Wife Wants Space to Find Herself | The Subconscious Truth She Won’t Tell You

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@avilafamily7112]

My Wife and I have been seperated as well... I can tell you it has been a long few weeks without her... but I can also tell you the space has truly helped us realize how special we are to eachother. During this time I have realized I needed to relearn how to be myself as my identity and happiness was dependent on her. We are still seperated, but I will say every moment we spend together now is so special and I cherish it. I wish you well in your marriage. Sometimes time apart is necessary and will help, take advantage of this time to find yourself and better yourself....it's not the end and you will find that it may have been the best part of your marriage... God Bless you!

[@jimdemichele5479]

Long story but my wife and daughter asked for space so I am in a temporary apartment and struggling. My 15 year old daughter has issues with me an claims I trigger her which resulted in my wife and I arguing too much. After she claimed I denied a separation, she served me with papers, but still says she is keeping her options open and not in a hurry and loves me. I have things to work on and your video is spot on. I am scared it will result in permanence but am working on what I have to do. Is it delusional to hope for reconciliation?

[@jimdemichele5479]

@@avilafamily7112 ..I’m in my first week of being separated from my wife and daughter and am struggling…I hope it can lead to reconciliation but I’m scared

[@avilafamily7112]

@@jimdemichele5479 I completely understand your feelings of being scared and I empathize with you. It will get easier. I learned to let her go and explore whatever she thought she needed to explore. Turns out they will find out the grass is never greener. Work on being the best version of you for yourself and your family. It's a very hard thing to do, but I assure you this seperation will be the best thing for you both, whether you reconcile or decide to part ways. Try to Remember that she is a vessel on this earth navigating and moving amongst lions and wolves just as you are. Love her from a distance and truly wish to see her happy. Truly Happy. Sometimes it takes for us to seperate from co dependence to get better and find joy again. I wish nothing but the best for you and your family. It will be o.k I promise. Just focus on improving not for her but for yourself. You owe that to yourself. Remember to take care of yourself and do whatever it takes to keep your head above water and fight for your joy. You will be o.k my friend. It hurt now, but there is always growth and new life after the horrible storm. You've been a fighter your whole life. You've got this. God Bless you!!

[@truththatlies]

me and my wife have been separated for 3 weeks now. it was so sudden and out of the blue. shocked the hell out of me!, but these type of videos help me get thru this situation. hopefully soon she will wanna meet up again or even we can live together again. i made her my world and now, slowly im makin myself my own world. hopefully thats for the best

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[@truththatlies]

@@MrAndres212able unfortunately we are getting a divorce.. probably for the best. Even though it is the hardest thing I've ever face

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[@tamarcusnelson]

My wife and I are currently separated right now, it hurts like hell!!! I was not there for her emotionally, financially and I would always get defensive when she would address my issues…these videos are really making me self reflect and understand what I was doing wrong!!

[@verisureservices7503]

Did u fix it bro

[@christopheraleman6502]

Me and my wife are going through the same thing rn I wasn’t there for her emotions and she felt like she was my mom and she told me she moved on and doesn’t have hope for our marriage

[@itsjustme9913]

​@@christopheraleman6502I'm in the Same boat exactly how do we get her back is all I want to know cause fuck this hurts so bad

[@RossBayCult]

Sign up for the course and be 100% committed to the change. No matter what. Whether she wants you or not.

[@alonenomore3346]

Separated or ended

[@ridesharetrixter5206]

As a former Medic. It was Menopause, Depression and trust issues. But we made it. And now are Stronger than ever.

[@pedroclar5672]

Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

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[@jimdemichele5479]

That gives me hope as I am only in week one living apart from my wife and daughter. I hope she sees my efforts and sacrifices and sees value of our 22 years together

[@jenniferortiz9553]

If someone did this to me, I would just move on or stay single. This is creating too much stress and drama for the other person.

[@IMPACTxtTinyNotepad]

I watched three of your videos, and I realized I was messing up in the relation due to my actions. You are helping me realize a lot about myself

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it! I love it when people find my video's helpful. What video did you find to be most eye-opening?

