Why You Must Advocate For Yourself!

[@nurseprac.nikki513]

I worked with a very arrogant ED Physician while doing my rotation. He was a know it all that did not like to be challenged. A patient came in with head trauma. Nothing dramatic, she slipped off a ladder and hit her head. She was lightheaded, dizzy and nauseous. He immediately said she had a concussion and wanted to send her on her way. She was terrified. I asked about ordering a CT as well as other testing and he spoke down to me and reprimanded me bc I am just a nurse practitioner. As the woman and her husband were getting ready to be discharged, I was saying goodbye to them when a yellow fluid began dripping from her nose. She asked for a tissue but I knew immediately what it was. CSF rhinorrhea (spinal fluid leaking from her nose). She was very lucky that it happened while in the ER and not at home as a slew of issues could have followed. Physicians are not Gods, they are just people with some education under their belt. You know your body so be your own advocate.

[@amandapratt6270]

Wow hope she's doing well now

[@amandapratt6270]

I advocate for myself and look my conditions up to learn more about them 😊❤ it helps tremendously.. also helps that I have a doctor that does about anything I ask.. for example.. I have copd and asked for a CT scan because it's been years since my last one.. I am praying everything is OK with it

[@vsand9798]

I was a CNA in the city hospital. The nurses were amazing. Every once the doctors would get like that. It’s gross, you deserve more respect. You saved that woman. Not the doctor. They need to remember your absolute value in being their eyes and ears and first line of defense, so to speak, when it comes to battling illness.

[@michaellackey6838]

Thank you for knowing Hospital standards

[@poppergurl]

That is so scary omg

[@ChanelThomas248]

Hospitals have something called Risk Management. If you know you are receiving poor care, demand loudly to speak to risk management. They will hustle to help you then. I've seen my friend get results that way and I saved my daughter:s life from sepsis by calling risk management AND the hospital administrator. I called everyone I could think of and they quickly upped her care.

[@christaylor2529]

Hi, great information. If you can, you should do a list of how and post it. It could help others so much. I know it would educate me. Yet another things schools should teach in health class.

[@cavypretzel862]

Thank you so much for the info! I hope you and your daughter and friend are doing well ❤️

[@annetakubiak3374]

..or at least ask for the social worker, they are in hospitals to work in your favor.

[@yuppers1]

Thank you so much! My cousin has been in and out of the hospital for complications of a colon cancer surgery. It won't close and he's run out of vacation/sick time and getting ready to lose his job. I'll tell him and see if they'll get him taken care of.

[@brookelynnwu8016]

Ofc they do… they don’t want a federal lawsuit! 😂 (FYI this is a federal law they MUST treat *everyone* who needs treatment.)

[@nailsarelife]

My boyfriend went to the ER about an issue he had with constipation. They took an x-ray (not a CT scan) and said he had a blockage. Told him to take laxatives and "come back" if it didn't get better soon. The next day, his boss told him, "Go get a second opinion. Until you do, don't bother coming to work." Not saying he was fired but that he'd be sent right back home. Anyway, set up an appointment for a colonoscopy. The "blockage" was a 9 lb cancerous mass in his colon. If he had waited much longer/kept taking the laxatives, he wouldn't be here.

[@anberini]

Sad to say that happened to my mom. They did xrays etc n told her it's nothing just constipation. And in the end when it was too late it was ovarian cancer n she passed soon after admitted into the hospital. Happened in 2016. RIP mom❤

[@nailsarelife]

@anberini I'm so sorry to be hear that. 😣

[@anberini]

@@nailsarelife thank u. Life can be unfair. But u know

[@Sojournerofhope]

@@anberini sorry to hear this and for your loss. Unfortunately I can relate with the loss of my mother to colon cancer.

[@angiep.4362]

CT scans are so coveted! They deny people them all the time. It like they don’t want people to find out what wrong with them with the correct tool

[@marissac713]

I had periorbital cellulitis on one of my eyes a few years ago that looked like this, and they gave me a vancomycin drip with other things as well. They insisted on a CT scan to make sure it didn't spread behind my eyes and become orbital cellulitis. It's supposed to be taken very very seriously. If it's an infection that gets around or behind her eye, she can lose her vision. If it is periorbital cellulitis infection, she needs antibiotics for it asap. My ER doctor googled it right in front of me, told me she she's never seen it or treated it before. She printed out the protocol from the Mayo Clinic website and followed it. This girl deserves so much better, it's unconscionable that they refused to treat her.

[@karaalbrecht5146]

I had this same thing happen last Spring. I have a history of gram negative infection anyway. I got lucky yet again with a ER doc who understood the seriousness and made sure I got the right protocol for treatment.

[@patriciawagner5698]

Thank you for posting this. I'm having a problem just like this, but not as severe. I finally got a prescription of maxitro after 1 urgent care, 2 Dr. Appointments, and 1 ophthalmology apt. I started getting relief almost immediately.

[@VintageRed411]

If your ER "doctor" had to google this, they were probably a mid-level and not a physician. This is bread & butter emergency medicine for physicians. For this woman, there is a large differential.

[@marissac713]

@VintageRed411 She is a doctor with Memorial Herman here in Houston, Dr Kristin Berg and she's great. Her MD profile is on the hospital website. Ridiculous assumption to make. It was obvious she was a young doctor because I can see and hear and process information. Her ID showed it, the team was addressing her as Dr. and I was told the doctor will be with me in a few minutes and she introduced herself as Dr. There were four other people coming in and out of my room working on me who were not doctors. I've been to the ER for less serious things like needing stitches on a small area and that's when I get a PA. It's rude and pointless to have written the comment you wrote. Don't be a know it all about a stranger's experience. I am familiar with medical titles. It's strange to assume to know someone's level of familiarity, knowledge or education within any field. It's very Dunning-Kruger. Since you think you're so intelligent and are trying to correct me, then you could've used context clues to figure out why I obviously, purposefully shared that part of my experience. I didn't share it for a rude person to completely miss the point and have it go over their head and criticize a doctor who helped me. I shared that part solely because the girl in the video didn't get treatment and maybe the people who assessed her didn't know what it is and they didn't care to make the effort to figure it out the way it was done for me. It's not a common issue that ERs see all the time. I asked several people on staff at the hospital if they had seen this before on a patient and they all said no. I'm very grateful to have received the care I got.

[@Trinny1978]

​@@VintageRed411I think it's a great sign that your doctor is willing to realise that they don't know everything and also willing to help you find the answer. Too many doctors act like they know everything and you're just wrong for questioning them.

[@Peytoneileen]

I recently fell down the stairs and immediately knew I broke my ankle. We went to the ER, they sat me in a chair in a random hallway outside the triage area while waiting for x-rays, gave me a random pain med w/o telling me what it was, and took x-rays. A nurse came out and told me I had two hairline fractures that would heal by themselves and they gave me a boot. I didn’t even speak to a doctor! I went to an orthopedic doc a few days after (it happened on a weekend) and he immediately looked at the x-ray and said “you have THREE fracures and we’re going to have to operate this week.” I had two fibula breaks and a broken malleous, which all in all is called a trimalleolar fracture, that required ORIF surgery with multiple plates, screws, and something called a zip line (I think) to stabilize the tendons and space between my tibia and fibula. To say I was shocked is an understatement! How could the ER miss an entire separate fracture and tell me I’d heal on my own? I had surgery on Nov. 7th last year and I JUST got the okay to start walking without a boot. It was a pretty serious injury (every time a nurse or tech looked at my ankle they were shocked 😂) and I’m lucky it didn’t get worse!

