WHY MEN TRY TO BREAK YOU DOWN: Relationship advice goals & tips

[@BrendaBaBoom]

They try to break you down because they are BROKEN.

[@SkylarSparkles-p9h]

Pow

[@brittthecancerqueenempress9137]

Yep pretty much

[@minimalistbae1986]

That part

[@jenj5152]

🎯

[@stopandsmelltheflowers26]

Boom, simple.

[@LeilaniLight11709]

That’s not just a weak man, that’s a man with demons in him to be so mean and useless.

[@trudy-annsmall9600]

Amen

[@nadineelizabeth195]

I think weak men have demons cos they have big insecurities but i understand not all weak men will be so nasty and malicious

[@x.7773]

Truth!

[@oldtimereligion1stlady447]

True real men won't go around trying to destroy women sick narcissist

[@nadineelizabeth195]

@@oldtimereligion1stlady447 there's so many sickos telling women bad things about themselves putting them down and if that woman is smart enough to see through it they call her crazy ans mentally ill.. I'm sick of this behaviour it never used to be like this I'm sure?? Men behaving like this with women?? Or was it hidden

[@danilaroche1156]

Wait to get to know a man. Dont sleep with him, no matter how much you want it. You'll be heartbroken and get a SOUL TIE. They are hard to break. Wait on God. Ask God to help you in this relationship thing. Pray for a good spouse.

[@pam164]

That's been my mistake. The last man broke me down to sleep with him after a few weeks of dating, as soon as I did, he disappeared. I was left hurt and used. Friends only if I meet any one now.

[@godd-ess5289]

I wonder why I always met Bums? I always went very long Periods of Being Celibate… But still never 👎 met a Good man… I think God just didn’t want me to meet anyone because I feel I was always Different and Special…

[@pam164]

@godd-ess5289 Same as me, never met a decent man yet and I'm 62

[@danilaroche1156]

​Why wouldn't God want you in a fulfilling relationship/marriage? God is a good God & He loves us. My boyfriend dumped me because he was intimidated by me. Also because I wanted marriage & he wanted sex. I was hurt & yet I know the Lord has a great man for me. An honorable man.

[@danilaroche1156]

​I have but they are rare and I'm in my 60s. I STILL believe God is able.

[@cynthiamoore6531]

When a man acts likehe doesn't care,believe him

[@dede2391]

👍🏼

[@RK-su4hs]

most times you’re correct…however sometimes it a defense mechanism

[@4crazy1chick2]

This is it in a nutshell.

[@same6158]

When he acts like he cares, believe him??? lLol

[@LG_Xclnt]

When he DEMONSTRATES care consistently, believe it. ​@@same6158

[@broco6608]

I'll give men one credit, they are SMART when it comes to seeking out and discerning gullible women to play with. They also know who they can't play with.

[@calicokat4172]

Cons

[@jenster29]

​@@calicokat4172 yeah...thats the perfect name for them. They are con artists

[@harrietboateng5239]

the wizards among them too

[@HolyRollerTV]

uh oh..the cat litter collective man hating again...

[@ak-47intelligence75]

​@@HolyRollerTV, chasing the cat eh.

[@yemedemure414]

Don’t date potential. They gotta come already POTENCHED! 💯💯🔥🔥

[@roses4me451]

I've said it a million times. If a man doesn't have his own: "Home/apt, car, gainful employment, jail/prison FREE background, money, good credit, drug/alcohol FREE, mental/anger issues FREE, DO NOT date or marry him! It is a major RED FLAG this man is NOT responsible, and will be looking for YOU to carry the financial weight in the relationship. He must come to the table fully equipped.

[@areyourhandsbroke]

😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@GiGiChosen]

I heard that!!! POTENCHED!

[@tiffanykimble9465]

Already come Potenched, love it.

[@ericasparks283]

Iktr

[@JustMeB729]

And she's right. There are men out there that will chip away at your self esteem. Be aware, and walk away.

[@HolyRollerTV]

thats the men you are choosing..don't blame the world of men for your own bad choices

[@bccctheresa]

Yesssssssss,

[@bccctheresa]

​@@HolyRollerTVThat's her opinion as well as yours.

[@HolyRollerTV]

@@bccctheresa dude please, its a fact that all these women make bad choices and cry about it in toxic comment sections ...

[@JustMeB729]

@@HolyRollerTV A bad choice would be you. Kinda sounds like it.. See how easy it was after being burned. It's easy to spot.

[@danilaroche1156]

Unfortunately, she's right. If your better educated, more accomplished with more assets, he will resent you. An insecure man will break you down. Only be with a confident, Godly and kind man.

[@elizabethpena1608]

Amen to that

[@tishr9670]

U forgot with equal means

[@sinceresong9907]

Kindness!!!

[@talenalewis1823]

Well said! 💯

[@HolyRollerTV]

why you take advice from an old bitter grandma who has zero man skills..she gonna keep you buying cat litter your entire life...

[@lorraine4755]

Even if your not in a romantic relationship with them, insecure men go after successful women to insult and degrade.

[@RK-su4hs]

@@lorraine4755 no way girlie ….it’s just about the money

[@minnieaustin777]

Yes you are right my husband passed away two years ago and i this man started talking to me but he was ok for a while he started talking about what i have

[@cynthia-jo1zz]

They love women with no backbone.. because to them these women are tools with no stress..they will sleep with you the same night they want to, they can reject you, they can talk any crazy with you.. when you are successful as a woman, you will feel men's wrath..they are not kind and usually malicious towards themselves.

[@chrissemenko628]

They also go after women they see as too strong willed. They wanna break us like wild mustangs

[@breal6905]

Absolutely!

[@sandywatson6922]

I just found this quote. "Dear Woman, sometimes you'll be too much woman, too smart, too beautiful, too strong, too much of something that makes a man feel less of a man, which willstart making you feel like you have to be less of a woman. The biggest mistake you can make is removing jewels from your crown to make it easier for a man to carry. When this happens, I need you to understand, you do not need a smaller crown - you need a man with bigger hands." I made that mistake, twice, but am now the wiser, thanks to people like Miss Faye.

[@ladyd8028]

@sandywatson6922 I LOVE that quote and its sentiment. 🥰

[@vashtikelly6837]

IF YOUR TOO MUCH FOR A MAN LET HIM GO FIND LESS!!!!!!!!!

