"Women Are Better Hidden Away?" | Womanhood Reimagined Retreat | Ustadha Dr. Rania Awaad

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Ustadha Dr Rania Awaad gives spiritual insights about re-imagining womanhood when the prevailing thought might be women should “just be” homemakers and stay out of men’s affairs/domain, i.e., public life, formal education or specialized training, employment, financial independence, civic engagement, etc.
Ustadha Rania speaks at a women's retreat about re-imagining womanhood as a Muslim woman. Watch the complete seminar at mcceastbay.org/reimagine
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This program was sponsored by the Jannah Institute, The Rahmah Foundation & MCC. It was proudly hosted at Muslim Community Center - East Bay (MCC East Bay) in Pleasanton, California on March 6, 2022.
Ustadha Dr. Rania Awaad, M.D. is a Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the Stanford University School of Medicine where she is the Director of the Muslim Mental Health Lab and Wellness Program and Director of the Diversity Clinic. She pursued her psychiatric residency training at Stanford where she also completed a postdoctoral clinical research fellowship with the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). Her research and clinical work are focused on the mental health needs of Muslims. Her courses at Stanford range from teaching a pioneering course on Islamic Psychology, instructing medical students and residents on implicit bias and integrating culture and religion into medical care to teaching undergraduate and graduate students the psychology of xenophobia. Her most recent academic publications include an edited volume on “Islamophobia and Psychiatry” (Springer, 2019), Islamic Psychology (Routledge, 2020) and an upcoming text on Muslim Mental Health. She has also produced a toolkit, fact sheet, CME course, and is now editing a clinical textbook on Muslim mental health for the American Psychiatric Association. Dr. Awaad is particularly passionate about uncovering the historical roots of mental health care in the Islamic intellectual heritage. Through her outreach work at Stanford, she is also the Clinical Director of the San Francisco Bay Area branches of the Khalil Center, a spiritual wellness center pioneering the application of traditional Islamic spiritual healing methods to modern clinical psychology. She has been the recipient of several awards and grants for her work. Prior to studying medicine, she pursued classical Islamic studies in Damascus, Syria and holds certifications (ijaza) in Qur’an, Islamic Law and other branches of the Islamic Sciences. Dr. Awaad has also served as the first female Professor of Islamic Law at Zaytuna College, a Muslim Liberal Arts College in Berkeley, CA where she taught courses on Shafi’i Fiqh and Women’s Fiqh and Qur’anic sciences for nearly a decade. In addition, she serves as the Director of The Rahmah Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to educating Muslim women and girls. At Rahmah, she oversees the Murbiyyah spiritual mentoring program for girls. Dr. Awaad is a nationally recognized speaker, award-winning teacher, researcher and author in both the Islamic and medical sciences. Follow her on I/T: Dr.RaniaAwaad
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[@geekygirl648]

This culturual non-sense took so many years of my life. And now i cannot even answer those elders as most of those elders are LATE now. The damage they have done to me and my potential is what only ALLAH swt can recover and heal. AMEEN

[@ZM-et7zt]

After growing up in the south asian community and observing the behaviour of well treated housewives, mistreated/abused housewives, wives with small businesses and women with careers... the pettiness is real with women who's whole life has revolved around serving in the home. When your world is narrowed down so is your headspace. I've seen a lot of arguments in couples over petty nonsense and the husband wonders why is she so neurotic?! It's because she exists in the same 4 walls around the same people everyday 🙂 it's enough to make anyone go mad so I expect it's her imaan that has kept her as sane as she is. No matter how gilded, a cage is a cage. Women were not created as prisoners, we are human beings with the same responsibility of serving Allah and the Prophet S said they are your partners and committed helpers, not houseslaves.

[@Steph-sb3ge]

Agreed. When your whole life revolves around the home I think it can be a problem. My mom stopped working when she had kids and now all she can talk about is home improvement and gossip and trying to interfere in her children’s lives

[@hafsahalkhair7901]

agreed! Very well said!

[@aishapatel9986]

Women can work as long as its within the context of islam.women stay at home to look after the kids an be a teacher to give them knowledge .prophet mohomed s.a.w.would of advised women to remain at home to protect her.

[@ZM-et7zt]

@@aishapatel9986 sister please read the history of the Prophet's Madina. Women were not kept in their houses to protect them. If muslim society is unsafe that women cannot work in broad daylight, then I think it has failed. What about female doctors, nurses, midwives, pharmacist, counsellors? Other jobs can be done at home but do you expect women to go to see a Male doctor? Have a man delivering babies? Keeping women in their houses doesn't work in the real world. Allah has commanded that women are kept safe, they wear hijab and don't interact beyond necessity with non mahrams. But men are commanded to control themselves, stay away from women beyond necessity and look after women. It is a balance.