[@thatcreepyxmastreeinyourat8950]

Speaking of not telling you what the medications are, this is something Children's Hospitals do. They act like parents are not allowed to access patient information. My baby was in the NICU when she was born, and I never ONCE saw a doctor no matter how many times I asked. The nurses wouldn't give any information. At one point, my baby had an IV line put in her forehead, and NOBODY could tell me why. Worst. Experience. Ever.

[@suedefringe]

I went in just prior to the pandemic with a tri orif break. They said she's here with "ankle pain" . I sear they thought I was there for pain meds !! They gave me 12 pills sent me off with a crappy splint and said see Rothman. Ps Rothman sucks they sent me home with no PT exercises. I still have swelling all these years later. And I def have nerve damage from it. It hurts to touch the inside of my ankle.

[@charlottegunning1548]

LAWSUIT!? The way you were treated at ER was Unacceptable N THEY NEED TO BE EXPOSED for it

[@mikaylastrong7622]

Tight line between fibula and tibia. Just got one, too. And several anchors and 2 screws. Lol Mine was lisfranc joint reconstruction. Bad enough to deal with without bureaucracy and idiots.

[@commentator1984]

My daughter broke some of the bones in her hand. The xray at the first office we went to didn't show much. But the machine at the orthopedic doc showed at least three breaks. They just had better equipment.

[@reginadavis1028]

I work in the medical field and YOU BETTER BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE!! SUCKS to HAVE to be but we do!

[@AbithIalblue]

Seriously?!

[@cosmoloveshoney]

Are you serious it's not that easy, I went to MULTIPLE. My own doctor kicked me out of her office because I was crying and in pain. Her associate That I went to start getting aggressive and gaslighting me, when I was talking very softly and very calmly. He proceeded to kick me out also and get my own doctor I had to call my solicitor, GPs they are all human they are not above the law they make mistakes, but some are on a power trip.

[@Nayr747]

I can't wait for AI to take over healthcare. Most doctors just aren't up to the task.

[@Nayr747]

I can't wait for AI to take over healthcare.

[@Nayr747]

Most doctors just aren't up to the task.

[@cyborggoat8392]

“What is the differential diagnosis?” That’s the best question to ask. They have to take note of all the diagnoses they think make sense. It holds them accountable

[@sharoncontini3284]

The next question is what is your plan.

[@VampFaye]

And with some luck, you'll get a "Dr House" who won't stop looking until they get it exactly right.

[@Amanda_MMA]

Yea i live in Louisville KY and there is actual video from the local news doing a investigation piece where they were rolling patients (with no insurance) out of the ER in their gowns in 30° weather, with 1 member of security. They would cross the street and quite literally dump them on the sidewalk. One woman in her 80s was laying on the concrete facedown for 12 hours. The security guard went back and put a blanket over her because she didnt have pants on. The news bisted them in the act. Many people died and nothing has been done. Its actually one of the most terrifying things ive ever witnessed. Its illegal to "patient dump" - meaning a law had to be passed to stop hospitals from rolling ederly people out in no condition to be alone much less dumped in the winter on the street (1 woman couldnt walk) because so many of them did this. And still do.

[@-KMA-]

They do this to the homeless a lot.

[@thatcreepyxmastreeinyourat8950]

This happens all over the country (and world, I'm sure). It's definitely one of the darker sides of capitalism where profit comes before human life😢

[@thatcreepyxmastreeinyourat8950]

​@-KMA- Yup. They do it where I live, too. There's a terrifying video of a hospital discharging an elderly woman to the point the police were called. She begged for help and was gasping like a fish as the cops made fun of her. She died on the way to the jail. At one point a doctor came out on the sidewalk and said she was "faking". She wasn't even from that state, she was visiting a relative.

[@Kisha_Zuri]

That's disgusting.

[@SawakoKuronuma2]

This is horrifying and disgusting! How do that many people have no empathy, that they LET it happen?! I hate this planet

[@lala1004u]

I made 3 trips to ER in 1 wk because my daughters needs were ignored & kept discharging her, i went to different hospital & she was hospitalized for 5 days, i spent all my energy caring for her & fighting & begging the drs to do something & help her....our healthcare system is broken on so many levels. If u cant advocate for yourself i hope u have someone too advocate for u

[@AlyssaADUB1D]

Preach 🙏🏽❤️

[@jmparsons7331]

Ask for "Risk Management " if this type of issue ever happens again. The hospital will step up their protocol immediately I promise. Retired RN,28yrs Neurology.

[@factbasedreality]

@@jmparsons7331thank you for dedicating your life to the care of others ❤️ I’m curious, what does asking for risk management do and can they deny you if you request it?

[@amcall]

Yes. They cannot legally deny a request for transfer! I have had to do this for my disabled daughter. Shout out to the ambulance dispatcher who told me this!!!! ❤

[@annieann99]

They absolutely can refuse to transfer due to EMTALA law. The facility has to have services the current hospital doesn’t have like specialists or a higher level of care like ICU and cardiac cath lab, neurologist etc. if they are the same level no transfer. Get in your car and drive there yourself.

[@crystald3655]

Yes they can. They deny transfers all the time in my area.

[@amcall]

@crystald3655 What state is this? I'm in NY where they're required to transfer as long as the patient has been evaluated and is stable. I'm so incredibly thankful. What a shame that I didn't know this years ago. My local hospital isn't equipped but that's the ambulances first stop (no choice). After an eval with no answers, transfer please. Off she goes to get help. ❤️

[@annieann99]

@@amcall I’m a NY ER nurse. I see people demand transfers all the time- they don’t get them unless it’s a higher level of care. Or if they get their doctor to direct admit at the other facility and they pay the transfer fees because it’s an elective transfer. Wants over needs criteria.

[@amcall]

@annieann99 I see. So my daughter could be an acception. I could see some people just being irrational and demanding things that aren't necessary. I know it's not legal to "dump" on another hospital without cause. My daughter is nonverbal, and unfortunately very tricky. The hospital staff did tell me that they can transfer her anywhere that her doctor thinks is necesary. They were willing to take her 3 hours away to an excellent Children's Hospital where her doctor is the head of ortho, but I did decide she could go to the closest one which was 1.5 hours away and that ended up being just fine. With everything being able to be shared so easily, her doctor was still able to monitor her. She has the most caring doctor! It's just too bad that we are in such a rural place.

[@Kay-ve7on]

I still remember heading to the ER, no one was there but me. The doctor barely look at me, don't even listen to my breathing or concerns and sent me on my way, telling me to get over the counter medicine for pain. I returned 2 hours later and same thing happen, was told that it's all in my head. An hour later I went to a different ER and they rushed me into the rooms, got me hook up to all these machines. I was hospitalized for a week, almost died 😅 moral of the story is, always always seek a second opinion from different hospitals

[@Trinity25Apr]

For 18 years I begged to be tested for a brca mutation ( in England UK) after my sister passed from Breast cancer. They fobbed me off because it's an expensive test. A malignamt tumour was found in my left breast,flagged by a CT scan for another condition, I had a lumpectomy as the Oncologist said a mastectomy wasn't necessary, I asked again about being tested for the brca mutation and this time I was given a kit for a saliva test as the royal marsden hospital were running a genetic test. Here I am today waiting for a double mastectomy and hysterectomy as I have the genetic mutation I have been telling them about for 18 years. Never be fobbed off by your reassuring Dr. They do not know everything and will label you a hypochondriac if you are persistant. I have so much more I could tell. Be a thorn in their sides until you get the right diagnosis. I wish this dear lady well.

