Why Narcissists LOVE Starting Drama

[@Ms_Lolita-u6n]

My experience with these people is that they love to create chaos and confusion, while professing to hate drama.

[@chasesidora]

So you’ve met my ex husband lol😂😂😂

[@CreationsByRachel]

Create the problem then back up and say they had nothing to do with it and you started it what's wrong with you. I have no idea what you are talking about

[@CreationsByRachel]

​@@chasesidoraI believe we all have 😂😂😂. I am starting to believe they get a professional narcissist handbook from their secret underground club meetings are monthly

[@chasesidora]

@ right! Narc Club! They don’t talk about Narc Club, they just do the works of Narc Club!

[@user-wc5dw2qx9i]

Yep. And then do it in front of others, like see she starts drama all while it's them. I'm over it.

[@annberlin5811]

They create drama when they think you are getting bored of them

[@MentalHealness]

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[@londontyler6598]

They get off on Chaos & Confusion

[@colibri7-m1h]

YeS.

[@deha5084]

The lack of memory made me think the ex narc was having cognitive issues. I didn't realize why he could never remember anything terrible that he had said or done until I dumped him. I didn't realize he was a full on narc. All I knew was that I didn't need that kind of nonsense in my life.

[@IreneHamilton-w5i]

They don't have common sense it's just crazy

[@MentalHealness]

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[@365cmc]

I never understood why they love to live a stressful life.

[@shyanjohn2024]

That sinister laugh is so accurate oh my 🙄

[@MentalHealness]

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[@mnmakinres]

They also do that to have something up their sleeve to cheat

[@MentalHealness]

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[@Indy__isnt_it]

I left this exact comment in a video yesterday. He lives for watching me break down after the verbal abuse

[@Indy__isnt_it]

Yesterday also included physical touch. He looked like a pissed off kangaroo, chest puffed out, standing tall throwing punches. He pushed his chest against mine pushing me against the wall. Hands leave marks, he figured out this method controls with no visible

[@angelandrews2276]

Lee is absolutely right on starting drama too they thrive on drama and say they don't like drama !

[@colibri7-m1h]

One recognize after a while, the way they act and talk, the pattern is the same. They need to feed of some emotions , good or bad.

[@user-sb7iy5nw9b]

That's why I'm spending holidays alone away from my toxic family. 🎉

[@camarwalker5876]

I ignored the drama so well, the ex became enraged and sabotaged His Entire Household 😂

[@encouragingcorner2549]

Facts!!! That is why I left and am separated from my narc husband. He is still creating chaos and playing the victim role.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@mercedeswalker7819]

Literally said “I like a little toxic…. Let’s us know that we are still alive !” He has to have a thrill and with that comes no peace !!

[@wendyfitch625]

I used to tell him I wouldn't participate in the argument he was trying to create... Always given the silent treatment afterwards. The silence was actually worth not getting sucked into the argument !

[@chasesidora]

The ex used to literally poke poke poke until I got frustrated to the point of tears then would sit around with a goofy ssa smile on his face

[@AshleyHenderson8899]

My ex narc ALWAYS would say I don’t like to fight and argue but quick to create chaos. I asked him today why did he call our daughter just to tell her he wasn’t getting her anything for Christmas because she chose to be homeschooled? I asked him why was he creating chaos in my home. Of course he tried to play victim like he doesn’t know what I’m talking about. By him telling her that, I guess that gave him the control he desired.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@tranquility9325]

Kings and queens of chaos

[@Theinvisiblewriter]

Hi Lee, I’ve been watching you for a while and just found out the person I was talking to and planning a future with has a wife. I’ve known him for 15 years and we dated when we were 13-23 and he was a compulsive liar then. Since we are now nearly 28 and have been separated for YEARS. I thought we had both grown and changed only for him to call me this morning and tell me he’s been lying to me and has a wife. He got married in March and we’ve been talking daily for the last 2 years and I had no clue he was even married.

[@Jen18878]

So sorry to hear that... So he was living a double life all this time. Lying to you and the wife... Smh

[@enigma1487]

He would 'diagnose' me with all sorts of issues and make out that all the problems in our relationship were COMPLETELY my fault... and then tell me to go away and do 'homework'... he even told me what I needed to do... 😵‍💫

[@IsabellaPiesch]

Those people are like mothers - they always try to tell you what to do. But we always are like children and say NO - isn´t it. (At least I always was and am that way).

[@donnadaniels5095]

This is why I don't waste my time saying anything I just walk away and I think that bothers them when you do not give them no Power😂 By walking away and no contact

[@kajenslv]

WHOA - you have just described my whole life- first with my mother and then my husband…. I have been the victim of intermittent smear campaigns my whole life. I have said a million times to myself. “what the hell is going on here?“ They would say the craziest shit to other people and to me sometimes in group settings, then denied it to my face LIES LIES LIES Thank you for explaining because I could never figure out what the hell makes them want to do this. Now that they are both out of my life, I control the narrative of my life.

[@hope-lx6rb]

They regulate their emotions through negative energy ...that's y .peace make them anxious

[@MentalHealness]

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[@hope-lx6rb]

@MentalHealness you are inspiring for people like us .respect for you.

[@donnadaniels5095]

I think my EX narcissist Family mother sister brother, used to be mad because I would never give Them reaction🤫 and I think that's why they didn't like me🤣 Standing strong no contact💪

[@sharonb519]

Lee, can you please talk about our adult narcissist children? 😭 Thank you and Merry Christmas! 🎄🎅🏻🦌

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@mamawatorotalks8208]

My Ex would talk about me to his sister and paint a completely different picture of me, then sit back and act innocent, behind me it was a whole lot more than he was

[@kimmae9283]

Out of nowhere and for no reason my ex emailed me today with a screenshot of a Facebook profile of some guy I don't even know, accusing me of having a relationship with this stranger and calling me a whore lol

[@londontyler6598]

Man. Try we’ve broken up , since I verbalized it 2 months ago, and he wonders what I’m doing. Lol

[@kimmae9283]

​@londontyler6598 crazy!

