WOMEN want it ALL: study reveals what women want

[@antoniotorcoli5740]

When I finally left my wife after almost 5 years of absolute nightmare, she started chasing me and said: " so you were not weak, you were just kind since you had the balls to leave me". I always had balls but she did 'nt notice them. Because I was kind . I am still kind, but only with people who deserve it.

[@michaeljmyers1995]

I'm trying to find my kindness again...I lost it due to social media, and the dating world being hard on me. I'ma remember this comment

[@americusdeville865]

Nobody is weaker than the American Fefail. Men tolerate them . . . until they don’t.

[@garymason7517]

Never let them confuse your kindness for weakness. You’re not weak.

[@ryanb01]

5 years why did you leave sooner then?

[@mynameisnobody3931]

Sounds like the story of my life

[@dificulttocure]

The problem is not what they want, the problem is how little they offer in return.

[@changingworldllc1157]

Sheesh!!!! Bingo!!! Very deep and concerning

[@maxdawg]

today's modern woman feels that all she needs is a functioning vagina, some make-up and uh... that's about it.

[@viktorzet]

Gold! Best comment!

[@gregneilson939]

Absolutely my friend….they bring a peach!

[@asdzt123]

You nailed it!

[@joshuacadavez1191]

Dang, women cared the least about intelligent, loyal, and kind / understanding. That's a mind-warp.

[@KCN007]

Intelligent - Less intelligence means easier to manipulate and control the relationship. Get away with things. Loyal - Boring turns her off. Drama/Chaos is fun. Women want to have the one all women want. Kind - They want a “bad boy”. Shows he can’t be controlled or lead by her. Shows he will lead. He will dominate. Understanding - has self respect and smart enough to not put up with hers or others BS.

[@rdan6463]

Great wrap-up 👍

[@tombaily29]

The high rate of single motherhood basically tells you all.

[@monsterhunter445]

@@KCN007 those contradict lol

[@Lawrence-sk2os]

@joshuacadavez1191…yes, and that perfectly fits with the stated notion of many women liking a bad boy.

[@tbdog99]

As my 96 year old mother told me...women today want too much, and they are not willing to do the work or make any sacrifices to deserve what they want.

[@karlz9162]

💯

[@v.r.2834]

Is your mother free? Would like to propose her…

[@Ric_Roar]

Your mother is a WISE WOMAN

[@antoinemantoux6049]

Your mother keeps it real. Not all mothers are honest about female nature to help their sons romantically, and not all fathers are honest about male nature to help their daughters.

[@PaladinfffLeeroy]

Very based and wise woman.

[@CarrinaCarrillo]

A man loves a woman. A woman loves what a man can do for her.

[@TheHMSBros]

"Women are human beings, men are human doings"

[@hizzle1885]

@@TheHMSBrosunderrated comment.

[@emmanueljoshuad.parreno22]

It's biological

[@user-gz4ve8mw9l]

@@emmanueljoshuad.parreno22 No it isn't that's just an excuse for the behavior of women.

[@thecultofjohnnydelr.soulsw7010]

This slight difference could run into millions of dollars.

[@twofarg0ne763]

I've been married 3 times, so I can tell you what they want. 1. The ability to lead the relationship when THEY want. 2. A good provider, must be able to support their lifestyle. 3. Someone who has a good sense of humor, but not toward them because they take everything personally.

[@hastensavoir7782]

“Good provider” had been a polished way of covering up for Gold Diggers

[@Wisdom122]

Sounds like you are being manipulated and treated like a doormat. 😮

[@2beornot2beholy]

😂😂😂

[@soil-play]

LOL - fast way for her to lose repsect for you....

[@Gogetta80]

@@Wisdom122 that’s literally how most men r treated

[@rgmrtn]

Re: Kindness. Possible attractive people undervalue kindness because they are regularly treated well?

[@markdias8440]

You made a good point.

[@simonl4657]

Yep, had a 10 girlfriend, she thinks everyone is kind and generous... and they are... to her

[@gagadonim3354]

@@simonl4657 thats why they say in pick up if you see a 10 you should insult her right away that's the only way to get her attention. Because the whole world is praising her

[@ContrarianExpatriate]

Sometimes attractive people (women especially) are treated poorly (or even cruelly) out of pure envy and competition.

[@simonl4657]

@@ContrarianExpatriate they are treated poorly and cruelly by fellow women of similar age. This is also why beautiful women tend to be friends with each other

[@alienkishorekumar]

1. Looks 2. Money 3. Status

[@Robinson8491]

1 Status 2 Money 3 Looks Remember the literature professor who bangs all the young students?

[@ChanceBerryman]

@@Robinson8491 facts the manager at any job can smash all the female employees Like the high school quarterback or the bartender

[@b4ph0m3tdk9]

1. Status 2. Status 3. Status

[@JK-yi9gk]

1. MONEY!! 2. MONEY 3. the rest

[@-haclong2366]

I think that it's probably: 1. Looks. 2. Status. 3. Money. If a low status job makes more money than a high status job women are still more attracted to the high status low income job.

[@andrewcliffe4753]

This generation of women have been told from birth that they can have it all. They have never been told that everything comes at a price. This works while they are young and attractive.

[@Bubba-ij5ot]

"L'oreal - because you're worth it". 30 years of conditioning (pun intended) later....

[@ThePollTruth]

Not just that they can have it all, they're told that they deserve it all because they're all perfect girl-boss queens.

[@Formerlytrouserttrout]

That's what happens when parents value their daughters over their sons. I knew guys who rode the bus after highschool while their sister had a car bought by the parents. Parents are also more likely to pay for college for daughters rather than sons because "he's a guy he'll make do".

[@williamrubin4912]

Things start to change once they hit the wall and their value goes down

[@shirolee]

Yep.

[@vdl3984]

The things that I value the most in myself are the things they value the least in me. Quite depressing.

