Why I'm Avoiding People After 60. It's Not What You Think!

[@petermorse6707]

I do not hate people, I just feel more comfortable when they are not around.

[@sagatuppercut2960]

Me too.

[@F14-talktomegoose]

i felt that when I was 20 , now I'm 60 !....lol

[@raymondlin8728]

Nahhh, I just don't like people

[@michaels.1455]

Some actually not even human

[@ma3stro681]

Bukowski quote … 🎉

[@andybrown9427]

I'm 65, some people call it being anti social, I call it being happy.

[@projectdesign4675]

I'm the same age and horribly young at heart.....it's not people, it's just 'unresolved people'.....there are wonderful people out there and yes, most times it's like a pure spring bubbling in the desert, rare and refreshing.....make your life with people who love and forgive.....stay distant until you find them!

[@sunriseboy4837]

Good call.

[@PhyreReighn]

Absolutely! by retirement age I cant believe how USA has dummied down

[@glennevitt5250]

I know the feeling 😎👍

[@brucemillar]

Being 65?

[@robertcooper6910]

I’m 66. I recently lost my dog. He was all I really needed. The company of a dog is so underrated

[@gwenking7700]

@robertcooper6910 I am so sorry. I have Ginger, my chihuahua, because I lost my other one in a house fire. I do hope you will consider getting another dog. It gives you something to love and that takes the hurt away. Merry Christmas 🤶 🎄 ❤️

[@robertcooper6910]

@ I’m very sorry for your loss. That must have been horrible. I have two granddogs who spend a lot of time with me right now, but I’ll get another in due course. They’re great for the over 60 crowd because they force us to get off our arses! Have a Merry Christmas as well.

[@spivvo]

So sorry to hear that. When the time is right there are so many dogs in need of a loving home.

[@robertcooper6910]

@@spivvo that's a fact! Merry Christmas

[@mm669]

I lost my beloved dog after 17 years. I lasted five days then adopted another one from the rescue shelter even though I wasn't ready to bond with another dog. Three years later, he is my new best friend, even though he is completely different from my first beloved dog. Dogs save us not the other way around.

[@SvenThatoverpassisinLanc-qj4qg]

In the old days I couldn’t wait to go out. Now I can’t wait to get home! 66 years old and I enjoy my own company more than anything. 👍

[@karenburns3368]

Totally agree.

[@cheriwhitman9443]

YES

[@pete9688]

Me too. And my audible conversations with myself are getting louder and more interesting! 😅😅

[@JorgeReyes-it5jr]

Hilarious! That sounds like me every morning while I drive to work!😂😂😂​@@pete9688

[@SonetLandman]

​@@pete9688😂😂😂

[@johnnycashlives316]

This guy is 1000% right. Sick of people.

[@kathy888]

No one has integrity. Their 'word' means nothing. They then never apologize.

[@HeLLary.Dreaming.from.Eugene]

*I have Lived My WhoLe LIFE, ALONE & I am just Fine!!!*

[@bornwin-sx9oz]

I’m ready to become a recluse! I’m not reaching out anymore. That’s my New Year’s resolution. Has nothing to do with age.

[@__teles__]

Sadly I was at that stage at 20

[@PH-md8xp]

That isn’t what he saying. He just stays away from crowds but is open to making friends if and when the opportunity arises.

[@KAL5370]

I started that at 38 and now 53 and still happy. I need very little communication with others. I too do not trust anyone but a select few in my life. Dogs are my favorite people. Nothing beats the loyalty of a good dog.

[@AvaMann-q5u]

Hard agree.

[@donniblanco5239]

Avoiding “Drama” is my Aim 🎭🎯

[@deanh1627]

Sounds like avoiding life..

[@hallonsylt6729]

@@deanh1627 Life is anything but drama. Drama sucks the energy out of life.

[@deanh1627]

@@hallonsylt6729 First Nobel Truth is life is difficult (drama). Avoidance…and using catch phrases like “drama” sucks the energy out of life.

[@hallonsylt6729]

@@deanh1627 If you say so .. 😆 You little drama queen👸

[@deanh1627]

@@hallonsylt6729 name calling?

[@Bikerman2022]

I'm 68 and finally realised that "friends" are just aquaintances. We change and so do others. We are born alone and we die alone. Ironically that makes it easier to mix with people as it's simply a passing parade. Much love to all and a genuinely Merry Christmas

[@jeremydow1432]

HAVE U BEEN reading Baxter again ? ( High Country Weather ). ( The Bay is my favourite ). Cheers from NZ .

[@kencraig7308]

Born alone ? Unless you're from a 3rd world country how is that possible ?

[@westernnut8407]

Realizing we're ultimately alone is not something to be sad about. It's something to be embraced.

[@johnhatfield1070]

I sent my three remaining friends a termination of acquaintance letter in 2005. Since then I have been very happy being miserable!

[@jpr3665]

Very Stoic

[@winstonsmith3690]

I've always felt this way. Closing the door on the world is such a relief.

[@kaylenebruce7691]

I not only close my door but also I frequently don't answer it.

[@winstonsmith3690]

@kaylenebruce7691 same. Don't bother me!

[@muffs55mercury61]

Exactly. The modern world never interested me. When I get home I turn the switch off to it.

[@mahargyrogerg]

I agree. Avoid crowds at all costs.

[@boomerhgt]

Yes crowds but not people .

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate your endorsement.

[@Alpineflorence]

I retired this year after 45 years at work in Human Resources. My husband still works as he enjoys his job and isn’t in the thrall of corporate overlords! I am very content to see friends and family and I enjoy their company very much but I’m fine on my own all day as well. He asked the other day if I’m ok being on my own and I said to him that it’s not the quantity of interaction you have, it’s the quality.

[@tomleykisfan7280]

Line Robin William's said in a movie, “I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.”

[@imac900]

​@@tomleykisfan7280it's Williams. His surname wasn't William. No apostrophe. Maybe it's autocorrect but it's in all your comments. 🙂

[@beebeer]

Some people often think that someone who is alone is lonely, but that is not necessary the case. A lot of people like their own company.

[@ReynardTheFox-dm8py]

I prefer to think of it as "spending time with the person I love most" ...........; )

[@robertsaladino]

Yes, but lonely people are always alone.

[@beebeer]

@@robertsaladino Are you sure? Can't someone feel lonely in a crowd?

