Women’s standards are TOO HIGH!

[@mightyblues7]

I would love more on this topic as it appears all our fault.

[@msjessicajaye]

In many ways the system is designed to addict you, so it isn’t your “fault”. But, as I said in the video, choosing to accept it is a conscious decision. Once you accept that you have the power to change, then you can actually change. If you just throw your hands up in the air and say someone or something else is to blame, then you have no control over the situation and thus no ability to effect change. The real question is - do you want life to drive you as a passenger, or do you want to be the driver?

[@lovepeace8918]

Yes it is your fault, women are always right and men are always wrong that is how it works. The nature of the game is get the guy to pay for everything and never give him sex. Get with the program, think like a girl, just tease men, they will throw money your way in hopes of getting laid, never open your legs for them, just keep fighting them for more and more money, always have 3 to 5 men you tease, and if you have a boyfriend or husband just say not now I have a headache, then go phuck other guys on the side, but never give sex to your boyfriend or husband then yell at and fight him and treat him like schit, and always accuse him of sleeping with every neighbor, because you need to prevent any other woman from taking his money that belongs to you. Women do not care if their man gets laid, she only cares that his money all goes to her, and is not split among other females. Woman are snakes, they are very demanding and they expect to always get their way, and men are worthless just to be used for money. Learn how women think.

[@midlifesniper2733]

I think one of the biggest reasons men feel like women’s standards are too high is because the average income is somewhere around 60k, but a lot of women won’t date men who make under 100k. Men’s entire value as a human being to a huge majority of women is the amount of money they can bring to the table.

[@yolandavote7008]

Great video again Jess! I'm probably not your usual demographic of subscriber (stay at home mum with 2 little ones) haha, but I do really resonate with so much of what you say, and I love your genuine and real nature. You're obviously a very strong woman who can articulate her opinions very well. I can also talk a lot and have a lot of opinions so I get it 🤣

[@loganstrong9874]

Great to read your comment ,as it's not a male's with a negative reaction .Great topic and seeing a female comment to Jessica's vids great to see.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@yolandavote7008 Great to have you here!

[@yolandavote7008]

@@loganstrong9874 cheers Logan!

[@kevinsmith5885]

Have not commented previously but this video certainly resonated with me. Would love to see more content along these lines as I believe your genuine in wanting to help. If nothing changes nothing will change as they say. Keep up the positive work.

[@dotcomerford716]

Please this is helping me so much just to understand men I found out there are pretty useless at sex so appreciating any info to help my marriage to be saved it is so appreciated Cheers Dot

[@XXJORDAN111XX]

Hiya , just wanted to say I absolutely love your videos your so honest and upfront and really give a insight into your world , thanks for the videos keep them up xx

[@isaacventers5680]

Listen up guys! Every single thing she said in this video is 100% true and accurate. She’s absolutely right. She’s dropping the best advice on the internet right now…FOR FREE. She doesn’t have to tell us the truth, but she is. She’s saying what she’s saying because she actually cares. That is very clear. Be humble, take what she’s saying seriously and work on yourself. Improve your mind, body, soul and life and women will desire you. We need to bring back chivalry and real manhood. Thank you Jessica for sharing the truth with everyone!

[@gailflora1835]

Good video. You telling the truth. Some people want to hear it, and some don’t.

[@craigcameron9677]

Thank you Jessica for taking the time out of your day to film these videos for us. I have watched every one of them since you started and I appreciate and admire your forthright opinions and thoughts - don't ever change! And I would be very grateful if you spent more time sharing your thoughts about where men get it so wrong with women and how to get it right. I recognise women aren't vending machines and you will still be rejected even when you have done the work and have everything going for you, but at least you will have the self-esteem within yourself to brush it off and move on. A video on specific ways a man can add value to a woman's life beyond what she can do on her own would be my suggestion, do with that what you will. Looking forward to the next video!

[@msjessicajaye]

Thank you for your feedback. I’m glad some people enjoy! It gives me motivation to keep going.

[@loganstrong9874]

You are the most fascinating /intelligent woman I've come across on you Tube, your work you are in the 'trenches' seeing/experiencing things the 'experts' simply would never truly experience .