[@michaeljmyers1995]

All that matters is you value yourself. My advice is, get your money up, keep your soul and standards and when dating, date with direct intention. Direct intention scares off a lot of hoes and vapid people in general. There is no faking it until you make it in dating. At some point the jig will be up and you'll know it

[@vdl3984]

@@michaeljmyers1995 Thank you for your insight, it seems very good advice and I appreciate it.

[@theeclectic2919]

Well, the things they value in themselves -- beauty and sexual attractiveness are the things you value the least in yourself. They don't want you to be like them -- beautiful and sexually attractive. But you want them to be that, right? Men and women are direct opposites. It shouldn't be depressing. It is what it is -- challenging. Accept the challenge.

[@as123ferrdi8]

for what it's worth I think you are the salt of the earth. I am a man, so I cannot give you sex (that's what we crave for) but you have my respect. Keep on fighting

[@scythianking7315]

Basically proof women are simply EVIL. It’s really just that simple. They value negative character traits, while they dislike positive ones.

[@dr.borisbalinkoff5756]

I spent 20 years married and got divorced. I really don't give a shit what any woman wants anymore. My house, car, money, investments, time and freedom are mine.

[@Graymenn]

Intelligence and loyalty are two of the most important qualities in a person, in pretty much any capacity.

[@JessicaD.-vb9ho]

It's so true, I had the nicest guy in the world, but he had zero curiosity, wonder and it was so bizarre, he really didn't know about any topics at all, none, I couldn't stay with him no matter how (nice) he was.

[@ararune3734]

@@JessicaD.-vb9ho No, it's not true. I've known so many women who would spend all their time wanting to talk with me, pretty much every topic. I had a friend of 2 years, she damn near idolized me for intelligence, humor, kindness, etc. She sought my approval of her every thought, really the amount of praise was getting so old, but she still told me "I would date you if you were 15 cm taller". I didn't bring up the subject, I actually never even flirted with her, there was no reason for her to bring it up. What I've learnt is that women are sexually attracted to the most primitive of traits in men, all the indicators of power. They pick the "mute brute" they never have an interesting conversation with, then they find men to complain to about men they chose. Recently I met this woman who's over 10 years my elder, after an hour long conversation she told me over the course of 20 years being with her husband, she's never had such a deep conversation with him. Some naive sap would be flattered and conclude that's proof of what women really want, but just look at what she chose. Women are all talk, they never go for what they say they value. Sexually they reward the men they complain about. Do you honestly think a woman is more impressed that a man would speak 5 languages or that he's strong and muscular? I think you're deluding yourself.

[@kanjo4976]

Not according to 55% of the population…

[@kanjo4976]

@@JessicaD.-vb9holol throw away a good man cause he bores you🤡

[@cantrell0817]

Don't forget honesty and integrity

[@MinimalWave1982]

I was a popular Dj in Berlin, I enjoyed great reputation within our scene, there were always many offers from women. Those were my best times as a man. Then I met this woman who wanted me to give up my life in Berlin and move out to New Zealand with her to start a family. Later we had a child. When I then only became a average man who only works for his family and came home in the evening shatterd from work and had gained an additional 10 kilos, she no longer found me attractive and left me for another man.

[@maxdawg]

never underestimate the PRIMAL side of women; it exists, and it is very real. they say, "money doesn't matter, etc.," but it's all bullshit. the top 2000 things they say they want in men are DEFINITELY true, but none of them matter unless she's VERY physically attracted to you... and has envisioned you fucking her ruthlessly.

[@swisscheese412]

Very common story😞

[@cheikhniang2693]

The first mistake you made is following her decision ( moved to n Zealand)

[@MinimalWave1982]

@@cheikhniang2693 i know

[@Stanleys975]

@@MinimalWave1982 similar story: my gf left me after 3 years of being together as she said she no longer feels emotionally attracted to me, yet she didn't know why. I tried to use my wits to find out how this happened as I was able to speak to her shortly after we broke up. What I found out was: she truly loved me when I was at my prime time, when I was a leader, when I was winning. Then when the life turned around and hardship and struggle followed, her love faded away. I was the same man, just beaten up by life, struggling. Not giving up, but that's how life is. Once you're up and once you're down. Seems like she didn't like to stick around to someone who was battling with life, she needed a winner. A constant winner. It's the sad reality- women want the interesting lifestyle you can provide. Once that is gone, she won't stick around for long to what she perceives as a loser. Now I don't blame her as you can't change what you feel inside of you, but that was a rough realisation nevertheless. I don't despise women but when I'll be at the top again, I won't share much of it to any women that will try to get some freebies. Fool me once..

[@allenlin7333]

What shocks me the most is how honest these women responded. I always knew this being the truth but never heard a woman openly admitting to it.

[@petal9547]

I don't think they openly admitted it , they probably just started mentioning the aspects they valued more without realizing they were grading less valued the other aspects.

[@_PJW_]

No, if the question technique is sound it will exclude any bias. Women will only have to state their preferences, while 'admitting' nothing. Same goes for the better personality tests.

[@jlvandat69]

@@_PJW_ good point. A well-designed survey knows how to extract the truth and sort through the BS.

[@matrices3987]

They weren't honest at all. Go deeper down the rabbit hole neo.

[@anonmouse956]

There was a study that Wheat Waffles talks about where they asked women to rank things for themselves and they listed Looks as number four. Then they asked them to rank things for the average woman and they listed Looks as number one.

[@solice8844]

I want everything in life too. The difference between myself and women is that I’m willing to work for it and earn it without entitlement.

[@robertfindley921]

Kindness, loyalty and intelligence are the cornerstones of the blue pill. Hypocrisy, thy name is woman. The most important thing is that she receives the envy of her female friends and adversaries. For that you must be tall, have a handsome masculine face, and be of high status. High status can be in the business world, sports world, social world, etc. The more other men look up to you (or fear you) and the more women want you, the more you will score high on her hypergamy scale. Her goal is to win the competition for the "best" guy as judged by her peers.

[@hufficag]

They want a baby face in China, not a handsome masculine face

[@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391]

You can either love women, or understand them, but not both. And when you understand them, it's shocking how cold and heartless they are. The thing is, women think it's clever to leave marriage until later, but by that time most men understand them.

