WHY YOU GAVE THEM SO MANY CHANCES

[@annamariehewitt3173]

I believe that it is in the Nature of the EMPATH to pursue every Avenue available to try and work things out and that is the reason we gave them so many chances......

[@bradmcewen]

That along with assuming the future faking was sincere.

[@Yellow-Rose]

I agree, unfortunately the narcissist is an opportunist. They pursue every avenue to take advantage of you and milk it for what it's worth.

[@vanessalaizer4363]

Exactly

[@kylielogan8771]

@@bradmcewen that hits home!

[@shaeholden1743]

You are absolutely right. It was masterful manipulation that drew us in. We were targeted.

[@abrahanromero9741]

Andrew, you’re absolutely Correct. We Empaths go the Extra Mile to try to Please Everyone, at times, whatever it takes. Narcissist know this and thus they push that “taking care of them “ to the fullest, but like everything else, there comes a Breaking Point, and a Wake up Moment when we Empaths say….”wait a minute, this has gone a little too far”

[@thouartmatildafox3604]

i am busy trying to leave the home I had shared with the narcissist. He took a loan out in my name and refuses to pay the rent (he's maxxed out my credit card, and left so many other debts I simply can't afford rent on top of all the other shit he has pulled). Landlady is now harassing me and all i want to do is get out. I've had enough. Soon as I am out I will cut my losses and cut him off. The anger and rage against him and the horrible way he has treated me is unreal right now.

[@katemoffitt1641]

Sadly u can’t buy love. A peep who loves u would never harm u that way.

[@terrirobson9043]

"....you won't see it.... Not until you remove yourself..." !!!! Priceless, Andrew. Your energy and insight and compassion is so helpful. The healing path is unique, it is so very personal, and so needed. Bless you for encouraging others to understand there is a difference between going deep within and simply staying busy and occupied trying to make things "right" for the narcissist. Thank you for being you. It's a blessing to be right here right now with you as the road to healing continues❣️🙏❣️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌😊

[@bradmcewen]

I'm glad you commented that quote. I missed it. Listening again. That is the first large step at the time. Now I doubt there's one of us who doesn't wish it wasn't done sooner. Time to think in clarity freeing from a daily storm. Absolutely horrendous, exploitative people. And no you can't see it at its real malevolence till your outa there !

[@sophias1191]

Yes, becourse I keep thinking why" did( could) I not see this earlier... people try to warn me, but I felt like I would die without him and I thought he was every time really sorry.....I feel used, broken, damaged, lost do many things, but I keep praying, try to proces this trauma and educating myself, getting professional help, thank God for all of that......

[@terrirobson9043]

@@bradmcewen Thank you, so glad it was helpful 🙏 Listening to Andrew's videos again is something I do, too. It is validating to understand that yes, we could see and feel that some things were "off", but didn't have the knowledge to fully grasp what was being done TO us. I am sorry you get that, too, but glad you are here🙌 All the best to you today!

[@bradmcewen]

@@terrirobson9043 Greetings : ) It seems with overcoming the mental abduction, it takes a pound of assurance to cure an ounce of poison. In the after the aftermath, the autonomy needs no societal norm to be happier, imho..wiser, than anyone chasing a never ending imprint that culture instills. In the end, a trauma bond with a betrayal source is just that. A twisted sense of affection.. You do indeed learn how you got there and fix it. All those toxic, life shortening side affects while in it. These people do not care if they killed you. Literally. It would be inexplicably satisfying to them. The time comes when serious detachment rules the day. Staying in community here is not about them so much but being absolutely humbled by what others have gone through. A verbal therapy rather than corporate drugs. That to me, is not and never has been an option. Talk about layering on a toxin. Sry I digress and ramble. A very good day to you too !

[@TerriLynch]

It's true, I feel like a personal assistant. Every time I try to talk about my feelings, he says I'm punishing him. He said he's tired of hearing it. But he never listens. He cuts me off and nothing changes. I feel like I've been beaten over the head sometimes or I have some sort of head trauma 😔

[@shaeholden1743]

WOW, Andrew!!! This is another one that hit home. I left and returned several times throughout our 24-year hell - with the thinking that, yes, he was going to stop being a malignant sociopath. When it finally sank in that NO, HE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE I left for good. And believe me, when I left I did indeed ask myself WHY did I stay? It's only in recent years I learned what was really going on and that there's actually a name for his demonic behavior. I'm getting better in my healing process and absolutely cherish every day my PEACE and utter contentment.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏☀️

[@sll110]

because you have empathy heart, anf you have totally different brains from those demons

[@sunshineellivic2858]

Sweetie you are not alone i went back five times until i end up with nothing.

[@danicadjukic4377]

Shae Holden : How did you finally break away from 24 years of extreme narcissim abuse from this pathetic shallow & hollow malicious , mischievous, mind-boggling, maddening , moody self- loathing , self - gaining, self- entitlement , sinful , shameless , sarcastic, senseless, cold , callous , caniving , controlling , manipulative ; belligerent boisterous , bad- mouthed , badass baiter & or good- for- nothing nasty nuisance nonsense narc of the north pole who is just PLAIN PATHETIC AND DANDEROUS POSIONOUS LIKE A PYTHON SNAKE! I UNDERSTSND WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM , BUT I NEED UOUR ADVICE ON HOW DID YOU MANAGE TO BREAK AWAY FROM 24 YEARS OF NARCISSIM ABUSE FOR GOOD & NEVER YO RETURN EVER AGAIN!

[@claudianehring6777]

I know exactly what you are saying!! I didn't know this behavior had a name either or that thre are SOOO many others have gone or going through this, too. I love that I am the one to ended the relationhip. I don't mis him at all, but I do miss his dog a lot!!