[@deborahosborne9426]

I agree, because medicine is developing incredibly fast. Doctors have to learn techniques. Labs have to develop and rapidly adapt as more of genetics comes to light. So does the specialist equipment. The procedure you've had, has only become routine as the casual and effect, are now known. It was a very controversial op when Angelina Jolie had it.

[@keylacmckemp1309]

I'm not downplaying your situation as you should have been listened to immediately. I have had numerous aunts and cousins who died from breast cancer and an aunt living with it. I have had a lumpectomy as my breasts are extremely lumpy and can get swollen. I have been tested for the gene twice, and it's negative. I've had a bilateral mastectomy, and my surgeon said during the removal they saw something that would have required a later surgery. My point was I am negative for the gene but knew to advocate for my health. With or without the test, we need to be on top of our needs. All the best of success.

[@tommiegirl2441]

Wishing you all the best. Love, light and blessings. ❤

[@tarasmith102]

Best wishes to you as well dear lady. You are so right like all these other ppl in comments. Hospitals ( ER's ) want to hurry up & get u out ,some Dr's act like you are not the Dr. So stop worrying for nothing. I too have been yelled at. Been to ER 5 xs in the past 12 months for chest pain ,sinus headache ,pain in back & pain ,all left side. Other than an antibiotic that didn't work I'm sent home. I'm going back after I talk to administration & ask for risk assessment. I'm in Canada for the record. Appreciate this video & all the comments. Peace &' good health to all.

[@aprilzarychta1912]

In grad school, I woke up with pain shooting from my neck down my arm and into my fingers. I could have traced it with a marker. Went to the student health center and doctor said it was my gallbladder and that she wanted to schedule an ultrasound and eventually get it surgically removed. I thought this was a bit drastic, so I asked for a second opinion. After a simple test of strength in my arms, the other doctor figured it was a pinched nerve in my neck. Anti-inflammatory and muscle relaxers dealt with it, and I can't carry a heavy bag anymore, but I still have my gallbladder. Always advocate for yourself. If you think that they atill won't listen, bring a friend who they will listen to.

[@pehamelin]

Go see a chiropractor.

[@theshadowfax239]

Arm pain is actually a common sign for gallbladder problems, and they would never remove your gallbladder if the ultrasound showed that it was healthy. Why do you think they wanted the ultrasound in the first place? You don't seem to know what you're talking about.

[@aprilzarychta1912]

@@theshadowfax239 I know that gallbladder pain does sometimes translate up to the shoulder and into the arm. However, there was no other course or cause considered, which is why I asked for a second opinion. Especially when the pain didn't radiate. It was able to be traced all the way to my finger in a line that was not generalized. Almost as if it were a specific nerve that was being affected instead of generalized pain translated from another area. I have learned about and found solutions for my condition from other doctors who were willing to listen to my symptoms, rather than someone who wouldn't. This is why you ask questions. There is very often more than one reason for pain, and there are also often methods of diagnosis that don't involve putting broke grad students without insurance into debt. THAT is why I advocated for myself, and why I will ask that you inquire about more information in the future instead of telling people they don't know what they're talking about.

[@rachealborders]

I had my gallbladder removed after two horrific attacks. The first I was 32 weeks pregnant, so they just have me a shot in the booty of morphine because they weren't going to operate unless it was a life or death situation. Both times it felt like my intestines were twisted up and were going to literally explode and a stabbing, burning pain between my shoulder blades. It felt literally like I was going to poo myself to death, like I urgently needed the bathroom but nothing would happen. I was hyperventilating and couldn't think at all from the pain and was shaking and screaming. I have a pretty high pain tolerance. It was worse than when I got swarmed by yellowjackets.

[@aprilzarychta1912]

@rachealborders Oh my goodness. I'm very sorry that happened. I'm glad you got it resolved finally after another attack. It sounds absolutely horrible. My pain wasn't anything like that. Not sure about how common your other symptoms (the need to go and not being able to) are for gallbladder issues, but if they are, it's definitely another diagnostic tool.

[@Summerbabe08080]

Dr. Youn, you are so kind and compassionate. How a doctor should be!

[@gracietilert8952]

That is AWFUL care given by that ER. I really hope she was able to finally receive the care she needed.

[@harrietxo2310]

She was by another place I think! X

[@KyliazRoyale]

VERY TRUE! You MUST advocate for yourself in hospitals. I had a stroke at 25. Earlier that day, the doctors came in and said everything was getting better with my blood work, (I was there because basic things like walking a few steps would exhaust me and my oxygen would drop to 80s or 70s). I had gotten to 87 so they wanted to discharge me. I had been feeling uncomfortable for an hour or 2 at that point and was trying to figure out why because I'm very in tune with my body. I've learned and am the expert on ME. So, I told the doctors I dont feel right. Idk what it is, but SOMETHING is wrong. I'm not comfortable leaving yet. The doctors said okay we'll give it an hour and if you're able to walk down the hall no problem or maintain 90s or upper 80s you should be okay. 30min later my nurse came to walk the halls with me. We got about 8 steps from my door, and my left leg felt like 1000lbs. She called for someone to get a wheelchair and wheeled me back to my room. When I got there I couldn't stand because I couldnt move my left side from the waist down, then my arm began flopping like a fish which I'd had a weird feeling like that before but this was different. They put me in bed, and the next thing I remember is waking up in ICU. I'd had a stroke, MRIs, all kinds of tests. 2-3 weeks later I saw the original doctors again who tried sending me home and they say to me "OMG, I'm glad you're okay, I heard you had a stroke an hour after we spoke. Good thing you advocated for yourself and spoke up about not feeling well, Good job!" I said yea, I could have died or killed other people because I would have been driving home on the busiest HWY in Minneapolis and would have had a stroke behind the wheel."

[@Tomtaylor7337]

It happens more often than you think…. My granddaughter was born with lactose intolerant syndrome and she was bleeding for 4 months and no one could help… we finally decided to see a doctor in a different state and got the results … She is now doing well…

[@Sojournerofhope]

@@Tomtaylor7337 presently the state of healthcare in the US. People just aren’t listening. It’s very frustrating to be a patient, have family who are sick or like myself a health care professional and witness such poor care

[@skierprincessakify]

There’s no diagnosis called lactose intolerant syndrome.

[@arifrankenstein1766]

That's crazy negligent. when my son had bloody stool the first thing they suggested was cut out all dairy from my diet and bc I supplemented, to switch to soy formula.

