Why your child is not improving in sports | Tennis Coach's Perspective

[@coachcurt7606]

I hate specialization for preteen athletes! I coach Mountain Bikes, my best kids, also do football, hockey, gymnastics, etc. They are rounded athletes and have the variety to drive novelty which keeps interest and engagement levels high. I don't need them to become category one racers to feel I've succeeded, my goal is to help them grow as athletes and humans. If they win some races, trophies, that's even better.

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Your athletes are so lucky to have you. These words should be on the wall of every sport organization.

[@thewarriorking5183]

Great info coach, I'm a tennis dad of a 8 and 6 year old. Thanks 👍

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Thanks a lot. Appreciate it and glad you found it interesting 🙏💪

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

I completely forgot to add one more reason that might decrease improvement. When your child goes through puberty and their body starts to change you will see a decrease of performance. It will take some time for an athlete to get used to their new body. This is completely normal, and there isn’t something you can do really other than understanding that it’s ok and continue working.

[@Nsroma]

So when my 14 yr old is feeling negative and self conscious due to changes, and wishes to give up...do I encourage her to keep going?

[@raviravi-ru6rb]

Bogdan another great video👏 you need to promote your channel. These are invaluable advises every athlete and parent must watch. Especially multiple sports is a must to succeed in any sport at the highest level not just fitness. That's a great point u keep mentioning in most of your videos. Keep them coming 😎🤝👍

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Ravi thanks a lot! Yeah without promotion is hard, but I’ll get there :)

[@Nsroma]

Excellent advice! Thank u 😊 I really like this video as it still relates to my child and I as a Footballer & a Football Mum

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

@@Nsroma thank you for saying this 🙏

[@gettoneinternational4154]

Good insight...in regards to the player retaining information also has to do with the coaching in terms of the approach and how you're communicating information to the student to learn

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

100% agree. Coaches love to complicate things and sometimes use language not suitable for the person in front of them. Great point.

[@davidsolano5513]

What you say makes soooooo much sense,thanks champ

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Much appreciated 🙏 thank you for your support

[@davidsolano5513]

@@BogdanGrygorenko my pleasure

[@fmtien]

Great video. Lots of accurate info that applies not only to kids but adults players who take lessons. My one comment…Running isn’t heavily focused on agility and footwork while soccer places a premium on it so there is plenty of value for a kid who runs to play soccer as well. The two sports develop different things.

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Thank you. I understand the difference in skills with two sports. Are you saying that soccer will help someone who does athletics or you wanted to just clarify the difference? Sorry just trying to understand :)

[@fmtien]

@@BogdanGrygorenko at 5:50 in the video, you say if the child is a runner, you don't see the benefit for the child to then play soccer. My point is that there is ABSOLUTELY a benefit for the child to play soccer because running (sprinting or long distance), doesn't require the extreme levels of footwork, agility, and change of direction like soccer does. The footwork, agility, and change of direction are things that are applicable to tennis while running forward in a straight line isn't that applicable because tennis movement is mostly diagonal and lateral with fewer instances of forward straight line movement. Perhaps I misinterpreted the point you were trying to convey.

[@StefanGaetano]

Merci Beaucoup. I have fun and my coaches awsome

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

@@StefanGaetano you’re one lucky player then :)

[@jesuscomes970]

Hey Bogdan! Great insights! My daughter would prefer to sleep on the tennis courts in our club man, ans it looks like 100 percent her passion and she wants to get number one one day, but at the same time she has problemes to follow some of the tips that i give her when playing tennis! Like for instance the most difficult part ist, footwork! you know the normal things, kneeing, open stance, when swinging hip moving plus shoulder rotation, split step, that everyone should constantly perform after every shot of the opponent! We train 2-4 hours every day, but those basic things, to use her body, is something that she is almost not willing to do and to train! She started 1 years ago in a club in Bonn, Germany and aftet only 1 year at 11 will be now playing with the 14 years old girls and she is destroying all the boys and girls till 12 years of age, which most of them have trained more than 5 years, some more! She loves tennis, watches every match, highlights, know everything about every player, women and men, which racket, what age, where they played, you know, etc. So my question to you is, how can I make her start liking those body movements, which are so important and how can i make foot work for her interesting so that she wants to do it the way it is supposed to be done! I will be very thankful if you can give me some tips and or show me resources of interesting drill for an amazing footwork development and also for a decent serve for a child like her at 11! Thanks bud!

