Why So Many Women Find Out On A Girls Trip That Their So Called Friends Are Actually Secret Haters

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[@BlessedInEveryAreaOfMyLife]

I stopped going on girls' trips about five years ago and began traveling solo, which has been nothing short of amazing for me. Cut ties with those broken souls and don’t look back.

[@beverleyreid7572]

You’re smart.

[@traceylennon1204]

AMEN🙏🏾

[@catcha3841]

Solo trips are the best

[@lamiagarner3414]

Say that after my last trip 3 years ago I travel solo dolo

[@imo.124]

I'm really looking forward to a solo trip. I've really distanced myself from women I've known for a long time to have time to myself and I have so much peace. I think I'm only going to have a handful of women I seriously consider friends that I actually hang with. All others are acquaintances. I've also noticed I prefer to do one on one's lunch/dinners instead too instead of the group of girls because all aren't my true friends.

[@momosan11]

Stop staying friends with the strugglers, and low key insulters....they don't admire you, they hate you.

[@beverleyreid563]

Yes. I have experienced the hate.

[@animalgrass]

It be the "non strugglers" hating in disguise too

[@STARSENMT]

💯 They say posting nice things don’t make you friends, they make you more enemies

[@Kari_Michele]

Exactly 🎯💯

[@thefrenchafricanninjamom]

Yes they envy

[@misspriss2482]

Sad but true. Most women are only friends with you if they feel superior to you. Lose weight, start doing better financially, get a good man, get better clothes and see how friendly your friends still are.

[@Coco-og7zw]

Facts!!! Losing weight will showcase who your true friends are so fast it’ll make your head spin!!!! I loss over 30lbs and not only did friends flip on me but family members did as well!!! It was beyond eye opening!!!

[@JusticeBajaj]

Don't date men, men are not second option. If you like women but struggle being friends with doesn't mean you have to be with men . Go be with women .

[@a.k.7341]

Idk if it's really like that. You have to really evaluate individually. Girls trip shows who is who

[@rickimcfarland2269]

I'm looking for the lies 👀

[@rickimcfarland2269]

@@a.k.7341 Agreed. Girls trips, and girls night out will expose the fakers

[@susanekisian8338]

You really don't know someone until you travel with them. Some people are vile when you get to know them. It has ruined friendships for me, after I saw their true colors and how they acted like monsters on a trip.

[@deowil1]

So true, as well as the saying, you don't know someone until you live with them or move in with them.

[@jrmetmoi]

That’s true - travel becomes a truth serum for friendships, relatives as well and for people’s personalities I’m not sure why but it does

[@channy4368]

Amen and glad they revealed their true heart 🖤

[@MoMink-jy8xs]

Travel..borrow $..live with...argue...those 4 things will tell u about any person...

[@sonyab2u974]

Same!💯

[@wildonez3076]

Sometimes people actually look down on you. And they feel jealous when "someone like you " has something that they don't have. They feel like how could "someone like you" get that!!

[@Eman14128]

True sometimes, if you show even little signs of progression,jealousy rears it ugly head.

[@nufaithjournee]

Omg my husband said that to me... Our keys we're locked in our car and the key phob wasn't opening the door. I accidentally locked them inside. He scolded me about say you're always doing things like this.... I said wait just let me think.... I got the phob came in the house and just thought about the situation. I then got a bright idea I took the phob held it over the alarm red button outside the windshield and the car opened. He said to me how did you figure that out How!!! He look surprised like your dumb how could someone like you do that.... reason is he's IT.... and I tell you even your spouse can be envious and jealous of what you can be the wife if you just stop think and relax the anxiety.... Men are sickening.... I'm going to win in my life..... no more mommy and wife for me that's the worst job ever and gets no respect from no one. I love being my own person, confident, pretty, love people at times lol, and yeah, even smart people can be envious a man too😂😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

[@beasaroseco5840]

I have often been the target of mean girl mobbing. They always have to group up together like a pack of hyenas.

[@tiki-kut7494]

So sad. Sorry pooh.

[@katejohn2874]

I used to live in a rented apartment single mothers ganging up on me cause im alone. i moved cause the house is cursed and they r miserable women

[@InspirationalSpaceship]

Power in numbers. Individually they have no power over you. Keep being a warrior.

[@patricerenee1717]

Cause solo they can never. 👎

[@ChosenChild-j9i]

@adriennecandaceExactly!!

[@empoweredselfishnesstv4102]

I'm in a season of solitude. I cleaned house of "friends" and "relatives".

[@pinkrose4322]

I totally understand. Been there. 😮

[@TrueMiThompson]

Same here!! 😊

[@MsTishalish]

Oh yeah, I'm currently cleaning l house! Feels liberating and refreshing.

[@anitranovak2459]

I’m in that in season now

[@dianejohnson6049]

I had to do the same thing walk away from things that no longer serve you!

[@SheCanSmile]

i really wish i had a group of women friends but unhealed women can really destroy people's lives.

[@Ms.Chan.T]

Unhealed from what?

[@1233-h1]

@@Ms.Chan.T From wickedness and/or narcissism.

[@peachesandsunshine9]

​@@Ms.Chan.Tsometimes childhood trauma, living in a dysfunctional environment that was "the norm" can cause a habit of making that dysfunction.

[@caspersbestfriend]

​@@Ms.Chan.T Trauma, whatever issue they maybe wrestling with in their spirit.

[@NightinGal89]

Abuse

[@brittneyedwards8127]

I had a toxic friend. We had a fight on vacation I checked out the hotel let them keep the room and continued to enjoy a solo trip on the other side of the island. Met my husband while out solo, two kids later never looked back

[@bunnykatsoracle3275]

Love that!! You said no more to the bad friend and made room for your best friends to come in!! ❤

[@BOG0690]

People who hold you back! The friends that is

[@lovealways_allways]

Wow. Beautiful love story!

[@May-tai]

Dannng!❤

[@OptimisticSeven]

Girl, ain't God good😍🥰🤩

[@rickimcfarland2269]

I had a childhood friend shade me in front of her friends/family while on a girls trip. Luckily I booked my own lodging and rental so after that I spent the rest of the trip doing what I wanted to do. That was my last time seeing her.

[@FoundSheep-AN]

How did she shade you and why?

[@rickimcfarland2269]

@@FoundSheep-AN We were in Miami for her birthday yacht party and she had sent out an itinerary for the weekend a week prior. Apparently she also mentioned a dress code for the party and I completely missed it. To be fair, my birthday is a few days before hers, so I was moving and grooving and had not noticed the request. So I showed up in a leopard print bikini, when she had asked everyone to wear all black. I stood out on her day. I did not do it intentionally, and because we had known each other for 30 yrs, in her heart she knew it wasn't done intentionally but she needed a reason to tear me down in that moment because I am still a size 2/4, while everyone else was complaining about their bodies, and considering getting cosmetic surgery to fix their body issues. She made a snide remark about my bikini and tried to shame me. but it was more how she said what she said, and it was said in front of the entire party. She had always been someone to tear me down but I was so used to it because that was my childhood family dynamic. Around this time I was seeing a therapist at least twice per month, and working diligently at repairing my childhood wounds so I was cognizant enough to realize what she was doing and why. And I'm the friend who will work out with you, encouraging healthy foods and lifestyle. People thought I was corny for being healthy, but now it's paying off lol.

[@tiki-kut7494]

I know that's right. You not ruining my trip.