[@breannamacatee5878]

My dad experience this last year. He started not feeling right, his heart raise was going really fast, even while resting, his breathing was heavy, he started to pass out/black out when he would try to move around. This continued to happen everyday and seemed to keep getting worse so he went to the hospital. The doctor there pretty much told him he was fine and that he should go home. He questioned the doctor but they told him he had to go because there was nothing wrong with him. He then went 2 days later insisting they needed to at least run some tests because something was wrong, whether it was an easy fix or something more serious he just needed them to try to figure out what was going on because he couldn’t function properly because of whatever was going on. They ran tests and again insisted that everything was fine and that he was extremely healthy. After the doctor left the room, after telling my dad to go home again, my dad stood up from the bed and almost passed out. The nurse had to hold him up and bring him back to the bed. She seemed like she felt really bad but also seemed to believe the doctor wasn’t going to listen, even to her witnessing him nearly collapse on his face. She asked him to stay so she could at least get him something to drink and eat before leaving. He then went to a different hospital where they said something was off in his bloodwork and sent him to a specialist. That specialist helped him and even told him that the doctor at the previous hospital flagged my dad as “pill seeking”. He wasn’t even in pain and never asked to receive any type of medication at all, the only thing he asked for was for them to at least run some tests.

[@marleangreene6117]

What did they find out was wrong with him ?

[@breannamacatee5878]

@ The doctor that actually helped him figured out that he had started to have a severe panic disorder and a concussion from one of the times that he ended up passing out.

[@torriwilliams2777]

You have 2 years to sue the doctor, he has insurance and the hospital is liable. You have the nurses testimony...

[@torriwilliams2777]

Depending on where you live.

[@emmy_okaye]

I have a chronic illness. PREACH that you need to be your own advocate. Its so frustaring that providers do not have compassion or the attitude to heal patients the best way they can. Thank you for saying this.

[@jackieraulerson2005]

A 2nd opinion literally saved my life. Was misdiagnosed for 8 months while a tumor was growing in my head.

[@brittanyg8233]

How scary..but good for you for seeking that second opinion. Hope you're doing well. 💜

[@Tlittau3944]

I completely understand that fear/frustration… I was finally diagnosed with kidney cancer after many trips to the ER & my Dr. they ran every test EXCEPT THE CHEAPEST/EASIEST test with finally got my diagnosis. I was sent home repeatedly and I’d refuse pain meds because I felt that’s why they thought I was there. This was several years ago and I am doing much better now. I hope you are doing better and well on your way to recovery ❤

[@AnonymousanonymousA]

sometimes doctors do not disagree with the main opinion

[@lhr8833]

I went like that for 6 years, my body deteriorating by the day, developing so many chronic conditions, but my tumor was “asymptomatic”. When it started affecting the eyes, I went to an eye doctor that does deeper analysis and he was the one that with certainty told me “this is coming from the brain”. Then I found out there was a research for my type of tumor in my own state. I was already leaking csf, that eye doctor saved my life. Is exhausting, but I always tell people if the response is not satisfying, and the treatment doesn’t seem to be fixing the issue, keep looking for opinions. Is hard with the cost, I understand that, but sometimes one little thing could be the cause of the whole body deterioration.

[@lhr8833]

@@AnonymousanonymousA That was my case, for 6 years, until one doctor agreed with me when my body was barely functional. I never stopped looking for. I admit is exhausting, but sometimes we know our bodies better than anybody else.

[@sunvibestarot]

Please!!! Can we get an update on this poor girl???? WTF kind of doctor is she seeing??? This is crazy horrific treatment!

[@VintageRed411]

It probably wasn't a physician but a mid-level.

[@shinglara]

@@VintageRed411 laypeople dont know what a midlevel is. you must specify what it is. midlevel doctor ?

[@SanctaJives]

Based on how closed her eyes are, I don't think she was seeing anyone. 😅

[@lbec9487]

@@shinglaraa mid level is a nurse practicioner (FNP) or physician’s assistant (PA). I worked in a hospital from 2001 to 2024 and at the beginning saw one mid level in the whole hospital (in the minor care area of the ER). All the other providers were doctors. When I left, even the highest levels of critical care, like the ICU, were being run by physician assistants and nurse practitioners. They’re replacing doctors everywhere with them because they have much less education and training and are cheaper.

[@jamaya730]

@@shinglara It's my understanding that a midlevel doctor has an office on the 2nd floor of a 3 story building.🧐

[@adhc8560]

A friend of mine visited several doctors complaining of severe abdominal pain. She was told nothing was wrong and gave her tranquilizers, assuming it was all in her head. Finally one night the pain was so bad she called an ambulance and at the hospital, it was discovered she had a baseball-sized tumour in her uterus. Luckily it was contained and she survived after the removal.

[@eatwhatukiii2532]

Same situation happened to me only the tumor was softball sized and on my ovary. (I'd complauned about horrific pains even between periods ever since puberty but was always told I had a low pain threshhold and was always given the newest pain meds. None of them worked. Decades later when they discovered the cause (FINALLY they ordered an ultrasound) the surgeon said it contained teeth, and hair 3 ft long. He said "that thing has been growing probably since you hit puberty". And all that time NOBODY listened! It cost me that ovary.

[@skierprincessakify]

Lol they did not give her tranquilizers 😂😂😂 That’s seriously the dumbest claim I’ve heard.

[@aussiejewels]

​​That is NOT "dumb"!... They do give tranquilizing meds if one's anxiety is through the roof to calm down!..I am guessing you have never experienced acute anxiety or a panic attack...:-)

[@aprilblankenship5496]

My husband was FINALLY diagnosed with Gigantism/Acromegaly after 6 years of near weekly e.r. visits. Every time they would just say it was a migraine and send him away. I begged them to admit him over and over so at least he could get better tests done to no avail. Iam thankful i never gave up in dragging him to see all those doctors because a wonderful physician assistant who took the time to just LOOK at my husband's hands, size 17 ring finger, and listen to us to finally admit him. 2 days later he had brain surgery to remove a tumor on his pituitary gland. Never stop fighting for the answers you need.

[@theshadowfax239]

It's not the ERs job to diagnose obscure medical illnesses that aren't a medical emergency, that's your general practitioner's job. Did you bring up the concerns with your husband's regular doctor?

[@bri5155]

@@theshadowfax239 It’s not their job, it’s true. It is their job to admit someone when they’re in the ER every single week and clearly have something going on with them. Have you ever seen someone with that condition?? It’s clear they need a scan to check for it. 90% of ER doctors are lazy and lack empathy. They automatically assume that everyone there is just a drug seeker, and refuse to look further. They should be doing something else if they don’t want to actually take care of people.

[@aprilblankenship5496]

@theshadowfax239 I also agree with your statement. But when your husband is driving for work, goes partially blind and screams in agony too many times you would have taken him to the ends of the earth to make it stop. 5 primary docs, 16 specialists: ent, neuro, endocrine and many more. I have nothing but love for hospitals and the amazing people who keep us alive and well during the worst times. Like I said a most wonderful P. A. And staff treated my husband so well and once he was diagnosed it all got moving and they helped him tremendously!!! No shade to health professionals just a point to not stop advocating for yourself.

[@tommiegirl2441]

​@aprilblankenship5496 Yeah... this is less on the ER and more on the other docs. How did endocrinology miss that diagnosis?? Good on you for never backing down! I couldn't agree more - you have to advocate for yourself and your loved ones, no matter what it takes. Well done!

[@Nikki-zg5sx]

The emergency room can be a waste of money and time. Definitely advocate for yourself.

[@twistedara]

I wish I would of advocated for my aunt. She passed away in the hospital's care. 2 weeks in intensive care and not one hour out of intensive care and on a different floor she passed away. I was there. I should have advocated for her and told them to put her back in intensive care. I spoke with the doctors and the nurses. The doctor saw her right before she passed away and didn't even move her.

