Why It Might Be Better to Live With Your Parents

A lot of people are worried about how they will be perceived if they move back in with their parents. Gary shares his thoughts with Matt D'Avella on why it's actually the right move for most young adults and what causes them to adopt these thinking patterns.
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[@slymjim102]

I’m 29 i’ll be 30 next year living with my parents. I love them so much and i’m so blessed God has given them to much. i’m a full time college student 👩‍🎓 and they’ve been a huge help with allowing me to still live with them save money all while getting my degree ❤️

[@emilpashov1993]

I just turned 30, went through a breakup and am back living with my mom and grandpa, it isn't bad at all. Helping each other with bills, chores and etc. is actually quite financially wise and less stressful.

[@WhitneyDanielle]

I did this and it helped a lot. It was challenging at times but I love my parents and it was what needed to happen so I could focus on what I needed to focus on. Idgaf what my friends or colleagues think + it’s none of their business anyway. 💗

[@devotheambivert9875]

I feel that

[@milah344]

❤

[@spacequeenruby]

You go glen coco

[@mrluis2479]

Life is not free tho

[@jt_rooster3228]

@@mrluis2479 Of course it's not, not with that poor attitude.

[@zk5640]

Here in India, we live with our parents all our lives. Infact we feel guilty moving out and leaving them alone.

[@siyankosi3661]

Damn

[@demetriuswilliams5620]

That’s cool

[@yamchayaku]

Even Asian households in the US are multigenerational. We actually pool our wealth and live pretty comfortably. We all get along and we don't even have to struggle to make ends meet. In fact we have a surplus of money so we can have nice things too. It sure beats trying to "live on your own" and live on just beans and rice for the rest of your life.

[@londoncuppa1963]

How do you get married and start a family

[@vandanrauthan5328]

@@londoncuppa1963 we pool our money and move to bigger house.. To make space for the spouse and kids

[@wturner777]

I moved back home to my mother's at 32, completely broke but not broken. I'll be starting a new job soon. This gives me time to get my sh*t together and invest in myself for my future. I'm sick and tired of permission.

[@shannon2748]

I agree. I hope to someday not only rely on some jerk to pay me so I can live. Depending on someone for your livelihood is dangerous.

[@mariedigital4404]

I’m in the same boat.. Good luck with the new job and you got this! :)

[@spacequeenruby]

Loved that, broke but not broken 🙌

[@phatrickmoore]

Great mindset and attitude. Hope things are going well!

[@Marbledesertproductions]

I hate living with my parents. It's nothing against them, I just want my own space. I ended up moving out twice just to move back in twice because of the economy. I have a full-time job. Yet, my choices are living with my parents in a nice house or living in a slum and barely being able to afford to eat. People tell me that's better than living with my parents, which is doesn't make any sense. People assume that my parents pays for everything, which isn't true. I pay my own phone bills, I buy my own food, and I helps my parents pay their bills. I've also paid my student loans off all by myself., Of course, I helps out around the house. Because I live with my parents, people treat me like I'm worse than a sexual predator. Well, that's what it feels like.

[@vitorpereira5461]

thats our reality, all around the world. I'm brazilian, same stuff here. At my home, theres a pool, huge yard, grass, my dog, etc. My parents are very honest people, but sometimes very toxic. With my current job, the place i can afford is a rat cage. Now i turned 25, graduating, realized i should just move out and work my ass to achieve a better life

[@juri7507]

@ImpaledLad 249 that's not true, my parents r immigrants and we lived in a hostel for ppl with no homes for 5 years until they got enough money to go to a community estate with 2 bedrooms and a living room merged with a kitchen and a bathroom. immigrants have to work just as hard, if not harder

[@andersonkarl2285]

You moved back in cause you had a place to go....if you had no where to go you would stop playing the victim and raise yourself up to a new level. Dont be a pussy!

[@shannon2748]

@@vitorpereira5461 You're lucky. Not everyone has rich parents with a nice house and a pool. Some people have parents who have a tiny house and you get zero privacy.

[@shannon2748]

@ImpaledLad 249 I know someone from the UK though. Aren't you all getting monthly pay from the government because of corona? She is. She said the UK govt is taking care of you all.

[@ligbzd837]

If you get along with your parents then by all means live together! You all can save tons of money, share resources, and care for each other. Many culture in tbe world do that still, and all cultures in the world did that before the industrial revolution where people switch from working for the Family farm to looking for work from strangers.

[@chapachuu]

I'm in my 30s and still live with my parents. I was financially independent (didn't cost my parents any money) throughout my 20s, but was only working part-time so I couldn't afford my own place. Then in my late 20s, I decided to go back to school and make a career change. I plan to continue living at home until my uni debt is paid off and I have enough to buy my own place, no mortgage and no debt. I find it highly unfortunate that there's such a stigma on adults living with parents in Western countries. There's nothing wrong with it. It's a smart financial move, at the very least.

[@SelfImprovement1111]

I could never do that, my mental state would collapse and I’d probably commit suicide. Prefer to make my own rules you see. But I get your point. I’d rather be broke though.