[@edwardjohnfisk8936]

I have a habit of trying to repair broken things and find it difficult to discard anything if I think I can fix it .I am waking up. Thank you for your insight.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙏🙌

[@_Louise__]

Great reminder that healing and becoming educated about narcissism isn't enough. We must _also_ do the work to *grow* and *develop* _ourselves_ 🌱 Thank you Andrew 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯☀️

[@sll110]

"grow"

[@adbernhardt1700]

A hard lesson to learn.

[@lired70]

Andrew, you are always spot on! In my 13 year marriage,(dated for 5 years) I worked outside the home, took care of 6 kids, my 3 and his 3. I was a nanny, cook, maid, gofer etc. However, I was never a wife! It took me a very long time to realize that. This excellent video truly made me realize that my marriage was just a convenience for my X! My Labrador was better to me than my X! Your analogies are so helpful. Never stop teaching, you have a gift!

[@roxstarb4129]

Mine was the narcissist that tries but would ultimately revert back to what he was. 7:19 YES! I ended the relationship myself. You understand, Andrew! 😭 Correct ✅ I tried EVERYTHING! I tried reasoning of all kinds: patience, persistence, forgiveness. I was waisting so much energy into someone that couldn’t change. His mother and I both tried! 🤦🏾‍♀️ She was hoping I could be the one to help him!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏😉

[@drm9373]

1. I implicitly trusted my spouse (I now now trust is earned not bestowed freely). 2. I believed in the good of all people (I now know evil people exist within reach).

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯🙌🙌

[@MaryFlavor_kanini]

After what I have gone through for so many years, I have come to conclusions what psychologist say that All human beings have animalistic instinct and can behave like or worse than animal. Now am more educated/ knowledgeable about Narcissist .

[@charmee4045]

They walk among us.

[@rwdchannel2901]

I gave my parents many chances. I limited contact in hopes they would stop being abusive. Then once I realized they would never stop and it was deliberate abuse I had to go no contact. There was no reason to keep them in my life. I didn't need someone around to devalue me constantly. I gave them many chances because family should support each other.

[@hollylorn131]

You did the right thing by valuing yourself enough to get narcissists out of your life whether they're family or not. It must not have been easy since they're your parents but it's definitely the action you needed to take to honor yourself and your own boundaries! 🙏 💯 💪

[@BRONCOBILL123]

I find myself reflecting back to the very first time we ever met, and I thought I would love the bad things out of her,no,no,no,no,no,no,it doesn't happen like that

[@EssaryMichele]

When I was young I thought almost everyone was like me, I soon figured out something was different about me. I had never even heard of an empath though until the past few years. When I accidently came across it, suddenly my life made sense. We have so much love to give and these narcs are predators. We just want love back. They want to drain every part of you.

[@deborahhaig2310]

Very true....you think you are doing your part in the relationship and lifting them up...until you realize that they are treating you like a toy putting back on a shelf whenever they want to.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💯

[@shannonvanderhoof4810]

What we allow is what continues. When it becomes more uncomfortable to remain the same than it is to make a change.. that's the moment healing can begin. Don't waste anymore time going back to the situations you've chosen to leave. Trust your intuition and "to thine own self be true". Amen 🌿🕊

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Shannon, ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR GUT FEELING. I should have listened to mine back then, but I learned your GUT feeling NEVER let's you down. Best of luck to you. ❤️

[@janetpattison8474]

Exactly right, as long as we allow it, it continues. I let a big narc know that I put up with the awful behavior , the disrespect & attacks for years, giving her the msg. that all the abuse was ok. I let her know that Those days are over, & the BS won’t be in my life again. It took me a long long time to wake up, but it’s all over now, (we have no contact).

[@natashamoon6124]

What we allow is what continues.I love this 🙌🙌

[@shannonvanderhoof4810]

@@natashamoon6124 My mother is very wise.🦉

[@natashamoon6124]

@@shannonvanderhoof4810 Gosh tell her thanks for this and am going teach my girls this am not joking💯🙌🙏

[@lourdesgaffarena638]

l have been taken advantage of for many years by a narcicistic husband .When I decided I had enough I reported him many times and srtood up for myself I live my life as I please and ignore him even if it s not easy as we still live under the same roof,

[@kathrynbarnes4256]

I will never know what made me let this low person make me doubt myself. I've always given people many chances.but they didn't let me down so low as the narc.

[@kellywalsh4596]

Spend time getting to know yourself and love who YOU are. Don’t go looking and if someone is ever lucky to find you you can start observing their behaviours and see if they are worthy of you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌😉💯

[@nenasadie]

Thank you for this message today. I've come to realise that no matter the relationship, the patterns of the narcissist are the same. They are stuck in an endless loop. But our patterns are not, we can be who we were meant to be the moment we choose, regardless of the mistakes we may have made in our past. Namaste to you too, Andrew. I hope you have a wonderful day. And to everyone on this channel - I wish you healing and peace.

[@bradmcewen]

This is so true. It still is kinda mysterious why it's always similar traits. But you are right. We say, what the heck was that ? Then the targets habits are forever changed with hindsight wisdom.

[@life-rethought]

Love your ststement

[@marcialussier2467]

" they are stuck in an endless loop." I like that that is very accurate. And truly, they are miserable and they feel it and so that is why they have to make everyone else miserable. In a way it is very sad that they will never ever ever be able to escape from that loop, and will die that way. But that doesn't mean anyone should ever put up with their abuse.

[@marygrant882]

Elton John sung: I'm still standing, better than I ever did, looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid. I'm still standing, after all this time, picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind--- I'm still standing. Yeah, yeah, yeah

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉☀️💯💪🙏

[@marcialussier2467]

Wow! I love that and then I'm going to adopt that right now! Thank you for that! So glad that you are out of it, me too! Sending you strength! 💪

[@anner6342]

I have this lyric in a small frame on my wall. It is so very true!

