Why YOUR EX ALWAYS Comes Back After a Breakup (The Real Reason)

[@OM-1111]

It's been 9 months. I don't think they're coming back. And, I'm ok with that. In the beginning I used to want them back so badly. Now, I see how they treated me in the end. I didn't deserve the dishonesty, immaturity, and disrespect. I deserve better. So, yeah. I don't think they're coming back and I'm feeling OK about that.

[@alexpereira6528]

Reflection is useful

[@josephlee-i4l]

V😊 5:16 5:16 😅 5:16 😅ooh 😅♥️

[@CatwalkPurz]

So true. 🤗 No contact enables disconnect which removes the rose-colored glasses. We see things so much more clearly. “Dodged a bullet” is my perspective. 💪✨

[@smh6016]

Ditto! Feel ya…. For real!

[@paulinerussell444]

Mee 2

[@bronzedgold]

I think I’m starting to get over my ex. I used to watch these videos and cry. Now I watch them & I’m like dang Coach look good 😂

[@ahmadelshbasy3222]

What helped the most ?

[@di114n2]

Yeah I’ve gotten to that point and it’s only been 1 week out of a 6 year relationship. If she wants me she’ll pursue and if she doesn’t I’ll be just fine . I had girlfriends before her and I can have some after her .

[@chinadoll534]

😂

[@edgaraguilar209]

City bois up​@@di114n2

[@tyeshatucker4460]

Same lol

[@rashidarowe7882]

If they left you once, most likely they will do it again. Never let the same person put you through the same pain. When they leave, you have to mentally leave as well, the person who left won't be the same one that's coming back. Harsh truth.

[@13sprintuser]

THIS. Don’t go backwards to an ex. There’s 4 billion men/women on this planet.

[@dedrajones4174]

So true!!!

[@frankwhite8556]

My girl left me about 3months ago and at first I was begging and pleading to get her back. I couldn’t eat I couldn’t sleep I swear I thought my life was ending but I’m here to tell u it gets better over time. I still miss her a lot but I’m no longer hurting and I really dnt know if she’s coming but I’m starting not to care and that’s the beauty of it. Plz stay in no contact and try to move on

[@sandymcpherson497]

Wow, I thought I was the only person going through this. Iam 3 months, no contact to. I miss him too, but I no, he is not good for me. Stay strong 💪

[@hanzo1917]

@@sandymcpherson497 you'll pull through don't worry

[@frankwhite8556]

9 times out of 10 if the relationship was even semi good they’ always come back. It might weeks, months, or even years but they always seem to find their way back in your life but it’s up to u if u want them back or not.

[@sithy5816]

The craziest part is at the month mark is where they start to wonder about what is going on especially if you went ghost they miss your presence nobody can compare to the love that you give them and if your relationship was longer that’s even better because nobody is gonna replicate the knowledge you have of them and who they are and they will crave that love is super hard to find now a days and the connection that you had brings them back my ex came back begging me after begging her for about 4 months went 1 month no contact at all and she came back begging so just stay strong don’t stop your life meet new women or men. Hang out with them learn about them and you will see from first hand nobody really compares nor will ever connect that same way with you and vice versa there will never be another you.

[@specialk8927]

Wow didn’t know guys could hold any feelings. 😮

[@b2k-desiel630]

Broke up 7 months ago and went into no contact since March not heard a dime from her. Yesterday was her birthday I didn’t send any wishes I’m staying 💪.. I know my value.. and if I never hear from her again I’m not fussed. I finally let go and feeling great. I was good before her and I’ll be even great after her.

[@alexpereira6528]

good move man, shits hard

[@d1bama90]

Same !

[@sandymcpherson497]

Stay strong, brother

[@tamersaid81]

Well-done

[@jn45672]

Dude, it's been 7 months, time to move on.time is precious

[@kristina4395]

The less you care the more they care

[@di114n2]

Facts looking back I was way too obsessed with my x . I made her my everything and basically my entire life. Never again will I treat a girl like her

[@fuzzypanda1684]

That assumes they're thinking about you, checking in on you, or want you back. If they're not doing any of those, you can care as little as you want, it won't do Jack because they don't know and don't care.

[@kristina4395]

​@@fuzzypanda1684 this video is about "an ex that comes back", not about the exes who dont...so is my commentary

[@fuzzypanda1684]

@@kristina4395 I hear you, but the title is that they ALWAYS come back, which isn't true whatsoever.

[@kristina4395]

​@@fuzzypanda1684​the title is not that all exes always come back.. its what (why) is always the reason they come back when they do.. watching the video might help you understand

[@GodHelpMe369]

Avoidants are so focused on testing their love interest to make sure he/she will be a good partner that they don’t even notice that in the process... THEY have become a terrible partner! We have to let people walk away. That creates a space for the right person. I will not hide what I feel. I will NEVER sugarcoat what I say. Radical honesty is my highest calling and my greatest value. I only accept consistency. I deserve it. I accept nothing less than being treated as the queen I AM.

