Why I'm Moving Back to Japan

[@sharlainjapan]

I’ve read every single one of your comments. Thank you so much ;-;♥️

[@michaelhardison724]

Sharmander I hope you feel better soon

[@soiledpetals]

Sharmander Love you so much! Favorite KZbinr by far and looking forward to you showing us (me!) around northern Japan!

[@kiraracutie44]

We love you Sharla! I'm so sorry you're going through this but you are such a strong person and we know you will be ok. It will take a long time but we will be here when you need us.

[@leavecchioni9181]

Videos like these help remind us that you're a real person with real feelings. I can tell from the outpouring of love and support you're getting that your fans feel like they know you personally. We hurt when you hurt, and we will be happy with whatever makes you happy. It's like a one-sided video pen-pal relationship 😊

[@heenagidwani3696]

Sharla stay strong..

[@danicatempleton6745]

Couple misc. thoughts and advice: -Don't let anyone criticize you for being happy. You don't need to pander to such petty, salty people. -Korea isn't going anywhere, you can always go back when you feel more up to it. -Sometimes great relationships don't last forever. What's important is how you've grown and the good times you had, there's no use clinging to things that only used to make you happy. It's hard now, and some parts might take longer to heal than others, but this will be good for you in the long run.

[@PecanBaby...]

Danica you're comment is perfect and I agree with you 100%.😊

[@Taylor_R]

your attitude about things and strength consistently inspires me. I hope you both find happiness.❤️ Love you

[@booboo1702]

TAYLOR I LOVE YOU

[@ChocolateEyedGirl87]

Mariana C I totally agree.. Sharla needs her best friend now more than ever. Please give her love and friendship in her times of turmoil ❤️

[@ChocolateEyedGirl87]

josh room1919 Boi what?

[@mangafanatic19]

I agree, best friends really do help in the healing process. I think you should go visit or have her over Taylor and give her lots of love. I love both of your channels so much. I’ve gone through a breakup once years ago and it was very hard.

[@presakakeya]

I agree with Mariana, take a trip and have some girl time! I'm not sure if you guys are as close as you used to be, but friends should stick it through with each other no matter distance or life circumstances.

[@zixari13]

Sharla we love you and we just want you to be happy!!! Please focus on yourself and making yourself feel better! ♡♡♡

[@sonolee26]

Sharla... take it one day at a time. You will have a lot of new memories along with the old memories. You are a very giving person & sorry about the cats not being with you physically. Love u hun 💞

[@kalamathes7857]

This exactly! Self care and allowing yourself to feel and grieve the relationship and move on.

[@gerardbautista7586]

"Life is Balloons!" - Natsuki

[@Jeremy_Fisher]

They are cheery, happy, and beautiful when new. Always reaching for the sky. Slowly they stop floating as hard, and eventually start sinking and shriveling up. They can burst when you least expect it. No one can escape balloon death. Everything will end eventually. Despite knowing they will end, cherish balloons when you have them. It is better to have ballooned and lost than never to have ballooned at all. Natsuki was more profound in his statement than I thought.

[@joerogansrealmpodcast]

@@Jeremy_Fisher barz

[@thatdude034]

@@Hi-xu9xn lol no

[@jenmck8146]

@@Hi-xu9xn That escalated quickly.

[@organicwins91]

That quote is too deep as you age. It has a psychedelic-enlightening energy to it. Hehe

[@reinascully]

Oh, Sharla... I am so sorry for everything you’re going through. I’m sure you already know this but it’s going to be okay. It’s okay that it didn’t work out. And it’s wonderful that he updates you about Maro & Luna. I started tearing up when your voice cracked and I just wish there was something I could write or say to help. But you suddenly looked relieved and bright when you started talking about Morioka, I think you made the right decision. We’re all here to support you and I can’t wait to watch & learn more about Morioka and the rest of Japan from you 💛 Sending you love always

[@Big-Wonka]

Hey look. It's the mermaid skateboard girl.

[@milkbath4798]

I'm so sorry hun. Just know you have us as your KZbin family! You are far from alone, don't forget that!!! 💜

[@SIR3NSONG14]

Oh Sharla I had a feeling this was going on, but didnt say anything in the comments. 😔 It'll be okay hun. I actually just broke up with my boyfriend of 8 years recently so I understand. It's amazing how you can spend so much of your life with one person and think you'll be with them forever. But sometimes your lives end up going in different directions and you part with that person. Its painful, but it will be okay. You thank God for the time spent with them and look forward to what life brings next. I honestly wish you the best and I'm sending you virtual hugs. Take care, we are all here for you. ❤

[@drakerezendes3999]

Hey dude, I haven’t watched your videos and I know I’m a year late but hope things are going well for you now. I’ve seen you in some Abroad in Japan videos and seeing foreigners in japan thriving like you guys were and are inspired me to take a chance to try moving to japan once I’ve got my bachelors degree, so thank you for inspiring me. I guess I was just moved to say that I hope things are better now! Keep pushing forward, my friend. I’m rooting hard for you.

[@sharlainjapan]

Thanks man I really appreciate the kind words😊🙏🏻

[@katvos]

“For the first time in a very long time, that decision was entirely up to me”. I don’t think most people realize what a heavy statement this is, or what a scary process it can be. Best of luck to you, Sharla. You can do it. ❤️

[@Snebleh66]

It’s also a very courageous decision 💕

[@Leroset]

Sharla, please do whatever you can to take care of yourself! We will always support you. And don't worry about your videos--I watch these videos for you, not necessarily for Japan and Korea. You are a great person and I wish the best for you.