[@dennisporter-avis7576]

@@GeoffreySetiawan the framework videos are brilliant seriously good and the How to win back your wife one I'm currently 2 months after the end of my relationship of ten years and i used the quote you used almost word for wordin the How to win back your wife one when i saw her today and we are back talking again via email its a big step so thank you Geoffrey :)

[@williambrownsjr.7854]

I had a feeling this is EXACTLY WHAT IT WAS!!!! I want to provide the safest environment with her.

[@renne841]

Really love this. Going through betrayal trauma and trying to communicate is extra hard. This video absolutely says it all. This has been an issue for so long. I sent it to my husband , and I'm excited to see the changes.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome!

[@renne841]

It's been extremely challenging. I'm happy to say I'm learning to take everyday as it comes and my husband is continuing to put in the work.

[@yeahna]

@@renne841 How are things Renne? Did your husband come back to you or was it time to call it quits?

[@adoseofcare]

As a woman and a wife, I approve this message.

[@NavD1]

feminine hypergamy, kick her to the kerb if she leaves.

[@alonenomore3346]

Ok thank god a woman approves of it

[@acesbularon9372]

I've been watching your videos for a week now. . This video by far opened my eyes to see the real reason of her pain and trauma. I was a toxic husband. too far from what she knew me when we're still dating. I've taken her for granted. All I thought is she's too demanding for those little things i've missed. BUT THOSE LITTLE THINGS ARE BIGGER THINGS FOR HER. I was too sorry and ashame of myself. she just wanted security in my arms. but I became her nightmare. I wanna make things up for her butbnow she's afraid, traumatic and hurt. She wanted space before and now she's asking for annullment (no divorce here in the Philippines). I wanna fight for her, for my son. I wanna be better for them. that I can love them to the fullest. I wanna be with them. She's worth fighting, waiting and praying for. Hope i can have another chance.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@HanifFree.]

just want to say you’re great at what you do. one of the most intelligent and articulate coaches i’ve heard.

[@Anonymou990]

Hi Geoff, My girl needed space. I gave it to her without drama. A week of no contact goes by, and she wants to meet up. We met up and it was clear she wanted to break up. (I was controlling, blaming and not understanding, so she didnt feel safe with me and told me she wasnt in love with me anymore). We had a really good conversation and i told her that im sorry, im not that person anymore. (I actually have changed and it feels awesome). Told her i didnt need her, but want her. She doesnt know now what to do. I said; give it time and you'll see the changes. The relationship is very fragile.. how do I reforge this relationship as best as possible? (Also im learning everyday and want to be the best person I can be, not only for her but for myself and others.

[@surfreadjumpsleep]

She doesn't have trust and safety so therefore she's going to completely destroy the trust and safety of the relationship. Genius

[@garyr658]

Hi Geoffrey!! You're a genius! For the last 5 years I've been seeking professional therapists, different ones, to teach me exactly what you're explaining in your videos!! Not only are you confirming everything that they've told me, but your explanation and your teaching and your examples are 100% accurate. I just want to say thank you and I'm sure I'll be contacting you soon for one-on-one sessions. Thank you. Thank you!

[@Lemony1456]

Spot on, friend. I just separated from my husband - it's been three years of marriage and I've been expressing this to no avail. Taking some time to find myself and create my own physical/emotional/psychological safety, and I really hope they do the same.

[@rickymartin859]

Curious how things worked out with the man that you "left to find yourself (in the arms of)"?

[@2pacorwhat]

This is incredible. I wish I saw this a month ago, but all hope is not lost. Ive got a lot of work to do.

[@Truelyblessedgratitude]

Thanks Geoffrey You explained it in most perfect way Mine is 27 yr long marriage, husband thinks the problems r due to ML crisis or stress due to age etc. But as you said it's actually I feel him not approachable or connected enough to make him understand my situation

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Glad to hear I am on point :)

[@sy7zx]

How do you feel and want him to act to have your trust ? I have this issue with my missus, and I need some advice from a woman

[@nicholasbristol68]

Watched you for the first time, your video is on point, she has trust and safety issues with me which is some what justified. I just told her , I care, then left.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Nicholas, Thank you! Really appreciate it… Trust & safety is foundational for any relationship to thrive. Once you re-build it by following the right processes and start to show genuine changes. She will naturally be re-attracted to you.

