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Why Learning to Enjoy Being Alone Changes Everything

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Pursuit of Wonder

Pursuit of Wonder

Жыл бұрын

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@fortinosamano12
@fortinosamano12 Жыл бұрын
“I used to think that the worst thing in life is to die alone,but I realized that the worst thing in life was to die with people that make you feel alone”-Robin Williams
@Novastar.SaberCombat
@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын
To live while surrounded by an indifferent society is pretty lousy. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
@jeerahhh___jee
@jeerahhh___jee Жыл бұрын
The quote is from The World's Greatest Dad (2009), which he played the main roll. The screenplay was written by Bobcat Goldthwait.
@Kirsten4260
@Kirsten4260 Жыл бұрын
Love the man. Miss him everyday.
@SierNotsruht
@SierNotsruht Жыл бұрын
Who tf is robin williams
@MohammedAadhil10
@MohammedAadhil10 Жыл бұрын
which movie is this from
@-idk
@-idk Жыл бұрын
4:25 "You can make more friends in two months by being interested in people then you can in two years trying to get people to get interested in you". This hits hard.
@Batemane02
@Batemane02 Жыл бұрын
“dale carnegie”
@ReligionAndMaterialismDebunked
@ReligionAndMaterialismDebunked Жыл бұрын
^_^ Fr. I'm mostly to myself. I was born and raised in infamous Miami, FL, USA, and happily live abroad from those 3 really toxic places. Vegan. Centrist. Spiritual, anti-religion.
@adarsh8269
@adarsh8269 Жыл бұрын
Dale🔥
@TotalPhilosophyTP
@TotalPhilosophyTP Жыл бұрын
How to Win Friends and Influence People is a must-read in my opinion
@Shannon_Robbie
@Shannon_Robbie Жыл бұрын
@@TotalPhilosophyTP The only issue with this is that you spend time being interested in their stories but they may not return the favour.
@chrisaguilera1564
@chrisaguilera1564 Жыл бұрын
Being lonely and being alone are two different concepts that people often mistake to be the same. They are not. One is a choice and the other isn't.
@chrisaguilera1564
@chrisaguilera1564 Жыл бұрын
@@Analyticalinadream When you are lonely you don't feel in control but when you are alone that more or less a decision as you could go anywhere and not be alone. Lonely is a state of mind while being alone is state of being.
@laurieford6373
@laurieford6373 Жыл бұрын
@@chrisaguilera1564 Words of wisdom !!
@maicholor2849
@maicholor2849 Жыл бұрын
@@Analyticalinadream If you can't figure it out, you're going to learn the hard way!
@navigator_g
@navigator_g Жыл бұрын
OH GOD DID YOU REALLY SPEW THAT GENERIC BULLCRAP OUT
@FxnkyFresko
@FxnkyFresko Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@architbhagat
@architbhagat Жыл бұрын
"You can't make people like you, you can only try to understand them and hope they try to do the same back".
@aetherland1883
@aetherland1883 Жыл бұрын
Screw humanity!
@noturbiz4670
@noturbiz4670 Жыл бұрын
I am alone, no friends, no partner, nothing . Yet I find joy in my heart by pursuing my passions, I have a job that I love, I have hobbies that I love, I find everything interesting and feel so grateful about the little things in my life. I don't even find time to think about being alone or to pursue connections. Something deep down tells me that I have enough in my life to be happy and don't need nothing more. In the end how you feel is dictated by what you focus on, so go on and focus on beautiful things.
@historylover3018
@historylover3018 Жыл бұрын
I feel lonely only when I'm with people.. But when I'm alone, I'm with the best company.
@laurieford6373
@laurieford6373 Жыл бұрын
That's because you're your own best company !!
@laurieford6373
@laurieford6373 Жыл бұрын
As in I'm my own best company.
@mert_058
@mert_058 Жыл бұрын
Cope
@Yukinyun
@Yukinyun Жыл бұрын
Same looks like they don't care about you never asking to go out and stuff, now I'm a loner an I love it be a man I believe in ya
@21daystill
@21daystill Жыл бұрын
touché, i feel the same too a lot of times
@LoveHandle4890
@LoveHandle4890 Жыл бұрын
“Be alone, that’s how ideas are born.” -Nicola Tesla.
@peezy1942
@peezy1942 Жыл бұрын
Boom boom baby
@lifechann
@lifechann Жыл бұрын
Thats how incels are born too
@iforget6940
@iforget6940 Жыл бұрын
@@lifechann I don't believe they choose to be alone they are forced to be alone
@kenshobuq7105
@kenshobuq7105 Жыл бұрын
@@lifechann You don't know what that means do you? Just another stupid word programmed into people so they use them like Parrots.
