Why Family & Friends Don't Support Your Art and Business (How to Find Your Tribe)

[@ronaldolamont]

As a black artist of 20 plus years, I’ve never felt the need to get support from friends and family! I didn’t become an artist to please others, I pursued my art and art career simply because it’s what I loved to do! It’s a huge misconception that we need support and acceptance as an artist from friends and family, in fact I believe it’s unfair of us to expect them to understand, because they never will and never can! There is only one person and one person only, who really needs to believe in you, and that’s you!

[@tarralu]

Well said

[@R.A.PMusic]

Wisdom is expensive 💥💯❣️💪🏽😎😇... I love that, All we need is to know and trust that we're operating in the wisdom of God with whatever art we're about. Thanks for this spirit reviving video 👍🏽

[@tarralu]

@@R.A.PMusic Amen 🙏🏾 Thank you for your words ✨

[@TheJenZeman]

Tarra!!!! I LOVE this advice, and definitely what I needed to hear. While I am not currently selling my art, I share with friends and family on FB and often feel a bit disappointed none have ever either a) reposted my work to their feeds; and b) have never reached out to me to either buy my work or ask for me to paint something for them. Your exercise really opened my eyes to this conundrum - they simply aren't art people. None actively support artists - they don't buy art on the regular, nor share even favorite artists on their pages. The majority just view the art as a hobby, not something to invest in. I do need to find my tribe, and part of my issue is I don't go out of my way to connect with other artists or art lovers. As an introvert, I need to get over this. So, I have some goals to plan! P.S. I love your presence! Thank you for doing what you do - I feel like you gave me the biggest hug and encouraged me to keep moving forward. 🥰

[@tarralu]

Awww I’m glad this video found you. 💓 I’m glad you did the exercise and came to the realization that they’re just not art people. A lot of people just see art as something fun to do and aren’t aware of the benefits of practicing and viewing art. I’m an introvert too but getting out of my comfort zone and making friends with other artists is very important. The support/community is needed. Hugs to you 🤗

[@AnggiSahamCantik]

I hear you. I have engineering degree. Then master in finance. I had try to be stockbroker, love the trading stock part but not so much on managing clients 😅 then, long story short, I choose to be a writer. I write for client and start my blog 😂 and I live my best life 🎉

[@tarralu]

Love it! Love that you’re living your best life ❤️

[@elyshieva7375]

Hi, I finished computer science and think of going into finances because of entrepreneur training part they have there. But my dream was to become an artist (I am doing it on the side, but I am starting to see how much work goes into building my skills and name for myself). May I ask you if you could start your writers journey sooner, would you? I realized I may be just afraid to jump into what I really care about. Thank you for your comment.

[@applejackzo]

Love the journey!!!

[@AnggiSahamCantik]

@@elyshieva7375 I dont think I have the guts to become a writer without all of my previous life lessons I had. After all, my other skills like managing my investment really help me boost my income alongside my writing. Btw, I recommend you read the big leap by gay hendricks and finding your own north star by martha beck. Those 2 books give direction on deciding what kind of life I want. I hope it helps.

[@AnggiSahamCantik]

@@elyshieva7375 I dont think I have the guts to become a writer without all of my previous life lessons I had. After all, my other skills like managing my investment really help me boost my income alongside my writing. Btw, I recommend you read the big leap by gay hendricks and finding your own north star by martha beck. Those 2 books give me direction on deciding what kind of life I want. I hope it helps.

[@MelodyMiroir]

Just the title is pure gem ❤❤❤. Yesterday I had a discussion with my dad because I share a lot of my art with him, and I really have a good relationship with him. I'm used to do portrait painting, and charachters design but yesterday I share with him a still life and he said "don't scatter yourself". I'm a mulipassionate person... I AM SCATTERED. Like always (and I struggle with this because I can never make a choice, or find a style, or find who I am, as I am so many persons... ). This comment broke my heart because I felt misunderstood. I had a huge insomnia this night, thinking about my art "what am I gonna do, do I have to keep up ? I feel lonely, I do not have any style, I'm bad at painting, I don't know what to do anymore... bla bla bla". I read the title of your video. And just the title made me feel better. Thanks for that?