[@VisibleTimes]

@@sandywatson6922 appreciate your comment 😊

[@katherinebedford9097]

What if he is a widow from a marriage of 56yrs says he wants to marry but trying to get his funds together. He is still wearing his wedding ring.

[@MiaEZ]

​@@katherinebedford9097wait

[@roses4me451]

The man in the video did not lie! Men always tried to put me down for having a home, car, good credit, degree, etc. "Aw, b***h!, you thank you sumpthin cause you got uh degree. Dat don't mean nuthin". Ladies, date & marry someone AT or ABOVE your level, or they will put you down, be jealous, and hate you for your accomplishments.

[@SherSher87]

I've date someone who accomplished way more than me and he still hate me for my accomplishments 🤷

[@lemostjoyousrenegade]

Same here. And the haters will definitely hate you for your integrity and good/upstanding CHARACTER even when they out earn you by millions! Also, if they’ve been a party animal and ever an alcoholic and you’ve NEVER in your life been attracted to that lifestyle (didn’t drink, smoke, experiment with drugs or attend wild parties/bar hop), they will TRY their damnedest to make you feel like nothing (because they regret their past actions/behavior) and then get extremely pissed off when you call them out on their emotional and psychological abuse/violence. They are PITIFUL! Committing crimes against humanity! Good women are NURTURERS and those who nurture life are to be HONORED and supported in every way. Trying to break a kind, loving, nurturing woman?…. WTF?! Beta (mentally weak) as hell! They must’ve had a real arese hole for a dad.

[@lela888]

A degree does mean “sumthin” and It’s hard work. I’m working on getting mine. Stand proud!

[@Sherita-v8t]

Some men have always been jealous of women. It is really a shame for a man to have female traits being jealous of a woman. Men can't handle when they see women doing better than them it means you really don't need them and they have been taught women are not smart we can't do anything we need the help of others.

[@isaiahjackson9983]

Omg you Women are so lost 😂😂😂

[@sandradavis4551]

I decided as a very young woman that life is too darn short to spend it playing man games. So I didn’t. I chose the solo game. Got my nursing degree, worked 40 years. Experienced life’s up and downs that comes with just being alive. At 69, I have retired on disability, but I’m still happy because I am alive with a good amount of sanity still remaining and a dog (the four-legged kind) that don’t play games. I know this sounds a little extreme to some folks, but it has served me well.

[@freespiritedaquarius913]

I’m 36 and I’m kinda leaning towards the route you took, dating has only brought me heartache and I’m tired of vetting just to get disappointed over and over.

[@yourstruly1984]

Happy for you ❤

[@LaverneGrant-ff8ub]

Good for you. You saved yourself additional headache. Life has enough ups and downs just like you said. What is important is where we gonna spend eternal life, either with Jesus or the devil. This world has nothing to offer

[@martaescobar7625]

I am 73 and experienced life from both sides........you didn't miss nuthin........I can do bad by myself.

[@VisibleTimes]

​@@LaverneGrant-ff8ub yes 🔥

[@beverlyjordan3791]

The only man is a REAL MAN who want to see you doing well and feeling well all the time...

[@BrendaBaBoom]

🎯🎯😘

[@yemedemure414]

Date with a purpose. Date with your eyes open and legs closed. Date to know what you want and don’t want. Dating doesn’t lead to marriage. Courtship leads to marriage. ❤

[@SunQueen-d7l]

😂well said 👏 👍 👌 date w/ur eyes 👀 open & legs closed! 🦵

[@einspiredllc6435]

Best relationship advice I’ve ever heard. I’m 39 and wish someone would’ve shared this with me. Thank you

[@danilaroche1156]

Right. Courtship, not dating. Don't give him the pumpum without commitment.

[@olicehamasamu6610]

Write a book my love.."Date with your eyes open and your legs closed." How I wish all men could manage this.

[@cha9165]

I've done this my whole life, still single. Only got my heart broken once but we were in a relationship. It taught me a lot.

[@henriettawyatt2713]

In today's world , some men don't want a good woman if they get a good woman they will try their best to tear you down. Learn how to date and know how to be alone. Pray to God for a real man, and wait on God and lean not on your on understanding. Be blessed Good luck 😊

[@trudy-annsmall9600]

Correct

[@169babylove]

Amen 🙏🏾❤️

[@mamadoom9724]

I’ve spent the past ten years trying to encourage my husband to be a good man. I thought I’d I could be a superwoman it would inspire him to do better but all it did was enable him to be lazy and hang out drinking all day while I worked long shifts and did all the housework on top of it. I’m at a loss on how to get him to do better. I’ve tried talking to him, leading by example, and praying like crazy and nothings worked 😞

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

​@@mamadoom9724If he hasn't changed in ten years he won't ever change.

[@sloanchessman5783]

I was married for 18 years to a man who disrespected me on a daily basis (he was a wealthy man). When I finally woke up and realized that I deserved so much better, I walked out the door and never looked back! That was 15 years ago, and I’ve never been happier!😊

[@bccctheresa]

I am happy for you ....❤❤❤

[@scholastickangwa9894]

So brave of you, sending you hugs

[@Farasview]

This Is Hope that its Never to late to Pursue Your Happiness.. Congrats!! Sending Love..🔥🎯💙

[@annlatson5922]

Thank you for sharing your story❤

[@ethnocentricfun991]

Amen

[@traceywilkins4616]

I enjoyed this. Some men have more than you financially and still try to bring you down because they don’t like the confidence that you have. They don’t like that others find you attractive so they do the same, try to bring you down because their self esteem is low.

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

Precisely...the very attributes they claim to admire and love about you is what they attempt to snatch out of you. Like breaking a Mustang. Shameful.

[@kimlogan1278]

That's true too

[@cynthia-jo1zz]

It's something from childhood.. there is this direct disdain they feel for a lady who is successful and most of the time they do it as a group.. not just one man

[@Abena_Goddess87]

So true, I was on a trip with a guy and he was mad at me for no reason. We had to go separate ways on the trip. So he didn't have a reason to be mad at me. The only thing that happened was a yt man flirting with me and helping me that day. After that we had to separate because I was a beginner and he was experienced. I'm not going to lie, I do flirt without even trying. 😂 he made that trip awful after that. We agreed not to deal with each after that. Months later he tries to talk to me again. He thought that I should see it as just one of our normal arguments. This was different. His is still trying to convince me to give him another chance.