[@hyggeligt007]

@@SelfImprovement1111 It is good to see that drive of making your own rules but being broke is nowhere close to the definition of being a desirable outcome of living. Unless you want to experience first-hand how poverty works. One can't go around making their own rules while being broke. Independence requires 3 pillars to sustain itself: food, shelter and hygiene. Failing any one of this three will likely cause mental collapse to happen way faster than you'd expect. Read up on Maslow's hierarchy of needs as well. May you get a job that pays enough to maintain those three pillars. Until then, keep re-skilling yourself for the market while you still have access to these basic needs.

[@amrak7425]

Im 24 and still living with my parents after college and honestly I love it. Yes there are benefits to living alone or with roommates (like I did while attending school) but right now this just feels right. I can save up to 80% of my paycheck and instead of being in debt my whole life or working to pay the bills I'm working to build a better and easier future for myself. I get a lot of pitty from my friends but its almost funny because I think I might be the happiest and least stressed out of all of them. I know when the time is right I will find my own place (and BUY instead of rent) but right now, with COVID especially, the time doesn't feel right. I also think I've learned so much about myself and done so much healing while living here. You're right, we shouldn't live our lives based on other peoples opinions. I am happy and I feel good so that's what I care about. Thanks Gary

[@AncaBoBanca]

I'm 24 too and I think I'm about to move back in with my mom in a couple of months... reading your comment made me feel so much more confident in my decision, so thank you :-)

[@amrak7425]

@@AncaBoBanca Im so happy it could help! You got this!!

[@simsesworkshop1546]

I'm 22 and still living with my parents, and i love it, all of my friends moved out when they was around 17-20 years old, they dont have a penny in their bank account, they work their ass of trying to pay bills and ending up having no money left. They always makes fun of me, that i still live with my parents, and i always give them the same answer "I like it here, and i like to come home and have someone to talk to" but it dosn't let me down, because i made 100.000$ as 22 years old, i have a 2 motorcycles and a car. i'm just saving up money to buy a nice little apartment and go on vacation when ever i like :-)

[@JackGiblenSinger]

I literally could’ve typed this myself.

[@BOSSDONMAN]

Buying isn't always better than renting. There's an opportunity cost in having a sizable lump sum of money not being invested and saving it for a house. YMMV, but look up buy vs. rent calculators.

[@MishaElRusito]

I can't stand living with my parents but I know it's temporary. Plus I don't have another option, and I get to save money.

[@devotheambivert9875]

Word. I went back to my people's apartment two weeks ago. I'm a college grad and I am in the process of getting my money up and all that. I will make sure to be out and have my own apartment by Spring of next year. I plan on moving to the West Coast.

[@AmazingStoryDewd]

Why? Do you have a bad relationship with them or something?

[@Bieber95Gurl]

Russians React Yes! Living with your parents isn’t for everyone!

[@letsgoBrandon204]

Fair enough. I love living with my parents (and the dog 😉), but I do feel somewhat restricted.

[@MishaElRusito]

@@AmazingStoryDewd Yup. They are as toxic as can be, except at least the agression not physical, only psychological but it is HELL (It was hell until I moved out a few months after this comment haha my dad said either i leave the house or he beats me up LOL was a simple choice)

[@pault9544]

I think this is definitely good if you come from loving parents. When you're parents are abusive it's a different ballpark. That's where I am. But at least it's only temporary while I work on getting a masters degree. I just wish I had the means to get out now.

[@Dupreezine]

I did this when I moved back to my home state. My sister, nieces, mother and I moved into a 4 bedroom to pay less rent and regroup. It was short lived but mostly effectively for that 13 months.

[@devotheambivert9875]

It's good that things were mostly effective in your case. I think it would be hard for that year or two that people are saving up money for some people to live in apartments of parents who are toxic.

[@xxdeathxx9836]

Honestly staying with your parents is more logical people complain about being stuck in an apartment and being lonley. You can fix that by staying with your parents and helping them get a huge house for everyone instead of going off on your on because your supposed to do it. People often give in to peer pressure or pride just to say I'm living on my own. People need to grow up and learn to get along with there parents if they want a big home. What is the point of big house if you have no one to share it with.

[@obitouchiha6439]

House rules suck, though. Why the f*ck should we be forced to follow our parents outdated, traditional beliefs when we can just bounce and get our own place so we can do whatever we want? Moving out is the logical choice for anybody who wants to free themselves from parental authority. It's not our job to "get along" with our parents, that's typical collectivist propoganda.

[@jobrandays]

I've lived with my parents for 27 years. It is not easy to jump out of your parents' home, yet it is a piece of mind as long as you are having your own space. I work online 12 hrs a day, so I prefer to have my own life where I can eat and sleep anytime I want.

[@adamleddy9894]

I just invited my parents to move in with us! we are building a new house, I am doing my eMBA, I love my career, we are well in our means, I bring in enough, and now we are inviting them to come to Germany to have them live with us, my wife is a lawyer, she wants to get back in! we want them to see their grandkids, we want to also persue our careers, and have them around and look after them! this will make us and them happy! guys look after your kids! look after your parents! its an honour and should be a duty we lost! give it a go

[@demetriuswilliams5620]

So true

[@muhanadazmi3720]

I lived with my parents during university and two years after till age of 25. It was a good experience, now after I lived abroad, and my father moved to another country, and I lost my mom. I just feel lucky that my university was close to them and I'm happy that I did many memories with them and my siblings. Family is priceless.