[@mohammedjafer9265]

People belief staying at house means just doing house stuff with that same logic men providing while working inside the house is the same thing, regardless our purpose is worshipping Allah and so that's what a men and woman do in the house doing the duty God told them to

[@mahaalotaibi8352]

Alhamdullah I enjoy spending most of my time at home with my baby and husband. I always pray to Allah to bless my husband with wealth so we are safe and protected with him 🙏 He is the provider and I respect him and love him for his hardwork and sacrifice. I enjoy staying home giving my family love, care, and nurture.

[@anitachandra2030]

But the one you need the most protection from is your own husband.

[@fatimahaffejee3834]

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[@hafsah6823]

Barakallahu lakum sister.

[@naturerules7176]

You are a chosen woman by Allah especially in these turbulent times otherwise wives don't want to stay home. The best service a woman can do to this planet, country and society is to raise well-mannered, useful and caring human beings. "Life is not meaningful unless it is serving an end beyond itself, unless it is value to someone else. You will not find meaning through your ego. - Abraham Joshua Heschel (Book: Man Is Not Alone)"

[@sarahnovella4971]

@@anitachandra2030 lol... just because that's your experience with marriage doesn't mean it's the same for everyone else lulz

[@iqramalik7021]

This lecture saved my iman, as a lot of the cultural practices had skewed my understanding of my deen, and that caused me to distance myself from it as I felt that a lot of rights and desires were being taken away if I followed my deen, but the truth of the matter is I wasn't following Islam, I was following my culture. I was ignorant. Dr. Rania inspired and motivated me to learn more and reconnect with my deen. Thank you, dr. Rania.

[@FUZALOE119]

Important note: When you are focused on purpose of life, you have no time for petty things.

[@user-gz4ff6lt4l]

She is a great example of what muslim women have the choice of being, an accomplished sister who also understands importance of home and family! The beauty of Islam, we have a choice! Sisters, no one is better or worse for what choice they make: to be homemakers or to be homemakers who also pursue academics/careers/business. As long as we fulfil our duties. Subhan Allah

[@semufedlu2311]

I have never thought it in this perspective. There is a difference between culture and real definition of deen. You guys are clearing the fog. Jezakellah kheyren.

[@hibbahmalik3816]

Wonderful lecture to get rid of the assumption that women belong only in the house!

[@naturerules7176]

West placed women in workplace since 1960 and kicked feminist movement. Result is 70 percent single mothers, i.e fatherless homes, 60 percent divorces where 80 percent initiated by women. Marriages are on decline. Singlehiod and loneliness is on rise and birth rates are below 2.1, i.e replacement rate. This happened for first time in human history. Women happiness index is dropping since women so-called liberated since 1960, why? More educated, career-oriented, strong and independent woman, will have less kids, unhappy and cynical. That's why higher educate and higher women are mostly unmarried or divorced or having beta husband. This type of scholars are Western influenced and promoting family unit disitegration.

[@robhurst4101]

Please help indian muslim minorities from Hindu right wing government

[@tuqaa.3242]

@@naturerules7176 Research shows that many unmarried and childless women are happier, so I don't know what your sources are but they aren't true. The reason there is a rise in divorce and decline in birthrates is because of the independence women gained (not having to stay in worthless shitty relationships with controlling men) and the economy. The reason women are getting divorced more and more is because they don't need men anymore, not the way they used to, which is for survival. You think women were happier then? Women were getting abused day and night. The reason higher educated women are less likely to be married, is because they understand themselves, and what they want. There is no such thing as a 'beta', the only people who use these kinds of terms are idiots like yourself. Why such things aren't happening in the middle east or anywhere else, isn't because women are necessarily happier, it's because there's such a stigma around it that women would rather stay in draining marriages than own the title 'divorced'. Less kids doesn't mean unhappy, education doesn't mean unmarried. Men just want less driven women so they can manipulate/ control them easier, younger ones too. Here are my sources, present me with yours, clusterfuck: www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/why-bad-looks-good/202102/why-many-single-women-without-children-are-so-happy

[@khazana24]

@@naturerules7176 Stop blaming the West for the gross inequities that clearly exist in many of our Muslim communities, especially so called Islamic countries. I’m no feminist but clearly the women’s rights movement has made inroads so women have the ability and OPTION to work, vote, and take active roles in public life. And have you considered that perhaps higher divorced rates are due to many women today exercising greater rights and having the means to do so versus being in very difficult marriages and solely dependent on their husbands financially? Have you considered that in single households, it’s the women who are taking care of their kids and the absentee parent is the father? Have you considered it’s the work culture that needs to change so that women have the ability to take time off (ie when their children are young) or have part-time options so they can readily balance the two? Don’t assume women are all trying to climb the corporate ladder or putting careers above everything else - many desire marriage as well as the OPTION to earn an income and have a degree of independence that was never afforded to those generations before them. It’s systems in place (such as workplace culture and rigidly defined roles) that are causing a lot of the imbalance and need to adapt with changing times (just as remote work has now become a necessity).

