Why some people obsess over food and others don't.

[@jessielbrown2154]

When I was at my lowest weight and was hyper fixated on weight/calories etc I found myself being more judgemental about other peoples body and their weight. When I finally started to heal I stopped being so judgemental about other peoples weight and eventually I didn’t notice it anymore/ It didn’t cross my mind. When I hated myself the most, I also was very judgemental to others as a sort of reflection of my own feelings.

[@RachaelWrigley]

This is so insightful, thank you! It really means a lot that you've shared your experience with this x

[@lilmorsecody]

God I wish I was one of those people who didn't have an issue with food and eating. It started at 9 for me and is still going on now at 24. The weird thing is I don't care about what other people think of me at all. It's purely for myself, out of a kind of vanity. From a young age I equated thin and dainty with pure and beautiful due to various things I saw in the world, such as the most popular girl at school being a stick thin ballet dancer. I appreciate your channel a lot.

[@noemi-ln4tk]

I used to be so much better with food before I started dieting, to the point I often forgot about it(how I miss that). It's not that I want to restrict, but it's so mentally exhausting to constantly have intense cravings due to restrictions, to count calories and macros and make sure you are following a time schedule. I even lost my passions. I'm better now and I have hope I will fully recover and return to being happy...I wish I can eat healthy foods without obsessing about it and feeling proud. I trust in God's mercy and I wish I never made a god out of my weight. I was at a healthy, optimal weight, and to this day I do not know what triggered my ED... Life was so much sweeter.

[@justified2065]

When I didn't know or care about calories and stuff about weight, I was a bit more chubby but I was less insecure, when I started learning about it, I became leaner but my relationship with food changed forever, which is crazy cause I will probably never look food as I was looking at it when I didn't care but oh well I will be leaner..

[@jessielbrown2154]

This is what I’m learning that confidence is found within and not when we look a certain way. At my lowest weight I was very anxious and insecure, I hid my body even more. Also I wouldn’t wear stylish clothes or clothes that I think look cool because I thought they were only acceptable when I lost weight or was skinny. I’m on this journey with food freedom but I struggle with finding a new identity outside of food and my past smaller body, I’ve made being skinny/smaller who I am for so long that it’s hard to redefine this.

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and wisdom on this topic. This is really insightful and I know helps others to feel supported xx

[@RachelJ2016]

This is the most comprehensive video series on disordered & binge eating I have ever seen 🥺 I recently found your channel and have been watching all your videos. At first I thought, this is just another “influencer” that doesn’t truly get it and won’t be able to help me…but I cannot believe how well you truly understand & articulate the depth of disordered eating! Things I didn’t even realize I was struggling with have all the sudden come to light. I watched your segment on scarcity mindset & had NO idea how deep that ran for me. I actually teared up during the video because it hit me so hard. You’ve given me so much to think about & an actual starting point to try and heal my relationship with food. This is beyond important to me because I am raising two children and I do NOT want them to grow up with the issues I’ve faced. Today I am starting my journey of no more tracking/obsessing & instead loving my body and finding out who I am on the other side of this food addiction. No more restricting or exercising out of guilt. Your videos clearly gave me the push I needed to tackle this with confidence & a new understanding for why I react the way I do in life. Thank you 🥺🤍 Please keep making videos, this is your calling…helping others overcome this lifelong struggle that paralyzes so many of us day to day!

[@WhisperingMeadowss]

It never stops, even at goal body, we now have to work even harder to stay there 😢 ED’s are something I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

[@wendyread1183]

Yes. Spot on, as usual. Love you, Rachael.

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you Wendy ❤️

[@Rossiegirl]

Yes, yes! I've wondered this so often. ❤

[@mamuskitchen2205]

This is key. The question is HOW do we divorce self image and self worth from weight?

[@RachaelWrigley]

That’s the second most important question isn’t it after ‘why would I want to do that?’. That answer could be summarised and I might make that video at some point soon. The true answer is obviously going to take longer than 10-20 minutes to go through and will be variable person to person xx

[@jodie9728]

Wow- this was a really great video! Not only could it help someone without disordered eating understand at least a little of what it feels like to struggle with food and bad body image, but I feel, it also helps someone with it, to understand their struggle more as well. Sometimes understanding can be a huge first step towards change. 💝

[@melitapavlinic7302]

Good points, I learned something new from you too! There is one thing that I noticed is that among my friends most of them are overweight if not even obese. I also noticed that especially younger and attractive women also hang out together more often. Can we explore this topic as well? I noticed when I lost significant amount of weight that I found out that being around other people with unhealthy eating habits and dieting attitudes seems very triggering and incompatible with what I was trying to reach. You do want to be accepted by healthier and thinner people but you get rejected by them more often. At the same time moving on with your life and improving yourself does trigger a lot of insecurity for people who had the same issues as do and did not find a way to overcome their issues yet.

