Wisdom of the Rebbe - 3 Excellent Points to Approach Shidduchim

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[@Meitsjustmereally]

Great! I think the point about looking for something lost is that you know for certain it’s out there. Therefore you look for it with certainty. Very different to “is there even someone out there for me”

[@Tzfatsky]

It’s a big mitzvah to match. The beshert is waiting to be found, the significant other is never lost.

[@Ben-sv9op]

Shabbat shalom ❤

[@BryanKirch]

Doesn’t God choose your wife? Why do we have to “look” for who we believe is “good” doesn’t God know better than us? Isn’t it that sometimes what we don’t want is what God wills for us for our benefit?

[@Tzfatsky]

One must find their beshert, sometimes people live in an area where there is no shadchun, the Rabbi wants all Yiddisha kindalach to have 360* nachas 🖖

[@Thomas.Bolleiro]

@@Tzfatsky I lost all hope in Shiduchim, after I realized that, in liberal jewish america, I'm not allowed to be with a young girl, unless I'm no older than 18 I was 33 and the shadchans offered me to marry a 42 year old. Where is the jewish common sense here?

[@Tzfatsky]

@@Thomas.Bolleiro After the Holocaust, there were few suitors so a younger man might have been paired with a woman 10 year’s older, as long as she could still have children but after the first generation, that would never happen again, unless, and that’s in rare circumstances, there’s an issue, I.e., a divorced Cohen of 35 takes the 20 y/o daughter of a Geordis. As you know, a Cohen cannot take a divorced woman. And a girl who isn’t married by the time she’s 35 is a telling story within the Frum community (not to be taken in an ugly way). I don’t know anything about you so I cannot comment on why you had that experience. If you do have some kind of an issue then that would be the likely reason why a shadchan would rear such a shedach. When it comes to shadekim, you have to know your strengths and weaknesses and be reasonable too. Don’t be fast too pass up an otherwise good shedach. Have you tried finding someone in Eretz Yisroel? That might be your next step. Hatzluach!

[@Thomas.Bolleiro]

@@Tzfatsky Hi. Thanks for the info, did not know about Cohen, not being able to marry a divorced girl. No, I was never married, neither do I have any children. My first shadchan was a woman, in Moscow, they never matched me with anyone and never texted me back, once they realized they won't get a "premium" beforehand. In states, not much different. Though it would cost me around 250 dollars just to talk to him, then a match would cost 4000 dollars. So, these things are strictly about money, it's a business that runs purely on a financial transaction. Why you can expect the relationship to be the same I once went to a Shabbat Dinner, to a Sephardic family. The mother offered me to marry a 42 year old, while holding a straight face I believe the belittling and hatred towards men is Ingrained in a jewish religion. It figures, since all our jews are liberals and feminists. Go figure. So, I left the shiduchim theory. It doesn't work. I'm entering a healthy relationship, on my own, with a not-fully jewish girl, yet she's 250 times better than all our full-blooded jewish girls combined The Shiduchim business won't last, men come to a realization that they're being tricked into a very unknown area, where they're just a target.

[@gavnonadoroge3092]

@@Thomas.Bolleiro so where did you find your wife?

[@anthonysteyning8032]

Yeah, but what to do with those damn Palestinians..... Though I likie the part of a little less prayer and a bit more self-sacrifice!

[@martonbraun3634]

The rebbe was an epic leader and educator but l regret his medling in lsrael politics.

[@goldengun9970]

You can't separate Israel from Judaism

[@Thomas.Bolleiro]

Wasn't he the only one, who pointed out that too many non-jews are entering Israel? He was not wrong about that. Look at the outcome.