[@Angie-ux3xr]

I’m so sorry for your loss, and for your experience there! I hope you’re not blaming yourself, though ❤

[@twistedara]

@@Angie-ux3xr thank you very much for your kind words. 🫶🏻 It's hard. I did blame myself for a while only because I was there at the hospital the whole time and I didn't do something. I'm a realist and I finally accepted reality. I finally don't blame myself anymore.

[@skierprincessakify]

If she was moved out of the ICU it was likely that she was terminal and there was nothing more that could be done to treat her.

[@JoiDanielle]

It took three PCP visits, two to the ER, and seeing FIVE different surgeons until I finally got diagnosed correctly. I refused to give up! I finally got an MRI and the fifth surgeon (the one who diagnosed me correctly) had me scheduled for surgery in a couple weeks. Been in constant pain for months. I hope this lady got the answers and treatment she needed!

[@sarahrivers9623]

My mother almost died because of negligent medical care. She had a severe throat infection that was closing off her airway and they said it was the flu and that she would be fine to work. Thank God she is a stubborn woman, saved her life. She ended going to another hospital

[@cherrybomb6451]

I went to doctors at 42 telling them I was sick and weak I was getting aniexty and dizzy I never had my whole life . Aniexty so bad it gave me ptsd to this day . There are worse things then death. They sent me to 8 months of different specialist over and over finding nothing .my doctor then yelled at me told me nothing was wrong with me I just needed mental health get out of his office !!! and by this point they had me on a slew of mental drugs . I pushed on to a new doctor a female doctor found out I had uterus cancer 1 week later thank God I survived by little sister 2 years later died of same uterus cancer I beat . I literally could have died and was drugged and treated like I was crazy . It's been over 10 years now I'm healthy I still suffer from slight aniexty and ptsd but it's taught me the medical community isn't always correct be stubborn if you think something is wrong. My symptoms dissappeared mostly after radical hysterectomy

[@readsalot2010]

Please tell me you sued

[@tayloranderson8981]

It is SO common for women to be gaslight by doctors especially male doctors. I'm so sorry. I once listened to a girl talk about how she ate a meal given to her on a plane that she was allergic too and didn't know because there wasn't a food label. She said she felt a sense of doom after eating it and then started to develop severe allergy symptoms. She used an epipen. AND one OBGYN that I follow said that if a patient tells her she "has a bad feeling" or "feels like something is wrong" it scares her because the patient is always right. Your body KNOWS when something is off and your mind can pick up on it IF you're paying attention.

[@erinn5842]

​@tayloranderson8981 yup. Here in Scotland, my experience is that women don't matter. I've had to verbally fight for myself every time. I'm developing cysts all over my body. They don't know why. But don't do any tests. One is next to my spine and causing a lot of pain. The male doc said he couldn't feel it, it is just a muscle cramp and sent me to physio. I went to pharmacy. Female pharmacist felt it and said, see another doc asap. Did. Because the previous doc said it was nothing- just muscular cramps, she ignored me. I went to physio to show I'm not being "difficult ". She said my movements are fine and my pain is psychological. I went to a 3rd doc. She admitted she could feel it, but didn't want to contradict the first doc, so said it was both. Finally an ultrasound referral was done, stating that they most likely will decline to see me as they will likely think it's not serious. They called me in after 1 week for an immediate scan. What did they find? I have 5 cysts along my spine.

[@AllTheButtons87]

Don't just let that go. That other doctor needs to be held accountable in some way. Think about the rest of his patients.

[@danarzechula3769]

​@@erinn5842so ridiculous stories like this just infuriate me!!

[@PatriciaRees-d3n]

My dad had fallen and fell hard on his hip and was in a lot of pain and even cried. My dad never showed when he was in pain or ever cried, so I knew something was wrong. When he got to the ER the doctor said the xray came back fine and was going to send him home. I told the doctor that there’s something wrong and I thought he broke his hip. He said we did the X-ray and he is fine. I told him to give him a CT scan or MRI. He said he didn’t need that. I yelled at him and said it’s our insurance and we are paying for it so just do it! Reluctantly he did. Turns out, my dad fractured his hip. Glad I pushed for the scans. Doctors are majority of the times amazing, but you still should advocate for yourself and family if you think something is wrong.

[@wandajazz1061]

That the best advice he has ever said. Advocate for yourself or others.

[@googleuser2480]

My infant was enrolled in toddlers and infant program at 2 months of age and the staff there kept brushing off my concerns as being completely normal and nothing to be concerned about. I put my concerns out of my mind for a while, especially because people kept giving me the "you're a new mom" talk and making me feel like it's normal to feel your newborn is off. A couple months later, I decided to ignore everyone and drove to a specialty children's hospital. My concerns were finally validated and my little one started receiving care. Fast forward a year, my baby has 3 pediatric specialists and 7 therapist. It's so important to advocate for yourself and your family, because sometimes the system will fail you and you will need to be your own fail safe.

[@kaylahall1219]

Was this a medical, or day care program? Teachers are not dictors

[@jentealwaves]

I am SO FED UP with our healthcare system!!! I won't even get started on my horror story that has been ongoing for over 16 years, but just imagine the worst possible scenario of being treated so poorly that you basically give up on doctors, hospitals, etc. And they wonder why there's an opioid epidemic happening...

[@heathergerbyshak4078]

A friend was being ducked around by ER after a human bite got infected. We were actually not talking at the time, but he called me at work. I went home, got into corporate drag, and went to the ER and threw a fit. Finally he got a treatment he could keep down. I think trans gendered and poor people get pretty bad treatment sometimes in the ER.

[@czflute94]

Good for you for helping your friend!

[@heathergerbyshak4078]

Thanks. My point is, be a pain in the ass if you are not getting helped. Drs assume a lot is anxiety or complaining. But it’s not. If you have an infection or bad injury or facial/ throat swelling, IT NEEDS TREATMENT. Be cool and calm but ALSO be stubborn and bring family (or a man) in with you.

[@seigedrakonera5689]

I have a chronic illness and yeah, you have to be your own advocate. I know I would have died if not for my mom and fiancee being there with me every medical crash. I have had to fire a nurse and requested another doctor a few times over the 28 years. Because for some reason the nurse I got said I was just "drug seeking" an actually told me to wait in the waiting room after the first assessment, telling me I "just having a cold an gass". It took 8 more hours waiting, me then started vomiting non stop and the next shift before I found out how dirty that nurse did me. Wasn't till way later we found out they didn't even know I was still there and in paperwork the evil nurse claimed I had just left for no reason after not getting my way. We tried to sue but magically nobody could find who was treating me that night. Never go to Hemet Hospital unless you want to die. If it wasn't for my mom pitching a fit and the new shift nurse/doctor sending me off to a better bigger hospital that they found I had not only scepsis but my gallbladder was about to explode. My doctor said if I had gone home that night I would have died. 100% So if at all possible go in with an advocate, especially if you have rare medical conditions like me. Over the years I have found you get better treatment an it's harder to lie to two people (one with a clear mind) than one in a foggy mindset. And get hard copies of EVERYTHING medical, it can an has saved my butt many times from evil medical staff and doctors tend to take you seriously when you have documentation showing you are researching what's wrong an they can read it over saveing you unnecessary readings and tests an make things go faster.

[@NikkiAlex-b3v]

Seriously I dont see why the doctor sent her away. It looks like allergies but what if it was an infection and she could end up losing her sight or something (I hope not). I also pray she got the help she needed from another doctor 🙏🏾

[@RR-us1lt]

Doctors will send you away if you're not an easy fix aka they dont know whats wrong with you but youre also not critically ill. They want you to be someone else's problem.