[@lucyg7887]

He hurt me so bad that I literally erased myself from social media. So he can’t watch me, he can’t see nothing about me. He text me today and I left him on read. I did the professing my feelings thing before when he text me and he did go ghost. I’m not responding to nothing but true effort. Im proud of myself for being strong enough to not respond. I really don’t block people, like Nicki Minaj said “I leave these bitches on red so now they know that they blue it” 😂

[@therealtanza_]

This month it would be 2 years. Now he’s in a new relationship while I’m still single. He left at my lowest point, and I’m doing a lot better. It still hurts so I need to really heal before meeting someone new

[@chinadoll534]

Good idea 👍

[@specialk8927]

Unfortunately he had that relationship while you were together that’s why he moved on so instantly

[@cj2443]

When I stop thinking of her, she reaches out to talk crap, make jealous or breadcrumb. Happened 3x last month and 1 time this month. Strange how the universe works! I'm still NC

[@kwdjessy]

If they left you once and you accepted it back they will leave you again when things get tough!

[@Starrrrr898]

Absolutely true! Recently, I went through this. I think once they leave they shouldn't be accepted back. Like return to sender haha

[@GeorgeBrown-dx9ws]

I can't believe that there's a lot of people going thru the same thing in going thru.love hurts😢day by day no contact you get stronger . stay strong

[@timpierce1967]

I dont think I will love anyone ever again 😔 13 years down the drain

[@tena2013]

Today is the anniversary of our engagement. I accidentally ran into her yesterday. Said a quick hello and went on my way as she was heading to work and i needed to get home. I wish she saw value in our life together. 10 years...for nothing

[@Thatboirightthere]

That's how it goes king

[@1alx]

i'm sorry man

[@Brenda-y7c]

😢

[@debramcgill7962]

We not spoken for a year. Now he wants to get back together. He was in Africa on military job. While he was gone he says he had a fear of death. I am afraid it will happen to me again that he leaves again. He needs to prove he’s not going to do that. I’m very independent since he left and have grown.

[@kareemandino7388]

It's crazy how every single video has been spot on. Every time they contact you watch one of these videos. I made so many mistakes. Got a rebound made it public stayed in no contact she came back crying talking about how could you. Crazy about me. And she hated me man. She wanted nothing to do with me at all. Stubborn, and still this worked. I couldn't believe it

[@joydipchowdhury5557]

Move on, the avoidant has this tendency to leave anytime so let yourself get some peace and let it go. If they come back they still got the power to leave again and make u look completely not valuable. Self respect!!

[@mrocks199]

Today Marks 3 months no contact for me. At first the breakup hit like a bus and i was really bad for the first month but it got better. I still struggle with wanting to text her but ive stayed strong still i miss her but cant do much about that.

[@timpierce1967]

Me too im on 3 months i have to see her because of kiddos. Sucks 😢 that make it harder.

[@sithy5816]

You don’t understand how true these words are until you experience these exact situations spitting straight facts

[@crumbocrumbo887]

I need a video to expand upon once they come back and you realize there's been no changes after I did everything you suggested, it worked and now they want to act like we're together yet we're apart. He did the chasing. He begged to come back. Now he's immediately falling back into the old patterns. All talk. No action. When I address it, it's an argument. It's a lot to unpack. I need to speak with you.

[@dave12181]

If you and you ex are on FB but (not friends, or not blocked) you will not know if they are watch you’re stories because it will only show as OTHER.

[@Omnitrix8]

She ended the relationship 2 months ago. I have greived the 'loss'. I am over it now and currently dating. Nothing serious but currently dating. I am currently taking kickboxing and animation lessons. My ex can kick rocks for all I care!

[@Omnitrix8]

@EdwardChan-k9u get lost!!

[@Omnitrix8]

@EdwardChan-k9uscammer!!

[@Omnitrix8]

@EdwardChan-k9u did I ever tell you I need any help??

[@archangelelmo]

Have your ex ever reach out to you??

[@Omnitrix8]

@@archangelelmo not directly. she tried baiting me by liking my post on Instagram and unliking it. She has been stalking my post though so I don't know if that counts

[@tiffanyburke2785]

5.5 years and I had health issues. And he started pulling away when I was emotionally struggling with parts of our relationship of transparency and honesty. I eventually had too many emotional moments of I can’t do this anymore. He would pull me back in. Eventually he didn’t pull me back. I have tried a few times. But it’s over. It’s been 3 weeks since we last texted. And it’s been 6 weeks since we had the break up talk face to face. It’s been close to 2 months since we have spent anytime together as a couple. I miss him so deeply. But we had drifted so far apart and he never chose me at my height. I was never good enough to keep for life. I was transactional. My daughters wanted more for me. But I had become so little value. He even said. I’m not getting anything out of this anymore. It was rough to hear. But I suppose I will be ok. I just usually bounce back. Not this time. Annnnd I really hope he doenst watch your channel. 😂

[@seowweetang2253]

Reading the comments and my own experience, women never comes back. Its always the men that comes crawling back. So men, sorry but your ex girlfriend is gone.

