Why It's a Curse To Be A Female ENTJ

[@mariathomson.property]

I am a 61 year old female ENTJ passionately married to an INTJ for 34 years, 4 fabulous children. The moment I met him I heard a voice in my head say “I could marry THIS man” I think ENTJ’s are very good at choosing the right people in every sphere of life- you just need to do it in choosing a life partner

[@GhostofJung]

Oh this is an awesome story. I think ENTJs are very good at picking the people they need in their life. I have seen them struggle to pick a spouse that matches their intensity and drive, however.

[@nikitran9332]

being a female ENTJ has never limited me in any way and quite frankly my confidence draws alot of people.

[@GhostofJung]

I bet! Do you have a big friends group?

[@callmehkatie9518]

Me too

[@JENNerationX]

As a female ENTJ also it deters a lot as well. It’s one or the other -

[@julie2673]

I was going to comment almost exactly the same thing. We’re not victims, and it’s entertaining that someone will think we are.

[@evaanjos]

Such a pleasure to be on your channel, thanks for inviting me and bringing such interesting topics to the table! x

[@GhostofJung]

You were so much fun to interview. ENTJs will be greatly helped by hearing what you have to say and not feel alone in this world 🌎

[@Persephone44]

I so relate to you! Thank you!

[@nikitran9332]

optimizing something that was previously optimized is definitely ENTJ.

[@RP4Faith]

60 year old ENTJ female here :D ....two short marriages when I was young, single for 25 years (and loving it), successful professional ready to retire, and mother of a very successful daughter dentist (who thinks I was too controlling, lol). But very proud of my achievements, including seeing my daughter's life developing as I prayed for. She is happily married with two beautiful daughters. Can't wait to explore what I really love without the burden of having to make money. Life is full of undiscovered places and wisdom.

[@GhostofJung]

Love this. Appreciate your perspective here!

[@FindingYourSerenity]

The ENTJ is one of my favourite types, if not my favourite. It's great to see a female one of this species. I'd say it's a curse being an INTP female too but you probably already know why.

[@GhostofJung]

I do, I do. Being that smart but also that awkward can be tough to navigate the world 🤣

[@NB-qy7ku]

Think intp are one of my favorite types. You being a female intp is a beautiful blessing in my opion. I thank god you here on planet. Think it be curse if intp were not here. You are blessing. Know you are blessing. You are gift to the ones around you. They received a precious gift whether they know it or not with you in their lives.

[@FindingYourSerenity]

@@NB-qy7ku That is so sweet of you to say! I definitely don't hear this much at all of our type so thank you for appreciating us :)

[@NB-qy7ku]

@@FindingYourSerenity welcome. Hope you can come to appreciate you and your worth. Because you are beautiful. Intp are glorious and amazing. Mesmerizing and one of the finest gems. Hope you can come to realize how valuable you are or other intps.

[@aprilwright3900]

Being a Black female ENTJ is definitely a challenge in a world where we’re already stereotyped as aggressive and bossy.

[@GhostofJung]

How have you navigated that?

[@aprilwright3900]

​@@GhostofJung Best I can. I have and will in the future run into people who pull the "Angry/Aggressive Black woman" trope on me. It's definitely frustrating. Some BW may shrink themselves to be more acceptable. No shade if they do. But I can't because that diminishes my talents and quality of life. I will live for myself - not others' approval. Nor will I lower my standards. Being a polarizing figure is accepting you aren't everyone's cup of tea. But being polarizing brings you to the right people and opportunities. On a practical level, I try to avoid working under insecure/feely-feely-types. It will likely never work. I help facilitate organizational change and being proactive, decisive, and willing to move the needle is usually appreciated.

[@tyana_allday]

@@aprilwright3900 you are spot on! As a research scientist, I diminished myself for decades to fit into a space where I was typically the only Black woman. While I am extroverted I found myself overdoing it to seem less aggressive both in my professional career and personal life. Thankfully, I was able to break free of that mindset in my late 30's and I haven't turned back since!

