WHY Your EX Can't HELP BUT SECRETLY Watch YOU During NO CONTACT Even WHEN They are SILENT

[@juliannevarez9615]

This is 100% true! she left me 10month ago.....I never contacted her. Started finally investing into my self. I'm down 46lbs getting mentally and physically stronger. I've always known my worth, I'm just raising the value of it now. THANK YOU Coach. your videos have help me through my journey. Much Love, Much Respect.

[@OnderHassan]

I honestly don’t care if she returns at this point nor do I want her back. She made her bed and can now sleep in it.

[@tanishatalley3313]

Definitely agree with u❕

[@Lilly77711]

True same here

[@johndoe5432]

Same vibes here, I take immense glee knowing the cheater watches every single one of my ig reels almost immediately. She cheated, if she wants forgiveness she can come crawling back.

[@bpoydras1503]

Thanks. I needed this. My ex ain’t even on greener grass. She’s over there on Astro Turf.

[@blacademic]

lol that’s funny. Stay strong bro

[@deselby6669]

Dats gonna burn her knees bro..

[@terrell5535]

astro turf is insane😂

[@jennifercrane1099]

Awwwe naw, not the astroturf! 🤣

[@kentrellselders123abc]

@@terrell5535😂😂😂 damn

[@mvpfireant5188]

Coach… I just got my first breadcrumb. Before this happened I used to listen to your videos and be like “obviously I’m not going to reach out just because of a view on my Instagram story” BOY DO I GET IT NOW. It felt like I got punched in the chest when I saw she viewed my story. Jesus man. I thought I would have no reaction but I now understand why people react when they get breadcrumbs. Thank god I watched so many of your videos and will not be caving

[@cpe1704tks.]

"The grass is only greener where you water it." That is such a succinct and profound statement.

[@leejames9999]

Yoooo 2 years later she calls me complaining how miserable her life is and that she single with a Kid now. This is mind blowing 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

[@kumo4410]

What was her reason why? I just had a girl break up wit me even when I met her family

[@ahmadelshbasy3222]

What was the reason ? And any updates ?

[@kumo4410]

@@ahmadelshbasy3222 Was typing but okay.. I just think it’s best we part ways. I’m not ready for a relationship as i was thinking and it threw me off how you were on your phone the whole trip you came down to see me and u didn’t pay for my meal but was quick to get the bill and dip when ur phone rang every time. I just feel like if you had the respect for me, whoever was calling you. You could’ve told them you would text them, but instead you answered every single time. It turned me off big time. I just think we aren’t meant for eachother tbh. I do wish you the best and hope you find your person tbh. And keep in mind I told her that I had to answer a phone call from my aunt and I was done eating and so was her stepdad. This is what she said

[@kumo4410]

Which isn’t a legitimate reason and she’s been blocking and unblocking me about 3 times. Still blocked and worst part. She’s in my hometown for vacation for the rest of the week which we were supposed to hang out for her mom’s birthday… still has me blocked on every single app, but I know if she still here till Friday

[@Gbb93]

She’s for the streets anyway

[@RS-hz1yi]

my fiance left me 3 years ago. she called me 3 months ago pouring her heart out. she has a bum husband and baby with him. I never imagined she would come back and in the way she came back. no contact works. I worked on my self. got fit. bought a second house. and got better job. hang in there brothers. you will get your day in the sun. it might take years but keep plowing forward. dont let a woman break you

[@Stella-e2f8k]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@Callahan-w8j]

This advice assumes the grounds for them breaking up with you were not that serious. If things were toxic and there was emotional abuse, neglect, infidelity, addiction etc.-If they ever do come back, it will be for two reasons. Firstly, the attempts at finding another lifelong partner failed (this will have to happen first as much as it stings), and second, they see you in a new light and change their perspective and emotional orientation toward you. If the breakup was amicable and there were no substantial issues and they just felt bored or made an impulsive decision, your chances are much greater. Proceed with the mindset that your goal is to OUTGROW your ex. You want to get to the point where in 2-3 years, when you look them up or see them at a party or bar, you aren't emotionally triggered or even that attracted to them because the women you now date are more beautiful, smarter, fitter, less emotionally broken etc. The path to victory lies within you but you must make it a reality. Let the pain and grief of the breakup be your fuel for evolution.

[@diaryofseresha]

What if my man says to me reason he can't be with me at present cuz he can't give me no time n won't be able to put energy into me due to his current life circumstances n family issues? He told me all of this after ghosting me whole 2 months, then revealing to me his reasons that why we should be together But funny thing in my heart he knows he my soulmate n my husband n so does he, He says i'm his soulmate but then why this separation? Why tf would he leave me :/

[@Callahan-w8j]

@@diaryofseresha If your goal is to get him back, the best thing you can do is also the hardest thing. You have to let him go and start No Contact. No texts, calls, social media messaging etc. It will hurt like hell, and you will obsess over him for weeks and months. But after enough time, you will start to grow a thicker skin and it will get easier. For whatever reason, he lost attraction to you and the relationship and you can't control that. Ghosts him, show strength, don't respond if he tries to breadcrumb you and you will grow and get him back down the road. Trust me. Chasing, begging and waiting will never bring him back. And if he does come back soon, he'll leave you again. Start now. Good luck.