[@oumi1224]

@@naturerules7176 thats just cause men can’t handle a smart woman

[@freakyworld7373]

Time flies so fast that my priorities with my family is just enough to feel I accomplished my day with my responsibilities. May Allah Azawajal grant us ability to organise our times wisely 🙏

[@Falastini_gaza]

This was so beautiful subhan Allah. Alhamdulillah this videonwas answer to my du'a to Allah. Alhamdulillah ❤

[@faridamairama3875]

Mashah Allah .may Allah bless you fir telling the truth is sooo refreshing and you said something almost all the masjid don't engage women to work on bord but they want them always to do cleaning teaching day careetc...they can't do important thinks even id they have ideas it's not considered..

[@flowlikewater6576]

Thank you so much for this talk. Im so tired of how individuals who hear the same verses as we do and interpret it with the male gaze 😭 and actually how we were taught about them as young girls and either lived up to it or became lucky enough to see the big picture and be labeled as “radical”. For literally the simplest things. Took me a while to get comfortable with being radical because it will be that way to them since their lenses are so flawed.

[@aconitenepales]

Great lecture MashaAllah

[@manaalfatima19]

This made me cry so much. Especially when Dr.Rania mentioned the pakistani statement of women only leaving their husbunds house in a burial shroud. Culture has made our beautiful deen so difficult on our women, and a as a young girl it makes you doubt and have complaints against Allah when all along there is nothing difficicult in our religion. The Quran advises men again and again to be kind and fair in regards to their affair with women and for a good reason because men have unfortunately forgotten their responsibiltity over women!

[@girl-mv4vy]

Great lecture

[@mahamyazzie9444]

So we’ll put, thank you for sharing

[@Flowers408]

I needed to watch this so much! Jazak allah khair, this lecture brought me back 💕

[@aminayussuf3821]

Mashaa Allah..tabarakallah

[@suaadsultan]

MashAllah and Jazakamalahukhair ❤️

[@madulinbeting1510]

MashaAllah, great lecture I love this

[@paccel2285]

Thank you for explaining the differences in standard tajweed styles along with their meanings!

[@ri1111ds]

Absolutely wonderful lecture!!!!!

[@warsameedow3760]

thank you sister.

[@monica.s6584]

Ma Shaa Allah! Great lecture as usual! BarakAllahu fikum!

[@bookclubforlife]

Mashallah...recently discovered your channel and so far loving your content 😱❤as a hijabi I am so grateful to be a Muslim Mama

[@eman-ne2ng]

I learnt so, so much from this. Thank you.

[@himomimfamous]

May Allah swt bless Dr. Awaad. I saw her in person twice and was so inspired by her.

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

جزاكم الله خيرا وفقكم الله لما يحبه ويرضاه

[@kamraz5474]

Jazzakulla kheir for sharing

[@sanalouisedz9380]

Thank you soooo much for this speech, may you be rewarded inshaAllah

[@lover7403]

Mashallah tabarakallah sister!

[@salmahaneef786]

This was amazing. What an inspiration Dr. Rania is!

[@allhealingcomesfromallaah]

Jazak Allaahu Khayran

[@sidali2590]

Mashallah she's a good speaker

[@lostsoul2924]

This was eye opening reminder

[@naifah54321]

Many gems, pearls of wisdom, in this talk

[@tajweedtasnim]

Masha’Allah. Beautiful reflections to reflect on and act upon

[@anamericanmuslim6399]

Mashallah light upon light. May God reward you for your beautiful knowledge.

[@ubaxali3853]

May Allah bless you sister

[@IsmiFarha]

Mash’Allah 🤲 thank you Sister for sharing. May Allah bless and reward you and your family in this life and in jannah. Ameen

[@angelhearts3152]

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu Lovely sister! Ma sha Allah la quwwata illa billah... u are indeed a great inspiration!jazakallahu khairan kaseera.

