Why we got engaged at 19 *getting personal*

Getting married young wasn't even a question for us. We just knew!
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why we got engaged at 19, engagement, marriage, dating
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[@cristianofelicio1141]

A lot of people’s biggest fear is dying alone but mine is more “living alone”. When I die I want to be able to say that I’m in a relationship just like yours. I want to be so in love that I forget everything else.

[@ams1877]

what do you mean by living alone? just trying to understand your view, thats all.

[@alymeyer17]

Don’t assume that’s always the way it is, everyone struggles with their partner, it’s natural to not have a good day everyday. For ppl to watch KZbin and assume couples have a fairytale happy loving life always, is just ignorant..

[@cristianofelicio1141]

@@alymeyer17 I don’t assume they’re always like this. I’m saying that I want to have so many good days that people think we’re perfect.

[@cristianofelicio1141]

@@ams1877 oops I forgot to respond to your comment lol. Basically what I mean is that I want to live a life full of meaningful relationships. I want to feel like I always have a group of people I can turn to if I need help. “Living alone” for me, would be if I lived my entire life feeling alone and hopeless. With nobody I could turn to.

[@laurahunt5485]

Abby is going to be a great mom. She gives SUCH good advice. Like, I'm going to be 31 next month and I feel like Abby is more mature than me haha

[@JMBBrasil]

Me too. Same. It sucks.

[@Ella-fr5rv]

y’all don’t even need to explain why you got married at 19. you just loved each other and that’s that❤️

[@purplegirly67]

True!

[@rachelgregory1854]

So true!

[@MattandAbby]

Just trying to share our experience for other couples going through the same thing ❤️

[@Ella-fr5rv]

@Matt & Abby i love that y’all do that❤️❤️❤️love you

[@moonlitet]

Exactly fam🤍

[@jaclyndeboer7912]

I was 18 when I got engaged, and 19 when we got married. 11 years, and 2 kids later, he is still my best friend. ❤ When you get married young, you get to experience so many firsts together, it helps draw you closer. We had lots of judgment too, but when you know, you know. 🙂

[@olivialierman9688]

Wow. That is so cool. I know it's a little late to say this but congratulations

[@jaclyndeboer7912]

@@olivialierman9688 Thank you! 🙂

[@phalongrace5011]

This makes me feel so encouraged. I’m a senior in HS and my boyfriend is 19, and we’ve been together for 4 ish years. We have had a lot of people say we won’t last, and our plan to get married soon after I graduate is crazy, but they don’t understand that I’ve been waiting to marry this guy since the day I met him. Y’all are a couple I strongly look up to. Love y’all!

[@felicitychoate]

that was exactly my problem! we dated for 4 years in high school. we figured we would get married after we graduate college, but we decided to get married early! just got married last week at 18 and 20:) don’t listen to the haters! it’s a relationship, not a group project 💗💗

[@aubreyidleman]

I’m almost in that SAME Boat!!

[@phalongrace5011]

@@felicitychoate that’s amazing! Super excited for you!

[@phalongrace5011]

@@aubreyidleman omg I’m not alone in this!!

[@andrewouzoonian9954]

Similar boat, my fiancé and I are high school sweethearts but we’ve been together 2 1/2 years, I’m 20 and she’s 19. We’re getting married next year. Don’t listen to the people who say you’re crazy because we knew when we dated for less than 2 years we wanted to marry each other, when you know you know. It’s your life, your story, your relationship. Live it to the best it can be👍 hope everything works out for you two!

[@littleflower9536]

I was engaged at 19 too - mid-30s now and glad we married young and had our kids young. Especially with my mom dying unexpectedly, I was so glad my mom got to experience my wedding and have a relationship with my kids before she passed.

[@itsrosieandharry]

Why is abbys yawning making us sit here and yawn SO MUCH😂😂😂

[@suman3316]

I wish this Guy's keep on together like this till eternity......and they may be in True Unconditional love.. 🙏

[@andrewouzoonian9954]

I find you two very relatable, I’m 20 and my fiancé is 19. We are getting married next year, we’ve been together just over two and a half years. Love your videos and pray for continuing joy and health in your relationship. You guys are awesome!

[@kaitenunes]

I love how relatable you guys are I got married at 21 and I still have people asking me why I got married young but honestly it was the best decision ever

[@13musicisme]

I was almost 21 and my husband was 23 when we got married, so not quite as young as you guys but still young. We just had our 9th anniversary!! You grow so much as a couple and you learn how to deal with what life throws at you.