[@sstanley4050]

MY LEGS ARE GLUED SHUT!

[@MaryHudson-dt4gu]

Yes.....! I love you 😘

[@adriennedouke1880]

NO MORE MEN. Full stop!

[@losmit2194]

Throw that rose away to

[@bernitapennick5930]

Close it down

[@rolliecrafts255]

😂😂😂👏👏

[@deezsugah]

Sorry! Can’t break me down - I’ll break him down before that happens over here! ✌🏾

[@BrendaBaBoom]

Frfr 👍🏽

[@Faithistheanswer]

Exactly 😂

[@HolyRollerTV]

the good quality dude aint being broken down by angry bitter cat ladies... terrible toxic women over here

[@deezsugah]

@@HolyRollerTV exactly! I’m quality too and that’s why it won’t happen!

[@HolyRollerTV]

@@deezsugah quality women do not fly the flag for bitter post wall cat grannies..

[@Curlyblonde]

As soon as you hear " You think you are so smart" or "You think you know it all" directed at you, you should apply the emergency brake full stop, and walk away without a second look. Just wasting your time and resources keeping company with a man like that. 🚩 You won't change his attitude.

[@stephaniec5215]

Wonderful words! Absolutely correct.

[@tishr9670]

Or if yr happy about something or an accomplished and they mock it...run, that means he is jealous

[@Arlene_witha_y]

Dated a very “nice” guy… super sweet to me, who eventually felt this way about me. He was definitely feeling inferior bc his financial and professional life was a failure being 13 years older than me.

[@ShelleyT-tp1uy]

Yes...especially if all you've said is "Good Morning Babe!" ..lol

[@HolyRollerTV]

@@stephaniec5215 dudes don't need to hear salty women yapping in his ear, thats what you dnt understand

[@Aiyanna1]

When women suffer from grief they need to be protected by friends or a father. Grief and depression make women vulnerable.

[@elishagarcia2568]

Yes, very true. Even the smartest woman can fall victim when she is vunerable. She is not herself (out of her element) and an easy target. This poor girl lost her mother for crying out loud, let’s lift her up in prayer.

[@BLKfootIndian]

Men need women Women need each other

[@sequoia4631]

Yes. Not ridiculed.

[@aleahc2299]

I totallly agree when I lost my father and mother I entered the most harmful relationships. My advice is to avoid relationships during time of grief. Grow heal and focus on self first

[@rosiefelder6542]

My mother died and I wasn't easy

[@Shejustkeepswinning]

I was once this girl she’s speaking about when I was in my 20s and even early 30s men would try to break me down and I will believe them. Call me names sabotage things that I was trying to do, and talk me out of things I wanted to do I mean, literally bringing me down. As I got older, I started to analyze the men that I were dating they were not college educated like myself, none of them had good job, but I soon realized that they were jealous and we’re trying to bring me down to their level. This is so true !

[@reneecollins9681]

Miss Spain no disrespect but you can be with a man for 5 years and they still can do the same things they would if you've been with them for 2 weeks I find some men just want to know if they can get it up more so they can get it in and it's okay with me because I haven't been with a lot but I've been but I'm not going to tell you they don't even know how to please a woman most of the time I'm doing all the work I don't know maybe why they're laying up there with me they're thinking about another man play mystery we got to stop talking about these men I get what I have to get get up get home and ask them to please do not call me I'm too busy to stay in drama and sex is not all I feel I need for my man but over the years I have found that young man can't please women no more they have become very dead dry you can't wait year 2 years 3 years it won't matter they still will have nothing to offer you and now blame you sad to say but men don't even have how to hold a woman's hand Play I'm Leaving on a 2 weeks Cruise I will make a good day of it and yes I have my protections believe me I know you can't leave home without it

[@natashalampkin366]

Same here never dumb down to their level

[@TianaThompson90s]

Forgive yourself ladies ❤❤❤

[@Dana_inc]

This guy claimed he like me and when he finally realized I was not interested he sabotaged a job I was supposed to get by not giving me the letter! He waited for a few weeks before giving to me! I had that feeling about him and now I know I was right! Things could have turned out differently if I never met him! Men and women can’t be friends!

[@SirenASMR_]

Sounds like my parents . Dated some men like this and now I just don’t anymore cuz most men are like this

[@sloanchessman5783]

“Better the devil you know, than the one you don’t know!” Ladies…this old saying doesn’t hold true. Don’t stay in a bad relationship where you’re being disrespected, abused (mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually or any other way), you deserve the BEST, not the crumbs!

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

Immense truth.

[@jibsja]

Unfortunately some women believe it’s better to have “a man than no man at all.”

[@TwilaB0721]

That's a very hard road to choose. I been there and done that.

[@broco6608]

As if it's some kind of flex against other women. Having a piece of a man is not a flex.

[@cheryah5324]

THESE ARE NOT MEN BUT WICKED Possessed Demons!

[@bobbiemartin8774]

Women are raised to think they’re not normal without a man…you are what you are….yourself…very valuable…be self sufficient as possible… you have talents…there’s a lot of things you can do to have a job…All children should be raised to work towards a goal…try to direct them towards a trade school or college…at least get a high school education…that is the key to everything…this is what my parents taught my brothers and me…any males that disrespect you …don’t walk…run in the other direction…don’t let a man manipulate you into having sex…that’s their #1 goal…not all men are that way but proceed with caution…exercise the word no in circumstances that you don’t want to do whatever…you are quite capable of being self sufficient if need be…you will find someone worth finding…men and women…marriage is a partnership…not full of insults, arguing or violence…or one being better than the other…not being treated like a slave… you can walk strong by yourself if that’s what you choose…you make your choices…never let anyone disrespect or abuse you…

[@everythingbeautyboutique5002]

So true

[@ElisaForHealing]

Ms. Faye, this was a great message and a much needed one. The men of today have become highly disrespectful to women. In my family, we are teaching our girls to be independent and to have boundaries. Financial independence is the key to respect. When you can walk away and support yourself you can leave a bad situation immediately. Ladies have your own everything. You can make a wonderful life for yourself.

[@brittthecancerqueenempress9137]

Facts!!!

[@hereisayana8207]

If you didn't teach your daughters how to develop and have boundaries....would you blame them later on, for not having them?