[@noranabdelrazk1846]

جزاكِ الله كل خير ...ربنا يحفظك...لقد ساعدتيني جدا حقا ✨️

[@zahraquiblier6587]

Masha'Allah I have enjoyed listening to her and learnt alot. May Allah bless you

[@a_blue_chicken1093]

I really enjoyed listening and learning from this educated person.

[@nazajalal8094]

Masha'Allah

[@zainabvlogs0321]

Awesome ❤

[@lumnikrasniqi3771]

Salam Alaykum sister. MashaAllah! Elhamdulilah Allah gave you opportunity to talk about women priorities, to be home or not. Elhamdulilah Allah gave me opportunity to listen to you. May Allah bless you and your family inshallah. Every creature, Every woman and man has been created from Allah. In this dunya we must follow the rules and guidance of Allah, wallahi we never will be disappointed because Allah will protect us. Thank you sister.

[@glowingflower5632]

We weren’t created from Allah (SWT). Allah (SWT) created us from the soil of earth. Then he blew in us from his soul so that we become living creatures.

[@rashadabdulazeem5387]

Wow, Al hamdulilah, this sister is simply amazing. Our community needs this knowledge like water.

[@zukhruf3640]

MashaAllah extremely proud of you

[@TheAmna_Penguin]

Please do a video on financial literacy of women in Islam

[@learn9587]

Masha Allah, absolutely wonderful speech. I was nodding in agreement from beginning to end. The style of delivery is beautiful too. No us against them, no holier-than thou.

[@omalbakhtiari2269]

Thank you so much sister. My husband and even the Imam of our mosque misuses this verse to guilt women into staying at home. Sometimes to the extent of going to shops feels like a sin. I knew Islam is a logical way of life%religion and could not have wanted imprisonment of educators of the future generation.

[@ghofranesalhi7386]

Eye-opening. Thank you sister.

[@Leadwithlove654]

MY MIND WAS BLOWN, MASHA ALLAH, WELL EXPLAINED

[@fatumaahmed4304]

Ma Sha Allah Ramadan Kareem

[@maameye9538]

Salute to u women

[@olanosseir3611]

Mashallah a wonderful and extremely articulate lecture. I personally learned much. Jazakallah Khairan.

[@salimasiyah4625]

Baraka Allahu feeki

[@D.J.023]

Allah akbar, beautiful reflection. May Allah guide us to what is best.

[@maxamed4yare]

Woow mashallah your great teacher

[@Aminasheikh-io1kl]

Assalamoalicom sister Masallah this discussion really touched my heart and I gain a lot of knowledge. Thank you.

[@Sarafara7]

This was a great talk. Thank you. I just want to make clear that civic engagement that deals with wildlife conservation is indeed an important one and follows the sunnah.

[@user-ez8ox2mj7m]

ver good

[@Asmarehmane]

Most balanced view that I’ve heard in a long time. People are always making it an either or.

[@amatullah_aishah]

SubhanAllah, this came timely although I personally feel there is beauty, comfort in staying at home, being somewhat 'hidden' especially for an (ultra) introvert. To add to that, I actually thrive both aa professional, students and wife at the comfort of my own space. I don't dismiss the other perspective of the Qur’an verses which Dr Rania have proposes because I did learn prior to this video that the particular Qur'an verses was often quoted out of context. On this note.. I would like to say, there are scholars of tafsir that have actually explained it differently because the Qur'an verses which is misquoted as 'stay at home is cut off in the middle, without continuing the verses till the stop ( waqaf ). The full ruling is actually stay in your homes and donnot display (tabarruj jahiliah) yourself like back in the days.. This is actually the Qur'an verse "Settle in your homes... and do not display yourselves as women did in the days of ˹pre-Islamic˺ ignorance..." The point to say, there was no ruling that state women are not allowed to go out, but it is don't go out wearing, looking like a jahiliah. And for this, I would argue that there is no ruling stating the prohibition of going out, but it is more on the manners of muamalah, or interaction with people including the Qur'an verses stating speak properly without softening your voice. Having said, that I don't think this ruling is specific for just Prophet Muhammad wives, because there are scholars who says following the Sunnah of the wives is better just like the Sunnah of the four companion, as they are the best of people. Allah knows best.

[@Ruun-finder]

Masha Allah well spoken with evidence.

[@nayyabtariq6682]

this was such a beautiful conference, wish you could come to pakistan and give this khutbah.

[@yumnahassan6350]

I absolutly love this video! please open the translation option so I can translate it to Arabic so more people will benefit from it

[@MCCEastBay]

How?