[@weareipg1402]

It appears to me that she only wanted to find herself when I called her out on calling a man at 2 AM in the morning that she used to be with. If that’s depression or not feeling safe then explain that to me?

[@Druhhhhh9905]

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[@slimfbaby20081]

This video is helping me a lot l didn’t realize how bad of a wife l was to my husband. I’m working on myself to be best version of myself.

[@staygolden84]

I didn’t realize I was a toxic bf to my gf for so many years I’m learning so much and im excited for the future after watching these videos

[@Gmyman]

@@staygolden84 any changes?

[@staygolden84]

@@Gmyman still sticking to it. And still motivated to be better. And I’m back with her but I’m definitely not getting comfortable I still have work to do.

[@Gmyman]

@@staygolden84 how is she responding? Do you feel loved and does she say she feels right again?

[@fernandocabanillas8133]

You took the words right out of my mouth except I didn’t realize how bad of a husband I was. Nothing is ever intentional but we have to really really look deep inside of ourselves and dig and see what the core of the problem is. I wish everyone the best of luck, I miss my wife and kids so much but I know that in order to fix my family I have to fix myself first. I just pray that she’s at the end of that tunnel when I’m done walking through it

[@carlosperalta7062]

Your knowledge is so deep, I’m so impressed! Taking notes 📝 to improve my relationship. I’m in awe at how you know so much and yet are so young

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@williamcapel4393]

Love all your videos been watching them for about 13 hrs and it has really hit home

[@Metalman2351]

If she hits with you with “I need space” or “I need to work on myself” do yourself a favor and move on because it’s over. Believe me.

[@dennisporter-avis7576]

Seriously dude you are amazing keep up the great work Geoffrey

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi dennis, Thank you for the support my man! Glad you are receiving value from my content.

[@jonathanj.francis6869]

My girlfriend broke up with me because our relationship was mentally exhausting, Im meeting with her two days after we broke up. Second day I pleaded and begged but realized my mistake and stopped bothering her. She said she wants to talk about our relationship and that she wants to work things out when she feels she's more established and found herself but wants me to wait for her, I told her I wouldn't wait but I'm not actively looking. (5 years together) It really speaks to me because she made it clear she doesn't wanna work on herself while caring for me too in a relationship that it's overwhelming and I think that too could be it on top of her depression.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@TheTom42781]

Thanks I’ll be back to watch and learn more

[@marks5740]

Watched so many videos on break up.. This guy is the best .... My ex of 17 years and mother of our 2 children said she had enough.. No chance of reconciliation.... I have done everything working to get get her back ! It is what it is .. Wish everyone better luck than me !

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Mark S, Thank you for your comment and be sure to check out my many clients who once though they had no chance but started working on the right changes and are now living the relationship of their dreams. kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@cjceejay5261]

It’s always the man’s fault even if she is cheating. I don’t totally agree with the video. Most times she needs space to cheat.

[@ryansmith6231]

I got the love you and care for you but not in love. She’s depressed so that’s why. Also marriage issues. 6 months today made a lot of progress. Asked her for a time line on if we want to stay married and work on things she gave me a month. I’ve helped her with anything she needed help with. Loaned money fix car this and that. Wish me well.had to set a boundary so that I can continue to wait or move on. Told her I’ll give more space if we want to save marriage. I deserve to know that.

[@hashrosinking1608]

I was in a relationship for 10 years. We were married for 2 years and one day broke down and said she's miserable and needs to focus on herself. I tried to fix the relationship, but she didn't want to. Can't have a one sided relationship it dosn't work that way. No matter what i did it was never enough she was broken when i first started dating her and she's going to be even more broken without me. She dosnt have good parents (they left her when she was little and was raped). I was the only solid foundation she had and if thats not good enough for her nothing will be. We are two diffrent people she dosnt mind living in poverty and i was raised into a wealthy family. She's never going to make anyone happy she's a debby downer. Sooo depressing to be around.

