WITHHOLDING: The Top 5 Ways Women DENY A Man's Needs

Withholding is the malicious, conscious denial of another's needs. Withholding in my marriage was one of the most wicked and vicious behaviors I had to see about myself as a woman and a wife. In this video, I share the top 5 ways women withhold from their husbands so that we can evolve as women and wives to be happy, loving, and kind.
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[@martinf2740]

The loneliest I have ever been was laying beside the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and knowing I couldn’t touch her.

[@doubledcanada]

Very powerful statement. You are right.

[@dancoleman8467]

Same here

[@jim6635]

Same here. Mine has become a touch me not and fridgid

[@jaydawg8476]

Same

[@RajaFarhan82]

Same

[@KikiNation1]

As a man, it honestly hurt to listen to this video . Because it describes my marriage perfectly.

[@bobbyjames4300]

Sadly it describes 95% of marriages my friend.

[@MrJemal23]

Bruh LEAVE. ITS NOT CHEAPER TO KEEP HER! You're wasting your life with someone that doesn't really love you.

[@wallytucker62816964]

Mine too brother

[@ronsullivan132]

Me too

[@craigcolbourn8351]

Right there with ya bro. Guys at work are saying the same thing.

[@craigknight4836]

One of the worst feelings is being rejected by the person you love, provide for, and have children with. It’s awful.

[@frankdique8799]

Yeah absolutely. 100% agree with you. The disappointment and the betrayal is always there. But time and concentrating on our own lives, is the best way forward. 👍

[@Ekam-Sat]

Correct. I know the feeling. Stay strong King.

[@racebannon96]

I was in the same position as you. No help with the kids or chores. No affection or support. Intimacy was rare and always on her terms. She finally left the kids and me after 10 years. It is the gift that keeps on giving.

[@Kevin-u8h5e]

They can either smother you or completely shut it all down …there should be a happy balance … as a man I need intimacy as well as my own space without getting that passive aggressive guilt or her looking around just because I needed an afternoon to my self

[@AndrejPodzimek]

That feeling is avoidable. Don’t fall for the nonsense of relationships, “significant others” and similar. When something looks like a trap, it most likely *is* a trap. The same sad story has been repeating itself for centuries. What is it that makes people think they are special and can’t get hurt? This has nothing to do with gender. Don’t walk into traps, don’t set traps, stay safe.

[@RaySmithWeb]

These are the private conversations that men have been having with each other for years, now being acknowledged by women. Thank you!

[@jwarrior9986]

By some women...the vast majority of them still enjoy bringing us hell on earth. Well, here is hoping for change anyway.

[@UPalooza]

When women start acknowledging this as "female supremecism," we'll be getting somewhere.

[@G.Arsene]

😂😂😂 you are right comrade 🫡

[@sammyb1651]

@@jwarrior9986 Well said. Also worth remembering that-where it is being acknowledged, as here in this video-it's only being acknowledged for personal gain In other words the woman has a channel/brand to grow. It isn't being acknowledged privately for the sake of the man in her life.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

​@@sammyb1651how do you know "it isn't being acknowledged privately for the man in her life"? She seemed very sincere to me and based on her emotional response, is deeply saddened by her past behavior in this area.

[@velcroman11]

If my wife was locked in a room for ONE HUNDRED YEARS and made to listen to all your videos over and over. When she was released from the room, She Wouldn’t - have - learnt - a - thing.

[@GregtheGrey6969]

I thought the same thing 8 hours ago...but she listened to it....I was shocked

[@jwarrior9986]

I'm skeptical my wife would learn a thing either. We are Christians...the bible explicitly forbids husbands and wives to deny each other...and yet it is a constant issue. If hearing a preacher tell her that she is wrong hasn't moved her, I highly doubt anyone save God Himself could change anything. The MGTOW men have a point and it is looking like the only thing that is going to change women is if men straight up walk off.

[@bearclaw5115]

Well to be fair, after that long she'd be less than responsive let's say.

[@rob21]

@@GregtheGrey6969 What did she say or do after?

[@hipcat13]

She said it was all his fault.@@rob21

[@Tykillzem1]

I never feel lonely when I'm alone, I feel lonely when someone I give everything to, holds back so much from me

[@icarus166]

Yeah, it’s really odd. When my ex did all this to me, while I was only giving to her, I felt extremely lonely. After the relationship broke up, I didn’t feel lonely anymore.

[@lowbloodprsure]

You are correct

[@mikeexits]

This is often true for me too and I love alone time, however years and years of being stuck with my family (wouldn't say 'stuck' if they were supportive or in any major way functional) with no partner prospects or even female friends, and of my close friends (found family that practically saved my life) being only available to be with me in person maybe 4-5x a year has taken its toll. I finally felt lonely and isolated after several years of this, especially with my abusive mother making the household psychologically and emotionally hostile, leaving me feeling alienated and even more isolated. All it really takes to go from happily alone to lonely, in my experience at least, is extended time without having a way to be with people you're close to and trust deeply, and of course having people that make you feel isolated despite being there compounds it a whole lot worse. I'm a hermit-esque introvert and always have been, however I've been seriously planning to put myself out there more despite my fears and anxieties after this much time of little wholesome human contact ever happening. Much love, best wishes.

[@bobbygasser2681]

Well put

[@Ekam-Sat]

Yes.

[@clarkkent5830]

This is how my wife treated me for 20 years and I was unhappy and neglected as a result. She decided the kids were more important than working on her marriage and she completely stopped trying. She quit wearing makeup and nice cloths around me, she stopped working out and gained 100 lbs, and the sex stopped about 10 years ago. She blamed me for everything that went wrong in the relationship and for not making her happy. I did everything I could including doing all the dishes every day, vacuuming the house, taking out the trash, feeding the dogs, putting away my laundry, making my lunches, doing all the yard work and house maintenance and cooking for myself at lease 2 days a week. I did all of this while working a full time job and running a side business which provided all the money we needed even though she chose to work. My money was "our" money but her money was "hers", if that sounds selfish and hypercritical that's because it is. Finally a few months ago she hit me with a divorce because she wasn't happy and didn't like the way I treated her. Now that I'm divorced I'm very happy and plan on living my best life, that doesn't include re-marrying, I'm done with women.

[@ethosterros9430]

Straight up had a gorged leech on your nutsack. Glad life is better for you now bro

[@s4lino]

wow, a paragraph worth 20 years of life summary/knowledge/pain and that seemed like a gigantic bucket load of things to do/did which I would of thought would land some where in the good man type category but all it lead to was the not good enough label/taken for granted (why you didnt take care the kids too while you are at it, 'not good enough' , princess syndrome online) maybe not enough $ for her mind that her dough stack causes her to work (withhold time to spend on pitiful/boring or 'tool-bot' you/a common term in asian culture) and load her safe with her bars of gold (which includes a bit of yours as mentioned), not compatible enough personality and treatment IQ too low of close relationships in human form. I read the most likely cause of marriage fail is money values as that of course causes all sorts of management issues in the world of life and marriage then the second is the right way to raise or parent kids so seem like you got some points on the score boards there. So I guess bad boys do have some fun like the blondies...you don't set boundaries or respect red lines then I think its like a bully during my high school days...my friend said why don't you react (I am not really a drama type person) and the bully would keep going as if its some kind of fuel or drug high...you need it constantly or higher and higher doses so I could see that in your ex-wife's case. Lastly, more of a cultural and maybe more extreme type situation...I finally can see some reason to why middle eastern culture don't let their woman out too much or without male guardians, the beating/lashing and stuff...price of freedom that you paid? or maybe our ancestors know that under the same situation woman generally speaking wouldn't be able to hold / be calm to the degree needed and worst in modern day situation and setting like a computer game on insane difficulty, so if both sexes is held at the same level then the female would be still outside the threshold a bit different to those more male like females which you would probably not be attracted to in the first place but I think they tend to hold calm thoughts better rather than letting it go up like in Gaza. Also, the tip of balance of earnings between male and females are shaking the 'talk' in the marriage so maybe thats where sex equality or on the way there are good in theory but also creates issues of who should do what that still needs to be done for a marriage to stay a marriage. At least all these problems are keeping the oldest profession alive right so its a bit of yin and yang, we all work and fail to keep the balances across the spectrum.

[@johnanon658]

Op was too nice. But regardless, she was a bad apple it seems, implying that her “happiness” was your responsibility. There is NO winning that game.

[@ethosterros9430]

@@johnanon658 its fucked cuz dudes with spines get dumped if they arent chad and shes walking on eggshells

[@Crottinger]

Don’t ever get remarried. Go Mgtow

[@Karl-no1tl]

Shared this video with my wife because I thought it was right on 100% and asked my wife to give it a listen. She made it about 15 seconds and then said she had to turn it off and wouldn’t listen to anymore. Then apparently she played it for her therapist and her therapist told her to turn it off after less than a minute. Needless to say this video has helped confirm for me a couple serious issues in my marriage. 1. My wife’s attitude towards my needs and concerns and 2. the influence of her feminist therapist on our relationship.