[@tarralu]

Thank you so much for sharing. You’re not alone. I’m multipassionate person as well and I confuse people around me with how quickly I can shift my style. It’s a journey really and how can we find our voice as an artist if we don’t try different things? I’m now just finding my voice and it took over a decade of trying different styles. My portfolio looks insane 😆 but I’ve learned to accept that that’s just how my brain works. I’m glad this video found you 🫶🏾

[@OpeningsOpenings]

I have made a career of being a multi hyphenate artist I serve the story - the message. This means I am constantly shifting what I do and trying/learning new skills which get integrated into my art. Approaching life as if it’s a journey - not a destination has helped me overall. I am process oriented and thus everything I do is rewarding. I share all aspects of my process with pride and TRUST that those who will resonate with my art will see me and commission me to create. Please please do NOT think that having multiple passions makes you a dilettante - it makes you a “multidisciplinary artist” and more of us are being recognized than ever.

[@tarralu]

@@OpeningsOpenings Wow I needed to read this today. Thank you for reframing this for us 🫶🏾 I love that…we’re multidisciplinary artists ❤️

[@sheeba4165]

Do not despair @Melody! I hear you and I empathize. I've been painting solo for now almost ten years and have shared my art with few people because I was too shy. Allow yourself to experience many different styles in order to find your own. It's about experimentation. That's the only way you will find your style. Do no let anybody box you in a category. Artists are free spirits. I used to think all the things you expressed when I began. I do not know how to draw but I can find other ways to express myself through shapes and colours, Do not break your own heart dearest! Give yourself grace and continue to explore. Believe in your talent and invite your spiritual guides to help you find your true self and let it be revealed through your paintings. YES you can do that! Tara is a great source of inspiration for all of us . She provides a platform to meet and share. I'm grateful to her. I'm at a different stage of my evolution as an artist. I'm no longer scared to show what I do. I'm looking for the right platform to do it. KEEP CREATING and find joy peace and validation into your own spirit instead of asking it from others. Let your heart be your guide and trust your intuition. Be blessed!💙

[@MelodyMiroir]

@@sheeba4165 Thank you so much for your kind answer. It makes me smile (and where I am it's 8 o clock in the morning, so perfect to begin the day). I think we live in a society who loves labels. "I am this, or I am that, I like this, I do that". I will reread your comment whenever I found myself down

[@heavenlygirlly]

It was an eye-opening video, especially the self-worth part. We expect things from the wrong people and doubt our self-worth. We should know wholly are what kind of art we produce tells us who is our true audience. I love reading spritual text, philosophy, so my art reflects that. I feel like my right audience is people who love literature and sprituality,

[@tarralu]

I’m glad this video resonated with you. Your true audience is definitely in that realm. It’s a matter of finding where they hang out and putting your work in front of them.

[@AbbyPhillipsIsPeaches]

I've struggled with this over the years. I needed this video. Thank you so much for providing this clarity.

[@tarralu]

Thank you for watching. I’m glad this video found you ✨❤️

[@CarterSams]

It’s been great for me to have your channel to tune into lately as I navigate the thoughts and emotions behind relaunching my channel after 5 years. I appreciate your valuable wisdom.

[@tarralu]

@@CarterSams 🤗 Thank you for sharing. Im glad you’ve found my videos helpful. If you don’t mind me asking what made you take a break from your channel?

[@CarterSams]

@@tarralu I needed to prioritize the 9-5 due to life circumstances, it became something I thought I had to give up.

[@tarralu]

@@CarterSams I completely understand. There’s a time and season for everything.

[@audreyredigolo7104]

your words are so true, sister! We should do things for the sake of love and not to fulfill the expectations of others. Thanks for sharing those valuable thoughts.

[@tarralu]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@Tigerp796]

Peace and grace is all over u .God bless thank u the conversation.

[@tarralu]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@ShalomShock]

My friends and family like my art all right, BUT they want to support me by having me gift the items that they like for FREE so that I cannot make a living.

[@tarralu]

This is also very common 😔

[@NotoriousPND429]

Yep, same. Like, do I expect them to do my taxes for free or give me free haircuts? No!

