"Women Are Better Hidden Away?" | Womanhood Reimagined Retreat | Ustadha Dr. Rania Awaad

[@geekygirl648]

This culturual non-sense took so many years of my life. And now i cannot even answer those elders as most of those elders are LATE now. The damage they have done to me and my potential is what only ALLAH swt can recover and heal. AMEEN

[@iqramalik7021]

This lecture saved my iman, as a lot of the cultural practices had skewed my understanding of my deen, and that caused me to distance myself from it as I felt that a lot of rights and desires were being taken away if I followed my deen, but the truth of the matter is I wasn't following Islam, I was following my culture. I was ignorant. Dr. Rania inspired and motivated me to learn more and reconnect with my deen. Thank you, dr. Rania.

[@mahaalotaibi8352]

Alhamdullah I enjoy spending most of my time at home with my baby and husband. I always pray to Allah to bless my husband with wealth so we are safe and protected with him 🙏 He is the provider and I respect him and love him for his hardwork and sacrifice. I enjoy staying home giving my family love, care, and nurture.

[@anitachandra2030]

But the one you need the most protection from is your own husband.

[@fatimahaffejee3834]

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[@hafsah6823]

Barakallahu lakum sister.

[@naturerules7176]

You are a chosen woman by Allah especially in these turbulent times otherwise wives don't want to stay home. The best service a woman can do to this planet, country and society is to raise well-mannered, useful and caring human beings. "Life is not meaningful unless it is serving an end beyond itself, unless it is value to someone else. You will not find meaning through your ego. - Abraham Joshua Heschel (Book: Man Is Not Alone)"

[@sarahnovella4971]

@@anitachandra2030 lol... just because that's your experience with marriage doesn't mean it's the same for everyone else lulz

[@FUZALOE119]

Important note: When you are focused on purpose of life, you have no time for petty things.

[@semufedlu2311]

I have never thought it in this perspective. There is a difference between culture and real definition of deen. You guys are clearing the fog. Jezakellah kheyren.

[@ZM-et7zt]

After growing up in the south asian community and observing the behaviour of well treated housewives, mistreated/abused housewives, wives with small businesses and women with careers... the pettiness is real with women who's whole life has revolved around serving in the home. When your world is narrowed down so is your headspace. I've seen a lot of arguments in couples over petty nonsense and the husband wonders why is she so neurotic?! It's because she exists in the same 4 walls around the same people everyday 🙂 it's enough to make anyone go mad so I expect it's her imaan that has kept her as sane as she is. No matter how gilded, a cage is a cage. Women were not created as prisoners, we are human beings with the same responsibility of serving Allah and the Prophet S said they are your partners and committed helpers, not houseslaves.

[@Steph-sb3ge]

Agreed. When your whole life revolves around the home I think it can be a problem. My mom stopped working when she had kids and now all she can talk about is home improvement and gossip and trying to interfere in her children’s lives

[@hafsahalkhair7901]

agreed! Very well said!

[@aishapatel9986]

Women can work as long as its within the context of islam.women stay at home to look after the kids an be a teacher to give them knowledge .prophet mohomed s.a.w.would of advised women to remain at home to protect her.

[@ZM-et7zt]

@@aishapatel9986 sister please read the history of the Prophet's Madina. Women were not kept in their houses to protect them. If muslim society is unsafe that women cannot work in broad daylight, then I think it has failed. What about female doctors, nurses, midwives, pharmacist, counsellors? Other jobs can be done at home but do you expect women to go to see a Male doctor? Have a man delivering babies? Keeping women in their houses doesn't work in the real world. Allah has commanded that women are kept safe, they wear hijab and don't interact beyond necessity with non mahrams. But men are commanded to control themselves, stay away from women beyond necessity and look after women. It is a balance.