[@marcialussier2467]

I believe there were a handful of times where my former narc was actually honest with me. It was after we had broken up for quite some time, 9 months. I had moved 1,700 miles away. Foolishly I decided to contact him thinking I could beat him at his game. I decided I was going to lead him on and then when he was going to meet me for a date spring it on him that I'm here. Well we ended up talking on the telephone and I eventually did tell him. But during that time, he told me many things that I know were true. One thing is that he actually apologized for the way that his friends treated me, he said the reason they did that is because "I told them all kinds of lies about you. I didn't want to be held accountable so I made you look bad." While I know that probably actually did happen, I know it's true, I have to remember that every single thing the narcissist says is to serve him. That was to soften me up and make me think that he has made a lot of changes. One time when I was breaking up with him for probably the 20th time, and it was early in our relationship, which I now know that he had absolutely no feelings for me whatsoever and he was in full manipulative lying mode, just getting from me whatever he could, when I broke up with him he said, "well, I'm sure you now realize that you are a nice person that just happened to run into a very bad person. You're better off without me." Again, that was a true statement, but even when he said true statements it was to serve him. Again, to make me think that he had some kind of an epiphany, (by the way that was one of his favorite phrases to use when he was in a jam) and that he now learned his lesson and had changed. It's absolute insanity. I finally ended the telephone connection and I believe it was August 2022. I changed my phone number and to me it is the best revenge. Because you absolutely know he will go back sometime and try to contact me and he will find that I have cut off all contact, you know how they hate that. And there's no way he can even try to find me. 💪

[@One-Goth]

I couldn't sleep last night, so I started reading through my old diaries and journals. I saw how much pain he caused me over the years. It was almost daily. I never even realised. I feel so used. I loved him. I thought he loved me. But no, clearly he didn't. Soon after we were married, he took our rings and smashed them, stamping on them. In a rage. I should have ended it then. But, I didn't, I gave him chance after chance after chance and he just continued to use me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy 🙏💯🙌

[@emilywilson7308]

It's heartbreaking.

[@marybarton5651]

You have accurately described the who ball of wax...he pulled out the victim card at the beginning and used it to the end, and I, being an empath fell for his manipulation until I awoke from my blinded love

[@detjaggillar8081]

A very good question to ask ourselves. In my case I was a codependent empath and I don't usually quit something I have started: In that case it's probably my thoughts of a kind of mission of "saving him" and trying to let him understand that I was a person to relay and trust. And of course the "big thing" that I thought I loved him and love it self almost (not always of course) is a feeling and condition that usually heal people. But of course it didn't in that case and in that relationship and for many years I did not understand that he is a covert narcissist and that I was a codependent empath. Nowadays I'm still an empath (Thank God for that!) but I have worked hard to get rid of my codepency and I think I finally get rid of that or at least I can see my own in a different mirror and STOP myself if and when those patterns of my codepency "click in" for someone. Of course I'm also VERY beware of all those Red Flags of a toxic relationship ever since I have educated me in narcissism and toxic relationships with other people around me. Do You remember @Andrew (or You other in here at those videos) that I have even problem with an older sister. I have Grey Rock her and for many reasons I did not go in NC with her - but it's working good as far for now. Then I also have a friend since 18 year who has the last years been showing me a lot of things (words and actions) which is very similar like an narcissist and all that she has say and doing to me has really drain my energy off. For some reason I have had a ruff time to handle our relationship and also a hard time of thinking: What can I do about it? I have thinking a lot but then for about a month ago I had enough and told her that it doesnt work anymore between us and I told her why also. Since that conversation I have not heard a word from her ... yet. We have spoken for a long time before that happen that I would come and visit her (15 swedish mile away from my home) for a couple of days between Christmas and New Years celebrating. But I was really sick in Epistaxis (profususal bleedings from the nasal cavity) at least 11 times since september last year until Juni this year and I was hospitaled 3 times and totaly 15 days at seperate times to stop this and at last I got an C-op for it 29 of July cause the dangerous of my bleedings had to stop permanently or ... I maybe die of those. So it was not possible for me to travel now-where at all and then we talked about those days between Christmas and New Year instead. Anyhow she did not understand that or she don't wan't to understand or ... she is a very selfish personality. She did not care if I was sick more than a few words and she was always complaining about that is was a mess (my illness) and that it was pitty of her (I don't know or understand why it's pitty of here ... still) and bla bla bla ... She has also met a guy (she is 63 years old and he is about nearly 60 years old) after being single at least 10 years but the guy is NO nice to her- A lot of Red Flags are showing when she tell me what he do or what he don't do etc. She met him at her work so they are workingpartners as busdrivers both and it was in the beginning of June. In about 5 month she don't even ask me anymore of anything what is happen in my life nor how I am (in health etc) cause those conversation is always about him and those phonecalls was not a short ones - we are/was talking about 1 almost 2 hours and 1 or 2 times a week. I realize that I even if I have told her that this relation does not seem good for her or that I wan't to talk about other things - like me and her and other things - she don't listen to that. So for about 3 wweks I got enough and told her: I don't wanna to be Your friend anymore if You don't wake up and stop hanging up Your life on only him and don't even care about talking about something else. Everything is NOT depending on what that guy do OR not doing so You have to do something about that! There MUST be something else to talk about like: in Sweden we have change Goverment, everything is cost a LOT more for people as food, rent a flat, electricity, gasoline and there is a war in Ukraina and people are suffering etc. OR: How it is going for You? How are You? Dont' You think that? Ugh! After that she stopped to talking to me: no phonecalls, no messenger or nothing else to me and neither I to her. I have not blocked her from social media but I befriended her at Facebook but I have her still on Messenger and her phonenumber. It has been like 2 angry 14 theens young women and their issues but I don't care - I have had enough of her selfish and "No adult" behawior. Of course I'm angry to that she don't understand that this guy is like a BIG EGO and sometimes behave like a sex-addict (with other women - she has spionaged on him!) even if both of them are 60+ ... Anyway - for now I don't even want to visit her in winter cause of that behavior she has show me the last few years and specially since I got sick and then her behavior since she met that guy. It's like that every thing is gonna to be just about her and her life and that guy but whatabout me? No chance that she is interested not even one minute - that's for sure. I do not call it a genuin and good friendship anymore and not the last time ever since 3-5 years back. Well I can overcome that friendship and that it's lost. But it's sad to discover how selfish and even a lot of behavior she has got (sometimes like a narc) and that I do'nt have discover and/or understand that she has been like that all those years of 18 ... as we has been friends. I think You understand that is has been a LOT of situations before this last thing and this last thing is "The Tip of an Iceberg". For the moment I can really say I am feeling much better of NOT talking to her. It is like somebody has taken away a BIG heavy stone from my shoulders and neck and I can brief proper again. An I ment it. I only think about her and our former friendship when people talk (like this video) about getting and giving toxic people "more changes". I'm as I say in this text is not giving her more changes to dismiss me anymore. I deserve a better friend I think.

