Fixing your Tinder profiles | Wine About It

[@TheAmazingMrSloop]

Maya is hilarious! Easily the second funniest host on the podcast!!

[@apricot_jones78]

😂😂😂😂

[@justintravis7345]

😂

[@jackal7908]

Idk Austin was pretty funny 🤣

[@Ferrant621]

It really sucks women aren’t funny, otherwise this podcast would be a riot. Unfortunately it’s just really entertaining.

[@beanberg]

good one 😂

[@Widdendream]

Talking openly about therapy is an extremely healthy thing! You are not crazy QT

[@spencer6709]

Not when its their whole personality. Its all they talk about.

[@maccamachine]

@@spencer6709 bad bait man troll better you’re definitely around 12-13

[@spencer6709]

@@maccamachine im 26 smoothbrain and I like both of them but the last few months have been constant therapy talk

[@makaylajones3782]

@@spencer6709 aww boohoo

[@rileyneupauer3993]

@@spencer6709u being 26 makes that so much worse.. the podcast is literally called wine about it lmao ofc they’re gonna vent about their problems

[@LunaLamperouge]

"Is pride month so I'm homophobic" QT bringing Fear& to Wine About It, and bringing Wine About It to Fear& talking about trauma hahah I love this

[@astrangedeadbird]

What a great foe

[@xCheatah]

the good ol switcheroo

[@MrTrivium22]

I have a daughter and listening to this podcast has taught me how I have to be aware of who is around her and the situations she could potentially get into when I am not around, thank you.

[@at_3126]

You mustve been raised around good people for it not to be common sense or an instant instinct. 💜 I only trust like 3 people sitting with my kids and both myself and my partner have huge families lol.

[@MrTrivium22]

@@at_3126 nope, narcissistic mom and a dad that wasn't very good at showing affection or teaching me things, they showed me what not to do lmao

[@drandana3661]

​@@MrTrivium22 more power to you. Break the cycle ❤

[@Hollysun77]

Well if you have a daughter that should be watched i hope she doesn't drink wine don't mean to be a smartass maybe you meant you spaced out like shit my daughter shouldn't watch this duh

[@meowdy4294]

I can confirm that Wine About It literally gave me the courage to start therapy and it’s been helping me deal with my depression and the loss of my parents. 🍷

[@PeachlyPeach]

happy for you ❤

[@DeronHargrove]

That's so awesome! Happy for you

[@devonwilliams2423]

Happy for you! Did maya ever say why she is ending it with heart therapist ? From my understanding don't you normally just continue it for multiple years, or is she just switching therapists, just curious

[@stonehowl]

​@@devonwilliams2423 I believe she talked about it a couple of episodes ago, the episode called "Everything is falling apart" or something like that. From my understanding it was just an administrative thing where her therapist was just going to be unable to keep her as a client.

[@klanmasterio]

honestly the only trigger warning this podcast needs is every time qt tries to use a normal ass bottle opener and just cant figure out basic physics

[@alilwildwithcat167]

she wasn't taught science growing up give her a break 😂😂 /s

[@Brennanan]

oh my god qt just screw it in the whole way please man

[@anon-il9qf]

The only trigger warning this podcast needs is QT and Maya being actual femcels and overanalyzing tinder taglines, and going like "this is what this really means". Bruh. BRUH. I'm gonna be honest, I did not expect this level of psycho. Like I feel bad for Qt and Maya. I didn't come into this episode feeling bad, but now I feel bad. Like nobody should take them seriously, and they're very like unstable people, if this is like a serious conversation for them.