[@mohammedjafer9265]

People belief staying at house means just doing house stuff with that same logic men providing while working inside the house is the same thing, regardless our purpose is worshipping Allah and so that's what a men and woman do in the house doing the duty God told them to

[@InshiraA-l1l]

She is a great example of what muslim women have the choice of being, an accomplished sister who also understands importance of home and family! The beauty of Islam, we have a choice! Sisters, no one is better or worse for what choice they make: to be homemakers or to be homemakers who also pursue academics/careers/business. As long as we fulfil our duties. Subhan Allah

[@manaalfatima19]

This made me cry so much. Especially when Dr.Rania mentioned the pakistani statement of women only leaving their husbunds house in a burial shroud. Culture has made our beautiful deen so difficult on our women, and a as a young girl it makes you doubt and have complaints against Allah when all along there is nothing difficicult in our religion. The Quran advises men again and again to be kind and fair in regards to their affair with women and for a good reason because men have unfortunately forgotten their responsibiltity over women!

[@freakyworld7373]

Time flies so fast that my priorities with my family is just enough to feel I accomplished my day with my responsibilities. May Allah Azawajal grant us ability to organise our times wisely 🙏

[@naifah54321]

Many gems, pearls of wisdom, in this talk

[@TurningPoint-h2x]

Unbelievable how women were treated 1400 yrs ago and jow they r treated today. What a beautiful eye-opening lecture for men and women

[@Chips_500]

Jazakallah khair for the beautiful lecture Sr. Rania. Truly inspiring for women.

[@learn9587]

Masha Allah, absolutely wonderful speech. I was nodding in agreement from beginning to end. The style of delivery is beautiful too. No us against them, no holier-than thou.

[@flowlikewater6576]

Thank you so much for this talk. Im so tired of how individuals who hear the same verses as we do and interpret it with the male gaze 😭 and actually how we were taught about them as young girls and either lived up to it or became lucky enough to see the big picture and be labeled as “radical”. For literally the simplest things. Took me a while to get comfortable with being radical because it will be that way to them since their lenses are so flawed.

[@rashadabdulazeem5387]

Wow, Al hamdulilah, this sister is simply amazing. Our community needs this knowledge like water.

[@Asmarehmane]

Most balanced view that I’ve heard in a long time. People are always making it an either or.

[@omalbakhtiari2269]

Thank you so much sister. My husband and even the Imam of our mosque misuses this verse to guilt women into staying at home. Sometimes to the extent of going to shops feels like a sin. I knew Islam is a logical way of life%religion and could not have wanted imprisonment of educators of the future generation.

[@norzilahaziz6695]

I guess this ustazah Dr Rania? A highly qualified speaker..worth listening..

[@soumayaviljoen3580]

ما شاء الله. A beautiful talk. May we, woman strive to attain more knowledge about our Most perfect deen in order for us to live our intended purpose in this worldly life, آمين

[@ummjunayd1511]

I cannot explain what this meant to me. I ask Allāh to reward ustadha immensely.

[@hibbahmalik3816]

Wonderful lecture to get rid of the assumption that women belong only in the house!

[@naturerules7176]

West placed women in workplace since 1960 and kicked feminist movement. Result is 70 percent single mothers, i.e fatherless homes, 60 percent divorces where 80 percent initiated by women. Marriages are on decline. Singlehiod and loneliness is on rise and birth rates are below 2.1, i.e replacement rate. This happened for first time in human history. Women happiness index is dropping since women so-called liberated since 1960, why? More educated, career-oriented, strong and independent woman, will have less kids, unhappy and cynical. That's why higher educate and higher women are mostly unmarried or divorced or having beta husband. This type of scholars are Western influenced and promoting family unit disitegration.

[@robhurst4101]

Please help indian muslim minorities from Hindu right wing government

[@tuqaa.3242]

@@naturerules7176 Research shows that many unmarried and childless women are happier, so I don't know what your sources are but they aren't true. The reason there is a rise in divorce and decline in birthrates is because of the independence women gained (not having to stay in worthless shitty relationships with controlling men) and the economy. The reason women are getting divorced more and more is because they don't need men anymore, not the way they used to, which is for survival. You think women were happier then? Women were getting abused day and night. The reason higher educated women are less likely to be married, is because they understand themselves, and what they want. There is no such thing as a 'beta', the only people who use these kinds of terms are idiots like yourself. Why such things aren't happening in the middle east or anywhere else, isn't because women are necessarily happier, it's because there's such a stigma around it that women would rather stay in draining marriages than own the title 'divorced'. Less kids doesn't mean unhappy, education doesn't mean unmarried. Men just want less driven women so they can manipulate/ control them easier, younger ones too. Here are my sources, present me with yours, clusterfuck: www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/why-bad-looks-good/202102/why-many-single-women-without-children-are-so-happy