[@patriciapalmer8824]

​@@robertsaladino you come into the world alone and leave alone

[@SPDATA1]

I agree! 👍💯

[@tinalemna7998]

My husband and I were just talking about this at breakfast this morning. We are both happy at home with our two cats. I don’t feel the need for friends like I did in my 20’s and 30’s. I’m 65 and this quiet life suits me.

[@iryna7689]

But you are not alone. You have each other

[@photomaker4502]

In my life experience I’ve found that I actually feel more alone around friends and family than when i’m doing something by myself.

[@rbspider]

please explain, do they ignore you?

[@poolhallshark]

I feel the same way 🙂

[@VilleneuveMusic]

WTF Right?

[@ravent3016]

@@rbspider for me I realize we are on different wavelengths and have little in common - it is superficial and unsatisfying

[@rbspider]

@@ravent3016 yes , men are from Mars , women from Venus. When we were kids , the teen years , we each wanted the same thing, a girl/boy friend . After the first divorce things changed. Innocents lost. Thats my opinion

[@gwenking7700]

I lost my husband 7 years ago this December 17th. It took me about 3 years to decide whether I wanted to stay on this mortal plane and obviously I opted to stay. Now that I have grown comfortable with my own company I find it more relaxing. I am retired. I don't go looking for friends. I stay home and have long conversations with my chihuahua 🙂

[@alfredosantos7926]

Same here, lost my wife 7 years ago and find myself having conversations with my chihuahua. I do have a Small circle of very close friends Merry Christmas

[@gwenking7700]

@alfredosantos7926 Merry Christmas

[@hilarygibson3150]

11 years widowed on the 19th. Im happy talking to my 4 dogs.

[@poliziagrammaticale9430]

I can't even stand dogs ​@@hilarygibson3150

[@bakokat6982]

Well, I just lost my husband of 57 years who died six months ago. I don’t know what direction my life will go. I have never lived alone, feeling stuck right now.

[@1962starchild]

IAM 62 AND RETIRED AT 58 .I TOTALLY AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAY .I FIND YOUNGER PEOPLES ATTITUDE ARE TERRIBLE NOWADAYS NO RESPECT ALWAYS ON THERE PHONES .

[@muffs55mercury61]

Too many materialistic golddiggers with the younger generations. Not to mention I have almost nothing in common with them.

[@MartianTom]

I'm 65 and have avoided people as much as possible throughout life. Since starting school in the '60s, I've found people to be either indifferent towards me at best, or hostile towards me at worst. I've always had trouble making and sustaining friendships. Been back-stabbed, done over, cheated and leg-pulled more times than I care to remember - even by people I eventually came to trust. For years, I felt like a failure for not being able to function properly around and with other people. At 56, I finally got my answer - with a diagnosis of autism. Finally, I saw there was nothing wrong with me. It's just that I was different. I celebrate that difference now. I look around at the world, and at what seems to preoccupy other people - money, possessions, status, frivolities - and I'm glad I'm me. Alone. I live on a 'desert island' of my own making, with my cat for company, and am more than content. All the social interaction I need is what I get online, with like-minded people around the world, none of whom I'm ever likely to meet. And it's fine by me to keep it that way!

[@martinhanley9524]

@@MartianTom Greatest love of all as the song says is to first love yourself ' we are spirits in the material world . As long as you got enough to pay your way and have your health than every day is a blessing . Be well eat well think well👍

[@griswald7156]

@@MartianTom you bond with a cat for life guaranteed….you cant guarantee a relationship with a human..

[@Iceageonmars]

Interesting. Well done for being so positive and making the most of what you’ve got. It’s a great mindset.

[@glendavis1266]

I’ll add that there is too much, too much p, too much sports, sports, sports, sports, sports, sports. In all games there is a winner and a looser. So what all the excitement about some “COOL”play? So what! So what! So what! I mean these sport figures have practiced 1000s of hours so why would they not be excellent.

[@Texasgirlinacrazyworld]

Please. Who doesn't have autism now? And let's be honest, most "neurodivergent" people can also be a-holes and quite narcissistic. Maybe you're not "special"....

[@richardmabe4186]

Your happiness never comes from other people, or anything outside of yourself. Happiness comes from within, turn inward, connect with yourself and you will never be lonely or unhappy again.

[@rfortunati5906]

Beautiful comment

[@jackpot7898]

Very true, sages and seers always said this

[@ThedaVonGurkenbeet]

❤

[@psalm1197]

I believe the opposite….happiness comes from helping others in need

[@AmandaPerks-e9h]

Wise words my friend 🤓

[@sandrajones5247]

I'm 62 and every since the pandemic, I've decided to enjoy my home , nature and myself. Me and my dog go to peaceful places. I've actually become more healthy, happy and content. It's a lifestyle that I'll keep living. Life is just easier🎉

[@JULIAHARBOR-t7t]

Tolerance levels for the noise of both people and their electronic devices is slipping lower and lower. But solo walks in quietness are blissful.

[@kateseverein7650]

@@JULIAHARBOR-t7t absolutely - being gentle with oneself

[@jonwiley2592]

Given peoples obsession with their smartphone sometimes the best place r to be alone is in such a crowd. Hide in plain sight. Nobody bothers to heir eye contact with strangers Kerry alone strike up a conversation.

[@jchapman8248]

I concur with your sentiments. Just be aware of your surroundings during those solo walks as there as those who see lone older folks as an easy mark. Cheers!

[@nick8252]

​@@jonwiley2592 my thoughts exactly! No one sees me anymore and I'm loving it!❤😊

[@daveraven4044]

62 now and I've been avoiding society for decades, but it's worse now. I have acquaintances with people. I reject invites and tell people the truth. "I am busy and Im selfish with my personal time, but thanks for the invite". No friends. I work and live alone. My home is sanctuary. Modern society is now mass psychosis. Surviving in modern USA.

[@candidasantamaria4706]

Nya..a..a! Going out once-in-a-while for sunshine/long walk..people inviting just need 'entertainers' I found out long ago..& I've stopped doin that role! So happy with Actvts I do w/ my dtr & more by myself..liberating!🎉

[@davids6194]

If i could live on a Scottish island and never see another stranger again, i would be happy, but i still love my own family dearly and very close friends. It's just other people. I 100 % agree.

[@My2up2downCastle]

I hear you ! 🌹

[@Corrans]

Same here😊

[@JapaneseforBeginnersOldSchool]

Me too!