[@ronaldmacaluso107]

yup show my wife and she went ballistic 💥

[@richardcasey7521]

A good reason for divorce.

[@tarablue4472]

Karyn failed tremendously by failing to mention why women's libido drops after a while, because of the orgasm gap. Women have a need to orgasm too. When that fails then naturally she'll get turned off.

[@tomla2725]

Time to find a woman that appreciates you. As a newly divorced man, that went through temporary hell, it is worth it - when the situation is no longer tolerable.

[@whozaskin3639]

Leave with your little bit of dignity

[@bg1029]

I must tell you that there are wives that understand what this fine lady is explaining. My beautiful wife of 51 years understood all of this. She departed to be with the Lord 5 years ago. I am eager to join her there. One of the last things she said to me was “You’ve been the biggest blessing in my life.” I am so very thankful for having a Godly woman in my life.

[@andredutoit1131]

WoW! Thank you, Jesus 🙌❤💒!

[@Ardenbralee24]

What you communicated portrays a beautiful relationship and everyone around you was probably very aware and appreciated it as well.

[@matthewzumbo9868]

Damn you really had it good! I wish you all the best brother

[@peterkimani3364]

You are a very lucky man

[@kirkward1055]

Thank you for shedding some light. Hopefully me too. UPDATE ( One week later) The optimism is no longer with me. She is 900 plus miles away and now the thoughts that woke me up in the morning, still do. There is one difference that the mood quickly subsides when I roll over and realize she's not here. That is a different type of pain that I was expecting but also goes away well totally quickly when I think about why we were put in this situation. I was really hopeful that my ex would be holding herself accountable and either returning to me as a new strong independent woman or leaving me for a truly better deal. I would feel much better about myself if she didn't cheat with somebody of a lesser lower caliber. I feel used since she downgraded on that one and one other that I know about. I think two chances is more than enough to prove that the road we were on never included me 100%. After two chances I feel like I would be on the road of insanity, which is a road I do not want to be on either. I read your words in they struck me deep and gave me a bit more hope, however, she did not vest into the process. I know that when she passes this will bring a whole nother grief to me and I will miss her in another way altogether. While doing so I will also regret the time we lost in the time we did together and lost the future. I was too close this time at losing my gentleman qualities so, I am afraid to encounter another scenario later on in our marriage. Best thing to predict the future my friends is the past. Good luck to everybody and please understand that I will always love this woman for the rest of my life. Not sure what that holds in store for me and my future and I will embrace it and continue to grow stronger in every way possible.

[@johnwhite6312]

You have described my wife of 20 years perfectly. It is a slow death. It is intentional. And it is evil.

[@basstheangelo]

My good man, just leave. You’ll feel like a new born again. 110% better.

[@mvelomkhize716]

💔💔

[@GBU61]

Your story is so common that when I meet a man who has been married at least 5 years, I already know how he feels. I know we have passed the point of “no return” but I have often wondered how did women get this bad?

[@johnwhite6312]

​@chronicblast5505304s?

[@ericbibeau5631]

And supported by government, institutions, media, and almost all women.

[@jameskrobar7814]

The irony here. My ex-wife left for a 4 day vacation when we were together. I wanted to surprise her while she was gone by remodeling our bathroom. I pulled a lot of strings with contractor friends and worked 15 hours each day to complete it in time for her return. I did a full remodel from floor to ceiling. It was beautiful. I was expecting fireworks, tears of joy, and some great bedroom time when she saw it, but instead she told me “how could you possibly think we need 2 sinks!” She was so mad. Still to this day I feel the sting from that. She never said thank you or showed any appreciation. She just complained more and more about the details. I’m so glad I left her and didn’t waste any more of my time trying to make her happy.

[@Curious-Minds]

Two sinks is a great idea. Good job.

[@martinf2740]

My wife was a horsewoman. She was competing in the provincial championships. I spent 4 days there doing everything for the horse, feeding, cleaning, bathing. All she had to do was get on the horse and ride. When we came home the lawn needed cutting. I grabbed a cigar and jumped on the riding mower for some me time. When I came back in, I swear I met the anti-Christ. How dare I take some time for myself after doing everything for her for 4 days?!! That was the first time I left her. She hoovered me back, but I left for good 6 months later.

[@jameskrobar7814]

@@mmm365 damned if I do, damned if I don’t. I remodeled it because I was tired of her complaining about it needing to be done. Then when it was done, she complained about that too. For many women, absolutely nothing makes them happy. They don’t know how to be happy by themselves even.

[@jameskrobar7814]

@@mmm365 nobody can make anyone else happy. People are responsible for their own happiness. A marriage counselor told me this after struggling for 20 years trying to “make” this wench happy. Hearing that was like an elephant getting off my shoulders.

[@MrRobjs83]

the fact that she went on a vacation by herself is a big red flag in itself. What was she doing going on a vacation by herself if you were already married?

[@GautomKrSaikia]

Madam. Your understanding of man's psychology is worthy of appreciation. I have all the respect for you

[@Bukachimy]

This lady is so sincere that she's speaking to the point of tears. She's a rare gem.

[@ScottKlajicPHD]

She does that occasionally. I think she has a combination of guilt and relief that she figured it out before it wrecked her marriage. She is very honest that way .

[@vancehurd453]

Fake tears 🎉

[@Boosted_aj]

@@vancehurd453if she can fake tears and a wet vagina then I’ll have it. Better than nothing. At the end of the day you never believe the bi-atch anyways…

[@Odey__Bright]

If you say fake tears, you must be a woman who never learn.

[@zsmith4853]

​@@vancehurd453Evidence?

[@michaelwheeler3782]

Now men are withholding things. Men are withholding dating, engagement rings and weddings. Way to go ladies, you did this to yourself

[@jamese9283]

Correct, however, weak men started it by letting women out of the house 100 years ago.

[@simon359]

@@jamese9283 Sorry, but I think inflation had a lot more to do with that!

[@zweisteinya]

Y​@@jamese9283the 'suffragettes' were daughters of rich landowners. Their actions got women to work, doubling the value of land 😅

[@rnd2731]

Women control access to sex and fertility, men control access to relationships and resources

[@m_jay5]

@michaelwheeler3782 Feminism and MeToo

[@sungladeab]

I just realized that I treated my first husband this way and I am so sorry. Every woman needs to watch this and take responsibility.

[@phebb8255]

The fact that you are less than 1% of women who will take this seriously and have opened yourself to self-reflection, speaks volumes. Your husband is lucky.

[@djftremblay5895]

You have my full respect, your husband will be a very happy man.

[@orangeandslinky]

Your family has fur. Your family has paws. Your joy is a horse. Men will never understand that.

[@edheldude]

​@@phebb8255She just said she treated her husband like this. He's not lucky but he suffered from the same violence.

[@good_king_guitarman1334]

You just realised? Now?

[@darrall2877]

It doesn't matter what a woman learns, she'll do whatever she FEELS like doing whenever she FEELS like doing it.

[@nephilimshammer9567]

Hence why women shouldn't vote or be bosses

[@brucecates3772]

true that brother a woman is only loyal to her feelings right on

[@smith899]

It has only been in the last 3 years that I have met women that are ruled by their feelings and I am 57. (We moved to a beach town.) I am a female engineer and most of my female friends where we used to live, were also professionals and they did NOT let their feelings rule them. So, maybe look for different women. Ones more science/math oriented. We might only be a 6 on the feminine scale, but we are very logical.

[@brucecates3772]

@@smith899 Thank you Smith .I do hope the women subscribers and viewers read your comment and learn from it.Thanks for sharing !

[@smith899]

@@brucecates3772I hope women watch this, too! I am happily married (32 years today), but I have many single friends in our beach town to which we moved. Our children are all in serious relationships, but everything I see, male/female relationships are doomed and this scares me AND makes me sad for people! But mostly, I am a needy engineer who LOVES to learn and research. After 32 years, I am sure there are things I can learn. ❤

[@A_Well_Traveled_Man]

The fact that you hear this woman crying just trying to make it through this video shows the kind of love she has for her husband❤

[@terry9238]

No, she doesn’t seem to have her mental health issues as well-resolved as she thinks she does-and she should get some more (and/or better) counseling. She’s not finished “doing the work”!

[@josephbassey1501]

​@@terry9238that cry or tear is the realization of how much her feminism was hurting her husband When you're red-pilled and you look back at how you behaved in the past, it feels you with regret of how badly you treated those that loved you That's what was happening there

[@DangerousFacts48]

No, it's just guilt

[@insurancedaddy]

​@@terry9238you are dead wrong. The emotion you see here, that's remorse, regret, guilt, and shame for the wicked way she treated her husband. I found it to be genuine and authentic and I cried with her.