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

"The most important thing is that she receives the envy of her female friends and adversaries." THIS. THIS. THIS. You need to make a channel. Most do not articulate this correctly as you did. So few men seem to get whamin's true motive. Their motives are always 1.) selfish and 2.) f00lish. They're always rooted in selfishness, insecurity, assumptions, bitterness, malice, greed. They are all virtue-signaling and no virtue.

[@worndown8280]

@@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 hit the nail on the head with that one.

[@joygibbons5482]

@@joejoejoejoejoejoe4391 Maybe the society you men have created has made women that way?

[@MrAnonCunningham]

The only thing videos like yours have taught me is that I should stay single

[@madjunir]

It teaches how to dodge bullets

[@Craigers8637]

Dodge shallow women lol. What kind of woman values your wallet over your loyalty. There are plenty of women who don't care about your bank account. They just want a good dude

[@billlebon8690]

Or forget about attractive women. They are spoiled and hard to please.

[@allwhatilove914]

Attractive women are the women on the top. More beautiful a woman is more she can get and more she can ask for. It’s like asking rich guys what they want in a woman. They are also at the top and have plenty of options to choose from. Just like very attractive women. This is not what “women” want. It’s what women FROM THE TOP want.

[@glidinggolovinn]

@@allwhatilove914 all women besides sub 5 can get the same guys hot girls get. the point is that women are not valuable enough to commit to. they're all non virgins for starters and their personality traits are relatively the same

[@reedschrichte800]

This was superbly described in the book "Out of Africa" (written by a woman) about the male-female dynamics in Somalia. The men wanted one thing: a woman. And the women wanted one thing: everything.

[@ctfireinsky9554]

You should always ask yourself these questions regarding any woman you're involved with. Does she want me or does she just want a relationship with someone? Does she want to have sex with me or just want a sexual relationship? Does she want a wedding or does she want to be MY WIFE?

[@richard_from_england333]

Why would you want a woman other than for sex?

[@ctfireinsky9554]

@@richard_from_england333 believe it or not but if you look hard enough and luck out in her seeking you out there is the occasional anomaly. A woman who understands and enthusiastically adopts to your principal. "This isn't a equal partnership. This isn't about making momma happy so someone else can be happy. My Game, My Rules. Get on my program or Please do Fuck Right Off." If she can deal with that and her company is bearable once the post nut clarity kicks in then maybe...maybe. She might be somewhat more asset than liability.

[@ChanceBerryman]

The answer is no

[@saintoflastresorts2272]

Why? Before asking what she wants ask yourself what do you want or why would you want it?

[@lyingdogfacedponysoldier5746]

All relationships are transactional. No one wants you for you. That’s reserved for women, children, and pets

[@Shadow39X]

"Women are treacherous, you don't need that in your life" - my mother. Woman has yet to be wrong lol

[@theblytonian3906]

Capricious is more accurate, but as a simplified statement, I'd agree with you. But that FEMALE quality of capriciousness coupled with their intrinsic hypergamy fueled by familiarity ('boredom') within any relationship over time, coupled with lustful desire and opportunity without ANY social constraints or repercussions in the Dystopian society in which we live in the west today society leads to them exercising intrinsic perfidiousness.

[@markmccullough5873]

My mom told me that nice guys just get sheet on.

[@vanesslifeygo]

lol. listen to your mom. listen this once.

[@itsez1129]

Thats a based mom right there

[@Yggdrasill8]

You CANNOT look for motherly love from a wife (caring, kindness, forgiving, comforting, gentle, caretaking, devoted, careful, etc) but a wife CAN look for fatherly love from a husband (discipline, teaching, protecting, motivating, knowledgeable, patient, busy, confident, etc)

[@derek96720]

This is why listening to women regarding issues of female psychology is fruitless. What they say they want in public, what they think they want, and lastly what they want in practice are totally different things, and many of them lack the self-awareness to even realize that.

[@fayzaansayed3898]

Absolutely bang on you are!

[@vaibhavgurung5585]

Exactly! Love the self awareness point. Also I’d like to add they want different things at different times, so what they want now, tomorrow they may totally disregard it.

[@garbonomics]

Fantastic study, I’ve said it a million time before and I’ll say it again. Women do not want an intelligent man! They used to call them nerds in high school, smart asses as adults and definitely the least important quality a man can have. Hell it might make him harder to manipulate. Loyalty is also low on that list. Women rather be the mistress of the billionaire than the wife of the janitor. As for kindness. Women who are physically abused by their husbands and boyfriends routinely come back to those men. All sorts of ink has been spilled describing the psychological conditions why these abused women go back to these men. The reality is that women couldn’t care less about “kindness”. They just want a “better” man than the next woman even if that means a black eye every now and then.

[@grahambuckingham7295]

The reason no one will talk about this is because it is so bleak. But it is true.

[@joygibbons5482]

Funny, I always loved intelligent men and would choose one over a less intelligent but more monetarily successful alternative

[@confaffalator]

This pill is unusually dark in colour. It appears almost black.

[@garbonomics]

@@confaffalator “almost” is the key word in that sentence. I think it’s better to know how women fundamentally act, think and behave so you can act accordingly. No need to get mad at women for being women. Just keep in mind that you can always trust them to do and behave the way women do, as per the above. I think that’s fairly red pill.

[@ironmonkey1512]

@@joygibbons5482 sure, but it is probably 'adequately intelligent'- past that you would probably be put off by a genius that suffered in other areas of attraction

[@kevinwall795]

I think I can speak on behalf of most men when I say..."Quelle suprise!" I remember joining the police as as a young cop and being partnered with a wisened, battered old cop who was near retirement. I will ALWAYS remember what he said about women: "Snakes with tits." I laughed about it at the time, but 30+ years later I realise this man had simply lived and observed...

[@kentsesesele3532]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@JackAndTheBeanstalkr]

kind of disrespectful to snakes I think

[@stellbanne]

😂😂❤😂

[@t.78d]

Bitter men...