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Thanks for your comment. Kids are typically stubborn and don’t like to change their habits. The way I like to do it is to show the benefit of a new technique. And explain how exactly and why we’re gonna spend the next X amount of sessions improving it. Also sometimes it’s good for development purposes if a player loses because they’re not able to execute certain skill and that can create a perfect opportunity to sell the idea of improvement. Hope it helps!

[@stefanthomassen4750]

Mit 11 trainiert Ihr 2-4 Stunden mit einer 11 jährigen täglich ? Split-Steps und all diese "youtube-Tips" werden massive überschätzt. Solange sie so hungrig ist, mit Spaß zu trainieren und auch weiterhin den Wettkampf mit älteren sucht, mach Dir weniger Gedanken. Drück Ihr ein Springseil in die Hand, lock sie zum Seilspringen, davon werden die Füße von ganz alleine schnell. Ich kenne einen "Laufbehinderten" der Devision1 in den USA spielt und in Deutschland mit knapp 21 Jahren Top 100 in der offenen dt. Rangliste ist. Mit Laufbehindert meine ich, athletisch eine Vollkatastrophe, wobei er besser geworden ist. Er wird vermutlich nie Vollprofi werden, aber für die 2. Bundesliga oder vielleicht auch 1. Bundesliga wird es reichen... wie viele erreichen solch eine Spielklasse ? Der kann auch keinen Split-Step...Und die Aussagen, die auf diesem Kanal verbreitet werden, sind teilweise hanebüchen. Ich kenne persönlich genug ATP-Semi-Profis, die ATP300 waren, keiner von denen hat den Sprung zum Vollprofi geschafft, obwohl sie während Ihrer Tennis-Laufbahn Spieler wie Struff, Carena Busta (ATP9) oder andere TOP20 Spieler immer mal wieder geschlagen haben.

[@sergioalonso3118]

This is the first video I've seen from your channel. Great advice, Bogdan. I agree 100%. Although I must admit I was a bit shocked by the 2h/day = recreational :D Subscribed!

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Ahah thank you Sergio! Let me know if you got any questions :) more videos to come soon

[@ineszouabi201]

Thank you so much. I found tour video very useful and helpful. I used to be a competitve tennis player..i have two kids: my girl is 4 and my son is 6. They have both taken tennis lessons. At some point, they were both in the same group ( i think this was the first mistake). The coach was impressed with our daughter and was more positive towards her than to our son. One day she told my son that pretty soon our daughter will be better than him. ( I guess she wanted him to behave and listen to her on the court) . That day, he came home amd said that he want to sign out from temnis :( i've been battling this and i took things in my own hands. I still feel the impact on him was big and he always needs confirmation that he is good. He plays soccer as well amd he loves it. I would rather have him play tennis but of course wouldnt force him if his interest is elsewhere. But i'm still upset with what happened with thé coach

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Ines thank you so much for kind words but more importantly for sharing your story. This is incredibly valuable to hear and I am sure other parents will find it useful. Unfortunately it’s happening more often than it should. I think also what is happening that your son wants to find his own niche because tennis is sort of occupied by your daughter. He wants his sport. I’ve encouraged this many times. Sometimes parents as well say this without actually saying it. By giving more private lessons to one kid, driving that child to their sport, talking about it a lot at home etc. It’s impossible to prevent though so no worries. Everyone will find their thing they’re passionate about. Thank you Ines.

[@ineszouabi201]

@@BogdanGrygorenko Thank you for taking the time read my comment and reply to it. You absolutely nailed it when you said that my son is trying to find his own niche. That's absolutely what is happening . And he does feel that tennis is somehow occupied by our daughter. We are trying to change that and whenever I have the opportunity to show him otherwise that's what I do. It's not easy to be a parent :) :) thank you so much again

[@systemx4]

Good info. My son started playing u11 tournaments and our goal is just to win a first round match first. If you want more subs I suggest doing a tennis technique video

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Thank you. I will at some point this summer.

