Wind River - Dealing with grief: Take the pain, keep the memories

Wind River (2017) www.imdb.com/title/tt5362988/

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Cory Lambert: "I'd like to tell you it gets easier. it doesn't. If there's any... comfort, it's... getting used to the pain, I suppose. Went to a grief seminar in Casper. Did you know that? I don't know why. Just wanted the bad to go away. Wanted answers... to questions that couldn't be answered. The counselor come up to me after the seminar and sat down next to me. And he said something that stuck with me. I don't know if it's what he said, or how he said it. He says, "I got some good news, and I got some bad news. Bad news is you're never gonna be the same. You're never gonna be whole, not ever again. You lost your daughter. Nothing's ever going to replace that. Now the good news is, as soon as you accept that, and you let yourself suffer... you allow yourself to visit her in your mind, and you'll remember all the love she gave you, all the joy she knew." Point is, Martin, you can't steer from the pain. If you do, you'll rob yourself... You'll rob yourself of every memory of her. Every last one. From her first step to her last smile. Kill 'em all. Just take the pain, Martin. You hear me? You take it. It's the only way you'll keep her with you."

[@tonkatsutony7990]

Thank you for transcribing. This scene is one of my most memorable and best life advice scenes I’ve seen in film.

[@trianglestop]

Great advice to those who have suffered the loss of a loved one.

[@HenrikSoilen]

One moment they were here, and the next, they were gone. I never quite get used to it, but that's the way life is. Grief is the price we pay for love.

[@weibensjk5832]

I lost my brother 3 weeks ago July29/2023, and since then I’ve watched this scene 4/5 times because it helps me, I lost my brother and nothing will ever replace him ❤️

[@phyllischaffin4052]

I am sorry.

[@eacey]

Great acting. Especially during the pauses while renners character tries to compose himself

[@dbeachler23]

Lost my brother almost 6 years ago...I watch this time to time. I got an hour drive to work today I think I'll cry today to remember. He's right....the more I have suppressed it all, the more my memory slips away, not just of him. Of everything. And I'm 32...

[@haroldbrown6630]

I am sorry. I am much older. I have also lost. First when I was 13. Then again at 39. All of that was a long time ago. I carry their memory. It has been decades. I started meditating a long time ago. It has taken me places I never imagined. Never knew existed within my head. In the end, all we know will return to the star dust from which everything came forth. I hope you find peace and beauty . . . a little bit every day. I hope it grows and balances your pain. Then, I hope it grows more. You are not disrespecting their memory by allowing peace and beauty and love into your life. They would want that. Peace. Beauty. Love.

[@zuhourali]

You're never gonna be whole, not ever again.💔😢 Take the pain keep the memories 💔 one of my fave scenes ever ❤️❤️💙💙

[@SailingFaith]

One of the best clips from an amazing film.

[@uzazil]

I love the scene before this where Martin is the embodiment of rage then Cory visits him, Martin closes the door collapses on Cory and sobs like a baby. Pain can only console pain.

[@catzillao2]

this is great advice, after losing my son and now my wife, it is the best way to help yourself though this, it is tough to hear but needed.

[@phyllischaffin4052]

I've lost 4 cousins to tragedy: 2 were murdered, one killed himself after shooting another person, and one to accidental death (Russian roulette). The pain is always there. It numbs over time, but never truly goes away.

[@Ufos4dahoes]

I lost two female cousins and my grandpa to shootings in 2020. Lost two friends to self inflicted as well. I wish I could give you a hug. I pray for you.

[@robinlopez2811]

watching this movie was so insightful and helpful - i feel there are not enough movies to guide us in understanding the journey of grief. we had a loss of our daughter in 2019. and this movie shifted our grief to understanding. we always remember the love with less pain and more love

[@OfficialMyxomatosis]

I just watched this movie last week. The final scene relieved my 16 years of grieving into a better, more beautiful place in my heart, and I am less ashamed to admit that I am still empty. *I miss you, Daddy.*

[@jonettheonly]

Thank you for this. Rest in peace, kitty. ❤

[@Daponics89]

True stuff

[@peterlindstrom5278]

Awsome..

[@drez0847]

fagile - apparition put this in the end of their song. sounds AMAZING.

[@donharrington8950]

Theres a reason why I am the way I am people assume the worst of me without knowing me because I'm quiet around strangers so after being nipped at and nawed on I explain my past and they usually go silent afterwards like I am

[@copcopine7404]

The more horrible truth after losing a child.

[@Me-lb8nd]

Can't hear it!