Why People Pleasing Makes Grief WORSE!

[@janetmoberg8926]

This is really full and rich, Jo. So much here to reflect on, journal about, and process. It is significant to me that this unlocks something all the way back to my childhood. Exploring the further, deeper things that grief work brings up is so very revelatory and can be healing as we allow it to be...

[@Donna-sk8vi]

It hit me today, when I saw the obituary. Tomorrow will be one week from his death. Over two decades of love.

[@jeanmarieguitard202]

Thank you, Jo. I still cry many times a day after losing my adult son to cancer over 2 years ago. It feels like yesterday. I get the 'you should be over it' vibes from everyone in my life, so say nothing.

[@carak4356]

That statement about grief and trust with showing yourself really hits home for me. I wonder that client resolved that because that’s not a nice way to feel. I really relate

[@c.brownell8618]

Thank you. I still cry every day after so many losses. Every normal request feels like a demand and I need to learn to set firmer boundaries.

[@jennifershort3104]

I don't like crying around others because I'm afraid of losing control. It's not as much about how they feel as my need for privacy and not having to explain myself.

[@erilindigmaya2707]

I feel very full of feelings. Like a balloon that has overfilled. I don't like being around people. Find it exhausting. Have to put on a brave and happy face. I want to retire just so I can have my space to go through this. It's way bigger than what I thought. It's like hot acid. Physically hurting. ❤

[@rozanidesignsmasquerade7050]

Good topic. 👍 It was hard for me at first to say “No”. I don’t have any problems with it anymore. That is to say, if someone insists on trying to convince me when I’m not comfortable or ready, I stand my ground politely as possible. I do say “Yes” when it’s genuine and not out of feeling obligated. It’s a relief for me not to people please that has been long overdue. 🙂

[@MARCYSHANNON3]

I try to be strong but I'm failing. Tonight I broke down because a song came on while I was shopping for food. How does it get easier?

[@lvnnlvnlife3290]

I feel like it depends on the other person you are pleasing. Grief to me is very intimate and private. If I share what I am feeling with someone, I need to know I will be ok doing that. I show it to the ones I know feel it too and get it. What is the point if putting it out there if it is not going to be understood or makes you feel worse for sharing? Just my thoughts. Thanks for the videos I am learning a lot about my grief. That is just the point though isn't it it is mine. To each person who is grieving it is their own too.