[@RaulGarcia-x5x]

Hey coach black I just got dumped a week ago my ex thinks I’m never gonna change I recently signed up to mentally therapy trynna change for myself and save this relationship

[@Champman543]

Brother you are doing the right thing💪 Do it for yourself first

[@R2G1414]

@@RaulGarcia-x5xstay in no contact and unless she says something significant ignore her, if you answer to every little breadcrumb she gives you you’ll never get her back and she will not respect you! Work on yourself, get yourself straight, go to the gym, make money, clear your head and once you’re at the point where you’ve become better. You won’t care anymore - trust me lol my ex who left me keeps creeping on my Instagram now, they always come back bro

[@chinadoll534]

Really good to do

[@R2G1414]

@@RaulGarcia-x5x do it for you, go to the gym everyday, delete social media for 90 days and put 100 percent all into yourself They are always watching Trust me

[@Mysterix619]

Change the motivation bro! Do it for yourself! I’m on a similar path

[@hotcargo8886]

On another note...That Jersey is 🔥...Earl Campbell was my Favorite Underrated Running Back 💙

[@yuNGDeLaPhoNtE]

Facts sis

[@AlFakherFan]

Man, you are really pro of what you are doing, keep doing! Thank you, you helped me a lot through difficult times!

[@robbello1000]

You Get 1 Chance sometimes 2 but........................... RARELY..........................................

[@geometrae4773]

She contacted me after about a month of nothing. She wanted us to get together to have a breakup ceremony of sorts, "conscious uncoupling" thing. I declined and said that I'm not interested since our breakup wasn't mutual and i wouldn't be able to show up for that, and that she should reach out if she changed her mind about us. Was that a proper response? She hasnt responded since I wrote that.

[@Crazyd2050]

Yeah you did good

[@Xx__1]

Perfect. You let her know you want her. Leave her with that thought & dissappear. Stay in no contact & move forward with your life

[@Leenotpassing]

my ex is a virgo and he’s so stubborn i don’t think he would come back even if he wanted to. his family hates me so i know they influence him to stay away. it’s been 3 weeks and im hurting. i love him and im trying to heal.

[@adgrizzard86]

My husband is a Virgo too. We been broke up 6 weeks but it’s only been a week we haven’t talked. His family definitely influence him to stay away from me. I prepared the divorce papers but haven’t filed yet. I pray we can work through this after some healing on both our parts but I’m unsure. Sounds like we in a similar situation. 😅 Virgo’s are very stubborn

[@gaelmontes5122]

Coach, they came back after no contact and moving out, but my body was telling me something was wrong so I set boundaries for me to walk away & pull back. They only took 3 days and came into my work asking why I’m ignoring her

[@ladyshorty6989]

Ty ♥️. He hadn't gone to counseling nor has he fixed the issues 💔 but he has repeatedly reached out. I have fortunately been growing and focusing on me. But I've also noticed that when we do talk,I hear the tone in his narcissistic,ego driven and frustrated voice that he's doesn't know what to say,and that he's easily triggered. I've taken pictures of him popping up unauthorized. The betrayal was the nail in the coffin. Even though he verbally apologized,it wasn't sincere. One of his problems besides anger issues are that he's not uses to being told NO!! IVE been sticking to my boundaries and my word because his effort is piss poor in my opinion. It's alot......very draining. At this point,I can wait on my next and not my ex and let him deal with his pride because ive tried.....

[@matthobson1882]

You should do a video on how to re-attract your ex if you actually are the one who messed up. Like weren't present enough etc. Also a video around long distance.

[@blacademic]

Weren’t present isn’t a great reason to breakup in my experience. It is very likely much deeper than that. Are you ACTUALLY in no contact? Honestly

[@matthobson1882]

@@blacademic Ya, I'm actually in no contact. And in terms of not present, we were long distance for a long time. It was mostly my fault not moving the relationship closer and there were times I could have made more of an effort to see here when she was asking and trying to see me.

[@matthobson1882]

@@blacademic to her she felt that i was one foot in one foot out. even though I was just being avoidant in a way. Im working on that by the way now.

[@willemhanse762]

Breakups are terrible what people especially wise men can become after healing is not to be play with thanks though Coach we still healing and moving.​@@blacademic

[@kcchong-s2i]

​@@blacademichi Coach , I had ask if you can advice ..is having coffee, having Male friends and talking to guys in the gym ... Disrespect or Emotional Cheating ..I told my girlfriend stop all these. she flakes and ghosting me Day 19...should I take her back ...is this week ?

[@acumenpsychiatryservices6376]

I love him. So much.

[@igchannel2174]

Ive been in NC over a week now. Ive been posting some neutral nature theme pics on ig story. my ex wached all of them. And on the latest post (there was a cat and i Said in that video "hello cutie!!"), he reacted on that putting a heart.. he knows i want a clean cut from him, so i dont know why he is still following me on social media. I was thinking that maybe is best for me to delete insta for at least a month, so i can really focus on myself.