[@WingedClaymore4]

Oh my... I did notice a difference lately, something really seemed amiss... I even wondered if maybe the cycling trip was a way for you to find some zen and peace for whatever was going on in your life. There is no shame in keeping personal issues personal. Nor is there any shame in trying to be happy and positive on camera even when you feel like crap. :( I really wish there was something that I could do to help you feel better! On the topic of Maro and Luna... It is so evident how much you care about them. You are such a strong and compassionate person to think about what is best for them even when it means they won't be with you... it hurts like hell... but no matter what they will always be your precious babies, no amount of distance will ever change that. I know they love you as much as you love them! Take all the time you need, and make sure to cry all the tears you can. Holding it in never helped anyone! Love you so much Sharla, I will always support you!

[@LittleJr101]

I know this is a few years old, but Sharla you’re an inspiration to me. I’m currently getting through a breakup of 4 years with a wonderful man. It ended amicably and we both still have so much love for one another but like you, we weren’t making each other happy anymore. At least not in the ways we genuinely needed. We have a cat together, but he will be holding onto her. It breaks my heart because I love her so damn much, but I know she’ll be okay with him. I have NO IDEA how you were so strong during this time. I keep coming back to this video because your strength (I mean moving to another country, at the time losing your cats, and any other private matters of course) gives me the strength to believe that I’ll be okay too. I’m glad to see that you’re happy now with your life, with Chris, and with Maro and Tuna of course :) 💛

[@sharlainjapan]

Aww sending you all the love Jennifer, I hope things go as smoothly as possible and you can take comfort in the fact your baby will be in good hands ❤️

[@LittleJr101]

Thank you, Sharla 💛

[@rozearabeauty7994]

Im so sorry you’re going through this. But I really do hope that good things come your way. You don’t have to apologize about not talking about personal situations. Some good advice for pets I believe would be for you to perhaps volunteer at a shelter or something similar where you can interact with cats, I know it’s not your own but it might help you process how you can help other kitties and how your cats are doing good where they are now. All my love and good vibes Sharla. Your videos bring me happiness and i can only hope that you receive that happiness tenfold. Take care.

[@victoriusgrace2307]

The great thing about volunteering at a shelter too is not only do you get to interact with a cat, but you might also find one that you connect with that you want to take it home with you. It'll never replace the ones she lost but there's nothing wrong with adding new pets to your life and family :)

[@debbiewebbie2676]

This is the realest vlog I’ve ever watched. No bullshit. Only honesty. I hope you can move on and transition easily. Don’t feel pressured to put out a vlog if you don’t feel up to it.

[@greg.peepeeface]

i was going to say that too, but I scrolled down and saw your comment. Yea, and in a day and age of fake, this is so real (I agree with you too).

[@cindylee3154]

Hey Sharla, been watching your videos for a while. I just wanted to send you my support for what you’re going through. I too got a divorce from my husband at 30 who id been with for 13 years, married for 6. We were best friends and I still loved him in many ways but our lives were moving in different directions and sometimes you’re so used to a particular dynamic with a person that it’s hard to work through the issues and find a compromise, no matter how much you love each other. I changed so much between my 20’s and 30’s and we just weren’t right anymore for the long term - thinking about things like starting a family etc. It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made and I was so sad for a very long time but having come out the other side now, I know it was the right decision and I’m happier with my life now than I’ve ever been. I know that I’m now with the right person for my future and would not change anything for the world. Hoping that you come out the other side and feel the same way.

[@lotionbottlehead]

You deserve the world Sharla. Happiness is on its way to you🌱💕

[@MariannaVlogs]

Sending you positive vibes and wishing you all the best back in Japan ❤️

[@SolotaireKid]

Posting here coz it's the top comment. I'm fairly new to the channel, here since Sharla was in Abroad in Japan's videos. The divorce sucks. And I'm guessing the different cultural backgrounds add some friction. But I'm also glad she's having a change of scenery. Best wishes.

[@BothHands1]

I'm sorry for freeloading on your post, Marianna, but there's something I just have to say: I know this is hard. There's really no right answer, and Maru and Luna will be fine either way. I personally would have fought for them, but either way, I absolutely do not think you've made the wrong choice. What you need is another life to be with you to shower in love. If it can't be Maru and Luna, then you need a new kitty. This is not for anyone else but you. It's what you need. I know it can seem hard to love something else when you feel like this. But when you go to the shelter, and see a kitty who really needs you. It can give you a new purpose in life. Maru and Luna are happy, and that's because of you. But there are more kitties that are stuck in little cages, that only you can save. Find yourself a kitty. You have to. Not even for the kitty, but for yourself. Much love to you, Sharla. You are beautiful, inside and out. Please please take care of yourself. I'm not in Japan anymore, so I can't really be much help from over here. But if there's anything I can do, let me know.

[@RougexShadow007]

Please don't feel like you have disappointed us. We are here for you

[@AvaFayIliza]

Love is a complicated thing. You can love someone very dearly, want the best for them, and know they return those feelings, but you both can still understand that your lives can not work together, no matter how much you want it to. My parents' marriage ended in this way, and it was hard on all of us, but life does move on, not that you will never have times when you're sad, but that you can come to a place of resolve. Eventually happiness finds you again. It may not be the way you expect, but if you acknowledge all of your feelings, and talk things out with someone you trust (whether it be a friend, therapist, or any other neutral party), life will be good again. Though you will see things in a way you could have never done so before. I know this is a year late, but I hope you can already see some of these things coming true for you. From my own experience, I can say, it is very important to take care of yourself. So take care. With love from the US.