[@williamramos3350]

I am 45 and I have been living my own life since 17 due to a terrible upbringing. Both parents had no clue what they were doing. I know what it is to be independent. I used to be a people pleaser. But the more I saw through peoples BS. The less I want to be around it. I am ok with dying alone. One of the biggest eye openers was seeing how so-called people became savages during the pandemic. I have no respect for society as a whole. I do not care for it. The only piece of advice I can give is appreciate the 1 or two friends that show genuine concern. They are worth more than all the money in the world. Everything else is irrelevant in my opinion.

[@deadandburied7626]

Brexit alienated me from colleagues, then the behaviour of certain people about Covid - ignorance and arrogance.

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate you taking the time to write this comment and share your story.

[@ayookusanya5437]

Awesome comment❤. More power to you and happiness in your world.

[@williamramos3350]

@ayookusanya5437 Thank you.

[@billhesford6098]

Yes, the covid lies certainly showed you who your friends were.

[@2bluehorizons4]

I am 72 and have always enjoyed my own company. I avoid people these days because I have nothing to talk about! I don't do anything interesting or go anywhere interesting . However, this does not mean I'm discontent or unhappy, I am in fact very content with my life. Most people decline physically as they age and this in itself can be very time-consuming and draining and make one more inward-looking. I have never been married or had a long term partner, so I can't really comment on preparing for being on your own. Another thing that happens with age (although perhaps this is just me!), is that I no longer have a need to express an opinion on anything much . . . I have nothing I want to say, because what is the point? Just observing life interests me now and seeing things from the position of long experience. What I enjoy is going for a walk and just exchanging a few words and a smile with the people I meet. I love that brief happy connection!

[@rebekahsalt26]

❤

[@LH-zv2zq]

You have nothing to say? You've kept a lot inside and just said plenty. Well done! Keep talking, we're listening.

[@hereandnow990]

Roman philosopher Seneca's "Letters to Lucillius " have been a life saver to me. He unfolded a beauty and bliss of being alone as the best condition for the wise.

[@dominicharvey7140]

Are you me ? 😂 ❤ I've always been introvert but at 60 now am super introvert - no worries talking to a single person for a few minutes but will walk away quickly from more than that.

[@DWilliam1]

You are expressing your self here…

[@sdcrilly]

I am a 68 year old widow and my husband has been gone since 2014. We also had a 26 year old son who drowned at the beach in 2009. These and many other things have made me feel very beat up, and so I crave peace and solitude. I do things just how you described. I deal with people the best when it is 1 or 2 people at a time and who are trustworthy. I really enjoyed your comments. I found out that it isn't just me that feels this way.

[@chewbacca1271]

I think you are onto something Mr nick. I'm 64 entering retirement and feel the same. I think it's related to realizing our days are finite and not wanting to spend it around foolishness.

[@kandelika2902]

Exactly. Before my Mum passed away, she could not stand noises, family around, lights on. She wanted just hear the sounds of nature.

[@kateseverein7650]

@@kandelika2902 I can relate to that totally!!

[@gary-rr7jp]

Absolutely! 😁

[@jmk1962]

Totally agree.

[@ovepayne]

I’m 62 and have just retired from work and I couldn’t agree more! Cheers from Sweden

[@evennorthug2585]

I'm 66, single and was encouraged by these reflections. From being drawn to places with people, I have gradually changed to avoiding crowds, noise and stressful places and activities. Instead, I seek serenity, reclusion, contemplation, silence, nature and animals, although I easily socialize and talk. Silence allows for reflection, listening and the pursuit of creative and explorative thinking. I'm rarely bored, and prefer the interesting to the entertaining. People can be a joy and an inspiration, but they are all over, ever chattering and generally claiming space. Presently living in the middle of a busy shopping street, the need to escape is becoming immense. Whether I should remain single is a dilemma. Thank you letting so many of us know that we're not alone.

[@My2up2downCastle]

Yes! Interesting, not entertaining.... I so get that!🌹

[@deborahmcdowell6871]

Very interesting take. I had to move and leave my work to become a full time caregiver to my estranged husband who was dying from brain cancer. After he died I was left in a new city and alone trying to recover from the experience. I spent so much time and energy trying to build new friendships often by doing things I did not enjoy. I found that people in my age group were very set in their ways and selfish. When covid hit and we were forced into lockdowns I noticed my stress level went down. I realized that trying to change who I was in order to fit in was not working for me. Now I volunteer with animal rescue groups and foster dogs, which is both challenging and rewarding.

[@JTA1961]

Thanks for sharing...good points

[@3RGJ]

I'm 56 , retired, and this video absolutely nails it 🎯

[@marlysmithsonian5746]

My children, who are in their 30s, tell me it's "too people-y out there". That crushed it!! Absolutely!!

[@bioliv1]

56 too, retired with my a7III, my only friend left, and all I need for my happiness.

[@ThePlanetzyz]

This vid just came up randomly in my feed and it was so great to hear this. I feel exactly the same and as I get older, the need for alone time becomes ever more pressing. For me just being around people, even those I love or like very much, those whose company I really enjoy, takes effort that exhausts me. Thanks, I think you are saying something here of great importance.

[@Bernardvanhusen]

Exactly the same here. I prefer spending time with my dog.

[@keepingitreal618]

💯

[@griswald7156]

@@Bernardvanhusen my cat is a fabulous person…with no bad habits..

[@ismailpatel7222]

I even avoid my dog

[@samsuddinzolkapli3565]

​@@ismailpatel7222😂😂😂

[@peterwilliamson163]

Me to , love spending time with PASCO my dog

[@Trueblue222]

I just think that by he time you reach sixty you’ve had more than your fill of people and are ready for a quieter life.

[@ysgol3]

Agreed agreed agreed agreed !!!

[@maritzagrandison5472]

I agreed 100%🎉🎉🎉🎉❤

[@greyman334]

I agree but I am in my early 50s and I have done a lot of different things and been around the world twice so I think it has to do with your bucket of life experiences starts to overflow. I've seen the best of humanity and I have seen the absolute worst with my own two eyes. It happens at a different age for every person. I started to isolate at around the age of 46.

[@toms6756]

I enjoyed this video! I am 59 and I have definitely changed over the past few years. As far as work, I am tired of the agendas and narratives, aka gaslighting. So done with supervising people and just want to be judged based on my own merit. These days there are just too many acceptable excuses for poor performance- totally not worth being a part of that. As far as shopping, my wife and I have been doing the late night shopping for years, it is quicker and better use of our time.

