Why Empaths Are Betrayed by Friends: Unmasking Narcissistic Behavior and Reclaiming Your Power

[@tokyoblur24]

This is so profound. The empath uses their gift to share with others as they are naturally inclined to do. What some fail to realize is that giving their gift to themselves, instead of selflessly giving to others is virtually regenerating them and is the key in allowing them to continue sharing their gift. When doing what the empath feels is right, they unknowingly do what is profoundly wrong for them and too often lead to their destruction. It seems the most profound things in life are truly the simplest and sometimes right in before us. Thank you so much Doctor for breaking this simple but elusive fact down. 🎁

[@innermileage]

You said it so well...

[@tokyoblur24]

@@innermileage I'm honored and humbled by your compliment.

[@LovingLife342]

Great information that came at the right time. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@starshiptrouter]

Thank you for your video! It sparks a thought and I'll share for others that are married and raising kids. My wife was raised by her narcissist mother and she herself has a lot of covert narcissistic traits...and sometimes if (as in the past I've done) held her responsible for hurtful behavior by bringing it up...she can pigeon-hole herself into a multi-part defense mechanism that includes all of the top half-dozen toxic dynamics. My best bet is to let her do the best she can and not require too much accountability. That said...I married to have some great connection! (oh well...live and learn) So...as we are aiming to raise our family, I'll share one way I've learned to set my own boundaries around my own expectations! (so this is something I can actually control...I can control myself...to some degree). I found a list of "8 areas of intimacy" (ways to connect"...I went through and identified where my wife and I connect...well...we do connect in the areas of: work, recreation, spiritual activities (ie attending a church) and some physical areas. However, intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, aesthetically...I started working a decade ago on figuring out how to get these "intimacy needs" met in other ways. Not with the opposite sex, but with my guy friends...so doing outdoors activities like fishing, music, I joined a book club that focusses on age of enlightenment works, I can go to art galleries alone or with a friend...so I highly recommend if you are working to keep a family together...but only connect with your narcissist partner in a couple areas...and the rest is a work of arduous boundary setting...keep yourself healthy by finding a list like 8 or 9 "areas of intimacy" do some personal writing. Identify areas where you do have some "intimacy needs" being somewhat met. Where you don't share those, this is critical...give up!!! Find those other ways with other people. This is between you and yourself (or maybe a trusted counselor or sponsor) no approval needed from the narc-partner. You will get your life back (not from them...but from you giving it away!)...and invest as much time as you need in healthy connections. This works for me for now as my narcissist is "covert", basically low grade (though that fluctuates), we do have some common goals-though her motivation and mine are indeed different :-) ...and I work 12 steps and other spiritual programs with the same dedication that I eat three square meals a day. Just wanted to share something that sort of "works" for me. Sending my deepest wishes for peace profound!

[@innermileage]

And I thank you for your sharing too. I am sorry for your pain. Keep soaring

[@erinreichwald7111]

I just found you, your just outstanding at explaining to not confused but to educate ty for sharing your gift 😊appreciate it

[@innermileage]

You are welcome

[@mfisher2800]

Great message! Thanks so much!

[@innermileage]

you bet!

[@Cat-sx6ep]

God bless you as soon as I am ready will speak with you

[@innermileage]

Sounds good!

[@jacquelinemarie1078]

Good information.

[@innermileage]

Glad it was helpful!

[@ezazkhan4233]

yes im empath lack camnicution lack boundaries

[@innermileage]

true

[@moonpye777]

Fascinated with these conversations & also concerned with the "trend" & spike in these types of abusive/neglectful relationships. With everything going on in the world, feeling it especially potent in the US, I wonder if there is a real connection between the influx in these dynamics & the slow crumble of our overarching abuses of power, from the top down. We rise from the bottom up. It also feels quite "biblical" as I suppose times of tremendous change do. ❤️‍🩹

[@innermileage]

Your analysis is apt and correct...