[@Brittany12579]

Whenever I feel like texting him I just watch another one of your videos. 😂Thanks Coach!

[@blacademic]

lol got you!

[@Moriar7y]

Me too

[@islandboi6398]

Frfr!!

[@artastic7837]

Omg same ❤

[@dougherty8732]

me tooo! Them videos gv energy and strong resistance/urge to reach out! 1yr + 3 months strong...ein moving an INCH...

[@thokozanimbambo50]

Success story here. Ex left 9 months ago after an 8 year relationship with a 4 year old son involved. Her family suggested that she change numbers and not communicate with me, so she can explore. She than made contact with my aunt as she believed I would not like to communicate with her, finally could not hold herself and requested a meeting with me last week. She told me how life has been without me, she even quit school just before her final exam. We are fixing things and we are taking it one-day at a time. TRUST ME NO CONTACT DOES WORK, just stay positive and work on yourself.

[@J__007]

Life is so short. Hope y’all rekindle things. And ride into the sunset together.

[@thokozanimbambo50]

@@J__007 thank you

[@thejuiceisloose6133]

How did you deal with communication with a child involved ? I’m going through this myself and we have a 1 year old daughter . She left me and moved out of state to her parents house

[@marcelwilliams1970]

Im going for the 6th month now . she started watching my stories , but no other form of engagement. I am not sure if she has moved on, but what i noticed on her fb account that she deleted all our pictures ,yet still have a picture of the 2 of us on her previous profile picture. I am confused but i can see how no contact works. I am forever grateful to you Coach. I have a feeling that I will have a success story 😊. if not ill be okay since im busy leveling up. I would like to link up with you coach. She has a daughter that was my baby for 4 years and its killing me .

[@mcnohammer2927]

@@thejuiceisloose6133 I’m in this boat as well. I hired a lawyer and a court order is being setup to bring my child back to the state where we were living.

[@ryanhill7461]

I was banished to another state after she decided to call it off, all because I lost a great Job and could not contribute anymore for months. 7 months later I'm now VP of Sales with a side business. I gained 10 pounds of muscle and I want her to know soooooo bad. I was a great step father to a son that was not even mine that I helped raise from 7 to 12. I'm still in pain and angry. Thank you for these videos.

[@LeoJr-rk4km]

She'll never forget you brother 🙏

[@lakiamcdaniel]

Congrats on your growth and evolution.🙏🏾

[@MJJspeaks]

@ryanhill7461 … you’re back in charge my man. You’re on the up and there’s a better woman out there for you who’ll treat you right.

[@ProteinP_tm]

Blessings your way

[@ryanhill7461]

@ProteinP_tm Thank you my brotha!

[@13sprintuser]

"Live the best life after your breakup even though it hurts you." "You want someone who fights WITH YOU for the relationship." Amen!! Thanks for the encouragement to continue with NC coach!! She reached out a few weeks ago only for something she needed from me. I asked for us to hang out, initially she said yes, and when a bit later I specified a specific day, she ignore that part of the text. Back to NC! 4 months since we broke up.

[@OpulentLight1]

He's in rebound 15 months and STILL watching stories every single day.

[@sorin_ion8151]

This is true , no contact is about you finding your strenght and your peace , is not about them anymore.

[@daliasmith3230]

It’s been 10 months.. I deleted him from Facebook months ago. He blocked me after he noticed I blocked him. I noticed he unblocked me in February. I also noticed he still uses my phone number when he goes to grocery store to get discounts. Why won’t he just get his own discount card? In the meantime I’ve been working out for the past 6 months and I also got a new job making a lot more money. I truly still miss him and love him..

[@jonthomson9262]

I'm assuming he dumped you??

[@nephewslim]

She found someone else and I found myself. I’m good on her. ✌🏾

[@NatashaEllis-tf8vd]

💪🏾💯💯

[@makingmajic1938]

Stay strong and carry on

[@JodGee]

I didnt realize people were hurting and experienced such deep agony from anywhere everywhere. I thought I was the only one but really a challenge we all have to undergo to purposely for our growth. "I asked for all things that I might enjoy life, I was given life that I might enjoy all things" Life is not a joke it's the real thing!