[@fireblo33om]

@@anon-il9qf bro be really posting cringe on main huh

[@333dae]

@@anon-il9qf cry

[@niki8005]

Hey QT and Maya! I have a degree in psychology and took a class on pseudoscience that covered EMDR. I have also had EMDR therapy so I feel qualified to say this. Long story short EMDR is clinically effective, however the mechanism that makes it work is talk therapy and not the bilateral stimulation. It’s a form of purple hat therapy, where an established form of therapy is mixed with an unlikely new addition (such as wearing a purple hat) and then is claimed to be effective because of the new addition, when in fact the effectiveness is due to the established component (talk therapy). This means that while EMDR has a flair of pseudoscience, since it’s still an effective therapy there is no harm in continuing it-especially if you personally find it helpful.

[@cinemaker321]

So is bilateral stimulation doing nothing then in EMDR?

[@niki8005]

@@cinemaker321 I wouldn’t say it’s doing nothing, but the effectiveness it poses doesn’t go beyond placebo

[@a.e.1502]

We all have a child in us that sometimes we need to mourn for... This episode made me cry. Thanks for just talking openly.

[@drandana3661]

Be the human that child needed. Love them if you can, listen to them and accept them. ❤ It happened to you and it wasn't their fault

[@CrazyIrishmen7]

Sounds like QTs therapist is finally a good match and getting through to her, this is good, it means progress is being made.

[@synthiandrakon]

As someone who is brain broken ruined my life over mental health, its nice just to hear people talk about their problems. It helps me feel things i tend to block out

[@versaii5519]

this is so real

[@malloriebiron5918]

I owe QT an apology for judging her attempts to open a bottle of wine with the waiter's friend corkscrew, because the other week I spent over 30 minutes trying to open a bottle of wine to cook with with the same corkscrew.

[@zekegregory9130]

The Twitter thread is interesting because she's pretty accurate about what the red flags actually are while having the actual worst rationalizations.

[@Dell-ol6hb]

yea, maybe she's just been burned very badly many times, but I agree with basically all of her red flags it's just her explanation of what each means about that guy are way too specific

[@smallshrimpin6939]

I love the fact that this podcast mixes talking about dark things that happened aswell as lighthearted stuff, really helps normalize talking about mental health.

[@minecraftarcutect17]

Deep episodes or light hearted episodes this podcast is my favorite

[@GoodMorningJoel]

I don't know how many more times I can watch QT struggle to operate that corkscrew lol...

[@cdgstuff7512]

I think I could watch the struggle indefinitely. QT inability to understand the lever mechanism has moved from frustration to hilarity in my mind.

[@Caspar_Stanley]

It is unreasonably infuriating to me, and it only gets moreso each time

[@eden.s]

There really is something to representation in media. Seeing someone like yourself, in this case someone starting meds and doing therapy, really is a comforting and inspiring thing.

[@synthiandrakon]

I do think jokes about only fans can be a pretty big red flag because how a dude views sexwork is often very telling on how they view women.

[@Dell-ol6hb]

agreed

[@lila7663]

I think the twitter thread was hyperbolic, but for example both of their personal experience's with "devil's advocate" Andys definitely seems to show that those dudes were misogynistic, even if it wasn't to an extreme degree. The compulsive desire some men have to downplay or belittle a woman (especially one they're dating!) is a form of misogyny.

[@hyp3ri6n58]

as a guy ive tried to stop playing "devils advocate" because it does have such a bad connotation (that I now think is reasonable), but at the same time i think its kind of a natural thing for a lot of guys. Similar to how a lot of women complain about guys trying to give solutions to their problems when they just want to vent, i think there might be some left brain/right brain stuff going on that explains why this is a thing.

[@jeremyhogaboom8698]

It just screams debate me bro. And some shit just doesn’t have to be debated, in fact lots of things! I think it’s a huge red flag personally, and I know a lot of my friends feel the same. I was kind of shocked that they didn’t feel the same way tbh.