@thevcountdown9824
@thevcountdown9824 Жыл бұрын
@@lifechann Well, if the only goal in your life are women (very sad thing), then you will become an incel
@regnbuetorsk
@regnbuetorsk Жыл бұрын
I am a lone wolf, i like my own company, i appreciate it more than any other thing. But sometimes i can't avoid to feel the need to witness someone else's life, and to not be the only one to witness my own life. This feeling comes just from time to time, and it never comes weaker than before
@beridledodopidop4822
@beridledodopidop4822 Жыл бұрын
Lol the only answer you got was congratulations from a bot, I don't know why but this made me laugh xD
@K4nj
@K4nj Жыл бұрын
@@beridledodopidop4822 haha
@mansigandhi991
@mansigandhi991 Жыл бұрын
I feel you, like you wanna know what stories others have to share or how they reacted in what situation. I am like that too, I love being alone but then it gets boring so I have to know the various thoughts of people and how they're different from mine. During these times, I talk to a friend, read books or try doing something new like go out and analyse people or watch tv and observe the characters.
@mansigandhi991
@mansigandhi991 Жыл бұрын
Hope i helped to answer your doubt
@jeffsadowski7759
@jeffsadowski7759 Жыл бұрын
We were meant to have that positive back and forth. It fulfills both sides of our heart at the same time. I think alot of people are missing that experience.
@JohnnieHougaardNielsen
@JohnnieHougaardNielsen Жыл бұрын
Being alone by choice may be the best way of not being lonely, while immersion in people can create intense loneliness.
@Novastar.SaberCombat
@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot look beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to face. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@brendakok7377
@brendakok7377 Жыл бұрын
True!
@636Knight
@636Knight Жыл бұрын
"Being a human is both a blessing and a curse and you're the one who gets to decide why." - Don't remember who said it
@christopherjmartin
@christopherjmartin Жыл бұрын
thank you for sharing this, I'm saving a copy of this quote forever
@ronaldpettifurd5957
@ronaldpettifurd5957 Жыл бұрын
I love this channel because it causes us to ponder the many wonders of life. To re engage with that childlike wonder you once had, before you became jaded, cynical, and beaten down by the world. Maybe not the world itself, but surely the people within it. We are just as guilty as the rest. I often think back to the little kid that I was. That good little boy wouldn't believe in a million years, what he would turn out to be. That little boy would be ashamed and disappointed. I try to meet with that boy, he's in there somewhere, in the back of my mind, in my heart. He's there, and I want him to be happy, proud, and full of wonder.
@TheChickenFairy.
@TheChickenFairy. Жыл бұрын
I think that meeting people by chance is the best way to find the best people. if we’re constantly searching for a partner or friendship, we won’t know how to find them. we are capable of loving anyone and everyone because it’s all in our mindset. a love for another person feels more dear when the universe seemingly brought them to you.
@Novastar.SaberCombat
@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot look beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to face. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@Nextbigching
@Nextbigching Жыл бұрын
Beautifully written, @samantha A. The best friendships are the ones that just kinda happen organically, sometimes by chance, and sometimes by circumstance. Especially when you deeply connect with a complete polar opposite, it just opens your fucking mind and world so much.
@barryjames3747
@barryjames3747 Жыл бұрын
I love being alone, I just love the peacefulness of it, the solitude and freedom of only being responsible for yourself. I don't like being lonely though.
@Novastar.SaberCombat
@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot see beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to confront. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@barryjames3747
@barryjames3747 Жыл бұрын
@@Novastar.SaberCombat thanks for that quote, it's amazing really, I shall be looking it up. Hope you have a nice Christmas.
@YerlanYegisbekov
@YerlanYegisbekov Жыл бұрын
same bro
@EckheartTurtolle
@EckheartTurtolle Жыл бұрын
“What someone says about something says far more about them than what they are talking about” or something like that…that got me good.
@Novastar.SaberCombat
@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot look beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to face. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@joshua.recovers
@joshua.recovers Жыл бұрын
This sums up my current internal struggle at age 30. I needed this video today. Thank you, #PursuitOfWonder
@sagarmc
@sagarmc Жыл бұрын
I suggest you listen to J Krishnamurti or Rupert Spira.
@etrain3371
@etrain3371 Жыл бұрын
Age 20. Internal struggles here as well.
@TrisnoadiWikantoro
@TrisnoadiWikantoro Жыл бұрын
Age 23, just broke up. Let's fight together
@StoryFanatics10
@StoryFanatics10 Жыл бұрын
Feeling the same.
@introvertedcarat
@introvertedcarat Жыл бұрын
Age 27. Lonely and struggling. We'll get through this... I hope.
@bigdaddy910
@bigdaddy910 Жыл бұрын
Why is it that with every video i watch from you i drift off into my own thoughts and 20 seconds before the video ends i snap out of it and think like:"Shit, i've missed the whole video"
@rudyb2755
@rudyb2755 Жыл бұрын
This typically happen to me in class 😂
@jeevesharma
@jeevesharma Жыл бұрын
this just happened w me :⁠-⁠O
@Rarelychoice
@Rarelychoice Жыл бұрын
Every time...
@zachfinemusic
@zachfinemusic Жыл бұрын
“Most of who we become close to is just by the random odds of proximity; chance, met with desperation and the fear of being alone. If you’re lucky, maybe one of those people you would keep close if you could live forever”
@Fear_Therapy
@Fear_Therapy Жыл бұрын
Being alone is always peaceful for me ❤
@StoryFanatics10
@StoryFanatics10 Жыл бұрын
same.