[@makingmajic1938]

Innthe words.of Dumbledore paraphrasing although we come from different lands and speak in different toungs are hearts beat as one

[@annsumrall2593]

I took mine back after 7 weeks of no contact when he dumped me. I went back here i am a month now heartbroken again he broke up again. What the hell is wrong with this man and why on earth do i still love him

[@MrsSladojevci]

the same happened to me! the second time after I took him back. :( im so f°ucking heartbroken. I can´t believe it! :(

[@remorsev6451]

Day 40 of no contact today. She’s spiraling I think. We work together. But she’s gaining weight, looking like she looks after herself less and she’s good with taking pride in her appearance. I feel her glow fading. I still care for her and I do love her still. But it’s best we don’t reconnect even though she left me. I’m moving countries to triple my income. Sorry to my first love but you made a heart wrenching decision. If anyone in my girls position reads this, just know that you could’ve played your cards correctly without the emotional pain to make and maybe have worked things out. Stay strong team 💪🏾💯

[@acewisdom6]

My ex was playing hard to get back. Resentments in the first stages of the breakup… now she’s my queen 😅, again!! Thanks brother

[@13sprintuser]

how long did it take to get her back, and how did it happen? Curious.

[@MrDemile]

Never take an ex back she gonna leave

[@acewisdom6]

@@13sprintuser just act like you don’t care… don’t feed your ego. It took 3 months

[@acewisdom6]

@@MrDemile I respectfully disagree

[@kingtruth9228]

Yeah I played my cards wrong lmao. I went 4 months dating and working on getting back with her. Then an argument broke off and now these past 4 months it’s been distant and finally I’m on 2 weeks of no contact. 2 1/2 year relationship followed by an 8 month circus. @aceniq

[@shalupoddar06]

Thank you for your guidance, I followed no contact, and after 11 months of no contact, my ex came back with commitment. I used to watch your video when ever I was feeling anxious and restlessness. U motivated me to be the better version of my self.

[@Champ1988]

They're always questioning their decision. Especially women. Most times, they wanna validate that they made the right move. Due to hypergamy, they will almost always come back if you're doing better than when they were with you.

[@jonthomson9262]

Your ex shouldn't even know how your doing. It's none of her business. And for her to even try to come back to you after dumping you,is disrespectful. She is actually assuming she has the option of coming back. Lol 😂😅

[@pskmorris]

In my experience it's the men that tend to come back, women less so.

[@jonthomson9262]

@@pskmorris how would you know that.......from your personal experience????

[@bpoydras1503]

@@pskmorris I literally have NEVER not had an ex come back to me. In fact, just this Tuesday I saw one of my ex’s from 2 years ago. She got me all drunk, and we did it in the back seat of her new car in the parking lot of the bar. 😮 No Cap!

[@pskmorris]

@@jonthomson9262 Yes, and that of friends, all anecdotal of course.

[@CassieCummings-mx3bj]

He broke up with me 7 months ago. I cried for months and was in so much pain. I went no contact with no intentions of getting back with him. He finally broke contact this morning.

[@J__007]

Had a dream about her that felt so real. Man I woke up so anxious and sad! I’m so hurt. My soul is not at rest. I almost reached out. I hope she’s ok.

[@benitoflorencio4057]

Don’t reach out man ! Time will heal, trust the process.

[@jonthomson9262]

Assume that she is doing well. NO CONTACT

[@blacademic]

Do not break man!

[@laceyloops]

I know it's hard to hear this but stop wondering if she's okay and make sure you’re okay by doing things you love and focus on your goals. What put us in this situation in the first place is overfocusing on our partners needs and underfocusing on ours

[@georgelincolnrockwell3966]

Unless you saw an obituary notice just assume she’s fine… no contact

[@guywithahelmet9597]

Doubt it. My ass isn’t on social media anymore. I deactivated my IG and TikTok off my phone. She ain’t seeing shit lol

[@shani.ninety]

Honestly glad I don’t have social media the way my ex stalks me he’d never be off my pages 😂😂 kills them when they can’t see your movements!!

[@bpoydras1503]

lol I have fb and Insta, but haven’t posted anything new in months. She can let the rabbit run wild in imagination on that one. Silence is golden.

[@ebonyjet9249]

That part!!!!

[@fuzzypanda1684]

Same. But even back when I did, no ex ever looked at any of my posts. Some guys are just living on Easy mode and think that your ex missing you, thinking about you, or watching you is normal. The rest of us know that none of that ever happens.

[@MrRoadromeo]

7th month of np contact now , going strong 😅🙌😊

[@mina8XO]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@dockz-jr1lh]

Bro you might as well stop thinking about it and stop counting how long it has been. 7th month no contact stop thinking about it and just move on. You haven't moved on you're killing yourself thinking for 7 months and counting it.

[@generalhospital4790]

Calmest Coach Ever 👍🏻

[@fuzzypanda1684]

The way he talks as though it's a given that they'll reach out or contact you after dumping you...I wish I lived in that world. I deleted my social media apps years ago, so I can confirm that none of my ex's are "definitely" watching me. They dumped me and immediately moved on, probably to never think about me again. And sometimes they are on greener grass. You know because she invited him out with you and made you watch as she started ignoring you and started paying more and more attention to him throughout the night. Made you watch as she playfully touched him, and gave him "the look". Then she leaves you the next day. It's like she wants you to see that she's leaving you for someone better just to dig the knife deeper.