[@Rbear266]

Literally feel like I did everything wrong, I did all three of those things. I really hope it’s not to late, watching this video makes me feel like I ruined everything. But why man why it is hard to go against a fight or flight reaction I hope our partners understand that. These reactions you are saying are great but shit, it’s not easy to react like this when you feel the sky is falling. It is easier after some space but the anxiety of the anticipation is brutal on the mind. Which again puts us in a catch 22. This situation is such a mind fuck, I just need a chance because my partner was tight in a lot of the faults she has problems with and I really am changing them. And she deserves the best me.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi IAMJACK, Look not further than my list of clients who like you, did all of the wrong things in the beginning. Watch their stories to see what they did to restore hope within their partners once again. kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@PedroSosa-t2j]

Bro the same and also what's the result?

[@Mike-r9r3x]

My wife took space 2 weeks ago and now she wants a divorce. Talked to her yesterday and I asked why can’t you talk to me about something that I did and she said she felt like she was talking to a wall but I listen to everything. What should I do

[@MiguelLosRudos20]

Brother, what I’m about to say will sound brash or crazy because I am a complete stranger but try to understand. Giving your wife space is the worst thing you could have done. When women ask for space she is ASKING PERMISSION TO CHEAT ON YOU. The moment you agreed to give her space she now has an excuse for why she has been sleeping around with the guy she had on the side all this while. The fact she is calling for a divorce probably means the guy she was seeing on side has probably agreed to be in an exclusive relationship with her hence why she feels safe enough to call for a divorce. TRUST ME. When they ask for space, open relationships, time apart/breaks etc. It doesn’t matter how they word it, it simply means they are fucking, planning to fuck or have fucked a man outside your relationship and once you agree to these terms she has a claim to manipulate the situation and say but we were on a ‘break’, in the event she is to get caught or questioned about situations with other men that directly lead to the detriment of your relationship. Oh yeah might I add, her not wanting to talk to you about what you possibly did wrong for her to want a divorce is simply because she knows you did nothing wrong, she did. It’s all gaslighting, she wants to believe it’s YOUR fault she cheated so she can sleep at night for her bad decisions. I hope this message helps you. I’ll also advise you to check out the youtube channel Donovan Sharpe, he makes videos about this type of subject matter. Be strong brother.

[@abqramobeen2145]

I am going through this.. I need space from my man and current life. I can't express to him.. I feel like literally running away.. he is a good man but not a good listener.. atleast not for me..

[@PedroSosa-t2j]

May I ask what the I need space mean like to move on or to stay currently going through a situation at the moment

[@brianfreeman2200]

I'm going through this tomorrow I hope that tomorrow goes well. But there's a good chance that it goes bad.

[@acesoundz]

Damn!!!! Thank you Thank you 🙏 You helping me a lot ..

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

Wish I knew this stuff when it counted

[@pedroclar5672]

Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean

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[@albertodeulofeu5277]

@@pedroclar5672 lol you clearly don’t understand women. When they’re done, they’re done

[@MrTwinkieeater]

If they can't coherently tell you why, it's unlikely you will ever get an answer or closure if they take space first. I mean it can happen, but likely it won't. There's arrested development, emotional neglect trauma in their background, insecurity, or personality disorders. If they're scared of it or they don't know why, there's a slim chance you can help. A good/ healthy partner won't disappear and leave you confused or angry. Not saying every situation ain't worth it, but if you were blindsided by it, find your own help and buckle up. Been there, done this. YMMV.

[@Hondeer]

For all the Ladies out there watching this, men need the same thing too!!!

[@8546billy]

My wife told me that she has been reflecting alot lately and needed some time and space. We still talk and sleep together as normal but intimacy has stopped. We do have a special needs child that is very stressful and i havent always been as helpful sometimes when it comes to getting the kids to bed or up in the mornings. Should I pull back some but still be there for her? Im lost because she says its confusing for her and cant give me a answer for what is causing it

[@manocapital]

Brilliant video! Some very good points! Please do more videos on the topic of midlife crisis if you can! Thank you.

[@grantpeters4056]

so i have broken the trust, i am beginning to understand this. how do we get over the same feeling? i dont trust that i can bring things to her without the reaction i dont want or are afraid of. that is just an assumption that i am making in the first place? i still need to be accountable, i am not approaching her in the right way? Thanks for the profound videos. Mindset, i changed how i was feeling about this question as i wrote it

[@cinquwarren4330]

Truly, relative!!! Totally eye opening.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Glad you found it eye opening buddy!