[@shayneennis6691]

Same here

[@lancebaileypoetry1938]

Very well said. Sometimes though, it's even more simple-- your family and friends just don't like art like you do. They have interests and pursuits that I'm not interested in. And face it, ours is a difficult proposition. It's not the same as one of our family and friends opens up a restaurant so we go support them and buy a plate of food. True we supported them and all, but we got something out of the deal as well. We got a good meal and we needed that meal. In our case, we are sometimes literally serving up a "nothingburger" from their point of view. They hope we're successful, but they just don't get it... It's okay.

[@tarralu]

Well said.

[@charminglyrella6909]

This really came at the right time, Tarra! Thanks for the uplifting words. I'm actually in the middle of figuring things out and giving my business a fresh look. I'm still looking for my tribe, but your words were confirmation to let me know that I'm on the right track.

[@tarralu]

Congratulations on moving forward with your business. I’m glad this video found you and gave you the confirmation to move forward with your endeavors 🫶🏾❤️

[@williajohnson1851]

@justrellajo6909 I so needed to read this post from you. I'm experiencing the same. Thank you.

[@CocoGlows]

Me watching trying to break my people pleaser ways. 👀😅 I had to take a 4-year break from YT just to take time to reconnect with myself and finally show my authentic self on my channel. It feels like my videos are already improving after letting go. ✨✨

[@tarralu]

Lol I love it! Breaking people pleasing tendencies. That’s beautiful to hear that your videos are improving after letting go. This is year 2 for me and I’m noticing YT is a spiritual journey in itself. Will check out your channel ✨💕

[@MsDonna]

✨❤️ very well said! the people who resonate with what we do is where the love flows from.

[@tarralu]

Thank you 🙏🏾 All it takes is refocusing our attention to the ones who vibe with us ❤️

[@BlackPositivityChallenge]

Family is genetics.Tribe is support! Hope everyone reading finds their tribe in godspeed!🫂💫

[@tarralu]

Yes, indeed ✨

[@miamibfly]

This is such a beautiful message and exercise. Thank you for shining your authentic light.

[@tarralu]

@@miamibfly Thank you so much! I’m glad it resonated with you ✨

[@MartaTaylor]

The way you think about this topic is really curious and interesting, thank you for sharing your ideas and thoughts with us 😊

[@tarralu]

Thank you for watching. ☺️

[@Fiveash-Art]

My 'friends' all act like I'm supposed to give them paintings if they tell me they like one. I've pretty much decided they're not my friends. 😂 F' those people.

[@tarralu]

Unfortunately that’s very common 😔

[@artfunky]

You had me at “holistic approach” 😁 Love your work!

[@tarralu]

Thank you so much 💞 all love

[@ItsTylerChanel]

Your work is beautiful!!! Really enjoyed this video

[@tarralu]

Thank you so much for the kind words! I’m glad you enjoyed this video ❤️🫶🏾

[@Omiyinka]

Thank you for this 🙏🏾 Loving the new hairstyle btw

[@tarralu]

Thank you so much!

[@SparrowMountain]

Hey Terra this was really good for me to see. I would say I'm an optimist and that I know a lot of my hurdles in sales or lack thereof. I want to say I know the two sides of interest, positive and negative, but I'm not sure anymore. I'm just starting on my youtube journey, at least in new content and having deleted far too casual efforts, but I have dreams where I could write a novel and my videos would be liked by people who may support it. I guess what I'm saying is for me right now its like deciding who to talk to between 2 people I meet because one is more interested. I do like the role of strategizing and meditation. I'm personally leaning towards quicker impressionistic painting styles and it lends to me knowing I can go a kind of new route with it all and not fear that I have several highly realistic efforts. In other words I think multiple avenues for things on the go that apply, like you doing helpful videos, is really good. Like a painter who sketches too, or a painter who goes on hikes (my kind of thing) and then like I was saying that writing a book could be helpful if wisely timed. You were right wisdom is precious, and it lends to that therapeutic, meditative understanding of art. I hope you're doing great, I was just out filming and its so nice here. Stay inspired! Dave from Canada

[@tarralu]

I’m glad this video resonated with you. I agree having multiple streams of income is the way to go as long as you have a good system in place. I say go with what brings you joy and satisfaction. The ideas you have sound really interesting especially the novel. I would definitely explore that…you never know who might be interested in it. Good luck on your KZbin journey and creative endeavors 🙏🏾

[@SparrowMountain]

@@tarralu Thanks so much Terra. I did some filming tonight, mostly of a sunset. I skateboard as a passion to get around so I use it. I will be truly guided by your reply moving forward. Thanks again

[@silverarrowtarot]

this is such great and actually helpful advice! Thank you. you are so calm too. love the vibe

[@tarralu]

Thank you! I'm glad you found it helpful. 💞

[@timothyjerron]

I love everything about this video. Thank you.

