted him i told him to leave. He told me he just needed to work on him.Then told all of our friends it was my fault! He still won't admit it and if i bring it up he won't text me back. I filed for divorce today i don't think it's even worth saving.And he hasn't asked me not to file.So i think that's the sign.
@kdukate3 жыл бұрын
Excellent video and exactly what I needed to find tonight. We have been married 31 years, are 2 1/2 years out from initial d-day. Thank you for sharing!
@LARGERTHANLIFE212 жыл бұрын
As the unfaithful I have to say this is a tough one. I accept that cheating was 110% all my fault and I could have talked things through or flat out ended the relationship if I was truly unhappy. Sometimes it seems like I just armed my betrayed spouse with more ammo to keep acting how she acting.
@eileenmolina9152Ай бұрын
Blaming hurts me more than all of his actions. It hurts me especially when he tells me it's all because of me and that's what I deserved. He gave me physical, mental, verbal, and emotional abuse that drained me so much. I didn't even know what he was doing, but I just found out. Some concerned people informed me, as he denied and said they were trying to ruin us, but in the end, all of the accusations are true. He doesn't know the depth of the pain that he caused me.
@Mixedandfine2 жыл бұрын
Yes my husband’s blames me I’m done with him!!
@JDMCONNECTIONPR11 ай бұрын
What if she is bringing things up that happen over 10 years ago. Small thing like letters or emails written to ex girlfriend’s etc.. that’s my case right now.
@cryptoprepper14633 жыл бұрын
my wife blamed me for years wtf,
@MuckRatz2 жыл бұрын
Alright, it's the cheaters choice to cheat. But aren't both partners to have Some responsibility in creating the environment to allow for it? For example; If one gets starved for attention, and the other ignores this, wouldn't that set up a opportunity for a mistress to step in and fill a void? Is a honest question....
@banana9106 Жыл бұрын
Well, what is stopping the starved for attention partner explicitly asking for that attention? If it is a guy not giving a woman attention he may need to spend less time gaming or whatever, or you may need to discuss reducing working hours and having less income. If a woman is not giving a guy attention then she may need to reduce working hours or she may need to see less of friends or she might be overloaded with house work and you might need to help her with that to give her that time.
@xDiananas Жыл бұрын
As adults you address the problems. You found all the tools (counseling, books, videos, etc) and speak about it and work through it. But NEVER EVER think of going to find the « missing part » somewhere, because the problem is both partners in the relationship are missing something, but only one chooses the WORST ever way to deal with it. When there is fire you put water on it not fuel. Same for the relationships, when there are problems you face them and resolve them, but you don’t « resolve » them by creating a THOUSAND more problems, do you??????? What a stupid mindset.
@xDiananas Жыл бұрын
Nothing « allows it ». People allows it. If the unfaithful partner had his mindset already « programmed » for cheating or dealing with struggles by the worst way possible, it’s a big sign of immaturity, selfishness. There is nothing allowing it. Only people with weak mindset, weak relafionship problem solving skills, self-absorbed.
@larrylarr21813 жыл бұрын
My soon to be ex wife did the EXACT same thing. Blamed me for her 3 year affair. But the minute I flipped the script & told her that I’m not going to take blame for her choices, she decided to file divorce papers.
@SarahS-ix5hy2 жыл бұрын
Oh no, can't blame the unfaithful spouse. They can't handle that. My soon to be ex husband is the same.
@drvpscott5 жыл бұрын
You and Rick are killing it this week. Kudos!
@samshealingpodcast5 жыл бұрын
awe, so kind of you. thank you for sharing that.
@livingstonrosa4 жыл бұрын
Thank You so much for this!!!!
@JBN011A5 жыл бұрын
Do u know any infidelity recovery experts in south Africa
@AffairrecoveryLLC5 жыл бұрын
Hi John, please reach out to our team at info@hope-now.com
@JBN011A5 жыл бұрын
@@AffairrecoveryLLC thank you
@HouseofHorrors-RedDeer2 ай бұрын
My wife just did this...