[@DawnFreeman-Robinson]

Demonic spirit has a bunch of our black men

[@p.nicolelawrence1978]

I've come to that conclusion as well. My Dad told me that the majority of Black men don't want to make a commitment. Or they'll be with Beckie, Quan-Lee, or Marisol, after they make it.

[@danilaroche1156]

Quan Lee? Dang! Or should I say Dim sum? I have a friend whose very wealthy and somewhat famous. A black man. He married a black woman. Not a Marisol.

[@queenkayenandi9322]

Girl…you ain’t NEVER lied. Something is serious wrong with a lot of black men.

[@kenyabean7781]

Facts

[@eleashaeatman]

Once I realized that he was sent by the devil himself, I walked.

[@belindaferrellkornegay6345]

Any male who attempts to break me down can consider themselves my enemy, not a friend or a companion!

[@shikabay36]

He is now my enemy.

[@SistaJenkins]

For real💯

[@rightway4113]

I was with a man off and on from the time I was 17 years old. I had two sons by him. He walked out on me when I was in labor with his 2nd son. My life had been in a mental, emotional, physical turmoil since the time I was 13, when my father died. He just came in and broke me down to an mental and emotional shell of a woman. I had a nervous breakdown and I was on medication for years. I allowed him to walk in and out of my life at will, no matter what he had done. He never once apologized to me. When I brought his behavior to his attention, he always turned it around on me. I felt hopeless, helpless, weak, broken, worthless, useless, and defeated. I felt powerless and like I had no choice but to be with him. He wanted to be with me and I felt like I had comform to his will. I finally quit him. I couldn't take it anymore. I no longer wanted him or loved him. He knew it too. Before long, God sent his karma in the form of a younger woman. She destroyed his mind, emotions, and money. Karma always spends the block. Those crazy men better be careful who they try to take down.

[@meenafree5931]

Yes karma always come back Sis! Bigger and Badder than he dealt it to you! Best of luck moving forward!

[@HolyRollerTV]

cry me a river..you delusional women choose these types of dudes and have babies with them...

[@kimlogan1278]

Karma is no joke, the Lord saw how he was treating you. Also, every low down man that has mistreated me wound up in the graveyard, true story. Don't worry, vengeance is Mine, saith the Lord. Take care of yourself and your sons .

[@LaverneGrant-ff8ub]

I was about to write he will reap what he sow but I see he is already reaping,

[@danilaroche1156]

Get off meds. They don't help. Depending on Christ Jesus.

[@gammie1017]

Ladies, we are all sometimes vulnerable. Forgive yourself, pick yourselves up, block these bums and get to know yourself better. Get counseling and stand on business.

[@iaf4454]

We are always vulnerable, that it is why they take advantage on us.

[@leona2222]

This happens to me at work too. I’m a woman with an engineering degree and most men I work with don’t have a college education so they come for me. Sabotaging and degrading me behind my back. You are so right Miss Faye. I’ve also dated men with less and it does become a power struggle.

[@denfolo5224]

🎉🎉 We are celebrating you. You will knock down all their obstacles, I trust you.

[@manifestwisely]

I worked in a corporate engineering environment for 18 years. I feel u, sis!

[@janicedaniels5333]

Stay strong lady if it gets to much for take them to court 😊

[@the8thchurch461]

​@@janicedaniels5333The truth! These sexist misogynistic patriarchal men need the courts to deal with them.

[@cha9165]

They automatically think you are in competition with them and you haven't said anything of done anything for them to think that 😂. They make things up in their heads, sabotage the relationship then blame you lol. Happened to me, I mentioned I had my own place in one of our dates, weeks went by be came over, he made a comment ' this is all yours', from then I knew he felt emasculated and he would try to dump me. I never mentioned anything about my apartment, he just thought oh she's got the apartment, I don't have this, she thinks she better when all I'm doing is lying on the couch trying to find a movie to watch. The women they always end up with are the ones less than then so they feel manly

[@goodeatsbyrobin7054]

Why Settle For Less, When You Can Get The Best ❤❤❤

[@williesmith3466]

Miss Faye, is so, so, right. Even female friends are like that, jealous and envious.

[@lucywhitmore9]

The world is so messed up

[@williesmith3466]

@@lucywhitmore9 you are so right!!! The world is messed up. But, we must keep hanging in there! God bless you.

[@sapphira5323]

Yep friends and family too. Feeling they need to put me down and then tell me it was a joke I'm too sensitive. No wonder I put up with men acting the same way 😔

[@williesmith3466]

@@sapphira5323 I was the same way, until I just wake up and dropped all of them. Friends, family and boyfriends. I want stand for mistreatment anymore. Like the saying goes I rather be alone then to be mistreated. Have you come across the people who are giving you sweet, nice compliments with one hand and mistreating you with the other hand.

[@sapphira5323]

​@@williesmith3466yes many many times, they just cause confusion. I'm glad you dropped them. I'm so good at cutting these people off now. Love miss Faye I never had a mother teach me to love and respect myself. Had to learn the hard way lol

[@laresarichardson2969]

That's exactly what happened to me I helped a man get on his feet and he tried to drag me down. Was extremely disrespectful. Once he felt he was on his feet he shitted on me. I finally cut his ass off. He was jealous bc I was educated beautiful and was established. Never build a man up. Ever!

[@thesacrificialsimp7165]

Man here. Same happened to me. Made the woman good. Helped her to retire early. Guess what, got disrespected and talked down to. It's a human nature thing. Power corrupts if you are not grounded.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

🎯

[@cucar8363]

The problem is that some women think this is not happening to them...blind, 100% blind.

[@kimlogan1278]

In the last days men become lovers of themselves. Women are going through tumultuous times these days finding a mate. Men act like B's. God is my ONLY MAN right now. I'm trying not to strongly dislike men, but it's hard. Don't help men get on their feet. Miss Faye is exactly right. I've always had boundaries.

[@Sherita-v8t]

Me too boundaries standards and respect and I want someone who also matches me. If I feel uncomfortable going something it is not happening!!

[@danilaroche1156]

Right. 2 Timothy 3, right? Those verses basically say that narcissism & evil will abound in the last days.