[@tarralu]

It’s my pleasure. I’m glad it resonated with you 🙏🏾

[@StitchedByMrsFox]

Thank you for sharing this wonderful video. Lots of food for thought. 🥰

[@tarralu]

I'm glad it was helpful. Thank you ☺

[@irenebiwole]

Thank you so much Tarra. Your videos are such a blessing. Authenticity is definitely one of my core values for art making. Your work and words resonate so much with me. Very inspiring and conforting. (I also love your hair and outfit!)

[@tarralu]

Thank you for the kind words Irene. It’s the same for me so I’m glad it resonated with you. ❤️

[@flowerbloom5782]

I needed to hear this. Thank you.

[@tarralu]

All love ❤️

[@kd55199]

So thankful for this video ❤️

[@tarralu]

@@kd55199 I’m glad it resonated with you ❤️

[@tharwatoday4480]

I love your space. Great energy ♥️

[@tarralu]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@humbleviewpoint]

You make so many good points! Your comments on wisdom are spot on. Often we gain it through a process we might not choose to put ourselves through. After though, we are grateful for what we harvest. I want to add a point that I think might be true: just because your content has resonated (deeply) with me today, does not automatically mean that it will be reciprocal. It took me a while to make peace with the reality that some artists that I just love, don't necessarily love my creativity. Those bonds where two creators resonate with each other are really special.

[@tarralu]

I’m glad you brought this up because it is very true. It’s something I’ve experienced myself in the art community and felt left out at some point especially since I haven’t established my signature style yet. But you’re right…when it’s reciprocated it’s magical ✨

[@staceydenise5538]

Hi five Tarra!!! I left my career In Pediatric Surgery to do my art and interior design business. I am blessed my immediate family have supported and actually purchased from me, but my work colleagues think I am nuts!! I am loving life and having to find my way to grow and show up the way my brain keeps showing me. I applaud you and all the other creatives that came back to their true passions that may have gotten side tracked.

[@tarralu]

That sounds like the dream✨ I have a deep love for interior design and home decor. That’s beautiful that you’re loving life and being true to yourself. I left the legal field to pursue my art and I’m still considered “crazy” for following this path 😆 I applaud you as well and I wish you a successful business ❤️

[@constancenunn]

I want to buy some art. This is a beautiful video. You have some lovely art. I chose you. I love that painting. It's got to be Jealousy with family.

[@tarralu]

Thank you for the kind words. I truly appreciate it. Feel free to visit my website at www.tarralu.com to buy some art ☺

[@karinrylander7237]

Thanks for sharing this! The timing was perfect.

[@tarralu]

Thank you for watching ☺️✨

[@danielnorville-weaver5316]

wow i need this, thank you Tarra

[@danielnorville-weaver5316]

also ur art is rlly cool :)

[@tarralu]

@@danielnorville-weaver5316 Thank you for the kind words! I’m glad this video resonated with you ✨

[@debrawuliger7589]

Thank you for this Tarra. I really appreciate this message, so helpful❤

[@tarralu]

Thank you for watching! I’m glad you found this message helpful ❤️

[@princesayoleasa]

You have such a beautiful smile, thank you for sharing your insights ❤

[@tarralu]

Thank you for the kind words 🥰❤️

[@kimberlynthenya2994]

Great video, I learnt so much. Thank you 🙏

[@tarralu]

Thank you so much for watching 🙏🏾❤️

[@PeaceJoyProsperity]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you for the exercise. It was a wow moment for me.

[@tarralu]

Thank you! I glad you found the exercise helpful ☺️

[@shayneennis6691]

I dont care if people like my art as much as im interested in why they dont.

[@Ngoziscreativity]

I learnt a lot from this video. Thank you

[@tarralu]

Aww thank you 🙏🏾 I’m glad you found it helpful ❤️

[@ThisLittleFiat]

Thank you for this! This helped so much!!