[@onyxvault]

i’m so glad you did that ❤❤❤❤ forget her 🎉

[@storytimewithdahqueen]

I know the feeling. A childhood friend shaded me really bad at a large group dinner. Everyone sat in silence when it happened. That was the last time she saw me. 15 years later and she is still always asking about me and wanting to know if we can connect. It's a hard no ma'am.

[@rasheedahmcgoodwin]

I was just recently thinking about Shanquella Robinson I'm so upset that no charges has been filed.

[@pinkrose4322]

Me too! It's insane. 😮

[@debbiepeterson6829]

Those gurl friends got away with murder.

[@vanessarichardson110]

I was re-googling her too. Feels like the universe has something real bad coming for her attackers

[@ari-jv]

That was a psy op. Not a real story

[@81redddd]

Some dusties set her up to be jumped by some pickmes r.i.p to this young lady.

[@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l]

I am at peace becoming a full blown introvert, and my best friend is Jesus.

[@kazbah1217]

I don't know what has happened to women in the last 15 years. I've not been able to make a friend since then that actually has your back and won't throw you under the bus in a heart beat. I have no friends now. I'd rather be lonely than treated like dirt by fake ppl.

[@realestatebykemi]

Same. Except I don’t feel lonely. I feel at peace, absent of drama, passive aggression, & abuse, because that’s what most of their treatment & experiences encompass.

[@go_off_Sis]

they are mayle worshippers and mayle centered

[@user-xh5rs7jn2q]

It's the end of the world. Things will only get worse and the real ones are becoming rarer.

[@tikabella21]

Same here, I think we have been guided to open our eyes, cleans house of those that are not aligned with our hearts, practice self love and self accountability for a while, next group will be your tribe until then it’s all about the healing ❤ (that’s my thoughts on it)

[@wendylee7242]

Agreed...

[@mrs.m840]

I had multiple miserable vacations with a female cousin who overcharged me for everything, was super controlling, had to decide everywhere that we went and was mean. Be aware of mean girls with emotional baggage and other issues.

[@ladymb4237]

this comment here 👆 is everything

[@realestatebykemi]

Went through that one time with a so called friend. Saw her true colors, killed our friendship.

[@kourtenayt1927]

Same girl. Every trip I went on with my best friend she conveniently didn't bring foreign cash and something was always wrong with her debit cards 🤨🙄 so frustrating

[@eclecticd9953]

Maybe we have the same cousin? Lol

[@BOG0690]

My sister I like this

[@whitneyhouse251]

Just last night I bowed out of Girls weekend and said "hope yall don't miss me" came home and am living my best life today cuddling my dog

[@genxx2724]

I’m sure you heard about the drama later.

[@olilumgbalu5653]

My mom used to preach about "unfriendly friends". Unfortunately, she herself was surrounded by many such people, often sitting in the pews.

[@tracywalker244]

😂

[@patricerenee1717]

I stay far from women in the Church and raised in the Church. The most mixy messy people on earth. Yea I’m judging sorry not sorry idc 😆

[@BillionaireDinner]

Frienemies

[@BOG0690]

There's plenty of assholes in church. The real ones are out in the streets helping the lost - those are the real ones

[@niecys]

I went on a girls' trip with my very best friend and we even shared a room. I never knew ahe was a hater until the trip. I even caught her going through my cell phone when she thought I was in the shower, examining my clothes, and a list of other nonsense. I knew we could no longer be friends after that trip.

[@makesnodifference]

My xbff did the exact. same. thing. to me. I didn't catch her doing it, she told me later. What happened when you caught yours?? What is up with these creepy women?????

[@ltgemini1599]

Additionally, i leave people alone who dont reciprocate the same energy. If im always initiating contact, inviting you out, passing on shopping deals, food recalls, and congratulating you and asking about your sick parents and you didnt ask me about my job interviews as an example, its a sign.

[@destinydivine8465]

I was just telling my husband he will never hear me say I'm going on a girl's trip!!

[@beverleyreid563]

You got smart girl.

[@pinkrose4322]

​@@beverleyreid563Yep!

[@historiqueafricaine]

I heard many stories of girlfriends setting up their married friends, insisting/influencing them to hook up with another man during the trip in order to salvage her marriage💯 we need discernment because people will set you up even in place supposed to be chill and fun

[@Iquey]

Ok that's evil. But not every girls trip has to be dramatic or a money struggle. Women need to communicate about how stuff will be paid for before they get on the plane or book the hotels. ​@@historiqueafricaine

[@FeliciaQueen17]

Women can and some are still jealous even when they have more than you. I have experienced this personally from more than 1 woman. I stay solo because I know first hand how a lot of women are and can be.

[@come_on_barbie_123]

Very true! They can have more in any department and still hate your shine!

[@kittykatz4001]

Yep. I have never taken a “girls trip,” but I arrived into young adulthood, around age 18 or 19 to realize my lifelong bestie from nursery school, was jealous of me! She had always had so much more than me in every area! Why? Why be jealous of somebody who family is more poor and less pretty? 😮 It is crazy! I wasn’t ugly, per se, but she was prettier more outgoing (with the boys) etc. and she was boy-crazy too.

[@come_on_barbie_123]

@@kittykatz4001 sometimes, it's because you're not jealous of them! It's so weird but it's true. The fact that they have more and you aren't moved by it trips them up

[@monejohn9973]

Yup And they can be jealous of your personality and they're usually jealous that I'm hilarious and everybody finds me funny and they can be jealous that you're not a weak ass bitch like them always crying and complaining.😅

[@kerry-j4m]

Men are like this too,jealous of each other,insecure,petty,childish and immature. I learned a long time ago to keep my circle small-God the Father,Jesus Christ the Son of God,my mother and one true friend. That's it,everyone else are associates,etc,etc,...you'll find out who your true friends are when REAL troubles come into your life.

[@mzbeegrier539]

You dont have to feel bad Jane....it took me years to realize that people will pretend to like you, be in your company for years...they'll bait you into a trip like Shanquella's friends did knowing they want to harm you...been there before on my first trip to Cali...the girl kicked me out of our hotel..thank God I had the foresight to demand a rental car in my name..i just packed my bags and found a hotel...i could have been hurt and maybe she wanted that, but I had the best time ...just pray before going on trips with people

[@deowil1]

Blessings to you to have been wise/smart for getting a rental car and I bet you that they were jealous that you got away.

[@mzbeegrier539]

Yup lol....I seen her at the airport sitting there and I knew she didnt have a good time smh 🤣@@deowil1

[@FoundSheep-AN]

What happened? How and why did your friend kick you out of the hotel?

[@lolabunny1157]

Yup!!!

[@Samzo2002]

I’ve learnt very early on in life to never ever put trust in any human being and never expect anything from anyone. You can have friends, laugh with them, travel with them etc but don’t expect them to help you in tough times, be supportive of you or be there for you.

[@theresidentteacher2438]

As a Guy, I've known men who were just D Bags, but I've never had a "friend" try and actively try and Sabotage me. I see a lot of women have "Alliances of convenience" instead of True friendships. I'd rather have ONE good friend and other people who I know than a BUNCH of people who I call friends but really aren't.

[@oliviastar3812]

My thoughts exactly. I often wonder what if there are any good ones around.

[@oshunthagreat]

Its strange to get jealousy from people who have their life together. Im always naive that people have no reason to be jealous if they have everything perhaps everything isnt what it seems

[@kittykatz4001]

Yeah! My lifelong bestie had EVERYTHING, but jealous! We aren’t friends anymore.