[@marguskiis7711]

So women do.

[@EJspeaks2u]

This was very instrumental to me. I was at my Lowest I’ve ever been, When I look back I know the best thing for me was to STOP living THE LIE and deal with my TRUTH and to know I’m so much more than what I was accepting. THANK YOU!

[@wesleyjgibson]

Married 13 years, I lost my job of 10 years and hit some bad depression, she took off and sent me a txt she wants a divorce.. refused counseling and we have been in no contact for 2 weeks now.. at this point it breaks my heart but I don't want her back anymore, the lack of emotional maturity is to risky to get back into, she will do it again.

[@wellwateredwoman897]

I literally become a stronger woman in 48 hours after binge watching your videos. I got ghosted/dumped by my ex about a month ago and I feel like I could careless now....THANK YOU!! 👏

[@MsJan1968]

I deleted social media he was on - was hurtful seeing him post pics of him and new gf on holiday etc.. there were so many!! 10mths on I feel so much better and now moving from city to countryside for new beginnings. He did reach out in the beginning of NC but didn't reach out to him. Time out and reflection is a great thing. Excited to be going into a new chapter. Love to you all ❤

[@nikkicole4909]

I loved this outcome!🥰

[@eddieevans2212]

To be honest, I'm facing that situation right now. It's betrayal. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to let the person you love see on his/her own that he/she has made the wrong choice in letting you go.

[@lixiaoxuan8223]

Stay no contact. I felt the same 3 weeks ago when he broke up with me, but he reached out less than 3 weeks. I chose to stay silent for my personal growth since I am not ready to talk to him yet. I am sure that person who left you would reach out at some point. Focus on yourself now, time will heal you.

[@eddieevans2212]

@@lixiaoxuan8223 The best thing I'm learning to do is let the person I love see on their own that they made a wrong decision.

[@tyjohnson17]

I will definitely give my Ex another chance six years together I just cannot give up on her right now we have a good history and good times and I really hope she’s secretly watching me so she and I’ll be waiting come back home baby we’re in this together! ✨♥️✨

[@gwendolyndickey2117]

You are truly gifting people with your videos. Being an older woman, I know it has taken a lifetime to get the knowledge you are giving in your videos. The funny part is now dealing with older "seasoned" individuals, I finally know my power and worth. Trust me, the games never stop. In some cases it gets harder because of life experiences. Knowledge is power.😏

[@willemhanse762]

With this advice here maybe it's best to protect your Peace.

[@johanesmanga]

My gf broke up with me a month ago. She has someone new but she still wants to be with me. She still tells me that she's going to be with me but she wants to enjoy this time on her own first. She tells me when the time is right, she'll come back. I'm so confused so what can I do?

[@Linda-bd1uz]

Dude leave her! You are better than that! Your right person is going to respect you and won’t hurt you.

[@PedroLMariano4]

Man, I have to compliment you! I was addicted to your videos a while ago! Now I'm just back with my ex and enjoying the relationship! But my compliment is about your looks! I noticed you started dressing more seriously and this is really important to your channel because it matches much better the seriousness of the subjects that you are dealing and gives you a more mature and professional look!

[@TheDreadhead10]

My ex broke up with me, and I was really hurt because I did everything for her. Whenever she needed something, I was there for her. I supported her when she was feeling down. Before I came into her life, she was struggling. However, she left me a week before my birthday. I started the no-contact rule, and lately, when I've seen her, she's been looking stressed. Also, we didn't fight or argue; we were so chill with each other which made it easier for both of us. Her reasoning as to why she left is because she felt like her life wasn't progressing, and she felt the relationship wasn't moving forward.

[@marguskiis7711]

So the females do.

[@TheDreadhead10]

@ what do you mean?

[@marguskiis7711]

@@TheDreadhead10 They have no sense and morals. They act evil. Most of them.

[@ChristinePosselt]

Your videos are savning my life. I had a break down when my ex suddenly wanted a divorce. I was begging him to stay and he said some really nasty things about me. Now Im in no contact, taking care of myself, my job as a psychologist and our child. He is suddenly sweet but I wont take him back. Hell no!

[@rulonjjj]

My ex left, slept with 10+ guys, moved in with a child predator and looked me in the eye and said “I did it to hurt you.” After her bf got arrested she tried to come back. 😂😂😂😂😂. Hell no

[@bipbop7231]

Hi Coach! You’re looking great. My thoughts are….hell can freeze over before I’d take them back. My life is better without them. I’m not bitter. I’m wiser.

[@jonthomson9262]

If you have treated a woman reasonably well,and not cheated.......then her leaving is a form of disloyalty.

[@bipbop7231]

@@jonthomson9262 are you a relationship coach? My guess is NO. Thanks for your two cents worth.