[@gracelyons6736]

i hate the cultural idea that getting married young will ruin your dreams career wise when in some cases getting married young is the dream and career comes second

[@annikagow6389]

It's such a beautiful thing to watch people meet their person, some people wait a lifetime to experience that kind of love and it's so wonderful when you have a honor of meeting them sooner and knowing that you want to spend the rest of your life. Love you guys and your story, keep doing what you are doing ❤️😘

[@MattandAbby]

You’re too kind!!

[@14sierranicole]

My husband and I got married young and have our 5th anniversary this Friday! (Got married at 19&23) it was the best thing for us!! We have two kids now! Age 2 and 4 months! It’s tough some times but like Abby said it’s the best to grow up and grow old together!! ♥️ marriage is WORK whenever you get married!! Doesn’t matter if you’re 19 or 35 it’s combining someone else’s life with yours and caring about someone else’s needs 24/7 is a lot! Love you guys!!

[@MasterAssassin1262]

I have been struggling with depression and this video just helped me out today

[@3xmomfit353]

Husband and I were engaged at 19 and married at 20. Now 14 years married (18 years together),three kids later, and moved twice. We had up and downs but us being young and growing up/older together has cause us to have a very close relationship. I would trade all the memories we had made ❤️. I wish y’all the same!

[@sydneyhooverr]

Me and my husband got married 2 months ago at 19 and 20! I love watching y’all since you also got married young!

[@adelinewx]

I just had a rough first day of middle school and I came home to this. It truly made my day. Thank you. ❤️🥺🥺

[@MrNiceGuy.]

Matt and Abby are like a TV show I swear. Binge watching every episode but also get new episodes each week. It's always a win-win!!

[@emmidavis1312]

My boyfriend that I've been with for almost 5 years just went to college. This is my last year of high school and it's been really hard because we are long distance. I love you guys and you both make me feel better about it ❤. I still think it's crazy that we've been together since we were 13!

[@kaci3926]

i've been in the same boat before sis and you got this!! it's hard being apart sometimes but it only makes your bond stronger! in just a week i'll be at the same college as him so let me tell you it really pays off :)

[@almaroxas5452]

No way, that's so cool! I hope guys end up together and get married!

[@nf3588]

I met my boyfriend when we were in high school 2011 and it's been almost 11 years together I love how you guys are so honest and real in your videos my new favorite youtubers !!!

[@aoifeglynn2828]

Me too

[@felicitychoate]

love this! just got married last week at 18:)

[@philbinpar1]

I love when you guys do these type of videos! Also 7-11 idea sounds cool, kinda like the letting people choose my meals ones which were hilarious

[@chelseaandelin]

I got married a month after turning 19 and we just celebrated our 13 year anniversary! When you know you know. Wasn't the timing I wanted, but I'm happy we did it!

[@carlieblevins877]

DUDES you got to do a “only eating at 7 eleven for 24 hours” challenge!!!

[@raynamaldonado1058]

Ew... no. That’s so unhealthy anyways

[@MattandAbby]

Wouldn’t that be dope!

[@0percent660]

Back fire

[@kayleeestrada23]

Yes!!

[@summerbeach4679]

Maybe the challenge should be trying to find healthy foods at 7:11, lol!

[@pinckneypromise7422]

Hi! My husband and I have been together since 13&14 and we got married at 21&21. This is why I relate so much to y’all. 💗💗💗💗

[@shitansukumarrath8726]

Matt and Abby you both understood the essence of relationship at a young age what most people higher than your age fail to understand. As long as the couple is dedicated to eachother to make the relationship work and take the responsibility together not being selfish you can live up to the time when you can see your grand kids getting married.

[@Daydreamingwithtoni]

Your relationship honestly just radiates positivity, love and humbleness 💖💕 praying I have a relationship like this one day! Love you guys!,

[@helpmereach45ksubswithoutvideo]

These videos always makes our days better

[@gabiphifer8432]

So so encouraging for those of us who also are planning on getting married young :)

[@usernamehere309]

I can totally relate to your long distance story. But the worst part in my story is that we both live in same town just 15 minutes far from each other houses and yet expirience long distance relationship because of our community. Our community does not allow love marriages and i miss him so bad. Its been months that I have seen his face. I miss him every second and I hope our community allow us to get married.