[@maliksy7746]

Good point, but it starts from childhood. Most of it has to do with the education system since childhood. Most individuals were taught that you have to be number one in everything no matter what. And most of the time it creates confusions in adulthood.

[@wendylee7242]

Preach on it, I have experienced that too,and really didn't get it at first,cause she was always wanted to be around me.she had a beautiful home great career,nice car ,and husband she adored.and she was hating on me , gossiping,and telling lies behind my back to anyone with ears,the light bulb in my head came on and I removed myself with no notice,then she tried to make me the villian,so be it, I'm gone...and happier for it.

[@makesnodifference]

My xbff had an amazing boyfriend she eventually married (who is way too good for her), pets, a great job, vehicles, money in the bank, resources to travel, and family nearby. I had NONE of that and she was a jealous hater. These people are so deranged.

[@belle9184]

Totally!

[@catcat9582]

Tired of having nothing but love to give and only finding the wrong friends, men and family members to give it to

[@Catina-jz1tp]

I totally agree with you… it get easier with age and time ❤️

[@thelashayway8250]

Thisss the one, may God bless us all with genuine ppl.

[@Black-Butterfly-B1]

I had a mini girls trip with a seminar weekend and shared a room with someone who showed her envy. She called my shoes ugly and nice nasty talked about my clothes. I didn’t know how to respond, so I just ignored any deep discussion for the whole weekend and never spoke to her again. Fast forward a few weeks later, I was shopping for shoes at Kohl’s. I took off one of my shoes and left it in the aisle. Another woman came down the aisle and picked up my “ugly shoe” and was looking at the display for them!!! Look at God! 😮 My shoes aren’t ugly, a complete stranger wanted to buy them !!! 😅

[@tula1433]

This is iconic. Sometimes when you are SO FLY people try to take you down a peg. And even if you have the ugliest shoes in the WORLD and feel confident in them, they will still try to come for you! Be blessed! ❤

[@annalafayette838]

😂😂😂

[@bunnykatsoracle3275]

Omg I love this story!!! God is good!

[@BOG0690]

This is a dominance thing.

[@shalawndudley2094]

They could have been ugly in her opinion, it was the way she expressed it made her come across as immature, jealous or hateful.

[@TheDroShow]

Another reason I believe this happens so often is because people know the woman is away from her friends and family, so people have an opportunity to be passive aggressive or overtly aggressive and she can’t quickly get to her loved ones to help or support her. It’s predatory and about making sure the woman is out of her comfort zone. That’s why so many women have the same stories stating they didn’t see the issues in full until they went out of town. Even if there is no physical harm done, it’s messing with someone’s head. ETA: This happens with people who are just as or more successful too.

[@marshas-music-playlists]

Very well said.

[@dantoinettetaylor1663]

What’s ETA?

[@nisuperman]

​@@dantoinettetaylor1663 Had the same question. ETA ( Estimated time of arrival? Eat that ass ? )

[@Mmm.O50]

​@@dantoinettetaylor1663Edited to add..

[@dantoinettetaylor1663]

@@Mmm.O50 Noted. Thanks!

[@EmpressEmpress-53]

I experienced this on a girls trip to Hawaii and Las Vegas. I saw a dark side of them. I excluded myself from them permanently.

[@ik9519]

I'm a man and i found this out the same way. Horrible experience to go through!

[@joycewatt800]

Wow 😮 Men tripping like this too? I thought just women behaved this way. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@TheShiningOnes]

​@@joycewatt800 men be on some major bullshit just the same,

[@pinkrose4322]

​@@joycewatt800Yep. I've heard from guys that men do this too on trips. I was?shocked too. 😮

[@chayo4537]

​​@@joycewatt800come on Joyce 😂 you know damn well the men are toxic towards each other as well and set each other up too, ya know? Don't act like you were born last night and that you're surprised. It's an insult

[@georgemclane1472]

Are you gay?

[@ellefabs3794]

I had this experience with a friend I considered a sister to me. She was harbouring YEARS of envy and vitriol beneath the surface. I think she couldn’t tolerate that I was also successful and getting my bag. I always cheered for her but she showed her true colours. After it all came out following our holiday to Egypt I cut her off and actually feel better. Her spirit was off. I wish her the best - but as long as she stays CLEAR AWAY from me!!!

[@KarinMYearwood]

I hate that so many people are miserable. They have to make sneak disses, and throw shade. After I had my baby over a year ago, more frenemies were revealed. I had to cut so many people out of my life. Heart breaking

[@gorgeousgem_]

Same happened to me in 2019 after I had mine too!! People get weird 😢

[@deekydan]

I don't do girls trips anymore. Mine have been disrespectful and dangerous. I've had so-called friends be mean, disrespectful, nice-nasty and purposely hurtful. I've had my naked picture taken while I was changing and threatened to be posted on fb, all due to her own envy. She wanted to humiliate me. I had to wait til she went to the bathroom so I could bust in there and take a pic of her on the toilet in order for her to delete it. I said if she's posting, IM posting and so many more negative instances. I'm so good on girl's trips.

[@imo.124]

That's crazy and she would be arrested if she posted you in the nude. Who does that?? Just evil. Happy you got away from her but very sad to hear someone threaten to do that smh.

[@deekydan]

@@imo.124 exactly cuz what was the reason?? Who does that? Mind you, the only reason I knew she did it was cuz I saw the flash. She forgot to turn it off. I was ready to fight and she refused to delete it. That's why I had to get drastic. I don't play like that. Thats not cool, not even as a joke...but she was NOT joking. I don't even feel safe sharing a room after that. Smh...

[@heavnli_goddess6052]

Omg she was a weirdo! Glad you left that mess alone!

[@deekydan]

@@heavnli_goddess6052 extremely cuz why?? Smh..

[@user-xh5rs7jn2q]

Sick, unbelievable what folks resort to.

[@kekejefferson9219]

28-30 is the normal age to lose more childhood friends. The friend lost goes, lose a few friends in 5th grade, lose a few at the end of middle school. Lose friends after high school graduation. Lose a friends after college graduation. Lost a few friends that canceled at the last minute for my wedding. Gaining and losing friends is a lifelong journey.

[@eve3363]

28? I lost all of my childhood friends but one by the age of 24.

[@arnarnie6844]

@@eve3363Lol that’s the exact age I stopped talking to all my childhood homeboys, smh couldn’t take it anymore.

[@joycewatt800]

27:40 Yessssss NEVER be afraid of solitude! It brings sooooo much clarity, peace and strength!

[@pinkrose4322]

Yes, ma'am! You are absolutely correct!

[@realestatebykemi]

Absolutely! 💯

[@LizNeptune]

I didn’t even know this was A THING until a few months ago. But my last girls trip ended a friendship of 20 years. And I am only 33.

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

they say when people travel they really show you how they are

[@Eman14128]

When you live with someone or go on holiday with them , true colours are revealed .

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

@@Eman14128 true

[@HanaMarshmallows]

@@Eman14128yup living with someone oof

[@LilyGazou]

Extra stress from travel

[@mrs.m840]

This is interesting. I won't go on the large girls trips anymore or any girls trip. I ALWAYS had to pay extra for some of the girls. Women on multiple trips would throw tantrums and demand things. One woman thought it was okay to try to steal a married man away from his wife for the weekend. These "girls trips" are a waste of time and money. Woman insulting other woman on the trip on purpose.

[@sickofit5547]

Yeah and took me till my early 30s to realize, a lot of women have issues and aren’t good friends. Will leave you for a dude, then try to come back after they relationship up.