[@jellis4148]

My wife left me after 8 years. Says she’s not happy and needs to find happiness. She filed for divorce and moved out. I never abused, cheated or anything. What do I do? I did send her a message saying the door is always open, but I have said some dumb things. No threats or cursing at her. I thought about no contact. Please help.

[@surfreadjumpsleep]

Could also be the woman feels that she needs to be happy and strong enough to give to the relationship.

[@Lorden350]

I definitely want to learn more on these topics.

[@noname-nq5zn]

What if she says she's depressed and anxious it says she loves you but not in love with you moved out but still comes over for service

[@khdaniely]

That is a fantastic question.

[@davidwarren2052]

I'm trying to find out how to make my wife desire me again. She says she wants space and to find herself. She won't show me any intimacy and it makes me feel low ... And insecure.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@Druhhhhh9905]

Any updates David?

[@smileyatthebeach3452]

THIS IS SO ON POINT!!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome, glad you are enjoying it. What did you like the most?

[@smileyatthebeach3452]

@@GeoffreySetiawan I enjoyed and agreed with your emphasis on Emotional Safety. From a women's perspective, that is EXACTLY what many of us are looking for...and I feel the need for emotional safety is often overlooked as a foundation for success in ALL relationships. Great video!

[@fidelcollazo4262]

I wish I started looking deep in my relationship months ago I hurt the person that I love and now my marriage is in a very difficult situation.ps graet videos so much good information 🙏

[@undead600]

oh gosh, I guess I'm in the exact problem as you described, she had lot of problems and she might think she didn't feel safe with me, fighting her problems, I wasn't the bulletproof vest she needed I think at the moment, I am gonna work on myself and thanks for the light in these dark times.. being short I did turn on no contact telling her I'm gonna be with her no matter what, but I'm gonna go silent for a while, she said I am important to her....... please answer this Geoffrey, will she come back?

[@mikefawcett1982]

We have always had a very open and honest relationship, but now she wants an actual open relationship and because I don't think I can do it, she doesn't feel like sharing her deep thoughts with me anymore on this issue, so I think that is the reason, she can no longer rely on me to support her in this thinking.nahe wants to break to find out who she is, but I think this is the real issue after watching this video. Any advice would be much appreciated. We both love eac other, have loads in common. Love hanging out. Been together 25 years, but now this new thing is too much for me.

[@shikamaru281281]

(27m, 23F) I stonewalled my girlfriend for 6 years, so her emotional safety is probably completely gone. She gave me the "I need to find myself, we need a break" speech. What can I do now if we aren't in contact? If I contact her first, then I lied about giving her space. But if I don't, then she is on a break which will just make it all worse.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@shikamaru281281]

@@GeoffreySetiawan I went through the full 90 min class. The issue was I didn't feel it fit my situation. It was either "She's taking space and that means it's over" or "Here's how not to have her ask for space"

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

@@shikamaru281281 I wonder if you attended the same masterclass as the same one I was giving. Why do you think she does not want to talk to you? No safety and trust - the problem here is that you think you can fix this by saying & doing certain things. You can only fix this by undergoing DEEP changes. Take a look at all of my client stories here, many of whom have been in your situation. I don't understand how you can't connect the dots! kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@Luvnap]

Can you discuss this more with long distance relationships she feels unsure about moving in together or carrying the responsibilities.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Brandon, Have the conversation with her to discover why she feels unsure about moving in together… That way you both can find a win-win solution…

[@jayroberts4900]

This is accurate from a males perspective anyway. She really left me, started with I need a break. Then it was left to us finishing. She said she knows we’ll be together in the future, and has said things like “ill be home soon” then “maybe one day” Now I know I need to give her space. And not try and grab her back. However I’m confused on the video. My plan was to just do me for 3 months, if she comes back, she comes back. But now watching this, I feel like I need to reach out to her and explain this, especially the emotional safety net? But if I do so, I’m breaking no contact?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Jay Roberts, Come watch my view on no contact and smart contact and see why for me and my clients this method didn't work. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bJLOf2utgqqWbLM

[@evanlundgren3039]

This is sometimes correct but also sometimes bullshit. If she has entertained other men and or cheated emotionally she'll never tell you and or blame it on you. This isn't your fault and nothing you can do to make her a better wife. Best decision is to leave and work on yourself for yourself so you can better for yourself. Goodluck and godspeed men, sometimes it wasn't you or your fault.