[@EE12CSVT]

Unfair on snakes. I like them.

[@naseeraashraf9207]

It's really crazy that nobody talks about forbidden books on Revandles

[@CharlieTheGreatest]

I checked out this site and found a book that really resonated with me. It's been such a great read so far thank you for the recommendation! I'm hoping it helps me gain more confidence around women.

[@integr8er66]

I have been married 3 times, so I think I can speak about what women (at least these) wanted. Each one wanted me to put everything I had in jeopardy for them, and thus allow them access that I could not control. Now I'm not saying I wanted to control them, I just wouldn't give them the access to control me, in other words, I didn't ignore our joint bank acct that the first wife ran the books on, I had a prenuptial with the second that I wouldn't tear up, the third, I wouldn't sell a house I had lived in for 25 years and owned outright to follow her to a job in a different state and live in an apartment, they all wanted to make me vulnerable to them, and I refused. They still tried to change that, some for a couple years one 10 years, but in the end when they knew I wouldn't give it up, they left. Lucky me actually.

[@neox9369]

This is what you call blue pill to the bone, damn.

[@stefanisilva2493]

Just a normal men not doing what many women do for them (not saying this ones would). Nothing new.

[@MACROPARTICLE]

They wanted you vulnerable and at their mercy? If that ain't narcissism, then I don't know what is.

[@marquistf1996]

@@stefanisilva2493 yeah I'm like this all seemed pretty reasonable request from the women. At the end of the day he's the one who can't keep a marriage lol.

[@paingain100]

I've found that they won't even talk to you if they don't find you to be susceptible to manipulation. That's when I stopped talking to the lot of them.

[@JonnyGee]

Yes, that rings true. I was sold this lie growing up in the Church, the 3 things women care less about, and I look back and understand why I was rejected so much. I thought I was supposed to be open and honest with my feelings and be loyal and caring...I immediately got friendzoned. At the time I never understood. Glad I've woken up to the truth.

[@billgreen576]

The god in monotheistic religions is controlling an abusive relationship. And as we now know people who are being abused cannot see it

[@secretagent4610]

@BuildTheFutureYouWant As for that last part, a lot of women describe THEMSELVES that way like it's a badge of honor.

[@troydunn8463]

As someone who grew up in the church: I can not think of any other group that so thoroughly worships the Lord of Lies as Churchians. I think it is because they are so (self) righteous that they never need to reflect on whether they are doing wrong.

[@theskyizblue2day431]

Abandon the heresy of Protestantism. Go orthodox

[@MrMrtvozornik]

@@troydunn8463 Your Protestant priests are borderline (if not actually) outright heretical. Protestantism failed through and though, Hell, even LGBTQA+ alphabet gang infiltrated this "religion". What was once noble attempt of ditching highly centralized and corrupt Roman Catholic Vatican instead became highly decentralized and corrupt heresy. Go towards the east and you'll meet women that talk about duty just as much as men do, because their version of Christianity hasn't fallen to heresy and patriarchal, monogamic, monotheistic non idolatry values are still held. Even Jung talked about (despite being grandfather of modern psychology) idea of "religious instinct" in people. Where religion falls mental instability breeds, alongside idolatry replacements *cough* astrology *cough*. Go back to origins and most orthodox Christianity there is, where priests are priests and not boy lovers, and monks are monks.

[@Sapanator]

I've realized this with my husband of 12 years. He is 6'3", makes around 170k yr, and has the other '6' as well. Back when he made 50k a year, but was very buff due to his job, women were all over him. Now he makes a lot but doesn't flaunt it (it doesn't show) and gained a few pounds, he's now invisible. He's still the same sweet, stoic, respectful, loyal man I fell in love with, but it's crazy to see the massive difference in how women treat him.

[@davidh7799]

Men don't get married to one woman. They figuratively get married to that woman and all her friends. By being tuned into and aware of other women's opinion of your husband, you have confirmed my belief

[@Sapanator]

@@davidh7799 what

[@davidh7799]

@@Sapanator you are posting all this information about you and your husband's relationship. That's not so good. Then you comment on other women's opinions of your husband. That's not so good either. Why are you doing that? Putting the shoe on the other foot, would you appreciate your husband doing the same things?

[@Sapanator]

@@davidh7799 Hun, it's an observation. It's not that deep.

[@davidh7799]

@@Sapanator well maybe think about what I posted. I'm just commenting. Another insight I have is this: your relationship with your husband is arguably the second most important thing in your life. Realize that, and be reverent about those two most important things. Have an attitude of reverance, because certainly someday you will need that.

[@shatan120]

They want to control the relationship. They want to be the moral center of the relationship. They want to feel intellectually superior. Then when they are bored with you, they want to leave without being seen as users. If a guy is loyal and won't cheat on them, leaving him puts them in a bad light. An intelligent man is a threat because he will make them feel inadequate. A kind guy they can take advantage of but they may end up feeling guilty about it. This explains why most women tend to look for free meals while guys hate dating.

[@slemire58]

From a 10,000 foot view...I think you nailed it my friend!

[@colinreese]

I’d like to give you the Pulitzer Prize

[@vsmith6109]

I get it. I look to my relationships for emotional bonds, reliably, and shared values. If one is perceived to be slacking and I'm leaving in 6 months. I grieved the loss of the relationship and I left him. My ex husband got addicted to opiates after a doctor prescription and it tore apart our marriage and he looked to a meth head girlfriend for validation and cheaper options in meth and heroin. He dumped me but I followed through on divorce when he changed his mind. Next 3 year relationships and he yelled at my mom and former step daughter actively alienating members others of my family where they were never allowed in the house. I tried to keep him by quitting smoking then exercise to lose the post smoking weight gain. Eventually it seemed like he would never compromise to my values to my family while he was good on being reliable and we had good emotional bonds. The sacrifice of my family seemed too great that I wanted to break up with next challenge. He told me 4 months after he left the house that he could have been nicer to my family and apologized to them 🤯. I knew he would never do that because I asked him. He wanted to argue about me wanting my family over for holidays and birthdays that I dropped it. I knew his ego is too great and he is better off without me because he would never apologize or compromise to my needs. I got a mortgage in my name so I wouldn't rely on a guy solely for his financial resources. Just emotional bonds, shared values, and chores reliable. He helps with 1/4 of the living expenses. I am in a relationship that fills that need. I am reliable, kind, and giving to him as well. Dating every week is important for emotional bonds. Just time to conversation free of our responsibilities to the home and work. We can date at Burger King or a nature walk. Under $25 we take turns paying. Over that number and we are going dutch. He is my best friend and the person I rely on most in this world...we can't neglect each other. We have to talk about stupid TV shows and aliens. We have to listen to each other's music and sing the best parts just to see the other one smile or laugh at how stupid it is.