[@renataklein4776]

I've never been on any girls trips, but I've always enjoyed hanging out one on one with people, I don't do well in groups

[@bealeyneskitchenadora]

Someone told me once: I envy you because you don't care about what others think or say about you." And she belonged to the same group of women who tried to make me feel left out. Sometimes brazenly telling me: "we just invited you to be a filler in the guest list." And yet I never failed to give them the best gifts when they can't even make an effort to give one to any of their girl gang. But it's fine tho. Who would want to be near such toxic people anyway? Life is still really good to me and I have few but real friends.

[@Blueocean881]

Had a former friend say “we only called because we know you have no friends” on a group call. Well, she certainly isn’t my friend anymore, and I’ve since found better friends and peace of mind 😅🎉

[@emiemilia6219]

That's not a "friend", that's just an enemy hidden in plain sight (and there will occur at least once in our lives when we are off our guard or unfortunately ignore the signs of toxicity from someone). Anyone that is bold enough to tell you that they're jealous/envious of you just told you who they really are and what their motives are against you. Jealous people are pathetic, and I pray they will MOVE ON AND HEAL in their lives, and mind their business. To answer your question (who would ever want to hang out with toxic people like that?), toxic people in general - people like my childhood bullies who've been abused in their own homes/through childhood (and choose not to hold themselves accountable and heal), toxic coworkers, narcissists, abusers, all forms of toxicity you can name of. Thank you for sharing your truth, and standing by your morals. I understand people like that are vicious and wicked, but never let that stop you from being a blessing in someone's life. You are a true treasure. ❤ God bless you. I am blessed to see and witness real/authentic people like you and I, and many others. Let us persevere through all trials and error, in order to reach the end goal.

[@emiemilia6219]

To those who have not received Jesus as their Lord and Savior due to church abuse, traumatic experiences, or have not heard of the gospel. Jesus is God, manifest in the flesh who came into our world and took our place of punishment for our sins on the cross and died, was buried, and rose on the third day defeating sin and death, so we can be saved through Him. Why would He do that for us sinners? Because He loves you and desires a relationship with you 💖 The wages of sin is death, and punishment for our sins is eternal damnation in hell, if you fail to repent and accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. But because God loves us all, and knows that we cannot break free from our sinful being, He made a way through His only begotten Son Jesus (John 3:16 - 18). By grace through faith in Jesus Christ (alone, as we cannot save ourselves from God's Judgement coming very soon, as His word states and being foretold - Matthew 24), you are saved. Jesus loves you dearly beloved, and by placing your faith in Him, you have been transferred from the kingdom of darkness into everlasting life - a permanent place in heaven with Jesus. God bless ❤

[@bealeyneskitchenadora]

@@emiemilia6219 I'm glad I've found a community of true good-hearted people here. All thanks to Cassandra Mack. Thanks for the appreciation and for the Bible verses. May God bless you.

[@ladonna1902]

Yes. I don't need a whole entourage with me everywhere I go either. It's better to have a few real friends than a whole lot of fake ones. Having a bunch of friends is not the flex you think it is. Once you get sick or go through some hard times in your life, see how many of those friends come around.

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Oh yes. I’ve been on girls trips like this. That’s why I am leery of traveling with women.🤯

[@samanthac8060]

I traveled once with a friend and it was horrible if or when I travel with women I definitely have to have my own space.

[@beverleyreid563]

I definitely hear you.

[@shannacollins8371]

It’s not as if men are much better.

[@taraking8555]

Me too!!

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

My travel with men has been just as horrific if not more so

[@earphbound720]

My ex best friend was like this. I couldn’t understand it at the time because I was very naive but once I got older and started to look back I was stunned. I didn’t realize it until later and I ended the friendship. It’s traumatizing to realize someone I cared about didn’t really care about me.

[@diana_prince_1]

Same thing happened to me.

[@earphbound720]

@@diana_prince_1 we know for next time ya know

[@1233-h1]

As a male I used to hang with women friends and groups and work also with many women. I saw this happen time and time again and about 15 years ago got tired of the two facedness, drama, (w) itch fighting between women who were supposed to be bestie friends. I STOPPED being around such people and when I retired in 2011 let go of friendships for the most part and definitely travel alone. And I keep all relationships with women STRICTLY professional. Nothing social-no dinners, parties, trips etc. I have four sister's and only talk to one for the same reasons. And I told them this. Any communication has to go through that one as you ladies cannot STOP the backbiting nastiness and she said she said etc. And I REFUSE to go around them at holidays. Satanic. They will NOT destroy my peace.

[@user-xh5rs7jn2q]

So much truth in what you said...I used to think it was primarily women but over the past several years I've encountered my fair share of men (older ones too) who gossip, have vicious characters and are petty. The WORLD has gone to hell!

[@1233-h1]

@@user-xh5rs7jn2q This is also true about men. But it's much easier to tell if a man is this way from the beginning and cut them off right away. When I met my sister's father Iin law he misrepresented something I said to start mess. I let it slide and gently corrected him and the group. At a high end restaurant in Carmel California when I left table to go to restroom he made a vicious crack behind my back. I heard but pretended not to. Third he tried to attack my credibility and disempower me during Christmas celebrations 2021. I laughed in his face, confessed to ALL sorts of "crimes, a prison stay for embezzlement and money laundering, acquitted for homicide and I had cartel "friends in South America. 🤣🤣🤣When I got through with him his head was spinning. I told him a cheery good bye even though I hated him by then, drove to the airport and came back to California. This was December 2021. Blocked. No contact since. Sister either. She's worse. Its been proven that women are much better at dissembling than men and therefore more dangerous. There was a very good article on this in Madame Noire called "women are nastier than men. It was well researched and edifying. Its worth a read.

[@May-tai]

​@@user-xh5rs7jn2q these are the new age older men now

[@ladyblueamb]

How many of us are here after learning that they will never do a girls trip ever again . Due to a bad experience on vacation with a person who we thought was a friend only to find out they were haters .

[@Psalmchild]

Things we learn through the wisdom of the Lord- Be very careful to travel for long periods with anyone- including family You will see the true colors over time Do not get into business, partnerships, professional relationships with friends or family Eventually, it will become full of trials and hardship Do not co sign or sign for others’ as it is rarely appreciated and will come back to bite you Do not lend or give money between family and friends unless you are willing to do so with the full understanding it will not be returned or reciprocated Be cautious in your dealings with all Full of the grace and goodness of our God but always wise as a serpent and with clear discernment

[@realestatebykemi]

I co-signed for a family member. I wish I could like this comment 1000 times. It went HORRIBLY WRONG! 😭

[@DesertEdgeLegal]

I'm almost 50, single and child free. I wish I could report this gets better but it doesn't. I have one very close female friend. The rest of them are eventually cut off. I think a lot of women got married and were just doing what they thought they should do. Then they meet me and I trigger them because I am non traditional and unapologetic about it. I had two friends that I spent time with in a group. They wanted to go on a girls trip and I declined because one of the girls had a chip on her shoulder and always created drama. In my late 40s I am always surprised when people I consider to be acquaintances believe they are more than that. People really want you to stay in the compartment they put you in and get angry when you change.

[@keemiel4005]

Same here and agree!