@jaybomb5638
@jaybomb5638 Жыл бұрын
Same
@remiboyer4892
@remiboyer4892 Жыл бұрын
Same
@4bad2fish0
@4bad2fish0 Жыл бұрын
So I discovered this channel a little over a year ago and it's really helped shaped my mind and also to be a better person as a whole. I've been over a year sober now and I think your channel has helped my life in ways I never thought I'd imagine. Thank you for everything you do and all the hard work and effort that goes into these. This channel is a blessing in disguise for us lonely people that have no outlets to go to for support. I'd never thought I'd be in the place I am now in life without the words and advice I've gotten from here
@RainRemnant
@RainRemnant Жыл бұрын
No congratulations from an annoying bot, but a congratulations from a person, sometimes we can't do something on our own and we need help from outside, and I can imagine why this channel has contributed to you turning your life around but in the end YOU are the one who did it! So I'm very proud of you and wish you all the best life has to offer 😊
@explorer.samrat
@explorer.samrat Жыл бұрын
Being happy being alone is a super power. 😊😊
@SparkTFS
@SparkTFS Жыл бұрын
Indeed. It's good to be confortable around the person you're living most of your life with.
@Burbie
@Burbie Жыл бұрын
a lot of the times i see comments saying they were thinking about the topic when u posted it, and it never felt that real... Until now, ive been feeling so lonely from yesterday and u drop this banger The entire Pursuit of Wonder team is amazing they always give so much thought provoking content
@joshuas.8239
@joshuas.8239 Жыл бұрын
Bruh, this has happened to me several times, idk if KZbin is reading my mind via algorithm or each channel is
@nebd1760
@nebd1760 Жыл бұрын
i was going to search 'how to be alone' when i saw this in my recommended
@krokodyl1927
@krokodyl1927 Жыл бұрын
The older I get, I come to the realization that alleged friends and family are not to be trusted. It’s terribly weird that after suffering child abuse, pre-school abuse, elementary school abuse, and right up to latent teenage years abuse, that this shit never ceases! Once upon a time, I was told by a counselor that in my family I was considered ‘second best’. She told me to be careful regarding my facies, that when you are treated as ‘second best’ it becomes too easy to appear as second best and others pick up on that, resulting in a never ending cycle of feeling abused and being mistrustful of most everyone. I’m aware of the fact that we as humans are ‘social animals’, but I’m better off spending most of my time alone. I don’t abuse myself and I certainly can trust myself. 🌝
@kalleskit
@kalleskit Жыл бұрын
There are many friends to have which can be just as trusted as yourself. You just need to learn how to see them, which can be easier said than done, of course. Hang in there, and don't lose hope in people!
@skiphopflipflopdripdrop
@skiphopflipflopdripdrop Жыл бұрын
@@kalleskit”learn how to see them” how?
@kalleskit
@kalleskit Жыл бұрын
@@skiphopflipflopdripdrop By staying curious and open-hearted, I suppose. By having no expectations from how other people or yourself "should" be, and at the same time have a high standard for who you let enter your life, who you put your full trust in. By recognizing and appreciating what kind of people you may have previously sought for a feeling of security. The people you think you need are not necessarily the ones that will be helpful to you, and truly supportive. For example, if a parent of yours was abusive, you may very likely develop a pattern of seeking out partners who are toxic or abusive, thinking that those kind of behaviors are what you must have in life to be love-able. Unlearn or at least observe the destructive beliefs you around love and security. There is no security to be had in this world. You are already secure, you are already loveable. Welcome into your life those who acknowledge your truth and worth unconditionally. It starts by being your own best friend. Are you?
@krokodyl1927
@krokodyl1927 Жыл бұрын
@@skiphopflipflopdripdrop Exactly! There are a lot of ‘bad actors’ out there.
@thetopcat8946
@thetopcat8946 Жыл бұрын
I understand what you mean. Sending love ♥️🙏
@White-dp6bg
@White-dp6bg Жыл бұрын
You can't make people like you, you can only opt to understand them and hope that they'll do the same.
@saanvii
@saanvii Жыл бұрын
"And to know that there are infinite possibilities for how life could go and that you'll only get to try just one"
@jW-kr5xn
@jW-kr5xn Жыл бұрын
Although I have no problem socializing, I just love being alone, free from other people’s problems. Spending time to do stuff that I want, working towards my goals. I rarely feel lonely, I don’t have many friends, but those who I call friends, they are the best friends ever.
@jravell
@jravell Жыл бұрын
3:35 ”There are infinite possibilities for how life could go, and you only get to try just one.” Damn, man…
@andysandy3465
@andysandy3465 Жыл бұрын
Once I learned to enjoy being alone I stopped needing having other people around and it feels quite liberating
@micling2199
@micling2199 Жыл бұрын
As a solitary being, I find myself in a state of perpetual solitude. Conversations lasting more than 20 minutes with anyone other than family have eluded me for the past 15 years. Nevertheless, I do not experience any sense of loneliness, as I have grown to cherish my own company and find solace in being alone. Despite societal norms dictating that one should crave human connection, I have come to accept that I am not like most individuals. Through this acceptance, I have found a sense of contentment and happiness. Living in this manner is not for the faint of heart, but rather requires a certain inner strength that most individuals may not possess. For me, the universe itself provides the companionship that others may seek in human interactions, and my loyal canine companion has become a steadfast presence in my life. I feel incredibly fortunate to have found such peace in my solitude, and it is something that I reflect on often.