[@vidaflow588]

She wants space, says she loves me but feels lost. We have a new start up together and i think she burned out but my relationship suffered from it.

[@SterlingCorrodusCounterCulture]

I get it though. You come at things from a particular angle. I'd have appreciated a more balanced narrative though.

[@kyle1775]

I have to say i completely disagree. My wife of 25 years, girlfriend 8 years before just told me this. We have been together since 15 yo. We grew up together have had trust and safety since the beginning. Always have talked about our feelings and emotions. Our children are moving out and she told me she has went through these stages of life of wife then mother being pulled in multiple directions. Now that is over and she just wants to be herself. It has broke my heart because she is my world. The only woman i have ever loved. We have had a great relationship and this came out of left field. I have been the same guy since the beginning. She is the one changing the dynamic that has worked so well for so long. I wont make it if I lose her.

[@MattBlogna]

Keep me updated mate I'm in exact same situation

[@samdan6231]

What about if children are involved? I really want to give her space but not be apart with my kids.

[@Thembekamgabhi]

I can’t even communicate that I want space cause I know it won’t go well, il probably get a do whatever make you happy. Il take my time internally. Until I’m over the relationship and hopefully move on .

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Thembeka, I appreciate your comment. Many of my clients and their partners feel this way. They describe it as a catch-22. Like they are not able to express themselves and expect it to go well, and when they don't share this is not good either. Is this kinda like how you are describing?

[@nerdkink]

This is the video I was looking for. Trying to put our marriage back together.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome! I love it when people can find my video helpful. What part in this video was most eye-opening to you?

[@Metalman2351]

If she hit you with the “I need space” or “I need to work on myself” line like my wife did it’s over man. Believe me.

[@Chetanbait2930]

Thanks man .. I realised lot of things watching most of the videos that you have one different things which I had in me . I can’t relate I can say all that videos were for me really .. not much I can say just thanks a lot .. a lot of thing still there now ahead .. getting my wife back with positive intentions and approach.. she has filed divorce just now .. hoping for the best out of everything ahead .. I will surely try to connect with you for my personal growth or may be by gods grace of my wife comes back for reconciliation if I can afford your fees ..

[@jimmyhayes9896]

I did all the wrong things the first several months. Now I'm notbsyre there's any coming back from that.

[@Bellaexe5091]

How do I start talking with her again? She moved into her parents and has been coming by when I'm not home to pick up her stuff

[@savage308win]

This is gold.

[@stevenk8045]

Is there one for space and living in the same home

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Steven K80, the process remains the same. Living in the same home allows you a ton of opportunities to showcase your changes. Check this video out to sea that you are drowning in a see of opportunities. kzbin.info/www/bejne/sJ65Zqt4hpaXq80

[@ToucheTJ]

Omg this is explains exactly what I'm currently experiencing with my fiance of 3years. I was the one trying to regain control and telling her that I could help her through it...😔But it's odd for her because she wants space but she also doesn't want me to stop reaching out and communicating with her. She also doesn't know why she wants space and why she has feelings of just wanting to be alone. What should I do about this? Block off communication anyway because it'll help her figure things out on her own or should I continue and just proceed as normal?

[@susk5941]

Assuming I got the video right, I would say you should not stop communicating. But you should stop trying to convince her to come back to you or not accepting her need of space. Instead you should tell her that you realized her need of space might have something to do with your own behavior, that you didn't manage to create enough safety for her to wanna express or even work on her problems with you. You should tell her that you can totally understand that, because of you not being a safe space for her, she wants to be alone with whatever bothers her at the moment. But also tell her that you are very interested in her feelings, her problems and so on, and you would be very open to learn more about them, if she is ready to talk about it. In the meantime also address your own issues, whatever they may be and tell her you would really like to work on your skills of being a good listener, or less controlling, or less judgmental or whatever. So in conclusion: Tell her you unterstand her and do not try to convince her that her need of space is wrong. Admit your own faults and try to work on them. Offer a conversation to her conditions, where you give your best to learn more about the things that bother her.