[@msjessicajaye]

@@loganstrong9874 Well thank you - glad you’re enjoying!

[@loganstrong9874]

@@msjessicajaye years ago I read an autobiography on a woman who was a stripper (book called Twenty years naked ) she started in NZ in the 1980's and worked until the 2000's. Fascinating read ,the changes she experienced in the adult content world of those times .May be one day you could write a similar book ,you certainly have plenty of things to write on ,your already recording content with all your vids .

[@msjessicajaye]

@ Great idea! I hope to someday.

[@helder6175]

Modern-women mentality is that they are 59s. They're really a 5 and think they're a 9. Too many under the delusion. Even some of the 9s and 10s seem a little more humble by comparison.

[@franksimony5969]

Jess the dating problem is that many women think they are a 10 and only want to date top 5 procent gays they don’t see the average blue collar good men after been ghosted bye chad and Tyrone they are crying on TikTok. Love to you ❤ from Denmark 🇩🇰

[@msjessicajaye]

@@franksimony5969 you didn’t hear anything I said in the video. “Many women think they are a 10”. So what? So they should lower their self esteem to date below their standards? Their standards are their standards. Either you meet them or you don’t. You can’t force someone to have low self esteem just because you don’t think they’re attractive. And why would you want to date a woman you don’t think is attractive anyway? Women’s aim in life is not to get men. So guess what in order to get women, you need to be exceptional and stand out from other men. In any event I don’t buy that average looking women don’t date regular men. My friends show me photos of men they’ve dated and they’re ugly. Yet these ugly men are still out there treating them badly and acting like players. So my philosophy- if they’re going to treat you badly why not only let the hot ones do it to you? I’m in the same boat. My mental state was ruined last year by a guy who wasn’t hot. So guess what? I’m not even going to go near men at all for dating. Men keep blaming women for having standards and choices. The real issue is men not bothering to try to meet those standards and other men treating women so badly that women don’t want to engage anymore.

[@wilson2455]

and JJ's reply is typical of most women. Not only are they dellusional, but it's all OUR / MEN's fault !!

[@tommy.32221]

Hey Jessica. Very well said. Im glad to see your youtube taking off in light of the craziness over on tiktok for us American viewers. You've definitely put in the hard work with your content.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@tommy.32221 I’m sure glad I have an alternative outlet as the censorship is getting out of hand.

[@BewareSleestak]

As a short man (5’ 5”) years ago I put it down that I am an evolutionary dead end. And like you, I dont believe anyone owes me anything. Instead of fixating on this unfixable flaw, I have worked on things I am good at, such as my career, and just wrote off datIng. If you have some real talk on a different point of view, I am open to listening to anything you have to say on the topic.

[@belchy94]

What I learn’t from this video, I got no chance in finding a girl, my experience of meeting woman was getting ghosted. I respect and understand woman have standards but what I find hypocritical is woman complain when men have standards. Thankyou for the straight to the point video and your honesty respect that

[@msjessicajaye]

@@belchy94 Men don’t have standards. That is obvious. Men will hump or fap to just about anything. I’m not judging here. I’m stating facts. You guys are the first to say how “easy” it is for women to get men to sleep with them. Why is it so easy? Because men have low or no standards. What women complain about men doing is trying to force women to submit to their will or getting angry and resentful at women who choose to disengage. That’s not having a standard. Thats trying to control someone else’s behaviour where that person isn’t doing anything to hurt anyone.

[@belchy94]

@ your 100% right i not disagreeing with you. I respect the honesty and sometimes its needed.

[@russellpage9028]

@@msjessicajaye The late George Carlin talked about guys who will f---- anything in one of his comedy routines. "Three guys are going from bar to bar getting drunk, when one looks up and says look at her, let's see if she'll f----, one of his friends says Bob that's a telephone pole". Carlin wasn't shy about the short comings of his gender.