[@kp782]

Oh my god. Where you live

[@spomusmo2349]

Whats so interesting about them when they first met Abby was so into Matt and now it seems like Matt is more into Abby lol. I just love their relationship. Matt is hubby goals for sure :).

[@HappyFella29]

You two have so much fun together, and it is so much fun to watch! You are yin and yang! Its heartwarming and you two each have golden personalities. Thanks for sharing your life with us!

[@bethanyorison3663]

I got married at 18 for a lot of similar reasons! When you know, you know! I don't see a reason to wait when you have a confirmation that you have found the one!

[@rachelsewell7026]

We had to deal with people thinking we were too young and thinking we were getting married too fast. We were both 21 when we got married but from the time we met to the time we got married was eight months. We are still happily married after 23 years. You guys are such a fun couple and I really love your channel!

[@JordanSmith-xb2dy]

Who else takes a whole page of notes ever time Matt & Abby do these type of videos? Literally they are perfect and give the best advice on relationships and just life in general.

[@jamr68]

I was 19 and my wife was 18 when we married. That was 33 amazing years ago. There were certainly some tough times. But we literally grew up together. We also moved six hours from our parents so we had to rely on each other without the possibility of outside interference.

[@kyravail1916]

Love watching y'all take the time to listen to each other!

[@09kaybabyy]

My husband and I have separate bank accounts. Mainly because we always just didn't get to it. We've been together for 14 years and married for 5. And we're happy. We still share money. We still both pay bills, food when going out, groceries... it's not like we're super "my money is my money. Yours is yours."

[@MattandAbby]

That’s awesome! I think every couple figures out what works best for them and that’s totally okay ❤️

[@heatherlynsey3092]

I’ve heard of couples doing it that way and it goes seamlessly! I think it’s good you commented so others realize it can work too, just gotta communicate!

[@09kaybabyy]

Exactly! I'm in charge of all the bill and things so he just sends me what I need. But it works out so much better. I trust him on not spending too much money on things and vice versa.

[@09kaybabyy]

@@MattandAbby Thank you. Yall are awesome and inspiring. Love yall. Keep it up! 😊

[@2floridadogs]

You guys are just such a cute couple. Go Cardinals.

[@MattandAbby]

Awww! And GO CARDINALS!!

[@2floridadogs]

@@MattandAbby I'm originally from Springfield but live in Florida now. Miss it sometimes but then remember it gets cold during the winter. 😀😃😄 Hope you guys are enjoying Hawaii. I lived there for a year when I was in the Navy.

[@oliviapatton7265]

Go cards! I’m from St. Louis and I had no idea that you guys were too! (I’m kind of new to the channel)

[@2floridadogs]

@@oliviapatton7265 I'm from Springfield but grew up going to St Louis often to watch games. Die-hard Cardinals fan though. We're a dog channel if your interested though. And as always, Go Cardinals, I watch every game on MLB TV from down here in Florida.

[@theoriginaldingus1426]

Go cardinals! Happy to see other people here who are also big fans.

[@saraal-ansari1694]

Dude I love the amount of love and respect Matt has for Abby. I always forget love like there's actually exist

[@joychiang7698]

Love you guys so much! I have a huge fear of getting into relationships in general, so your honesty & friendship is so refreshing and lovely. 💕

[@daytodaywithnaith151]

I just started watching you guys and I'm OBSESSED

[@MattandAbby]

Welcome to the dude family!!!

[@margaretfunk551]

That voice crack though 😂 Iv rewatched that part 5 times now 😂

[@nicoletteferragamo]

Abby's "small town girl accent" is the best, a whole vlog of her talking in that accent would be so funny

[@nadinekba8989]

Awww! This video kind of made me sad for Abby. She’s so sweet and pouring her heart out. For some reason girl, you think you are so blessed and lucky. Let’s not forget Matt is equally as blessed!! You are amazing & beautiful inside and out❤️

[@brookeboarman8256]

“I’m happy I get to grow up with you, and grow old with you” love that!! ❤️❤️

[@kelz7]

I got married the day before I tuned 20. We just celebrated our 20th anniversary. 😍

[@achromaticreticent808]

Why do I always keep smiling like a fool watching your videos!!!! & each video of yours brings so much positivity and happiness:") May you guys always stay this happy and amazing 💙💙

[@alyssatobisch1308]

PLEASE do a part two!! Love this ❤️

[@BridgetMendlerFan101]

I got engaged at 18 and married at 19 and it’s the best!! It’s very uncommon where I live so we got a lot of criticism but when you know, you know and it’s been amazing! I love seeing other thing married couples, I wish I knew more personally!