[@foesfly3047]

@@josephbassey1501and it’s honorable, noble, admirable that she has grown this much, especially that she has the courage to share her experience with us.

[@JamesStaaks8182]

I had a woman who withheld all of these things and was devastated when she left me. Now I have a real woman who can’t get enough of me and is genuinely happy to be in my presence and it’s the same for me. I’ve never been happier. These woman ARE out there, just don’t settle for anything less. Stay strong my brothers.

[@MartinEngelbrecht-ey3rl]

I have never heard a woman be objective before. That's why I love this channel, a women who is objective. First time. No throwing stones. Looking at self. Truly amazing.

[@brucecates3772]

yes this is extremely rare fora woman to be objective about female shortcomings women as a whole will never ever admit they are wrong and will never ever accept responsibility. So refreshing and rarre for a woman to be open ad transparent like this. So rare bt greatly appreciated.

[@brucecates3772]

Its so interesting and prophetic you mention the children in many or most cases children are a womens prize and men are an unfortunate necessary eveil to help create children and unneccasry eveil to pay for women and pay ofor womens children.

[@MartinEngelbrecht-ey3rl]

@brucecates3772 very true men have to work hard to keep marriage after the kids have gone. The moment the kids are gone, women are gone, i am speaking from experience 😢

[@Crottinger]

If this woman is legitimate. AWALT. Never forget.

[@tata19884]

You are so silly. What she is doing is called a "honey trap." Those videos are total BS and crap. If you really want to get to know the root of the problem, seek it on a professional level, not from a self-indulging attention-seeking person. By the way, a woman who is happy in her marriage would prefer to cook something delicious for her husband instead of wasting her time on videos that are nothing but rubbish. A good wife does not have time to waste on something that has no benefit for her husband.

[@davidv.2148]

You just described the entire 20 years of my marriage. She started letting me know that sex was an inconvenience on our wedding night. I had to beg like a dog for a treat. It got worse from there. First year of our marriage we had sex 4 times, all after me begging sufficiently. Then it decreased from there. For the last 15 years of our marriage there was none and frankly it was so emasculating I quit asking. I owned a mid sized buisness and would sometimes have to work Saturdays if equipment broke down and I would help the staff since most of the machinery I designed (I'm and Engineer), and she would let me know about it. She would get upset if I even tried to be playful. She stopped rubbing my arm while we drove, stopped all touch, even bought me a back scratcher so she didn't have to rub my back if it itched. I cooked most of the meals after I got home from work and would usually have to stop at the store to shop on the way home so we could have a meal because she was to tired. She would clean up most nights afterwards but only if she wasn't "to tired". She quit working about 6 months into our marriage and never worked again. These were just some of the things that happened. Sadly she passed from cancer 2 years ago and I am now 66 years old and physically strong and healthy. However, the memory of having had to exist in this emptiness, frankly causes me, every time I think about going out again, to relive the pain of the years of emptiness and isolation in the same house as the person I am married to. It comes flooding back and I change my mind instantly. I wish I could find someone who would actually live as you describe in your videos. Better yet would be that my late wife could have seen the videos and changed. Keep up the great work, no one should live in an empty marriage where all you are is an ATM with legs.

[@paultest4544]

stay single, good women are very rare. You are 66 now, just try to enjoy the rest of your life, don't waste time looking for another woman :)

[@dwaynejoyce1357]

My condolences with not only the passing of your wife, but her indifference to your existence. Stay healthy and strong, live your best life moving forward. Stay well. Take care now.

[@UPalooza]

I tried to talk 5 or 6 buddies out of marriage. They proceeded, and became unavailable to soothe their crazy wives. Now their marriages are on the rocks, they want to resume the friendship. Nope. You picked the wretch, made your life miserable, lost half your assets.

[@StarboyXL9]

"I had to beg like a dog for a treat" Should have gone the Machiavellian route at that point. Start slipping aphrodisiacs into her food and drink, find her sex toys and steal or hide them away where she won't find them. Start gaslighting her. When she plays dirty, you play dirtier until she cries "uncle." That's the only way these narcs learn, is if you outplay them at the game they thought they were masters of: manipulation.

[@davidleong6606]

Dear David, You Are a Faithful Husband, a person of integrity and honorable in your vows and commitment. I will pray that any bitterness you have now will not be your future and legacy but that you may find the grace and forgiveness over your late wife who was had selfishly neglected you. I believe God who never forsakes or rejects us knows all things and in the end heals the hearts of those with such character and humility if we will reach out to Him. Thank you so much for sharing your specific challenges of marriage life, I identify with it in words I couldn’t express myself but because you did so articulately, it encourages me to be likewise, patient and loving towards my wife although she is blind to this as well. I do love her beyond the items listed I’m truly confident and believe it will be restored… as we are now starting to grow closer again for we are almost empty nesters. I see signs and when it does revive, I will think of this video but also of you my friend… for your articulated words somehow gave me a renewed strength, purpose and hope. Praying that you will in time, move beyond the past and receive a future full of many joy filled friendships.

[@prodextron]

My wife recently told me "Happy wife; happy life". I corrected her with "happy spouse; happy house!" I'm in a depression because she won't have sex with me, won't cuddle, won't hold hands in public. After all I have sacrificed and how I provide for her and our family, I'm being taken for granted.

[@stoneylonesome4062]

I’m gonna be brutally honest with you, dude. She’s not sexually/physically attracted to you. And there’s a high likelihood that she never was. There’s also a good possibility that she has cheated. Often times in plain sight right under your nose, you gotta notice the subtle things (taking a shower to go to the gas station, suspicious white stains in her panties - hate to be crude but it is one, etc). If you wanna be able to enjoy sex again before you die, just leave her. A painful divorce will force you to learn that you shouldn’t marry a woman unless you know she is GENUINELY sexually attracted to you.

[@frankdique8799]

Time to find someone that will love you, and appreciate you. Take care 👍

[@larryrusike1761]

Cut down on the benefits and leave her the bare minimum to match her effort!

[@per_growth]

Sadly once you have kids - its a difficult situation to get yourself out of without shattering the lives of your children.

[@theverystones2643]

@@per_growththis is true, and I think many men instinctually know that the state of woman nowadays is so evil that the inevitability of this causes men to put off having children because you don’t want to get into the web the narcissistic woman creates

[@Sal834]

This is my situation perfectly. All 5. And she will not do ANY housework. Emasculation every day. So I follow Jordan Peterson and being the best version of myself As a result I have been since March, losing weight, new hobbies, friends and now closer with my daughter than ever. Staying for my daughter. But when faughter leaves, I am gone. My then ex will be alone and miserable all by herself. The pure hell will be over for me and I have hope. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Have faith there is hope, work on yourself and ignore the behavor.

[@GregtheGrey6969]

Same

[@gc4644]

Same here, after divorce I only focused on my kids, my job and to try and refind myself. Now 10 years later, life is great, i Went MGTOW and enjoying life with my kids and drama free.

[@peterdelbove2838]

Be strong brother. Much respect for your support of your child.

[@906lane]

Same here too

[@michaelcarley7016]

Did you ever notice the women has lots of miserable female friends who don't like you. All my wife's friends only associate with her and never agree to even having me to their house and my wife is always sticking up for them. But I have to do like you , lose some weight and gain my confidence back. I am empty mow.

[@tradingsystems2708]

This woman deserves a trophy for being so honest and for exposing the tricks wives do on their husbands. She’s every husband’s dream, young or old!

[@SteveJankowskiMN]

I was married and faithful for 24 years. I have been single for 7 years now. I would say the last 5 or so have been the very best years of my life. Watching this video brought me back. YOU ARE 100% accurate. After watching your video, I wanted to divorce her all over again.

[@johncurrie1789]

It’s too bad I can’t share this video with my wife. She’d think I was trying to put all the blame, or the responsibility back on her.

[@lukeb8103]

I agree 100% how do we get this info to our wives so they understand what we are going through??

[@soulzen2571]

Facts!!!😂

[@wavelengthdesigns]

This is really the most depressing part of trying to resolve these kinds of issues in a marriage. No amount of effort on one side will help the whole if the other side is unwilling to self-reflect.

[@denverspin]

Time to have that conversation, or live in hell. It’s our choice.

[@abood6643]

She won't change till you start speaking up, I know it's hard because women always made us feel wrong for being men, and it's time to change that bro!! Otherwise you will be deprived for life

[@WatchfulHunter]

It was not sex for me. It was support. It was being honest with me. She would lie and talk about me behind my back. So I knew my own wife was backstabbing me at home every day while I was working fulltime, paying all the bills. She enjoyed watching my frustration. Gratefully free for 15 years now.