[@loganstrong9874]

Being an artist working in female portraits (When i have the time ),ive wanted my work to confront how men view woman ,To me anyway the eye's are the most attractive feature, and it's sad when I've meet older woman who are out there dating and hear about the bad experiences with men and how they don't think they are attractive. Id had being thinking the role P has had .Often when i'm working on a portrait at a cafe people want to know who it is ,and after watching your vids your be a most interesting portrait ,as challenge people's view on a Spicy worker . I could write alot more and being amazing your views on things .I enjoy the content like this vid .Thank you .

[@jjfanman-jj]

Great work Jess. I love this content because you are trying to help people. Please keep the content coming.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@jjfanman-jj Thank you 🙏🏼 will try

[@Idealclone]

I'm glad I'm single

[@michaelslawski]

Hey Jessica, Yes, More, More, Love that "Real Ass Talk" "LOL" You're A Queen & A Hoot! "LOL", Keep it coming, You Tell it like it is, I Love it!, I could listen to your thought process all day Long!... :)) It All Makes Logical Sense & I Agree Fully with You... :)

[@msjessicajaye]

lol thank you I am glad there are a few people who enjoy

[@michaelslawski]

@@msjessicajaye More than just a few, trust me :) ...

[@amriksinghtziripouloff8627]

Jessica, all what you are saying is true BUT it is only half of the problem: When people, women as well as men, did meet a person of the other sex in very few occasions, they were ajusting their standard to what was possible so to marry. The problem now is that on Tinder and other online dating sites men swept to the right 60 % of women but women only less than 20% of men. The other problem is that young women have on average a higher level of education than men and, when young, a higher income, but don't want to marry a man with lower income wile men usually doesn't care for the income of the women . If poligamy was in the cultur and legal we would see 20 % of men having multiple wives and 80 % of frustrated and angry men. The immage is "the Chad" who have plenty of casual sex or more than one partner but doesn't care for the women at all, and the "nice guy" who can't get a relation with a woman. Those who are successful and care for their woman are not the majority anymore, specially in the countryside and some low payed job areas where men are often unemployed or in lower pay jobs than women. A modern woman must accept and respect a man with lower income than herself !

[@wilson2455]

well said !!

[@Mike-rw2nh]

Hi Jessica, former gay for pay worker here. Love the content, especially when it shows potential clients they will be dealing with a real person with their own thoughts and opinions on a variety of subjects. So long as KZbin stays fun for you, I’m loving the content. Time to go for that run I was putting off 😇

[@msjessicajaye]

Thanks for your feedback :). Yes I've found the ones who have seen my content are overall better clients. I think my content probably turns some prospective clients off. But that's probably okay as we wouldn't have been the best fit anyway.

[@Traoin]

Thank you Jessica. I am in that part of the world where you have to show your status to marry a women and to have s. It is very hard especially if you are not born into the riches. This conversation is what I was expecting it have had but there is no one I can even talk to. Could you talk about 5.5 guys and how women and society view them.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@Traoin I’m so sorry it must be so difficult. Don’t give up trying! I’ll keep doing these kinds of videos sometimes to hopefully help.

[@george-m8x6r]

excellent post Ms.Jess..A very worthy topic..

[@pj2318]

Hey Jessica, loving your content wide and varied as it is! I’d love to see someone like you counter the content that’s being proliferated by other YT channels like Taylor the fiend, etc.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@pj2318 I’ve never seen that. Perhaps I will take a look. Thank you!

[@thirdtrumpet4446]

I think it's very simple: on average, at the end of the day, meaning, what someone will settle for in the long run, is with an "equal" partner - for every women of "value" X, there exist a male of the same "value" on this planet - and I assume that equilibrium is reached in this respect pretty closely - what "value" means for the each sex, is up for debate - but I don't think anyone living in reality will deny the importance of LOOKS of women and the STATUS/MONEY thing for men, the value not important here really - My point is, women's standards aren't any higher than men's - men's standards are actually just as high as women's - an individuals standards can be whatever they are - but in the end - they will most likely end up with somebody suitable for them, which will usually be someone of their equal value, or if not, they might just die alone...happy or sad. WE R ALL THE SAME SHIT....