[@whatsupchannel3047]

I will in the future only please those who deserve it not those who demand it . Its such a monumental learning curve I have been on but am so grateful for this information . What a wonderful human being you are Andrew to encourage us to heal and gain strength.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌☀️

[@hollylorn131]

I stayed longer than I should have to keep my family together and because I wanted to believe the ex could change if we went to couples counseling and he learned better ways to do things. If you are in a narcissistic relationship, do not go to couples counseling because narcissists refuse to change their behavior. Individual counseling is more effective for the victim of narcissism to get stronger and leave. Couples counseling with a narc partner is not recommended. It doesn't do any good. The ex fake agreed like a kind person to make some changes in the counseling session, but then he always had rage fits immediately after leaving the office and he refused to make any changes. Absolutely nothing got accomplished in the years of couples counseling unfortunately.

[@Leyla80s]

The narcissist causes so much damage. I truly hope every empath will heal from their ordeals. Top video Andrew, you always tell it exactly how it is⭐☀️🌟🌞

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏💯🙌

[@Leyla80s]

🌞👍

[@lorrenab-beat527]

The most difficult of the whole process of quitting giving my narc so many chances was not knowing what to do with my time and resources now that he wasn't sucking them out of me. There are many reasons I stayed. My therapist had me make a list and write it out. Looking at it is so dysfunctional and shows so much trauma bonding. I've been healing since June, but my head is still spinning.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 🙌☀️🙏

[@pollyjohnson-allthingsgood]

It certainly is challenging-the biggest challenge you’ll ever go through - I truly believe that. I’m 14 days off 12 months since the day I was discarded but I’m a totally different person to that girl 12 months ago who gave 12 years to the narcissist. Why did it last 12 years? Why I gave him so many chances? For all the exact reasons Andrew points out. Love - you think they must love you the way you love them - lesson one, they don’t. You think they are just going through a bad time or day or week or month? Lesson two, they are not. You let it go because surely soon they will act like they did in the beginning? Lesson three, they won’t and so on and so forth - only now after 12 months can I honestly say I now understand the narcissist and more importantly, I understand me and my value and my worth which is far more than the narcissist deserved and so my time is now. If not now, when 🙏💙🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 🙏💯🙌😊

[@emilywilson7308]

Amen, Polly!

[@charmee4045]

So glad you are free.............

[@rosagoglia4649]

Thank you, we both discarded eachother, only I did it the last time and haven’t looked back and I stopped sinning in big ways so there is much less in common. Also I would have had more respect from this person if I was always a bitch to them .. trying to be their equal in behavior. Hoping this helped someone

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯💯😌🙏

[@joannzappoli3667]

Most painful feeling deep inside my soul as I left him. I’ve seen his multiple supply on his messenger and claims they were all friends. Went through the insults he said were jokes, Gave him so many chances. They DON’T change. But I’m on the healing path now because of you. Getting emails, even though he is blocked. I don’t read them, I ignore them. He has returned several times. We only live 2 miles from one another in a small town and he does come to the house demanding I open the door. I don’t answer. Been 3 weeks and still getting hovers. At first I looked for them, I did the block unblock, now I don’t care. Thank you Andrew for all your wisdom. This is how I’m making it through.

[@agent1996ful]

Every time I feel like going back to "my" narcissist, I simply watch your videos, Andrew. You're doing God's work, for all of us - and thank you for that from the bottom of my heart. As for today's topic, I guess I gave him so many chances because I was scared of the simple truth - and the truth was that he never loved me, despite acting like he did. But maybe I too never loved him - maybe it was only limerence.

[@hrendon7689]

Why u call him "my narcissist"? These beings do not belong to any body, well i think they belong to satan himself.

[@ninath13]

We can never go back their grudge holders gonna get you and it will be worse.

[@coral8313]

Correct 💯 I was so young gave 34 years of my life with the narcissist I was in love ,healing is a long & hard process well for me I isolated for 2 years to rediscover myself,constantly learning becoming aware thanks Andrew your channel and a support group has helped now I don’t give so much of myself I’m totally aware of the tactics they use only after the education

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

[@traceysneath5285]

I hear you I gave 33 years I was young and nieve, been 11 months out of the relationship, oh my goodness I have so much time, just shows how much running around I was doing for HIM 🙄 Peace now is amazing 🙏 best wishes to you ❤️

[@coral8313]

I’m 10 years out have highs and lows more highs now yes agree you do have so much more free time keep doing the learning as it helps out in the world ❤

[@deborahcollins1100]

For first several years I stayed with my narcissistic husband because I blamed his bad behavior on his drug use and didn’t want to go through another divorce and we had a daughter together. Then I actually loved him and fell for his big lie that he really loved me even though I was his third wife. I am still in the 38 yr marriage with him and he is getting worse now and I know he absolutely HATES me! Thank you Andrew for all you do for us! ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@lydiajordan4627]

Andrew, I'm not going to lie. My favorite part of your videos is when you announce today's topic and give us that look like "uh huh, you know what I'm talkin' about ... " 😆 It's just a look, not words that you say, but it is priceless. It says everything. Everything about these horrible monsters that we deal with in one look. BTW ... thank you for all the great, down to earth videos.