[@Blackmamba12345]

Just delete it. Otherwise you're pretty much still in contact..

[@igchannel2174]

@@Blackmamba12345 ye. I felt already a little better after deleting that app. :)

[@archangelelmo]

Have your ex ever reach out to you???

[@igchannel2174]

@@archangelelmo Hi! YESS! He reached out to me after 2 and a half week. He wanted to talk to me, I declined politely. Couple days after, I was feeling so fine and I reached to him saying i would be willing to listen to him now. He came to see me as soon as he red my message. After that everything went so natural.. and after a month or so we started dating :)

[@yolenda_loves_to_sing]

I have a question - Is there anyone who did say "no" to their ex who came back, but actually REGRETs for it later in their life, and still wondering the "what if", and is missing them, and secretly want to contact them again, but ego is in the way, and don't know what to do now? Just curious, anyone? Or do I have a special case?? :(

[@thatcringegirl007]

Please do a video on breakups when there is a significant age gap ( girl older/guy younger) or execs where one person is a single relationship. Thanks

[@Chun_Leroy]

This is my story. I’m older, he’s younger

[@Chun_Leroy]

This is my story. I’m older and he’s younger.

[@KarinaMoel]

Just want to say thankyou.. feel so good to hear what you said in this video.. i love the way you talk, very calm so that i can understand the words.. GBU

[@AttorneyD]

I just want to say I love the fit and I just like the sound of your voice lol. Very soothing. You should do ASMR.

[@blacademic]

Ha, thank you. I get that quite often actually

[@kristina4395]

That's true..😊. I have no ex that i want back at all, but i listen to these videos coz his way of speaking and his voice helps me fall asleep 🪄🪄🪄😊 truth. 🤷🏖️🏖️

[@TreMiller23]

​@@blacademicwhat should you do if she says she checked out emotionally

[@elizabethclarke2005]

I want Coach Blac he's gorgeous looking and talks to my heart x

[@aBLA910]

My ex and I were in a committed relationship for 3 years, but have known each other since childhood. He dumped me and moved out a couple weeks ago mid-fight. He’s been on dating apps since a few days after. I begged for a few days post-breakup, but have been respecting the boundaries he said he wanted, and have tried to go no contact since. But he will not stop texting me everyday, even though his tone is cold. He tells me every detail about his day, and gets offended if I stop responding. Even though when breaking up with me, he claimed that I was terrible and awful, he claims he still sees me as his “best friend”. It’s making me crazy, coach. I’m so anxious, and I want him back so badly, but I know I can’t ask again or come on too strong…

[@TheSinfulSiren_]

Stop responding and stay in no contact or you’re gonna ruin it if you want him back. If he can’t stop texting you then you’re in a good place to get him back. But only if you do no contact.

[@hemlatagattagalla-foodreci1438]

His not feeling break up as you are still there entertaining his bullshit. Block him and move on. He will beg to be with you. Absense is needed to miss and understand someone.

[@aBLA910]

@@TheSinfulSiren_ thank you! I’m going to follow this advice

[@aBLA910]

@@hemlatagattagalla-foodreci1438 thank you for responding. Doing exactly as you say starting today!

[@gaelmontes5122]

Im in the SAME situation, please stay strong, they need way more time to process the consequences of their actions. Truly work on yourself bc you’re clearly still in love and needy so it’s not just for him, but for YOU and your health, take ur power back

[@zombiemitsu]

After my ex broke up with me the week after I reached out so many ways that now I’m threatened and block I have begin to do NC. Do you think I messed up my chances for reaching out so much days after we broke up? Like will NC erase how embarrassing I acted and the desperation??

[@archangelelmo]

Have your ex ever reach out to you???

[@joykorshiwor699]

I broke up with my ex because he was causing me too much pain

[@daniel17569]

It has been 6 months when I found out she was cheating with her work husband when I confronted her she left with my children got a social housing, for the first 2 months I was bedridden but now it feels so good without her and I finally got the courage to apply for divorce everything is working out for me got a new job. The only pain I feel is missing my daughter she’s 13 years old

[@babyluvjr]

Im feeling that earl campbell , Coach

[@tmkc162]

Just subbed. Thanks soooo much‼️

[@skhre039]

I really appreciate this video needed to hear the message today

[@ozonethedon]

Dont want them back

[@PamelaAnderson-ut6sz]

So my ex dumped me. That same day I said ok never call or text him again. So we worked together he did it all showing my friends pictures seeing me trying to touch me crazy stuff. But I never pay attention to him. So now he’s acting like we r talking again and the next day not speaking.