[@msjessicajaye]

@@thirdtrumpet4446 I agree with much of what you have said. However I think men’s “standards” for engaging in casual s are far lower than women’s. Men are able to engage in casual s freely because of the lack of negative or potentially negative consequences. Whereas a woman has to be far more discerning to avoid unwanted consequences including physical harm, pregnancy, social shame/stigma, etc.

[@thirdtrumpet4446]

@@msjessicajaye Very true yes. I'd say that all except the possible physical harm has changed so that it's pretty much at least officially equal on the other parts - still ofc. a women sleeping with 100 men is looked upon badly and the 100bodied man is a hero (at least among men) and the virgin man is a looser - these are still "facts" that I don't think ever will change, it's just the way human minds are programmed. And the blaming women/men for something - I truly think it's men/women that are not feeling good about them selves for whatever reason - Me my selff I have pretty much been sexless my whole life - but I always felt IM THE SHIT still, I know I can get women if I'd try/put in some effort - but I have had social anxiety I think and I'd put my energy into other things - now I kinda regret it a bit, but it's just up to me - point being I'd never think of balming women for anything - I love women, they are the ultimate motivators for a man , I'd like to think - just looser men/women will blame the other sex for not getting the attention of the other sex - just have realistic goals for what you can get - then I think everything will work out fine - but putting in effort to reach ones potential is a real thing as you said - it's is not always easy, especially if you have some mental issues etc. and don't believe in yourself

[@RameshKumar-ng3nf]

So beautiful always ❤ In future vlogs one day, please share the secret of your fitness , daily diet plans etc. During excess travels what diet do you prefer to have etc etc .

[@msjessicajaye]

Thanks for the suggestion ❤

[@tooti_macaroni]

Greetings from Cannon Hill, thanks for sharing

[@lyonoliver4967]

I think you are developing you philosophy and insight very well.

[@mugsoft]

I'm giving up f@pping this Christmas.🤣 Love your intelligent content & agree always; except maybe using 'petulant baby-boy' on the punters - keep your view light & humorous so it doesn't distract from the importance of your messages.💁‍♂ Initially tuning in for the salaciousness of your posts (as you do), now it's for the educational/entertainment value of your interesting experiences (and less of a self-improvement guide). Happy Australia Day!😉

[@larryolden-z5j]

Jessica im from Canada i watch you on various platforms . Im a retired professional engineer and i really enjoy you intelligent and candid conversations. I would like to establish a contact conversation with you. Im thinking if i come to Australia or you com to Canada I would love to hire you. Cheers Larry Ps Let me know if you get this message

[@msjessicajaye]

@@larryolden-z5j I got it ☺️ strongly recommend a trip down under. Myself and many lovely ladies fully legally allowed to show you the time of your life down here!

[@lovepeace8918]

Honestly I never sleep with a sex worker, they have yeast infections, and std's and not only that they are easy, and can not commit to one man it is impossible for them. But I respect sex workers, and If I were a woman I would be one definitely, but I would also probably have wealthy husband, and escort on the side while he is at work. Thing is women only have to lay down to get paid, and get paid very well. Especially if they are at least a 5 or higher in attraction. If they are ugly they can still charge pretty decent, but maybe not get as many clients.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@lovepeace8918 Firstly, SWs have no higher rate of STI than the general population under a decriminalisation model. I just had my health check a few days ago and I’m clear as a bell! Can’t remember my last yeast infection either. Of course we don’t want to commit to one man. Nor are we asked to. Our job is to have many clients and sleep with them. If you want a girlfriend you shouldn’t be looking for an escort to be your girlfriend. As for the issue of women “only having to lay down to get paid”. If you think my job being an escort sleeping with men for money is easy then why don’t you do it? That’s right, because sleeping with men for money is really hard and comes with massive risks and social stigma. If you’re upset that working women exist, you shouldn’t be mad at men who create demand for our services, not women who meet that demand. I find this comment bizarre.