[@tarralu]

I’m glad it helped ❤️☺️

[@astridarroyave]

Thanks! You’re fabulous!!

[@tarralu]

Thank you for the kind words 🥰❤️

[@maggie2036]

Thank you for this inspiring talk

[@tarralu]

Thank you for watching ❤️🫶🏾

[@whosaidso1]

Thx for sharing your thoughs.

[@tarralu]

Thank you for watching ☺️

[@Elagydaorb]

Thanks for the inspiration

[@tarralu]

It’s my pleasure ✨

[@Ohio_Memory_Bears]

🎉 thank you ❤❤❤

[@tarralu]

It’s my pleasure ❤️❤️❤️

[@InspiredArt2]

Take away from your video *Shifting Your Focus: From Disappointment to Empowerment* Remember, the lack of support from family and friends is not a reflection of the value or potential of your creative work. It’s simply a matter of misalignment - your vision and purpose may not resonate with those closest to you, and that’s okay. By shifting your focus to your true audience, you’ll find the validation, encouragement, and connection you’ve been seeking all along. So, don’t let the disappointment of unsupportive loved ones hold you back. Embrace your authentic self, share your story, and trust that your tribe will find you. The journey may not always be easy, but with a clear understanding of your true audience and the courage to show up as your genuine self, you’ll be well on your way to creating a fulfilling and successful creative career.Shifting Your Focus: From Disappointment to Empowerment Remember, the lack of support from family and friends is not a reflection of the value or potential of your creative work. It’s simply a matter of misalignment - your vision and purpose may not resonate with those closest to you, and that’s okay. By shifting your focus to your true audience, you’ll find the validation, encouragement, and connection you’ve been seeking all along. So, don’t let the disappointment of unsupportive loved ones hold you back. Embrace your authentic self, share your story, and trust that your tribe will find you. The journey may not always be easy, but with a clear understanding of your true audience and the courage to show up as your genuine self, you’ll be well on your way to creating a fulfilling and successful creative career.

[@tarralu]

I love that. From disappointment to empowerment ✨

[@InspiredArt2]

@@tarralu I sent you an email I dont knkow if you did receive it?

[@tarralu]

@@InspiredArt2 Thanks for letting me know.

[@ShawnonSkates]

Many thanks!❤‍🔥

[@tarralu]

Thank you 🙏🏾❤️

[@anitasewell3029]

Amazing video

[@tarralu]

Thank you ☺️

[@ArtDreamPainting]

Amazing video ❤

[@tarralu]

Thank you ❤️

[@Flatshader]

Great thoughts and wisdom……I make art for me…..

[@tarralu]

Thank you for the kind words 🙏🏾 ❤️

[@DINO_DRAWS]

Can you show us how you promote your artwork?

[@tarralu]

Yes, absolutely. I’ll make a video about it in a few weeks.

[@entertainmenttelevision9257]

Sis, i know where youre coming from. Even the Jesus the Christ, the Messiah and Lord’s brothers, neighbors and sisters didnt believe him but others in a different places did. When family buy someone elses work its ultimate disrespect andtime to separate. Keep going and do the thing others will appreciate it..

[@tarralu]

Yes! Exactly 💯 “A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his relatives and his own family.” Mark 6:4

[@divyv20]

Hey Tarra , very good video . I can do better editing in your videos which can help you to get more engagement in your videos . Pls lmk what do you think ?

[@WedgyBlue]

My parents aren't proud if doing outside college jobs...

[@tarralu]

It’s tough when parents aren’t proud but do what makes you feel alive ✨

[@Sageandgold]

Hugs. New sub

[@tarralu]

Thank you for the support 🥰🫶🏾

[@sheeba4165]

Thank You so much Tarra! I love your channel and subscribed because it answers many questions that I have right now. I'm looking for a space to promote my art and have not made up my mind yet. You offer valuable insights and advices. God bless!🤍🤍

[@tarralu]

Awww thank you! These are things I wish someone shared with me so just sharing my experiences. Feel free to reach out to me via DM or email if you have more questions. Stay blessed ✨💓

[@sheeba4165]

@@tarralu Thank You! I will. Your kindness and generosity makes a difference in the world. 💙