[@NOPE-po2pq]

When the Bible refers to men it is often stating men as in the human race. Men AND women. are becoming lovers of themselves. It's not just a male thing. Wickedness has no gender. Evil is evil. Very important to study and pray with the Holy Spirit and not put your personal emotions in it. Please take care where you get your information from and which videos you watch not everyone is a servant or follower of Christ just because a person may have a similar experience doesn't mean you should take heed to some of the things they may say. Follow God and read the word and you will not fail.

[@CodyCole80]

We Hebrews are on our way to The Kingdom anyway. We need to focus on being and getting with YAHSHUA instead of so-called dating. Let's get ready to go home.

[@Bubblegumz13254]

Over time after I started observing my ex's behavior. He didn't even like me. And was a womanizer and narcissist. You are so right he tried to break me. He didn't win. I won't settle anymore and keep working on me.

[@freespiritedaquarius913]

If you don’t mind can you share how you realized your ex was a narc?? I think I’m dealing with one😢

[@MamaDee737]

The conversation will Always come back to how they are affected or feel. They can't bring themselves to talk about you and your feelings.

[@hopeausbyn1734]

You hit the nail on the head when you said, " He didn't even like me." They will stay, just to get the love and the affection that they don't give you. COWARDS.

[@williesmith3466]

Miss Faye I had one to tell me that I was too damn independent! My own sisters try to bring me down because I decided to go on to college and they messed up their chance. I cut them off!!!

[@vivianperdue4329]

I had one said the same about me I blocked his ass sitting right next to him 😂got out the car and closed the door to my HOME boy bye 👋

[@monicabrown6601]

They miss there chance so they are trying to discourage you show them all what you can do😮

[@williesmith3466]

@@monicabrown6601 Thank you

[@HolyRollerTV]

men do not like masculine man haters like all you cat ladies

[@rosettalhenderson1641]

Good for you. My sister. Be yourself and best self. Do not focus on those distractors.

[@roseq536]

I briefly dated a guy who eventually told me he needed to humble me bc I thought I was too smart for my own good?! I never left a Dust bag so fast. I told him he knew who he was getting when we started talking (me: well educated, polyglot etc=> him: debt, no diploma anywhere, low ambition). The audacity 😂

[@icequeen491]

Then why did you date him?

[@roseq536]

@@icequeen491 this wasn’t his opening line. I dumped him after he told me this.

[@winninginlife]

​@@roseq536👏👏👏👏👏

[@iaf4454]

They have that audacity to say such things...terrible people!!

[@elizabethrose111]

SOME MEN WILL TRY TO BRAKE YOU, NOT ONLY OUT OF HIS INSECURITIES,, BUT TO CONTROL YOU. Be smart ladies!

[@Mizztaylor86]

This was so needed my ex tried to chip away at me knowing how much I loved myself, I’m so glad I closed that door and he’s still calling after 5 months of me leaving, he was a liar and cheater. He had me fooled for 3 years I was so confident when I met him but started questioning myself when I saw the women he was going after when I caught him , then he started calling me all types of names during arguments. It was unbelievable, I am so glad that door is closed. This is confirmation.

[@chrissyannsway]

At the very first time that they do this, block them and move on. The video clip is spot on.

[@HolyRollerTV]

delusional..you type of men you want, you aint blocking and moving on..stop lying to yourselves..you aint got options like that

[@laurawalsh2829]

Best way to sort the loser-user is to tell them sex is not on the table up front. Same with your funds: set boundaries and you can discern if he’s looking to use you. If they ghost you, you’ve just witnessed the trash taking itself out. Please don’t lose any sleep over it. It’s a reflection on their part. You’ve dodged a bullet and good on you.

[@icequeen491]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@nicolem2103]

I dated a man that was pleasant. We’d go to dinner and movies and talk briefly every day. Within 2 weeks he started yelling at me and accusing me of lying. I thought maybe he was having a hard time. So I showed him kindness, patience and consistency. He escalated to degrading me in public. I quietly blocked him. Next time id go away much sooner. I love your message. We are valuable.

[@sinceresong9907]

The switch up can be traumatic...even without sleeping with them

[@Beavis74-r3q]

What were you lying about?

[@queenkayenandi9322]

Glad you got away from him…he was definitely crazy. It doesn’t take long for them to show their TRUE selves.

[@eleashaeatman]

@@sinceresong9907the switch up is real! 🏃🏾‍♀️

[@hopeausbyn1734]

​@@queenkayenandi9322That's how you win. Within 3 months the half truths and lies of omission will surface. Go your separate way that first lie. No excuses.

[@tabithamoore-4463]

I just finalized my divorce February 27th from a covert narcissist. I was belittled and verbally abused for years. Never ignore the red flags. This healing journey has been difficult. Ladies love doesn’t hurt. #NPDsurvivor 🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@StormyMonday0896]

Lived this for 20 years, then made a 10-year escape plan. Then it took 12 years to heal and become me again. I feel the key is setting absolute boundaries and then turning off the internal dialog that you are bad which I now tie back to my childhood. I wish you a happy future.

[@aleahc2299]

@@StormyMonday089610 year escape plan. Wow I’m so very proud of you. I would love to hear your story.

[@Liteskinblacknotmix3d]

They are JEALOUS!!!!

[@SirenASMR_]

Jealous men need to just be gay and be with another man … my opinion

[@danilaroche1156]

Yes. Dem red eye! Many but not all so let's not generalize.

[@cherylp9963]

Esp of brown women...

[@Cmetoo]

It makes sense now… I wondered what my Ex husband meant when he told me “you won”. I’m like won what?? This was a competition for him. He tried his hardest to break me

[@Infojunkie-lj1up]

😮

[@vashtikelly6837]

MEN WHO WANT TO COMPETE WITH THIER OWN WOMEN ARE LIKE TIEANNA TAYLOR AND HER HUSBAND....SHE WON!!!! MEN WHO ARE A TEAM WITH THIER LADY AND PROUD OF THIER LADY IS ICE-T AND COCO...

[@SimoneGiles-l1o]

He's so pathetic, in a world where men have the advantage now they have to be at down a woman who loves them you didn't even know you were in a competition

[@RoyalBlood23]

Men always treat relationships like strategic moves .ALL.

[@chinaarlene7035]

​@@vashtikelly6837did you really give an example of ice t and coconut? You're weird.