[@theshadowfax239]

​@@RR-us1lt It's not that they want you to be somebody else's. Problem, is that ER doctors aren't specialists in every aspect of medical care. They're there to stabilize you and make sure you're not going to die in the very near future and then you need to get real treatment.

[@mandib8772]

Her teeth was infected.

[@breez706]

If this is an allergy it's obviously severe

[@firegodessreiko]

Then she needs a specialist. Not the ER. That's not what the ER is for and that's why they can't help her. While you 'advocate' for yourself, please make sure you're going to the right place. Not all doctors know all things, nor are all facilities equipped to help you with every situation.

[@annegreenwood3624]

I had this happen my friend and I got tired of the dr joking saying you must be use to this I have bowel disease and hadn’t gone in 20 days so through a storm we went to another hospital when I requested the er report that dr wrote this patient claims she has tried everything in the world,refused care😮now I speak up even if its to the head of the hospital this poor woman can’t even imagine her pain

[@2wise4u2]

My husband had heart surgery and while in the hospital room, he called to ask for pain meds, an hour went by with no meds, so I walked to the nurses station and one of them told me they accidentally discharged him so I called the hospital administrator and the nurse was in the room within 10 minutes with his meds. Always advocate for yourself and your loved ones and don’t be afraid to seek a second opinion.

[@kazetarot]

As a patient in finland you have the right to record the meeting’s with any professional without their consent. if where you live if possible, do so, and if they refuse to give you treatment… playback the recording to them on your way out. ❤

[@brianna094]

Here in the US it's legal too. I record my doctor's visits if I don't like how it's going. I live in NY, not sure about the other states but I recommend always recording if you're ever unsure about the care you're receiving. ❤

[@lesslie1976]

Thank you for this... I will do so

[@hayden8140]

The exact thing happened to me but on only one eye. went to urgent care, hospital 3 times, and then finally was able to go to the eye doctor. the hospital only offered me toridol but the eye doctor immediately sent me into emergency surgery and gave me strong pain meds because they knew how bad the pain was

[@Mar-velousMarlenak8]

Something that I have said for years, just because somebody is a doctor or some other kind of professional doesn't mean, they are good at what they do. They could have graduated first in their class or last

[@Sojournerofhope]

@@Mar-velousMarlenak8 many chose to be in healthcare but it is my belief that it is a calling. Arrogancy, negligence, and greed are the driving force for the quality of healthcare that is often received within this country.

[@IfJesusisForMe]

Many dont pass either. They are passed through by connections.

[@IfJesusisForMe]

Jesus!

[@skyeblue5134]

I went to the ER once with heart palpitations (120BPM) and they just monitored me and told me to quit caffeine and sent me home an hour later. Went to my PA next day, he looked up my nasal and goes oh it’s swollen shut. Gave me an antihistamine and boom better.

[@indianajonesprincessleia]

Makes me wonder if I should have gone to the ER when it happened to me. I went to urgent care instead, because I wasn’t having shortness of breath or feeling faint or any other symptoms of a heart attack or possibly afib. It took them forever to hook me up to an ekg monitor. By the time they did, it had subsided. The doctor said that it was probably indigestion or heartburn and prescribed me medication for THAT. I know what I know. Heartburn or indigestion doesn’t make your heart stop and restart. Needless to say, we don’t have smart doctors in my area.

[@nicolew6904]

​@indianajonesprincessleia my EKG was normal. They seriously asked what else did I want them to do. Ummmm....their damn jobs! Sky high blood pressure, shaky and clammy. I later received a survey by email. I did not hold back!

[@wiktoriagwozdowska5484]

@Skyeblue5134 you mean your nose was swollen inside ? I have rhinitis very possibly allergic rhinitis and its swollen that i barley have any space to breathe its like all the time for last 3/4yrs and i think its because my house is so freaking dusty and have dust mites . So many times i had situations where i walked up stairs and my heart get racing and my lungs force me to take more air which feels abs horrible especially that i have to slow down my breath and it just feels like im suffocating myself bc if i try to breathe in like i feel need too i will just gasp for air quicker and quicker . bc of that im pretty sure i get too many ear/sinus infections every yr as i believe it stops my nose from natural drainage and everything just gets stuck there and creating infections for last month ive been dealing with another sinus/ear infc, and it sucks especially ear pain .

[@danicaersland3686]

Wait, can allergies cause heart palpitations? You might have just solved a lifelong mystery for me.

[@mazzymae1009]

This makes me so incredibly grateful for the really fantastic care I have received from the Dr's and nurses at my local ER. My last two visits, one during the peak of covid and one more recently, I was really well cared for, esp by my nurse. She was legitimately excited that she was able to stop my pain and I could then rest. She even brought me a warm blanket. I didn't even know they had warmed blankets!

[@callspreadzero854]

Arguably the most important piece of healthcare advice. Listen to yourself. Only you have lived in your body and you know when something isn’t right. When my appendix was getting ready to rupture, I was constantly uncomfortable and in pain. I was told to go to the bathroom. Luckily I listened to myself and told them I’ve been sh***ing for 28 years and this isn’t that… Now I’m One body part lighter….

[@Mooky1300]

In the ICU with my ex husband, the specialist said the only thing was a bolus dose of steroids. The doctor nearly exploded when I sternly said "No! He's not ever having steroids again. They caused avascular necrosis in him 20 years ago. Two hip replacements and two of the three bones in his ankle fused, he told me never again!". That day I stood the ground for my ex. I was only there so our son could see his dad" it was covid and I just fought security to get into the hospital as a guardian for my 10 year old. ". Later my ex said thank you for standing my ground. Once I explained why to the doctor I saw a glimpse of relief that I had spoken out. Firm not rude and explain why in a rational and factual manner so they can hear what you say.

[@MimiDoubleOH3]

The fact that in the USA you have to FIGHT for your RIGHT to healthcare is actually infuriating and heartbreaking. Especially since you're PAYING exorbitant amounts of money for it. Sending love from Greece, Europe

[@Sojournerofhope]

@@MimiDoubleOH3 the value and cost of healthcare in the US does not align.at times I have said that we have become no better than mere cattle being moved along in all arenas of healthcare and this is driven by the insurance companies who push us to see more and more patients with poor quality of care. Perhaps some of us should actually consider medical tourism to address our healthcare needs and the increasing medical costs we face.

[@squarebear619]

It happens in other countries. I read a lot of stories about the NHS, and there's a lot of horror stories like this and worse. There's racism, classism, and sexism in care all around the world.

[@NorseButterfly]

The hospital ER system in America isn't designed for women's health concerns. I've been literally laughed at while having cellulitis on my hand from a biopsy, I've been told to go home and take Tylenol for abdominal pain so bad I couldn't move. The only way I'll go back to an ER is if I'm unconscious, bleeding profusely from a wound, or a bone is visible and protruding. Medical ptsd is real and there's no advocating for yourself at an ER.

[@theshadowfax239]

Those seem like pretty legit reasons to go to the ER, and your regular doctor can take care of your other issues. So it sounds like you actually figured out a good strategy.

[@callycharles2515]

That poor girl, I hope she can find someone to help her. Maybe a qualified person will see her plea. Doctors always want to put me on prescriptions that I can't take because I only have one kidney. Being an advocate for yourself and your family is unfortunately extremely important; it could save your life. Thank you, Dr. Youn for talking about this.