[@abdualwhabalkhayl9237]

I think that you should live with your parents because that gives them a motive towards you that you are a caring person, because no matter how much you live with them, they will love you and take care of you, no matter your circumstances or age.

[@jobrandays]

So emotional 😢 I like it 👌

[@reem2944]

Living with parents is the biggest asset for me.. Mom n dad.. I love you too ❤️ ❤️

[@Abdullrhman94]

Living with your parents can have several advantages depending on the specific circumstances and individual preferences. In my opinion, these are some reasons why it might be better to live with your parents: 1- Financial Support. 2- Emotional Support. 3- Focus on Career or Studies. 4- Family Bonding. 5- Shared Responsibilities. 6- Guidance and Wisdom. 7- Health and Care Support.

[@jobrandays]

Great ideas 💡 ❤

[@ApastronRetro]

I just moved back home 36, my mom was sick and my stepfather works a lot. My help has helped her to feel better and help relieve some financial burden on them. It was not that uncommon for multi generational families to live together years ago.

[@MrMountainchris]

I'm 34. My parents are awesome. I built my own house on a trailer and have it parked on their land. I pay rent. I pay all my own bills and work full time. I enjoy spending time with my parents and want to enjoy our time together while they are still alive (in their late 60s). Their house will be mine when they die anyway so why leave? I've lived on my own before and it was nothing but struggle and loneliness, now with all the money I save, I have gone on vacations around the world. I have no interest in having kids or getting married any time soon so why would I move out, waste money on rent, and spend all my time alone? It's one thing if living at home is toxic but if not, try to see the good aspects. People who say you NEED to move out obviously don't have good relationships with their parents or have bought into capitalist bs of "everyone needs to buy a house".

[@sarahhaywoodlifestyleedit7720]

I’m 32 and I moved back in with my parents after spending over ten years living 260 miles away. Why? I want to purchase my own property and as a single person it would take me years to save up that deposit if I was still renting. I will be moving out next year (will have been at home two years by that point) and I know that I won’t regret it. Sometimes you’ve got to make short term sacrifices for the long term gain.

[@shannon2748]

True, but when I've stayed wth my parents before, my dad screams a lot and is always complaining and talking from morning to night about various things and trash talking other people. Their house is a tiny 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom house and I have to hear that constantly.

[@iamzay4938]

@@shannon2748 gotta humble yourself bro until God blesses you with your own. You have to let go of your pride and shut up if you don’t have your own. Just keep praying to Jesus and grind hard, stay humble you’ll be ok bro

[@RhetoricalMuse]

@@iamzay4938 prob a good idea to leave your religious beliefs out of it. Just comes across as preachy - not everyone shares your religion or beleifs.

[@tyrellmaten5281]

Smart strategy and sage advice at the end 😀.

[@parissmythe8104]

This is a struggle for me right now 😭

[@BRich]

Parent should want them to live there not till some age that they can "make it" on their own but actually till then can thrive on their own. Send them out without debt

[@tharpeaddy]

Exactly...then parents are like...why did he come back home? The world is over populated now. We are literally fighting over jobs...there’s not enough jobs. Plain and simple. We are raised in a world where we compete in this arena...that will always leave someone else without a job. Always. If there’s a winner there’s got to be a loser. This is why I’m not having kids...for what? So they can grow up fighting for a job? I don’t want them to have to fight for their place in life. It’s their birth right not a fight.

[@alexandercrush]

Parents are happy to have their kids live with them if they are actually doing something. The parents that complain are the ones that see their child just playing games 24/7, not working, and just wasting their life.

[@punkrock1989]

@@tharpeaddy You aren't given everything in life, stop expecting people to just be given a job because they are on earth. You have to work hard in life not just get handed everything.

[@khaledadil9405]

I'm 28 years old right now, I have lived with my parents for more than 19 years, and these years were the best time that I have ever lived again in my whole life until now. looking after me like a child, calling me every two or three hours when I am late tonight. I am living abroad now, and this made me know how much I was lucky living with my parents, really they are priceless blessings.

[@jobrandays]

Great shot 👌

[@khaledadil9405]

@jobrandays thanks our great teacher

[@hayat-afandi]

I believe that every person needs the presence of his parents near him, because life is not complete without them through their support for you morally, financially and socially, where we find a person, no matter what problems happen to him, he goes to his parents, and also the person must live a certain period of stability alone in order to depend on himself and feel responsible and how to make his future decisions by himself.

[@jobrandays]

Great ideas 💡 ❤

[@graceanderson7933]

I'm 22 and still live with my parents. I was severely ill as a teenager and spent most of my time in the hospital so I only graduated high school at 19 and started college at 21. Right now most of my energy is focused on getting my degree and pursuing an entrepreneurial venture. I refuse to get a low level retail or restaurant job where I have to be around people and get abused by customers all day. Don't get me wrong I respect service workers and admire them for putting up with that. It's just not for me. Since my parents have the means to support me while I get started on my long term career I'm going to take that opportunity to focus on what's important to me. I'm very lucky in that regard since not everyone has that option

[@zoyakosmodienska370]

I’m from Poland. People used to build houses fit for at least 2 generations. Grandparents would take the ground floor, parents and kids would live on first and second floor. It used to be a norm and still is in many parts of Poland.