[@townfool4682]

​@@hyp3ri6n58 At its core, playing the devils advocate is a means of introducing disagreement into a conversation, and putting yourself in a place of opposition. It's a really confrontational thing to do in regular conversation, as it's often just unnecessary and comes across as picking a fight or forcing someone to have to defend themselves/their position. While anecdotally I have seen a lot more guys do this than girls, I disagree that its a "natural thing" for guys to do. I think it comes down to having awareness and understanding of the social dynamics that you are introducing into a conversation. I think people who play the devil's advocate *think* that they are distancing themselves from actually saying the confrontational thing, but they aren't. Essentially, all they're doing is saying "hypothetically, what if you were wrong/your perspective was wrong". You can tell that 'devils advocate' people understand this too, because they know when NOT to do it (or who they shouldn't do it to). People rarely play the devils advocate with their boss, for instance. Its because playing devils advocate is an expression of doubt in, or direct challenge to, another person's perspective. Funny enough, I think part of the problem is that male friendships seem to be less confrontational/more conflict averse overall (because guys are discouraged from 'making waves' and don't want to come across as 'sensitive' to other guys), which leaves a lot of boys/men lacking awareness of how their words affect the people around them (unless expressed directly), and of what is helpful or unhelpful in a given situation. You definitely get a lot more direct social corrections and experience with social conflict in young female friendships, though the experience of going through it can be rough sometimes. This actually is the exact same problem that underlies the other thing you mentioned, about how guys sometimes struggle to give emotional support when someone wants to vent, and instead end up trying to give solutions which can feel unhelpful or invalidating for the other person. I promise you, guys can definitely understand why that situation feels shitty when it happens to them when they are the one venting; I was in a counsellor-type role for a few years, and I had so many young men complaining about how they couldn't go to their friends for support because the conversations just weren't helpful. Like anything else, its just a skill that needs to be worked on to improve over time. It doesn't come "naturally" to most, its a learned social behaviour.

[@bobhadababy4079]

@@townfool4682 This is an interesting take to me. I wonder if you live in a city or the country side. Personally (As a 35 year old male.) I seek out my friends (Especially male friends.) to play devil's advocate for most of my opinions, thoughts, and decisions. Precisely because I want to see a thing from as many angles (Good and bad) as I can. It helps me to better understand my own thoughts and positions and when I am asked, or forced, to defend those positions I am prepared. As for the "struggle to give emotional support" I think that's just a male thing (In most cultures world wide.) men aren't there to be emotional support. We exist to solve problems in physical space. It's what we are trained and taught to do from birth. (IE: The whole "man up" thing that the vast majority of men go through, at least we did in my generation growing up.) I don't think that's a problem per say. I think society requires it to continue running. As for not doing it with your boss. That's just a shitty job if that's your take on it. As someone who has worked as a fine-dining chef, a telemarketer, construction, on a shrimp boat, on a fishing vessel, an oysterman, insurance sales and processing. I almost always have a relationship with my bosses in which I question something or ask why it's done a certain way. I personally think either your view of playing devil's advocate is flawed, or mine is. Or perhaps like so many other things, the definition has changed in recent years. I don't see devil's advocate as an expression of doubt, or a direct challenge. I see it as preparation to ensure you are on solid ground when you take whatever it is being discussed into the world. Whether that is an opinion on politics, life, religion, a business decision, a life decision etc. Pushing at the weakness of a concept so that it can be reinforced and corrected is the opposite of a problem. It's a form of trying to help to make sure something is stable. Maybe that's just how my the people I interact with view it. I've mostly lived in places that are not massive population centers. (Biggest city I lived in was a population of 300K) So that could be the major divorce in beliefs here.