[@lordstephen7813]

David your a good man.

[@zamuelwartower459]

This is why you shouldn't get married for love.

[@sunnyside7369]

@@zamuelwartower459 so for what/how should one get married then?

[@zamuelwartower459]

@@sunnyside7369 a lot of cultures set up arranged marriages. Love develops over time. Going into relationship with passion romantic love usually doesn't work out unless the couple can turn that passion into a working functional marriage.

[@ZS89908]

@@zamuelwartower459 Arranged marriages are a scam. You still live in the 17th century obviously. In an arranged marriage both partners (especially the man) runs to complain to the parents when something goes wrong. If 1 gets sick, do you really care? Do you care from the bottom of your heart? When your parents die (yes they won't live forever) will you care about your partner and stick with them? The most important thing in a marriage is compatibility. Full Stop. The End. The only way you can get compatibility is out of love, compassion and affection. If you look at it like a contract like you do - it will fail or you will simply be with a "roommate" forever.

[@caricakes]

Sending you positive vibes always! You were so strong to keep up a bright face during all of this, and I hope things get easier soon. I can't wait for your Japan content and for you to find your own path and continue to grow! Wishing you the best, truly 🙏

[@Itami95]

You’re face lit up when you spoke about Japan and the Northern region. Looking forward to you inspiring me to travel there. I’ve not been North of Mito in Ibaraki Prefecture but really want to. Best wishes. You will grow stronger!

[@jasbull7289]

Oh my gosh Sharla I feel for you so much right now... I left the UK a few years ago and had to leave my cat, Tigger, with my Dad. I've had Tigger since I was 5 years old, and now I'm 19. Over the years he became my best friend and leaving him in the UK I was absolutely heartbroken. What helped me cope was constantly reminding myself that he's in good hands with my Dad, and that I'm fortunate to still see him through pictures and videos. Even though I miss him so very much, I know he is happy and cared for well. After 6 months of grieving, I adopted 2 kittens, Meeko and George, and they have filled my heart with joy, so that might help you as well. However, I still think about Tigger every single day and wonder what he's doing. Know that getting a new pet doesn't mean abandoning or replacing old ones, you're giving an animal a wonderful home. You're so brave and I'm proud of you for being selfless and doing what was best for Maro and Luna. Keep pushing forward, you're amazing!!

[@BothHands1]

I absolutely agree, she needs to adopt a new kitty. Not just for the kittie's sake, but for her own. Maru and Luna are ok now, and it's because of her. It's because she adopted them, and found them a wonderful home with a man who will take care of them, even if he isn't the right man for her. But for her own sake, she needs another kittie around. Mine died after being with me for 22 years - almost my whole life. It's the hardest thing in the world to part like that. But you need new life to shower love on. You need new hope. Not for the cat, but for yourself. Save a kittie's life to save your own life. You owe it to yourself, Sharla. We're all rooting for you girl. I'm literally crying with you right now. But I know how strong you are. Get some new kitties and show us how amazing your home is. How amazing your kitties are, and how amazing North Japan is. We'll be waiting, for as much time as you need.

[@indrabar]

I know this is an older video but re: the being happy all the time - your spark and happiness is one of the reasons I subscribed to your channel. There's so much joy and vivacity. I am relatively new to your channel so I'm catching up on older vids - I am so sorry you've gone through this and I hope things are smoother by now. Keep your happiness as best you can, esp in these times.

[@justineryden8799]

I feel the same way about her. Her attitude is charming and relaxing I really enjoy her videos and she seems like a super sweet person

[@sharlainjapan]

Thank you for the kind words🥺❤️

[@GreaterBookWyrm]

You say this is the first time in a long time that you've made decisions by yourself for yourself. Revel in that freedom. It is beautiful and wonderful in itself. Go to the store, buy your favorite snacks because you can, go see a movie on your own in the dead of night because you can and take up three seats by yourself lounging down in the most comfortable position possible. Be you. Be free. You're brilliant and amazing. And I know it will be hard. It will be hard now, and maybe forever in some small way to be without them. But you are complete as you are, and you can do anything. Go. Be free. Evolve into the fierce Sharmelion, or Sharizard you were always meant to be.

[@CestLaaaVie]

beautiful advice

[@tonycarpaccio9550]

Sharizard!!! Love it.

[@JemmaStovell]

Omg you're comment made me tear up. I want to evolve too 😭

[@fruzsinanemeth]

I wish the same Sharla, just couldn't put in such helpful words!

[@catimarigalmesdols7598]

I found you when I didn't understand English. I struggled watching your videos at first but that changed really quickly. I'm very grateful to you. You can't imagine how much you have inspired me and helped me in my teens. You have not just helped me improving my english but you taught me a lot of things about life and Japan. You made me happy and smiley when I was feeling really down. You just motivated me to study harder, to have a dream , to fight for it and to be strong with all the troubles you may have. At first I was watching your videos just because of Japan but then I started admiring you and I was really enjoying your personality and everything so I decided to follow your videos and your journey wherever it takes. Agh! I'm sorry, I'm not really good at expressing myself. I just wanted to say that I love you so much, I hope you can start over again. I really just want your happiness and all the good things in the world for you. I hope you can be your cats again, even though it takes a while and take your time to recover, to try new things , to meet new people and to spend time with the loved ones. Thank you so much for everything. I really aprecciate all your hard work so much. Love you! I wish you all the best luck in everything💕

[@jhgfghjfuzrtfchchghgf]

you have big balls making such a video! thank you for being so open and honest with your viewers. I hope you feel better by now!