[@efroggys]

I made 81K gross in 2020 and recently moved back with parents to get ahead faster on savings and paying off debt. There’s a misconception that living with your parents means you’re lazy and poor. Similar to how there’s a misconception that if you drive a fancy car you’re rich. Anyone can go into debt for things they can’t afford to look rich.

[@gedward86]

Facts!

[@consciousnobody]

Love it, Love it - I lived out of home for almost 10 years - away, abroad, and now I am back home; living at home is so comfortable; save a bunch and probably make a better future.

[@rdgc1105]

I forgot to say... My wife and I lived with her parents for 6 months as well while I was going through a patchy spot in business, had a spec house that didn't want to sell, opened a new business with no pipeline yet and it made sense. My wife and I moved back to new house after my business took off and it was not financially a stretch for us

[@CJ-fh5xq]

I am 22 and I live with my parent. I even commute everyday from college as well. I don't mind and they don't too. More money that I save, that I can invest.

[@dustywilson5461]

i'm 35 and have been in and out of my parents' house for the past 10 years. It's just my mom and i now. Frankly i love it; we get along and she'd be alone without me since my dad has passed a few years ago. However i am ready to move on and move out into my own place, but the pandemic is fucking up my plans (along with everyone else's). It's such a stupid stigma to condemn adults living with their parents. There'a a million reasons and circumstances why people do it; often, for financial reasons. In much of the world, multigenerational homes are common.

[@CartoonEric]

It's better to be living with loving parents than to be out on the streets.

[@tharpeaddy]

Me too buddy well I’m 25...it’s depressing to think that I may be in this shit for the rest of my life which is why my emergency escape is this pistol 🔫 I bought for my own permanent solution. If I become homeless again this may very well be my only way out. Signed by the Joker. 🃏

[@chicowasp]

Just done this my self .moved in with my mum .My dad passed away,and my mum was lonely .Me and my partner ,were living in a pretty crappy flat .So it made sense ,for now,if not for ever,im 49 .my partner is 54 .Godd and bad days .For me ,i get caught up out of the blue with feeling i had when i lived here at age 15,and not all good back then.Then i think ,since my dad passed ,my mum has changed,and is not always happy ,as she used to be ,but understandable why .She sais ,she is over the moon with us here.

[@nelsanitytv2109]

@@tharpeaddy that's not the plan buddy unless you thrive hard and still no results then maybe that's the answer. But now you have to do all that you can.

[@THE______TRUTH]

The number of times I've stumbled across a gary vee video that targets exactly the issue im dealing with is starting to become scary. 26 living with my parents and trying to build a strong foundation for myself...coworkers and friends are kinda laughing at the fact I don't intend to move out soon. I love my parents and we get along fine and I have so much more space and freedom to work and build and save up my money and they've encouraged that. Nevertheless everytime I go to work I feel ashamed to tell my coworkers that I'm still living with the fam. I feel like I'm doing the right thing but my ego is so hurt. I say "I'm living with family" because I'm embaressed to say living with parents.

[@10kchallange94]

I hear you Garry. I am back home and yesterday my father tried to burn me with heating iron because he got mad while pressing clothes. I face a lot of thereats like these every single day and everytime my parents get to know i got my own money or I'm working on something important that will make me financially independent, be around people other than them... I love my parents but they are okay only when I'm in my room all day not going out, not meeting new people, making sure that i don't tell anyone what they do to me... I got a space to live but feel I'm in a prison for no fault. I'm 21

[@Zen_Power]

That is not ok to be burned with an iron. That is assault and your dad needs to know it’s absolutely not acceptable. I hope he hasn’t been mistreating you again.

[@tashawilliams8093]

I hope you got out of there.

[@yamchayaku]

I worked at different jobs in IT and software engineering. I started 50k and made my way to 80k a year during my 20 years. I also stayed with my parents because all of the jobs I lived in were in the same city. There was no point in wasting money on rent if I could just live at home and just contribute to some of the expenses at a fraction of the price of an apartment. I managed to save up all my money because I hated my career and decided to retire early. 80k is garbage pay if you work 100 hour weeks. I got sick of it and just quit. I just work on my hobbies of computer repair and drawing now, and also make an income from them as well. I don't even work hard on those either, as I only do that whenever I'm bored. Living with my parents while saving and investing was the best decision I've made. But now I feel sorry for all the other people who bought into the "standing on your own two feet" and "living on your own". They wasted all their money on rent, and they'll probably never be able to see retirement. Live with your parents when you can and save your money. You'll probably work until you're old and too broken to physically move if you don't.

[@jaydurant6553]

I’m in the middle of doing exactly this to your point Gary V... I got a full time job now and aggressively saving up, paying down my debt from student loans, levelling up my credit score, all while my dad is super proud of me A.k.a his youngest son getting a fresh restart and a better mindset for the future.

[@RhetoricalMuse]

I think western culture needs to shift so that ther stigma of young people (up to say 30) is completley removed. The amount of money that peeople spend on rent is silly, when Asian families are getting wealthier due to using this non-stigma approach.