[@khazana24]

@@naturerules7176 Stop blaming the West for the gross inequities that clearly exist in many of our Muslim communities, especially so called Islamic countries. I’m no feminist but clearly the women’s rights movement has made inroads so women have the ability and OPTION to work, vote, and take active roles in public life. And have you considered that perhaps higher divorced rates are due to many women today exercising greater rights and having the means to do so versus being in very difficult marriages and solely dependent on their husbands financially? Have you considered that in single households, it’s the women who are taking care of their kids and the absentee parent is the father? Have you considered it’s the work culture that needs to change so that women have the ability to take time off (ie when their children are young) or have part-time options so they can readily balance the two? Don’t assume women are all trying to climb the corporate ladder or putting careers above everything else - many desire marriage as well as the OPTION to earn an income and have a degree of independence that was never afforded to those generations before them. It’s systems in place (such as workplace culture and rigidly defined roles) that are causing a lot of the imbalance and need to adapt with changing times (just as remote work has now become a necessity).

[@oumi1224]

@@naturerules7176 thats just cause men can’t handle a smart woman

[@IsmiFarha]

Mash’Allah 🤲 thank you Sister for sharing. May Allah bless and reward you and your family in this life and in jannah. Ameen

[@Louised1990]

Thank you soooo much for this speech, may you be rewarded inshaAllah

[@salmahaneef786]

This was amazing. What an inspiration Dr. Rania is!

[@anamericanmuslim6399]

Mashallah light upon light. May God reward you for your beautiful knowledge.

[@Sarafara7]

This was a great talk. Thank you. I just want to make clear that civic engagement that deals with wildlife conservation is indeed an important one and follows the sunnah.

[@UzeefiiAbdulkerim]

ver good

[@olanosseir3611]

Mashallah a wonderful and extremely articulate lecture. I personally learned much. Jazakallah Khairan.

[@himomimfamous]

May Allah swt bless Dr. Awaad. I saw her in person twice and was so inspired by her.

[@bookclubforlife]

Mashallah...recently discovered your channel and so far loving your content 😱❤as a hijabi I am so grateful to be a Muslim Mama

[@englishspeakers-9639]

Great speech sister! We respect women and we value our women and we love them so much, and I appreciate the fact you emphasize the importance of our priorities. the fact that a women can take care of a house and raise her children and take care of her husband and so on is a great thing, she is creating a school, she is building generations, and so I appreciate that a lot from women, and she was given all the qualifications for that role. she is supposed to study and learn and be educated, but she should not neglect her role as a mother and a wife, and same goes for the men. May ALLAH bless you and everyone who watched the lecture.

[@fatimafarhan531]

Jazaki allahu khairan and may allah grant you jannah with aysheh, khadejeh and all the prophet's wives and companion ") Thank you from the deepest point of my heart

[@mariamaomar3212]

"Whatever Allah gives you, there's a perfect balance to the best of your abilities"

[@tajweedtasnim]

Masha’Allah. Beautiful reflections to reflect on and act upon

[@Leadwithlove654]

MY MIND WAS BLOWN, MASHA ALLAH, WELL EXPLAINED

[@amani745]

SubhanAllah, this sister is brilliant, Ma'Sha'Allah. First time I've come across her. May Allah reward her, she's always smiling, Ma'Sha'Allah.

[@zahraquiblier6587]

Masha'Allah I have enjoyed listening to her and learnt alot. May Allah bless you

[@D.J.023]

Allah akbar, beautiful reflection. May Allah guide us to what is best.