@resistdisinformation9931
@resistdisinformation9931 Жыл бұрын
I feel exactly the same except that I don't currently have an animal companion by choice due to having experienced too much painful loss previously. Enjoy your serenity!
@RandomlyScrolling
@RandomlyScrolling Жыл бұрын
Being alone is your choice, sometimes its what you prefer and your comfort but you will bear the consequence of it at time of being lonely. just a blip because having your own live and space will still be important.
@LunaVictoria9
@LunaVictoria9 Жыл бұрын
About finding yourself feeling impossible: i used to think the same thing. I've always been a very passionate and curious person, but for some reason always struggled with keeping things up and staying motivated. I got burnt out so fast on things i usually love. Then my intense fear of the future started to creep in. I was starting to feel like I'm just chronically depressed and stressed. But what it actually was all this time, was dysphoria, about who i was. Now that I've finally come out as a girl, everything has sorta clicked. My fear for the future is suddenly gone. I'm suddenly a morning bird with an actual routine. And i enjoy stuff I've always loved even more for some reason. I never thought one "small" change could do this much to my mentality and energy levels. So yes, finding yourself really is possible, be it work, passion or Identity
@anujadhungana7532
@anujadhungana7532 Жыл бұрын
Watching and listening to these view point makes me believe that I'm not alone to have such feelings about myself and my surroundings.
@raspberryboss4192
@raspberryboss4192 Жыл бұрын
I don't know how to explain it properly, but I feel like loneliness is the difference between your current social situation, and the one you once had. If it was never great, you wouldn't feel like you're missing out on much. But if you did (which demands a lot of luck) experience true friendship, romantic love and family warmth, then no matter how much you will lie to yourself, you will want that back until time takes the vividness away. I'll conclude by saying that we are social species and there is nothing wrong with feeling lonely, it is an emotion like another, useful sometimes, not so much some other times. Like every feeling, you should analyze it, reflect on it... Never numb yourself, it has never done anyone any good in the long run. I invite you all to respond to my comment and let me know your point of view :)
@wanderingdew5423
@wanderingdew5423 Жыл бұрын
I agree
@Analyticalinadream
@Analyticalinadream Жыл бұрын
I feel like there is an essential need or desire for some level of relationships, that one can be lonely never knowing what it is like not to be lonely. Loneliness is an emotion, but at times the pain of loneliness is so overwhelming that watching mind numbing videos (not this one) is the best way to deflect the loneliness....just my thoughts.
@659dude
@659dude Жыл бұрын
Agreed. In fact it's so painful I think soon I can no longer stand it and will die because of it.
@Analyticalinadream
@Analyticalinadream Жыл бұрын
@@659dude It can be really tough to go through. I hope you can find someone to reach out to. One person can really make a world of difference.
@marka.8535
@marka.8535 Жыл бұрын
I had a close friend when I was too young to fully appreciate him . I also came from an abusive family . I’m not sure if it’s the case that if I hadn’t had this friendship that I would not feel loneliness now ; I think we can wish for an ideal and if we don’t reach it we can feel the sting of loneliness maybe with some regret added to it. I feel loneliness because my daughter and I aren’t close like we were before I filed for divorce ; that’s some painful loneliness.
@aseaofhoney4171
@aseaofhoney4171 Жыл бұрын
The last 5 years I became a loner, and it feels great! I live alone with my dogs and a cat and never was happier. Sometimes I'm visiting friends, but after 1 hour I can't stand it anymore.
@sherwinh1661
@sherwinh1661 Жыл бұрын
Are u financially independent already ?
@blobtv7444
@blobtv7444 Жыл бұрын
@@sherwinh1661 no are u a nigerian prince ready to give me my $10000000000000000000000000000000000?
@Mnkyfd6
@Mnkyfd6 Жыл бұрын
Maybe I'm a dark person, but i find so much beauty in this level of melancholy. I want to feel sadness, I want to feel sorrow. It is a teacher, and a looking glass into what it really means to feel joy. I'm not addicted to sadness, It is in fact the opposite. I seek out joy. At my core I am a happy person, this is why i make myself feel deeply, only to remind myself that happiness is earned. Happiness is a perspective and such i seek to remind myself of what i have.
@xerainiac2278
@xerainiac2278 Жыл бұрын
I assume that inside you want to be sad because being in that state makes you feel at home. perhaps you felt sad in your childhood and it's all you know, which makes it familiar and comforting. as paradoxical as it sounds
@Mnkyfd6
@Mnkyfd6 Жыл бұрын
@@xerainiac2278 👍
@mailanudalo4712
@mailanudalo4712 Жыл бұрын
you know how you put your feelings in your words. it's beautiful.
@Mnkyfd6
@Mnkyfd6 Жыл бұрын
@@mailanudalo4712 life is beautiful
@superstar5123
@superstar5123 Жыл бұрын
i could care less for other people. they are ignorant and small minded. i am perfectly content knowing i am the only person to have the pleasure to know myself truly
@colinhawks2469
@colinhawks2469 Жыл бұрын
I understand that it’s ok to be alone, but the feeling of loneliness is something I don’t want. It’s sickening…poisoning…empty…it’s killing me. I wish it would end, but despite my best attempts, here I am once again. The close of yet another year, lonely. Somehow hurts even more at 29 this year…
@Analyticalinadream
@Analyticalinadream Жыл бұрын
Feeling lonely is really, really tough. Been there....hang in there....