[@blacademic]

That’s the point, you get to choose! Either way, happy for you

[@patriziastella6564]

I needed to hear this thankyou, i am receiving messages every couple of months. Him asking me how i am, wishing me all the best & telling he misses me i know its all fake. I didnt respond back so then when he dosnt get what he wants he comes back saying it would me nice to hear from you. In the relationship i gave him multiple chances but he made not effort in changing so i walked away. Dont care for me now when he couldnt care when i walked away.

[@naukumaija7056]

Coach, I'm struggling today. It hurts my heart to never speak to him again. He unprivated his insta one month to the day of our breakup. Posted insta stories, I'm not even on insta, I've deactivated my two accounts just to take time for myself. So he posted a WhatsApp update. I thought he would've hidden those from me, or deleted me from his contacts, so I was surprised to see the update. I didn't watch that either. He changed his profile photo to a picture of an outfit mirror selfie he sent me on the day we were supposed to meet in April. I can't tell of these a breadcrumbs, or if I'm being delusional. I'm not watching his things though, it hurts too much. I won't speak to him, I have nothing to say. I'm just so confused. I miss him.

[@Stella-e2f8k]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@amareu3133]

I'm going through this now but it was a short-term close friendship breakup. And this helps me understand the behavior I've observed from them. They must be feeling deep regret and pain.

[@eileendom5858]

This is very encouraging. It is almost a year and I was beginning to feel bad again, but this video gave me a boost to keep silent and continue to heal and enjoy what I’m enjoying in my life. I can’t complain. I think he is watching me but I won’t try to find out. Plus I want to prepare in case he tries again. Which 3 times is enough. Not wanting a 4th try. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@goldenlifelove7251]

I blocked him everywhere the month after he discarded me. He can still see me in our mutual friend's pictures, but he was in a new relationship very soon after he ended things with me. He was seeing her & me at the same time. I highly doubt he's thinking about or watching me. Not that it's any of my business, he's probably happy, engaged or close to it. I've made my peace w/ the fact that we're strangers now & always will be. I'm still healing & have moved my lufe forward in so many positive ways.

[@sashaharvey1963]

@Coach Blac that color looks good on you

[@blacademic]

🙏

[@LorenaBerrenbaum]

Yes, I noticed that too.

[@victorianorris1916]

Oh that’s why when I see him he’s dancing with other people watching me even my friends telling me this!! Living my Best Life!! Great video it sure did encourage me thank you Coach!!

[@cryptnick_]

Well, good luck, hun. I have left all social media and pulled myself away from him. There‘s no one he could ask either. IF he wants to know anything, he needs to man up and contact me directly. But I know he won‘t. And after how he treated me, I‘m not unhappy about that.

[@TROUBLESOMEAGUILARTV]

I got dumped ,she wouldn't answer the same day she dumped me i called more than 50 times in a row i decided to just accept it and block her on whatsapp and Facebook. She blocked me on tiktok and noticed that she unblocked me 3 days later so i blocked her now.. shes now trying to reach my mother and tell my mom anything she needs she'll be there for her.. after telling me she doesn't ever want me back.. like why the heck would you reach out to my mom . Tbh I dont know if i want her back for that type of weird games and immaturity. Its been a week .

[@saragirardini3981]

My situation is different. After one year of longdistance relationship (3 hs train to reach each other), both with ex partners and sons, he told me he see himself as single, and can't see any future because he needs daily life story. So I decided to break up and cancelled my last trip to him. He has totally disappeared, ignoring me from that day. No one word, nothing. I told him I think he doesn't love me.. no reaction. We spent a wondegul year and now all is gone. I'm stuck and broken. He was ennoyed during our last final conversation. He is such a stubborn person, he is in ager now. He will never come back, I know

[@justinoaguilar2438]

This so true my girl call it off after two years she help me get my truck out my credit suck I work in it while I was with her I was paying the rent and the car note by me paying the car note her credit when up to 750 and because she heard a friend saying that I was taking advantage of her she left me. But this is very true. Thank you for the video.

[@04drjoseph2000]

Thanks for always supporting and giving the information ❤

[@amyrowe8014]

This is Exactly why I do NOT go look nope 👎

[@ntswakimashabela1002]

Coach I honestly feel like you are my daily dose of black coffee with no sugar of course. You taught me no contact last year june when I started watching your videos on tiktok. I had no idea what no contact meant. Little did I know God connected me with your content to prepare me what was ahead. This year January I experienced a terrible life threatening break up, Same week I lost my job, my kids couldn't go to school, no one was there for me except God and you. I was in my Job season...but your videos gave me so much support and strength. It was hardest thing I have ever experienced. Even though I wanted to sign up and book a session with you so bad, unfortunately I was broke. But subscribing to your channel and watching your videos saved me. Thank you so much Ntswaki from South Africa

[@iusman27]

Thanks! My Nigerian bother! You doing good work!