[@nagathachristie5059]

My ppl! BLK Female ENTJs! My male bosses have never been the problem-they love my mercenary side. However, it can quickly turn into the Real Housewives of Project Management, huddle room #22 when it’s just the ladies. (I hate myself for betraying my gender.)

[@englishmuffin7]

Same, I'm also a black female ENTJ and had issues with my father when he sometimes commented on how i walk around the house like i own the place and manage my siblings when we assign chore rotations, but I obviously know I don't own the house because it's not in my name and I'm not paying any bills. Also had these arguments with my manager when i have no idea why she singles me out. But basically you're right, we are always expected to be mean and bossy already but when our personality is literally being a boss-like character, it makes it seem like their bigotry is valid. I'm learning to focus on what i am and what I'm not or will not put up with. Including people like them.

[@victoriarr596]

Gosh, main challenge in being ENTJ female is that, you are alone, finding a partner who is strong enough. I guess guys have it easier, they can find an F type girl who is soft and fuzzy and be fine with it, they are fine with being a sugar daddy, can’t see female ENTJs being ok with being a sugar mommy. Female ENTJs are strong but need someone even stronger! Queen needs a king, not a troubadour or a counsellor, but someone on the same level. Weary is the head that wears the crown...

[@GhostofJung]

I wonder about this with ENTJ females. Is the only cure another Te heavy user that meets them at their level. What if they are more successful? I assume that would be OK.

[@RP4Faith]

Well said Victoria!!!

[@user-ep4jo1ev3j]

I am a female ENTJ. I heavily agree that we need someone stronger than us. I keep attracting INFJ men 😅

[@GhostofJung]

Hahaha oh noooooooo!

[@rpaafourever7908]

F type women do or do NOT look for a sugar daddy anymore than T women do, and you can approve or disapprove. They are just more in touch with their feminine energy. ALL women seek a man who’s comfortable with his masculine energy, that’s why ENTJ women already in touch with their own masculine energy still seek a ‘stronger’ man who will at least be their ‘equal’ in that regard.

[@lmart16]

@6:30 The curse of the ENTJ is to make everything more functional and to leave the world in a better place. If I were immortal, I'd work in every field to figure out how to make the entire world function better. Curiosity, the need to learn and grow, and the want to make everything and everyone better..

[@GhostofJung]

"Leaving the world a better place" is not the first phrase I'd imagine an entj saying 😂😂

[@miahan8988]

I’m a Ne-dom and I get what you said about having a tool for every hobby :) I learned about what Eva said (about choosing less to focus on more) when I was in high school. I found the KonMari book about tidying up and that pretty much changed my life. I threw out so many things I no longer needed or used, or liked, many impractical knick-knacks, etc. It’s much easier to keep things tidy now, highly recommend. I also relate to what she said about people doing things (or walking) slowly lol

[@GhostofJung]

Good for you! Reduce the physical clutter to make room for mental space!

[@tyana_allday]

I have found my people! I've never felt so seen before! Everything she said was on point.

[@GhostofJung]

Wooo! Welcome 🤗

[@miahan8988]

Very interesting, thank you for the video! I’m not good with typing people irl yet because I haven’t been studying mbti for long, but it’s always nice to see someone who knows who they are and why they see the world they way they do.

[@Starlightndust]

ENTJ with no children or the ability to have children. Im considering to be a journalist/writer/author. I want to be remembered. Writing will be my legacy.

[@GhostofJung]

Great!! Love that so much

[@Starlightndust]

@GhostofJung hi. Do you think the above careers are great for ENTJs? I want to write non'fiction self-help books n magazine articles as a freelance journalist. I'm wondering if it is sufficiently challenging.

[@bcsherod4366]

Omgoodness! This is exactly me ! I’m not even joking either. Finding value ! Seeing the best in people, cutting out what isn’t going to work out . I often feel alone though, but I’m okay with that. Im very spiritual and responsible. I can seem cut throat but it’s because I don’t do well with BS. I can see right through it, and it’s a waste of my time. I cant stand laziness . Blah blah. - im still in the beginning of the video still though. Thanks for the post! Wow! Totally blown away!