[@richmondkevin12]

I moved out at 18 had great success and a rollercoaster of life BUT 27 shit hit the fan in my life and I wound up moving in with my mom and brother..I’ve been back for 8 months now and I’ve been devising a strategy to get back out..I feel like a failure but at the same time this has helped me in a few key areas of my life that would have taken longer to achieve..I think it’s worth noting that when I moved out at 18 I didn’t care how my parents felt about it..I did it anyways...but now 27..I sort of feel that when I leave..my mom and brother are going to feel abandoned..it’s weird..but I’m trying to block that aspect out and get back out there anyways because I’m so much better..my confidence is way up, obviously..and I take better care of my self physically..Im very excited to get back out into the world but I know I cannot let shit hit the fan again so Ill take the failure and learn from it, make sure this type of situation doesn’t happen again

[@AlishasTestimony]

This message blessed me❣️

[@robinsl27]

When I got out of the Navy and wanted to focus on using my Post 9/11 G.I bill it definitely helped me to move back with my mom. Also me and my wife were going through the immigration process, and was going to take her some time to move to the U.S anyway so it was great for me. I feel sorry for people that end up going bankrupt and live their whole life in the red, because they don’t want their high school friends finding out their living at home with their parents.

[@doloresvangaal2248]

I am very lucky to have reasonable and supportive parents. And everyone does his/her part in the household. That helps a lot.

[@ISILENTNINJAI]

I'm 25. Live with my dad, brother and 7yr old sister. Mother passed away 6yrs ago. I stay at home because I don't really need a house or apartment. I work most of the time and only spend time at home when I sleep. Currently have 50k in the stock market, planning on going to college to get a degree in software engineering, potentially doubling my income 3-4 years after getting a job in software engineering.

[@sleezy2531]

Good for you dude, my bros still live with me and my mom who are both in their 20's, just a quick question for you. How does it feel to have such a huge sibling age gap? For me my brothers are kinda older than me by like 13, 11, and 9 years apart. We're really close though, I love them so much. Like growing up I always thought how weird i was born a decade after them. We all grew up in different times.

[@Mohammed.Nageeb]

From my side, I think it is difficult to live far away from your parents, as I've developed a solid connection with them. It has been 8 years; it is like 80 years, especially when they are elderly and I am the sole breadwinner for them. I think they need special care at this age, so I am trying to visit and keep in contact with them every now and then.

[@jobrandays]

Good points to be considered 👌

[@minas.831]

I think that living on my own was much easier than living with people it’s something that live their lives either way with. The easier way isn’t the best way surprisingly. Truth is living on my own and I missed my parents too much. Happiness is more important than appeasing the senses.

[@jazz22354]

Most people who talk down on people who move back in with their parents are just envious they don’t have that luxury available

[@Omari1125]

If I didn't have my high paying job I would still be living with my parents too. There's literally studios in my city that cost over $1,000 a month. I feel for anyone making less than $20 hr. these days.

[@rik-keymusic160]

I still live with my parents… being working on my passion for about 8-9 years… i now play the piano, classical stuff but also jazz and i also learned 3 years to play trumpet 🤷 fuck the stigma!! They just want you to be a consumer… we should focus on community instead of separating because society said so! If you follow mainstream you’ll probably end up in a midlife crisis around the age of 40-50… not knowing who you are or what you really want from life… perhaps a divorce and maybe lots of trouble dealing with other peoples shit! Paying alimony or maybe even your not able to see your damn kids…. People perhaps laughing at me but in the end, i play the sad songs for them!

[@tharpeaddy]

I really admire Gary. If more people thought like him...I live with my dad. When I was 19-23 I was out of parents house. I moved back in after I tried and tried to do things on my own. Little did I know from the start minimum wage wasn’t enough anyway. Also jobs can let you go anytime. Now I am going to school to get my cdl to become a truck driver. Community college. In the long run it will all be worth it. I’m 25 now. Things are slowly getting better. I have a part time job. I’m not worried about how much I make or how many hours I get but that doesn’t mean that (boss music playing) my dad or anyone else doesn’t care...When I start school I won’t be able to work much at either one of these jobs. Maybe weekends at the most. I don’t want to look for jobs I’m gonna get the same experience and pay regardless. I’ve tried that...I’ve been working since I was 16...anyways that’s all I got for now folks ✌️

[@fatherlegion8386]

Truly being family oriented is the best way to be successful if you make great money, stay with your parents, help them pay the home off, and rent it out then get a bigger home to expand the family by getting a wife having kids and repeating the process!!

[@Hypatiaization]

I’ve had to do this out of desperation and it sucks 😞

[@dee23gaming]

During C o v i d, moving out at 21 would be a death sentence in South Africa

[@pushstartpodcastwithandile6997]

Bruuv...

[@madelinebaumann8987]

Love my family, but I have no control of my life, I’m treated like I’m 16 again and I’m woken up and can’t “be out” I have a job I pay my own bills and I’ve never asked for them to pay for anything. And I’m being told everyday how I’m not enough and how everything I like is wrong. It’s hard to keep my head down and believe that I’ll make it out of this rut, I got divorced and got in a car wreck at the beginning of the year and I’m already caught back on bills and I just want them to quit taking control and let me breathe a little bit.