[@garyfowkes8794]

If your happy with your own company & thoughts you have a cherished gift

[@garymensurati1631]

Agree 💯👍

[@2MuchPurple]

Hello, I'm 74, and have always been an introvert. I've done well in life, career wise and marriage wise, but after I was widowed 22 years ago, have enjoyed my own company most of all. Other people's dramas exhaust me! My mother was a narcissist who died when I was 50, and my husband was a tech wizard who was by fsr the most emotional of us two. And the way the world is going today for us Americans, well, I avoid all that as much as possible. I live in a nice home in the country, alone, and am happy!

[@rayixon7890]

Good on you.

[@CynthiaBiel]

May I ask, can you describe how your knew that your mother was a narcissist?

[@elvira4284]

Thank you-Thank you-Thank you for sharing these thoughts. I am glad I am not alone thinking like that. I am a 64-year old widow living alone, have many friends, enjoy their company but I am equally happy when I am alone. No problem going out alone, you can get used to anything actually and can even enjoy your solitude. Listen to the music you love as long as you want to, go to the shows you love, spend vacations at home or elsewhere. The main thing is to keep your good health, both physical and mental, and enough money for both basic things and a little more to spoil yourself sometimes. Life is beautiful.

[@vibekeangelo6623]

This is so true. I am 70, and since I began avoiding most people except for my children and a few family members, I feel so much more at peace with myself. Most of all, I hate the competition which is unavoidable in crowds. I just want to be myself and not having to put on a mask of a kind.

[@cdixon2011ify]

Absolutely 🎉

[@gsismaet5385]

❤

[@ads998]

I'm 49 and have felt this way for years! I was very sociable and socially active in my 20s and 30s, but I have become a semi hermit in my 40s, and frankly, I love it. Like you, I'm strategic about when I go to the supermarket and when i like to travel, etc. I can't say what changed and drove me to become this way, but I can say I'm 100% happy living a quiet and mostly solitary life 😊

[@marcuswilson3485]

I'm the same age as you and I absolutely agree. My solitude is priceless to me. I work in a job where it is key to meet people every day. I have done this for most of my adult life. If I'm off the clock though, I make a point of being alone. I love it! It's important to me and it makes me happy. I don't dislike other people. I just choose to be content to see them live their lives and I'll be content to live mine. 😊

[@VS-CZ1991]

@@marcuswilson3485 👍👏 True.

[@JNeil1975]

I’m also 49 and have happily become this way too! I love simplicity, solitude, and I’m content with my small group of close friends.

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience.

[@steveholmes349]

Your message describes many similarities to my experiences. Now happy, healthy, peaceful, productive at 61.

[@markwriter2698]

Same for me. I don’t enjoy noisy crowds and I rather not get into people’s drama. Sometimes I volunteer for something, but careful not to over do it. I enjoy my quiet time.

[@7632ant]

I think you're right. I am retired now and it's great not having to deal with office politics and other people's egos. I avoid parties and birthday gatherings. I like to chat with people only on a one to one basis. Many people are bad at listening and only want to talk about themselves or gossip. Not interested anymore.

[@bdflatlander]

@@7632ant : In an earlier post on this video I wrote that I feel like I developed a case of Social Anxiety Disorder around age 50 because that’s when I started to dislike going to parties and other social gatherings. At my last company (I have been retired for 13 years) I was on the senior staff and it was expected of me to attend all of the company social events like the annual holiday party. I resented having to go to it so what I would do is get stoned before hand and that allowed me to pretend I was having a good time when in reality I hated being there and would look for the first opportunity to make my exit.

[@robertwatson5104]

Exactly

[@WTHenry2023]

Agreed. Most people want to only talk about themselves and go catatonic within 15 seconds after we start talking. It is a total energy drain and better to have no interaction at all than listen to someone talk for a long period of time followed by them tuning out within seconds after we start talking. The bottom line is they are not interested in knowing/connecting with us so we need to act accordingly. The few people who are connected to us in a healthy manner need to be "protected at all costs"

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate your endorsement. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@WhyteVintageWine]

Spot on!😀

[@JohnHobbs-o3z]

Same here,also i believe now that i am older (64) and retired i am just tired,tired of interacting with so many immature and moronic people,my wife is honestly one of the few people i can tolerate any more.

[@tigermcflash131]

Amen to that. Same for me......

[@chrism1102]

I'm tired of the constant lying, backstabbing and gaslighting that most people have completely normalized. I thought it wouldn't be like that with older friends but it's actually worse!

[@HeatherICreateMyPath]

I've just turned 60 and retired last year. I'm spending much more time on my own. It's not that I don't like people, it's the drama they tend to bring. I don't need or want that.

[@chrism1102]

@HeatherICreateMyPath And it's all ridiculous drama. Like your potluck recipes suck or you don't bring enough food to a get together. Said behind your back of course!

[@ChristianSvensson170]

Understand!

[@williamshreve9111]

I’m 59. Been working in plumbing and heating for 40 years. I’m at the point where I can’t even listen to people explain what issues they’re having with their systems. I’m tired of fixing things and just want to enjoy life. Quit drinking 25 years ago. That’s when I realized who my friends were. I have none.

[@ashleyritchie4948]

I am 63 too, but have tried to avoid people for a long time now, they usually let you down and I cannot deal with their problems! Much happier alone and doing as I please. ;-)

[@maritzagrandison5472]

So true. I feel the same way. No more friends and not looking for none🎉

[@donnymac575]

When the last epidemic required social distancing to 'flatten the curve" it was a piece of cake for me. I've got my dog, my wife, my immediate family. As an introvert, that's all I need.

[@keepingitreal618]

I loved Covid time. It was fabulous, especially at the supermarket 😂😂😂😂. My dogs are great company.

[@stephenmorton8017]

Ditto here. I thought well that tears it, perfect. Now I'm catching up on all the reading that I missed out on the last 20 years. I haven't had so much as a cold since 2020. I think that social distancing is the way we should actually be, normally. Those huge crowds are horrifyingly unnatural and unprecedented in history. The hell with that. No place to piss.

[@Percykap]

He led with the dog!

[@alanhill2508]

I'm with you! The first year of Covid I almost felt guilty. People were depressed and miserable while I was living my best life lol.

[@thesceptic1018]

The Swedes were happiest after Covid when they could go back to their usual interpersonal distance of 3 metres

[@kitsune303]

So many points in this video resonated with me. I'm 65 and avoid people at all costs. They can't be trusted. I shop early in the day when gen Z is still in bed. I rarely eat out unless its early to avoid rowdy noisy inconsiderate younger people. Society is getting too rude. I crave quiet and isolation.