[@Sewersquatch]

I had to move to different part of the country when my marriage ended. We had 2 dogs together and they both stayed with my partner. It was hard but wouldn’t have been fair to the dogs. At that time, I started a new job and traveled for work. I was on the road 6 days a week and honestly I traveled so much I didn’t even see the point of renting or buying a place when I was “home” I was in a hotel. I’m in a different career now and have a place, which gave me time to adopt the sweetest dog and eventually my cat too. It sucked at first. It will get better. Do what’s best for your kitties and in time you will know what’s best for you. You have countless fans that support you and we all want what’s best for you. 🖤

[@cindymorales8222]

Maybe its just me but you seemed more happy in Japan. Even when you went back to visit after moving to korea. Wish you the very best.

[@Eseriphta]

I had absolutely no idea. Sharla you are inspiring. You’ve inspired me to become a Japanese translator. Your videos always give me encouragement when it gets hard. I love you so much and you are such an amazing, beautiful, courages woman. I can’t imagine being away from my fur baby. Keep shining girl! Don’t forget to take time for yourself. You’re worth it!

[@CanNat8]

I've been a quiet fan on your site for many years, but felt compelled to comment on this video. As others have said, you need to take care of yourself and not worry about the rest of us. It took a lot of courage for you to share your sadness and this difficult part of your journey. The benefit is for you to feel the tremendous support you have here and elsewhere. I hope that you can find comfort knowing that there are so many people who wish you well, and for you to know that you're not alone. Reality is that we all go through difficult periods. But we can take comfort in the fact that the wheel always turns, so we never stay at the lowest point. Things will change. You have so much strength, resilience, and light inside of you. It's a matter of allowing yourself to grieve your losses, and then find your way forward. I hope that you do this on your terms, surrounding yourself with those who will love and support you through both good and bad times. Follow your inside voice - it won't let you down!

[@amieerica]

Hey Sharla.. I’m so very sorry that you’re dealing with this. It was heartbreaking seeing the pain you feel over this situation but please don’t feel the need to apologize. I understand about the pets. My husband and I split after a year of marriage (4+ years together) and had 2 small dogs and 3 cats. It was so horrible to have to say goodbye to any of them but it was best to leave our pups in his care. Even after years I would think of them and cry but it was comforting, like you said, to know they were well taken care of: I’m afraid there’s not much to fill that void. It’s so honorable to think of their needs over your emotions and I admire that. I started watching your videos about 14-15 months ago and have found so much joy in them. You’re one of the many reasons I wish to visit Japan! Please do your best to keep your head up! You will find more happiness than you could imagine right now. All the best! 😘

[@kalkuehl360]

You earned alot of respect for not giving details of your husbands situation.

[@ao4698]

I rarely comment, but Sharla, YOU are one of the main reasons I’m studying Japanese as my degree at university. You inspired me so much. Sending you lots of love

[@Trillora]

Sharla. You owe nobody ANYTHING with regards to your private/personal life. You tell who you want to tell, when you want to tell. End of story. You get to have as much privacy and processing time as YOU need, because it's YOUR life. And as the comments show, your viewers appreciate you for YOU and the education and joy you bring. I know I'm late to this and you've received so much kindness and support already, but I was feeling mama-bearish and wanted to add my piece to the pile. Thank YOU for your content and all you've shared so far!! I hope your transition is as smooth as possible and I wish you peace, healing, and joy in this new phase of your life. ****hugs****

[@roseboudelair3729]

Thankyou i needed this Telling my friends about a close realtive passing away was very hard and i felt guilty for delaying it Thankyou for reminding me

[@Trillora]

@@roseboudelair3729 Thank you for telling me my words helped you during a hard time - that was so very sweet of you. Sending love and hugs your way!!

[@elizabethcall3039]

I started watching your video with a friend of mine and I was so heartbroken seeing you hurt, she asked me if you were a friend of mine. I said "Kind of, yeah." You are so very dear to us, Sharla. We hurt with you. If there's anything we can do for you, please reach out to us. We love you ❤️

[@Pilealaura]

My sister always said: your friend from Japan. 😊

[@SolotaireKid]

She mentioned that people must have guessed by now. What did she mean by that? How'd people see that coming? She's always so happy, I never thought something like this was happening

[@Spookyfrogg]

@@SolotaireKid I mean I was wondering when she was gone for MONTHS to film in Japan how her husband wasnt upset she was gone so much. It made me wonder if they were going through something g

[@applehearts996]

@@SolotaireKid Because she hasn't really talked much about him recently. She's been in Japan a lot recently as well. I think some people put two and two together. She did say she was waiting for emotions to die down which I can understand.

[@SolotaireKid]

@@applehearts996 hmm, fair enough. I can't even imagine how a 7 year relationship must do to someone. 2 years in, and i get scared if i dont hear from my girlfriend. this is something else. best wishes to her

[@thevioletoracle]

It'll be okay, sharla. I went through a 5 year break up myself. It's a process to be yourself without being part of Us, for a bit. You'll come through it and you'll feel better and find happiness. I would suggest getting a dog. I'm a cat lover too, but a dog will help you get out of the house and stay active and not retreat into work and just staying home. I'm not disappointed in you. You're not a TV show. You're a person. Good luck, Sharla.

[@Snowylemons]

Sharla, you're the most selfless person I've ever encountered. I've been watching you since I was a teenager. It breaks my heart to see you apologizing for things that you shouldn't be. We all just want your happiness more than anything. I wish you nothing but the best for the future.