[@letsgoscoutside4910]

Respectfully, as someone who did this until they both passed at the age of 34, it depends HEAVILY on the parents. Some parents are hideous people, others are too mothering and tightly clutching the apron strings. Sometimes it can work wonderfully, but it can also harm more than help. I am in the camp of not living with your parents past an appropriate age, but then again that's just based on my experiences. The money saved wasn't worth it.

[@MishaElRusito]

I agree. Also depends on the size of the house. If your parents live in a tiny small house or apartment, and they are hideous people, then it's gonna be super depressing to live with them and see and hear their BS everyday

[@devotheambivert9875]

@@MishaElRusito Word

[@devotheambivert9875]

I feel that too @Scoutside

[@livelovely4681]

Gary values money over time/health anyway so his advice is only for those who have a similar mindset.

[@Marbledesertproductions]

That's why I'm working a full-time job with another side job, and investing my money. I've invested most of my money on creating an online publication. My goal is to make money from creating content and to supplement my income on return on investments. And of course, still work an actual job.

[@soter305]

“Happiness and fulfillment has to become a much bigger part of the conversation than financial upside.”Truer words were never spoken. Thank you so much for the enlightenment.

[@prettyhollypolly7553]

This guy is very wise. I’m impressed.

[@DvdLr7943]

Teenagers prefer debt and freedom than happiness and freedom. Living with your parents is normal all around the world. The US has sold the idea to everyone that "i raised you for 18 years, now get out of my life" that parents and children are part of the problem. I'm 24 and still living with my parents. I pay part of my rent and help with the bills. I dont go out with friends much so i dont have a need to be explaining stuff to them that often. And i'm happy to be with them.

[@miguelle4136]

believe it or not, Indian families are amazing least mine is I mean living with parents get their love take care of them yeah its way better than living alone and depressed as living like this can make you feel happier

[@Kawfeeislife]

my father and I have a great relationship. I had to move out at 18 because my mom chose a new career in a new city. it wasn't best for me to go with her. my father wasn't in a position to have me move in unless I really needed to as he was moving. now I am 21 and am moving in with my father. my bf and I currently live together and we are over extended due to the rental market being so much higher now. we plan to utilize the time at home to wait out the upcoming recession to avoid accumulating un necessary debt. plus it allows us to pursue post secondary. I am all for moving home if the situation allows for it. there's a stigma amongst other family members of the same age, but I see it as us doing what we can to come out of the upcoming recession more successfully then those trying to extend themselves who will inevitably get a little burned.

[@RamaSivamani]

Let's say you work and live in the same town your parents live in and you decide to move out an rent an apartment. Why? Where is the benefit? Would you not rather that rent money go towards contributing to your parent's household vs a random landlord's pockets? Let's say both your parents are working now it becomes your income plus your parent's contributing into this household. It is a three income household so your income gets factored in for household bills and expenses. This would also allow you to save up the money to buy a place instead of renting or may allow you to put more money into investments or rental properties.

[@juliansteur]

hey gary, interesting perspective! the thing is, you talk about happiness right? i’m 19 and am so so much happier when i’m not in my small town surrounded by negativity & small minded people... i’m at a stage where i wanna see the world and find the people, things and creativity i resonate with... so moving out would be the better option right?! thanks 💙

[@tharpeaddy]

Omg the negatives talk....they should be living our life right? Not us

[@12lanesmith12]

I moved always from a small town three years ago at 19 and I am thinking of moving back soon.

[@markjou9799]

It all depends on your lifestyle. If your lonely and don’t do a lot, then living at home might be good for you. I moved out when I was 18 and don’t regret it one bit. I work 40 hours a week(Monday-Friday) and it’s so fun when the weekends come, especially on Saturday nights because I like going on Grindr and finding a quick hookup for the night and then inviting him over my place to have some fun. One other benefit of having your own place is that you can order whatever you want online without having your parents question you what it is. I just love living on my own, it’s so fun. Also people talk about saving money while living at home but I am paying 1800 a month for a 1 bedroom apartment and I am still able to max out my 401k every year. In my case, moving out of my parents house when I was 18 was the best decision that I ever made. Anyone have any questions for me?

[@jacqueslee2592]

Damn, you must have a high body count. Sex shouldn't be the reason to be able to live on your own.

[@markjou9799]

@@jacqueslee2592 it’s not the only reason. It’s “one” of the reasons.

[@yumyum1742]

This is so helpful ♥️ was thinking about moving out🏠 now I think I’ll stay.

[@TheCraftingProsHD]

Yaay please stay

[@Metalpazallteway]

In this pandemic any ego will get shot down lol

[@drewtrulock333]

Had to do it caz of pandemic and im goin nuts

[@austinhernandez2716]

My mom tries to control every part of my life and I'm 23. I had to ask her for permission to leave the house and spend the night at my cousins house. All I did there was watch a movie and chill. Then she got mad and said that she could take that "privilege" away. A few days ago she was furious because I got home late(only 11pm) and threatened to kick me out of the house herself. Well I already planned on it.