@Novastar.SaberCombat
@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot see beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to confront. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@chenstormstout9456
@chenstormstout9456 Жыл бұрын
I’m 28 this year, man. I know exactly how you feel. I’ve pretty much felt that way since leaving high school.
@resistdisinformation9931
@resistdisinformation9931 Жыл бұрын
I love the statement that "People are just messy and sticky." Wow! What an understatement. With a few of the many individuals I have had the unfortunate experience of meeting during my lifetime, it literally took years to get all of their messiness and stickiness off me and to successfully remove the damaged parts of me not unlike self amputations. So much time wasted on deleterious people who I genuinely wish I had never met!
@xMDawg19x
@xMDawg19x 4 ай бұрын
3:36 - I’ve had that feeling so many times over the past several years and never knew how to describe it. You perfectly summed it up in a couple sentences.
@almila1368
@almila1368 Жыл бұрын
I think balance is the key. Too much loneliness will be problematic and too much socialising too. It's fun and refreshing to see some friends, having fun, laugh together and all. But I love loneliness too. Especially after a busy day with people. When i'm just all by myself. You need to have both. I think, that's the best.
@euchiron
@euchiron Жыл бұрын
I just spent five minutes hearing parts of my inner monologue and I heard things I really want to add to it
@Vurt72
@Vurt72 Жыл бұрын
i am amazed how people can stay in relationships. being by myself and still being able to have a really great time has since i was a small kid always seemed like such a great strength to have. not saying every day is great, but if i'm not having a great day its not because i'm lonely, and its not because of any problem related to a relationship.
@Salmasobhi1714
@Salmasobhi1714 Жыл бұрын
Relatable 😅
@Stealth1337
@Stealth1337 Жыл бұрын
Yeah man, it's called doing drugs alone !
@Vurt72
@Vurt72 Жыл бұрын
@@Stealth1337 Nah., personally i only drink coffee nowadays.. but i used to do ghb, weed, psychedelics (shrooms etc), 20 years ago. currently mostly making mods for games, making music, trying to get good at various programs such as GameMaker, RPG Maker.. making music is probably my favorite though.
@Renthlei_Jr
@Renthlei_Jr Жыл бұрын
It helps our creativity and ability to learn new things as it helps our mind to stick to a single point i.e. we do not get distractions
@eljefe8309
@eljefe8309 Жыл бұрын
Freshman in college been commuting all year lost most of my friendships. At my most depressed loneliest stage of my life, I just feel numb. I just spent New Years alone. I’ve spent the last couple of days reflecting, beginning to accept my loneliness as good thing. This video is a great supplement. Needed it
@stephen148
@stephen148 Жыл бұрын
Notes from the end of everything is one of my favorite things…ever. It helped me reflect deeply. Thanks for what you do.
@recordsmanukrnet
@recordsmanukrnet Жыл бұрын
What is it about in a nutshell?
@stephen148
@stephen148 Жыл бұрын
@@recordsmanukrnet a dying author reflects on his life and the nature of existence in the modern world.
@eldestaroma
@eldestaroma Жыл бұрын
In my walk of life i passed by thousands of people and for each individual i passed by, i was one of the thousand. -me
@rupabhandarkar4892
@rupabhandarkar4892 Жыл бұрын
4:26 this Quote is from the book "How to Win friends and influence people" -Dale Carnegie
@KerriEverlasting
@KerriEverlasting Жыл бұрын
"Loneliness is a failure to forgive." Harry Palmer
@budweiser333
@budweiser333 Жыл бұрын
“People are just messy and sticky” Nothing more true has ever been spoken. Lol.
@timetobenotdo
@timetobenotdo Жыл бұрын
I recommend that you honor the astronomical odds of random circumstance or “proximity” as sacred, or special, or however you need to define it. It will bring you deeper into the experience of being you, and help dissolve the delusion wanting different, more, better, etc..
@MMAKitchen
@MMAKitchen Жыл бұрын
Thank you, stranger. Ironically makes me like I'm not alone. Knowing others share my thoughts and feelings.
@5planck3
@5planck3 Жыл бұрын
All the stock footage from the beginning of the video seems to be from Lisbon, and the fact I literraly just moved here to get a change of pace in life and try to re-invent myself is scarily resonating with the part of my mind that sees patterns in this complex web of interconnectedness we call Earth.
@sadmansakib2266
@sadmansakib2266 Жыл бұрын
I always thought if I could everyone I see on for being relationship or friendship with me but now it gives me better perspective about this.
@sadmansakib2266
@sadmansakib2266 Жыл бұрын
One of my best friends recommended me this channel and we don't even talk.