[@cawcaw9089]

@@hyp3ri6n58its not a left brain/right brain stuff, its just the way men are socialized to believe that they "think more logically" and are smarter than women, also that women are seen as emotional so a first instinct would be to assume any point made by a woman is emotional in nature, thus the need for a guy to "try to see all sides" or "try to fix it" when its sometimes not necessary? sometimes people want to talk about things and some people need to verbally process their problems to be able to find a solution. empathy plays a role too and i believe men tend to feel less empathy or are less understanding to women, so it always causes this conflict

[@agotiprime7687]

I bring up your podcast all the time in therapy and in open conversations cuz it’s the subjects in these podcast that actually gets me to open up to therapist and people. It’s very inspiring :)

[@rimmax556]

right when I needed it the most.. new episode of wine about it

[@adrncx]

fr literally just sat down with some food

[@em-xr8dk]

I didn’t have any experience like QT’s but that idea that “oh it’s in the past, I should be fine” is actually really really common - from things like sexual abuse to even bad breakups. For me it was my dad being absent and an alcoholic and what really helped me was the book “All About Love” by Bell Hooks. Helped me actually process how I felt.

[@zaebumafu]

QT: I've given up on therapy Also QT: *diatribe on the recent breakthrough in her therapy sessions*

[@carlyhoffman5318]

this ep inspired me to talk to my therapist about that ptsd therapy you guys were talking about! gonna bring it up next sesh thanks guys

[@BarginsGalore]

QT wouldn’t be the first person to have weak wrists after a week full of masterbaking

[@leilahai]

to add on to the point about this podcast normalizing therapy: i genuinely dont think i wouldve started going to therapy if it werent for this podcast and yall talking about it in such a casual way. i used to be so terrified of the idea of going to therapy but its really been beneficial for me the last few months

[@konumbra]

qt's wine pour sounded like it was in hell

[@elora512]

I wasn't going to say it but it sounded like a demon making clicking sounds XD

[@TheMomno]

I can’t believe qt said that hilariously dark thing! Wow Maya really knows a lot about that weird animal! (Didn’t listen yet, but felt left out 😢)

[@pinkmatter8488]

Lmaooo

[@mtt4639]

You guys talking openly about therapy actually helped me to go to therapy and get diagnosed and it helped me alot and also i talked about therapy openly after going there and because u guys are so open about it i got courage to be open about it and some of my friends are going to therapy to get help so al around lots of good influence thank you

[@Necromancer525252]

I've never been so invested as I am watching qt try to use the bottle opener and slowly getting better

[@Psykells]

This podcast has become my group therapy

[@SpencerTuom]

I don't know how they can have a wine podcast and not know how to open wine it's crazy

[@alilwildwithcat167]

as if they don't complain about how much they hate wine every episode 😂

[@Dell-ol6hb]

I agree with tweet about the devil's advocate thing, like 90% of the time when someone actually says that to you it means they just want to express their insane views without being viewed as though that is their opinion (even though it almost always is).

[@tacowolf1765]

Whenever I've heard the "devil's advocate" thing I've always interpreted it as "I will annoy you endlessly by arguing nonstop about things that don't matter and also I don't understand nuance." To which I say, "ok cool, thanks for the heads-up" and then avoid them completely.

[@dofgames]

Maya out here as attack of the clones padme

[@7raindeer1]

I love the therapy updates QT taught me that I was journaling wrong and now I journal about my feelings and listen to positive affirmations and I’m going to talk to my therapist about EMDR!! It make be uncomfortable to talk about but they’re really saving lives talking so openly about it it’s really refreshing ❤

[@98loud]

11:10 maybe it was because you mentioned it on the podcast? I personally have this thing where trauma doesn't feel real until I tell certain people about it, or am generally more open about it. Saying stuff out loud without your thoughts to justify and bury things just hits different edit: yeah holy shit you described it perfectly like 6 minutes later when explaining telling your dad

[@radlee974]

Ummmmm…. I’m sorry but did QT just say that next week we’ll be getting an episode with “The Yard” boys and then the week after that y’all will be reacting to assumptions of you via the hell-scape known as Twitter?? What the F did all of us losers do to deserve such fire content coming our way?!?!?! I mean… I love Wine About It *every week* but these upcoming pods feel *extra* special to me. Well, no matter what we did to deserve it, THANK YOU SOOO MUCH, QT & MAYA FOR THE CONSTANT STELLAR CONTENT!! *YOU GUYS FUCKING ROCK!!*

[@thegamingcharizard7762]

Mayas wine pour was the best one yet 👌

[@alilwildwithcat167]

I agree, bit I also loved that QTs sounded like it was in a cavern

[@paigerobertson2545]

I really appreciate qt (and maya) talking about their active growth with therapy, even these updates about her working through processing every week makes me feel more comfortable and hopeful about my trama, as well as qt's.