[@blacademic]

Thanks bro 🤞🏿

[@NK-ek3kt]

Success story! I’m so happy now I’m back with my ex husband and we’re a family again. I did NC and he was In another rebound relationship , I kept looking good distancing myself and it all worked out for me. He realised the grass isn’t greener and I was always going to be on top

[@larsalexanderlarsen4377]

Honestly, she is ignoring me if I want to talk things through, even with no expectations to reconcile things and me now wanting us to go our seperate ways. She respond to every and any other topic tho. So I wrote her "you are making it obviously clear tho, lol. You are not willing to communicate and talk us towards the end. So its pretty clear you still feel something and dont want things to end 😌😆" Its probably going to piss her off even more and make her pull away completely now, but making and sending that message to her did make me laugh a bit and smile. But hey, if she end up pulling away completely now it will give closure and we both get to end this chapter for good

[@alexzietz]

My guys.. remember. 11 min in. "Out of my control, out of my control. One more time out of my control" clap your hands as you do this

[@LoveEndures7]

He took me forgranted 18 yrs and tried to destroy me, then purposely did a reverse discard making me break up with him. I ended up at a domestic violence shelter. He's now listening to sappy breakup songs on his KZbin: "Try Losing One" - Tyler Braden "What Could've Been" - Gone West "Fix You" - Cold Play "Let Go Breakup Voicemail Poetry"

[@taylorgordon4920]

This is so true my ex watch all my stories on snap and hit me up recently saying she apologize that she wanst feminine enough and that she wanna go out to eat and to a hotel mind you I don’t hit her up at all I only smashed her two years ago after our breakup and left her alone mind you she was in a whole relationship

[@KarinaMoel]

Hallo from Indonesia! One of the best channel really, thank you for all the videos it help me a lot going through my situation.. you speak very clearly and not too fast so i can understand.. and btw your pink shirt match with gold accesories is the best outfit of all the videos 😊

[@blacademic]

Thank you, I appreciate it. I’m glad you find the videos helpful

[@KarinaMoel]

I wonder maybe someone like you who understand so much about these relationship issues im sure you have a very happy relationship with your partner.. God bless you coach, ill wait for new video

[@florimar26]

The last time I talked to my ex he told me that I should stop sending him messages because I was hurting myself. I told him I really tried to keep him in my life but that I wasn’t gonna die if he was not on it anymore. He just said that he was so happy that I saw life that way and that we didn’t depend on each other anymore. 😢

[@PB-md3nt]

Let her go....She will have to live with the fact that she let someone that cared about her slip through her fingers. Day 37 of NC here, I know they say the window is 45-60 days that they reach out but I really don't care anymore. I honestly don't.

[@Gainsforeal]

You do care otherwise you wont be counting the days

[@cotyburke5188]

@@Gainsforeal🤣

[@PB-md3nt]

@@Gainsforeal I do that to hold me accountable to not reach out. I honestly don't care

[@remorsefulleader]

It has been almost 2 years. We have 3 kids together, which live with me 1700 miles away from their mom. I have had several ladies interested, but the idea just feel wrong, dirty, and totally disrespectful to my kids and family in general. I am super angry inside about it, and my ex is the type of girl that meets a lot of people, especially other "boys", calls them her friends instantly, and hangs out with them a lot. I concentrate on taking care of my kids, my fitness, and only allow select few into my circle and call them my friends. I take full accountability for being a d bag, but now she is not being a good mom. The embers still burn in my feelings for her, but I do relate to a wild lion when rogue males come around. I am very protective of my kids around other males, and can't turn off the switch, even for my ex. I moved for several reasons, but a huge reason is because I was ready for war. I love my kids so much, and the memory of my ex and full family, I feel really incomplete without her by my side raising our children together

[@kathleenconlon9717]

Your videos have given me so much clarity and therefore released a lot of compulsive anxiousness then being able to focus more on myself, thank you for the work that you do

[@YvetteZapien]

If my ex has no social media or way to know how I'm doing would that just keep him curious? I have found this video helpful. 🙏 A lot of your other videos have helped me as well.

[@LorenaBerrenbaum]

Hi Coach my ex dump me via text, i go no contact right away, he contacted 3 times then on 43th day of no contact i agreed him to come and ask him to bring my things i left in his apartment. Then i said, hes behaviour is big turn off and break my boundary big time. No contact and im getting stronger everyday.. Whats even more turn off is he acts like im here waiting for him to come back.. i bend my boundaries a lot in the past. I cannot continue to be with such emotionaly unavailable that runs away every time things gets uncomfortable without me knowing. Never ever..

[@mjay5222]

What about if you were the one that broke up with them? I felt i was doing most of the effort, and she was giving me signs that she was not interested in the relationship anymore. When I did that she only said you are right, it seems like we lost the spark. So that confirmed my thoughts. I think we ended up in this situation because long distance caused neediness from my side. Does no contact work in this case? I am hoping that will reset things, to see if the possibility of losing you will cause them to want to appreciate what they had and want to get back and put in the effort.