[@amatullah_aishah]

SubhanAllah, this came timely although I personally feel there is beauty, comfort in staying at home, being somewhat 'hidden' especially for an (ultra) introvert. To add to that, I actually thrive both aa professional, students and wife at the comfort of my own space. I don't dismiss the other perspective of the Qur’an verses which Dr Rania have proposes because I did learn prior to this video that the particular Qur'an verses was often quoted out of context. On this note.. I would like to say, there are scholars of tafsir that have actually explained it differently because the Qur'an verses which is misquoted as 'stay at home is cut off in the middle, without continuing the verses till the stop ( waqaf ). The full ruling is actually stay in your homes and donnot display (tabarruj jahiliah) yourself like back in the days.. This is actually the Qur'an verse "Settle in your homes... and do not display yourselves as women did in the days of ˹pre-Islamic˺ ignorance..." The point to say, there was no ruling that state women are not allowed to go out, but it is don't go out wearing, looking like a jahiliah. And for this, I would argue that there is no ruling stating the prohibition of going out, but it is more on the manners of muamalah, or interaction with people including the Qur'an verses stating speak properly without softening your voice. Having said, that I don't think this ruling is specific for just Prophet Muhammad wives, because there are scholars who says following the Sunnah of the wives is better just like the Sunnah of the four companion, as they are the best of people. Allah knows best.

[@lulijet1]

Salam Alaykum sister. MashaAllah! Elhamdulilah Allah gave you opportunity to talk about women priorities, to be home or not. Elhamdulilah Allah gave me opportunity to listen to you. May Allah bless you and your family inshallah. Every creature, Every woman and man has been created from Allah. In this dunya we must follow the rules and guidance of Allah, wallahi we never will be disappointed because Allah will protect us. Thank you sister.

[@glowingflower5632]

We weren’t created from Allah (SWT). Allah (SWT) created us from the soil of earth. Then he blew in us from his soul so that we become living creatures.

[@syrasafdar]

omg, this is beautiful, such an insightful lecture!!! thankyouuu sooo muchhh!!!❤

[@a_blue_chicken1093]

I really enjoyed listening and learning from this educated person.

[@monica.s6584]

Ma Shaa Allah! Great lecture as usual! BarakAllahu fikum!

[@paccel2285]

Thank you for explaining the differences in standard tajweed styles along with their meanings!

[@kamraz5474]

Jazzakulla kheir for sharing

[@nayyabtariq6682]

this was such a beautiful conference, wish you could come to pakistan and give this khutbah.

[@zerinadalvie7696]

Love this dr rania...for the sake of Allah. Alhamdulila

[@faridamairama3875]

Mashah Allah .may Allah bless you fir telling the truth is sooo refreshing and you said something almost all the masjid don't engage women to work on bord but they want them always to do cleaning teaching day careetc...they can't do important thinks even id they have ideas it's not considered..

[@quaziteasha6020]

May Allah bless you sister for clearing the confusion .

[@zuniamatullah6364]

Love this sister!!! May Allah bless you!

[@maxamed4yare]

Woow mashallah your great teacher

[@eman-ne2ng]

I learnt so, so much from this. Thank you.

[@warsameedow3760]

thank you sister.

[@zukhruf3640]

MashaAllah extremely proud of you

[@angelhearts3152]

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu Lovely sister! Ma sha Allah la quwwata illa billah... u are indeed a great inspiration!jazakallahu khairan kaseera.

[@Aminasheikh-io1kl]

Assalamoalicom sister Masallah this discussion really touched my heart and I gain a lot of knowledge. Thank you.

[@TheAmna_Penguin]

Please do a video on financial literacy of women in Islam

[@bashirlone3207]

Jazakalla ustadda gee from amreca❤❤jazakalla

[@noranabdelrazk1846]

جزاكِ الله كل خير ...ربنا يحفظك...لقد ساعدتيني جدا حقا ✨️

[@sidali2590]

Mashallah she's a good speaker

[@AbidAli-bv2gl]

Ustadha Dr. Rania Awaad , Sister is great expert

[@Alaqsa_filasteen]

This was so beautiful subhan Allah. Alhamdulillah this videonwas answer to my du'a to Allah. Alhamdulillah ❤

[@sanarabbi7006]

U r so lovely...nothing but love n respect for u..