[@catsmad48]

Im 65 and have hated people since my primary school years. People are ALWAYS going to cost you something. I learned that at a very tender age.....better off with money, great hobbies and a dog.❤

[@LimitlessThinker]

Agree

[@kevtorry]

I agree. I've met the three criteria. Prefer to travel during the off season.

[@PipkinDog5]

A dog

[@angelaclements1244]

Shame to hate people. Be indifferent perhaps but hate...

[@tangobear3536]

Valid reasons. Avoiding crowds is possible, just need to strategize ahead of time. Regarding avoiding people, I'm 63, and noticed over the past five or ten years how my peer group of men have isolated. It struck me that they're tired: tired of acting "professional", tired of acting friendly in work environments with people they would never choose to be with, etc. The work world does this to men--for decades we have to act a certain way to survive just to pay bills, and by 60 we're worn out from being nice to a$$hole$.

[@WTHenry2023]

🎯

[@ArtieFernandez]

@@WTHenry2023 exactly, at 57 just got a nice severance package. I'm so done with with office culture and sales and marketing assholes, gonna take some time off and then part time in some warehouse or whatever.

[@WTHenry2023]

@ArtieFernandez Enjoy your severance and have a Merry Christmas brother. Blessings

[@debbieolin8153]

I am a female and learned I did not need lots of people during the COVID lockdown. Before then, I was a member of lots of clubs and on the board of many. Now, I have no qualms about sending lengthy letters and really don't care about all the BS I hear today.

[@nathanisenhour4420]

Absolutely..

[@maritimeproductions4410]

I agree with you...at 65 I not only have no interest in crowds but also do not feel obligated to continue relationships out of duty. Freeing myself and it feels good.

[@carrng-c5j]

my time is so precious now as I am 64 . I have wasted a lot of time on toxic relationships and fighting unnecessary anxiety problems . now that I am 64 , I just want to spend my time on myself.

[@My2up2downCastle]

Me too..... i wish i'd learned some lessons when i was a lot younger.

[@rescuingmodernity]

Thanks for sharing your story. I am 65 and have had a stress condition since 18. I often avoided people not because of trust issues but because of the potential that they might stress me. My condition also means I am separate from family. Only in recent years did I fully come to terms with all that my stress condition means in terms of “success” and fulfillment. We must all find a way to navigate away from hatred, resentments, and violence. I often do not engage in social things, and thus no one can offend me. And I don’t hate people, of course. In this way, maybe I can remain a fundamentally moral person.

[@christhornley1664]

I'm 64 now, I think I've always been a loner. It's never bothered me being alone. I do have a few friends, but I just find a lot of people irritating. Many people never live in moment, always have to have something to look forward to, which is probably often a let down to them when it arrives, though they'd never admit it to others. I just like going for walks, looking at the sky, listening to the wind, being alone with my own thoughts. The past is gone forever and anticipated future events may not come to fruition, we only have now.

[@garmin1488]

I'm 57, my wife and I will retire in 6 months at 58. My wife works out, eats healthy, and is doing everything to live long healthy life, I'm doing everything to make sure I die before she does.

[@joannedibben2352]

Yes enjoy the odd cream cake or pint of beer don't deny yourself every thing a little of what you like is good

[@Sydopath]

Isn’t that selfish?

[@Sally-ih6ls]

😂😂

[@RebeccaNaylor-s1q]

10 weeks to go until my husband and myself retire ages 60 and 54. We already feel liberated knowing that we are nearly there!

[@hirodaryanani]

My mum and dad were the same. Apologies to bust your aspiration but in their case my mum died in early sixties from inexplicable condition. Dad survived 17 years on and was quite lonely and isolated. His habits did not improve. Longevity may be determined more by genes then bad habits!

[@Jaegov]

I just had an aha moment with what you said. I spent most of my life finding myself and now that I have, I find that I enjoy my company more than with others.

[@rafaellorentealonso9787]

Did you find your self? With the help of your ghuru ?

[@Jaegov]

@ no guru, life experience, books, teachings…

[@HardyBunster]

100% agree. I find people too full on and aggressive these days. I think we are just becoming wiser.

[@deanpd3402]

I was part of the punk rock scene, 45 years ago and boy was that aggressive. Somehow, I have survived to be a person who enjoys his own company.

[@nickjmaher]

Thanks for sharing your viewpoint

[@Duke_of_Prunes]

Here in the States, the "full on" behavior has been largely political. One extreme to the other. And I couldn't care less who you support. It was something people didn't discuss among strangers when I was younger.

[@Clutch-sk1if]

@@deanpd3402 Aggressive in what way? People are ruder and more disrespectful these days no?

[@My2up2downCastle]

Narcissism appears to have been encouraged amoungst the younger generations, these days........ they need to get their hands dirty and learn how to grow their own dinner, otherwise they might find themselves totally dependent on the establishment that clearly hates them, one day....

[@whatsupchannel3047]

Spot on ! I love my home , my small family and my doggies , walking alone everyday is wonderful ! My husband is the opposite he needs people , car clubs , meetings , sadly i do not partake, not because i dont want to share my time with people but sharing my time with the people i choose is my choice . I used to go along but i was mixing with people whom i had nothing in common with . It was a social life that always had drama and gossips! Yes you are right , no drama, no forced conversations, no talking about others ! Just peace !

[@kimerickson1353]

A wise man once said, "Keep your circle small.", & after 60, that's exactly what I started to do. I weeded out the people that were no longer there for my highest & greatest good. Because, after losing my husband 5 years ago, I changed. I grew stronger overcoming the pain of my loss & wiser. And, a few of the people I had in my life were no longer on the same level as me. Now, I have only people that are truly a joy to have in my life &, am embracing my solitude. Thank you for bringing this topic up because a LOT of people just DON'T understand when you withdraw.

[@danieljames2015]

As I get older, I have finally confirmed in my mind that people who approach and start conversations/ knock on your door/ offer unsolicited help, are always sizing you up as someone who can be used and exploited. I have done the empathetic helping strangers in need, not turning my back, putting myself and my wallet out, but it ALWAYS turned around and bit me and left me feeling the naive fool. Now I don't bother anyone, I expect the same in return. They can play offended all they like.. Life is much too short to keep wasting on the hordes of two faced Humanity . Life experience is the reason this happens. We learn the hard way at different rates.

[@Lisa-x3n5x]

I thank you. You articulated this for me.

[@PS987654321PS]

Maybe if you smell s++ite everywhere, you should first check your own shoes?