@TheDoomerGoGetter
@TheDoomerGoGetter Жыл бұрын
I've been alone most days lately and enjoy it, in the past I thought I needed a girlfriend or friends to feel fulfilled in life but December been the happiest I been all year and all I've been doing this month is working on KZbin videos, working towards this goal of becoming a successful self improvement KZbinr, when you find something you're truly passionate about it gives you purpose and takes away all the negative feelings like loneliness, go find your passion
@Michael-ru5zw
@Michael-ru5zw Жыл бұрын
I feel the same way when I'm making music
@TheDoomerGoGetter
@TheDoomerGoGetter Жыл бұрын
@@Michael-ru5zw beautiful, keep making music, don't ever quit
@siddhantahuja5384
@siddhantahuja5384 Жыл бұрын
I feel the same when I am playing tennis.
@JaxYTB
@JaxYTB Жыл бұрын
was curious to see what your channel was about and closed that tab so damn fast im sorry bro making videos like that gonna make you miserable 😭😭😭
@ethanholland4909
@ethanholland4909 Жыл бұрын
This is one of the first comments ive left on any video or piece online, im 19. Ive started appreciating content that hasnt just been created to be viewed and discarded for that quick dopamine rush, but to be appreciated for its blatant honesty to the message its trying to convey. I feel like this video does that perfectly, it piques my intrest because it was able to show some clarity on some of my own interpretations but to also pull me along through someone elses current theories and beliefs, i felt like he wasnt trying to do anything but convey how he feels about a topic and how it applies to his life, almost like listening to his inner dialogue. i understand that there might be a script behind this video, but then the way this is written is very pleasing and genuine, i appreciate the effort that was put into this and hope to come across alot more of your content!!!
@Dang.-
@Dang.- 4 ай бұрын
This was exactly how I felt in my life. How amusing is it that we believe that we're so intertwined into the development of society when we only get to live through one life. We're really all just storytellers that are trying to find a theme for our story, being a bliss that the theme the whole time was just small contribution. Have you ever wondered whether your story is truly yours? Maybe your story is a masterpiece that shines through the rest, or it could be a repetitive piece that never stands out, but we can never know because we can only read our creation. No matter how many other people you encountered in your life, the center of the stage will always truly be yours. It's not worth it trying to change your story for a non-existent audience, only change it to appeal to the sole conscious that will be externally bestowed for the rest of their life to consume your creation
@swagerrr6460
@swagerrr6460 Жыл бұрын
“I have never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude” Henry D. Thoreau
@landoarmand3283
@landoarmand3283 Жыл бұрын
Such a brilliant storyteller; your choice of words is breathtaking 🙌🏾👏🏾
@StoryFanatics10
@StoryFanatics10 Жыл бұрын
facts.
@congruentcrib
@congruentcrib Жыл бұрын
I should be going out making poor decisions. I’m 21, and I was the unfortunate “class of 2020”. I never got to say goodbye to my friends. I didn’t think I’d never see most of them again. Didn’t help that right before covid, my closest friend who I had genuine feelings for left me and I never got to try and explain how I felt. Never got to explain how I really felt to a lot of people. How many of those would share a closer bond than what we had.
@Novastar.SaberCombat
@Novastar.SaberCombat Жыл бұрын
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Unfortunately, most people cannot see beyond the physical version. Yet the other three mirrors (mental, psychological, spiritual) are of far greater importance to confront. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
@devontebroncas4967
@devontebroncas4967 Жыл бұрын
This video hits me really deep; i was thinking this exact same thing during my solo trip in europe. The absurdity of the odds in meeting new people, each with their own stories, and being able to connect with them - while some leaving the “theater” messy. Thank you for this video, it has all been a blurry blob of thoughts to me, and this video helped made me understand it. Much love to everyone here ❤
@123cache123
@123cache123 Жыл бұрын
This ties in neatly with another notion called "Sonder". Makes a huge impact when you truly experience that. Meanwhile - many thanks and the best greetings from yet another stranger...
@nunyabinnus
@nunyabinnus Жыл бұрын
the cadence of your speech and the thoughts that flow from - something healthy restful - its good meeting -keep on
@greasywedges8027
@greasywedges8027 Жыл бұрын
I’ve thought of exactly everything mentioned in this video, but never had the words for it. This channel is truly a wonderful voice and representation of human nature at its greatest, thank you.
@bunbynoy
@bunbynoy Жыл бұрын
And my problem is that i'm 100% aware of what of every individual my mind can see thinks and feels about me now... at least my anxiety says i am which i know its definitely skewed and lying to me, which is where the problem really arises. :( this is still spot on though.... i know amd experience this stuff on the daily its not just a thought every now and again through hard times...... ive been this way for my whole life i think. I just be my self and watch the negative reactions that surround me and the constant questioning of every thought i speak out. I am always honest even when I'm trying to be deceptive. I'm terrible at lying, because my emotions and my body are so closely intertwined and disconnected from my inner self my person, so i'll just give details that are technically true arranged in a way that makes you feel like stop asking questions because you don't feel like listening to the rambling 👀 😅
@hazarhamouda3671
@hazarhamouda3671 Жыл бұрын
I can't explain how hard this video hits home. I feel like it summarized the last 3 years of my life.
@StoryFanatics10
@StoryFanatics10 Жыл бұрын
true.