[@guyincognito7808]

@@kimmae9283 No contact works best. If he can email you and you read it/react to it, you are just feeding narky-narky. Silence, pure stark silence is what they deserve

[@beemonique8466]

My ex is an extreme narcissist. It's generational in his family. His family is Toxic!

[@cletiawilliams1436]

💯💯💯💯💣 my older brother keeps it stirred up all the time things from 30 yrs ago!..... no lie

[@liliaaaaaaaa]

My sister I haven't seen for 7 years came back to stay with my parents after divorcing her husband after spending 10 years in NZ the other side of the planet. The whole time she was complaining to me about her husband. Now she's come back to the Uk, she's been going to my parents & brother & his partner complaining about me, showing them emails I sent her 6 years ago for no reason. My family are all narcissistic so they've all lapped it up. She's just done a masters in psychology as well. Just total attention seeking drama. I've just realised she's bought into the whole game my mother's been playing for the last 50 years of my life. It's always my fault, everything's my fault & I'm the one who needs to see the therapist & be corrected & change. Nobody's even told me what emails I'm supposed to have sent her or seen or listened to my side of the story. So I've just told them I'm not going for Xmas & if they want change they can "be the change they want to see" & lead by example & if my sister wants to see me face to face for a conversation in real life one day when she's ready to make peace when she's feeling calm enough I'm here. She's just made a total drama out of nothing, just because I sent her email telling her I found her annoying sometimes 6 years ago. My narc ex likewise has fabricated an entire drama in his mind I need to be punished because of an imaginary crime he believes I falsely accused him of, when we split up 3 years ago. I've worked out the only problem I've got in my life is narcissistic abuse syndrome & needing to set clear boundaries, so their BS doesn't get to me, then I'm 100% fine!

[@jisookim5847]

my narc admits he is dramatic sometimes. he is a drama queen.

[@donnadaniels5095]

My mother always kept a lot of mess going in the family👿 and when I realized she was behind It all, I walked away Quietly, and never looked back✌️ No contact

[@Tiffany-y6i]

This is exactly right. He is always starting drama and won't acknowledge it when confronted. Omg

[@MentalHealness]

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[@MizzzLuna]

The DAMN truth🎯

[@AnnemarieMichels-zs5xn]

“Common Sense, nope!” You’re so on par. “Why do you love drama?” From the start of the relationship, “I hate drama, why are you so dramatic?”

[@MentalHealness]

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[@moniqueboatfield]

If there isn’t drama, they don’t get to be the victim, lol.

[@timelesspugs]

Wouldn't coverts start drama through the smear champion? It has been my experience that way.

[@MentalHealness]

yea

[@IsabellaPiesch]

In those season I miss the Christmas tree plumbing drama. No hole no more in the Christmas tree. And for sure I miss the cleaning dramas. I can tell you those people are really something.

[@crmlcutie16]

Reminds me of my soon to be Ex’s sister in law….. If yall only knew!!!

[@IreneHamilton-w5i]

My ex accused me of getting pregnant by another man lol I generally have chronic stomach issues especially when under high stress what a dummy

[@MentalHealness]

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[@merph1s]

Sounds like my little sister.

[@kelseypavestheway]

He started so much chaos I don't even know who he really was. Maybe he did that so I didn't see who he really was cause he didn't want me to. He did warn me he was a bad influence and that he was crazy where i didn't wanna know what was happening in his head and compared it to movies. I dunno if he was a good guy cause at the same time he did predatory things. He had two sides. Also never took his psychiatric medications for ADHD which was a factor too with alcohol and tree use. I had no idea how to talk to him after awhile cause he was seeing and talking to multiple people. Including a married woman who he was a side piece too and always cried about her ex. Just proved to me he was incredibly insecure. He needed to be exposed so other women knew which is different from smear campaign. I always debated telling his current supply about his red flags but they deserve each other so I won't lmao I would never emotionally cheat on my husband but she did with him while he was getting multiple supplies. Let them enjoy their chaos together 😂

[@scorpionpoison9546]

But they're afraid of death? 🤔

[@ReRe_642]

Because they know HELL is waiting.

[@Godlytoe71]

My ex gf has become completely obsessed with herself and thinks she’s the perfect human being after I left her because she was treating me awful.

[@Wolfiewildfire]

I know Lee was reminiscing at something he did in his past that was messed up when he giggled, closed his mind & started talking about smear campaigns. What’d you do Lee? Tut tut. lol.

[@One-x2x8o]

Sounds like llamas

[@Jojoshanny]

lol Lee, I hate all narcs so your not my favorite I don’t like any narc, but I love your content

[@sosoc2616]

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[@MentalHealness]

♥️

[@JA-nx9wb]

It is all about the attention- any attention is good attention. But my ex loved creating love triangles so he was the one everyone wanted and he had all the women in his life fighting over him.

[@MentalHealness]

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[@KKP20111]

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[@pinkheartfairy]

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[@jessycaowens1180]

Can you talk now about peoples that are married to narcs. It’s always if you left or before hand. What about people that are currently married to one

[@ladyredd6857]

I'm married to one for 14 years with two kids that just turned 9 and 5 and he made me do a reverse discard and immediately moved in with his mistress co-worker and her two kids so my holidays are ruined and me and my kids need prayers it has been a lot of stress😢😢😢

[@MentalHealness]

most of my vids are geared towards couples

[@ksl3240]

Popping into the comments to send you love and to wish you wholeness, fulfillment and blessings in the New Year🫶