[@joewalsh4685]

Girls out there, don't give up your cat too easy, if man et cat too quick he won't respect you. Respect yourself, and live a moral life. Men who just after your cat is no good, a good man wants a woman he can trust not a woman with no morals.

[@recovermylife2976]

What about guys that wanna sleep with you too soon I don't trust liars that wanna use me not someone I just slept with...why would a guy sleep with someone he doesn't trust your comment makes no sense.

[@alego8072]

​@@recovermylife2976... Sweetie, men will sleep with any person place or thing.

[@joewalsh4685]

@@recovermylife2976 because these men are untrustworthy, they just trying their hand, keep away from these loose living men, they behave like dogs.

[@jessik8660]

Many men will rush to sleep with you but once they succeed they disrespect you and look down their nose at you for giving them what they wanted. Men who sleep with you quickly then belittle you for sleeping with them quickly are manipulative and abusive.

[@liahlove8297]

​@recovermylife2976 he is speaking facts. Ive experienced this. Please leave that mindset behind or you will keep meeting men who use you, then leave.

[@jasonbiggs9261]

...true....Boys and men are different categories - Men dont have time for all of the mind games - Real men are intentional. the woman has to take responsibility in properly vetting a man and establishing a standard....You can leave the door wide open and expect a thief not to break in....women must establish boundaries and standards. You nailed it - a woman with self respect and values dont get played the way she did

[@chinaarlene7035]

So by your comment, you admit women are pure and men are workers of the devil, seeking who they can devour. Now the work of vetting is solely on the woman and if she has a mishap in judgement, it's all her fault.

[@Nycpinkbutterfly]

This lady be dropping Gems. Such a 👸

[@meganobrien5463]

Younger girls often don't understand how guys play with their minds. I didn't , I admit it. I have two brothers but never learnt anything from them. They were never there to protect and give advice. Brothers....your sisters need you! Look out for them.😊

[@Dana_inc]

My older brother told me to stay away from this guy but brothers (especially older ones) are over protective! I wish I had listened but once he put his hand around my neck that was it!

[@hopeausbyn1734]

You must listen.

[@chinaarlene7035]

​@Dana_inc similar.

[@shirleyslifer2919]

I think an important thing with marriage for women is to keep her maiden name or in her name. It deals with vibration of who you are. Will help with keeping your power.

[@sashacollins1031]

And it’s easier if she’s gets a divorce . It’s so hard to do name changes on accounts when you are a new divorcee . They put you through the wringer.

[@winninginlife]

​@@sashacollins1031No they don't, in my divorce of 20 years my attorney said when the Judge asks if you want your maiden name back say yes because if you wait you have to pay later. My kids were teenagers at the time so there was no reason to keep my ex husband last name. Plus I was smart I kept my maiden name when we got married...My 1st name, Middle name, Maiden name and Married last name all printed out on my SS card. I never told him, it was my way of holding on to who I was, be smart ladies... secretly keep your God given power ❤

[@BelindaKgokong]

💯

[@kcc9249]

Ms. Faye is a beautiful woman who is classy and wise, we are blessed to have her share quality content.

[@lucywhitmore9]

Absolutely

[@danilaroche1156]

I like her too. Pray for her.

[@rubyred3860]

I know a man that’s financially ok and will still bring a woman down in a heartbeat.

[@kenyabean7781]

Sick

[@JumpWatsonYT]

Yes. I am starting to see that men don’t want you to see your value. Especially if they can’t have you.

[@RondaSmith144Empress]

Alot of these so called men try to break you because of your light, you've been loved and nurtured by your parents or family and he wasn't , you're intelligent, loving, beautiful and powerful even though you don't make anyone feel less than or flaunt anything. NEVER dim your light, be a doormat, flunky, punching bag, or ATM for any man or anyone else 🔑🙏🏽. If he can't spiritually feed you its a wrap too ✌🏽. Ms. Faye👍🏽👍🏽💐💖. Work on you and happiness is indeed an inside job😉.

[@aleahc2299]

The most perfect comment of all. You speaking about my current situation and it’s so sad I bore children into this madness.

[@RondaSmith144Empress]

​@@aleahc2299You're worth more than troubles and what you've endured does NOT define you. Keep breaking curses, healing, and setting a new standard and legacy for your children🙏🏽. God will not give HIS chosen ones more than they can bare plus HE knows what's in you and our assignments are of great significance🙌🏽. Sending you love , strength, and peace❤.

[@chinaarlene7035]

I've said this often in the last few years...people will hate you because you were raised in love and they weren't. Doesn't matter if you came from a single parent family. The love you've been raised in shows and others who didn't have that may be very envious.

[@RondaSmith144Empress]

Facts

[@MZHARDBODYENT]

It’s in the Bible in these last days men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money & haters of good doers

[@cherylp9963]

True that.......

[@littlemissy8356]

I wish I would have heard those words when I was 18. I didn't give them money or let them get away with a lot. But I didn't know my worth either. So I excepted crappy men. Never again. The thanks belongs to you Miss Faye.

[@TianaThompson90s]

Forgive yourself my love ❤❤❤

[@RyuWillows]

Yes, I wish I heard this too, now I’m a single mom at 19. I love my baby girl, but these were never my intentions.

[@chinaarlene7035]

​@RyuWillows I was a single mom at 20 and now I'm 37 soon to be 38. Focus on your daughter and yourself. That means exercising, finding hobbies and reading books if you can't afford hobbies. Take your mind off males at this critical point in your life and focus on self love!

[@dominiquejennings7435]

Thank you for your knowledge. I've been married for 35 years living like this. He put me out, so I filed for divorce. He knows now what he stands to lose, now he wants me back promising to change. This helps me. I'm not going back

[@RuthSchap]

It is so wrong tearing down the person you supposedly care about to feel good about yourself. I am glad that you posted that video with the comment on the late Kevin Samuels. A good man will bring up a woman and be supportive of her accomplishments, not tear her down so he can feel good about himself. The more accomplished and independent a woman is the harder is becomes to find a man because most men, even well-educated ones are shallow and insecure. They need to feel good about themselves by rescuing the damsel in distress not the strong independent woman. Miss Faye, you send an excellent message to all women.

[@BNyaB]

👏👏👏👏

[@NikoleMitchell-d4f]

I’m Glad I ran across your video Ma’am Thank you 😊

[@kirstenbrogan5958]

Men who are truly interested in you will protect and invest in you. Doing just enough to appear like this is not even close to the real thing.