[@lovepeace8918]

@@msjessicajaye Good. I was in bad mood when I wrote that, I had a friend Chrissy, she was addicted to meth and was a sw she mostly did it to get a motel room and beer or money for her meth. she basically did not ever use protection, she would go week without bathing, she was did not care for herself. So my experience as her friend was not really good, I never slept with her, twice she offered, and I said no, I did not want to take advantage of her, of course she offered for free.

[@manuferguson8197]

Great advice young lady🤙🏿🤙🏿✊🏾✊🏾😎😎

[@sagnikbhattacharya9191]

Me being a Virgin watching your videos😂

[@msjessicajaye]

@@sagnikbhattacharya9191 My advice is if you are over the age of 18 (I hope) stop watching online content immediately and start going out to meet women to get the virginity issue taken care of responsibly (consensually and use condoms). Based on the numbers I’ve encountered, my view is that men who don’t lose their virginity until late in life are typically plagued with psychological and physical issues that prevents them from having satisfying s-ual relationships and being able to form proper intimate human connections.

[@monteceitomoocher]

As ever, an interesting and in depth talk on a tricky subject, corn is not nice stuff, very corrosive long term, and far from reality, my own standards towards the fair sex stem from a time when men were taught to cherish and protect women, opening doors, walking on the outside are second nature, what I'm saying in a rambling way is women are to be respected and treated with deference. Just my take, much respect and admiration from England.

[@simondorris]

I think social media and online content has ruined the interactions between men and women, women can nowadays get an ego boost and validation from ( guys online ) and this is the vicious cycle that has ruined " the game of love " i dont know what the answer is , but guys thirsting over and boosting womens egos online are making it harder for us blokes in the real world trying to "get laid " we all are the problem , society and social media is the problem, we all are too quick to hide behind our phones these days rather than talk to each other

[@GilliganVincent]

This woman is far too beautiful to be a S.W., that much is clear. I feel like she's an actress rehearsing for some kind of movie role, participating in a kind of method acting as they call it, but no, S.W. workers don't look like supermodels in the real world, sorry.

[@erynanderson3478]

I was thinking the same thing, actually. I think she's been in movies because I recognize her.

[@robyn8306]

??? You can literally book time with her on her website idk what your talking about lol

[@msjessicajaye]

@@GilliganVincent Thanks for saying so but yeah I am no actress lol. Most actresses make next to no money in their lifetime. I’m making money that’s for sure!

[@george-m8x6r]

I will never understand how some guys think,,,,Take a lady out, enjoy her company and treat her like a human being,,,this does not make a lady's standards too high..

[@henryshadowjet]

I feel sorry for those guys who are always walking on eggshells. But seriously, if you can't forget to open the door for her - that relationship is not worth it. If that is the "standard", then that is not worth it. But on the other hand, what you said about men expecting girls to be 10 out of 10, if that is true then that shouldn't be the case either. Let's draw the middle line and just be ourselves. If anyone likes you for who you are, then that's great. If not, who cares, maybe living single is better. Don't change for someone else is my thinking. Sorry, different principles, I guess. Same like you, I'm enjoying my life - though social pressures do get me curious if there is an easy way out, hence me watching this. On corn, it is easier - and some people can't afford escorts. Escorts are expensive hahahaha - but it is an option, guys! That's for me, maybe not for everyone here. But if some guys take this positively, good on you guys! I mean I bet this is beneficial for some people. So good job Jess.

[@JimmyShields-z2h]

I give history view point as i work in all male workforce before women enter, guys us talk smack, it way of letting off stream without talking to ladies about teir problems. Don't get me wrong ladies or women wanting a career before settling down is fair enough. Its fine line talking women about those problems in workplace some women get it some dont. But I still have standards especially when teenage boy slap girl ass in front of me, boy made excuse because she was flirting, I was right there. I was going report it but girl said no but i said if you change your mind, you can. This wasn't first time the next time at different workplace a senior worker touch co worker or SA? as hit on her few times before using broom stick which I didn't know. I had warn boss/family that behaviour was stepping over the line. That day of assault he blame her flirting n having to many beers because of all day function. I was FN piss off with situation, the work got the sack but situation got swept under. There was no discussion after that situation. My advice fellas if you are looking to find a girl, like me leave parents home, move interstate, i always reckon women like mystery men, work but have time go out on the town, remember give yourself time. But if you having relationship problems go seek psychologist.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@JimmyShields-z2h A fresh start is a great idea