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

Or, to simplify: they are pure selfishness.

[@voiceofexperience]

I actually think they equate kindness with weakness, at least subconsciously.

[@qmoorman]

Sounds about right. In their younger years, it's all about fun and spontaneity, so they pick the guys that are self centered borderline sociopaths. Then months down the line they complain that he's not loyal or kind 🤔

[@Lucifierium]

Nope. It's entirely about looks. Good looking men always have plenty of support and approval, and are taught that they can get away with pretty much anything so they never have had to modulate their behavior, this "self centered borderline sociopaths." Once that relationship breaks apart she'll move on to the next "jerk" and so on

[@GrumpyCat-mw5xl]

That’s astounding. Those are the 3 traits that I most value and cultivate in myself. When I was younger I had no problem attracting women but it so happens I had other traits that was attracting them but not the ones I valued most important about myself.

[@time8871]

I think the more intelligent a man becomes generally the less automatically impressed he is with these kinds of women. The more intelligent a man becomes the more he tends to value solitude. Its not to say he will not find these types of women desirable, but they will not necessarily be more desirable than his own free time and lifestyle and if they threaten that it becomes not worth it. These types of women may also come across as shallow and immature which tends to make the physical attraction diminish.

[@Bubba-ij5ot]

It's hard to imagine what a women can give a man these days that they would risk blowing up their life over. It's literally nothing. Why would you hand over the actual keys to your life with nothing but intangible unspoken promises in return. It's a scam that bad women have wielded over good men to such an extent that younger generations won't touch women anymore or start families. "Nah give me the ai fembot"

[@upstar21t]

Hit the nail on the head.

[@marknewton6984]

Very good points!

[@PyromancerRift]

Deep down, everybody know what women want. But it is a hard pill to swallow to be seen as a success object and nothing more. Men created the romantic love idea and started to idealize women to shield themselves from a grim reality. It is painfull to understand that you are highly replaceable and that she is sniffing for a better partner all the time.

[@53Strat]

Really depends on the type of women you are dating, I know enough women that will stick with their man. Mostly they are religious or bound by some sort of believe tho. Your typical western woman however, I would never trust that. Especially since I have experienced more traditional women now.

[@logwind]

definitely agree that men are the true romantics.

[@redpilljesus]

​@@53Stratbe cautious: women are biologically driven (compared to morally) and more alike than they are different.

[@superboy3633]

@@redpilljesus 100% true. All women are same subconsciously.

[@heraldbard]

I think that the origin of romance can be traced back to Queen Elanor of Aquitane and her " court of love " which attempted to make men more user friendly to Women by promoting chivalry based on ancient Celtic values . This led to the romances of the court of King Arthur which still have a strong influence on Western culture.

[@randyl5205]

Thanks! Can’t say I like your message at all, but you’re speaking truth.

[@Cybertron123456]

It explains why; when I was a teenager I was a total asshol3, I was really aggressive & violent , selfish , rude , arrogant, egocentric person and I got every girl I wanted.

[@muaythaiplaylist]

Dude your handle is Cybertron. You didn’t get nothin lmaoooooo

[@mrdobalina3451]

@@muaythaiplaylist 😂

[@JorisWeima]

@@muaythaiplaylist 😂😂😂

[@Gyatttt1443]

@@muaythaiplaylist looooooool 🤣

[@aftermath7]

bro thats my previous username

[@Cars1Gunz1and1Weights]

Through dating and having been married, I have to agree. Suppressing my kindness has actually helped most specifically. I am not rude, but I don’t cater to my dates.

[@n2bfw884]

Being kind just dries up those panties. It turns out war brides don't mind you conquer their village, it is a turn on for you to slaughter another and another age ad infinitum. They LOVe it! They'd get off on their captors killing another village vs. releasing the men from their. Those beautiful flowers.

[@Tgogators]

I agree. Men tend to take extremes with these things (myself included, in my teens and 20s, to early 30s). A lot of guys (especially "nice guys") are selfless for selfish reasons. Women who are experienced can usually sense that (and likely have a few "nice guy" stories that went bad). Unless provoked, I'm never rude or nasty to women. I'm straight forward and honest-that's what's gotten me laid a few times this last year..But there is a seduction to it, and each seduction varies by the man's personality.

[@alhemmings8554]

Fair point, but I find that It's easier to be decent, accommodating and transparent for my own peace of mind. You can spot someone who mistakes kindness for weakness a mile away, you see the real person early and I won't play games for anyone. It prolongs the inevitable if someone is a bad fit for you. I guess being completely emotionally and financially self sufficient makes my 'strategy' a little more sustainable.

[@Cars1Gunz1and1Weights]

Some of my kindness was predicated on the need for validation. That is the kindness I suppress. What is left is actually kindness that comes naturally, without a care of what it gets me. But I certainly have stopped doing kind things for my need to be validated by a partner, or even to prove it to my God. Still a work in progress

[@Tgogators]

@@Cars1Gunz1and1Weights It's commonly known as the "subtle contract" where a guy does a nice thing for a girl hoping (really expecting) something in return. When the confident guy does something kind, he doesn't expect anything in return (except maybe a thank you). Part of it is people pleasing behavior (both men & women do it) and there are dozens of reasons why it could have come about in our personality. It's the subconscious mindset of "maybe if I give more first, I'll get more." Along with the masculine energy of showing loyalty by giving full attention and granting her every wish, in other words, trying to impress. This had merit some evolutions ago, and there is a time & place to give your undivided attention to her (once steady monogamy comes about), but modern day it comes off as needy. The confident guy is more focused on other things, this communicates he wants her but doesnt need her. That's what's attractive. It also makes her feel like she's in a position of power- she's being given a clear choice.