[@theotakuGamer7640]

I think you guys don't argue enough with people. the "Devils advocate" is 100% accurate. I used to be a debate bro, and everyone who would say THE MOST unhinged shit, would always try to defend themselves by saying "I'm just playing devils advocate" but they also don't UNDERSTAND the purpose of devils advocate. its a very common "defense" for peoples very shitty opinions.

[@theotakuGamer7640]

I think the big disconnect between you 2 and the list is ya'll don't use dating apps and don't see the douche bags on these apps that actively are portrayed the way she states.

[@anoldsmellyunusedaccount]

I really relate to QTCinderella's feelings on trauma as someone who was groomed as a child. You don't even think its a big deal until you say it out loud to somebody then you know why you subconsciously never talked about it for so long

[@synthiandrakon]

The only content "age is just a number" is fine is when it's like a 50 year old divorcee psyching themselves up to date another 50 year old

[@Two-ToneMoonStone]

I did eye EMDR and I hated it at first and then I finally committed to it once and it changed a lot of shit for me forever. It's insane how effective it is. EDIT: What the red flag segment is teaching is that some men need to hire maid sex workers and some women just need to get cats and be alone.

[@relmarrowny8860]

Maya's joke about "looking up the word 'transactional'" was great. She IS the funny one.

[@xyz_abc123]

Also, i feel most 'red flags' are good to keep in mind and be wary of bad behaviour rather than completely back off from someone, because language is weird and sometimes people just say things lol especially on dating profiles where you kinda don't know what to say

[@moeezS]

As a therapist, it's dope how much you all talk about the effects of therapy. And yes, don't try to contact therapists once therapy is over. It's VERY parasocial and breaks ethical boundaries if the therapist and client were to become friends. Maybe a couple of years later, but I would rather have my own life and it would be awkward having that dynamic over a potential friend, because I know so much about them and they know barely anything.

[@emmadunn8961]

This podcast keeps getting funnier, and more tragic, it’s great 😭😭

[@whschopke98]

QT's look at 40:10 was HILARIOUS LMAO. The wybrows and smirk together *chef's kiss* About the "drama" red flag, I think that the issue is that if the guy put this in his dating profile I think it might mean he'll flee adverse situations

[@SimplyPharmD]

I admire how comfortable you guys are with talking about your experiences with therapy; I've done EMDR and its hard to explain how explain HOW it helps without experiencing it for yourself tbh. Thanks for sharing 💖

[@sammyy6969]

so interesting bc this is exactly what i'm going through right now, certain traumatic memories just keep coming back up recently and i don't know why or how to stop thinking about them. i was also considering trying a new type of therapy to help me process my trauma, one of which being emdr, so hearing your perspectives on it is really helpful. thanks for talking openly about these things :)

[@saman-ky6uf]

Just to add to the many people who say the same, this podcast definitely helped me open up to therapy rather than just continuing to pretend to "be ok". Virtual toast to healing from trauma🍷 Sponsored by WineAboutIt

[@sylerfire553]

Therapy break troughs are important and a big part of this podcast. But I think the most excited I've been while watching wine about it is QT figuring out how to open her wine after weeks of struggle 27:47

[@polarbearsss]

i love when u guys do stuff like this, reading twitter and sharing stories :)

[@nat-xb]

i’m really happy that you guys openly talk about therapy bc for the first time in my life i’m actually heavily considering going to therapy and seeing therapy in a positive way

[@jordanjoe7276]

Maya's boyfriend would probably cringe at the wine glass choices for these podcasts

[@kio64x]

as a lesbian this podcast is very educational

[@kkayjae]

Hearing them talk about their relationships with guys is wild. I’m learning so much

[@alilwildwithcat167]

straight up!!!