[@norzilahaziz6695]

I guess this ustazah Dr Rania? A highly qualified speaker..worth listening..

[@musasayyaf3101]

Maa shaa Allah tabaaraka llah beautiful wife with a beautiful lecture

[@fathimahsaefuddin9101]

you are my favourite..

[@nooralhuda6088]

Beautiful

[@zto5020]

Maaşaallah, SübhanAllah, BarekAllah

[@chrisojuok2850]

Thanks ☀️👑🤲🙏❤️👌

[@user-fi3ek3vv6o]

Unbelievable how women were treated 1400 yrs ago and jow they r treated today. What a beautiful eye-opening lecture for men and women

[@kadiatukamara5876]

Mash Allah Ameen

[@fatimafarhan531]

Jazaki allahu khairan and may allah grant you jannah with aysheh, khadejeh and all the prophet's wives and companion ") Thank you from the deepest point of my heart

[@bintjamiel2873]

May Allah guide us all as women, but let’s note that and we shall all be questioned about that which we said/ preached

[@zuniamatullah6364]

Love this sister!!! May Allah bless you!

[@Rantitoutloud]

I love when she said Nonsense then MashaAllah

[@sanahoque9321]

Masha allah ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@nayashams6845]

I really like your program.

[@ummjunayd1511]

I cannot explain what this meant to me. I ask Allāh to reward ustadha immensely.

[@change9065]

Alhamdulillah, speak the truth sister.

[@englishspeakers-9639]

Great speech sister! We respect women and we value our women and we love them so much, and I appreciate the fact you emphasize the importance of our priorities. the fact that a women can take care of a house and raise her children and take care of her husband and so on is a great thing, she is creating a school, she is building generations, and so I appreciate that a lot from women, and she was given all the qualifications for that role. she is supposed to study and learn and be educated, but she should not neglect her role as a mother and a wife, and same goes for the men. May ALLAH bless you and everyone who watched the lecture.

[@zerinadalvie7696]

Love this dr rania...for the sake of Allah. Alhamdulila

[@mounireaddevil]

Bring back my lessons about the Cult of domesticity and the movement of true womanhood !!!

[@ayshakalanad6956]

Assalamu alaikum.. wonderful lecture.. jazakillahu khairan dear Sister.. may Allah increase your knowledge and make it beneficial for more and more women.. I have a doubt regarding the dressing however.. as per Surah Noor, shouldn't the khimar fall over the bosom? Please could someone clarify..

[@amani745]

SubhanAllah, this sister is brilliant, Ma'Sha'Allah. First time I've come across her. May Allah reward her, she's always smiling, Ma'Sha'Allah.

[@amalmohamed928]

❤❤❤❤

[@yaasikasa17]

With the internet and social media booming, nobody is home, we are everywhere and nowhere at the same time. We have forgotten how to be in the present and now.

[@sanarabbi7006]

U r so lovely...nothing but love n respect for u..

[@coffeeandscrubs2062]

Can I translate this video to arabic? This is amazing jazakallah❤️

[@omaimahassan3932]

السلام عليكم ورحمه الله وبركاته ممكن اسماء الكتب التى تروى عن الصحابيات واسماء الكتب الخاصه بنساء العصر الحديث وجزاكم الله خيرا

[@seawave100]

اتفضلي اختي هذه كتب جاهزة للتحميل نفع الله بك

[@shabanatasleem3532]

Some, can’t stand to watch other women staying indoors and having a nap during the day! Without raising the Q “What’s wrong with her?”

[@kajx5548]

I would love to get an opinion from yourself from a situation that I am currently facing. Let me know how I can message you about this. I thoroughly enjoyed watching this video you speak alot of sense mashallah. May Allah swt grant you with more knowledge to inspire and teach many of us 🤍

[@afriousman4610]

You are amazing role model, loved it balance, balance yes balance. May Allah bless you.

[@user-hl3ro8go3u]

Ilove you❤❤❤

[@allhealingcomesfromallaah]

Bismillah As Salaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatull Allaahi Wa Barakatuhu Dear Ummah, 😊 Al Hamdu Lillaah 🤲🌏🕋 Allaah All-Mighty’s Final Messenger, our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sal Allaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam)! May Allaah All-Mighty be pleased with the respected Family, respected Companions of our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sal Allaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) and the righteous ones, Allaahumma Aameen! Jazak Allaahu Khayran Allaahumma Aameen to all the Duas!

[@ridaarif6389]

Can you ask Dr Rania to give a lecture on travel without a mehram thing?

[@AbidAli-bv2gl]

Ustadha Dr. Rania Awaad , Sister is great expert