[@jenicr8954]

I totally agree. I am a giver, I still believe people have good in them and I give more chances until I say it's enough and that's why it happened to me. I can see that now, I accept this and I feel I am finally free. At least it feels good I know who I am, I actually feel pitty for the narcisist for not knowing who he is and needs to put a mask to imitate normal behavior. That is just sad. I can now concentrate on my life and next time I will know for sure how to keep distance.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌

[@victorcastillo4345]

Dear Andrew, After 2+ years of going through the PATH you described, I have healed completely. It was work, and my blessing is that I had the time to dedicate to follow the PATH. All my life I asked myself, Why am I who I am? Why has success followed me all my life, now 77 years old? 3 years ago, I became a subject of a narcissistic attack that almost killed me. I now know the answer to my questions. I now know why I am (and was) so special to so many people in my life. Now I know who I am. Andrew, thank you for your service, and God bless you. Victor Castillo

[@Sabina-ve9ie]

"Why did I gave him so many chances" was the question I was ruminating a lot for two and a half year, while being single and giving short term third and fourth chances - every time with exactly the same devastating result. And again blaiming myself, why I'm so stupid, naive, dupable, inconsistent, setting no boundaries and s.o. Your Video gives such a motivating answer: Because we are understanding, supportive, sympathetic, positve, empathic, and fighters - these are good qualities! We want to keep them all - but be aware of who earns it! Andrew, with this video I'm cristal clear now, I won't ruminate about this question not a single minute again. Thank you so much! Greetings from rainy Germany 🤗

[@Mariposa62196]

I wont give up,in my family I was told to bring it to the end. Caring for my stepfather,who was sick dementia for eight years. I do it to the end. After four years I couldn't do it anymore. I didn't stop,it's not exactable in my family. I get sick after he died. After recovering I met the narcisstic. The perfect taugt,thought think somebody cares for me. Now I know,it immediately stopped after I sell my house moving to him. But I can't or want see it. Thank you,Andrew for give me the answers. Sending Greetings from Germany.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 🙏💯☀️🇩🇪

[@heathergianna9464]

Becoming educated about this is making a BIG difference. You're an excellent teacher, Andrew. Thank you! ☔🌞🌈

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@marieeakin8534]

Andrew....I'm taking a deep look as to my part of the equation that led me to this life lesson. I'm owning what is mine to own & learn...& separating from what isn't. You're shares are helping me tremendously! But gosh darn it.....A magic wand would be a whole lot easier lol. 🎀😘

[@CatherineEClay]

I think that was the sweetest version of you that have ever seen when you were turning the hang up and you giggles It was so adorable

[@chloerodgers692]

As a Christian, I made a vow when I married my ex-spouse 37 years ago. For better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health……. I wanted to help him, support him, love him, prove to him that people do “stick” and they don’t leave…….

[@WakeyWakey1111]

Wow, Andrew, thank you for this video. I have no energy left today other than to say Thank you. Feeling very drained by the narcissist in my life. I have a plan to get out but I'm feeling so very exhausted. I have to get it together. Never in a million years did I ever think I'd be at this point in my life at 61 years old... I know I'm strong but I feel so exhausted. Thank you Andrew ❤️

[@karenreis-ks6qj]

This was/is the most painful. Thank you. I’m in the ashes at the moment. I’ll be a phoenix … amen. Thank you for your help.

[@karenreis-ks6qj]

When I see you in Costa Rica and then the Carolinas there is so much growth, love and light. I’m so happy for you!!

[@karenreis-ks6qj]

I have blocked them all.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌💯🙏

[@karenreis-ks6qj]

How do I contact you to find out about the one on one sessions?

[@zulemaflores1234]

Your right Andrew, there is nothing like being real and authentic. If we are honest and truthful we having nothing to hide. Great teaching! Enjoy your evening!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙌☀️

[@chosenonekay]

Definitely was brainwashed into thinking this was a “healthy” relationship and that there was something wrong with me 😢

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy 💯🙌🙏

[@mitzicrowder2186]

Relatives , spouse,and friends so called friends.Its like I got ripped out of my own life.What a wake up call.Your right it is hard.I am totally worth the pain of starting over on my own terms. God Bless you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@janetquinn5809]

Agree , We want to believe in change, 🙏 we need to believe, we trust in God to make miracles that nothing is impossible. We feel a duty to save.

[@urszulazasada7648]

Thank you Andrew for your good heart, kindness and for sharing your knowledge and positive energy with us. I am sending greetings from Poland.

[@QueenPaulaBanks]

Because you did not want to accept the true reality of the relationship. Yes. Here with you accepting my true reality. Fantastic video.💙💯🙂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌😉

[@iopakayalo3459]

Yes, yes! I thought I was helping and I actually submitted for years when all that was happening was lies after lies until there was no more love left, just a huge void and A total waste of time, resources, money and love!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌😉

[@kerrydwyer1879]

Hi.I have tears streaming down my face from this...from siblings/long term relationship to helping an asylum seeker. some still friendly with.One-wiped me like a piece of toilet paper..Why did I give chances//Because I dont know their whole life stories or what they had been through..I genuinely care,dont judge.I intend to stay caring,forgiving...But will not give in the way I have..I love the creation...am an animal/plant lover..That gives peace..I will still be kind..I refuse to become like the ones who thought I was an idiot whenactually I was just trying to put myself in their shoes,,, Thanks Andrew-from Sydney.. Empath_It seems so..And yes,I am fine alone..I still smile and Laugh-even while being abused..I dont dislike any of them.I feel sorry for them... There is a scripture in Gods Word the Bible...Seek peace and pursue it(chase it)..I seek peace...and like kindness...Im a horse preson but through injuries while young,I can no longer ride..But wild birds,and animals like me(Even fractious/moody ones),children too...Thats a blessing and is calming.. You have a gentle ,direct approach to your short talks..Thanking you from,usually,sunny Sydney..Father and Christ's blessing and peace be upon you also for thr time you take for this encouragement. 🙂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌☀️