[@nayashams6845]

I really like your program.

[@aminayussuf3821]

Mashaa Allah..tabarakallah

[@ubaxali3853]

May Allah bless you sister

[@madulinbeting1510]

MashaAllah, great lecture I love this

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

جزاكم الله خيرا وفقكم الله لما يحبه ويرضاه

[@AHSAWorldLifestyle]

Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah

[@fatumaahmed4304]

Ma Sha Allah Ramadan Kareem

[@nabisah178]

Do anything as long pleases Allah. Even Khadijah ra after marriage stayed home. God gives women the choice to do anything as long their husbands are ok. Better to care for children and still serve society in many ways. Many dnt live in the extended family. Don't listen to something and then decide it going to work in your family. Every family has different dynamics. I always feel, talk about how can be done what you need and get support and at the same time have marital bliss. Many women listen to something like this and start to believe they're right. Heard this happening in many homes and sadly peace is gone. Always be mindful of your family dynamic when you want to make a change that is not the norm.

[@flowlikewater6576]

That is true but the thing is the husbands should be okay with the things we want to do. But they aren’t because of cultural beliefs and also weaponize the islamic beliefs they falsely interpret. That’s why talks like this are as important for men as they are for women.

[@flowlikewater6576]

Surely husbands can uphold their share in domestic labor and raising the children so women have more time to do other things. The real reason women are either out there and neglecting their homes or closed in is actually because homes are standing on one leg. Your kids being neglected should not be the cost of you having a job or participating in anything beyond your house and would not be if men knew better.

[@awimosbizzle]

Khadija also went out to give the prophet peace be upon him food, climbing large mountains to get there. She packed food for him(saw). She also went to waraqah and took him herself. She still went outside but she did not WORK outside. It’s a balance. They say women should go AT ALL. Only for a purpose. What if she just wants to do an act of sadaqah. There is a Hadith of a women plucking dates, and someone scolded her. The prophet peace be upon him said ‘perhaps she may give some charity’ (something along those lines forgive me if I’m wrong). Also one of the later wives of the prophet (I believe was safiyaa) went out to visit the prophet, and the only sole reason was to visit him in the masjid. And he gave her company when she did and even walked her away from the masjid when/while spending time with her. So it should be a balance. Yes husband has to provide. But let the wife go out!! For whatever reason. If she is doing something that’s not haram, what’s the reason for stopping her? If she can fulfill her wife duties and family duties, why stop her? Tell her she must stay home. Even tho some say that verse is only for the wives of the prophet, they STILL went out, even if it was a little. I don’t get what people mean when they say stay home. Because technically they can still go out. She can’t go out for haram but neither can the man

[@mounireaddevil]

Bring back my lessons about the Cult of domesticity and the movement of true womanhood !!!

[@bintjamiel2873]

May Allah guide us all as women, but let’s note that and we shall all be questioned about that which we said/ preached

[@lostsoul2924]

This was eye opening reminder

[@yaasikasa17]

With the internet and social media booming, nobody is home, we are everywhere and nowhere at the same time. We have forgotten how to be in the present and now.

[@mahamyazzie9444]

So we’ll put, thank you for sharing

[@shabanatasleem3532]

Some, can’t stand to watch other women staying indoors and having a nap during the day! Without raising the Q “What’s wrong with her?”

[@nyssahasan1]

Which social Justice projects aren’t part of Islam? I would have thought most of them are part of our Islamic duty. Love this lecture!

[@yumnahassan6350]

I absolutly love this video! please open the translation option so I can translate it to Arabic so more people will benefit from it

[@MCCEastBay]

How?

[@aconitenepales]

Great lecture MashaAllah

[@Redmi7-m1f]

Allhamdulilh nice instoion

[@Flowers408]

I needed to watch this so much! Jazak allah khair, this lecture brought me back 💕

[@naifah54321]

The point made at 9:50 - this is what I used to think too however I came across a hadith in a book which says: Aisha RA asked the Messenger of Allah SAW: "Who has the greatest rights over a woman?". He SAW said "Her husband". She asked "And who has the greatest rights over a man?". He said, "His mother." (The reference quoted in the book says Al-Bazzar with a hasan isnad. Majma' az-Zawa'id, 4/308, bab haqq az-zawj 'ala al-mar'ah). What is the authenticity of this hadith? How does this work with the 'circles of priority' mentioned in this video?