[@Wolf462]

Fucking amazing! I feel like most guys know this already from experience but to hear researchers validate this experience with a study is still nuts

[@alexlaw1892]

Why is it nuts? If science doesn't confirm what you already know then it's bad science.

[@Shutzie27]

As a conventionally unattractive but highly intelligent woman who actually values empathy, loyalty and intellect above all else, I found this oddly comforting. The thin pretty women are welcome to the men who don't have those primary attributes as far as I'm concerned. Feeling a bit less envious of the beautiful people today, thanks!

[@gagadonim3354]

Common! You'll take a man these so called thin beautiful girls having if there is hint of possibilities to have some positive characteristics.

[@Shutzie27]

@@gagadonim3354 Um, pretty sure that's what I said...?

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

@@Shutzie27 Humans don’t chose who we are attracted to. It’s like your favorite dish, you don’t chose wether you like it or not, you simply do.

[@Shutzie27]

@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001 Um, literally not how the neurobiological process of attraction works, at all, but thanks.

[@lsjt8924]

You have no idea what a pick me you sound like right now. Do you know how easy it is for men to fake empathy and be kind for a while to get you to trust them? Some things they can’t fake for long? Wealth, generosity and the ability to actually protect and provide for you.

[@idlehourlinda6476]

I'm finding this sad and somewhat distressing, but also it's ringing true.

[@leoborros]

This guy gives you the HARDEST red pills ever in a relaxed, conversational and approachable way. Bravo, sir!

[@secretagent4610]

Women: Don't go for good character traits Also women: "Why do I keep getting cheated on?! Men are trash!" Can't make this sh t up.

[@secretagent4610]

@@sarahrobertson634 Some men do, true, but the difference is many men don't know what they're getting into. From what I've observed, many women openly admit to chasing bad boys but then go all surprised Pikachu face when the obvious happens, yet they still keep doing the same behavior which keeps giving them the same results.

[@secretagent4610]

@@sarahrobertson634 Like I said, MANY time men don't realize it, implying that SOME of the times they do, but many women are 304s on the down low which more and more women are openly admitting to these days like how more and more openly admit to going after bad men. Men and women are different with different problems and both groups behave differently IN GENERAL (which means not all). You can find examples of just about anything, but simultaneously one can also notice general patterns of behavior with groups of people, in this case, men and women. Most men with sense and all men with self respect don't chase 304s, but many women regardless of what type openly admit or showcase through their actions to getting with bad men and complaining about good men being boring or some other negative thing. That's a major difference between men and women.

[@secretagent4610]

@Blacque But if those women get with bad boys, then clearly some men are getting with women, therefore means that they can have them lol. Your logic is flawed.

[@secretagent4610]

@Blacque I never said all. I specifically said many. Hell, I actually agree with you in your second to last sentence.

[@secretagent4610]

@Blacque I never said most men are bad boy Chads lol. You keep putting words in my mouth. You're far too overreactive. Men are not to blame for what now? Can you be specific, please? I can't follow this. I never mentioned anything about sympathy, I was just stating the general truth. The fact that you're getting so emotional over this tells far more about your thinking than it does about what I'm saying. You may want to introspect and investigate for your own sake.

[@rdptll]

The key is to remember that a relationship with a woman shouldn’t ever be the focus of your life. They aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to a lifestyle. Family and your children and your vocation/hobbies should be the true focus of your life. Just my opinion.

[@charliegil2007]

It is a very reasonable conclusion. We should be kind and loyal to ourselves, don't forget that women are only loyal to their feelings. That means that once she has no feelings for you, you are done.

[@Dashriprock4]

This is spot on. There's no reason to be depressed about what's presented here. You just rearrange your reality to deal with it. I focus on my hobbies and physical fitness. If the wifey wants to come along for the ride that's great. If not I'm still fine.

[@michaelriddick7116]

"Women know women, and they hate each other." - Al Bundy

[@BirdDogey1]

I had a woman once tell me she valued success over decency.

[@lightworker2956]

I think many (most?) women do, that particular women was just more honest than most.

[@manmanman2000]

A man who sacrifices decency for success will sooner or later sacrifice decency in his personal relationships as well.

[@Tgogators]

There is another peer reviewed study out there that determined: Women can forgive, perhaps even (if the guy is lucky) have a tolerance to her partner having a physical relationship with another women, but not an emotional one. Just the opposite, men can forgive, perhaps even tolerate his partner having an emotional relationship with another man, but not a physical one.

[@hufficag]

It's good to be Patrick Bateman then

[@anonmouse956]

All the other women you asked that question lied to you. She was the one honest one. Do you still have her number?

[@rene-rv6pp]

A friend of mine just separed and his ex changed completely from sweet caring and all that to manipulative mean and all the worst in a matter of no time. Also took away the little daughter. Painfull. He learned the hard way

[@mbpm6135]

As said in Scarface... the guys that lay low, keep a low profile. They last. The guys that want it all. Women, flash, respect. They don't last. Greed is a murderer.

[@jewishmcloin1933]

Would you be willing to expand upon this thought? I’m a little confused but curious

[@mbpm6135]

@jewishmcloin1933 Flashy cars, mansions, automatic rifles, expensive dinners... these things are visible, and scream illegal wealth. You don't need them to conduct business. If you have the discipline to stay modest you can spend a lifetime in safe luxury without attracting police, FBI and DEA attention.

[@genxer74]

i was always good at school, so I naturally valued intelligence. As a young man I kind of assumed that translated into a large income. As an older guy I've learned that intelligence has nearly NOTHING to do with how much someone can make!

[@patnor7354]

When they say they want intelligence, what they really want is _fun_. Good jokes wothout end.