[@kerrydwyer1879]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you

[@mamashanshan2772]

The only one we can save is ourselves!! I absolutely know I’m no saint, no angel to save them!! I certainly am all 100% human, and I can’t save anyone unwilling to abuse or cause harm towards so many, I can also pray for the next one! Such tough lessons, certainly have been very valuable lessons, & I won’t do this rodeo again!! You are an incredible teacher!!

[@mamashanshan2772]

What woke me up the most, watching my son dealing with one, this woke , it shook me awake actually!! Unbelievable.... what an awakening call it’s been.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯😉💯

[@meiw8358]

Thank you Andrew, your video is therapeutic and healing ❤️‍🩹

[@AAXS-op1vo]

Yep, yep,yep, yep and more yep. Did ALL of this . . . . For 25 years (23 in marriage), getting my boundaries stomped all over, getting drains of emotional and financial and spiritual resources, and crashed and burned with a discard at the end. Luckily, I figured out pretty quickly that no contact (or as little as humanly possible - more difficult when you have kids together) was the only path to true healing. Otherwise you risk getting sucked back into mindless arguments, drama, stress and chaos. You will get the smear campaign for doing so from some but my suggestion is to cut every single connection with the narc . . . complete sever. It will be hard but cut out ANYONE who you think may be functioning as a spy, flying monkey or minion. You will thank me in the long run. Cut it all and do not look back. Freedom is ahead of you, not behind back in that trash heap.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing..🙏💯🙌

[@rochellsiroy7126]

The narc didn't do his homework, he didn't know how i think. Leaving was spontaneous after giving him many chances. I'm done, gone!

[@marybarton5651]

I believe that my emotional healing is directly affecting my physical healing...along with self care, spiritual and mental realignment and walking, etc. Whooooo-hoooooooo! Thank you God! Thank you Andrew!

[@emilywilson7308]

Mary, you're inspiring!

[@marybarton5651]

@@emilywilson7308 thank you 😊 🙏

[@lovelytarbaby]

It took me more than 40 years to leave my husband. I finally kicked him out when I realized that I was doing "the same thing over and over and getting the same results-insanity". In my new relationship I notice many similarities in the personality of him to my husband. I thought it was something in them that I was attracted to. Watching these videos, I realize both men are/where narcissists. Some of his comments really hit home. What an eye opening. On another note, my ex passed away a couple months ago. I was feeling so much guilt that he died alone. Now I'm enlightened. Wow. Thank you.

[@gratefultobehere]

This will really help as I support my friend who’s healing now forward. Thank you Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💪💯🙏

[@marybarton5651]

I am healing emotionally, thanks to you and the education I've been getting from you, and others, here. I have been working haaarrrd. I came from a Dr appointment today and I am 65, soon will be 66, my blood pressure was normal, 120/? And that's what it was when I was in my 20s.

[@jennifernewton4637]

I kept feeling like _I_ was like one who was doing something wrong. I had _no_ idea _what_ and _he_ sure wasn’t gonna tell me 🙄 Then I found this channel and realized that I was being too hard on myself. He had said some pretty terrible things that _I_ certainly didn’t make him say. I made every effort to appease him and the way he responded to that was on him. GREAT video tonight, Andrew! You’re looking and sounding _so_ good!!! I’m SO happy for you! Enjoy the rest of your evening, handsome! Sending SO MUCH LOVE your way! XOXO 😘💋☀️💜❤️⭐️🫶✌️🙌💪🥳🤩😁☺️😍👍 My friends, I hope you all had a wonderful day! Gonna go figure out what’s for dinner! Love you all SO MUCH! 🤗💜☀️🙌🫶❤️⭐️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏🙌☀️😊

[@emilywilson7308]

Exactly! I kept thinking there was something I needed to change about myself to make it work.

[@jennifernewton4637]

@@emilywilson7308 well… they ended UP teaching us that it was NOT what was wrong with US. They taught us to introspect… to accept OURSELVES, and to NOT seek acceptance from the likes of _them_ 😉👍 They’d REALLY HATE knowing that was our takeaway. Allow me to present “woman not caring”… 🤷‍♀️

[@katyams]

Hi Jennifer!!! Sending love!

[@dejaporter7338]

Did the same to me blamed me for everything

[@LMBL-hp2jc]

I agree with your energy coming back. It is amazing. After almost two decades of emotional abuse, I feel free, productive, and emotionally and physically healthy. Getting to this place meant I had to confront some hard truths, had to go through some painful transitions, and it felt like the darkest part of night. However, knowledge is power, and I’m a brand new me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌☀️🙏💪

[@ippmoeproject8502]

Thank you Andrew for not making me feel guilty for staying so long.

[@jackleentoop7693]

I’m in the process of removing myself from a 25 year narcissistic marriage. I recently went to look after a friends house while they were holidaying on the other side of the country. Before I left home to look after their house, I made a whole stack of meals for my soon to be ex. He said he knew I still cared for him because I made all those meals. I really wanted to tell him I was only doing it so I could use up the food in the cupboards and freezer and that it would save me more money for when I get away from him, but in this case I didn’t think he really needed to know. I’m learning about over sharing my thoughts and telegraphing my intentions to him.