[@roo3651]

Sharla, this came up on my TL... 5 years later... and I just want to say that life has a way of bringing you what is intended for you, and I am so so happy to see the amazing things life has brought you now❤

[@TheKuppy]

you are NOT disappointing us!! We watch the videos for YOU, not Japan or Korea.

[@meynelaacemora6798]

Amen

[@christinamarie6703]

Exactly! You are such a sweet and amazing person Sharla! We love you ♡

[@NephilaClavata]

Exactly! It's the same way with other channels I follow. Initially I came to them to learn about Japan or some other country, but now I'm legitimately interested in the people who run the channel and want to see them do well and have a good life.

[@kamiladylik5669]

Yeap, you're our amazing person

[@Yetiforce]

I personally love the idea of seeing more of Northern Japan! Take care be strong we all love you Sharla!

[@kobzster06]

Same here. I felt Sharla's heart was always in Japan, she seemed most happiest there. She does such an amazing job showing us the true native culture of every Japanese city she visits. It always hurts to be separated from pets, but there are many others that need loving and I am certain she will find that lovely furever friend in Japan.

[@Avahria]

I’ve watched you for such a long time. You are such a positive woman, you are strong, you’re honestly amazing. You work with what you have and you improve, and that’s amazing. You left Korea, that’s fine. You’ve got to do what’s best for you. I’ve never seen you as fake, but I just see your personality as shining through. I am so sorry for the pain that you feel, but you have so many beautiful things that are going to come to you, girl. ❤️ Morioka is a beautiful place. You are amazing. You are powerful, you have the world at your hands.

[@Mike89369]

This made my wife and I tear up we just wanted to give you hugs from the other side of the TV screen. As much as it hurts talking about it is a good step to easing the pain.

[@johnnyzguYT]

Hey Sharla, I’m actually a follower of Chris on the Abroad in Japan channel. But I thought you were super cool in his videos. I’m so sorry that you have to go through this tough situation and I hope you all the best. I will, starting today, be one of your followers too to show support. Just like you, I’m also an expat, currently in Hong Kong. Look forward to seeing your new videos.

[@heinzmustermann8416]

Me too, subscribed today to her channel. It's tough, but I'm sure she'll get through this :)

[@zoot3372]

What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. You’ll find happiness once again. Just stay strong

[@sarahramos2919]

I have enjoyed getting to know Japan through your eyes and adventures. I landed on this video tonight and am grateful for your honesty even in a time of personal turmoil. I love how your life is so full of joy now. Sending good vibes from the States! Take care!

[@badgercdlyons]

You seem like you REALLY need hugs and love right now, so I hope all of your fans' feelings reach you. You are loved by many. ❤

[@SamiSpoon]

I'm so sorry to hear about your separation Sharla, I hope everyone gives you the privacy your deserve in this time. I wish you all the best in the new chapter of your life and send you all the love and strength

[@Katanas_fire]

I'm very sorry hear that. I can almost feel your pain. Stay strong Sharla💖. Love will find you again. You have a lot of support. Remember you are loved so much. It hurts to also see you hurting over your pets💖💖. I send you hugs, caring loving energy your way!! 💖🙏

[@LILxVAMPIRE88]

*hugs* Never apologize for needing to take care of yourself. I'm sorry that you have to go though such a hard and sad time in your life ,but life will get better in time. Sending positive thoughts and vibes your way.

[@d3v402]

Just want to say I love how supportive all the comments are ❤️ We all love you Sharla.

[@ericsurf6]

Thanks for telling your story Sharla. Moving to a different country where you don't speak the language is a bold thing to do, and that combined with a break-up is a huge deal. Stay strong Sharla. Better times ahead. Welcome back to Japan. Morioka is a beautiful city to live. I love the people up there. Did you say there's a magic bar? OMG!

[@2456tack]

I love your videos Eric and you love her videos. Any chance to meet you? I am in Tokyo and I want to have some opportunities to see you guys.

[@thegamingsushicat5349]

That was beautifully said Eric

[@jmc264mc]

simp

[@Hinaatje]

She learned japanese when she was 12 or 13

[@Hiyonopunch]

Oh sharla I feel for you! Having gone through a divorce it's so incredibly hard. Dont listen to the people that have negative things to say. It's easy to judge a youtuber when you only see a very small part of their life. We forget that we are all human with our own struggles. Make sure you take all the time you need to heal please. I'm an old lady and if theres one thing I've learned it's that you need to make sure you take care of you first. Sending lots of hugs and healing vibes your way love. It's the hard times that make us value the good. It will get better

[@ILLFEABEE]

Thank you for all of your courage and honesty thru all of this Sharla. I wish all the very best for you as you start this new chapter in your life in a place you love so much like Northern JP. I’m looking forward to the exciting future of your channel and we’ll be here for every moment of it.

[@MissMogitha]

We all love you, Sharla 💗💗💗💗 please take time for yourself and let yourself heal. You're incredibly strong and beautiful inside and out and we're here for you!!

[@ChrisS-my3fw]

I’m not sugarcoating this when I say that you are the most kind, wonderful person on this platform. It pains me so much to see you upset. I hope everything gets better for you and you are able work things out. I wish you nothing but the best.

[@AnimeProdigyLife]

Oh my God. You're always my favorite girl on KZbin, ive been watching you since the days with shine... it brings me to tears seeing you like this. I hope to see you in Japan when I go to Japan for university if I ever can!!