[@nesq4104]

"compartment" That was deep. I just bought my first home and a great friend of 20 yrs became my biggest hater. Even caught them giving me the evil eye in my own home. I cut them off. As you said, I believe I exited the compartment they expected me to stay in

[@monejohn9973]

Facts 😅 not having kids and not being obsessed with men will really have you with no female friends.Because they typically are jealous and it starts in your 20s.Because I'm in my mid-thirties and I've always had problems with ignorant Baby mama's being jealous of my freedom.😅

[@bunnykatsoracle3275]

Good for you , standing your ground and avoiding drama!! People like that are exhausting!! I'm in my early 40s now and I've also come to realize that a lot of the people who are claiming to be my friends (or vice versa) are really just acquaintances and I need to treat them as such. Just getting better at having boundaries I guess. Better late than never!! It is so much more peaceful!! 😇

[@inelhuayocan_aci]

"I think a lot of women got married and were just doing what they thought they should do. . . . I trigger them because I am non traditional and unapologetic about it." Your words appear unequivocally self-aggrandizing and judgemental. I bet you accuse others of subjecting you to that sort of judgment for your choices quite often, don't you?

[@skyking6989]

Meanwhile as a dude my best friend saved my life after a motorcycle accident. I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for him. Friends like him are once in a lifetime. When i say i trust him with my life i mean it!

[@JusticeBajaj]

My friend almost killed another man when he saw I had tears . Even tho they will make fun if you tell them about your crying but the moment they see you hurt they will go into soldier mode .

[@EmptyNestieBestie]

This video is timely. I experienced this the most recent time this past summer in Vegas. It was supposed to be friend and me but she invited another woman along. Everything felt weird and off. I would catch them looking at me funny, laughing at me when they thought I wasn’t paying attention. They were in the bathroom whispering. They would compliment me, but it sounded and felt fake as if they had inside jokes about me. Her friend, who I met for the first time on that trip seemed to have a lot of knowledge about me but I didn’t have any of her. I chose to ignore it all because I received a sign the first night. I knew if I confronted them it would turn physical so I just made do. After the trip, I brought up to my friend that things were off and at first she tried to act as if she didn’t know what I was talking about. Then she resorted to trashing the woman she invited. It felt very Real Housewives franchise. Anyway I cut her off after that. A few months later she called me from an unknown number still pretending like she didn’t understand and lecturing me on how to be a friend. I went off on her for trying to insult my intelligence. That’s when it all came out. Everything she truly felt about me flew out of her mouth. It was vile and very hurtful. I chalked it up to another one bites the dust. For some reason though it has been heavy on my head for the past few days. I couldn’t stop thinking about why I don’t see it until the girls trip. I’ve let go of a few friendships after girls trips. So I really needed to hear this and now have understanding. I felt stupid for not acting on the hunches I got beforehand. I felt stupid because I realized none of them actually liked me and in fact couldn’t stand me. I thought we were tight, besties for life type of stuff. It’s disappointing. Now I am in my own solitude and enjoying being a friend to myself. It was tough at first because I was always surrounded by so called friends. The peace of mind I have right now though???? Priceless. I don’t have to try and decipher weird behavior from women anymore. I’ve been a solo traveler for ten years. I started picking up on the haters once I traveled solo and meeting other women who align more with me than those so called friends. You are not stupid for not seeing it. You had a good heart and cared deeply for people who didn’t deserve your friendship. You saw the best in them while they tried to bring out the worst in you. I hope your heart heals soon ♥️

[@S.M412]

I experienced this as well ! a friend and I share our birthday and always go on a birthday trip together to celebrate . well , this past year , she invited her sister to come . it was HORRIBLE . they treated me so badly , same as in your situation . when we went out , anytime I received male attention , they did their best to make me look and feel small as if it was a competition . as if I even wanted those men , anyway ! we were there for a GIRLS trip , it was supposed to be about us having fun and enjoying spending time with one another . it ruined the friendship that we had which had been going strong for 5 years . I really found out exactly how she felt about me on that trip and how she probably had BEEN talking about me with her sister all of those years behind my back . it was so hurtful because I was always her biggest cheerleader and always did my best to speak life and positivity into her and about her . we haven’t spoken since .

[@verystylishordinarypeople]

Wow, so sorry you guys went through that. ❤

[@makesnodifference]

I went on a trip to Vegas in 2008 with my so-called bestie and two of her friends I didn't know well, one of whose bag I carried! They spent the 4 day trip as a group of 3 and I was the odd girl out, they were all in relationships and overweight, and all made more than I did. I was the skinny newly single girl with the cute bikinis going through a tough divorce and supporting myself on a part time salary. When the trip was over, my "bestie" sent me no fewer than FOUR vitriolic, hate-filled messages on three different platforms and I had literally done nothing to her. I thought they were my friends. I didn't even look at them crosseyed much less wrong them in some way but somehow they issued themselves license to be complete and utter hags (my friend even violated my privacy on this trip so I would have broken up with her regardless) and then project their behavior onto me. I never responded to her and our friendship never returned from the Vegas Vacation from Hell. I made new friends quickly after that, of course, but I never forgot her shockingly mentally ill behavior. Remember the personality disorders. You'll know when it's not your fault.

[@MsObsidianReloaded]

I experienced how a folks felt about me after we got into it. I say to myself, wowww…this bytch is really suicidal right now. The Lord knows that can’t happen today because I keep that thang on me. I am dealing with complex PTSD from both childhood and adulthood traumas. I don’t need that ish in my life.

[@come_on_barbie_123]

Omg yes! These reality shows are influencing women! It's wild

[@Milli2025]

This is so crazy because my own aunt did this to me. She lied on me and divided the other women in my family from me. I saw pictures today of how some of the women were on a girls trip without me and it crushed me. I prayed and asked God how is it possible for this person to do this and continue on as if she’s done nothing. There has to be a reason…at my expense. God is faithful though!

[@joycewatt800]

Trust God and use discernment!

[@imo.124]

It's ok better to be absent then be with someone who doesn't want you there. Remember you always have God who is more important than anyone and He will never mistreat you❤

[@beasaroseco5840]

Girl rejection is God's protection. It's not you it's THEM.

[@umalee3782]

It only takes 1 fly to spoil the oil. Super manipulators telling others lies and distorting the truth.

[@SuperSurvivor4]

My aunt did the same thing to me (lied, slander, etc.). She is 10 years older than me and was supposed to be the “Golden Child”. My mother was a teenage dropout after having me at 13. I Was supposed to be like my mother but instead I was able to do for my grandparents because they raised me. It made the Golden Child look bad. That was not my intent. It has been 8 years of no contact with my family. I am better today with peace. She taught me how to identify women’s hate. A learned lesson.

[@heavnli_goddess6052]

This video was so on point. I had a frenemy and I traveled with her as a favor. I knew we were going to have a bad time together when I asked if we could pray before we got on the road. She nastily remarked “I already prayed. Didn’t you?” I said wow! And that trip was from hell after that. I don’t fool with her anymore. She been trying to hang back out with me for years. Nah, I’m good love, enjoy!

[@unconditionallove6094]

The Holy Spirit gave me a prompt in my spirit not to go, but I went anyway and had to grieve the end of that friendship. I was told my standards were too high. I had to run to God for comfort and healing-no joke.

[@joycewatt800]

Lesson learned. It’s ok. It happens to the best of us. I’m learning I can’t control people. I can only control me.

[@STARSENMT]

Your standards aren’t too high, they’re just jealous of you ❤️ I pray god sends you like minded friends ❤️ I’ve been grinding alone for years before finally meeting some. Sounds like your ambitious and you just need an environment of likeminded people.

[@deowil1]

they were up to no good from the very beginning. never forget that smiling faces tell lies.