[@bswogger4656]

Allergies. My eyes swell shut 30 years ago after surgery & many times since. Use to get allergy shots, Cigna cause several body systems to not function correctly with drugs that should not be prescribed together or with causation. It is hard to get to the bottom but documented every cream, soap, food in diary can help narrow it down specially since todays doctors seem unprepared.

[@10000_depth_worm]

My grandmother had beef allergy and she looked like this. Her face swelled mildly but her eyes would swell shut.

[@TheAngelofnv]

Could also be Lupus.

[@user-ce8tr1ex2m]

This is awful & irresponsible on the ER part. Poor woman. There’re absolutely tests that they can perform. Get help from a different place first then sue these mf’ers.

[@callycharles2515]

I agree with you but because so many people sue, it raises all of our prices for care. I would go to higher ups in the hospital; someone mentioned risk management as well as the hospital administrator. They got the care they needed immediately.

[@czflute94]

I was in the ER and emailed the hospital administrator, who then came down to the ER to mitigate the problem. I was angry and finally got the help I needed.

[@SheilaAndersen-y4u]

Oh gosh, I was sent away from hospital and by the time I made it back home barley got in the door they had found something and I immediately need3d to come back. The first time they looked at my mri they told me nothing was wrong then they looked at it twice and it saved my life. Next time I won't leave until I'm heard.

[@rainingonyourcharade]

It’s really unfortunate that not all healthcare coverage allows people to seek second opinions, at least not in a timely or urgent matter. I wish we had more Dr. Youns in the world!

[@Mina-V.]

Best advice ever! You won’t hear that often, especially from a Doctor but it’s precious advice. Stay on top of the hospital if you have a loved one (elderly especially) receiving care. Your advocacy and insistence of care can mean the difference between their life and death (hospital experience for my dad was horrible but I became a full time advocate as did my family and he pulled through a nightmare scenario). Ask to speak to the patient advocates at the hospital too. Often times they’re there to help get things done or mediate through problems. No one will care for your loved ones like you do.. or for you.. don’t give up, if you’re a patient, keep an account of everything (receipts for meals, names of every nurse, every resident doctor making rounds/treating, every doctor assigned to your care etc.) Be informed and if you’re the patient, get a friend if you have no family, legally assigned to oversee your wishes/rights. If medicated, someone needs to know what you wish to do and speak for you. Can and can’t do’s, needs and must nots! Advocacy is truly important.. thanks Doc ❤🙏🏻

[@vaishalisoni6293]

Every other day I read or see about how hospitals/doctors in USA do not care to treat or even listen to their patients, just making me truly grateful for being an Indian and living in india. Not only will doctors patiently listen to you, but you will also get excellent treatment. Every scans, blood tests are done in literally so many places, with great discounts too. Never ever a doctor will brush off a patient. NEVER.

[@jessieh9127]

I'm so glad you have great healthcare. I'm in the US and after 30 years I'm still fighting to be heard and diagnosed.

[@deonhattingh3868]

I saw probably 10 doctors before my fainting spells could resolve. Everyone said it was just anxiety. And it got worse, I kept telling them that it is not anxiety. Turns out it was sleep apnea. I fainted every day, but since I started sleeping with the CPAP machine, I haven't fainted, ONCE!

[@buckeyehockey1979]

Ummmmm..............what crappy backwoods ER is she going to that they think pain meds will fix what looks like a serious infection

[@Mark-j1e8o]

True true facts preach it 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@westie430]

Or an allergy

[@vc663]

The E.R. in my community often tell patients "maybe it is anxiety". Then they give ativan and send you home.

[@aqhasassy]

I am blessed, N E Ga, I’m 73 & have the best Drs & hospital- I’ve had several internist & now the best in the land, she’s a fighter for me! But sadly all are not the same!! A change In the *last 4 yrs* it’s all about money!! Especially w the big conglomerates!!!

[@LittlelauraMJ]

I’m so thankful for my mom/twin sister. My mom has always been able to advocate for me. I just learned that she kinda talks things through with my twin sister (both are RNs). I was completely incapable of doing it myself the last 2x I was in the hospital. So I def recommend having someone to advocate for u when needed

[@Crafty.Goth.Creations]

I wish I was in a state to advocate for myself at the birth center when I had my daughter. They made so many mistakes, I almost died, and I still have PTSD from the experience. I love my husband, but he wasn't much help. He's not good under pressure. I wish I had hired a doula.

[@Mel-vp7fk]

I've got health problems and no family to advocate or help me fight my battle. It's EXHAUSTING having to constantly fight doctors when you need actual help and get nowhere.

[@kosmickobb8570]

If I hadn't have gotten second opinion my daughter would be paralyzed or dead. I'm so grateful for the doctor that listened to me

[@glowmerge3687]

You are absolutely right Dr. Youn. I teach my patients to be their own advocate.

[@erinmitchel6798]

Yes, advocate for yourself for sure. But what's happened with this lady? Where can we follow up on her? 😢

[@AC-ni4gt]

I had to become my own self-advocate when I got old enough. It was frustrating. I had to be so adamant that it left me exhausted more than I care to count.

[@irmatorres5306]

The emergency room is not the place to get long term treatment or resolution for an ongoing medical condition. That is what a primary physician is supposed to deal with and that includes referrals and second opinions. That is why the ER staff ALWAYS tells patients to follow up with your primary physician. The ER can only treat the immediate problem or symptoms. Resolving medical problems takes Testing and diagnosis And proper treatment and diagnosis takes consistency and proper care.

[@ghostdemon7936]

Medical professionals who neglect patients like this are a liability. What if a patient who is unwell is inable tonadvocare wel for themselves and also doesn't have a support network of family and/or friends?

[@drprog6898]

Watching the complicated & expensive healthcare system of these developed countries making me thank your indian/Bangladeshi healthcare system.

[@Hope_is_Love]

This is such an important advice. Seek a second opinion. Seek a second third fourth. It took the 6th doctor that I saw to finally do a scan and find out the whole left side of my head was filled with brain tumors. I was being called crazy lazy all these horrible things. No it just took the 6th doctor actually being a decent human being.

[@Sojournerofhope]

@@Hope_is_Love medical gaslighting smh

[@confuciussay7619]

I have turned doctors away with their dismissive tendencies. Proclaimed that I was the CEO of my healthcare!

[@readsalot2010]

Yes it's always annoyed me that I have to pay for a visit to basically "interview" the doctor I want to hire.

[@theshadowfax239]

I guarantee you not a single one of those doctors cared to lose you as a patient.

[@1FairyGothMother]

When you do what you should (seek medical advice) and they do NOT do what THEY should it’s so difficult to keep asking for help especially when there are usually multiple other barriers.

[@kkilljoy3588]

Thank you for this advice. I have a chronic condition that has landed me in the ED and hospital on rare occasions and I’ve been shocked at the sub par lackadaisical care I’ve received - my situation is complex and they just seem to want to get me out of there rather than deal w me. This is tremendously helpful advice for someone like me.

[@theshadowfax239]

Complex issues are not for the ER, ERS are there to stabilize you enough to get to a doctor that can deal with your complex issues. I think people really don't understand what ERS are supposed to do.