[@SassySmores501]

Agreed!

[@ash-5488]

True… it’s honestly interesting and keeps me coming back.

[@catericruse4826]

yess QT I'm so glad you're doing EMDR! it helped me so much with my cptsd

[@suleiman3220]

You are right about how you help others. Thank you for having the courage to talk about what happened to you.

[@wearyfairy]

being in therapy does not equate to "being crazy" and that's why talking and normalizing it is super awesome! most people, if not literally everyone could benefit from therapy throughout their life. it's just a tool to navigate the shit storm that is life and it being so stigmatized and being seen as something for crazy people is hurting a lot of people and scaring them away!! being so open about it is a huge w and probably encouraging others to try it out :D

[@craftypacaderm2095]

I worked with EMDR to deal with some trauma I had triggers for, and it was literally life-changing. I was afraid for a very long time to even try to get help because, what if things couldn't get any better? It feels really good to hear other people talking about it.

[@sydneydicenso5966]

Genuinely, this podcast has been amazing for my mental health and not feeling alone in certain ways. Neither of you are crazy, you are doing amazing things✨

[@blushampoo162]

The title and thumbnail being so opposite to the first 30 mins is killing me, loved it ❤❤

[@candlellte]

emdr is the best thing i've ever done for myself. absolutely a difficult process but i feel so much lighter now that i'm on the other side. amazing and terrifying how the brain works

[@TPC123]

Every week I feel physical pain from QT trying to open wine with that opener, but I love the podcast and am here for the journey to her finally getting the hang of it

[@jamiecook3477]

I'm an ex drug addict did 4 years in prison 10 years ago.. probably not typically who watches lol.. When I finally came off of drugs and had to deal with my trauma coming out of abusive home.then doing 4 yrs in prison I never dealt with any of it covered it up with drugs and violence...When I got off of drugs and it all hit me like a ton of bricks never experienced that before Coming out of an abusive home. I learned to detach pretty early I became really good at it.... All those years being hard on the outside when that all melted away with 10 yrs of work still working... I realize how empathetic I am sensitive abt everything its kinda gross lol but its who I am that hard for a man who had to live a certain way just to survive to admit.... like I could never speak to a male therapist just cldnt...Anyways I love this I watched this every week.. One of the only podcast I feel is real and don't talk about dicks and p****** all the time... honestly I love this. I'm one person who appreciates it...Sorry for all the random punctuation

[@whyisgooglemakingmedothis603]

: So - that's what EMDR does. Oh boy. I'm turning 34, and I'm just about jump into that kind of therapy for the first time. I have a lot of shit to unpack, and I honestly don't think I'm anywhere near ready to do it. There's a lot of talk surrounding the healing process that really angers me (I swear, if I hear one more person tell me I need to "reconnect with my inner child" or "do shadow work" again, I'm going to blow up my phone) - but I guess it can't stop me now. Yeah, I'll probably be tuning in a lot more often if you two are this candid about this sort of thing. Thank you.

[@thothrax5621]

As far as the "Red Flag" thing goes, I think the fundamental thing here is that the term gets at this idea of "if they say this one thing it almost certainly means they're bad" but any opinion or preference that someone has CAN be problematic or cringe, but just having it doesn't always necessarily mean they're problematic or cringe, if that makes sense. For a classic example: everyone knows someone who's entire personality is liking the Office (or maybe a more modern idea is weed) and that is incredibly obnoxious, but just because someone likes the office doesn't necessarily mean it's their whole personality (or just because they smoke weed doesn't mean they're always high and only ever talk about weed), so liking the Office isn't actually a red flag. However there are real red flags, the big one in my mind is the "You're really mature for your age/age isn't important" one, because age really doesn't matter most of the time in a relationship, so if someone feels the need to say that then there is a very good chance they hold preferences/opinions related to age that are VERY problematic, and thus feel a need to defend themselves. Hope I made sense there, I just mean to say that if you think "hmm I need more context for if this is a red flag" 99% of the time it's because it isn't.