[@jackgoodings]

HUGE betrayal wasnt it. 16 years out for me. We've done good

[@briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206]

@@fabricecardon4165 I read your comment ...Been there done that got the tee-shirt. She used to talk shit about me with her friends and her whole family... ZERO SUPPORT from her...I would be walking on eggshells all the time... Then one day I was dropped like a used paper tissue. Found out she "Monkeybranched" to another man... The perceived "Bigger better deal" ...I found out that he has now dropped her.... You see there is a God I am done with dating women..It is hardly surprising there are so many single unwanted women in their 40s and 50s who only have pet cats for company.. Modern women are "Broken"

[@humbletrader5479]

@@fabricecardon4165 My ex MIL was the biggest contributing factor in the breakup. Her advice to my ex any time we had a disagreement was “just leave him, there are plenty of other fish in the sea”. Eventually that is what she did, I came home from work one day and she had loaded everything she wanted in a U-haul, gave me her check book and drove away leaving me to raise our two pre teen sons. Although it was a costly divorce, I think it was actually better for the calm environment that resulted. I never brought another woman into my life while raising my boys because I didn’t want to cause more issues trying to create some sort of new family dynamic. I’m now 13 years single, my boys are grown, and now women are constantly asking me out. After numerous dates, I’ve come to realize a new reality, solitude has its advantages. Dating as a “senior” is like being a cheap gigalow, they invite me to dinner, then expect to be serviced at the end of the day, oh how the tables have turned.

[@StarboyXL9]

@@fabricecardon4165 Wow, damn. I'm speechless.

[@basstheangelo]

@@fabricecardon4165 that is sick and disgusting behavior. Good thing she’s gone.

[@J56609]

When I was 58 I was in a three month relationship with a divorced woman who seemingly had it all together. She was a successful OB/GYN and had three mostly grown good children but she was unhappy and could not see that she led a blessed life. She was forever scolding me for things I wanted to talk about. She literally would tell me to stop talking or to talk about something else like I was a 10-year-old speaking out of turn. The final straw was she sent me a text question asking (for the first time) about my month-long trip to Tuscany because her son was going there on his vacation. I technically gave her more information than she specifically asked for and she scolded me and said that her son was more than capable of planning his vacation. This was crushing because I fully realized she was just an angry and sad woman who wished only to punish the next man in her life. I couldn’t get away from her fast enough.

[@hmurchison8123]

My recommendation to stranger is to NEVER date divorced people under most circumstances. To me there are only 3 major causes of Divorce. Infidelity/Misconduct, Physical/Verbal abuse and Financial Duress. A lot of people don't have these major issues which tells me that when it comes down to it they are unwilling to change their behavior and that is part and parcel people afflicted with personality disorders. I'm glad you got out quickly.

[@sirvimmy]

It made me cry realizing that my exwife could have made choices to work on herself, but chose not to. Instead the constant emotional abuse, blaming me, and being ok with hurting me with verbal abuse, was what she chose. Seeing you cry and realizing that you saved your own marriage, but my exwife chose not to save ours was crushing. Thanks for showing me that. Im glad you were able to correct your marriage before it fell apart.

[@racebannon96]

The neglect and abuse the ex-wife put me through was horrible. No affection, support or intimacy. After 10 years, she finally left us. It is the gift that keeps giving. I never did miss her.

[@tywillis741]

This is the most important insight regarding female withholding I have heard. It is spot on and covers all of the painful tactics women execute to withhold validation. This should be required material to listen to prior to marriage. This abuse is habitual in our modern society. Very sad. Going into my 33rd year of abuse. There is no way out due to my financial obligations and age. I spent most of my marriage trying to figure out what I was doing wrong and how I could fix it because I love my wife. Now at the twilight of my life I finally know it was never me, but her own self-hatred and perceived unhappiness that was the cause.

[@andrew1717xx]

My current gf is like this. She has this inward hatred that is completely unknown/unacknowledged to her. It manifests in anxieties, withholding and in attitudes that go against the word of god. By her own admission she talks about these anxieties being from her mother who came at her with a knife, and now has a restraining order. Her father is somewhat estranged and she lives with her sister who is a year older and a single mother. Many of these things are red flags. However, she takes the word of god very seriously, she atleast says she is a virgin and has never kissed a man. I believe her on the kissing. However, she doesn't know she witholds respect and a few of the other attitudes that are listed. I know there are things she is trying, but dealing with this anxious avoidance is getting to a point I am almost out of ideas other then break up because I am not a psychologist. I am arranging a series of conversations to settle this and give her constructive structure, so we can still attend the same church. Open to questions and suggestions.

[@Katgirl2024]

I agree. It should be mandatory. I was not taught this and learned it later in life. Thank goodness for women like this. I hope more women listen to her.

[@JackAndTheBeanstalkr]

@@andrew1717xx gf????? wtf are you still doing there???? once you put a ring on it, think an extra $200k

[@RobertMorgan]

I'm glad you pointed out validation. I don't need validation from a female partner, I have 6 sisters I'm very close with, I have virtually infinite female validation and respect from women I actually do respect, love, care for, and cherish. I'd die for any of them. So I'm fine with some chick not validating me, I'm not needy in that way. I could use some sex though, lol, other women can validate me that way. And if they don't, that's cool too, they can not bang me on their own, over there, away from me doing their own thing and expecting and getting no help or attention from me or men like me.

[@RobertMorgan]

if you haven't consummated anything, she's not your girlfriend, she's not even a fwb or a hookup, she's NO ONE in the grand scheme. Look for better. God probably wants what's best for you, and your questioning is him in your head saying "ask questions, be discerning". @@andrew1717xx

[@danmiller6462]

Nobody can make another person happy. I wish women would understand that. Happiness is a choice that must come from within oneself.

[@BosunM8James]

Your video is.... EVERYTHING I've said to my wife of 14 years. We are on the precipice of divorce and I can look back on our marriage and see exactly where and how this all started happening. The only difference now, is up until watching this video, I truly thought I was not a man because I could not live up to her demands. Thank you for giving me a measure of peace back I had all but forgotten. It's not going to save my marriage but it has brought some sanity back into my life. Thank you for posting this video.

[@americusdeville865]

Women cannot define or even understand what makes a man. Only men know this and the Most High that created a man in his own image. Women are supposed to be helpmeets.

[@MrGsxr10001]

i feel ya man, I thought I was just an ass hole and did"nt know how to treat a woman. Well I must have known at some point because she sure wanted to get married 40 years ago. I dont know what to do?......

[@rickybobby9797]

The number one thing modern women “withhold” from marriage today is accountability. The second place item is faithfulness to their vows. The sad truth is society at large panders to women and promotes feelings over responsibility and duty. Most of these women are unprepared and unworthy for the responsibility of marriage. Consequently, good responsible men who wish to change this reality have only one (moral) choice: To walk away UNTIL society and women change from their wicked and selfish ways.

[@badgerden7080]

Accountability is like kryptonite to a woman. They will blame Jesus and all the angels in heaven before blaming themselves.

[@michaeldalton8374]

They want weddings. They don’t want to be wives.

[@njacobster]

Holding a modern woman accountable (in a relationship for relationship issues) is like trying to hold a cat by the tail. They avoid that shit at all costs!!!! And they surround themselves with people who enable it.

[@tdrive398]

@@michaeldalton8374 🎯💯

[@tdrive398]

@@michaeldalton8374 Weddings: "It's ALL about MEEEEEEEE!!!!" Marriage (women): "You mean it requires sacrifice, work and serving my spouse?!? *F that*- it's ALL about MEEEEEEE!!!".

[@joelrankin]

THIS MEANS SO MUCH TO ME - JUST TO HEAR A WOMAN SAY IT. Thank you SO MUCH for your raw honesty.

[@PatrickDuffy-u3s]

OMG, you are describing my entire marriage of 25 years. I want to cry.

[@P01234y]

Same bro

[@paulclinton6414]

Cry over a b 😂

[@davidbiros6231]

34 years here. All 5... your not alone. I thought it was just me.

[@stephenclayton7052]

All this is very true. As a man I kept trying and trying and nothing worked. Eventually a man will give up and yes may lose everything he worked for and provided but when a man feels like he has no life then he'll walk away.

[@hegyo7969]

💯

[@drivventodrumm1]

I did, and thanks to her I almost lost everything. It’s a tough pill to swallow but at least she’s gone

[@unveedcommunity]

I hear you and am going through it now. Not having a good time after i decided to stop waiting

[@wainsmith8125]

Many women are so toxic that remaining single and lonely is a far better choice.

[@Maydoggie]

My 1st wife kept telling me how much she loved our house, that it was her favorite place that she ever lived in. So when we divorced, all I wanted was my vehicle, my clothes, and a few gifts that I had been given over the years (she even wanted some of those). I decided to give her the house since she loved it, I didn't, and we only had like $20,000 equity. Two months after the divorce was final, she sold the house. The SCHMUCK written on my forehead eventually wore off.

[@Guaicoboi]

WOW WOW WOW, to hear a woman confess publicly about her shortcomings and what she did to her husband is unheard of,but very admirable. I'm having a brain freeze right NOW! THANK You for having this channel and educating so many women and bringing relief to us men and fathers.... THANK YOU 🙏

[@lappy0749]

The sad part about this is, the actual women who NEED to hear this, will refuse to listen to it and will never even get it's message.