[@adgrizzard86]

Sounds like he’s having mixed emotions about the breakup. Hot and cold. My husband been doing this quite a bit since we split up 6 weeks ago. I’m currently in no-contact

[@Korra939]

Thank you coach Blac, your videos has really helped me a lot. Mine eventually came back after 6wks but I didn’t wanna be with him anymore, I immediately blocked him after he reached out & he started to follow me on Instagram with a different name I know of. This guy walked away after an argument & destroyed all my business plans I had put together, was heartbroken but your videos helped me pushed through.

[@specialk8927]

They could care less about seeing you crying

[@DtroytDave]

THAT JERSEY 🔥🔥🔥

[@girishk5763]

Coach, can you kindly make a video on how to get your fearful avoidant ex back after you’ve screwed up no contact for 6 months after break and they’ve blocked you and made a lot of begging and also when they hold a lot of resentment from the mistakes of the past long long ago I’ve done. Also if I was inconsistent with my tasks.Please advise.

[@lucyoclarke]

Really needed to hear this tonight. Thanks.👍🏻

[@KendraWalker-z4t]

Well he left me 8 month's ago we have a child together if he's breadcrumbs me but he'll say things wen we was together how he think bout wen he drunk he thought bout coming over then he say we not together anymore can we be friends like i said i aint even see u as a friend .if it aint bout the baby i dont call him i dont case or beg

[@bambilekha6812]

I went through a lot of pain, hurts, devastated emotions 💔

[@nfornepatricejunior3761]

Thank you Sir, apart from feeling better I learn a lot from you

[@jhaneasipin7612]

My boyfriend left me in February and he blocked me from everything. Then atter 3 months of No contact, (May), he emailed my niece and he asked about me and he said that he will send a graduation gift for my daugher, since when we were together, he really gave money to my 2 kids.. Then, my niece asked my Ex if he still loved me. My Ex's answer was, "Not anymore". But at that time, he unblocked me and we talked. We talked and he sent money for me and his gift for my daughter. Our conversation lasted for 1 week and we enjoyed it even though we didn't talk about the relationship. Then, until one day I became clingy and he felt that I was jealous and he said that it was wrong that we talked again and he blocked me again. I was worried, did he mean it when he told to my niece that he doesn't love me anymore? When he said that he doesn't love me anymore, was he sincere? So he just wanted to give me money, that's why he reached out?

[@Xx__1]

Sounds like he cares about your daughter, that's easy to see, I don't know your situation but it seems like he has moved on. Probably seeing if the grass is greener elsewhere. If there was any interest there on his part it would have shown after all that time apart it. It reminds me of my ex, the same thing happened (she left) I speak to her after 2 months of no contact & she is a different person, turns out she was with someone for about 6 months prior to us breaking up. I'm now 6 months into no contact and i hear she is getting married next month. Listen, please don't waste your time, get in the gym, or do something productive to become the best version of yourself. Keep yourself busy and move on cuz life is short. You deserve to be happy. My life has changed recently & I feel great. I will never look back, you will get there too. Keep your head up.

[@jhaneasipin7612]

@@Xx__1 Thank you, and yes you're right.. sorry to hear that, but when I hear the word "Marriage" I lose hope. But I think your Ex will still talk to you, not now, but right now he is still in the honeymoon phase so maybe one day he will talk to you. In our case, our relationship lasted for 2 years and we broke up 5 times and he came back😌He leaves and comes back.. I always accept him because I love him but it seems he abused me since he knew I was soft hearted. and he knows I will forgive him. The last time we broke up, he left for the reason that he and his wife got back together since they were separated. I begged, of course I was hurt. But he explained that it was for the sake of their 2 children, so I accepted the break up. Then after 3 months, he reached out to my niece and sent money for my daughter and for me and we talked but of course he seemed like a different person since he was with his wife 😌I had no choice but to accept it. If I push, I will just be another woman in his life.

[@Xx__1]

@jhaneasipin7612 You're situation is similar to mine, they left for someone else. I was with her for 8 years. We split a few times duriing that period & got back together, but each time we got back, it was just that little bit more toxic as our bond was getting just that little bit more damaged each time. She took 1000's from me as I was financially supporting her too as she has kids, however as soon as i said I couldn't give any money as I was buying a home that was the end. She found a rich man with a business & decided that would be better for her and started a relationship with him & now they are getting married. I couldn't understand how someone could just switch off their feelings so suddenly and emotionally just invest into someone else over night & committed to a marriage? Its crazy. I could never do that. When I love I love 100%. All or nothing. Anyway I realised, she is never going to come back or contact me, unless that relationship/marriage ends or realises my value but to be honest, if someone treats you like that you shouldn't want them back. Would you do that to someone, or treat them like that? Why be with someone who don't respect you. It's been a few months of work but I feel amazing now, you just need to work on yourself, cut all communication and just move forward. Its hard but you can do it. With every hardship in life comes ease. There is always something in your life that's happening at the same time to be grateful for. Remember this saying, you will find success from it, I promise you. Its been my salvation

[@Xx__1]