@earnyourimmortality
@earnyourimmortality Жыл бұрын
I've literally share *EVERY* singular thought & contemplation expressed in this video. I juggle them often & frequently. Infinity is a long time. All that's required of us is patience. ❤️⚖️🧠
@ma-burke
@ma-burke Жыл бұрын
The human life span, the extent we can participate in infinity, is a long time. When our imaginative modes of our minds enlargen past the moment, or the hour, or the day, there is too much to sink our attention into, so we cannot create new meaning. However, if we can remain humble in the __now__, if we can be patient, we can create infinity, for at every moment we’ll be living a meaningful life. Or something of this flavour. : P I like your mention of “patience” here. One of my favourite insights I came across was from a piano cleaner who wrote about meditation. He said that, when you know what you need to do to learn something or experience something, e.g. an expert golf swing, all you need to do is do it. You know that in 5,000 swings you will gain excellence; so in doing one swing you are doing the best reality can provide. Such is true for revising the ideas in this video, or building a healthy body. The patience from knowing what is the best course of action is so transformative. It defeats worry, procrastination, perfection, inaction, self-doubt, a lack of confidence. Although I’d like to end with “all we need is patience”, to me it is more we need to “find patience”. Patience appears to emerge through understanding, but once we have it, infinity seems manageable.
@earnyourimmortality
@earnyourimmortality Жыл бұрын
@@ma-burke Your comment is greatly appreciated. In a song I wrote recently one line simply states: *tune in with fate, create prophecy* When I wrote it, the depths of its meaning didn't hit me right away. My belief is that our active participation in this *forever present moment* does indeed allow us to have an active hand in prophecy. ❤️⚖️🧠
@Arianacccosta
@Arianacccosta Жыл бұрын
I moved and worked in a foreign city by myself. Feeling lonely, I started to use dating app, meeting those strangers. It turned out that I was objectified, devalued and lost, becoming even lonelier with the wrong people. Being able to be solitude, is something important for us to learn. It will make us stronger.
@asmiiii3
@asmiiii3 Жыл бұрын
Wow. I found this video and this channel at the best possible timing. I strive to be comfortable in solitude someday. I know it's a beautiful thing. And loving yourself and your own company is really a journey that cannot be fast-forwarded. It's a gradual process that will take time but at the end of the day, it will be so fruitful.
@colourlessfool5107
@colourlessfool5107 Жыл бұрын
Man if I can write and express myself like this. This video is amazing.
@dashbolt101s
@dashbolt101s Жыл бұрын
What I learned from life is that it is better to be alone than being with people that makes you feel lonely. Being diagnosed HIP, I always struggled with social interactions. I spent years of my life trying to find people with whom I could share my thoughts and passions, I got interested into them without anyone ever getting interested back into me, and this made me feel more lonely than ever. One day, I just accepted my difference and the fact that I may think differently and have niche hobbies, and now I'm alone, with only very few friends, but I feel less lonely and more at peace
@apian7594
@apian7594 Жыл бұрын
I think a good personal goal to have, is just to be able to be comfortable in your own company. To try and be someone you wanna be alone with.
@NickBoston
@NickBoston Жыл бұрын
At this point, I will bribe someone to become my friend. It’s next to impossible to talk with people. Everyone flakes out, or doesn’t share the same interests as you.
@simonlinser8286
@simonlinser8286 10 ай бұрын
It's just as bad if you need to be alone, just like needing to be with people and fearing being alone... loners can be like leave me alone don't bother me i need to be alone... just as bad... there's a balance, enjoy the time you're alone, maybe you'll end up wishing you could be, and don't fear being alone because you might learn to enjoy it. Just don't wish for what you don't have, unless you can get it. That's a waste of time.
@Illuminateus
@Illuminateus Жыл бұрын
I have "art of living a meaningless existence" wrapped up under my Christmas tree.
@sirius9468
@sirius9468 Жыл бұрын
I like that people like you exist in this world, thank you
@mr.cheese8745
@mr.cheese8745 Жыл бұрын
"Those who can't be alone, can't be honest, can't be loyal, can't be anything" Miyamoto Musashi
@realname1743
@realname1743 Жыл бұрын
What I got from this live everyday by putting your best foot fwd, live to love not hate, 😊not 😠.
@ari1667
@ari1667 Жыл бұрын
I'm so in love with your voice, especially when you do the fast paced seriousness.
@sagar65265
@sagar65265 Жыл бұрын
I think it's telling that the numerous spiritual traditions of the world all unanimously emphasize an inward movement. A movement into one's own existence, one's own theatre. If this is the method that they state will lead to the greatest joy, surely that means that the person we are closest to - i.e. ourself - must be the most worthwhile individual to get to know. Not because others are not worth knowing, but because the vast distance between us and them makes it impossible to know anyone else truly and completely. We can all hope and have faith that we are sufficient, complete and whole unto ourselves and that we are worth knowing. Certainly that should dispel the fallacy of confusing alone-ness for loneliness.
@bigbruthajack5453
@bigbruthajack5453 Жыл бұрын
I love that theater metaphor
@MissesWitch
@MissesWitch Жыл бұрын
Loneliness isn't a choice, But being alone is. These are alot of the things that changed in my mind from so many years ago I used to think all of these things just like he did but now, It's all about understanding others that is the most important to me!