[@NurseClaudia]

Hello there! I’m an ENTJ. I’ll gladly follow you both.

[@GhostofJung]

That's so sweet! Love me an ENTJ

[@SimoneEppler]

Such a great Video, lovely to see a female ENTJ. Eva seems so thoughtful and self-reflective. Of course, I subscribed to her channel to binge-watch as well. :)

[@GhostofJung]

She really is. She has done a TON of study into her Type as you can tell. very magnetic. Good, I think her content is super fun!

[@SimoneEppler]

@@GhostofJung Oh absolutely! Highly proficient! And inspiring. 🤩

[@evaanjos]

That’s so sweet, thank you!

[@opossumsauce4472]

She's definitely masking HARD in this video. The cutesy giggling, and soft spoken-Ness...you can tell she's very ashamed to be one. She seems timid when she speaks.

[@iamrhazell]

Female ENTJ here (I am quite thinking it is quite a curse haha kidding). I am finding it hard to find someone that I can connect on intellectual level. Firstly without it, i cannot be attracted :/ and it's worse when there is stereotype on the personality type. We are not really that bossy/pushy, when there is a need to deliver something I always give them freedom (i value it a lot). I just call their attention when it is going haywire. We ENTJ's can be pretty sweet and caring but not to all peope ;)

[@GhostofJung]

Agreed. When you are sweet to someone, that's extremely special.

[@SophieLeung-du9we]

I agree the girls at school say I'm aggressive, rude or too ambitious. I sometimes hang out with the boys (platonic)and they think that I act like a boy. That's just me and there is nothing you can change about it.

[@bcsherod4366]

Omgoodness! This is exactly me ! I’m not even joking either. Finding value ! Seeing the best in people, cutting out what isn’t going to work out . Wow! Totally blown away!

[@GhostofJung]

cutting out what isn't going to work is a massive interpersonal advantage for the ENTJ. others should take notice

[@vkngwmn6636]

INTJ/ENTJ depending on how much I hate humanity that day...

[@GhostofJung]

Beautiful

[@englishmuffin7]

Hey, you don't have to like them to form alliances~ entj

[@friendlyanomaly6109]

@@englishmuffin7 Why is that so hard to understand for some people? I make syndicates all the time and people look at me funny. "Whattaya mean trust is unnecessary?" They tell me and I affirm it. Trust is unnecessary! We only need self interest in these waters me hearties!

[@shaunogg9966]

I'm an ENTJ and walk faster than everyone else too. My grandad always told me as a kid that I need to learn patience. My brain is always working, resting is boring to me and I will be on my phone or actively thinking about things. There is no time doing nothing.

[@lmart16]

As an ENTJ female, I always need a functionality to my belongings and I've learned to not care about physical belongings. I'm totally in agreement with her except movies: I like time topics

[@GhostofJung]

Thank you!!

[@Introvert_Honey]

I’m getting an introverted vibe from her.

[@GhostofJung]

Because of her delivery? What specifically?

[@julie2673]

The walking fast is a thing, and sitting still, especially when other people are working grinds my gears.

[@annie.bo.briggs]

Im an ENTJ. I smile bc I do hear a lot of similarities :)

[@GhostofJung]

Good! Thanks for saying that

[@JENNerationX]

I’m an ENTJ woman and it’s TRUE!!!!

[@GhostofJung]

thanks for being here!

[@louern123]

as i age, and as i listen to this, i see myself as who i used to be. everything you say is familiar to me, but my life has not panned out well. (gosh it’s hard to admit). i have grown so much more than people around me that i feel very alone. i look back at everything i have done in my life and so much of it seems meaningless now that i know their MBTI types and how little they actually care. about anything. so yes, it’s a curse .

[@GhostofJung]

How old are you and when did you make the change to where you are now?

[@louern123]

@@GhostofJung i am 57, and i’ve made many changes over the years. i started with a degree in genetics and medical technology and started in research which was super intellectual but got too boring after four years and didn’t pay well so i migrated my way to IT project management . but my comment wasn’t about my career it was about being married three times and living in two countries and having a child and two step kids.