@jhaneasipin7612 You're situation sounds similar to mine. They both left for someone else. I was with her for 8 years. We split several times during this period, but always back together, but each time we did it things were bit more toxic as each time our relationship would be just that little bit more broken each time. She took 1000's from me as I would financially support her as she had a few kids. One day I said I couldn't give any money as I was buying a new house & unfortunately that was the end of us. As soon as I said I couldn't, she went & found herself a rich businessman & started a new relationship with him. I couldn't understand how a person could stop loving someone and just recommit to another, invest themselves emotionally 100% and agree to marriage overnight? I could never do that. When I love its 100%, all or nothing. They will only come back if their relationship fails. You would just be a back up plan. To be honest i wouldnt want her back. I couldn't be with someone who is like that & you shouldn't either. We are better then a back up plan. I'm sure you wouldn't treat someone like that I know I wouldn't. Just cut all communication & try to forget them. I did that and feel amazing now. I've leveled up. I'm better then what I was 1 year ago. Just remember thru every hardship come ease. Whilst you have something difficult in your life ongoing there is also something happening in your life at the same time to be grateful for. Remember this & you will find success I'm sorry if I posted this twice I think I accidentally deleted it the first time

[@Xx__1]

@jhaneasipin7612 all my messages to you seem to be getting deleted 😐 Did you see my reply by any chance

[@ejgames8484]

I dont think she is coming back, its a situationship that didnt last long and she switched up out of nowhere and I chose to walk away. I really did see something with her though. Unfortunately I think she’s gone for good. With how it ended I cant be the one to reach out. And she hasnt reached out to me after about a month and a half give or take. It hurts but It is what it is. At this point I just want an apology. we had a good friendship and good chemistry. I guess I still hope she isnt the person her actions show her to be. But thats probably a fruitless hope. Probably for the best

[@Ivy89261]

It's been almost 2 years and I still have sad dreams about him. I always had the hope that he would just call and ask if we wanted to do something together... we have a child so we are always in touch a little and see each other sometimes. it hurts and I'm desperate 😢

[@clairefoxall2313]

How about if your ex asks to see you a year ago but you’re in a relationship but then that relationship ends & he asks if he can see you & asks if he can help you out around the house which is great he does jobs for you but he never wants to talk on the phone only txt you as they are most comfortable with this 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@becsilverio]

It's day 7 for me since our breakup. The odd thing is I'm still staying with my ex here in the apartment we're renting. It's not that easy to move out. And I just lost my job recently as well. So I hit rock bottom. 😢 don't know what to do.

[@reggiesanders2162]

🙏🏽

[@shaunghishing9965]

My gf broke up with me, but she doesn't want to say anything why she is leaving. She is telling me to move on, I'm guessing it's probably because of her ex. She use to tell me sometimes that her ex is begging and crying to be together. They were together till 2022 dated 4 months I'm guessing she is clearly lying coz i came to find out they were from same hometown and moved to different city for jobs. We've been together since 2023 march - 2024 may. And i wanted to ask the guy directly, if i have the answer then maybe i would be able to move forward. Would that be good?

[@staph1re378]

Hi Coach. I have a question about something you mentioned in the video at around the 4:00 mark. You said that they don't want to see us in pain. However, from watching your videos, I've noticed you've said several times that they actually want us to chase after them and be sad because it justifies their decision to leave. This allows them to see that the dumpee's life hasn't improved, reinforcing their belief that their decision was correct. Thanks.

[@blacademic]

Two different timelines, when they first dump you. It’s a hard enough conversation, they don’t want to see you crying, begging etc. as it just makes the conversation more difficult and uncomfortable But afterwards, days or weeks later they don’t want to see you just totally move on without grieving the loss of the relationship. It’s just human nature, we all to some extent want to feel like we matter

[@kay6816]

My ex is asking if am seeing anyone after 5 months of no contact

[@changlee4771]

What if i say to him its okay never mind take care on the road

[@ngr-nz5sb]

Hey Coach, hopefully you can give insight in this one: What if you were the rebound, and during no contact they went back to their ex? Ex was with her somewhere within the range of 6-8 months in early 2023. Moved in with him, he kicked her out due to insecurities. A few months later (August 2023), got into a relationship with me. We were going steady for about 8 months and cut it off this past April. They're a dismissive avoidant. I initially was willing to let it go but a day after got into a car accident and needed that emotional support, which followed was over a month of communicating still and trying to get them back. Last May I started moving into no contact. I gave minimal responses when they would "breadcrumb". Last month (June) I reached out twice (within a span of about one week per) with certain topics but not deep. They'd respond immediately, and were responsive- I would cut the conversations short to not drag them on. Found out they were starting to see their ex, and I confirmed this past week they're definitely seeing their ex regularly. It's been almost 2 weeks no contact. All in short- What's your take on being a rebound to a dismissive avoidant? I've heard others takes on it, I want to hear yours. Thanks, big love from Chi-town

[@roydied15]