[@Seemidarling]

May the divine protect you Miss Faye keep you well and healthy and a long prosperous life. Your advice has been invaluable to me because of you I’m 2 years celibate. I was on a long road of destruction and low vibration, thank you with all my heart ❤

[@chaunceydumbuya3050]

He knew she was vulnerable so he love bombed her & took advantage of her vulnerability. She is using him to distract her from the pain of her mothers death and he taking advantage of how much she like him. It’s not about sex bcus he can get that anywhere, it’s about him having power and control over a vulnerable individual. The one who loves the most get hurt the most. That’s why it has to be mutual. She need to get help about her mom.

[@karenblueford8]

You right don't let nobody disrespect you. You talk like my momma ❤

[@Aseeyah-vt9kl]

Some men are very deeply insecure. No father figure , growing up in poverty, no proper guidance from the adults around them. I can go on and on. One guy told me that he used to see pretty girls and get them, then dump them just to let them know they were not all that! I knew that was a sick individual inside.

[@peaceearth2903]

Her friend needs time to heal and mourn from losing her mother. She moved on way too fast with a second boyfriend.

[@KathleenMcHale-l6g]

Don't give him money or your honey pot 🍯....he will move on

[@AnimalLover-dw2wu]

When you break a woman down, nobody wins. 🙂‍↕️

[@danilaroche1156]

Men who do this are foolish. The Bible says men should honor women.

[@gerpoiz]

Thank you, dear Miss Faye. You didn't have a daughter so we are all your daughters. Thank you for your kind advice

[@debrabass-hv8er]

They want to see my well run dry and it will not.

[@angelalindsey6797]

Yup, I've been in that trap of helping a man. Married for 16 years and he couldn't read. He made it my responsibility to teach him. He slowly chipped away of my self esteem. Found out when I got out he was a narcissist. He was weak and tried hard to bring me down. Ms Faye you are on point. OMG eggshells yup!!!! I am healthy and healed Ms. Faye it took 5 years thank you God!!!!!!

[@iaf4454]

Ohh dear

[@tynaangelici3023]

No the male needs to be held accountable for using this woman. The woman is enabling his behavior I agree.

[@jessik8660]

I definitely think that terrible guy is more at fault. Sure the women made it easy for him to use her but she had just lost her mother and was grieving not in a right state of mind and that loser guy took advantage of her in an vulnerable mindset

[@HolyRollerTV]

@@jessik8660 women keep other women single and bitter..this is clearly the case over here..its like an episode of the boondocks...damn...

[@jessik8660]

@@HolyRollerTV the man in the video was clearly abusive and using her friend for sex and money. He said he didn't want a relationship....so what are you talking about ? She was single the whole time.

[@HolyRollerTV]

@@jessik8660 who cares what you think cat woman...

[@jessik8660]

@@HolyRollerTV obviously you because you responded to my comment when I wasn't even talking to you, Bat man.

[@giggles1219]

11:07 I wish I had this reality check back in 2016. It took me years of therapy to recover from narcissistic abuse. 😒

[@BlackButterfly504]

Almost one year no contact with the ex narcissist. That guy was so jealous of everyone that crossed paths with him and felt entitled to everything I owned. So thankful God rescued me from that demonic being.

[@thesacrificialsimp7165]

A humble commenter here. All of the comments here and Miss Faye's speech, can be applied both ways. I'm a man and I have experienced many of these issues. The women that I have had in my life have attempted to break me down in all of these issues. The key is to respect one another.

[@rubyokosi6946]

I’ve been by myself for 15 yrs. I’m too happy. I was married to a dirty narc for 25 yrs. I dumped that fool . No thanks. I was exhausted when I got rid of him . Wife for a lot of women is not a status symbol . A lot of time the title of being a wife means being screwed over. Ms Faye you are 💯thank you for explaining it. I’ll never give my power away again

[@Beavis74-r3q]

He couldn't have been too bad of a guy you were with him 25 years

[@rubyokosi6946]

Ditto😂😂😂😂❤❤❤

[@brittthecancerqueenempress9137]

My parents talk to me about this stuff all the time 💯💯

[@moniquesbeautylifeover50]

Miss Faye is the truth 💯

[@TheCarolsarratt]

Your partner should be your best friend! All that lust fades away then it should be you two as a solid team. Have each others back.

[@Lala89856]

Thank you. I met a man in his thirties who was making some cash here and there..about 100 dls a month. He didn't have any interest in finding anything better. I said, "Wait, i have my own place, a good job, and own money." He was in that situation for more than a year that we talked as friends. I told him we could be just friends because I was looking for someone who made at least what I made.

[@sapphira5323]

My last ex I later found out he was following Kevin Samuels so it all made sense. The little put downs and one time after an argument where I stood up for myself he told me to know my place 😔 I'm glad I didn't waste years with that one because I learned from the ex before him. That was a huge life lesson I needed to learn so now I know how to spot them

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

My ex-husbands Mother said the same to me because I refused to tolerate verbal and physical abuse...smdh

[@roses4me451]

Read these two books ASAP! "Things men don't want women to know" by Bill Doe & Mike Smith. "The Game - 41 shades of men." by Princella Clark. Get ready to find out the TRUTH of how men really think about women, the lies & games they play to get what they want from you.

[@SunQueen-d7l]

Bingo! my ex is a disciple of Mr. Samuel's. Huge red flag it would never work out.

[@Beavis74-r3q]

He told you the truth about yourself and you didn't like it

[@NOPE-po2pq]

​@@roses4me451 LOL you don't need a book to tell you what dudes think about females. You can see it in the comment section. Or just go to a red pilled/black pilled forum and watch the incels complain about the "stacys" they can't get. Minute you ladies learn about incense you'll never want another man again. 😂

[@stanback2415]

My soon to be ex husband’s truths came out (unfaithful the majority of the marriage) and he said the reason was bc he was unhappy and wanted to be equal to me financially. I made a purposeful effort to NEVER posture myself as more than him due to his income and stood by him during multiple job losses. In return he tried to destroy my mental health through emotionally abusive behavior. I stayed way too long bc I made vows. He described himself as a “savage” and now that he’s sickly he wants me to stay.