[@andersekengren]

im intelligent. i prefer freedom instead of much money. so i just work as much as bare minimum.

[@ararune3734]

@@patnor7354 Most women can't take a joke, and being funny won't get you laid, rest assured. Lord knows I've reduced quite a few women to tears but they still had eyes for the big beeferoni guys.

[@sr.favopossodeixarvaziosim4595]

It does if you work the right field, like IT. But I've come to learn the need for non-technical skills as well, as much as those annoy me.

[@Jaime-eg4eb]

That's not my impression. There's a huge correlation between many forms of intelligence and income in the modern world. Maybe not all.

[@ditpook]

It doesn't matter if they are attractive or not, they all want the same thing...They don't want it all, they all want more. Even if they had everything in the world, they are looking around to find MORE. Like drug addicts, the high you get from taking it diminishes and you need more and more until you either die from an overdose or die trying to get it.

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

This is because they are spiritually deficient. They cannot understand that happiness IS contentment. They are narcissists. All of their sense of self comes from external sources, nothing comes from within.

[@voiceofexperience]

True. A woman's desires have no off-switch. Nature never installed one in them, because there was no benefit. It would only have been detrimental to their role as resource-accumulators. The concept of contentment, so important to men, is completely alien to them.

[@rambojohnj.6117]

Best way to put it: The grass is always greener on the other side for women.

[@americusdeville865]

Have you seen the latest commercials for “Miss More”? Or the Chili’s “Dining for 1” commercial? The American Fefail is the perfectly engineered useless consumer/eater.

[@TycoonBarnaby]

Monkey Branching, the way of life since forever

[@tru_hart]

my mouth dropped at the traits that were dispensable because intelligence, loyalty and kindness are literally at the top of mine 😭😭

[@frankhainke7442]

Yes, I know, I am too intelligent, loyal and kind for women.

[@lsjt8924]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@e.p3509]

You forgot to say too poor

[@nikokapanen82]

The problem with these "good" qualities is that usually weak, poor insecure sub-5's have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits. All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.

[@scottmac3539]

"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."

[@cuatxe]

Robert de Niro couldn't say it better...

[@matcabliii]

HI enjoyed watching Heat so much back in the day but this sentence makes so much more sense with hitting 40 😂😂😂

[@linalg10]

SO TRUE!!!!

[@poloboy]

Not surprised tbh. The things they want the most are tied to what is more exciting, at the risk of missing out on kindness, loyalty and inteligence (to an extent)

[@Sagefrakrobatik]

My two issues with the study is the sample size and the date 2008. The study was conducted before the iphone dating and social media apps like tinder Instagram Snapchat etc.

[@fabrizi7362]

Do you think the results would be different if done today?

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

@@fabrizi7362 Are you kidding? If you haven't seen the drastic change that's occurred, you're either ignorant or naive.

[@Sagefrakrobatik]

@@fabrizi7362 yes I think it would be a lot worse

[@Sagefrakrobatik]

@airthrowDBT yes of course

[@john_carter8243]

2:40 = intelligent, loyal, kind and understanding.... women DID NOT care about! let that sink in!

[@TNT011gaming]

3:03 Finally somebody said it. The three attributes women value the LEAST (of the ones available to choose on the list) are intelligence, loyalty, and kindness.

[@peacefulruler1]

To Very Attractive Women, not to all women

[@honeybadger6313]

All the more evidence that going my own way was the best decision I have ever made.

[@mattzx003]

the decision was made for you

[@papachris8540]

​@@mattzx003explain

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Looks and height are literally number one. Women will deny it all day long but it's the truth. I've seen it countless times.

[@melissachartres3219]

No need for the word literally in your sentence.

[@slayer7682]

@@melissachartres3219 you must be a female, only a female would say something like that

[@melissachartres3219]

@@slayer7682 Didn't you really mean- that i LITERALLY must be a female?

[@slayer7682]

@@melissachartres3219 nope

[@melissachartres3219]

@@slayer7682 Oh come on! Didn't you actually want to type something like: Like... literally nope, homeboy.

[@jackreisewitz6632]

My EX was a Narcissist. She didn't actually love me. She just loved being loved, and treated with love by me. She loved how I made her feel, not me. As a person, I was actually irrelevent to why she was with me. Because what she loved was about Self - was focused inward on herself. Not outward on me, and who I was. I truly wasn't a factor in the formula to her, just how I made her feel. And it certainly was never about US. I was a resource. One she didn't want to lose. But I, the man, was no more the focus of her emotions that a woman feels love for a dildo. Absolutely a tragedy that anyone should be that emotionally maladjusted. To all men out their: Never stand for that from a woman. To all women out there: If you have no more regard for men as human beings than she does, then gasping out your last breathe alone, except for your cats, is too good for you. (Second time around I won the lottery. Some think I found a Unicorn. But it's not true. Any woman can choose to be a pearl of great price, if they desire to. But today, they encourage each other to be nothing but cannibalistic narcissists, and call it Feminism. Then, they try to blame men for the choices they make.)

[@JediTiga]

Arranged marriage was the most genius thing our ancestors ever came up with.

[@PowerofRock24]

I always hated the concept of arranged marriages. But after hearing about arranged marriages from the perspective of people that live in that sort of culture, our way is no better.

[@Bubba-ij5ot]

Yeah as time goes on, they make more sense - stops women chasing chad/tyrone, or blowing up their marriages over trivial bs and puts the focus on making the family successful - not just on the women being successful

[@GrnXnham]

Arranged marriages would be a nightmare! You have no clue what you are going to get. She could be a psycho who will cut your weaner off in the middle of the night.

[@joshb6993]

​@GrnXnham I think that sort of shit is way more common under our system

[@avishnevsky7394]

@@GrnXnham you can say same thing about dating with any person nowadays.