[@mtgAzim]

I wanna hug you so badly. Even though you don't know us (your viewers) personally, you've let us into your life so much, it makes it really tough to see you so sad. As far as the thing you mentioned about some people thinking your happiness was forced or annoying, I spent a long time being pessimistic, negative, and generally self loathing, and all it did was compound how unhappy I was. It didn't change the things that made me feel that way in the first place, but it made daily life for myself, and everyone around me miserable. I wallowed in my own misery for years. Every year that slipped by made me feel even worse, because I was just wasting more and more time living like that. I was laying on my couch one day (as I did every day), and that day in particular stood out to me because it was the first snow of the season, which always has a special feeling to it, and in what felt like a week, it was once again the first snow of the season. I had spent yet another year laying on that couch, doing nothing to stop the downward spiral I found myself in. I got so sick of living like that, the dissatisfaction of living in that manner had begun to outweigh the depression. In my specific situation, I have a laundry list of medical things that brought about all this, and there nothing I can really do about that, but what I could change is my daily life on a smaller scale, and seeing as how there's no magic cure for me, the only thing I could do was in a sense, just fake it. I had recognized that to a large degree, my daily unhappiness was me wallowing in self pity. It took some time to get used to not allowing myself to get into those spirals of hopelessness, and instead force myself to do or think about something else. I'm probably about 6 or 7 years into essentially faking some level of happiness and contentedness, and it absolutely works, even though my medical situation is no better (its been gradually worsening) daily life for myself and those around me is so much better. I still have plenty of days and times where I'm just barely keeping my head above water, but its a hell of a lot better than I was a while back. When I'm having a really hard time, one of the first things I do is look for something to get my mind in a better place, and something that has helped me more times than I can count, is watching you. The fact that you're usually in pretty high spirits on your videos is one of the main reasons I watch you (right behind how pretty you are ^_

[@stephcarlofc]

Stay strong Sharla. I know that parting ways with a spouse is not easy, but better days are ahead. You earned a lot of respect by not spilling details about your spilt. You have the support of your KZbin family.

[@MiRedLips]

I’m so sorry about the stuff you’re going through. It’s difficult to make such big changes, as well as lose your precious kitties but now you can grow from that relationship and start fresh. And ignore all those people saying they’re annoyed you’re happy, they’re the sad pessimistic people that want to see everyone else sad. I’ve always enjoyed your videos, and I can’t wait to see your future adventures! Sending love from freezing 🇨🇦

[@joeyfreitas1942]

This hits you in the feels. Glad it’s been 2 years and seems like you’re doing much better!

[@janinefox8036]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I know everyone's experiences are different but your post really resonated with me. I am currently going through a divorce. Even though it was my choice to end the relationship, it doesn't stop it from being incredibly hard or feeling the heavy loss of someone who has been there everyday for me, at times we were incredibly strong together. My decision was mostly based around my career, discovering that we had slightly different priorities just made me realise it wasn't fair on either of us to be together - one of us would always be unhappy. Found it a very difficult decision to make in my mid 30s when most of my friends are starting families. I did leave the relationship with my cat, but as I work in a different location to my 'home', she is unable to live with me. I know she is very happy where she is, but when I go back to my hometown I just spend so much time annoying her, giving her massive hugs and strokes! At the time of my separation a very wise and respected friend said to me that it would take about 2 years to move on... I was actually initially quite horrified and dreading what was to come, but now 15 months after the decision to separate was made, I do understand what she meant. It's not just about the official side of such a process, its about the personal journey. You will find out so much about yourself and how strong you really are. It's not really about independence or being selfish, its about being true to yourself and the people you choose to spend life with and being kind to both! Sorry if that sounds really corny. Your post made me feel very reflective! Sending you lots of love and support xx

[@btsguardianangel5164]

Sharla you're amazing and there is nothing to be disappointed in sweetie. On the contrary, you're so brave & inspiring ✨ Be proud of yourself 💜

[@saskhArt]

Hi Sharla, I don't usually live comment since my eng isn't very good (I'm italian), but I wanted to give you a big hug, I feel your pain. I discover my partner cheating after 6 year of living together and I was devastated, but I bring with me my cat, so I just can barely imagine how you feel living behind your furry babies too... I follow you since your first taiaki video in kichijoji and stick with you since that, I love your attitude, you're a brave, bright woman and I think you will overcome all of this and surely become even more stronger. keep fighting!!!

[@SkywatcherSandra]

Your English is awesome. HUGS and blessings

[@Hiislisa]

I’ve been watching you since 2016, I went to Japan for the first time the September that past with my fiancé. You were the one that influenced me the most to travel to Japan and because of that I’m grateful and we’ll be going again this month on the 28th. I’m so sorry for what’s happening in your life and I wish you nothing but best of luck. I hope one day when I visit Japan again I’ll be able to meet up with you!

[@sagarm8005]

i haven't known you for long but whatever i have seen of you is just pure kindness and bravery. i got to know you from Chris's vlogs and i am glad he has a friend like you. i see everything is so much better now and m glad you are doing so well. be kind be smart and be you.

[@Apo0]

So sorry Sharla.

[@christinep5524]

I am so very very sorry. I wish you nothing but joy and success in Japan and time to heal.