[@kelisawhite9294]

IT man watching me keep watching hopefully all of you can learn something just by watching because I’m watching too 😮

[@brandonmontemayor8178]

I see videos of like “signs your ex is hurting in no contact” and it confuses me. I have no idea about my ex, I love her dearly but no contact is no contact, I know nothing about her. I don’t look her up, don’t ask about her, don’t talk about her. It’s just that. I’m gone. I’m sure she creeps on me I feel it in my gut and I see things but I really know nothing and don’t care if she sees me. I’m good, my life is great I’m so happy and content with how and where I am. Met someone new after a long time and we’ve been just kicking it and knowing eachother. I’m a stranger, my ex doesn’t know me.

[@Stella-e2f8k]

My dear, I understand how you feel about your situation but I’m still going to tell you that this is not the end of time, because so many of us especially we the ladies. So many of us lie in bed and scroll through social media after a breakup. They want to see their ex, check in on what they're doing, and maybe even do a little spying. But absolutely none of that is helpful. I’m still going to still explain more to you about my situation with my man is a long story but I’m still going to cut it short to your understanding my dear. I was in a relationship with my man for the past 6 years and both of us were planing for the marriage and both of us were excited about that, but one day he left home a came home late and he was angry and I asked him what is wrong he didn’t answer me I was so confused about that he suddenly changed at that moment and the next statement to comes out of his mouth I’m not interested anymore I was dying inside me at that moment and he left me just like that and move to another state. I was crying because it really hurts but I was still having this mindset that everything is going to work out for me. And one faithful day I came across a video on the KZbin channel tarot reading and I was watching the videos on daily basis but not knowing that there is a solution to my problems. Later that night I was sleeping I received a message on my phone from a lady that lives in Croatia that there is this man that can help me with my situation at that moment I was nervous and she told me everything about this great man she told me that if I need his help to I should hit him up on his WhatsApp and I did whole and behold my story changed and the other the week my ex text me I was so happy and now my man is back to me and we are back together and we are getting married any moment from now. All thanks to Dr. Felix he was the one that helps to bring my man back. If you are still interested in his service You can hit him up on WhatsApp ‪[phone]

[@luismiguelrodrigues6151]

Great content and insight/advice! All true!

[@wytai3015]

Ok so hi. The stuff he says are not guaranteed. My ex just got with the guy i allways warned her agaist as being a fake friend that only wanted her body. I stayed in no contact for 4 months. But honestly it's better this way, we were never compatibile and i would never go back with her.

[@CatwalkPurz]

Best content and advice! 🙌 thank you so much! NoContact ALWAYS WORKS because NoContact and indifference are the new SUPER POWER/a true self-respect-move. Period. And it is helpful in healing/moving forward, faster.😉 like ripping the bandaid off quick 💥.

[@purplemazy3548]

We were together for 6 years been broken up for 3 years, been communicating and seen each other through out the break up but it was only for him too hook up with me, told me he wanted to try new years night of 2023 but when I asked him to come home he changed up saying he just wants to be alone, so I tried to go NC but have to communicate because all the bills are in his name at our house….but it’s been 2 days since our last talk and now he’s more nonchalant than ever and I hate it. I tried to flirt and it went over his head, but he watches all my snaps? crazy right. So I’m going NC but what helps me when I leave him on read, especially when all I get is a dry text like “oh okay”. I do love him and just hope we can rekindle our relationship. *side note * all of my exes ALL come back except this one… which makes this one so hard…

[@2bantaygaming991]

Coach Blac, please make a video about Should we give them another chance ?

[@kelisawhite9294]

No u shouldn’t.

[@2bantaygaming991]

@@kelisawhite9294 we have a baby girl together

[@CyberAngel333]

Thank you for the counseling. I appreciate the wisdom and will continue to learn from this channnel. With all due respect, we were never together. He treated me with disrespect and will need to grow up emotionally. I'm investing in myself at this time to be a better version for my purpose. He met me green & fertilized, he thought the grass over there was cuter than my grass tbh. I respect the fact he acknowledged making a mistake, take it as a lesson. However, I am blessed and grateful. 🙏🏽💯

[@lewisbeamer1829]

Weather she or he comes back it will never work out it’s very very rare that it does , they only come back because they are in love with the memories

[@FhVW]

No she is not watching me, she has unfriended me everywhere, removed me from apps (private accounts), and she is not able to look back at my life. So no, she is not watching. Pretty sure about that.

[@rebeccasnyder6719]

I am. And I wonder how Long it will be for the heart to stop hurting.

[@josephnsenge516]

We are in the same boat .... mine is a narcissist but challenge is we have a child in between that we both love so much, which puts me at cross roads as to whether to move on ...or try to win her back. Its been 6 months now.

[@timothymaimone8611]

Continue your journey of personal growth and life-plan. If you were a decent and kind person, your ex may want that emotional stability as “floating-acquaintance”. They will want to know where they can fit-in to your life (acquaintance, friend, lover or partner). Continue your journey without your ex and volunteer to help others. If your ex contacts you, lucky for you! Go slow!!