[@nesq4104]

I did a lot of friendship grieving the last few years between elections and vaccines

[@karmathephoenix2474]

So-called girlfriends get jealous of the most inconspicuous things about you. Such a waste of time.

[@Terrywitme2]

I had a friend become jealous of me because I had some Fenty lip gloss lol. This same woman was driving a new BMW. Pure stupidity

[@littlejoycetv]

If your big weight loss makes you "lose some friends", that means they weren't your friends to begin with.

[@AvAG1923]

I want to play advocate here and say I’ve witnessed people lose the weight and gain narcissistic personalities. They too can become toxic and big headed the same way people change when they come into money. Some people have suppressed their true personalities when their self-esteem is low. Great you lost the weight but please don’t act like an ass.

[@teralecole316]

So glad I clicked on this video. I also experienced this with my former so-called “best friend”. We were great phone friends but whenever we traveled together, there was always problems and somehow, it was always my fault. She was the genius engineer, yet booking trip lodging/itineraries was somehow always on me. If people smiled at me and interacted with me, it was a problem. This was a pattern. If they try to control you in any way, they are not your friend. That is a demon. Controlling types of people always brings chaos.

[@STARSENMT]

Moving and reconnecting with people from back home has highlighted a disheartening pattern: they seek access to tear down my progress. Confidence and positive posts can trigger negativity from people who don’t have the same mindset, so when I started my personal development journey I had to make a new Twitter page and now my algorithms, time line and social media presence is way more positive. It's crucial to cut them off, maintain distance, and believe people's true colors. No more debates, just staying focused.

[@tyrab725]

Currently debating deleting my twitter instead of just removing them. This was def a sign!

[@STARSENMT]

@@tyrab725​​⁠let that baggage go whenever you're ready sister! ❤️ you will completely evolve from the limitations of how people see you and your old self.

[@ltgemini1599]

Im grown, single, childless, and work from home. My home is my peace. Ive had more contractors than family or friends here. Ill tell this to yall, i got a new car to me after about 16 yrs of driving another used car. 💙 My immediate family knows about. Well, not everybody, at least not from me. Ive learned the hard way to keep people at a distance. Its unfortunate, but necessary.

[@dansefureva7664]

I think when you go on vacations with people you tend to be more relaxed and vulnerable. And you are away from everyone. And they know alot people will never believe how bad they treated you. Smh

[@MsObsidianReloaded]

Ladies, seldom visits AND phone calls make better friendships. I observed that all of my falling outs with women are the ones I spent to much time around and spoke too frequently with them. The more visits and conversations opens the door to them getting in your business. Boundaries are very important. I have great friends, but make no mistake about it, I will cut a person off in a heart beat because I have no more patience for fake, jealous folks. Males are messy too and you have to tread carefully with them as much as women. I am considered an omnivert, I am equally content to being alone just as much as I am content with socializing. Due to the times we are in and the trauma I’ve experienced, I primarily choose solitude and occasional phone calls.

[@damselinadress2069]

Yep, lessons learned. Went to Jamaica with my so-called best friend back in the day. We did a day trip to Negril, met 2 guys and told them about the nightclub located in our hotel and that it would be poppin that night. No interest in them at all. When we got to the club that night, they were there. We sat with them talking and laughing. Again, no inkling of flirting. Then the guys mentioned going up to our room to party. We said no of course. I was ready to leave and she excused herself to go the ladies room. She never came back. A moment later I went to look for her. She was upstairs in the room She left me in that club with these 2 strange men!. I was done with her. There were many instances that I was back stabbed by her. I forgave her. I was just too young to handle it better. When I moved to NYC. I left the friendship permanently. She is still trying to find me through family. Whatever. I have learned the hard way with many women. Not all. Some sisters are genuine and love you. But don't ignore the things that don't feel right. Follow your instincts.

[@f.-j.j.5738]

I would have asked you to go to the bathroom with me even if you didn't have to pee just because I won't leave you alone with men who propositioned you and that you turned down. Not even for a few minutes because I don't know if they wouldn't spike your drink or something. So you're coming with me to the bathroom!

[@abcdeshole]

The possibility of hooking up in the shared room is a talk that has to happen before the trip.

[@Dollface444-u1t]

This happened to me of my long time friend group. They attacked me on a trip. I said oh ok i got it. Now they mad cuz im thriving.

[@CrisPisces]

This happened to me in Vegas. What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas is true, that's where our friendship ended!!!😢

[@losangelosgalfreetoroam]

My HS friend and I went on a trip and she showed her true colors. She was confrontational. She is just as successful if not more than me. I decided she was jealous of my spirit and my personality. Like you said “they want to crush your confidence.” It took 20+ years for her mask to slip.

[@nikkinanette8807]

By age 25 women should know that hanging out with other women is drama. When you see one sign of envy, 🚩 keep your distance ‼️

[@theelectricprince8231]

That's just being an adult sadly. Men have the same.problem but worse

[@stobie9063]

Frankly I'm sorry but this mindset is a sign of huge emotional immaturity. It's basically screaming, I'm special. There are no other women out there like me. It's middle schooler shit. It's projection. You're just going through the phase a lot of other people do... the friends you make early on in life usually aren't the smartest, most mature, most long lasting... just a part of life for anyone. Move on and don't project negative traits onto half the population. Can't relate.

[@stormchaser419]

As a man I will never cohabitate or marry women. Don't need the drama in my living space.

[@Only1You_Honey]

My son told me one time that adults don’t have friendships. 😂

[@Terrywitme2]

Facts

[@Lovingmylife24]

You are very right. I have experienced this as well. One day I met with a friend and when she was leaving I glanced at her and she had this very disturbing look on her face. I saw it, but my mind kept telling me it was nothing. Fast forward she threw some real shady comments my way when she got around another lady she seemed to be closer with and I knew then what that look meant.

[@Mylifemylifemylifendasunshine]

This made me cry. I just went through something extremely similar to Shaquella Robinson and I’m in my 30’s too😢😣

[@nicoledell8031]

I'm glad that you survived that trip from H&ll from those demons. 👿 That's terrible!

[@yahyahsfavs4109]

I've been on a girl's trip and this has happened to me. This happened after I had lost 40lbs . This was a friend I had known for a long time.I had no idea, and she was a Christian. That shocked me to the core. I then knew my place woth her, and kept my distance we having spoke since the incident ❤

[@a.pieceofpie]

Another point of view is that the folks that hate me the most are usually my biggest supporters. A couple it's because of familial ties. The others it's for looks and they throw rocks and hide their hands. I have experienced someone that hates me also wants to be physically next to ne and seems to need to see me. Pitiful!

[@Key-Key444]

I don’t get why if they hate you, they feel they need to be around you.

[@a.pieceofpie]

@@Key-Key444 I think because envy is love and hate. They lurk and stalk. They are double-minded in all their ways!

[@Blueocean881]

To keep tabs on you so they can outdo you in their one-sided competition 😂

[@Key-Key444]

@@Blueocean881 ugh 😂😂😂 it makes so much sense!

[@chayo4537]

Reminds me of middle school but worse like a horror dark comedy movie- but you're trapped 😂

[@empoweredesquire]

Jane you are not alone! I too went on a girls trip from h*ll. Then the “person of honor” blamed me for standing up for myself and separating from the group who had been abusive. She insisted that I only left because I was upset that “everyone didn’t like me.” 😂. Girl bye, who cares about them liking me. They don’t have to but they definitely are not going to get to disrespect me.

[@jameelaworldwide]

Wow, I’m sorry that happened to you. Why would any1 want to be around a group of girls who they could tell didn’t like them ?