[@darlay5851]

ugh, I'm glad you shared this w/ us and I'm sure it was hard since it is such a personal situation. I've been through separation/divorce myself in my 20's and it was brutal but take this time to reflect on the most important thing and that is You and your self care. You are strong and have a lot of friends/family who will help you get through this. I'm sure you will be reunited w/ your cats soon and until then, they are being cared for and loved. You have so much ahead of you and taking on this new creative job is just what you can lean on/into to help you get through this tough time. Know that all of your viewers support you and wish you the best!!!! xoxoxo

[@zee2938]

Sorry to hear you are hurting Sharla. I'm sure your community knows you are a person and not a tv show, and are grateful for the things you share. Happy or sad. I don't think I'm disappointed by people that come across as "always happy", I'm just more curious about what we don't see. I really enjoyed seeing you in the Journey Across Japan stuff. Seemed like a slightly different side. (Or maybe I'm just enjoying that people are starting to freely swear in videos again hahaha). Hope the healing process continues to move upward

[@ccafreak123]

Oh honey bless your heart, I know it doesn’t seem like it but it will get better over time. Keep your chin up doll we’re all here for you

[@Anthony12ab]

Sharla, I believe the way you deal with the situation by setting yourself goals and things to look forward to are the best things to do to overcome this kind of situation. Keep as much as you can your positive attitude. While it's not the same situation, I've been through a difficult time last December with the loss of my mother and for me looking forward and not in the past is the thing that helped me stay heathy, so I wish it works for you too. Do not however feel guilty. Just be yourself and share the content you want to, when you want to. We're looking forward to your next vlog/videos :). I wish you the best and, more importantly, take the time you need to recover - do not neglect your own health. Stay strong.

[@sepiaswirl]

If I'm completely honest, I actually ... stopped following your channel when you moved to Korea. Not to be mean or anything, but I initially followed you for content about Japan as I love the country dearly myself. I like Korea well enough, but in an attempt to de-clutter channels I ended up unsubscribing because Korea isn't my focus in life. Even though you're back in Japan now, it's actually really painful to see you this sad :( things must've been really tough for you and I can't imagine how hard it's been. Especially being away from your fluffy companions, I know how hard that can be. Watching this video, I really felt for you and wanted to give you a giant hug. In every video I've seen, you do always come off as super bubbly and happy and that's really something I admire, especially if you've been falling apart behind the scenes. You're so strong

[@saranodyne705]

Same here! I don't want to come off as "insensitive" either but I'm glad she's back in Japan because I enjoyed her Japan content a lot. I just wasn't as interested in Korea, simple as that. :) She may lose some subscribers that wanted to see Korea, sure, but I think there are many more of us who might actually re-subscribe now. All the best to you Sharla, it'll be okay. If it's of any comfort there are many who are excited about your future adventures in northern Japan!

[@cangulaydiin]

It breaks my heart to see you like this :(❤️ sending you lots and lots of hugs ❤️

[@mcostagirl123]

I'm so sorry Sharla! I didn't see this video till now and it broke my heart. You're a strong and brave person and your videos have inspired me so much. Please have faith, everything happens for a reason!

[@sharlainjapan]

Thanks so much, I really appreciate the kind words😌💕

[@lovebbri]

I know it may feel a little bit wrong to think about adopting another cat right now, but just know if you get another, it won't mean you have lost any love for your other furbabies or that you are wronging them in any way. Having a floof in your life will help you heal and keep you from feeling lonely. Maro and Luna would want that for you too.

[@MistyJeffy]

I rarely comment, but Sharla I really wanted to give you a hug! I know now it’s tough and hard and you did whatever it was best for yourself! And who knows that the future can hold for you now, don’t even worry about Korea videos or even vlogging, worry about yourself and make sure you take care of the most important thing which is yourself! You have an awesome fan base that loves and supports you as well as family and friends! Keep your head up! It can only get better from here!

[@elisalukasik6334]

I’m so sorry you had to go through something this painful, but I hope that you find peace and happiness on your new journey.

[@ttf99]

I know I’m a couple years late, but I really appreciate you sharing this video with everyone. I have been going through similar times after breaking up with my wife and mourning separating our pets, she has all of our kitties and I have the dogs. I am glad Moru is back in your life. :) Love watching your videos, they are such a joy.

[@nikonino666]

Dear Sharla, I was worried for you for a while. But I didn’t exactly know why. (I thought I must’ve been crazy.. and maybe I sound a bit crazy 😣) Now I understand what you have been through and it breaks my heart to see you like this. Please don’t feel obligated to always be happy in videos, but I understand if that is how you would like to portray yourself too.. Sometimes relationships don’t work, for various reasons.. and I hope you have found a good base with loving people around you ❤️ I have been with you for the past 5/6 years, and I will continue to be with you for many more. I have always loved your content regardless of where you were. It being Korea or Japan (or Canada of course) I normally don’t comment much, but you are one of the biggest reasons I fell in love with Japan. So thank you. ❤️❤️❤️ I wish I could give you the biggest hug you deserve ❤️ and I hope you find joy in the little things around you. I will wait for your videos for however long or short they will take. Please take care of yourself, and if ever you would need a shoulder. Please feel free to contact :) Love, Nathalie

[@Jinxter1369]

whoa...you w/o Maro and Luna? how? ...that is soul-crushing... hope life improves quickly for you

[@Pandaide]

hi. ive been watching your videos for a long time now and i just wanted to say thank you for sharing with us and don't you EVER apologize for the changes that life brings. life brings many seasons and we'll be here to support you through this new one. sending lots of love! really excited to see your new content~ ♥️

[@HidinginPublic]

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[@mightytauro8570]

you're an angel. so sorry that this experience happened to you, but I commend you so much on handling it with grace and integrity for both yourself and everyone (and every kitty) involved. wishing you so much happiness now for your life :)

[@SarahKey]

We love you so much. 💖

[@fantomanimus6401]

I’ve been watch in your channel for a long time! You helped me through my mom suffering then passing away with brain cancer. I’d watch your videos in the hospital. It’s so hard seeing you upset but I’m glad you can open up with us about this. I’m not expert but if you can relish in certain things that make you happy the transition might be easier. You have a new apartment? Decorate! Try new food. Try a new hobby. It may help it may not. Either way I hope we get to see you feel better again. Don’t feel too much pressure to be anything for us. Just be! -much love!