[@emh8861]

Exactly!

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate you sharing your life experience.

[@danieljames2015]

@@juliaskagfjord6207 Yes sad, but the Human condition means that being kind will always cost you, not reap reciprocity. I prefer not to be made a fool of.

[@bdflatlander]

Sometime in my early 50’s I feel like I developed a case of Social Anxiety Disorder because I started to dread having to go to any sort of large social gathering. Now at age 71 I have become much more of a loner - about the only person I regularly interact with in person is my wife of 42 years. I have probably 6 or so friends that I regularly exchange texts with which works out well for me. I rarely talk on the phone any more except to my financial advisor once or twice a month. I have a hard time trusting people anymore. I ended a couple of long term friendships in recent years because of acts of betrayal and that has made me more leery of people and their true intentions. I do spend a lot of time on KZbin, however - there is so much interesting content to watch.

[@IrelandLochlin]

Sounds like my husband of 32 yrs and myself to a T! We're both retired. I'm 66, he's 63 and we just enjoy our time together. We do what WE want.

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate you sharing your experience.

[@pjmoody]

Nick, you're 100% on point. I'm 53. I know how you feel. Only contact I enjoy is my Chihuahua, immediate family or a few very close friends. Thanks for sharing

[@philliptaylor991]

Agree. I’m not retired yet but have spent my entire career dealing with people problems. I can’t wait for the solitude of retirement!

[@nickjmaher]

Thanks for your comment. Retirement has its challenges but many benefits.

[@georgescott4922]

I'm really grateful for this video. I'm 63 now and I've never been 'one of the herd'. I have sometimes wondered if I'm alone in enjoying my own company. People at work find it odd that I'd turn down social events, more often now than before. I really dislike the noise and all the exaggerated behaviour as people get more and more drunk. Now I know there are folk with similar views. Thank you!

[@pasileino315]

Wise words! Thank you for articulating the positive side of aging brilliantly. It is such a joy to streamline one's life after 60, jettison unnecessary BS and focus on people and things that matter.

[@elvisjerrylee]

I am an introvert, and I know a lot of people, but I have very few what I would call friends. I love being home with just my wife of almost 49 years and our cats and dogs.

[@Amy-hs1qe]

My father always used to say as you get older you just want to be away from people, and here you're saying the same thing. I feel that too at age 64. However, I'm divorced and sometimes wish I had someone I cared about, and who cared about me, to go through life with.

[@petekadenz9465]

It’s a difficult one, Amy, because we feel less like meeting other people and yet the only way we can meet someone to care about and by cared about by them, is to get out and meet people. I’m 68 and face that same dilemma.

[@jvapaodjim6168]

" wish I had someone I cared about, and who cared about me, to go through life with." ...get a Dog ! 😉

[@carolynw3602]

Embrace a relationship with the Lord and Savior, Jesus,and you will never be alone, and get a dog for companionship .. Blessings

[@gottasay4766]

@@carolynw3602as a child, I found imaginary friends comforting. I just can’t delude myself like that again.

[@scooterboi8761]

God/Jesus/religion doesn't work for me and it never has. At 69, that's not going to change.

[@suzannesuthers4673]

We went to Majorca in September and I kept telling my husband how lovely it was there 30 years ago. I used to adore the smart marinas and the yachts but this time it all seemed so empty and I hated the crowds. I just wanted to sit in our lovely hotel room and on the balcony reading my football autobiographies. Having been a party animal I was surprised at how much I’d changed. It was enough to be in the hotel and go to the quiet little family run Italian over the road at night, just being together and chatting about life. Something must be going on for many of us ❤ Thank you for sharing you make me feel less boring! 😂

[@andyjsmallwood]

Hi Nick, I've just subscribed as I'm keen to connect with people on my wavelength. I was born and raised in Bridlington, retired on a small military pension at 42, and I moved straight to Portugal. That was 16 years ago. About the people thing. Here's my theory. We are conditioned in so many ways from childhood onwards that we don't know how to be our authentic selves. As we get older, we change in many ways, yet conditioning ensures that we keep doing the same things, year in year out. Then some of us realise that we simply don't enjoy x, y and z anymore, and we decide to do something about it. Because the vast majority of people stay conditioned, they see you and I as "grumpy old gits", but we're not. The conditioning is so powerful that almost everyone is living a life that is not being true to themselves. The difficulty we face when we decide to be authentic is that we become an outsider. However, there is a pleasure and beauty in this. We feel good about ourselves all the time. There's no pressure to do anything we don't want to because we have made the positive decision to live our lives our way. Others may have a problem with us, but that is actually their problem. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and life experience. It's good to "meet" another, rare, authentic person. Andy in Portugal

[@ysgol3]

It's so reassuring to see this, thank you . I was a teacher, so spent my working life surrounded by people. I enjoyed most of it, loved a lot of it, then at 52 suddenly didn't. I was burnt out, and there's not much worse than having to face a class when your nervous system is begging you to be elsewhere. So I found a way out, with a payout. I'm 64 now, and my lovely wife completely understands my love and need for peace, as much quietness as possible, and the beautiful pleasure of solitude or just being with her. I can't bear crowds, noisiness, a feeling of hyperactivity all around me, queuing (a BIG problem), hot weather and any 'events' like wedding and christening parties and the horrific small talk that's somehow deemed necessary in them. I do have a few people - very few - with whom I interact, but I'm never in a group of more than four, and very rarely even that many. If I find myself in danger of being in a bigger one, I head discreetly for the toilet and then the exit. And I LOVE my life now.

[@libraryfairie]

I used to guilt myself for avoiding people and certain situations, but my life is so peaceful nowadays as a result and I wouldn't trade that for anything! Thanks for sharing this with us :)

[@salgaldenco]

Other people would guilt me for preferring my own company. I've been retired for 12 yrs. after working very up close and personal with the general public. Thought I was going to die before I could retire. Now I live peacefully in the country with my animals.

[@lizzynunez4906]

OMGGGG that is exactly how I feel, I just turned 60 and I don’t like to go out as much or be around people. I think it may be that as we get older we are comfortable with who we are and don’t want to deal with all the backstabbing and hypocrisy that happens too much at work. Plus I love shopping when there are less people. I used to wonder why my parents didn’t go out as they got older, I understand them now❣️. Thank you for talking about a subject not too many people talk about, afraid it may mean there is something wrong with them. THANK YOU!