This kinda happened to me, or at least I suspect its currently happening. I started dating a girl back in the beginning of may. To her credit, even on the first date, she told me that she "wasn't looking for anything super serious." At the same time, she started spending the night at my house during the week, usually once or twice a week and also spending every weekend as well and we'd usually see each other in some form every other night whether it was via facetime (which SHE initiated) or shed come over for dinner or a walk or something. We were absolutely doing "couple" things even down to going grocery shopping together, being intimate together (VERY frequently too), going to concerts and shows and taking her all over on the back of my bike. After almost three months of this dynamic, completely out of the blue, after professing how "amazing" i was and how well i treated her and how safe and seen and appreciated I made her feel, 48 hours after "love bombing" me with all those lines, she dropped me cold turkey and she did it via text. I IMMEDIATELY deactivated all my social media, like 2 hours after she dumped me. Then about 72 hours after that, went full NC and haven't looked back. With that said, my sister creeped her Instagram (didn't ask her to, but she did it anyway) and said my ex took down every single piece of evidence that her and I ever even knew each other. She didn't have any pics of me or us, but she had a few pics of my bike and other things we did together and she took all those off her profile and has pics of her and her ex from before me up, that were NOT up when her and I dated. I concluded that I was her rebound to try and get over her ex and I think she actually started to legitimately catch feelings for me and that's why she left, cause she wouldn't allow herself to actually fall for someone else when she wasn't over the last guy. The weird thing is, her and her ex live 1000 miles apart now and from what my sister said, they don't follow any of each others multiple social media accounts, whether personal pages OR business pages (they're both "business owners") Funniest thing is, my ex met me 3 months after leaving HER insecure, alcoholic ex (though they dated for 3 years and lived together for 2 of those 3 years). ANNNNDDDD I'm from Chicago too (well the west 'burbs hahahah).

[@teresatilley1324]

Great advice! Thank you!

[@florentinohernandez0]

Bro dripped out

[@shevellewaldron926]

My ex not coming back that man break up with me after 5 years and got married in two months and we was living together and have a 4 year child together and that man left and never look back it’s been 8 months

[@RaulGarcia-x5x]

Man I recently just got dumped I really hope you reply back to me, she would check up on me and I would want to get right then there, I would cheat and be abusive. I start going to mentally therapy this Monday and now I just really wanna get back with her all my past relationships I never knew who to give space but now I’m willing to change myself and not go to alcohol or drugs and not stay the same cause I dont wanna blow it if I get another chance my birthday is coming up in three weeks and we was together for almost three years

[@blacademic]

You sound very needy even in your comment and full of fear. The feelings are valid but you need to work on the things you said you would work on and stop worrying too much

[@Jasmine-eo9fo]

Do you think him putting a clapping emoji like this 👏🏾 on one of my insta story posts is him reaching out or trying to interact? Even though it’s not a regular text or call?

[@MrMoet]

A breadcrumb imo

[@allexleyrandmusic]

What happens if someone texts you on your birthday? Should I respond or what? I need some advice, please.

[@teeronn866]

But coach what if we like F that yo!! Since me and my ex broke up I got a 5 chic rotation. I don’t think Im ever going back… head daily.. not arguing and fighting and the vibes I’m having is lit…. F my ex!!!!

[@asowatanabe2131]

HAPPY INDEP3NDENCE DAY !!!

[@cocopoulin936]

thank you coach for a long form video ♥

[@Sllihulkgaming]

Im slowly fading away. Oh well i have to do somethin good for her all i need is a closure i have no idea whts the reasons why she ended our relationship

[@tricia4075]

Hi Coach Blac, Do you still do 1 on 1 sessions?

[@Mxrow]

Hey coach blac noticed my ex uploads Instagram stories now that I stopped uploading mine. Is it just a coincidence. She used to watch them all the time and I feel like she stopped watching them to get me to react so I stopped uploading stories to my page. I don't look at hers ever so have no idea what she's sharing. Been no contact for a while now

[@georgecarrera18]

Bro I'm emotionally drained I miss her she's not like others I know many say that but it truly was spiritually sent But bro I am ready to give up on everything life fuckin sucks I'm tired of falling down and drinking my emotions to feel better I'm not a drunk but when it gets really bad I tend to drink on purpose

[@shawny979]

Hey Coach, Can you Talk about Limerance and falling in love with someone in a Month, 2 Months? That's what my Ex is in with someone he's met. How's does that even happen?

[@crumbocrumbo887]

I really need a session but this economy doesn't allow me to afford it. Is there a payment plan?

[@ClancySayce]

The message needs expanding. Am just getting the same content repackaged. A bit like a relationship that needs ending really.

[@shawny979]

He Monkeybranched, but wished me a Happy Birthday. What's up with that?

[@michellereasee861]

I haven't seen him we chat brief I told him free me but he want say nothing but I'm lost for words

[@demetriocelocia5545]

Hello coach she break up with my ex on my birthday April. And now she seeing my our boss what do you recommend please can i still get back with me?