[@mauriciocarvalhodegodoy9709]

Speak brother, ok? Dude, how do I get information about this coaching course? I'm a tennis coach here in Brazil, but I would like to take a course

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Hey man I will be releasing it this summer. I’ll update on the channel 🙌🙏

[@boarhog1979]

My kid plays hockey and is right into it and I see a few kids are absolutely not interested and don't take them to practice and become a hindrance to the rest of the team. No going to practice to me means don't bother to go to games. Not much different then doing homework.

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Totally agree with you!

[@smitamankar9791]

Hi Bogdan, my son is 11 years old, playing tennis since past three years where he is county player now but still not consistent in winning whole tournament. neither in practise. We tried to understand if he dont want to play but it looks like he wants to play and its his passion. We are ready to support him anyway but still he is not understanding or working the way he supposed to be doing. Can you advise how we can be helping him to increase his self efforts?

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

@@smitamankar9791 hard to say but can be few things. 1. He’s still too young mentally and just needs to mature. 2. He is in the environment where people around him don’t work hard and he can’t copy it. He might not understand what hard work is. 3. He actually might be not into it. I always believe that kids who really want it will be more proactive than others. So I’d leave some things up to him to organize. For example organize a match once a week, or let him be a leader when it comes to serving practices. Let him tell you when he wants to do it. How good is his warm up and how good is his recovery session? Is he skipping those or actually does them with a lot of care. This will show how much he really wants it. Another thing you can do is place him in a group with hard workers or a tough coach. Kids adapt really well to their environment. Hope it helps.

[@smitamankar9791]

@@BogdanGrygorenko, thank you very much 🙏

[@_singingtime_4041]

for other sports to play, what do you recommend? running or like soccer cause it helps with stamina im a newly 12 year old.

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

My top picks would be: Soccer Basketball Track and field But if you really like something else go for that as well.

[@cruelsun9243]

My 13 year old is a 6'1" bball player. He does not practice on his own. Would rather draw or be oh his phone, or watch YT funny videos. If I take him to practice, he will give me 100%. If he goes to team practice or personal trainer, 100%. His issues are dribbling and other simple fundamentals, and his coaches know it, and i have told him. He truly thinks he is really a good player, but he is inconsistent. I'm just keeping it real. Competitive is NOT Rec, and if you're child sausage they have these lofty goals, you want to help them reach those goals. My issue is he simply won't do the extra stuff in his own to build his IQ, dribbling conditioning etc. If I make him do it he will not have the WILL....to do it on his own, and completely. Daughter is 11 y/o and 5'8". Always the tallest girl on the pitch. Read the above. She plays soccer, as an attacker but those fundamental and IQ things are lacking and getting her to do extra stuff is like pulling teeth. She plays Club soccer and was moved up for the first tournament, and reality set in. I'm just about done with wasting thousands of dollars and my time. Your advice will be greatly appreciated. ✌️

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

Thank you for sharing this. It’s hard to give any advice without asking you few more additional questions. At this age it can be still maturity to take ownership of his basketball. And also simply going through puberty which will have the mood swings and lower energy level. Hard to say. I will be happy to go more in detail over a consultation of this interests you.

[@cruelsun9243]

@BogdanGrygorenko well, it's simply laziness, and his friends are more important than his goals. He knows it, he just won't admit it. The daughter admits she'd rather do something other than training away from the club. This will more rhan likely be her last year playing club ball. She can play REC. Thank you.

[@ineszouabi201]

One more question coach! Do you think a parent can be the coach of his kids ( at least at the very beginning of their learning?). I have mixed feelings about it!

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

I think I’ll be very vague and say it’s possible of course as we’ve seen so many successes (a lot more unsuccessful stories however). It’s very tough to separate the role of a parent and a coach. The reason kids don’t like to be coached by parents because parent continues to coach in the car, during dinner etc. plus kids love their free time away from parents and doing their own thing.

[@BogdanGrygorenko]

If you have the opportunity definitely have a different coach. However, I should’ve said this in the beginning. It’s practically impossible to achieve success without extra time on court. Most of the time it’s the parent who helps.

[@ineszouabi201]

@@BogdanGrygorenko it makes sense..very valuable info for us parents

[@ineszouabi201]

@@BogdanGrygorenko got it! Been looking 😁 but I'll definitely do the extra hours :)