[@nickjmaher]

Thanks for your endorsement and sharing your experience

[@MonaMadnani-x3f]

Maturity brings with it selectiveness. It’s called wisdom, and a desire to only invest in what brings you peace and happiness.

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate your comment

[@jonathanmartin-ives8665]

This was very valuable for me to hear. I am turning 60 next month, and have been feeling more, and more put off by being around people. I especially have less tolerance of the drama that many bring to the table. Also, as you pointed out, I am encountering people who have an agenda, instead of just wanting to be a friend... Thank you for making this video. Everything you pointed out has been on the tip of my mind, and hard to explain to my wife, who has just seen me as a grumpy old scoundrel as of late. 😆

[@thomashilmersen711]

Less trusting is definitely the case. When we young, we simply take all the friendliness for genuine, while in reality it is often due to someone wanting to take advantage of you in one way or another.

[@kathrynletchford5114]

Well said.

[@My2up2downCastle]

Absolutely spot on! 🌹

[@griswald7156]

Crowds are awful….and people when they get older love to gossip…so that becomes irritating..and something you want to distance yourself from..if you want real and nice friends.

[@stephenmorton8017]

When I think of crowds, I think of Porta potties. And aren't those fun?

[@marthaanderson2967]

Usually people with empty lives enjoy gossip , pulling someone down elevates their low self esteem .

[@nickjmaher]

I respect your viewpoint.

[@peterandkodiak9762]

Thank you for your thoughts. Throughout my lifetime, I was always a very honest person and so value authenticity. The older I become, the more I realize most people put "their best foot forward", perhaps they hesitate to be genuine due to an "acceptance criteria". I was always rather comfortable within my own skin, but could not fathom "fake" behavior. Now in my older age of 66, I still make it a point to "meet and greet", but have become tolerant instead of simply accepting of others especially those who don't present themselves authentically.

[@Fid869]

I’m 47 and I already feel this way. Love being in my bubble with my hubby and dog

[@Steve-gc5nt]

So not actually alone though.

[@Fid869]

@ I guess not lol 😆

[@Sparky-Mark-uk]

I am 59, and have probably been like this most of my life. I would rather be walking in the fells with my wife and dogs. City life is like hell to me and I think I am getting worse as I get older, I like peace and quiet and would rather spend most of the day with my dog or on my motorcycle.

[@boomerhgt]

Motorcycles now your talking best therapy ever I'm 68 .

[@WTHenry2023]

🎯

[@kennethdavis9732]

I just turned 63 and I swear you were reading my mind. When I was younger I would laugh at my uncle who would get home take his shoes off and the day was over. I have now become him and I must say I like it. I like your point of view and never thought of it that way. Thanks for sharing and I also love all the comments. Peaceful from NC , USA

[@johnthepaddle4772]

When we finished work 15 months ago my wife and I were astonished by how many working aged people weren’t at work during the week. The car parks in shopping centres were busy, cafes well attended and pubs with lots of drinkers. When I was at work I presumed everyone else was at work too… how wrong I was.

[@davidmitchell4899]

I work a 4on 4off shift pattern which means lots of free time during the week. Lots of shift workers out and about during the week. I’d never go back to Monday-Friday. Too many crowded places, at the weekend especially.

[@enigma7791]

Exactly. After 38 years at work I too have noticed how many people have seen the light and got out as soon as they could.

[@davidnika446]

@@enigma7791 What, they got out of having to pay rent/mortgages and bills? That sounds very convenient.

[@enigma7791]

@@davidnika446 Out of work dimwit. And by mid 50s if you still have a mortgage or rent then yes you are a super dimwit

[@michaeljosephgallagher4406]

I'm sixty now and have retired now after forty long years of working in the civil service. I was watching the news the other day and it said there is now 10 million people economically inactive. Not doing anything. Now this does not surprise me because during and after COVID thousands of people including the 18 to 30 age group jumped on the bandwagon of getting on P.I.P. sickness benefits all professing to have various illnesses. Even on Google they were taught and openly encouraged to get on it culminating in a now workshy large numbers. I find it bewildering and ironic .

[@TheEnergyv]

I am 63 and my partner died suddenly in 2019. I am living as you speak of. You’re blessed to still have your wife living. I live for solitude now. Naturally our values change with age. Being soul conscious is of the greatest value to me today and my immediate family. I value time now and will not spend time with people who are “time wasters” and or not in alignment with me. I am never alone due to living consciously. Adrian would be proud of how I have recovered from his death and I honour Adrian in seeing my life out with in conscious contact with my soul. Blessing and love to you

[@richarddabboussy2943]

Thank you so much, at 58 I’ve retired and love being on my own just gardening with my plants and the birds and frogs,, family say I’ve become anti social, but to be quite honest I’ve kinda finally worked it out, life,, I just don’t want other peoples drama impacting me in the last few years of life I have in this world. It’s called wisdom, and as we get older we withdraw into our safe spaces to move aside from the madness of the thrusters in this hustle and bustle, materialistic crazy world. Thanks again, I started to believe my family that I. Was anti social but your video helped me realize I’m not on my own, enjoy your walk brother, go in peace.

[@elevate23]

I’ve reached this revelation myself. At nearly 52, I just don’t have energy for things/people that don’t serve my highest good.

[@LimitlessThinker]

Me too

[@thewildkids406]

Let your yes be yes and your no, no!

[@wildhorses6817]

Yes, I relate totally. Very cautious about who I allow in my life, I like Peace and Quiet. I have seen the worst in people I trusted so that has also changed how I see people now.

[@nickjmaher]

thank you for your endorsement. I appreciate you sharing your experience.

[@JoanuvArc]

Discovered most are Seniors on KZbin so you are in good company. Lost my husband in 2021... he was 80. Am 62 and understand liking to be alone. I spend time online to avoid too much alone time. Am quiet in person but outspoken online so KZbin has given me a life and connections I would not have had in the real world. Best to you going forward.

[@SilverPathways]

I admire how honestly you talk about aging and the need for solitude. It’s something we don’t discuss enough. I think finding peace in your own company is a gift that many of us discover later in life.

[@nickjmaher]

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

[@NorthernsoulBoy63]

Me too im never in company anymore. Haven't had a decent conversation for 10 months or more . As long as your financially ok health ok and enjoy your own company its all good

[@JoniCarol1]

I quite agree. After my husband divorced me I was angry and then realized how I felt a burden lifted. That was in my late 40’s. 2 children almost grown and raising the youngest who was 8. I get along with contentment and have reconnection with certain friends, and like you I don’t look for friendship cause I already have them. I am now just 71 years! 💃💃💃🥰

[@teryd5672n]

I understand that. I am 65 and feel I only want to spend time with the people that matter the most to me.