[@kimcunningham2107]

New to your channel and you've been incredibly helpful. Sending greetings and a great big THANK YOU from Massachusetts. 🥰💜👍

[@zebrasbean2385]

Can you make a video on how to gain self - confidence. I struggle with anorexia and otherxia and logically I know it’s stupid to restrict and won’t benefit me but I only feel good when I’ve eaten less

[@natashyas4149]

It is so ironic. I had my dream body for a few years, but the stress and exhaustion and the preceding depression which took away my appetite in order to eat so much less and sleep so much less and just burn all the "fat" off... I can't imagine wanting or having to go thru all that again just to have "my dream body". I'm so tired of hating my body and working so hard to modify it only to still hate it b/c it's not my ideal. So crazy how much time we've all wasted on these external issues instead of on our hearts

[@PatrickG-2]

Hey, I sent you a question on your support email about binge to balance, I love the fact that you help women stop bingeing and have them have a healthy relationship with the food they eat, I've struggled with binge eating myself but I managed to fix it, keep going ❤

[@RachaelWrigley]

Thank you! A member of the team here will pick up your email at the start of next week and get back to you ❤

[@PatrickG-2]

@RachaelWrigley @RachaelWrigley awesome, is there any way I could contact you personally? to be honest, I wrote you the copy on your page and sent it to you, so I'd love to get you to see it personally, I did it to support you because binge eating was a problem in my life too, so I decided to write it ahead and just sent it, let me know Rachael!🔥

[@esorosee22]

I’m fat since I’m a kid, always bigger than my friends and when I was a kid, I didn’t care as much as I did in high school. During this period, after non experiencing any form of romantical relationships (for all my life) instead of all of my friends, I started thinking that it was because of my weight and nothing else. I was sure that my personality was good and that my weight was the problem. And then, I started being jealous of girls that has the same body type as me or bigger than me and having a boyfriend. Every time I would see them with their other half I would be why them and not me. Is my body not the only reason ? I clearly started doubting of me and why not me, why can’t someone be in love with me. I took time to not think like that anymore (even though, when I’m very aware of my weight, I still sometimes look at those person and be very envious of them) I still see people as their weight and I’m working to change that. At one point, I was ashamed of going out with my sister who was also overweighted thinking about what the people will think about us, two fat people hanging out together. My weight really damaged my perception of body and I hate that. I just found your channel today and I relate to most of the things you say, so thank you for sharing all of this.

[@malloryr4883]

Wow, I have a lot to work.. that's what i learned from this video.

[@ANDREAT08]

I spiraled into bad imagine at the time of the pandemic, starting a relationship and moving across continents to a less walkable city. I'd love to connect and perhaps have a discovery call😊

[@carlageorginasaccoccia1821]

❤

[@borodiymaria3172]

Fiiiirst🎉

[@deannaholm3799]

BEST VIDEO SO FAR!

[@Thalestin]

Great video and really hit home. As a single guy that has found it really tough to find a partner I tend to feel my problem is how I look and that is why I havent been able to attract a partner. I understand there is much more to being a good partner other than looks but it was ingrained when we are young that looks are everything. Being told you’re ugly and wont ever be loved really hits deep. It is a scar I still carry even if I know it is my own poor perception of self.

[@melitapavlinic7302]

To the video itself, I think you are basically talking about low self-esteem and low self-confidence that hides behind food struggles, struggles with the weight itself and also problems relating to other people. I do think that behind weight issues there is a lot of unaddressed anxiety and trauma, most likely related to how other people have treated you so far. Maybe they made you feel heavily critized, rejected, not good enough and not deserving and you somehow projected that on yourself? That you started not only to believe the shit that other people told you but also starting to believe your own lies?

[@PatrickG-2]

@RachaelWrigley awesome, is there any way I could contact you personally? to be honest, I wrote you the copy on your page and sent it to you, so I'd love to get you to see it personally, I did it to support you because binge eating was a problem in my life too, so I decided to write it ahead and just sent it, let me know Rachael!🔥