[@dawnadevine1618]

Wow Andrew! 100% accurate! After surviving a coma and facing multiple surgeries, my ex husband narcissist brought his flying monkeys with him to my hospital bed and presented me with household bills he wanted me to pay! (I was unemployed - he earned a huge income!). My response: None. Did not even look at his face.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯💯💯

[@introvertedways6976]

This video hits so truthful, exactly what you said made me stay thinking she’ll change I thought she was traumatized by her last relationship. Be broke up 2 weeks ago and everything was a lie that hurts me alot even gave a promise ring that she asked for and didn’t want it. Your videos healing me faster than ever 🙂

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

Thank you Andrew. Awesome video with a lot of important information. I will send it to a friend who is struggling right now with her ex narc. I wrote this in my journal this morning and I wanna share it with all people on the channel. Quote; "Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to us. " Have a lovely evening Andrew and i hope you are doing ok where you are. You are not alone either and i am with you in spirit. God bless you for all the good that you do. 😘🙌♥

[@astrialindah2773]

I love what you wrote! I just got back from a half hour walk and this so resonates with me! I just broke it off once again.. with a narcissist and am being loved bombed right at the moment... hoovered.. the difficult part is I live in the same apartment complex that he does and so I see him frequently and this does make it harder. but and finally finally get it! he's not ever going to change he's not ever going to invest in our relationship past what it does for him.. and he does very little to nurture the relationship.. and of course then gaslights me and deflects and projects all of his deficits on to me. I'm done. thank you for your kind words and sharing and may we all be blessed!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏☀️

[@mariefrancebourget1749]

@@astrialindah2773 i completly understand. But you figured him out and now you can focus on yourself. You are on the right track, so keep on moving foreward. Blessings to you. 😊🙌❤

[@sharonusa4763]

Thank you for your uplifting videos Andrew, you have a wonderful heart ❤ Blessings everyone 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙏🙌

[@DanielaPerez-yp1gb]

Sharon, I absolutely agree with you. Many GREETINGS 👍❤️

[@sophias1191]

He had a terrible childhood, but I had also no loving childhood. Traumaband.....I thought he was hurting, and did not hurt me on purpose.That is why I forgave him several times.But it was on purpose, and he never had true regret .....I still have a hard time to recover from his malicious behavior. I wish you and all the other survivers healing, strenght and real love.( And also this for myself)

[@sajor1847]

My narcissist sister always treated me terribly. When she would come to visit I would literally waited on her. I cooked her meals. Took her wherever she wanted to go. Nothing was ever enough. When our mother passed away we were both with her. I thought this experience would surely make us closer. Needless to say nothing changed. She continued to disrespect devalue and just treat me like dodo. When she got cancer she asked me to be with her to the end. Once again I was there and once again she was mean all the way til she went unresponsive. These people never change but neither did I. I wanted a relationship so bad I gave myself up for one. I couldn't get it through my head she did not want a relationship with me. She taught me a life lesson that I will never forget. Thank you sister.

[@susanorndorff8902]

Thank You!! So much for all U teach. When i listen to You, and read so many comments that tell my story, I feel a calmness, relief, and many other good emotions. There's light, and a freedom, I didnt know I had prior to the relationship. ❤❤❤ Love U! God Bless! And Namaste

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@Kozzmo777]

Yea I was the empath!! I'm out now and so happy!! And happy I found Andrew's video's!! Thank you for the clarity!! ❤

[@cathycpon5832]

U absolutely touched 😊my heart with *The Aging Empath”

[@damianlopez7630]

One of the reasons why I gave so many chances is because I thought they would change or I thought it was just a slight character floor they had that they needed to work on and there was hope I just kept the LIE alive by having hope that they might change and be better people sometimes they do change but by that time they already have exited the life of the relationship or friendship or whatever it is.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏

[@damianlopez7630]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You're Welcome.

[@ericrobbins9399]

In the beginning I felt sorry for the narcissist. I hoped she’d give up her lawsuit against her former employer and get a job. No victim card and then went after disability. Laziness is what the narcissist suffers from. A narcissist you MUST ignore. A narcissist’s worst fear is being ignored. A sociopath although similar to a narcissist must be handled differently. A sociopath hates to be exposed. I gave both many chances. Now I cut both off. I can write a book

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌😉

[@btlfilmmedia9514]

So true you just hang in because you think you are in a relationship that will sort itself out and you think you can help them but also you may have children which is the thing for many that keeps you hanging in until you can take it no more …Also you are always committed longterm in any relationship ..These nutters never are ..

[@marybarton5651]

I revisited this video today...I needed to.. I have made a lot for progress,, but I have also had some setbacks.. Narcissists drain you in every way, but leaving and beginning the emotional healing process has helped my physical health. I am not 100 % but I am working toward it... I still have much to learn and more healing needed, both emotionally and physically. Thank you Andrew 😊

[@Mary-qm7rw]

Wow, this was a hard one to listen to, but so true Andrew. I stayed with the narcissist way, way too long. I just thought it would get better, and sometimes it did, but those small amounts of good times where just meant to keep me hooked. I provided for him way more than I got in return. It is hard to think about, but you are right, we all must, so we don't repeat the past and we authentically become our third selves. Thank you once again Andrew.