[@nickjmaher]

They’re the only ones that matter. Thanks for your comment.

[@paulaevans2555]

Oh my, I’m just the same and thought I must be the only person in the world like this but reading all the posts, I feel reassured I’m not. I’m alone and have my two dogs, bless them, so grateful. Lost my mum who lived with me 3 years ago and haven’t really resurfaced from that. Work wise, I too ended up taking my pension early and reduced which is hard to live on so I pick up any part time work I can but like you, I can not stand the way the workplace is. Not good before, even worse now. Thanks for raising this topic and making me realise that it’s not just me.

[@nickjmaher]

Sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your life.

[@rosem6604]

Absolutely concur. I learned to love my own company and that of my bestie every now and again years ago. I'm now 57 and married so I can't say it's preparation for being alone. I still miss living alone, as much as I love my little family (hubby and pets). I think it's very important to become our own best friends and once you do - constant people around are just not needed and become too much.

[@wmhhealth2018]

I'm 61 and widowed. I follow your same schedule in many ways. I never noticed how many people are objectionable until after losing my wife and largely avoid them. It brings peace.

[@mikespies786]

As I age, I recognize that I only have so much time left and I’m firmly committed to only spending that time with people who I really want to be around. For the most part, my wife, my two boys and my dog are ALL I really need and want- I just don’t have the patience to “play the game” anymore. I’m blessed to have the option to be this way and it’s not missed on me. My wife and I are on an epic road trip from Ontario, Canada to Palm Springs California and I couldn’t be happier. Driving historic Route 66 with the love of my life and having so much time together, away from crowds is an ideal way to spend a day. Thanks for sharing, Nick- very inspirational as always!

[@annieandaj]

Wait til you get to Palm Springs😳. Not so quiet there but you'll have the sun shine.

[@mikespies786]

@ This will seem somewhat contradictory to my comment, but I love people watching, I just don’t care to spend time with them. I am fascinated by the human spirit and I could spend hours sitting on the sidelines just watching how others interact with one another and just how interesting some people appear to be. Trying to figure out their story is a bit of a pastime for me. I think Palm Springs will provide ample opportunities to just do this.

[@annieandaj]

Yup, there will be lot's of folks to observe. I'm with you! Even though i'm not much of a joiner, and never have been, I've always been fascinated by human behavior. I might have found working as an anthropologist rewarding. There's so much to see in each of us and sitting on the sidelines like a fly on the wall is continually fascinating. I was an actor in my youth and found that so rewarding. When you're on stage and the audience is focused on the performance there is a palpable silence where everyone is experiencing the same thing at once. When this shared attention is fully felt and in flow there's nothing like it....very powerful. Everyone feels things in one wave of understanding....love it!!!

[@catherinesview]

@@mikespies786 I am exactly the same, I go to Las Vegas to absorb the energy and people watch. And not say a word to anyone, except of course "thank you" to the hospitality industry :)

[@mikespies786]

@@catherinesview Thanks for sharing- how people act, interact and react is beyond fascinating to me- Vegas would bring an entirely new level to all of this!

[@randywatkins3306]

As a widower for 7 years now ! I retired in 2012 when my wife was diagnosed with Demncha ! She passed in 2016 , after 48 years of being together ! I can't remember any of 2017 , until I woak up in a nursing home ! It took 6 months too get my self togeather before they let me out of thier ! So I bought an R V and hit the ROAD ! 63,000 miles later ! And still single , I found peace within my self ! At 77 I have made peace with myself and enjoy being alone ! 😊

[@valeriotiivas4463]

You simply become stronger, more confident and secure about yourself. You don’t need other people to keep you happy or to validate you, you simply do not depend on nobody, and that’s what makes you strong, and free.

[@lindafukuyu5767]

This is the answer that I think is brilliant. Thank You

[@seattlebeard]

I'm going on 65. I grew up non-social and kept to myself. Because of my solitary nature, I didn't contract AIDS, like a lot of other gay men my age. I recon it saved my life. I've been partnered twice, 10 years and going on 25 years. Fortunately they have never tried to change me. I built a cozy home with my current partner, and am so glad we retired when covid came. I used to think I was odd, but now I feel very fortunate and content.

[@michaelspeakman351]

Your doing the right thing. The world has become too crowded and too many people have some hidden agenda which is often damaging to you. So many people are just plain petti and aggravating it becomes difficult for those of us that don't suffer fools lightly to even bother to maintain a relationship with them. I think that wise people will always find time to think without all the chaos and distractions clouding our thoughts. I found that knowing some people was like having a ball and chain attached to my leg. It's ok to let go and free yourself from harmful relationships not to mention recognizing from experience what is most probably the next detrimental situation. Good luck and good life to you. God bless

[@roncatton7101]

I am the same. Cannot stand crowded places especially in todays societies. I have always been a sociable friendly person butalways do my best to keep away from busy, noisy crowded places and events. Solitude and peace is priceless. The more remote the better for me!

[@raphaelbernard7954]

Yes I believe your experience is quite universal for us who are in our 60's.

[@Erik-the-Southern-Viking]

I Have Aspergers - High-Functioning Autism. I only found this out 3 Years Ago. I COMPLETELY GET EVERYTHING you speak of 😅

[@stephenclayton7052]

Yes i avoid people more then ever. Lack of trust in people as most seem to want to use you so finding a genuine connection has proved impossible. Yes I'm lonely but it stops me getting hurt.

[@nickjmaher]

I appreciate your comment.

[@saxman1969]

I am 72 and I have been that way since my 20s. I don't dislike people on the whole, I just like my own and wife's of 52 years company. I am a successful businessman, American, and have been retired for 14 years. More power to you brother. I don't know how I will make it without my wife, but I wouldn't do well, but certainly wouldn't want her to be without me. Catch 22.

[@thebackwardpointinggodwit8080]

I wouldn’t get too worried about your wife. Most women have understood all their lives that statistically they are likely to spend their last 10 years alone. They don’t relish it, but they are comfortable with it and prepared for it. Men are more likely to fare badly. It’s a shock they haven’t prepared themselves for.

[@saxman1969]

@thebackwardpointinggodwit8080 Thank you. I know she would do better that I, just hate to do it too her. Both of us are long time non denominational Christians which helps. Thanks for your comforting words👍