[@laceyloops]

Yeah, that floating acquaintance thing is real. We call it "parking" here in kenya

[@Lioniel_Lightshield]

The music is also very helpful with amplifying your message. Thank you for all you do

[@blacademic]

Thanks for watching! Stay strong 💪🏿

[@alexzietz]

15:30; the real healing conversation starts. How do you/we/I let them back in?

[@nathanyoungblood6031]

Glad to see another video. I hope all is good coach

[@blacademic]

All is well ✊🏿

[@christinapersoneni9438]

Hello! Now the question I have is..: How do you respond when he returns from no contact?

[@smcrystal]

I love your videos the way you explain things makes me feel so comfortable makes me understand everything everything. Your voice is so soothing that it calms me down when I have anxiety thank you so much for all your videos and thank you so much for existing you have helped me so much.❤❤❤❤

[@rumeeburu3648]

CAN YOU MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT HOW TO HANDLE SEEING YOUR EX EVERYDAY, SAY MAYBE YOU GUYS FREQUENT A PARTICULAR PLACE, LIKE Y’ALL ATTEND THE SAME CHURCH OR WORKPLACE

[@kelisawhite9294]

My no contact isn’t a mistake I myself and my now husband we stand on Business together God sent me my husband and I’m sticking to him grorila glue. So who’s ever unhappy about my life they don’t know my struggles and how I got to where I am today I my life is wrath 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 for me and my family

[@Thatnorcalgirl0416]

How can they watch? He blocked me on FB and I was told with FB if you block someone you cannot see their stuff either. Its been almost 9 months since he ghosted. Almost 4 months ago he reached out and texted for about a month, then said we couldnt speak anymore since he now had a girlfriend. About a month after that he reached out again forva few weeks, then told me we couldnt speak anymore. That was almost a month ago. I fear I must have said or done something wrong. I didnt understand his actions

[@lateashaevans4579]

You can see they Facebook if you use a friend account or make a new one or if the unblock you then block you again atfer three days

[@rosaespinoza-britton2965]

I wish I would have seen this when I was broken with this one guy. I was so in love with him. But now he is texting me 10 years later and I’m like what the heck! I’m married and have a wonderful kid!

[@marguskiis7711]

Men always come back, women -- never. Because women just do not care.

[@jibberjabber2]

Coach, Did I ruin my chances if I posted a picture of myself enjoying life and another female commented on it as if we’re talking/together?

[@sonalsagar8697]

Do you think no contact works for the second time?

[@sanacole1543]

But what if you don't have social media tho🤔?

[@michaelbaldwin2717]

We broke up because I got a call from a girl. and i would not let her check the message in my phone

[@candyjuiceable]

I wish you could give advice for separate spouses living in the same house ,when one wants to restore. No contact don’t apply for us because we got kids

[@GinNBoost]

I’m going through the same thing. It’s the worst. We take it a step further though and one of us sleeps at a relative’s house on the nights where the other has the kids. We still see and communicate with each other regularly but it hasn’t changed her decision on the separation. It’s a hopeless situation

[@candyjuiceable]

@@GinNBoost yes it is , the attitude at times isn’t always healthy but I hope you get your restoration soon 🙏

[@kesienaokoro2111]

Same here! My girlfriend even told me that we need to separate for a change in me. She also said no time frame!

[@LipbustersWeJustGotDown]

I went thru same thing with 2 kids involved. My 8 year old Daughter,and my 12 year old step son from her other relationship. She always had attitude at the end . Come to find out ,she talking to one of her Exs the FIRST WEEK IM MOVE OUT ! And the bad part ,he isn't the father of her son ! Shit got me heated . But I hope he steps up to the plate,because IM DONE !!!

[@alexzietz]

The first 5 mins watching this, then the clip... Was eye opening. Seeing how the opposite sex thinks.. p(artial opinion. So many things to still learn and understand), gives hope. But so many times I and many others have been proven wrong, how is this time fighting for love any different?

[@Nasilla_Mc]

this helps a lot man,,a get your point

[@bluetara5297]

I think I let him breadcrumb me too long. I was in no contact of and on for about 5 mos. He wud keep messaging over nonsense things. He even wanted to hang out which we did once but I realized he was just using me to get over the breakup. So I told him we can’t talk anymore unless he wants to work on the relationship. I know you say this is a mistake but he wudnt leave me alone. 😢 now it’s been a little over a month of no contact. I haven’t heard from him. I think I messed this up and I doubt I will hear from him now.

[@zay3843]

Genuine question here. Why are you guys interested in getting back with your exes? Human nature does dictate that history repeats.

[@muhammadfarid7052]

Hi Coach Black, I find your content to be extremely helpful in helping me navigate my breakup. One thing I want to ask though, is it okay for me to maintain friendship their family? Their father and I have become great friends, so much so that we went on a roadtrip together recently. I am doing better emotionally but I am worried if this counts as breaking no contact. I would appreciate your advice on this.