[@khrisi9410]

Run

[@LaverneGrant-ff8ub]

Run girl run

[@IamAlchemy78]

Somethings wrong with the man who calls a woman ugly, and you are pursuing her. This is the second time I’ve heard of something like this. I have never heard of that in my entire life and I am 46. Men can get a sniff of low self-esteem. And when they do, it’s like sharks in a tank when they smell blood, they attack. I have sons and if I hear one of my sons ever call somebody ugly, I will clearly and gladly ask them then why are you with them? If you got a problem with them, let let them be it look bad on you . Good advice thank you so much

[@CodyCole80]

That let's you know they are only using the young woman.

[@wandawilliams1378]

😢"it's better to stay with the devil you know then to go with a devil you don't know" thanks queen "working on ourselves is better" love this message 💕💯

[@altheaseaborn1081]

That ladies friend shes speaking of is her. She is the lady!!

[@peaceearth2903]

He took advantage of her at her lowest vulnerability and at her lowest self esteem for sure. Her mental state was too foggy to think 🤔 straight.

[@jessik8660]

Exactly she was only 20 years old grieving the lost of her mother and here comes this older man who probably acted charming in the beginning then went all physco once he had her where he wanted her

[@peaceearth2903]

@@jessik8660 I agree 💯 her heartbreak is still fresh and hurting.

[@kimlogan1278]

Just a baby losing her Mom. These VULTURES don't have empathy, they are the DEVIL ON EARTH!!!

[@msutton7400]

I have a friend of 40 years who's never been married. She told me about 20 years ago she was going to get married I asked her why? She said because she wanted to be taken care of. I asked her are you willing to pay the price to be taken care of? She said huh! I then said sometimes when a man takes care of you and says jump your responses is supposed to be how high? Fortunately and unfortunately she's never married. It doesn't mean she didn't deserve to have a husband but most likely he was not the right one.

[@dacommish23]

....and what's your husband's opinion about that? Just like grandma talking in this video, probably don't have one, while all of the white women that taught yall this back in the 70s have husbands...

[@satindoll7300]

​@@dacommish23and many of them are miserable AF. I think it's pathetic that black men continue to take white men's standards and project it onto us. We have always been aware that our situation is different from WW. When black men start telling the truth about selling us and the community out, then we can have real conversations. Until then y'all will continue to look like a bunch of lost, conquered and defeated bucks. Easy targets for everyone!

[@edie4831]

My opinion is: " God set the standards; not people in the 70s nor any other Era. God said: Adam should not be alone while his dwelling was Eden. God defined what a Man, a Husband, a Son, a Woman, a Wife, a Daughter, should be as lined out for all time in the Bible. What has warped these definitions of people is People. People who were given " Free Will" to make their own choices. For each choice made- consequences follow. I applaud all of these people who have lived, made mistakes in life and want to help somebody else to not endure the hardships their experiences have caused them.

[@Aiyanna1]

That woman was suffering from grief. That man was a way out of the pain. He took advantage when she was weak hearted.

[@judithdavis-lloyd4768]

I totally agreed to everything u said here Miss Faye…young women should learn to be independent first to know their value so they can rely on themselves before getting into a serious relationship.❤❤❤

[@Journey4Vitality]

You have the best advice. I’m definitely dating up this time, I built him up to only walk away with nothing (7 years wasted). Lesson learnt in the most brutal way. I’m totally awake now. However, I had a conversation with a man about 4 days ago. He has encouraged and motivated me so much in that short time, then my ex could ever do. The man is everything you mentioned, confident and evolved. He is speaking to me as friend, nothing more.

[@aprilm4423]

Society breaks men down; it really pulverizes BLACK MEN. What do broken men do? They bring that brokenness HOME.

[@danilaroche1156]

Satan breaks men down. Spiritual warfare. Read Ephesians 6:12.

[@charisparrott6177]

They better go get therapy or counseling.

[@amphindian]

Move to Africa and see how it is there

[@chinaarlene7035]

As a Black woman society has tried to break me down in the media, the music and the workplace. Nobody gave a damn. Stop with this "only black men are discriminated against" bs.

[@QueenCraftsChannel]

I have a business and I work with celebrity men all the time. My business took off about 5 years ago. You should see how many ex's pop back up randomly trying to weasel their way in. I've had some guys trying to "humble" me because I'm plus size so my self-esteem would be low enough to give them a chance. She is 100% correct. I will be by myself before I let somebody talk to me any kinda way.

[@Vixinaful]

During my near 5 decades on this planet, my experience with these men is that behind this behaviour is a deep deeep insecurity and fear of the woman leaving. They think that if they can brainwash her into believing she is ugly and worthless, she'll think noone else will want her and that he has to stay with him. This is a misconception. What it actually does is to hurt her feelings so hard, it will break her emotional ties with him and she will leave him. Thus his fears becomes reality.

[@berniel6962]

Thank you Miss Faye. I understand your message and I live by it intuitively. It is good to have it reinforced by you. 😊

[@anniegraham8367]

Ms Fay you are so right when they tell me oh you got everything their nothing a man can do for you . I say bye boy and i move on i love God first then myself Thank you Lord for my Blessings

[@KeishaPorter]

Women!!!!!! We have to stand on self worth this is the best message

[@patricewilliams4627]

To date up is very important and essential. Thanks for video.

[@ViagensGringa]

Miss Faye, you're the best!! They slowly chip away indeed. Hard to find a man on my level though, I came up from nothing, got a doctorate, run my own business, make 6 figures,, taught myself 3 languages, and have a decades long spiritual practice. Thank goodness for sisterhood.

[@lacherebradshaw7320]

It's character.. wealthy and poor men alike can be abusive..P.Diddy for example.. yes it's character

[@williesmith3466]

I look for a man with good character, how he treats me, and for him to show me who he is in a relationship. If, a man treats you bad, tell him that you’re going to get a loaf of bread and don’t go back. I know a lot of women who are submissive in their marriage and relationship and they look to single women to make them happy or they will try to pull single women down. Remember people you have a CHOICE!

[@sherrychowning811]

Have a blessed Day!❤❤❤

[@marlenahawkins7098]

Amen it is better to be alone

[@goodeatsbyrobin7054]

Some Women Believe That It’s Best To Have A Piece Of A Man, Than To Have No Man At All !!! Sad But True

[@denfolo5224]

My mom trying to force me to get married said it; her friend said no. 😂