[@suaadsultan]

MashAllah and Jazakamalahukhair ❤️

[@kalilougassama9626]

Wonderfull women ❤your lecture show very good. I love you very very much i may almight god blesing you in this World in the here After

[@ghofranesalhi7386]

Eye-opening. Thank you sister.

[@salimasiyah4625]

Baraka Allahu feeki

[@Know_Allaah_The_All-Mighty]

Jazak Allaahu Khayran

[@omaimahassan3932]

السلام عليكم ورحمه الله وبركاته ممكن اسماء الكتب التى تروى عن الصحابيات واسماء الكتب الخاصه بنساء العصر الحديث وجزاكم الله خيرا

[@seawave100]

اتفضلي اختي هذه كتب جاهزة للتحميل نفع الله بك

[@alaaaaa4132]

I believe that spouse should be third: God, oneself, spouse. إن لربك عليك حقا، وإن لنفسك عليك حقا، ولأهلك عليك حقا، فأعط كل ذي حق حقه

[@ri1111ds]

Absolutely wonderful lecture!!!!!

[@LovethisLife785]

Beautiful lecture. May the men and women of our time have the courage to learn and follow the Islam of Mohammad PBUH and not the one with cultural and personal bias.

[@Ruun-finder]

Masha Allah well spoken with evidence.

[@Rantitoutloud]

I love when she said Nonsense then MashaAllah

[@zainabvlogs0321]

Awesome ❤

[@thechoice301]

Assalamu alikum. I don't know if the speakers are relayed the questions from the chat but I would really like to ask Dr. Raina if it was it a common practice in Prophet's (peace and blessings be upon him) time for women to never get married for whatever reason. She said statements like "if the women is blessed with marriage" twice which really sparked my curiosity. By the laws of shari'ah as well, does a Muslim woman have an option of never marrying or is it a displeasing act in the sight of Allah SubhanaWaTa'aala? May Allah bless her and you all.

[@deedeee6271]

You must realize that there are women out there who may want to get married, but aren't for whatever reason. Finding a suitable spouse is not that easy. It's not like going to the grocery store and buy a loaf of bread.

[@lilosiddiqi3050]

you have to understand that not getting married will require you to have financial freedom until your passing and not only that but u require to have some kind of protection until your passing. this is something you have to also think about because one who get old age then you are on your own in this world (except with allah of course) how will you support yourself and protect yourself when you are at your weakest? i what assume this is why it is highly rewarding and recommended for both men and woman to get married. it is not just a matter of financial stability but also mental stability

[@lover7403]

Mashallah tabarakallah sister!

[@Know_Allaah_The_All-Mighty]

Bismillah As Salaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatull Allaahi Wa Barakatuhu Dear Ummah, 😊 Al Hamdu Lillaah 🤲🌏🕋 Allaah All-Mighty’s Final Messenger, our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sal Allaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam)! May Allaah All-Mighty be pleased with the respected Family, respected Companions of our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sal Allaahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) and the righteous ones, Allaahumma Aameen! Jazak Allaahu Khayran Allaahumma Aameen to all the Duas!

[@nurtoali6971]

ما شاء الله، ، جزيت بخير وبارك الله فيك ، ملاحظة/: في الآية ( وقرن في بيوتكن......الاية) العبرة بعموم اللفظ لا بخصوص السبب. فكل ما قيل للرسول (ص) ولأزواجه ، فهو لنا ، إلا أن يدل معني الخاص. والله اعلم. شكرا.

[@Xc662_]

اقرأ الاية من الاول ولا تنشر اشياء لانها عاجبتك وتشوه دينا🤦🏻‍♀️

[@nazajalal8094]

Masha'Allah

[@afriousman4610]

You are amazing role model, loved it balance, balance yes balance. May Allah bless you.