[@eriasmara7739]

The more you do for somebody the more they would envy you for the fact that you’re in position to help.

[@riel4553]

A few years ago two things happened at the same time: I lost weight and a bunch of acquaintances became enemies, to the point that my self-esteem took a huge blow. I didn't realize until recently that the weight-loss and the harsh treatment came together. Out of "nowhere" my talents and experience were talked about in the negative, and even when I kept to myself I was accused of wanting to be the center of attention (how???) It was confusing because at a glance the weight loss seemed to me completely unrelated to everything else. Had to accept that a bunch of people weren't friends or friendly. There have been trips planned since then, but I avoid them because why would I lock myself in a bus for hours with people that have animosity towards me? Edit: I didn't lose weight just to be thin (even though that's a valid reason too!), I had to lose it for orthopedic reasons.

[@alinkuri4429]

Why do you excuse yourself to self improve?

[@riel4553]

@@alinkuri4429 Bad habit that comes from that situation. The person that accused me of wanting to be the center of attention is a close relative, I realize that it's nonsense but it's still on my mind because I thought we were ok.

[@Dot-t2k]

Congratulations on your healthy choice! I am facing the same challenge now. Thank you for sharing. Continue to guard your heart. Be Blessed.

[@riel4553]

@@Dot-t2k Thank you, and congratulations to you too! And remember that if someone attacks you with nonsense don't let it affect you because it's just that: nonsense that's not relevant to your goal. Be blessed.

[@realestatebykemi]

I can believe your experience to be 💯. Since moving to Atlanta, I experienced mostly envious spirit from out of nowhere when I used to go clubbing, & looking back I do think a lot of it stemmed from me being tall & slim, with high heels 👠 I’m 6 ft. The women were so unfriendly & snooty. I don’t recall going through that in NY. They’d just look you up & down here in Atl. And don’t have long, natural hair. 👀 That’s even worse. Envy is a real thing among our race, sad but true.

[@traceylennon1204]

The seeds were there just not cultivated!! BARS...

[@UnpopularAdvisor]

I’ve never had the desire to go on a girls trip. It does seem fun but with spiritually healthy people in my opinion and that’s rare these days. I would only be interested in a girls trip with one or two people that I know in my soul are individuals of good character. And I’ve experienced going out with the individuals to simple places and it’s a light hearted, mutual fun experience every time. You really have to get to know people. It only takes a second of interaction, verbal or non verbal for me to feel energy. Women usually tell on themselves every time with the envy. I will not and do not tolerate women who still behave like middle schoolers and we’re in our 30s. That’s the quickest way to repel me, no thank you.

[@realestatebykemi]

Same. I’ve always known instantly whether people are for me or not. When I listen to my discernment & intuition, it protects me. When I don’t, I end up regretting it.

[@55jaymack]

Just had this happen in a really extreme way. She asked if i minded if our driver came into the house to rest. He wanted to eat and stretch his legs. I said no. I was about to shower and the apartment was tiny. I didn’t feel comfortable walking past this man in my towel. Asked her to give me give me a few minutes. She tells me to get dressed in bathroom. I said no. She flips out. It escalated so quickly I was in shock. Told me no one wanted me I was being a bitch. She called me a bitch repeatedly during the trip. I told her I wasn’t going to give her the energy she was looking for. And that no matter how much she tantrumed the answer was no. I’m setting this boundary with my body. Turned out she was sneaking Mini bottles of liquor whole trip. I had no idea she was an alcoholic. Her behavior was so erratic. Made me feel unsafe. It ruined my trip. When we were leaving someone in the group said they had never seen someone react as patiently as me in their life. And that it was a blessing to watch. Showed me I’ve really changed. Old me woulda fought

[@unconditionallove6094]

So very true. I found this out the hard way-never saw so much hate, for being my authentic self. Thank you for this message!

[@beverleyreid563]

Experienced it first hand.

[@joycewatt800]

This happens on jobs too. I recently experienced it in the midst of an extremely toxic work environment. I was not liked for being authentically me. I resigned 🤗and am all the happier and at peace.

[@j.t.1086]

Went on one girl's trip once, fresh out of highschool. Three of us. Once there they invited their boyfriends (one of whom was my ex) to come join and ditched me the entire time. I didn't even have a bed to sleep in.

[@kitsontuli2713]

I'll never do a girl's group trip again. I only make the exception for one friend. My one friend and I recently went on a friendcation and we had so much fun and that's only cause our mindset is on the same level. Previous experience with more ladies just highlighted envy and jealousy.

[@cassandraandrews6656]

Nooo! 'Jane' is NOT stupid. We just want to be optimistic about people, and just like we don't want someone to define us by one word or deed we try to extend the same kindness to others, not recognizing that many times that one word or deed is part of a pattern of envy. I had that experience, and the first thing is that the person went off on me in the hotel, for which I paid her part, (among other things because she had run out of money) but then, when we return, she proceeded to talk about me to others. MY mistake is even though I recognized the envy. I still thought it's something that I could work around, but it has taken me some time to realize that those people will literally kill you if not physically, then assassinate your character so I have had to run not walk away from people who are trying to harm me.

[@rhondawalker2020]

On a similar note, I allowed a friend to stay with me. She supposedly needed a place to stay for a couple of weeks. She was helpful at first. Then she began to insult me and pretended to fall and was injured. She moved my stuff around to fix my kitchen. She looked like a drug addict. Her teeth had fallen out, and she was extremely thin. She was beautiful the last time I saw her. By the time she finally left, 4 months later. She also stole thousands of dollars of my kitchen appliances and other items. Since everything had been moved around and I went to move my stuff back, it was all gone! Sometimes, we need to judged a book by it's cover! My Vitamix, my Kitchen Aid stand mixer....all gone! She disappeared to parts unknown! I felt very stupid 😢!

[@momentinhistory333]

Don’t feel stupid, you were just trying to help a friend. Lesson learned, give yourself grace.

[@DhahabuAO]

I didn't even need a girl's trip, they schemed behind my back for one of them to hook up with the guy that I was with...😅 unbelievable. I already felt in my spirit something was off but I ignored, that was a big lesson for me to follow my intuition/spirit.

[@ajackson646]

And if I do go on a girls trip I’ve opted for getting my own room only… still was an issue. So I see my “friend” didn’t really want my company. Just wanted me to split costs and make her trip cheaper. And she knows I’m generous and always tip while out snd she refuses with NO shame. I’m good on being used

[@KJ-gz2vi]

I just cancelled a trip to Mexico in November for this very thing…I was simply being used to split the bill.

[@Twdee2]

I’m sorry to hear all the horror stories other ladies experienced. I’m thankful to say I’ve gone on 3 successful girls trips (including Miami and a cruise). Like romantic relationships, we need to have discernment. I feel like we ignore bad traits in our friends not realizing how they can end up effecting us in our lives. Solo travel is nice but having at least one close friend to experience things with is even better. I hope more women get to experience the joys of genuine female friendship. ❤❤❤

[@Coco-fi4mv]

You don’t find out how people really are unless money is involved, live with them, or go on a trip. Discernment, discernment, discernment, I cannot stress this enough.

[@clarity2974]

Truth

[@Venus-rx3ru]

I think most women can sense when someone is jealous, and its usually has to do when one girl is prettier or has much more money and is financially doing better or married and the other girl is not. You can always sense the jealousy even if the person does their best to covered it up. Never denied your intuition and it keep your senses sharp the signs are always there, its the little things that gives them away.