@ovungwokha10283 жыл бұрын
This is so true...
@snowqtee5 жыл бұрын
When does the blaming end or when does the cheater realize he is blaming and not taking ownership for the affair??
@samshealingpodcast5 жыл бұрын
usually when they get expert help and do proper recovery work.....
@janelleflagg7154 Жыл бұрын
I hate this not only I've been betrayed by my first and only love I'm going through menopause! I'm so sick confused and all above! All the things he wanted to happen with was happening but he made up in his mind that it wasn't and started closing me off emotionally!
@Kevo83Lbc3 жыл бұрын
I pray your right sadly I went through this story and I’m grateful I did because it made me realize what I was doing as a teen and in the beginning I’m truly sorry……
@ST-cy6we Жыл бұрын
My wife said I was controlling. So instead of leaving and getting a divorce she just got a boyfriend and then told me to file for divorce. I laughed at her.
@fidelinafranco21443 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much we are watching this video together 😊
@animefan2454 Жыл бұрын
Ever had a girlfriend in long distance who cheated cause according to her words . You took to long.
@Bestill37-72 жыл бұрын
Well said. Thank you very much.
@desertgardener77711 ай бұрын
Thank you for this. I have to keep reminding myself that it's not my fault. It was never my fault regardless what they try to tell me, such as I changed or became different after the kids, or I became weak and pathetic. They can try to fill themselves. But I refuse to be gaslighted anymore.
@hollikrebs10 ай бұрын
It’s not your fault. It’s what is in them that is wrong. Nothing wrong with you, they don’t know how to love and be faithful and blame someone else because they won’t take responsibility and they are blinded by selfishness. Please do not even let this person harm your self value, they are the problem, not you.
@dragonslayerornstein12422 жыл бұрын
My spouse messed around with her co-worker and says I didn’t pay enough attention to her unlike her affair partner She has character flaws and we’re married and been together for 5 years. I can’t imagine life without her and I’m too kind for my own good. Idk if I should reconcile or if I should make her leave my life. It’s so hard.
@pigdust Жыл бұрын
My partner cheated on me and justified her actions by blaming me. It completely broke us but we stayed together ... for another 7 years ... until I discovered she'd done it again ... and again she acted like she' was the victim. Ending a relationship is not easy but think long and hard about whether you really believe and trust that she won't do it again.
@Uncle1899 Жыл бұрын
1 cheating is enough to end a relationship if they do it once they most likely to do it again woman when we forgive them spoil them and even sorry when we did nothing wrong she will develop mindset that she important and we can't live without her then she will no longer give us respect and value as head of family and a man with no respect and value from his family is no longer a husband and she will end up getting new husband that the horrible truth that i don't think the beautiful innocent girl i met capable of doing but learned it possible as i grow older
@LunarKnitsbyLori5 жыл бұрын
Should I just back off of my H? Unfortunately there is a child born from this affair. I have already worked through what I want as it has been 6months since DDay. I want to make this work, but H is having anxiety about coming to me about communication with OW. I think he’s about to leave me as he thinks it’s too hard. I’m willing to back off. I’m willing to ask him about The child so maybe he’ll be comfortable eventually coming to me himself. He’s having a hard time actually moving out, but has said he was going to a couple of times.
@mariemaidyn36985 жыл бұрын
Wow You're the most mature person I've ever encountered. I feel you'd be more fulfilled on your own path
@jerrymichele1235 жыл бұрын
From my experience, I left my ex’s alone. When I tried to make the relationships work with both my ex’s it made it worse for me. Finally, I completely gave up, and went my own way. When they realized this, they both wanted me back, but I didn’t want either one. However, your situation may be different from mine. Needless to say, I have a very difficult time forgiving people who intentionally hurt me. Keep in mind, your husband may feel a lot of shame, and that could be why he’s not talking. My ex’s had issues with looking me in my eyes. Anyway, try to take care of yourself first.