[@Veverdream]

Your relationship reminds me of ours with my boyfriend. I'm the Abby he needs and he's my Matthew James 🧡 love and soulmates exist and always find us when we least expect it.

[@sunnigeorge4579]

You two are the sweetest couple the love that you have for each other is clear💖

[@graceweigandt8667]

Thank you thank you so much for sharing your story! I was the same age and your videos have really helped me with dealing with what other people think. All that matters is that you are happy and know what is right for you!

[@justliven5773]

I got engaged at 19 too!!! Got married at 20 and I’ve been married for 3 months. Best decision ever, love your channel!!

[@bethany_lynn]

Y’all should start a podcast!!! I love watching your videos and would def listen to it if you made one!

[@sarahromkin3144]

So encouraging, PLEASE do a part 2!!!!

[@savi3165]

10:53 I really love this advice from Matt. You should do self care but you can still do it while being in a relationship you know. If they are the right one then that relationship will definitely help you a lot

[@lillyl338]

YALL ARE SOO CUTE. ILY GUYS SMMMM🤍🤍🤍

[@amaratidhamele1418]

You guys are the Best 🥺💞💞. Special appreciation for Matt for adding the old intro 😅❤️❤️.

[@gabriellefryman7293]

I was 19 when my husband and I got married and I have zero regrets! ❤️ We’ve been married for a little over 3 years now! No judgment here! Y’all were made for each other!

[@briancannon4607]

One of the reasons I enjoy watching your videos is because I agree with almost everything you say! It's so true that it is counter cultural to put one's marriage ahead of one's career path, but I think that marriage should be the priority!

[@FantaandDarwin]

I love their love! When you know, you know 🥲💝

[@juliaswanson1394]

I love how often you guys post! I always look forward to your new videos💕

[@piinkfan3967]

I am 20 years old and so is my husband. We got married when we were both 19 (just recently hit 1 year of marriage). I love that we got married so young. We get to grow and learn adulthood together. Build our lives together. It’s awesome. And as far as rings go, we literally paid less than $100 for both of my rings. Total. It’s the symbolism not the cost. The only thing I requested was that it was nice enough that it wouldn’t turn my finger green lol. We currently live with my in laws because we are fortunate enough that they are letting us live with them for free while we save up to buy a house one day. And that’s ok. That might not work for some people, but everyone is different and you need to just do what is right for you.

[@swarna_lee555]

My mental health was so bad & you guys literally made me feel so much better😭❤❤❤I LOVE YOU DUDES❤❤❤please keep uploading such videos!!!😭❤

[@MattandAbby]

WE LOVE YOU

[@tina4850]

With every sunrise is a new day! Early morning when unnecessary voices are quiet. Do just one thing no matter how hard it seems just do this.... Find very cold water submerge your whole body in it. it can be your shower, your bath, a close lake, river, ocean or stream. Just feel the cold and revive your body feel feel feel. You are worth it... you are strong... if you do nothing else please just this everyday for a week... then month... then twice a day if needed. THEN....At night laying in the dark when your mind wont sleep... just remember its ok... breathe three deep breathes and know without the dark we cant shine. Just like the earth we need cold to rejuvenate and like a star we need dark to shine.

[@desireericheymesser1951]

I LOVE your profile pic!! It's gorgeous!💕

[@madieelizabeth1378]

You guys have the best advice! I’m so so glad I found you guys, you make me smile every time I watch your videos. I love you dudes!!❤️

[@jerryfischer3459]

I was 19 when we were married. Last August 6th it's been 44 years. No regrets. We couldn't be happier

[@SD-ft4hl]

I met my boyfriend when i was 16. He was 20. Now 11 years later we're still together and we're soulmate's. It does'nt matter when you meet the right person. If it feels right, than you should go for it! After 11 years we've grown so much as a couple, learnt so many life lessons and already made so many memory's. Just live and enjoy the beste life you want to live! Btw love your video's. Watching them al the way from The Netherlands!

[@emilyhernandez2919]

Love you guys so much!!! Can’t wait to watch the rest of the video. I’m here before KZbin notified me 😂😂😂❤️

[@kaci3926]

i died at 14:56 when abby is playing with matt's leg hair 😭😭

[@gretagustafson336]

Abby: “and I’m happy that I get to grow up with you and grow old with you.” 🥺

[@Tornado98769]

You guys don’t need to explain why you got married young. You guys are perfect for each other. My husband and I got married last month and we see you guys as role models. We are cheering for you guys :)

[@MattandAbby]

Congratulations!!!