[@moocat800]

I have CPTSD and a fun grab bag of capital T trauma. My therapist has suggested EMRD but I haven't done it yet and this episode is so good for me to feel more comfortable. Thank you so much for talking about therapy, it helps me talk to others about my journey

[@Yawning.]

I feel like this podcast has made me more aware of my feelings that I always block out and I think once I start therapy again I can tell them more about my childhood and shitty stuff.

[@RubenDelight]

I like how QTs first example for beautiful but doesn't know it was the one direction song that is literally scientifically designed to prey on young girls with low self esteem that will then go out and buy all their albums.

[@Deathstar0wannabe]

It's like a fracture that healed wrong. Sometimes gotta break it so you reset it and have it heal again

[@liloa03]

Talking about it is making me consider trying one again. Don’t stop it’s why I listen to this podcast. Talk about what you want bc that’s why I’m listening. You’re not being a lot. Thank you like actually.

[@jesseee8828]

i literally did use qt talking about her experiences to help me talk to my boyfriend about what i've been through so thank you qt

[@vexellent]

EMDR is wild, i used to take it too, it helped me process alot of my PTSD. its so validating to hear about someone as successful as you guys still having problems and having done the SAME therapy as me... thank you for sharing. it means alot.

[@ninin11]

i love how genuine the podcast is, i love hearing about these so human experiences of like working through trauma in therapy, makes me feel better about my own experiences with these things

[@aydadae7337]

Omg no the devils advocate thing has always been an excuse to be a contrarian and it drives me insane. I don't think I'm spelling it wrong. They want to be contradictory to you each time you say anything it's awful. Once in a great while maybe? No I don't like that phrase. And yeah anal isn't pleasant anytime I tried to participate it hurts but I'd deal with it for him ( one guy really, so) I'd bleed and it would hurt to wipe for a day and it's just. No. Idk. Now I can't participate in it at all. I agree with that third one they said to, they want a woman with low self esteem it makes an easier target out of the women. Idk.

[@Unch0sen1]

Also Maya's nails are amazing

[@melztunes]

I really like the therapy updates. It really helps me understand a lot about what people go through and what it means to work through it. If you're trying to limit them I hope its just because you want to, not because you think its too depressing or not what we want to hear. I find it fascinating and enlightening and really authentic and I appreciate you both even more for sharing it so openly.

[@melztunes]

Also I am super curious as to what QTs Dads response was to her revealing that to him, what his advice about the letter was, and if they've spoken about it again.

[@lizzarrdd]

Im currently changing therapists and it is definitely nerve wracking. I think it’s a societal thing that makes therapy a “weird” concept to openly talk about. It shouldn’t be since it helps sm. It can be trial and error but it’s worth it in the long run, from experience

[@chaoticlynn11]

time for our regularly scheduled wine about it wednesdays ! 😌🍷

[@tikayscake2416]

man i love wine wednesday

[@maccamachine]

Comes out on my day off every week it’s great

[@GabbysANinja]

QT if you’re reading this get tf out of the comments. Anyway I feel like Maya and especially QT have progressed even in how they talk about these experiences. They seem more comfortable in doing so, even though I’m sure it’s still extremely difficult. This podcast has honestly helped me in starting to process my own similar traumas - and I’m really thankful for that. Also yeah way more people need to go to therapy lol

[@chloecee5743]

lmao I love how openly you guys talk about therapy. I do group therapy and the way you guys talk about it all is super helpful for me :D

[@jamesyeardly-davern6230]

Ryan Higa releasing the nice guys song way back in the day is what spawned the nice guy archetype and nothing will change my mind about that

[@shfunko]

“Nightmare about it” would be a phenomenal spin-off serial killer stories pod

[@elijahrdz]

The constant mentioning of therapy has really opened my eyes to how much therapy can really help literally anyone. I am now considering going to therapy myself and I thank y’all for that!!