[@ToucheTJ]

@@susk5941 Ah yes and thank you, it's over now, but I did try

[@susk5941]

@@ToucheTJ So sorry for you, I'm sure now that you started realizing what may be your own part that contributed to this situation, you will manage it much better in your next relationship!

[@davidalejofoodie7025]

Thank you brother

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@SteveDobbs-hj7fc]

Basically she thinks she can do better. Walking away resets that mindset and she will come back. Make sure to be non reactive this time around either with her or with the next.

[@bringbackthenordiques5990]

my wife of 15 years finally got a job to help support our family and had an affair with another women. Women are unbelievable.

[@yvoncharron472]

How can you become a better listener when she ghosts you and the silence is all you get ... no response with any kind of text or conversation with you????

[@spittaz1]

Don't call for 2weeks straight. Then if u still have access to call her. Just txt "hello how are u"..if she responds, then there is hope. If she doesn't respond, then keep your cool because she is checking your reaction. She will check to see your temperature. Just pass the test and Don't be impulsive and show restraint

[@raydokai8142]

Thanks it's helping me.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Awesome ray dokai! I love it when people can take my videos and start applying it to their lives and begin to see massive changes.

[@gavinschmidt3584]

So me and my girlfriend have been dating for a month actually a month yesterday and the week before I kinda started to I guess re-dig up past experiences of getting cheated on because her exes started texting her but as friends, and I freaked out. And then a couple days later she just slowly but surely stopped talking to me, she hasn’t said she wants a break but said she needs to figure things out by herself. And I did all of the things I shouldn’t have, spam text, say I can change, etc. and now I sent two big texts saying that I know you need space to figure stuff out, I’ll work on myself and I said to text, call, or let me know if you wanna hangout. And then I also said that I want this to work out and we need to have communication for this to work. I don’t know what to do anymore. How do I show her that I can be there for her?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Gavin, You can show her that you can create the trust and safety she needs by changing the way you interact and communicate with her… Be vulnerable and admit that you made mistakes in the past but you are working on becoming the best version of yourself…

[@edwinjones1576]

If I may ask, is it wrong to set boundaries on this? If he feels uncomfortable with is, would it be wrong for him to ask her to cut communication?

[@ViralVeediuh]

I say be a psycho in regards to communicating with exes. Not putting up with that. And she shouldn’t either. Set a firm boundary talking to exes because that alone is a breech of trust.

[@SAMPY1]

Thank you for the video but I do not understand women take a man being the leader as controlling so that's the issue that I'm having

[@moonrock5324]

Thank you

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Moon, you are welcome!... Happy this video was helpful for you.🙂

[@JoseGarcia-vr8mx]

This is so true

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Jose Garcia, glad you are enjoying my content. Thank you for your support.

[@Blttaylor23]

Is it possible to talk to you personally in any way?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Given that I publish a long-form interview every 2 weeks with clients who I speak with personally, what do you think? :)

[@cjceejay5261]

When you call her out, you’re accused of controlling. Men can’t win.

[@lolololololok]

Hello how can I get more personal help I have a unique situation I think I need help and have questions

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Lola, Have you tried signing up for my free master class? kzbin.info?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbEJCeUxrYzNNeFU5U3pIQU9GX0doSnBMTXF2d3xBQ3Jtc0tsQ2J5cXZxSXNzN2ZMS05pQzZoRmc0cEVOYm1SWEU2WUlNRG9SZkcyMUdpYWx3emRXeU1OZkVuZDFjZGpMN1JwYTNvalF6VTRmdjV3TlFzLUJVWm00STR2SThnR1l5WlFJNHBFTjNhVV9NSVl1MnFRSQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Frelationshipsmastered.com%2Fmasterclass

[@chrispanganiban9489]

Or is it because she already sees herself being safe with somebody else?

[@legendarycubenation3748]

Can i text her to check up on her after asking for space?

[@jaredtansley3236]

Awesome information brother

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it! So glad you found my video helpful.