[@dksmith605]

Yep, mine just rolled her eyes and walked away within the first minute of this video playing. I think it's time I pack my things and leave 😓

[@mikeexits]

I'm glad I have this channel under my belt because if/when I finally find someone I'm ostensibly compatible with, showing her these videos could be the only "test" I need to do aside from just making basic observations on her behavior and mood patterns.

[@noelstokes6901]

I tried to show my wife this lady's shows.. my wife started screaming and yelling that it's all bs after watching just 15 seconds.....No hope for the hopeless.

[@travel734]

Wow, if only I had heard this years ago. Before we got married, I had saved every penny so that there was a good downpayment on a house. We bought a house and every paycheque went to pay the bills and the mortgage. After 3 years she wanted a bigger house in a more established neighbourhood. It needed a lot of work. So every evening and weekend I was making kitchen cabinets, sanding floors, redoing bathrooms and painting. She never lifted a finger. Then she started to look at other houses. I could never live up to what she wanted. She started to see her ex. I stayed because of my son. Son is now 30 and still at home. As I watched the video I see all 5 forms of withholding. I have just spent 6 weeks renovating her brother's kitchen. No thanks, no respect, no acknowledgement. I now have cancer. Whether all this has been eating me up and caused the cancer - I do not care. I also do no care to live so I will withhold treatment. Medical assistance in dying is legal here. They may say that I will die of cancer, but in fact I will die of a broken heart. Don't make the same mistakes.

[@keithbernstein7436]

Leave her a letter so that she does live one guilt free day after you go. Leave a cautionary note for your son. Sorry for your pain.

[@Billy-the-Kid]

I feel your pain. It's just never enough. What can I say? Try to have a good time with your son.

[@KJ-pu8dw]

Get treatment for the cancer. And then leave her.

[@karamlevi]

It’s hard to say NO. You choose illness over the word NO ? Why? Cus of people pleasing addiction. I know it’s hard and scary to stand up to a woman when the society will insult you and tell you to try harder, but will only tell her “know your worth and demand more”. Anyways, thanks for your share. I get it. You need some “f-- off energy in you bro”. Go get massage in Thailand man. You’ll feel very pleased, honored, happy, and cared for. Costs cheap. Just don’t buy a house there or get big tricked. Or hit the Philippines likely safer for your giving personality style. I did this when I had bone cancer 20 years ago and it made me love life again. Cheers mate 🍻

[@Odieodius]

I dunno man. You give up, she wins. Leave her, quit carbs and sugar and start over somewhere else. Find God

[@robinhooper7702]

Well, you clarified what happened to me. I was married for 31 years putting up with this 5/5 list. Yes I was the fool, but the only reason I stayed committed is that we had three wonderful kids, now adults. After they moved out on their own she dumped me. I have not dated since then, and that is now 12 years ago. I am so jaded that I don't trust women at all. It was not a two way street after we had kids. I live alone now and yes sometimes I get lonely, but there is no greater loneliness than having a life partner that checks of all 5.

[@dubclu6]

I’m on year 11 and have two kids and I’m dying

[@robinhooper7702]

@@dubclu6 It's not easy. but in the end, when your kids are adults, you can be proud. adversity brings strength.

[@gregq3474]

I remember calling to tell my ex about a significant pay raise only to be met by indifference over the phone. It was that very moment I knew we were on our way to a divorce. It was a very soul crushing feeling to no longer receive that validation.

[@VanishingNomad]

Never tell a woman what you make. Always act like you are really broke.

[@stevendavis7079]

​@@VanishingNomad yep, she'll have it spent before you earn it

[@ericsguitar0]

Very heartfelt. Men are so easy to please. This video explains so much of what goes wrong in relationships.

[@m_jay5]

Seeing a woman like this who takes accountabilty and admits her mistakes is a breath of fresh air

[@keysersoze5920]

If she does not “take care of business,” “business” WILL “subcontract” out.

[@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391]

As soon as a woman is married, she can cash in on the divorce; she's had her special day, all the attention, got pregnant a few times and help from her husband to get them through the intense toddler years, a house - she's got what she wants from her husband.

[@w.e.s.]

I have to hold the tears back. I feel so alone when im not

[@jackgoodings]

I tried learning those love languages and was accused of being manipulative. Soooooo much withholding.. even withholding the kids. Yep, I know why I ended up leaving and it's never something I ever would have done. It becomes the loneliest place and loneliest existence

[@thehappywifeschool]

@jackgoodings, thank you for your comment and for sharing. Spot on that women withhold the kids.

[@mmm24ist]

i feel you. :( I was strong enough to still care and try when she was withholding any intimacy and connection (all top 5 mentioned in the video), but when she started witholding kids - criticizing me in front of them almost every time, for nothing, for the fact that I wanted to be with them, or play, or have fun - that was the moment I've given up, and realized I'm not able to make her care about our family and fix what's broken. That was when I realize divorce is the only way for me to not be alienated. It's soul crushing to me that I had to end this. At least now I can be myself in front of my children when we are together. I still live in fear though that her manipulations will work at some point and I will lose them.

[@jackgoodings]

@@mmm24ist Exactly what I did .. and the same reasons why, with my kids .. but .. it happened .. over time the kids were turned against me, even though I had 3 bedroomflat for them. I hope you don't mind me saying .. stay vigilant with it. It's soooooo subtle

[@MrWright83]

I feel defeated, beaten down and completely lonely. I am well aware of how I fall short but my best is never good enough. When I ask for an apology and acknowledgment of my hurt, I get blamed for not being a leader and setting an example. Its crushing.

[@jackgoodings]

@@MrWright83 Pick yourself up from it good buddy. You don't fall short. You know you'll never get an apology because she doesn't care .. that's the sad truth of it. Reality .. she's lucky to have you .. but narcissists don't value it. So .. the questions to ask yourself are .. Why do you need her to validate you? What will the first thing be that you do for you, against her expectations? What does it look like to respond and not react? And .. how are you going to get away from the abusive situation? You've got this. It isn't a relationship. Dig deep and see it for what it is. It sucks .. it is what it is .. and no moment is too soon to mentally start to break free.

[@Draftman81]

This woman is preaching! She is literally talking about my daily life. The constant disrespect from my wife is overwhelming. I’m never good enough. Unreal!!

[@basstheangelo]

My good man, it’s time to re-evaluate your marriage right now. Being disrespected especially by woman hits hard to your core. Don’t accept any BS and she’ll respect you more. Do it now.

[@robertlavigne6738]

This is amazing!!! You met my wife!! The good thing is that other women want what she never appreciated!

[@importdoc7]

I’ve have literally watched hundreds of videos on narcissism, abusive relationships, etc. First video I’ve watched where a woman is flat out, telling the truth and owning what she has done , that’s what changes things. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing and making a choice to change them. Cheers to you and your husband.

[@tedlogan4867]

Withholding affection and attention, including physical affection, are ALL direct abuse. Pulling away, scowling, complaining about being touched is abuse. Men and women are different, and women abuse husbands in different ways than husbands abuse wives. Understand this and recognize what it is. Abuse.

[@dsmith7684]

Then my ex husband is a girl because the withholder wasn't me ...

[@terry9238]

Except that not everybody wants to be touched all the time--even by someone we love-and that’s okay!

[@tedlogan4867]

@@terry9238 That's true. Not what I'm talking about. When it's every time, or more often than not, viewing your husband touching you playfully or lovingly, flirtatiously and sensually, and your default response is disgust or irritation or revulsion, it's over. Move on if your wife is doing this to you. It is abusive to your husband to subject him to negativity towards his healthy and normal affection.

[@tedlogan4867]

@@dsmith7684 Generalities apply generally. Your ex husband is an exception, then.

[@Vapourwear]

@@dsmith7684he was probably getting it elsewhere…

[@SilentNightPro1]

A man will sacrifice his happiness for his family, a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness

[@michaelbayha5557]

My life lesson with every woman I dated or married was to always to put them in the #1 priority position. Not simping as one would imagine but your woman should be #1 as you are displaying the normal male traits of providing, procreation and protecting. As we slowly find out over many years with today's women, the man always starts off every relationship as their #1 priority, which is why the sex is so awesome and frequent. She cannot wait to see and spend more time together even at the expense of her family or friends. We think "I love this woman and my life will be awesome with her!" And then.... ... other things in her life start moving up that priority list and we get pushed off the top position to begin the descent towards the 3rd, 4th, 5th and eventually the last place. Every child born is immediately elevated to 1A, 1B, 1C and so on. Her family, work, close friends, new hobbies all the way down to the your pets take over. Basically, with her priority plate becoming so full she has no emotional energy left to bestow upon you. The irony in all of this is men don't need much attention from their wives to be happy. We fully understand how hard raising children is, holding down a job and all the daily stressors involved. But somehow we STILL place our women in the #1 position despite all of that. As a 60 year old man, twice divorced and single the past 5 years, I have discovered the only way to remain in the #1 priority position is to level up and give myself props each time I look at my reflection in the mirror.