@mayintheclouds
@mayintheclouds 4 ай бұрын
WOW This is probably the most beautiful thing I have ever seen and heard. Every single word hits home
@TDG361
@TDG361 Жыл бұрын
As a child I felt like everyone was observing me, not in a paranoical sense, but in the sense that I was an actor. I felt I was in a stage perfoming, and all other people were expectators. Later in life, I discovered I wasn't the only one feeling it, there is even anmetaphora "all the world's a stage". We are just acting, but we have the oportunity of being the actor and the director.
@StoryFanatics10
@StoryFanatics10 Жыл бұрын
we all feel the same.
@jeremyhennessee6604
@jeremyhennessee6604 Жыл бұрын
You're one of the best writers/thinkers of this (and Any) century. Sincerely .
@echosama618
@echosama618 Жыл бұрын
Somehow you've compiled my every thought recently in this video. Most of these thoughts I've actually thought this past year. These things are things I've recently come to realized.
@grimgrudge
@grimgrudge Жыл бұрын
For anyone interested. The first song is called Stay by Martin Hall.
@tygerk2372
@tygerk2372 Жыл бұрын
2:56 "We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." ---Anaïs Nin
@mikeysaint4368
@mikeysaint4368 5 ай бұрын
I believe that a lot of people who live alone, and who have limited social interactions, became fed up trying to make friends with people they wanted to spend time with but were rebuffed. When we once again meet someone genuinely interesting, and would like to spend time with them, but the feeling isn't reciprocated, there comes a time when it's easier (and avoids disappointment) to simply not bother trying to make that new friend.
@chibay99
@chibay99 Жыл бұрын
This whole video is sooo intelligent! 5 minutes long, but it feels like an infinte story of self-inquiry. Beautifully done!
@StoryFanatics10
@StoryFanatics10 Жыл бұрын
True.
@olu4740
@olu4740 Жыл бұрын
I love to replay videos like this a couple of times to let it really sink in.
@errebusaether
@errebusaether Жыл бұрын
I've been through a lot despite being young, and I learned from bitter experiences while I was walking in the cold breeze of an empty world that this is me. This is the real me. I live alone, I think alone. I have my own philosophies, beliefs, ambitions, desires, and goals. I am walking to a path where I will be complete. A path not many would be able to reach because its too painful, lonely, and cold. Before seven years ago when I was still a teenager. I didn't understand what it means to be me. I always lied to other people so I can be accepted. But now I feel even more freer and at peace even when the feeling of sadness crept up to me. I was adapting to this new perspective. A perspective I've denied for so long because I was afraid. I always questioned why no one was there for me when I was suffering so much. They couldn't understand what I was saying or feeling. No matter how many cries of help I said to them they stopped caring. So, I gave up after all those years once I got to the age of 19. This peace and solitude. The feeling of walking alone when no one is there at your back to support you even when a storm hits or a blizzard slowly freezing you. I am the only one that can support myself, because I am the only one who can understand me far better than a world of lies. There is no point in looking back into the past of deceptive moments. Those feelings of happiness were delusions made by people who never cared about me in the first place. It is a give and take relationship, that's all there is to it.
@samanthajayne4214
@samanthajayne4214 Жыл бұрын
I just want you to know what you do is incredible. I mean this from my heart 😉, when I say ' I commend your work and hear your messages. I love the pace and journey of each video you do. I'am truly moved and it touches my soul when I hear what I already feel from another fellow human xx
@freddydorling9548
@freddydorling9548 Жыл бұрын
The word 'sonder' describes the feeling one gets when considering the lives of everyone we don't know but share a world with
@jonnyquest1120
@jonnyquest1120 Жыл бұрын
This was truly and utterly poetic. Struck all the right nerves. I'll be saving this one for later. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, friend.
@qizhengg
@qizhengg Жыл бұрын
I just came back from a solo backpacking trip a month ago. When I was back home, I didn't know how to articulate my experience to whoever that asked about the trip. Thank you for this video, it definitely helps in putting them into words.
@StoryFanatics10
@StoryFanatics10 Жыл бұрын
I feel the same after my trip.
@nyrdybyrd1702
@nyrdybyrd1702 Жыл бұрын
I reeaaally dig this installment.. poetic and profound, an instant favorite alongside Amor Fati & No One Asks To Be Born.
@loveadumb
@loveadumb Жыл бұрын
your videos always keep me on track and move me in ways i can't explain. thank you.
@jukatheone8771
@jukatheone8771 Жыл бұрын
I have been following your channel for quite some time. I could say this content changed me for the best. Love to see that ou have met my country. All good for you m8, love u
@henniannariina5877
@henniannariina5877 Жыл бұрын
I’ve previously loved being around people who are superficially different from me, not because it made me feel the differences, but specifically because it has made me feel more connected.
@andreitalamasbonita8286
@andreitalamasbonita8286 Жыл бұрын
words truly can't describe how much I love this channel
@ekatasatya2995
@ekatasatya2995 Жыл бұрын
we are not determined by circumstancies, rather by perceiving them.
@realmenarzo7720
@realmenarzo7720 Жыл бұрын
Thanks to the team of Pursuit of wonder 🙏
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