[@TheMichelleybelly89]

Thank you for sharing your sad news with us. I could see that it was a really hard thing for you to do, especially as you are grieving for your sweet little cats. My advice is to let yourself feel everything, don't hide behind a mask if you're feeling sad. Lean on friends who will listen, and give yourself time to think, cry or do whatever you need to do to get it out. When i left my parents home to move across the other side of the UK, I had to leave my Cat. I was so heartbroken, but she was 11 years old, and she was happy where she was. You made the best choice, and put their needs before your own. It was a very brave thing to do, but it was done out of your love for them. It gets easier if you keep reminding yourself of that. My heart goes out to you Sweet Lady, take care of yourself.

[@qwert_yuiop7506]

First-time commenter - So sorry to hear things didn't work out for you two. 😢 Wish you both the best going forward! Your channel helped inspire me at age 58 to finally get off my butt and over to Japan last Nov., so thank you! You're important to more people than you realize. Love your content; it's indelibly stamped with your personality, so screw the critics who say you're too happy - it's what I and I'm sure many more of your subscribers love about you! 🤗 (we know you're not all "fake sweet" anyway after seeing you cuss out 🤬 chris broad (well-deservedly) on that coaster at Fuji-Q! 🤣)

[@kellyclackum1310]

Sharla, just wanted you to know that you are an exceptional young woman! You are in my thoughts & prayers. 💚

[@darrellbaisley3917]

As you may know already Sharla, Life is a novel with many chapters. Stay as you are and keep smiling.

[@1islessthan3]

I hope you are doing well and enjoying Japan. You have helped me with my decision to visit Japan and where to go. You are so strong and wonderful.

[@Frau1224]

I hate commenting, hate it with a passion. But if I can say my thoughts and it helps I will. I love your videos. I've loved hearing about your experiences. I love how much passion you have for what you love. I'm sorry you're going through so much. Just watching this makes me want to hug you tightly and tell you, "you're not alone". I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but I'm glad you're here, in this community, sharing it with us. If there's anything, I, or the others can do to help, let us know. We look forward to hearing about your job and your adjustment. Don't feel you always have to be happy, even if that is who you are. We realize you are just human too, and when you reveal this side of you, it takes a lot of strength and vulnerability. So thank you for sharing.

[@heylisten7266]

I LOVE your attitude! Waiting until your emotions die down to say something, always trying to find something good about everything. We should all be like that. Wishing you absolutely the best~ Edit: And getting a second opinion from a doctor!!! Smh people who think doctors are always right

[@sneepsnorp1404]

Very sorry to hear this Shar. I hope the best for you. Sending healing vibes your way

[@Andoron]

Sharla... when I moved to Sweden, I had to leave my cat back in Hungary, and I thought I left in the right hands, but that wasn't the case, they "lost" him, and didn't say much at all of what actually happened. It crushed me, but for you, you at least know one thing: your pet is safe and you can see them. So even if it is hard now as hell, and I understand, you have something positive to look forward to. Also, you will have friends in Japan that you can count, as well as us, your absolute and loving fans, so you ARE NOT ALONE! I will actually travel to Japan in April for 3 weeks with my friend, and do videos too, maybe some day even move there and start all over. Good luck to you, cheer up, you are strong and an awesome person, it will all be good!

[@トササッ]

長い人生、辛い事や楽しい事を繰り返し、優しく強くステキな人と成長されると思います。盛岡も今年は雪も少なく段々と暖かくなり、もうすぐ桜も咲くと思います。盛岡は石割桜という、その名の通り石を割って咲く、まさにどんな逆境でも力強く、一生懸命綺麗に花を咲かせる桜があり、少しは元気をもらえると思います。陰ながら応援しております。🌸🌸🌸

[@shadow_glaive9220]

*Sadface* I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Sending you lots love and hugs. Also, I don't find your bubbly happiness annoying, it's endearing :3 I saw you first on Abroad in Japan, and subbed your channel because of how fun you are. :) xx

[@CadisEtramaDiRaizelHexion]

Sharla I’m so sorry!! Please stay strong!!! Sending you lots of love and good vibes ❤️

[@stu6816]

Sending you love from Germany 💖 don't be so hard on yourself. You got this 💞

[@venom2k2]

SCHEIẞE JA, MÄDCHEN. SIE WIRD ES SCHAFFEN, WEIL SHARLA IST DER FICKENDE BOSS, ICH SCHWÖRE

[@maksimilianbauer5129]

@@venom2k2 Hauptschule?

[@ClaireUSMC99]

Aww, this vlog made me sad. You're such an upbeat person and you make me giggle when you giggle. I am sorry about Maro & Luna being in Korea. They love you and will never forget you no matter how long it is that you see them next! I just lost my 14 year old black cat named, Calvin. When my sensors go off outside, I really miss him hard. Although I don't know you, I think that someone's character does reverberate through the videos...you have a sunny ☀️ and strong soul! I'm late with my comment but I play your videos throughout the day (from the beginning) because you are so likable and lovable! I hope things are easier now, Maro & Luna will never stop loving you!

[@dash3147]

*Hugs* Don't worry, we'll always be here for you! Take your time and recuperate from everything. I'm happy you're back in Japan but don't overexert yourself, take your time.