[@louern123]

@@GhostofJung actually (not awake yet) my comment was about getting to the point where you realize that most people on earth aren’t as passionate as i am

[@RuthWanjiku-b3n]

I love being an ENTJ female, i didn't know i was an ENTJ as i was mistyped when i was much younger to ESTJ and i lost a job due to being told that as an ESTJ and that i am detailed orientated, i knew that isn't me, i can be detailed if need be but i like high level thinking more. I have always been a naturally strategic person and good at problem solving, I am currently invested in being a better problem solver, harnessing the best philosophy and approaches to problem solve. I find my self busy formulating new concepts? is that an ENTJ person?

[@Persephone44]

I so relate to what she’s saying!

[@TheAvgWoman]

me and her are so similar. ber self awareness inspires me and helps me to ubderstand myself. ENTJ woman. Have been typed that everytime for 10+ years lol

[@GhostofJung]

thank you!

[@louern123]

her permasmile gives ENFP vibes if i’m honest

[@adhistie1694]

Hi Joe, I'm getting xNTP vibe from you, the Ti-Fe is strong, especially the Ti analysis vs Ni perspective. I've watched a lot (like, a lot) of xNTJ interviews and I can easily recognized the Ni-Fi from a person. Well, it's just my opinion, great channel and great interviews, thanks for doing them! - ENTP

[@GhostofJung]

HOW DARE YOUUUUUU

[@adhistie1694]

@@GhostofJung lol sorry!

[@GhostofJung]

@@adhistie1694 you are the first to mention INTP to me. I barely know how to describe Ti 😂

[@adhistie1694]

@@GhostofJung I didn't mention INTP, just NTP, well but makes sense since I did mention Ti. E.g. your previous reply seems Fe (to me at least), and now we are continuing this convo seems like Ne Ti... I commented also to other NTJs channels, while everyone is unique, I noticed that NiFi pattern or TeFi when they replied to me 😀

[@GhostofJung]

I wield Fe as needed, especially for comments.😘

[@amethystjane-johnson8598]

Finally, someone who's like me..

[@GhostofJung]

Heck yeah

[@julie2673]

She’s trying to not sound like a sociopath. And she isn’t one, but it can sound bad when we say things out loud.

[@lou9226]

I love curse.. so lt's okay 💁🏻‍♀️

[@DemonRazor88]

As a INTP I look upon the ENTJ's with great respect and admiration.However,with that being said.I personally think that I would never be able to live up to their expectations in a dating scenario.

[@GhostofJung]

And that's bad for them as they admittedly realize this mindset will leave them perpetually unhappy and alone

[@DemonRazor88]

@@GhostofJung Who?The ENTJ or INTP?

[@GhostofJung]

ENTJ!

[@DemonRazor88]

It's kind of a lose lose situation for them in a sense.

[@jettcat7327]

Why cant i find XTNJ stuff - was a ENTJ before 30 NO I always test as XNTJ

[@jettcat7327]

Swear its the ability to separate Business and Personal

[@bozydarziemniak1853]

She is an ESTJ not the ENTJ.

[@GhostofJung]

ok elaborate on that plz

[@bozydarziemniak1853]

@@GhostofJung Its about cognitive function depletion analysis. You can make one on your own if you want. Mainly she speaks more often about the past and her memories Si or projecting future vision of others Ne, than about future vision of her own Ni or physical worold/present time Se. Just notice in which form and tense she speaks - she use mainly past tense.

[@friendlyanomaly6109]

@@bozydarziemniak1853 Your observation is on point, but you conclusion leaves much to be desired. If she were an ESTJ, she'd have more ESTJ qualities such as a tendency to speak about the possibilities of objects, having continuity in ones speech when speaking concretely, or bring inclined to provide more alternative ways of looking at the same thing than she does. None of this is hardcore proof of what type she is, but if we are to believe that she is in fact an ESTJ, then that claim should be both internally logically consistent and consistent with external behavioral patterns. She does have a somewhat unusual way of speaking for what you might expect from an ENTJ though, but I think she's what she claims to be.