[@astrangedeadbird]

Hearing about deeply personal and relatable trauma no problem, watching QT struggle with the wine opener week after week gives me panic attacks

[@taylifts]

My dream is for a Sad Boyz x Wine About It collab one day. Sad About it. Wine Boyz if you will

[@ohtv9294]

"they probably used to cut squirrels in half" caught me off guard lmao

[@thefalseprophett8807]

As a guy, any time I get introduced to some dude and he is the "let me play devil's advocate" guy, he always had at least a slight misogynistic mindset. I can 100% see that one being a red flag. Updating as I watch along: Got to the quirky one, that one tweet was definitely reaching. But being on the "inside" of being able to talk with guys, a lot of these tweets so far make at least 50% sense. Guys try to hide A LOT of their meaning behind phrases that could pass off as normal. Like the "looking for open mindedness" example. Update 2: The "nice guy" is probably the most prominent. Knew a guy who would always say things like "the nice guy never truly wins huh" without realizing that just because you are nice to someone, they have no obligation to have feelings for you. Also, and this is just my opinion, you should never describe yourself as nice. Someone else can describe you as nice and it's fine, but if that's one of the top 3 things you have to describe your own self with, not a good look. This was a fun watch, I could match a dude to each tweet in both the way the tweet describes and how Maya/QT describe.

[@315peaks]

I love therapy talks, for QT is so nice to see how patient she is with her because it's also so hard to find someone who reassures you. Plus, believe it or not, talking about it does normalize it because at least to myself, it's hard to admit I'm getting help or taking meds, I feel ashamed so it's nice to get that courage to be more open about it. Regardless, I loved the ep and the revision of that actually weird thread, I do think that person was either personally hurt, baiting or stole some stories from the internet or both, it is twitter at the end of the day.

[@jessticles7]

Don't pivot!! I LOVE hearing you guys talk openly about your trauma and mental health, it really feels like the deep chats I have with my bestie! If QT is crazy, so am I 🥲I feel so seen

[@AniWillow]

I think the person who made the thread was obviously exaggerating for comedic effect but I think the main point is red flags don’t mean this extreme but maybe look out for what they could do in the future. Normal and nice people can have red flags.

[@CallMeFletch]

I was not expecting a bo burnham reference. that really caught me off guard. Thanks QT for the double take straight from 2010 xD

[@goateeguy11221122]

I'm finding a lot online claiming that EMDR is "purple hat therapy," that is, something that's effective because of the proven, established methods of therapy underlying the system, not because of the eye movement part itself, that the study of the eye movement aspect is a distraction from what's actually working about it.

[@Zigster22]

That Bo Burnham reference at 54:01 made me happy

[@Linsator]

QT love the therapy talk, for easier wine opening you need to skrew it almost all the way in, then bend the metal part down and use it like lever

[@Chis2300]

This podcast is my form of therapy but really I enjoy these talks glad it came back

[@darelh1348]

I feel you on it being to weird how stuff that you didn't think affected you for many years can suddenly pop up. Brains process things in weird ways, trauma isn't logical.

[@cloverrayofsunshine]

so many feelings listening to you guys just talk. very happy and thankful that I found you guys and can sit and have my own experiences feel more normal (as fucked as that is) while listening. thank you guys for these light and heavy discussions :')

[@secondeye1574]

"It's been done" is so funny

[@joshsilberstein4]

EMDR is wild I definitely had such a challenging time after having that therapy and am kind of still dealing with those emotions that have come up.