[@imjustsayin34]

This is why I want to move out. I’m 23 and my parents are just god awful at boundaries it’s stifling. I don’t have any network or ability to date freely because of an outrageous curfew

[@kevinmcfarland4322]

People say it’s embarrassing to live with your parents in your 20s. Well at 21 I’m still living with my dad. It works out because my mom isn’t in the picture and he likes the company and I help out around the home. Also have been able to save 100k since my expenses are so low. Still not enough to buy a house tho😃 I love America

[@christiangoodin347]

I'm 26 years old and I'm still living with my parents. At least then I won't have to be homeless while I'm developing my own self employed business online. I'm being paid while I'm working from home, but there are times when I feel left behind in life because of where I live. I see other people who are at my age who have a well paid job and earned enough money to afford their own home. The more I see that, the more I feel left behind. But the thing is, i also forget that it takes time for a business I'm creating to take off. It doesn't just happen over night. Which means that until I'm being paid enough to have my own house or a flat, living with my parents would be the best option.

[@nelsanitytv2109]

There's no problem living with your parents actually, but you have to have a job or even part time jobs. You just can't live with your parents and give them headaches. In the Philippines, we have the culture where we live even in our 40's because we take care of our parents if they get old.

[@Melly16yr10]

26 with parents and I'm with them because I just don't have the means to move out at the momen.

[@daddsha]

and thats okay

[@deannegoodfellow5749]

I observe everyday people everywhere fighting and consequently currently having to take control of over their unique affairs, you are currently not about to be able to come to be empowered if you happen to be not ready to produce the choice that sets you free. You see the choices in life we help to make are positively or occasionally poorly reinforcing our behavior and so our own lives.

[@shrutimaurya2375]

We Indians are living with parents from years ! Its nothing wrong #Indianculture

[@WowDaniX]

Because of this video you just earned one new follower. Thank you for this video.

[@brianranger7407]

As always ALOT of TRUTH!!!! Thanks Gary 🎯🙏🥇✌️❤️

[@jensahawk233]

About to do this to save for my first home and stop wasting money on rent. Need to start again and get ahead

[@obitouchiha6439]

House rules are still a thing. That's what you're going to have to suffer if you choose to live with your parents.

[@dalehawkins-lw6rc]

(FACTS OVA FEELINGS) Wen Eu r Living with Ur Parents Eu may Not Real-eye the Tuu Impacks of the Negative Effects tha the Famileye System Patterns r having on Eu. One of the Reason for this is tha Every Person Normalizes Their Environment

[@punkrock1989]

I'm 19 and I'm still at home, I have my own part time job and I'm studying IT at tech, or college if Ur American. I pay the electric for the house and there's 6 of us so I think I'm doing fair?🤷

[@fisherroastedpeanut]

I’m 29 and live with my parents now and I can’t stand it.

[@ryanjacoshenk]

I am 30 and have been living back with mom since 22. its been hellish ever since. i got a reading at 22 from a psychic who basically said i need to go on a journey or a pilgrimage like she did to find her strength. I have tried several times to pack a bag and walk out the front door, and still plan to, but nothing sticks. I turn back around to the warm house and never learn to ask for help from my fellow man. I know i can be more resourceful in the real world if i just jump in. Its a built in pride that i fear because i will never be the same if i learn to adapt to the cold. Do i want a better life? or just keep living like a caged animal?

[@RhetoricalMuse]

Prob a good idea to not believe in woo woo when making life choices.

[@ryanjacoshenk]

@@RhetoricalMuse oh, I changed my mind. Thanks for telling me.

[@KaiBullyssssss]

Move out

[@jackielehman8945]

40yrs old ans moving back in a few months!

[@user-pq9gy3fq1q]

I feel like that having to pay no rent, don't have to prepare food, no taxes, get a free ride, etc. Outweights getting a house or renting, which cost money, and isn't really a good asset to get. Also my folk's house is quite nice.

[@olivetree5670]

I think the concept of you MUST independent and live outside parents' home are old ideas (as single, couples it is diff story). Both ways could work. I have been independent living since college but moved back to my parents home close to 40 (unplanned). There are pros and cons to both and neither is right or wrong. I hope people make decision following their own path rather than social pressure. I miss my own time for living by myself but at the same time try to spend time with them before they pass.

[@komalv9599]

Completely agree with this but it's kinda other way round in India, people from generations are living with their parents along with their siblings and their families, but they loose the autonomy over their lives. Parents try to never let their children live by themselves even if they are 40 and above and think that their children owe for raising them and parents want to have control ovee their children's lives. If someone moves out of their parents' home in India they are vilified for being selfish.

[@Phant0mGetsuga993]

It’s the same for Pakistanis, and God-forbid you get an apartment instead of a house with a wife like they did. Like I don’t blame them but times have changed

[@tylerdrew296]

I might do this. I never cared what people have to say. They asking personal questions I’ll start lying if I have to.

[@7ifestyle]

Thank you. I been down cause im 19 n I feel like I should already be out my moms house. Needed to hear it i gotta gring until I can leave.

[@angelicaangel2624]

Smart people stay with their parents as long as they can and put some money into the house instead of paying rent to a stranger landlord. Wake up people, we are being shamed for spending less money.