[@ttrainor70]

Nah, man. If I told you the things she was doing, you would be certain safety was not her concern.

[@A127-i3x]

I don't know but there are so many simpler women out there

[@aaronmallard2885]

Wher is the link to purchase your classes?

[@ShellieTBoss]

I heard lets see how you feel in the morning and if you still feel that way then I'll move out.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Please help me as this comment is confusing me.

[@ShellieTBoss]

@@GeoffreySetiawan when I told him I wanted space to figure myself out this was his response.

[@georgesontag2192]

If your a man, make sure you keep 50% of your money out of your marriage. Self insure yourself against divorce. Insurance companies wont offer divorce insurance because they know its at 60%. If you dont, your sleeping in your car after the judge gives you 48 hours to move out.

[@GrantArdern]

You should be way more famous Geoffrey…

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Grant Arden, I get my cup full from working with so many amazing clients and teaching the skills to develop thriving relationships. But yeah, I'll get there. lol.

[@Junior-zf5ed]

My wife advised me last week she was no longer in love with me, she took off her ring and said she needed to separate and think about things because we been in a relationship 25 years, I did exactly this reasons why she should stay work it out, then today I learned she’s cheated on me 4 times in past 2 years, I confronted her and she admitted all of it, I kept calm and stayed I’m sorry I pushed you to do this, I was a dick for a long time and partied while she was home with kids now my kids are grown up and she lost 150lbs in one year and looks fantastic and has tons of self esteem so I think she’s looking at this as her time to party and get back at me for not being there for her, I just scared what future holds, especially now finding out about the cheating, not sure what direction I should go, I really screwed up a good thing with a great woman that I harden her emotions to me

[@joemahma3017]

Wow you apologized for her cheating? What a simp.

[@themainbase]

Do not blame yourself too much, your situation is not uncommon...millions of women act like this across the globe. Take care of yourself, you will be ok...

[@axeldiaz7331]

Si tu esposa quiere espacio es por que le gusta alguien o ya esta con alguien 😅 xd

[@micahsirles8319]

It's sad how we need videos on how to understand our women. Both sexes are at fault. At some point, women need to be able to speak up and have some realism in their lives instead of this crap. Maybe women are the ones that mature later than men.

[@Drifter-tw4kt]

She gonna find herself alright....under another man 😂

[@Metalman2351]

Facts😂

[@infiniteg7852]

She doesn’t feel that “Trust and Safety”.. cmon man.. it’s not that deep.. she just doesn’t love you or is not attracted to you anymore. Bottom line

[@Bishop355]

Hmmm...did you lose your girl?

[@SterlingCorrodusCounterCulture]

Generic advice bro. Some men are out here doing the most with little return.

[@fj4731]

Hi Jeffrey I need advice if can help me out.. I told my gf how cruel she was on the 2nd breakup on 4th April ..she said she want me to forgive her I told her she must feel sorry and is all fault she left me when I love her truly and it was her decided to leave ... Deep inside me I love her bcos she in rollercoaster emotional and confuse and mentally stress and I pity her What should I do to help her get back our love ? 3 weeks ago I fetch her from her dance class she said she felt dizzy because she didnt have good sleep for past few night ..she cried her health is no good..and want me drive her home I told her I am not her driver or part timer lover I want to spend more time with her like bf gf what we did in the past...she throw tantrums and cause a mental outcry that I forced her to stay when she want to go home..this unstable mental state I decided to bring her to counselling the next day but the lady counsellor pity her and told me not to stress her as she is mentally weak and her health condition may cause her stroke and bad anxiety...I say no standing firm that she is withholding herself and cause herself the anxiety to be a good gf ...i blame her it was her fault to break up with me and I dont trust her love even she said she love me .. I am feeling depressed she have not text me for 3 days saying she not Breaking up but she need to rest until she miss me she will contact me...i believe this is Silence treatment which will last at least one or 2 weeks.. I panic now I should not be too extreme to her she break down and cry like a crazy women...it is difficult for me to see her this way...and i could not walk away .. Please help

[@altomi33]

How is going man?

[@makenemsaltygaming6201]

Thank you.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Xavier Bunn, thank you and thank you for your support. What did you find most helpful in this video?