[@demetriocelocia5545]

@EdwardChan-k9u how?

[@MuadDib_]

What if it's not clear who dumped who?

[@Vondohavin]

I cheated during our break and the relationship was toxic 2 years I begged and pleaded until I was blocked on everything including cashapp… then within a week I seen her hanging with another guy outside her parents house lol. I exploded and it turned out bad her dad came outside and everything. Then she told me we’d never be back right after I did that. Now this was Father’s Day weekend 24 as of today July 6th she already has this man’s 2 kids in her bio on Facebook. I was strung along until the night I showed up and snapped on them btw. And not to mention the guy she’s with is a known abuser around town and has been arrested for beating the mother of his kids. Is this a rebound? Because before I snapped I brought her flowers 2 times and we sat outside her house and talked for 2 hours one day I just need to know. I mean my breaking point was the kids in the bio but I just want to know for sure what you guys think

[@Vondohavin]

Also the last time I asked her would we ever be anything in the future she said she didn’t really know right now, I just feel like since I treated you that badly in the relationship it would’ve been a straight up no. This was after I snapped and she said we wouldn’t ever get back together

[@Vondohavin]

Also the last time I asked her would we ever be anything in the future she said she didn’t really know right now, I just feel like since I treated you that badly in the relationship it would’ve been a straight up no. This was after I snapped and she said we wouldn’t ever get back together. Not to mention this girl is 21 years old in her first long term relationship outside of high school and the first thing she does is goes and gets with a guy with 2 kids that she doesn’t know beats his women is insane🤣🤣🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️but I guess she’ll figure it out sooner or later. She literally told me he makes her feel better than I did and that was within a week of them talking… she got me fucked up. I know I messed up but she’s only hurting herself more honestly. Cuz she definitely hasn’t healed but when things get bad with them she’s gonna be fuckeddddd

[@Zombie101]

​@@Vondohavinsounds like you need to grow up a bit too ngl

[@archangelelmo]

Have your ex ever reach out to you???

[@Vondohavin]

@ yea it was pointless now she’s gone again it’s honestly best to move on til they reach and actually want a relationship again

[@Chiffon-mv1gw]

Thank you Black 🥺🥺🥺

[@Hoo_huu]

I have no interest having them back lol

[@CarlaJayne-jc5qz]

You must be a little because your watching this video 😅

[@k1ortia]

Who cares, my new flex is pure fire...and totally different. Wish I met her before my ex..😉

[@blacademic]

🙏

[@HSSTV1312]

Strange seeing you here watching this video and even taking your time to comment on it. When you have a new "flex" who is pure fire. Do you watch it together with your new flex?

[@audunique6905]

@@HSSTV1312😂 TRUTH

[@XxNegative1]

☠️😂​@@HSSTV1312

[@babyluvjr]

​@HSSTV1312 thats a good question pimpin....I agree

[@miahfleming8246]

What if my wife has been reaching out to me since day one of the break up she is with another man but still engages in conversation and sex what do I do

[@blacademic]

Why allow that? You are being a backup to your own wife

[@scorpiored3871]

❤Very helpful, thank you ❤

[@SheedMoney141]

My ex recently broke up with me I did the no contact rule 5 day’s later she reached out to me but we had a trip planned she stilll said she wants to date me and go on the trip my friends told me dead her I want to reconcile what do I do

[@lavendaabwao6683]

Coach I meet someone 3months ago everything has been going well but I noticed he’s been pulling away so we meet and I asked him what was happening and he said that he knows I’m good for him, he likes me a lot he wants to be with me but he feels the pressure from my side I asked how he said he’s afraid of disappointing me since I’m a nice lady. I asked him if he needs space he said yes but not long term space. I gave him the space but he’s been texting me off and on. He told me he’s afraid because his previous relationship his x was more in masculine energy and he was in feminine energy and he was just tagging along. So i don’t know what I should do because im confused if I should just move on and forget about him though i like him. We had good time together in those 3months.

[@blacademic]

Leave him alone, he is wasting your time. This is how situationships are born. He’s not interested in building anything serious

[@MrMoet]

Seems like he’s seeing someone else.

[@mariarincon6978]

Trust me, they ALWAYS come back; every time they do so, you get a different version of them. It’s exhaustingly confusing and so not worth the time nor the energy. RUN!

[@eustacesmith9635]

Thanks very much coach

[@ogdeuce4934]

what it mean when somebody leave you over food though

[@Tzoptzoptimi]

How to do when we still live together

[@gravischick24au]

Im in the same boat as you! My ex broke up with me while she was overseas, maintained NC which lasted for 12 days and has asked me to pick her up from the airport in a few weeks time and I said I would

[@gravischick24au]

And I was the one who initiated to contact her

[@audrey4150]

Ugh two weeks ago was the break up and he blocked me :(

[@teeronn866]

I don’t even respond when she break no contact .. Im either on the phone with one of my new shorties or on my way to their house … that p falling out the sky!!!