[@BethanyWalker04]

I got engaged at 18 and married and 19 and now we are travelling ❤

[@heatherlynsey3092]

I’m dating my elementary crush, we’re now 24-25 🤣 dreams really do come true, folks!

[@karissheffer6717]

Thanks for making every viewer smile

[@samuelmorris2733]

This video literally put a smile on my face when i watched it....Thank you guys...

[@claubit32]

I admire how hard you both hustled in order to be married in college! I personally don’t think I could have done it.👍😊

[@moonlayamagix]

I cant get enough of watching Matt and abby I swear ❤

[@just_jackie92]

I struggle to go through 15 minutes of meditation but I love 15 minutes of Abby&Matt 😂😂😂 I'm always like 'oh no I need to watch another Abby & Matt video'

[@anniesantana1803]

I LOVE YOU GUYS!!❤❤❤❤

[@PowderedToastMan_]

Yeah, no explanation needed on why you guys got married so young. The love, and appreciation, and respect was there. That's all that was needed.

[@natashapoole4452]

Y’all are so happy I love it

[@sophieghaffari9006]

My cousins were in their first 4 years of college and most of the people their age were already married. Years later they’re still not married and there are like a handful of people in their twenties who are also not married/taken.

[@richardgrace5043]

I mean in today's society it's more of whether getting married is Financially feasible for a guy or not and if he feels like dealing with it or not considering that there is a 70% failed relationship rate currently and a guy normally gets royally screwed in a divorce Financially and if a kid is involved... YIKES

[@olivia-yf5tb]

you guys are so cute

[@ALISHAJPOOLE]

To The Person Reading This: You are loved beyond measure & not alone. I hope you have a restful, beautiful day☀️ ~Love From A Lifestyle KZbinr🌿🌸

[@livcass6665]

I love how there is an engagement ring add under the video 🤣

[@mbr9073]

My fiancé and I got engaged back in March. We’re both young (I’ll be 19 when we get married in November and he’s 21.) We’ve been together for almost four years now and we are so excited! All this to say - I never cared all that much about a ring. I told him that if he spent more than 200 dollars on my engagement ring I’d be upset. 😅 We bought each other super affordable rings from Modern Gents Co!! My ring looks SO gorgeous and real but only cost $50.00!!! We completely recommend for those who simply can’t afford an expensive ring yet but want the look of a diamond. Anyways - thanks for making this video!

[@kierranoellemusic]

literally laughing the whole time i watch this🤣love your videos

[@chanuthyaanayanadinie9889]

Every time Abby yawned I followed a one myself 😂❤️. Btw you guys are sooo adorable, stay blessed forever 😭😭❤️❤️

[@lm8176]

You guys make my day so much better love watching your vids!❤️

[@nancydotson6182]

I'm just finding your videos recently and I'm watching tons of them. You two seem like such a perfect couple. My nephew married good wife when she was 19 and he was 20, they're now 34 & 35, they have the teenagers, 14, 15, 16 (they each had a son with another person when they got married and have a daughter together, three kids by 20 & 21) and they are doing so well. They remind me of you two in some ways, they were told so often that they were too young, they are united in everything, and will soon have their 15th anniversary. I know that you two will have the best life, I really enjoy you guys. Thanks for making these videos!

[@Vrsenese1095]

The yawning 🥱 🤣 that is me right now Abby

[@jasonoverton1106]

I love watching you guys. Your so much like me and my wife. We also got married young. She was you get than me but I don't regret a single day being married younger. Your relationship is something everyone wants.

[@amymcintyre320]

Matt I’m single and live on my own and I’m not depressed, yet 😂. I’m all about the right person rather than just setting 🥰

[@jiannarae28]

ya'll have been my favs for OVER an year. so glad to have found these random goof balls on my fyp

[@chanejansenvanvuuren1708]

You guys are so inspiring, thank you for sharing your love .

[@margaretfunk551]

Love y’all’s content!

[@kaitlynianni5027]

I got engaged at 22, married at 23 :) don’t regret it at all!! Lots of people said we were way too young but we were able to financially and loved each other so we did :)

[@unnimaya248]

One of the sweetest couple👫 ever seen You guys deserves this Love ❤you from kerala