Why You Shouldn't Help People

[@user-if9pp4vg7g]

This is 10000% true. It got to the point where people expected me not to say no and to come running to help them over things I need to take care of for myself. They would literally get angry that I don't have time for them. Don't help anyone and focus on yourself.

[@ivoartur]

yes thats true, one of my errors was to help so much and effortlessly to the point of affecting my own and thus suffering now in terms of not yet being fully financial free and resolved

[@KellyStephanie-u1g]

I needed this today, thank you brother 🙏🏼

[@ivoartur]

you're very welcome, tks for the comment

[@wokeplug]

needed to hear this, if only i had this mindset in my prime.

[@ivoartur]

That’s great to hear, yes me too

[@itsdeanya]

I will come back and listen to this in awhile. My first conditional response is, "Stop telling me what to do." :-) We'll see how I feel after I listen to it. We all have such different paths and different ways in this life, I find it difficult to offer advice.

[@ivoartur]

yes thats true, thats why sharing one's personal experience is a gift so we can listen and decide by ourselves

[@itsdeanya]

Now I am back! I see where you are coming from, and I have felt this in waves in the past. I think now at 61 I see myself not as a helper, but as a connector. Sometimes it is possible to connect people to resources or to other people. If I can do that in my natural path, then I figure it is my way. Here is an example. I was walking my dog in the park one morning, and I found a $10 bill. I could have used it, but I didn't *need* it. Minutes later, I saw a guy I knew, who was living rough in the park at that time. I always talked to him, when I saw him. I handed him the $10. I said, "I think you must have lost this, I found it this morning here in the park." He looked confused and said, I never lost that. I haven't seen 10 dollars in weeks. I said, "Well, I know I didn't lose it, and you live here, so it must belong to you." I smiled at him and he took it. I felt good about that. I don't feel like it was my money. But at the same time, he might have taken that money and bought poison drugs with it that could've killed him. By giving him the 10 dollars, I might have killed him. The universe we live in is so relative, I can't believe that there is any real right or wrong. I do believe that there are ways to live more ethically than others, that means, valuing people over other things. like possessions. I think the biggest mistake people make is assuming and projecting onto others, that they share the same beliefs about expectations. But that's not true. To the same degree that I am a sensitive person in the world, I admit that there are people just as insensitive also. To the degree that I am willing to give, there is someone always willing to take. ;-)

[@ivoartur]

Yes exactly, it’s the value behind that matters, if it makes you feel good or better then yes do it, but once u see the full picture it might change, so it’s always a perception type

[@imnotaperson311]

facts

[@ivoartur]

Appreciate the comment Man

[@imnotaperson311]

@@ivoartur thank you man, keep it up. the world needs more harsh reality. people are only as loyal as the last meal. once you stop feeding them they end up changing on you. the real ones will exchange as you stated. thats fair. win/win

[@ivoartur]

@ yes true true, exactly like that. I’m down to bring harsh reality facts based on my true life experience on this channel, hope you enjoy

[@imnotaperson311]

@@ivoartur love you man, keep it up.