[@paultest4544]

The only way to survive marriage is to just stop caring if you get validation from your wife. I mean, still do the husband's role, but don't do extra projects, renovations, extra gifts, etc.. Those will not be appreciated. Don't do extra stuff in the bedroom for her -- it will not ignite her passion. Lots of men can not really afford to divorce, or they want to stay in the marriage for the sake of the children.. So , guys.. if you are in a relationship with a withholding woman.. just give up.. she will never be happy. Focus on the kids and stuff that makes you happy. Women withhold affection, etc because they think the man will work even harder to earn that affection.. well, that works short term.. But then, as the "Happy Wife School" says, eventually, the man learns that it's pointless and gives up. Good video.

[@iamtheoffenderofall]

Men can't afford divorce? They gambled on a loser. They lost the day they said I do.

[@DoubleJHas2ManyDoodles]

Men aren't supposed to survive marriage we are supposed to have joy and peace in our marriage.

[@paultest4544]

@@DoubleJHas2ManyDoodles Yea, it's a shame that it isn't that way anymore.

[@Scribemo]

I told my wife “you don’t want me to make you happy; you want me to try to make you happy. I won’t do it anymore.”

[@sohithlife]

Then how does husband gets his needs and affection fulfilled?

[@sb4686]

My ex-wife had been asking for a kitchen island for years. By happenstance, I ran into a carpenter who gave me an amazing deal on a custom build. It was our anniversary and I presented it to her, and she just looked so disappointed. I later caught her trying to trade this one-of-kind piece for a different piece of furniture. Broke my heart. Current wife loves it!

[@user-wc5lw7ps6h1]

What a beautiful ending.

[@wordysmith]

I never realised until this thread how typical it is, thought I had suffered alone. Great story.

[@benjaminmarshall5071]

Withholding playfulness explains so much of what I have seen in marriages. Thank you for that.

[@luvmydeck]

I heard this from someone else but it rang true to me when i heard it. The loneliest place on earth is laying next to her in our bed, night after night and being ignored, deprived, disrepected, etc. Another one i heard that rang true is "There is nothing harder than the breast of a woman that does not love you"

[@tata19884]

There is nothing harder than having no orgasm even a single one with your husband for 30+ years, yet still making sure his desires and wishes are all served. Go and figure this out; this woman doesn't tell you that 50% of women have never been satisfied by their husbands, yet they try hard to fulfill their desires. I guess every woman has different patience to live that way. Some endure it for 10 years, some more than 30 years. However, after 50, women lose their harmons, and there are physical changes that are not under their control, then it becomes a prison of nightmares play one way street sexul game. Why this "lovely" person would not explain such a simple fact that many women have a hard time admitting to their husbands? Even if they do, in many cases, guys cannot handle this truth properly and humiliate their wives instead of listening and fixing it for the sake of their relationship and sex.

[@evaflowervines9520]

It's not so great having a husband who prefers porn and only fan girls to you

[@wishiwasoffline]

Beautifully expressed. I completely agree. Leave as soon as you can

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

Unless she takes a kitchen knife to you for questioning her

[@themessenger5868]

I subscribed to this channel, because I could feel the genuine honesty and remorse this woman is expressing. My Fiancee ordered me out of the (her) house and thus our engagement 4 days before Christmas 2023. Having no family in the city I live, she knew full well the dire position she was putting me in. We were to be married in March 24' and everything was booked, including a honeymoon holiday to the other side of the country. Final invites were only passed out early December 23'. To say I'm devastated is quite the understatement. I simply adored her. These examples of withholding...were all present in our relationship. That's not to say I was perfect...I wasn't. But I didn't deserve that. Marc- Perth, Western Australia.

[@BC-vg3zf]

Ouch dude from a fellow sand groper

[@rudiwiedemann8173]

She tried to shoot you but the gun misfired. YOU DODGED A BULLET! Be grateful for a second chance to live free.

[@themessenger5868]

@@rudiwiedemann8173 Cheers... funny, but that's exactly what she said to me. "She dodged a bullet"

[@smguy7]

Eight years ago my ex wife and I split up and I was left with PTSD. For twelves all affection, friendship, kindness, joy and respect was withheld from me. I was put down in front of other people in public and behind my back. She insisted on inflicting her emotional violence on me in front of our two sons. Sex? Forget it. In the end I wasn't interested in sex with her and she started seeing other men. I had a nervous breakdown. I am single now and happily so. I live alone and have a good relationship with my sons. She's still with lover-boy. Most of the time I am okay, but I'd never tolerate what happened to me ever again.

[@nikolaradakovic5050]

Man this hurts even when I read . I want to hug you 🫂❤. Let the God give you better woman

[@kylecurryyt]

PTSD post bad relationship is a real thing. No shame in admitting it and doing work to heal. The other option is to close everyone out and shut down. Becoming a robot doesn’t benefit the world though. Heal yourself and share your gifts.

[@andrew1717xx]

I was dating a covert narcissist for a couple of years, she became overt when covid happened and she followed the crowd and gas lit me with her family. Looking back at it now, I see a pattern of characteristics of previous girl friends. Breaking it off was the best thing I did and has improved future relationships. I am secure in my life and am still looking for a godly woman. Current gf has difficulty, but is learning more through the word of god and the way it lines up with the redpill. She understands that benevolence is not weakness.

[@shanemaguire2864]

I got so shafted by a woman, yip mental breakdown suicidal tendencies drugs drink the whole lot, twenty one years later and still staying single again, been asked out over the years and the answer is always the same, thanks for asking but no thanks

[@MartinEngelbrecht-ey3rl]

Your husband must be so proud / grateful to have seen your growth and maturity over the years, you helping so many couples to reconsider their ways! 🎉🎉❤🎉😊 You sound like you have discovered gold. 🎉🎉 Appreciate you staring, your love, honesty and dedication to helping me!

[@drpeck104]

I paid almost $1K to have our house completely deep cleaned when she went away for the weekend as a surprise. She came home and complained that the giant cluster of crap she keeps on the dining table had been moved.

[@theverystones2643]

They’re dead inside. Feminist borg

[@morgancardinale6098]

I hope you went away for the weekend with her, otherwise you already went wrong just allowing that.

[@davebuehner4307]

Emotional sadism by any other name. Women enjoy creating emotional pain and torment, it the power the wield. But such destroys the woman, her joy and her character - not to mention her family. It is sad that wives often exercise the power to destroy, when they have power to build, encourage, inspire and create joy. Trading sex and affection for any thing, makes sex a transaction, and transactional sex is simply prostitution. Prostitutes don’t love their clients, they opportunistically take their resources. Husbands want sex to connect, wives deny to create distance until their demands are met, ie the negotiated price is paid. That is messed up!

[@hegyo7969]

"F this. It doesn't matter what I do, it doesn't matter what I stop doing..." 💯 This is where I got to. And I left. I never wanted to leave. But in the end it was the "best" of a bad set of choices.

[@mmm24ist]

I feel you. Yeah, you put it perfectly. best of a bad set of choices. Sad that we had to do this. Hopefully you will find your peace. I'm still struggling to fine mine.

[@hegyo7969]

@@mmm24ist I posted this comment farther below in response to @Blackcat12388's comment. "I can say this. I left my ex wife 5 years ago after 20 years of marriage. 3 teenage kids. I've paid her half a million dollars and she's still trying to take more of what I still have. I don't regret it for a second. My ex is a classic closeted narcissist. She refuses to deal with herself. Has no compassion for anyone including herself. Takes no responsibility for her relationship behaviors. If I lose all of my monetary possessions in the end, it will have been worth it. Because just over a year ago I found a *good woman*. Being in a healthy relationship, where love and connection and shared values are at the center is AHHH-MAZING. I've been "loved" more in the past 18 months than in the rest of my life combined. No money can buy a healthy amazing relationship but its worth finding. Change is hard, but finding true love is worth it."

[@franckjoncheray]

I am French. I am crying watching this video as it is exactly what I have been living for 3 years. I have tried to do everything in order to make things better without success. It's hard. Sometimes she gives me small things but it never lasts more than a few days... And I am angry with myself because I still hope that one day I will be happy with this woman...

[@Scribemo]

It’s not you. Blame her. Tell her she’s unhappy and that’s her fault. Be strong. You can live without her, and she should know it. This is the path I’ve started taking and she’s changing her tone. If they don’t want the good man, they get the bad man.

[@ThisTimeTheWorld]

​@@Scribemo let her know it but don't say it, or you'll probably be out the door bc women have to have the last word

[@clarencehoover6748]

This conversation definitely needs to be shared. What is being discussed here is important and should not be trivialized.