[@SwervingBirds-i5m]

Thank you Doctor Youn!!! Blessings✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

[@sherrymccann4760]

I am terrified of ER's. May( 2024) had emergency hernia repair. Was in the ICU for 6 days. September (2024) went back for stomach pain. Told me it was my heart that my stomach was ok, but left me on a gernie on the side of the hallway by the nurses desk for 4 hours. December(2023) had another hernia repair, am still recovering. So when I was left on a gernie on the side of the hallway for 4 hours it was my stomach. I will never trust them ever again. I have no family so there was no one to speak up for me. I feel like that made me " out of site out of mind" maybe even "disposable".

[@millieruiz4195]

So sad God bless her I hope she finds a good doctor that helps her I hope she gets better soon 🙏

[@lha816]

I went to a+E passing huge clots following a missed miscarriage, they did a pregnancy test and sent me home there were two doctors! I returned unconscious the same day after having a huge hemorrhage at home. Nearly died. I feel so sorry for the girl, some hospitals are so poorly run

[@ericolsen67vw]

I had the same happen to me. It's a real evil that makes the situation scary. They just don't want to put up with it. Wish the world would get better instead of worse.

[@JaneKrauss]

Please give us an update on this poor patient.

[@heidik-lady8135]

A coworker had similar face swelling turned out to be lupus

[@lauramartinez7057]

After being with my brother (ICU) and mother in the hospital, I insist that you advocate for a loved one and even yourself! I cannot image what would have happened had I not been there and I never felt that way before but now I’m scared to death if hospitals because of those two experiences.

[@nahlabella4857]

Father in Heaven, in the name of Jesus, heal this woman completely- In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!

[@queenbluntressspeaks2695]

My daughter was 16 and she went off on the doctor. It saved my life.

[@redheadchick1585]

That poor girl! Prayers

[@aniaveblog]

Something similiar happened to my son. Went to one ER for back pain and they didn't do nothing, no tests, just sent him on his way. He went to a different ER and was treated so much differently. Ran tests and realized he had 2 herniacted discs in his back and he's been seeing a back specialist ever since. Keep seeking help until you find the right people. To send her away is crazy!

[@izzygee2216]

They failed her and they Hope she can get the help she needs and that she does not lose her eye sight. 🙏🏽

[@NitaLink81]

You're definitely right Doc, we have to advocate for ourselves. It's sad though because I've heard many stories about people being turned away place after place.

[@freespeech7747]

How can you ‘seek’ a 2nd opinion when your eyes are swollen up like this 😮

[@Your0Alibi]

Thank you for this message, I’ve been having a horrible time surrounding my health and the healthcare system for the last 5 years. Since 2020! Finally just in the past couple months I am getting answers! I had to pay a few hundred dollars for a different doctor’s opinion, she pulled my blood and noticed stuff that was flagged that was never brought to my attention! After doing my own research and really pushing my doctor he is finally seeing that something is wrong! Thank god! Take care of yourself 🫂♥️

[@cloudjumper7285]

"EMTALA" is a law to stabilize your condition then transfer. Ask about cellulitis,cancer,brain tumor,sepsis, allergy, etc. Dr Youn is right. Never accept bad care.

[@winxclubstellamusa]

She is very obviously severely allergic to something!! I hate how negligent and ignorant most doctors are. I hope she found a good ER and a good allergist by now.

[@carolerobbins9522]

I had hip and knee tendonitis from work that was so bad I could barely walk. The first ER doc asked if I was drinking the night before and I had been socially drinking and I was honest about it, and it set him off in a rage about how I probably blacked out and hurt myself and couldn’t remember. He kept rambling even though I assured him I didn’t get blackout drunk and that was surely not the case. I was sent limping home with a prescription for ibuprofen. I came in the next day after not being able to sleep through the pain and the next doctor was older, completely professional and knew what tf he was talking about. He diagnosed tendonitis, put me in a leg brace, prescribed percocet and explained the importance of desk ergonomics to me. What a difference a second opinion can make

[@christiankelley4145]

Im seeing this happen to A LOT of people.

[@amandarivera3833]

That's so true doc! They should've used their transfer center or suggest to her where to go where they specialize in her condition!

[@nicholewaye95]

That's terrible, I hope she got the help she deserved!

[@annasemak8240]

That happened to my son from another mother and father finally went to Detroit Receiving Hospital for chest pain. He's 25 and found out he has 2 heart valves are not functioning properly. Now he has to have open heart surgery with valve replacement.

[@Ir0nMa1d3n]

Oh yeah, I had to go multiple times. Each time I said I don't want pain killers. They shot me up each time instead of figuring me out. It took me a shoutout with the ER doctor to do something. I told him to look over what tests I didn't have done and go with my symptoms and go from there. I have over 4 rare diseases. I still can't believe they didn't help me get around after being shot up and couldn't walk or barely move.

[@googleuser2480]

They legally cannot do that without your consent

[@Ir0nMa1d3n]

@googleuser2480 they did

[@t.l1357]

Just a tip. Do a walk in at a specialist office. Sometimes they can fit u in but if u call, they may say the r full. This woman could try a dermatologist or PCP office.

[@dmhq-administration]

I CAN 100% RELATE!

[@vervegalore]

Yep, one time I was told my gallbladder attack (the first one ever that felt like a heart attack), was lower back strain.

[@Noble-light01]

I dumped my doctor recently, he was just not paying attention

[@maddonut621]

Woke up 5 yrs ago to a completely different body. Woke up as usual went to drink water and it was salty and crunchy like a JR high prank. Tried a different bottle. Same. And then it happened. I blacked out and had a seizure. Now no matter the type, brand, or distillation process all water makes me blackout if I consume it. I’m also now allergic to wheat, corn, eggs and dairy. My grain allergies are so severe that I can’t eat more than 5 oz of meat a day or I will get violently sick. I was referred to Mayo in June of 2022. Mayo called me to confirm my appointment and told me “Make sure you bring a $5,000 cashiers check for your initial payment. You will be here in Minneapolis for 30 days for testing. Your husband will need a rental car and hotel near by for that time period as well as a car to get you back and forth to the appointments. We only take the 4 surrounding states insurance so this will all be cash payments. Are you ready to set the date?” All I could do was cry. I had to decline the appointment. I was then referred to UAMS in Little Rock. I was 36 hrs from my appointment when they called and told me that my state insurance decided that I wasn’t sick enough to need the appointment and cancelled it for me. 😮 I haven’t stepped foot into a drs office since. I can barely drive due to issues with my vision now, I can’t walk, bathe or do much alone anymore. I miss being myself. I constantly dream of harming myself because I hate living in my body so much.

[@thatcreepyxmastreeinyourat8950]

What the heck? You can't drink water? The only thing I can think of that would do this is rabies. Even people with water allergies still drink water. You need to go to the ER!!!

[@thatcreepyxmastreeinyourat8950]

How do you survive without water? That is terrifying. I'm so sorry you are going through this😢

[@maddonut621]

@thatcreepyxmastreeinyourat8950 I have been to ERs and drs galore. They have taken pints of blood at a time and MRIs. I have a gastrointestinal, cardiologist, allergist, neurologist and my pcp all stumped. Every single one didn’t believe me until I showed them. 1 drop of water. 30 seconds and I’m on the floor. I wish it was that easy. I drink non water fluids. I can have most things but sugar free seems to have a higher ppm of water so I have to stay clear of it but I can drink black coffee all day and night and it not phase me.