[@r------]

Getting away from abuse is not ego buy choosing to stay and get abused is definitely ego

[@user-su9jg7wp4c]

I don't want to live with my parents😢 I want to be independent have my own life and space.

[@tashawilliams8093]

💯

[@phillipchavez1321]

Hmmm, I don't quite agree. Maybe it's like, if you're gonna leave your parents home, don't leave because you hate them or stuff like that (trying to live a life that other people advocate -Gary Vee said something like that; for example, "Leave your home and grow up, suceed thrive!"). If one is to leave their parents home, it is to be because the person genuinely wants to; the person is not being pushed or pressured...., and even if they are being pushed by other people, they should decide based on what the individual person believes to be best -person arrives at a decision based on their internal conviction. Don't leave your parent's home with bad feelings against them, or remorse, because that can intervene with your decision in a bad way -it can block you from seeing things clearly.

[@itsrelativ3967]

Bullshyt. My parents never could or had to move back in with their parents while being in their 20s or 30s. My parents are in their early 60s now and that wasn't even an option they could resort to having in their young adult years. My mother and I (when I was young child) did move in with her sister (my aunt) for a couple of years when she was finishing up her college degree so she could get back on her feet. The way I look at is, the government wants us to work forever and never own anything. And if you do own something, they'll figure out how to tax you in every way.

[@RakimBarnes]

DAAAAMN U KILLED IT !

[@AnthonyGarcia-rb3ph]

What if you have little debt 18 and want to move in with a friend work and side hustle on the side, honestly I’ll rather other people criticize me and being able to do my shit for a couple years and be happy !

[@alezandradavila2581]

Yea

[@5ksubscriberswithoutanyvid648]

*Literally 1 % people who are reading.....May you parents live happily healthily for more then 💯 years😇❤️💙❤️🙏😇*

[@blackyoshi4484]

I’m not of age yet but I don’t know if I should live with my parents since they are mentally abusive and were one of the reasons I was suicidal most my life and my dad has threatened to kill me and beat the living shit out of me a lot of times and when I’m a adult I just wouldn’t be able to take that threating

[@Zen_Power]

You leave as soon as possible. I’ve read so many comments here of fathers who have been abusive to them. It’s completely unacceptable. I hope you are ok. I grew up watching domestic violence and again it was my dad who couldn’t manage his temper. I have zero tolerance for domestic violence. Unbelievable.

[@elliemichel7560]

Thank you so much for this.

[@angelenaharry7931]

What if like me, you're unable to save any money because you support them financially with half your salary every month. Which isn't much at all in my country😕. How do you move if you're feeling guilty about leaving them basically hanging, but you can no longer deal the the toxicity?

[@jshir17]

*Yes; Living at Home is much better!* I’d recommend for all marginalized people like disabled, working class, ethnic minorities, etc to stay home because America has become unsafe to live alone in the hood or small towns full of racists, ableists..

[@gamingwithkev8208]

Maybe that's my issue. I thought my ego was gone because I live with my mom after not being able to get a job due to becoming temporarily disabled eith depression due to a very controversial med a doctor placed me on while in school. It's embarrassing and makes me selfish conscious and worry about what others say. I'm Moy in my younger 20s or younger 30s but mid 30s and sometimes just don't want to be here anymore. I'm so ashamed I don't know what to do. Yes I always had a dream of buying a health after graduating college for my whole family to stay with me. I'm not sure why that would make me feel better or change how I feel when it's the same thing but I guess it's being more in control if someone has something negative to say about it..

[@Asuraskeye]

Hey I found this video and it was very reassuring because I’m 21 turn 22 dec 7🥳 and I really am interested in nomadic culture van and car living but yes like you said I still see that as a form of pride or ego because you can build a headquarters or base by either buying land with multiple people and building alternative style houses and things so you are on a appropriate budget or live with a lot of roommates under a reasonable occupancy house? While you take your time to figure out life and such. $1500.00 rent and it’s 7 people in one house or something so you split it 200 a month? That’s an incredible deal!!! Mind you having to get used to communal living but I’m still working on my ego and things to live amongst others but I really hope we figure things out I get really stressed because of the paradigm society is under but I transcend!!!

[@derickkamau262]

My dad decided to pay a visit to my crib now it is a stay of 5months.

[@caster863]

What if your parents die, not able to take care of you, or refuse to allow you to move out?

[@shannon2748]

You're an adult. They can't refuse to allow you to move out.

[@marcusstrymon693]

I feel like I must leave home, otherwise I will remain alone. What girl would like to get a dude being 25 and still live with their parents? Grown up women do have higher standards than that and I fear like I am not enough if Instill live at home, that they might not treat me like a grown up...

[@gelatoruntz4200]

trust, women will still go for u regardless if u move out or not

[@marcusstrymon693]

@@gelatoruntz4200 Hey thanks for the answer. I appreciate it and now it doesnt matter bc I moved from gime 3 weeks ago.

[@gelatoruntz4200]

@@marcusstrymon693 how’s it going? i’m in a privileged situation where i’m living rent free in my early 20s (hispanic culture) living in a paid off house with a household of 3 ppl including myself which makes it 4 & 2 dogs, saving/spending money a bit, & also planning on quitting my part time toxic job in april so i can start a side business at hope to make more than $80 every week