[@jimmyhughes1184]

Sadly this manipulative ‘tool’ is more universal than you can imagine. Show me ‘one’ female who doesn’t have this ‘ready and waiting’ in their quiver. It is unquestionably a control mechanism and clearly abusive. The irony is whenever the word ‘abuse’ is mentioned in a relationship, it is generally assumed the woman is victim and the male the perpetrator. Read all the comments and the prevalence of male frustration and disappointment is Pandemic. The result is a growing MGTOW movement.

[@kirtmcneil5054]

Karyn, this talk/video was absolutely amazing! You described the last 30 years of my marriage in 9 minutes. Thank you for helping me realize that all of this isn't just a figment of my imagination. Like the common theme of all the other comments, I am dead inside. This gave me a little shred of hope.

[@tangotango256]

The opposite of Love is Indifference... she checked out a long time ago ... women believe all of them mind you think they are a 10 and a gift to mankind .... men are walking away from childish self absorbed narcissistic women of today who will walk away even from their children for butterflies from a handsome stranger until they don't and monkey branch to the next exciting thing until there is no other branches, end up old, no longer attractive and alone with a cat .... Oh, The life of a flower !! Get on your grind and worry about you get fit and watch what happens 😊

[@christianriddler5063]

@@tangotango256 God will sort them out on Judgment day. I dream of that day, no lies can be told and they have to confess EVERY SIN and how they ARE RESPONSIBLE for those sins. It's going to be great, let's see how they'll try to snake their way out of that!

[@ThomasSmith-yl3re]

After 30 years you still have hope?

[@carolinew6095]

Thank you so much Karyn for your transparency and candour. I (a woman) was raised by a feminist, and I behaved in a similar way at the beginning of my marriage. However,when I became a Christian I studied the scriptures and had a huge shock! I apologised to my husband and since then we have been blessed with a very good and happy relationship

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

The end is when the things being withheld are no longer anything you want. And the finding fault in what is done as though your life is a script and you're not following it. It's time to strengthen yourself because there's no point in trying to appease the very person who treats you so poorly.

[@darkgardener9577]

Yep....when you realize you would rather she just leave. Game over.

[@jwarrior9986]

Like Aaron Clary says, this all ends when the electricity goes out.

[@neohermitist]

@@JKL246 I'm married 27 years too and in the same boat. Decades of putting up with crap will come to an end one way or another. And yes, what a waste.

[@majorbloodnok6659]

Thank you, all of this happened to me. I was never going to be what she wanted and I eventually stopped trying and the marriage withered and died. I have never been so lonely. We divorced and if someone asked how I was, my response was always "I am no longer lonely, now that I am alone" and alone I will remain. Never again

[@tramlou1]

I had an (ex)wife, a stepson, four daughters, two dogs, three cats, a hamster and two goldfish.... and I was never MORE alone.

[@majorbloodnok6659]

I get that; I hope you are in a better place now. Best wishes@@tramlou1

[@nelsonhibbert5267]

@@tramlou1 That doesn't make sense. How could you be lonely with two dogs?

[@Marcel-fo2cb]

Its better to be alone than with somebody that you dont get along with

[@steerablechimp9194]

I had this with my wife. Got divorced because I threw my hands up. After 8 years, nothing was good enough for her. Now, with my girlfriend, same thing is starting to happen all over again. I'm the common denominator but I can't get passed the fact that, as soon as they get comfortable (with the gf, when she moved in), they just change and it's like a new person that you don't even know. I know I have flaws but I can't accept this that this is all on me. I'm so done with this.

[@orglancs]

Oh, my God! How true this is. I have been divorced for forty years and have still learnt new things from this lady's insights. Notice how close she was to tears when talking about denying a man's playfulness. She had clearly become aware of what an utterly crucifying thing that is to do to someone, anyone. And, as she says, the ultimate tragedy is that a woman is denying herself the same things. How I hope that hundreds of young women are watching this priceless video. I notice also how often she uses the phrase 'a good man'. Certain ideologues (I daren't be more specific, or this will get obstructed) never use those two words together, do they? The world is full of good men, in spite of the terrible things that some men do and which most men wouldn't dream of doing.

[@tata19884]

Don't be deceived by a deceptive act. She can't even articulate herself, let alone address the underlying issues while merely stating outcomes. Wow. There's nothing new in what she's saying, but it's very damaging. Do you really want to be a victim instead of looking at the root causes of why this is happening?

[@georgecurly5965]

@@tata19884 And what is the root cause? That some men fall short of their spouse's unreasonably hight romantic expectations?

[@tata19884]

@@georgecurly5965the right root is ask your beloved one “ what is turns you on” she will say. If she does not know herself offer her to experiment, find professional help ( if she loves you she will attempt to do it). Unfortunately when I offers my husband go to professional help he refused. Also, he refused to listen what works for me ( more practicals tips). For 30 years. Unfortunately in his mind he had an idea what not only worked for me but made me uncomfortable and I hated. When I had my harmony high I was able to make sure his needs satisfied, but sadly after turning 50 there is hormonal changes. I can not help him much , this is not my fault I do not want him ( still trying my best to keep him healthy) but I can not fake a desire. For me there is nothing to want ( sexually) as I never got that lucky. Yet , I love my husband and would diy for him. The sexual disaster is only a part of feeling loved but not the Love it self. We gone try many difficult and painful times for both of us. However, if I would start my life all over I would not want any other man as my husband. I do not need a man besides me to survive ( I am self efficient and independent ) , but I do not want to live a day without him. No gold or money of whole word would matter more then him. Unfortunately it is very painful for me that I can not give to him in full what the topic about, but he killed it with his ignorance ( I do not blame much him as I understand how difficult it is to except the truth). All above tips and tricks only if your wife really loves you. Than help her if something gone wrong before it is too late.

[@wishiwasoffline]

Haha, we've got a withholder here in the chat. So out comes one of my ex wife's weapons: ridicule other women they see as a threat.

[@crabmanrockefeller9117]

Hence men are walking away and or getting snipped. These young men have seen first hand what happened to thier fathers. This is causing a collapse to society in both Europe and the USA. Absolutly terrible.

[@badgerden7080]

Let the society fall. It is nothing but a modern day Sodom and Gomorrah anyway. It's corrupt and evil. It cares only about money and other material possessions. It is Satan's world.

[@marcushennings9513]

Again, imo marriage and cohabitation are the culprits. If she's withholding, then there's no reason for her to stop by and can go home.

[@nerychristian]

@@marcushennings9513 I'm a religious person. But I almost don't see the purpose of marriage anymore. Marriage used to be sacred. A lifelong commitment. But I don't even think it really means anything to women anymore- other than a chance to have an expensive wedding so they can show off to their friends. Women are the ones who mostly initiate divorce. We have been sold a lie. Women don't want romance or commitment. Maybe life would be better if we had arranged marriages, and women were given less rights in society. They don't really offer anything of value anyways.

[@CodyH88]

You're correct. And because this issue started in courts and lawyers giving them practically everything, you can look thete for starters. This info gets passed along by these kind of women to "teach" others or the daughters. By the looks of this comment section, there's a ton of them! Lol

[@agbfish1]

It’s absolutely amazing to see a lady/ you showing that you care. I was very affectionate for 20+ years to my wife. She left me with the kids to go screw around. Crushed my heart,,,, I’m now 64. I thank you for showing us that you not only know, but you care and are telling others❤

[@doubledcanada]

The appreciation part got me. I'm a home renovator handyman with many happy clients and friends . Our home has been on Christmas house tours and envied by people. Yet I'm known as half ass Deny by my wife it's never just right or appreciated for what I can do it hurts. But I go on in silence.

[@antonioamaral7471]

,👍🏻

[@canelareina3795]

When she says that, what is your response?

[@MrEliasdl]

I Wish more women like this would speak up. Thank you. My wife has done all five of these for the majority of our marriage.

[@inconnu4961]

Sorry to hear this Bud! she was taught very well!.

[@begaqincer]

100%@@inconnu4961

[@begaqincer]

I would bet 90% of men are commenting

[@jjoneshauling6104]

Im speechless. She said everything men feel.

[@theoracle5265]

That was true in my marriage to my exwife,I put up with all of these things for 37 years until my BP was killing me because I couldn't win for losing, So I left. I must say it's nice to hear a woman say these things and say them contritely.

[@Mr.Mopar.23-7]

If a woman withholds, I withhold myself. She gets nothing from me.

[@ilvivente]

After years... You really don't feel anything anymore

[@trappedcat3615]

Well, that is not what marriage is about. You serve even when you are not served.

[@johnbutler1279]

The look on her face when I witheld sex was perplexed. It was hard for me to do, but I did it just to show how much it sucks.

[@ItsLonzo1]

@@trappedcat3615No

[@MichaelWilliams-ph4ri]

It doesn't have to be sex. Pick any chore. 'Hun, can you weed eat the back?' 'No-I have a headache. Maybe some other time.' Just be sure to quote her.