[@SixFootofFitness]

Jane you are not alone.. it happened to me two different times with persons “female friends “ I thought to have loved me. Definitely received my learning lesson and I totally move differently. Last few trips have been solo. I find fun people when I get there and on most excursions 😂✌🏾

[@sickofit5547]

Exactly

[@vcb1023]

It doesn't get better as you get older. Every year I hang out with my high school class. This is the last year. I get criticized for my clothes, my hair, my body and the fact that I'm selective about whom I date. Why? I look 20 years younger than they do do to healthy living and exercise. They even told me don't go to events and take all of the guys!😲 I don't chase ANY guy. Plus, my body hasn't been spread all over town. No longer will I deal with these insecure and jealous people.

[@vedabrown8217]

This conversation is long overdue. I was shocked to find out after we arrived at the location how these women felt! It’s usually the nicest and prettiest one in the group that is the target for abuse. Women have the nerve to roast men when they are cruel on demonic levels towards each other. I SAID IT! 😢 The "group" knows who the 10 and who the 5 is in the group. BE CAREFUL OUT THERE.

[@samanthac8060]

Sooo true regarding weight loss and the heart is deceitful. History will have you bound thinking that a person is for you.

[@jasmnejones8628]

This friend of mine invited me on a trip with an organization she was in, which was in the preplanning stages, so money was not paid yet. I initially agreed to go. That same night, I had a weird dream that she was trying to get rid of me while on this trip. I didn’t know why would have a dream like that cause we seemed to be pretty cool overall, although in hindsight, she did make a couple of statements that were supposed to be a joke a couple times that ticked me off, and a couple other things, but I didn’t think anything more about it. I woke up abruptly shaking and in a sweat. I was so shook I called her the next morning and told her that I wasn’t going. She was kinda ticked off over it, which stood out to me but still then I began second guessing myself and wondering if I overreacted. Afterwards, I started watching her behaviors a little more closely and was beginning to notice the little digs and low key envy towards me. We are no longer friends as I have moved her to the acquaintance column, but I speak to her in passing cause we go to the same seminars and have mutual acquaintances . I love the videos from Cassandra Mack. They are empowering and I have learned and grown so much. Thank you Cassandra Mack!

[@blackberry5447]

It sounds like God saved you from something really terrible 😮 😢Glad you are safe and ok !! God has used dreams to warn me of people too !

[@kekejefferson9219]

This is so common with black women. Friendships fall off with different levels and milestones so you have to change environments to meet new/better quality friends.

[@FeliciaQueen17]

It happens with all women. I have experienced jealousy from white, Hispanic and black women.

[@emilystevens6335]

I wish black fools who have not earned the right to a luxury item, like a vacation, would not be traveling

[@user-xh5rs7jn2q]

​@itsfelicia Thanks! Anytime it's something negative, there's always that negro or white supremacist who's driven to comment especially blacks and in particular black women.

[@Nashae-kz5bc]

This happens with all women, not just black women

[@wittymystic7361]

LOL! I changed churches once. It was the same religion but a different physical place, and my friends dumped me like a hot potato.

[@tangyjoe4326]

Love my girls trip girls. We met in college 35 years ago, went our separate ways after (did our growing up) and all got back together a few years ago and have gone on an annual weeklong trip every year since. It’s gotta be the kind of friends that feel like you’re coming home to, not going out with.

[@sbonelli]

I love how you said that “the kind of friends you’re coming home to and not going out with”.

[@characterchange6793]

Lord, this is so exhausting. Who knows the heart? Thank God that you didn't get physically harmed, Jane.

[@smustipher]

It's crazy how people start trippin' when travelling lol. Have lost a few friends that way. At this point I have 1 or 2 folks that I can trust to keep it 100% and have genuine fun a trip.

[@Eman14128]

Mix some all-inclusive drinks , everything starts coming out.

[@AnnetteMorris-uy5vj]

Amen! My mother always told me that if I have five good friends meaning if I could count them on one hand to consider myself blessed. I have had the same troubles in the past as everyone here and am experiencing women haters at my job. Such a shame... women should uplift one another ..not tear each other down. But they need to do their inner work!

[@Dot-t2k]

I celebrated and rejoiced when female family and friends were blessed and prospered, and i still do. A rising tide lifts all boats. When I was favored, it was a problem for them. I had to let them go. I still want all the best for them, but from a distance.

[@alinkuri4429]

Have been there..

[@maristahuddleston6213]

Stop years ago only doing/seeing what they like. I spend my money wisely solo get to explore and more advantageous 🥰

[@janetrichardson2644]

I’ve traveled with other people for work and I realized early on not everyone is your friend. Be able to enjoy activities etc by yourself. With that said God placed two beautiful girlfriends in my life through work and we traveled on multiple trips and I loved them dearly. One of my sweet friends has gone to be with the Lord and I miss her dearly.

[@ItsOkayToBeHappy]

This happened to me as well. I had been friends with women for yearsssss but 2 trips in & it became clear that the friendships were not what I thought they were. Oddly, they wanted to continue planning trips & outings. I had had more than enough at that point. No thank you.

[@DivestedChristian]

Addicted to drama/ negativity

[@ItsOkayToBeHappy]

@@DivestedChristian Exactly. But, in hindsight, so was I at some point. When we did "get along" I realized we would often get together & complain about our drama with OTHER people & "bond" over that. Once I began healing, I stopped having so much internal conflict. The external conflicts also dissolved. Started speaking up for myself in love, setting boundaries, stopped people pleasing & learned to exit relationships. When that all stopped I began to see there was nothing left to psuedo-bond over with my so-called friends. Thank God for Ms Cassandra's wise words & support in changing mindset & life.

[@peacebalance8067]

Is it just me or did others hear that this video sounded fast forwarded in some areas?

[@adellemccann1865]

Yes I noticed that. Maybe a small blip in the editing software.

[@EmptyNestieBestie]

I’ve noticed that with a few podcasts I listen to as well. Almost like a cd skipping.

[@peacebalance8067]

@@EmptyNestieBestie yes!

[@sophi_elar]

I have been hurt the deepest in my life by women of all ages. As a result, I have lost the appetite and desire for female friendships. In fact, I've had to pray for God to deliver me from the remnants of resentment and lowkey trepidation that I carry for those of my own gender.

[@MVPA-io5ee]

As an introvert, i see woman as any other human... I'm not a girl's girl, I'm not a pick me, i just walk alone usually... Some people can drain me too much. It's just the way it is.

[@g.i.4144]

Yep my sentiments exactly.

[@yesterdayseyes]

I love to travel with my husband and know I don't have to worry about anything, just relax and have fun with my handsome man

[@ladykrystalline]

I’ve had a couple of girl’s trips go like that! On a recent trip, one “friend” was so jealous of a jumpsuit I bought myself. First, she was trying to make me feel insecure about it (“that’s so expensive!”, “Where are you even gonna wear that outside this festival?”). When that failed and the others in our group complimented me, she started going on about how she might want a jumpsuit like mine then told (not asked) me to let her try mine on when I hadn’t had a chance to wear it yet! These were unique/handmade, so I told her where she can get similar from the same vendor in pink. Then I see her trying on one of my boots!! She demanded the other one and I told her no because she’s not entitled to my stuff. I was so annoyed I was sure to wear that jumpsuit AND boots together that same day! 😂 She snubbed me the rest of the trip and beyond, all while telling the rest of the group that I’m mean 🙄 …whatever! Next year, I’m not going with that group because they enabled her similar antics throughout the trip