[@hollylorn131]

Thank you Andrew, as always, for your wisdom about narcissism. Through the help of Andrew's channel, I'm realizing the importance of healing the inner childhood wounds, with figuring my inner self out, and what faulty thought patterns from childhood I've carried with me into adulthood that I need to change. I realize if I don't heal my inner self, I would bring more narcissists into my life. Time alone doesn't heal our inner self. We have to do the mountain of work. I'm finding it's so worth it to invest in my own inner healing. Before the narcissistic marriage I could not handle dealing with the unresolved childhood wounds. The memories were too painful. Now I'm facing the old childhood wounds as I uncover them with a fierce determination to heal my inner self. Namaste. Wishing everyone a safe and peaceful rest of their day! 🙏 ❤️ 🦋

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message 💯🙏💪🙌

[@patsyballantyne9886]

Exactly what I've been left wondering. Perfect timing. Thank you Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@Smalltowngurrl1]

Thank you for Andrew! It’s crazy how we can easily fall for their nonsense and games. It’s shameful how many chances I gave the most recent one. But everyday is a new day and a gift. Thank you!! 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌☀️

[@flowerpower4944]

Empaths have a growth mindset, and all of us will succeed in what ever we put our hearts into, if it's in work or community,it's our gift to make a difference to the world, were always moving on and encouraging people,.👍👍🙏🙏🙏

[@carlosgiron1246]

Great video Andrew. The reason why I gave my ex narcissist so many chances was that he was an expert at lies and deceit . Everytime I would say I'm done he would come back crying and telling me how wrong and sorry he was and I would cave in and forgive him. It was also a part of me that hoped he would change and be the person that I fell in love with. Or he would play on my feelings and made me feel like I could help him that if I showed him unconditional love that he would see the light and love me back and change . This one really brought out a lot of feelings of sadness, I was such an idiot for falling for it for 7 years. I'm trying to move on and become stronger and smarter. Love and strength to everyone in the community.

[@ellasladek3124]

Try 17 years , didn’t realize he was a narcissist, or I would have gotten out sooner

[@Tatjana.B]

The worst monster I ever met was my chef in Novartis. Bad person who distroyed his marriage with young lady from Slovenia. Her parents showed him his son for a couple of minutes on international meeting and he was disaster in bussiness. I quitted this job on meeting when he attacked lady who came from another town 20 minutes late because of storm who blocked the highway. He had no understanding, allways yelling like idiot. All pharmaceutical companies knew that he is like that but headquarter is in Schwitzerland and they took too long to tell him that kind of manager is nothing but zero. Some people need therapist but use not that help molesting workers, just awfull.

[@christinerobertson9596]

Every time I listen to your videos, I think of my son who is with a serious Narcissist. She's taken everything from him. I wish I could shake sense into him before too much time is gone. I know I can't interfere, just send him my love into the universe.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending positive energy 🙏💯🙌☀️

[@lizp637]

Just out of a 9yr relationship. He was a long distance lorry driver, away from Mon to Fri EVERY week because...."That's my job!"....I looked in on his mother, who lived alone. I was a Carer, who lived in our house, mostly alone. The minute I moved over 100 miles to be with MY family, the slooooow fade came from him. He discarded me 4 months later. I was devastated. Taken me approx 7 months to finally not hurt anymore and be single. In those 7 months he's had a new supply and just split up from her too. So glad I'm out of that! Thanks Andrew, you're a 🌟

[@kathrynbarnes4256]

I have been doing this for over 20 yrs. I have never been treated like this by anyone else in my 60 yrs. What a waste of life this has been. I'm stepping out of this even though I have to stay because of situation.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you Andrew. You have nailed it. If you are being abused for one second, it is one second too long. God bless you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@leo-wr6do]

I tried to get rid of her many times, her tears and the whole production was just too much. She didn't deceive me, i knew who she was the whole time, I just cared so much about her. Still do.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy 🙏🙌☀️

[@leo-wr6do]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you so much.....many blessings

[@donaldgansky5907]

I was a people person and gave too many chances. Then I was discarded. 24 years. Great video Andrew.

[@MAJENMOTHER]

When your spouse keeps repeating the behaviors that hurt you and upset you, then you know it’s time to leave. They won’t stop. The narcissist may play nice for a while, but then they revert back to the same hurtful actions. It’s who they are. I’ve wasted too much time trying to make things work. To appease the narcissist. I’m 57 and I deserve to be truly happy. I’m going to take care of me. I sound strong, but this has killed me. I’m struggling to leave and I’m being held onto so tight, but I’m not giving up. Like Andrew says, you’re not alone and o know many of you are feeling what I feel. Stay strong and find your happiness.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 🙌☀️💯

[@roseannemelvin8501]

Andrew, the accuracy of your words are astounding. Thank you. God Bless.🙏🙏🙏💛

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏💯🙌

[@gojcole]

This was right on time for me. I am continuing to put the pieces of the puzzel together, i feel I am coming through the fog. Equipped with the strength of education i can now see how subtle the narcissist that was in my life was. No more!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue on the path 🙏💯☀️

[@michaelacousino2410]

I just wanted to send a thank you to Andrew. I know that you have gone through hell just like the rest of us in your narcissistic relationship. But I'm so grateful that you have knowledge of it and you have used it to do this wonderful thing in making videos to help other people get stronger and leave their abusive relationships. You have managed to turn something terrible into something wonderful that has helped so many. Thank you

[@mariebonet8521]

Yes. We truly want to see the best in everyone. We cannot understand How other people don't want the best for us. Our mind does not operate like theirs. Thank God for that!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💯🙏

[@mariebonet8521]

🤗

[@morgana4075]

I just left my narcissistic relationship yesterday, after 6+ years. My feelings are oscillating between gratitude for getting out and deep sorrow. I just keep reminding myself that I need to stay strong and NOT reach out under any circumstance. Your videos are such a huge help. Thank you, Andrew 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 🙏💯🙌☀️

[@karenlacy8950]

There are many reasons why this happened. I am an empath, devoted astrological sign, Virgo, not a quitter etc. I completely understand now. I have researched, studied and read about this love myself way too much to tolerate this behavior. So much happier now. Great video Andrew. Your insight and knowledge have helped tremendously thanks for all you do! Namaste. Love and light

[@pamelariley6694]

👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 🙏☀️🙌

[@cherenebarret5024]

Thank you. Love your straightforwardness and direct words because they are truthful and very well said. 🙏🏻💖

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@katarole]

Thank you for your videos Andrew - it is healing, validating and therapeutic. Everything you’ve said resonates with me. Sending love and best wishes to you.