[@greghayes9118]

Bless your honesty . So many women need to hear this. I have just tonight let a woman go, who I've just met, because she abandoned her husband who had a mental illness after a major car accident.

[@calanmacleod3948]

Got married at 41. Was a huge mistake, she turned into a feeling less frigid woman. 2 kids, stayed for them, that was another mistake. Guys stay single, it’s so less stressful.

[@johntiggleman4686]

My wife witholds #1, #2, some #4 and some #5. I do get thank yous for fixing a meal, doing laundry, etc. Other times, not so much. I have a hobby fixing antique electronics, and the room where I have my bench and parts was a mess. She did say it was a mess, to which I totally agreed. So yesterday, I spent several hours picking up, putting things back, vacuuming the area, etc. I felt pretty good about it. I told her she should see how nice it looked. Today, she looked and was mostly "meh." But no sex or affection hurt the worst. My needs are not anywhere on her radar.

[@johntiggleman4686]

@@Heavy.is.the.head83 All the women I know, know I'm married...I don't think I could mess around...at 73, I would probably have a heart attack. And most of the women know how good I am to my wife. Ah, hell. I'm better off not even trying anymore. Just pursue my own happiness and the hell with hers.

[@broccolirob5085]

Some times you have to pack up camp and hike on

[@thomaspepper2201]

And if you were complamented it would be just fake words of zero meaning, she got good at that. My Ex had all 5 and we talked, could not get it. Out of my life now for 1 month and have zero regrets. Don't even know where she lives. The sad part is THEY LOOSE WAY MORE, A single old lady will get screwed now by every con in her life when she needs help by big $$$ to achieve the things she cant do.They just pay later, and I realy don't care because it's truley stupid they distroy there lives over 5 simple things that you should do JUST OUT OF LOVE TO YOUR MAN.

[@superdad4432]

Might be the best and most truthful video I’ve ever seen.

[@morganjohnson539]

All of these things hurt deeply. Lack of respect, insulting me publicly (Who's side are you on anyway?), lack of appreciation . . . I've felt all of these things from my two wives, especially the first, but the second one was no paragon either. I did reach the point where I stopped engaging. The second wife actually cared enough to stop and see what she was losing. That's why we just celebrated our 33rd anniversary this month.

[@zuhairreza]

Are things better or getting better with the second wife now then? Sending best wishes.

[@morganjohnson539]

@@zuhairreza Things did get better but only after a five-year separation. You don't miss your water until the well runs dry.

[@zuhairreza]

@@morganjohnson539 Glad! Keep yourself safe and happy. Life’s too short for any negativity and unnecessary toxicity.

[@narcsurvivalist3921]

Thanks for actually recognizing that and taking your own accountability!! I can only imagine the amount of hate you get from guilty women not wanting to own up to exactly what you said. Thanks for a voice

[@rogerbyrns4630]

Oh my god you set me free! Thank you 🙏🏼 I know my wife will never see this, but now I know the truth and I’m not all to blame. Man that feels good! Now I won’t live in shame

[@rnd2731]

Excellent and heartfelt description of fairly typical female behavior. I am so glad that you have things figured out. I am sorry to say that you have posted this about 15 years too late for me. I was married almost 19 years, but this depicts the last 11 of those years. While my preference would have been to stay married, I chose to end it rather than live in misery. I am happy and free, having learned to never put myself in that position ever again.

[@nobledarkmoon]

Respect is important. If she disrespects, just pull away. Do not pursue, do minimal. If she goes more negative, walk away and say good luck, have fun doing it by yourself. You pull away from the situation, and refuse to engage the issue.

[@AndrewReevesArt]

Such a great video. Thank you. At 46 I still haven’t gotten married because every single woman I’ve courted has done these five things time and time again. ✝️💔🕊️

[@sunset3052]

Don't get married bro.

[@AndrewReevesArt]

@@sunset3052probably never will, stay well my friend

[@SmallGuyonTop]

You are so honest and correct. I read some comments and I almost cried. The carnage that is left by women in marriages is massive. As long as women refuse to acknowledge this and just keep blaming men (and there is a lot of blame for men too), but if they keep blaming men then we end up in a society like what is left in America.

[@billreno9140]

About 10yrs ago Dr. Laura wrote a book titled “Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands “. I bought a copy. It was really good, I thought, because it talked about all the frustration men deal with. This topic really needs to be addressed more. Thank you for doing this.

[@aafgahfah]

This video started out as intriguing, obviously sincere; then it became interesting; then it became painful as it became clear that this was a deeply felt and sincere piece. Finally it became very insightful, profound even, and shone a light into female unhappiness, how it manifests and perhaps also where it might originate. I’m so grateful to you for posting this video: it must be very difficult to open up in this way. I could never, ever do it. Why would a woman withhold praise? The fence example seems everyday and trivial but it is important. This man’s wife (all people) need to recognise their power to bestow happiness onto others. She (we/I/some of us) may not have that confidence, because she feels unloved, unworthy, unable to step into the role of the lover, the source of joy in someone else. It’s tragic. I will listen to this again.

[@Hogiewan1]

Most women will never accept accountability for their their own role in relationship failures. My 30 year marriage died because I finally realized I couldn’t NEVER give her enough.

[@begaqincer]

Yep it happens to a lot of us as you see by the comments

[@frankdique8799]

Sounds like my experience to a tee.👍

[@danielwilson3313]

You are absolutely on point. I thank God I found your channel. God is only confirming over and over again what I'm dealing with.

[@badgerden7080]

She's a chameleon. I don't even really trust her that much.

​@@badgerden7080, I don't know... I prefer to give people the benefit of the doubt until they prove otherwise. Also, she's not just parroting other people's talking points but actually has some unique ones which means that, at the very least, she's given this some thought.

[@theCrankyYankee]

It all starts with respect. That is number 1. Withholding sex and the other things stem from a lack of respect.

[@ShepMike3934]

Someone famous once said. “Every woman has the right to say no, but if she does she loses the right to complain when another sister says yes”. And there is always another sister just waiting to take her place.

[@catherineball7584]

There's the difference. I left my sexless husband before I got with someone else.

[@marconi3142]

My wife withholds all of these things. But you know what, I was single until I was 35 and I've learned to just go with it. It's like being single again, but with a woman in the house. We still get along well, but she's become more of a friend than a wife because of this holding back. I cope by honestly recognizing that this is the way it is - and will be - and just focus on the things in life that bring me joy and happiness.

[@michaelbrummel6710]

your response is by far the most balanced perceptive and accepting comment I have heard yet. You obviously appreciate the life The Creator has given you. May G-d bless with continued success and prosperity....both you and you spouse...😊

[@nerychristian]

I bet you that if you started hanging out with female friends, your wife would change overnight. She would suddenly realize that she isn't the only woman in town.

[@kenyoung5604]

Life is too short to be miserable. If you’re going to be lonely, you might as well be lonely alone. Cut your costs in half. Reduce your stress by 110%. Quit walking on eggshells and giving in to get along!

[@seancarson6481]

I am in the same boat, no nothing from the wife.

[@wchamp170]

Get out of it now

[@raworthyel3786]

Thank you I've been beating myself up for years but just to hear you say these 5 things brought me to tears.

[@lindapeterson7156]

Go Karyn! You are spot on. Ladies, as a woman, I am finally getting back to my true self. Though you have to be deeply honest yourself, and that is the first and most incredibly difficult step. Major ouch.

[@GregtheGrey6969]

Thank you

[@billreno9140]

God Bless you girl!! ❤️

[@tokyoman12]

God bless you, you speak to my very soul! I only just found your channel but hearing these words from a woman is like drinking pure fresh water from a stream. You articulate exactly the pain I’ve felt for so many years. Men honestly don’t want much. We just want a feminine woman happy to be our companion. Everything else flows from that, sex, affection and all the rest. Is it really so much to ask? Be that ladies, and your man will gladly lay his life on the line for you.

[@GBU61]

I grew up with three sisters. I saw first hand how mean, nasty and horrible a woman can be and have no problem acting that way. For most women I have known they see no need to apologize for anything they did, even though they knew it was wrong. I realized young that if I ever married one, it was a death sentence to my happiness. I don’t want to live alone but given the choice of living with a woman or staying single, the choice was easy. I did find a compromise. I see women but won’t allow any of them to live with me. As I have aged, women finally realize they have to offer me something of equal value if they want to continue to see me. I have been doing this for many years and so far, it works for me.

[@bentbrathenjensen9930]

I wish all women would spend time seeing your video. Withholding from a woman, is the true path to killing a mans heart, affection and love. I wish all women would understand the importance of what you are saying, and wake up. If you want your man to truly love you, never stop giving affection, and he will walk through the gates of hell for you. Affection is not weaknes, is't a true sign of inner strength and character. I salute you for having the boldness and insightfulness to share these thoughts. Your husband should be very happy, to have a woman like you!