[@ngochoang7829]

Can't believe that you were over weight in the past. What did you do to get back in shape? Gym and a strict diet? Maybe do a vid on how you achieved your voluptuous figure and at the same time be an inspiration for other women do to the same...👍

[@msjessicajaye]

Simple consistency and small changes. There is no magic pill or potion. I started by forcing myself to go to cardio boxing classes in the middle of summer. I would almost vomit and I’d white out my vision because I was so out of shape. But I stuck to two classes a week, then three, then incorporating more walking. Then I moved onto eating less food. Now I stay consistent and I generally don’t make excuses for myself. If it’s cold, I run in the cold. If it’s hot, I run in the heat. I generally work out 5 days per week and try not to over eat. I work out in the morning immediately after I wake up so there are no evening excuses.

[@theoisaac9948]

Enjoy your day.

[@theoisaac9948]

Your welcome

[@PARADISE-v9j]

❤

[@leighpike6572]

Insightful chat, I would suggest that some of the problems faced by younger people in finding a partner is also caused by the desire to have someone else put in the effort, maybe due to laziness or entitlement as well as misguided ideas from porn. If you want something, you have to put the effort in. A man chases a woman until she catches him.

[@msjessicajaye]

When you're being practically force fed the very best digital entertainment that anybody in history has ever seen for free, I can totally understand how putting effort in to in-person opportunities isn't a priority. But in the end the lack of exposure to challenge will cause atrophy to the mind and body.

[@leighpike6572]

@@msjessicajaye I agree, I see it every day,

[@12superoo]

This lovely, intelligent, and sensual lady is one of quite a few in Queensland working as SWs. However, Sydney seems devoid of similar.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@12superoo I was living in Sydney for three years up until two months ago. We exist almost everywhere if you choose to look.

[@ianarn]

You’ve not read the book “Sex at Dawn” by Christopher Ryan! But you’re right you can’t blame women for setting up this system just other men.

[@msjessicajaye]

I'd prefer we don't "blame" anyone and simply work on what is within our own power to change. But I mentioned this because it's human nature to seek to blame others for our negative circumstances and in that case it is incorrect and even dangerous to blame women.

[@ianarn]

@@msjessicajaye I still don’t think it suits the masculine frame to be really needy with women it works way better if women need men. Although it could also be said that men shouldn’t need “spicey content online” but then what would we necessarily define as “spicey”. In many Middle Eastern countries a woman in a bikini is perceived as pornographic whereas in Brazil it is just part of the lifestyle.

[@msjessicajaye]

@ I personally think seeing a woman’s body is way different to seeing her engaged in s-ual acts. There is nothing inherently s-ual about a woman’s body.

[@taiedoreiller9244]

I think men are in the same predicament. I mean last night my wife’s food tasted horrible but I didn’t say anything because I know that’s wrong of my. But I wanted to say this tastes like dog shed

[@msjessicajaye]

@@taiedoreiller9244 Are you equating what I’m talking about to being upset over the taste of a meal someone made you for free? The cognitive dissonance is out of control.

[@richardjdbone]

I don't know that anyone's to blame for how unsatisfactory the whole natural order is. It just remains for medical science to help us opt out of sexuality altogether, for those of us who just aren't cut out for it. It's not as if there isn't plenty else to do with our lives, these days.

[@msjessicajaye]

@@richardjdbone There’s more opportunities for things you can do with your life than there ever have been in history. The opportunities are endless.

[@petedonaldson3180]

Hi Jessica, love your videos, very informative! I have a personal question I’d like to ask you, is it ok if I message you on Instagram? Many thanks.

[@msjessicajaye]

I really appreciate your support. However, I have over 8k followers here, 4K on instagram and 10k on TikTok that I’m sure would also like to ask me personal questions, so that’s not something I can offer in fairness to my other followers and my time.

[@petedonaldson3180]

@ understand that, thankyou for your reply.