[@Letha-AnnCooper]

Wow! I always knew that I was abnormal. The three things that most women in this study find the least important are the most important to me. Intelligent, loyalty and kindness are what I look for first. That’s the kind of man I chose to raise my kids with. We’re together 50 years now. I recommend these qualities when looking for a life partner

[@duggiefresh8170]

1. Money 2. Power 3. More Money

[@tob564]

Tell me you didn't read the survey without telling me you didn't read the survey. Most of the top valued qualities involved wanting to have children and taking good care of them.

[@lukebruce5234]

money doesn't matter only looks rich cucks gets cheated on with poor chads keep coping you can become rich and become attractive you can't game over

[@michaelrickels7386]

This is really interesting. You present a study that tells men what we already knew, but many women on KZbin tell us that women really want confident men, and that looks, age, income etc. don't mean that much.

[@edheldude]

Women lie since they don't what they're attracted to. It'd also make them look bad so they virtue signal and say easy to digest things. In private they try to get g-banged by criminals.

[@schoolofgrowthhacking]

The three values that I as a man value most (intelligence, loyalty, and kindness) are the three values that women value the least 😂😂

[@miguelpatino3856]

Yup, and if you were brought up like me, you value the more "important attributes" the least!: Money: You can't take it with you when you die Looks: everyone gets older, and their looks decline no matter what Status: Who gives AF about what others think of you?!

[@AdrienMelody]

Intelligence, loyalty, and kindness are literally my three strongest qualities, how the heck does that even happen 😭

[@Tgogators]

You're looking at it how a man looks at it...Your traits is more of what men look for in women (along with looks too). Women have great value on money, looks, and status (but not like "popular guy" but more of where he is in life..If he works alone, he should be making money at it to be independent). What you describe are a bonus..Honestly, as a man, you should doing what you can to hit those traits for your own sake.

[@nocturnaljoe9543]

If you look attractive, then you will be percieved as valuable, no matter what character you have. The guy in the clip is talking smack and I don't even mean to look down on him. He is just trying to keep society intact by lying to himself.

[@worndown8280]

Have you been in less than 5 "relationships"?

[@masonsmith9619]

Congratulations, women don’t care much about those… but men do! Enjoy being a reliable and respected peer or leader of any group you find yourself in. You will probably go far.

[@AdrienMelody]

@@masonsmith9619 That’s the nicest thing anyone’s said to me 😂 🙏🏻

[@dwwolf4636]

Keep in mind that while intelligence may not be selected for as a primary factor...it does figure heavily in gaining/ being ( some of) the other things that are selected for.

[@halycon404]

If you believe that you're out of your mind. Some of the most successful men I know are also some of the dumbest. They've succeeded by being highly sociable and agreeable. Networking trumps competency.

[@maxdawg]

she'll pick muscles and a strong jaw line over intelligence. did you listen to the podcast?

[@FadeHook23]

@@halycon404 possibly to some minor extent, but the majority of cases don’t follow this exception. If you’re not already born into large amount of wealth, there isn’t much networking you can do from a economic standpoint, if you aren’t competent enough for the job position.

[@shk1903]

you are killing it Doc! hats off for sharing htis information to all the men across the world. Cheers and keep it up.

[@dd032894]

Who cares what they want. They need to worry about what you want. Take the power

[@upstar21t]

Bingo!!

[@dd032894]

All these KZbin influencers come from a lacking powerless perspective. Take the power back. We are the gatekeepers to relationships. If they don’t have what we are looking for, then they’re just recreational use only

[@nikokapanen82]

@@dd032894 You are talking like you are a Chad (maybe you are) but 95% of other men are not.

[@dd032894]

@@nikokapanen82women will use any guy including chads. If the money stops they will leave. There needs to be an upside for us too

[@linalg10]

Amen!!!

[@colleenbarcheski3301]

I absolutely enjoyed this talk! It made me, Wow! and laugh. Thank you for this eye-opening lesson.

[@42976675]

Sounds like intelligence, kindness, loyalty are taken for granted. Trampled under heels marching to get to the more hollow rewards.

[@willek1335]

The women who did this can't be very smart. There were 21 qualities for these women to choose from. It went from 0.1 to 0.4, higher number was more attractive. For example, we know Intelligence (IQ) is the biggest predictor of wealth. This was at the bottom of the pile. After IQ is conscientiousness (industriousness), but it was the 4th least attractive quality. HOWEVER, above those qualities was 2 traits directly related to wealth, at almost double the attractive value. They don't recognize the two sources of a high value men, they only look at the end product. .22 Good Earning Capacity .19 Potential Income [expressed in dollars] .13 Ambition and Industriousness .10 Intelligent They're idiots. :'D

[@EE12CSVT]

Getting more hollow rewards for the sake of it is their purpose in life

[@nikokapanen82]

The problem with these "good" qualities is that usually weak, poor insecure sub-5's have them. Loyalty is found in sub-5's because they cannot get anybody else, kindness is found in them because they are weak and cowardly and would not be able to stand for themselves or the woman, and intelligence is found in them that is useless, like not Bill Gates type of intelligence that is fruitful, no, it is rather something utterly useless in providing good life like knowing all the countries and Capitals of the world or something similar, that makes you sound intelligent but it is not attractive because it is purposeless and without any benefits. All attractive things are rare and hard/impossible to get.

[@carlosespinal17]

And this is why very attractive women are just eye candy and nothing else. I could never sacrifice developing my intelligence and personality to go for things attractive women prefer because in the end, once attractiveness starts to fade, what's left?

[@upstar21t]

Good, don't compromise who you are to accomodate monsters. Stay true to you.

[@Cantbuyathrill]

I stand corrected! This one is my favorite installment!!!

[@dend1]

Negotiable: Intelligence Loyalty Kindness Non-Negotiable Being in shape, having money It behooves us to know what we are dealing with guys. The human being attached to that awesome body leaves much to be desired

[@james3744]

I would have liked to have seen the results across three categories (below average attractiveness, average attractiveness, and above average attractiveness) to see what differences if any were found

[@larion2336]

Nowadays pretty much every woman thinks she's an 8+, so I don't foresee there being big differences.

[@randomgeezer3456]

This ABSOLUTELY describes my soon to be ex-wife!

[@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457]

Keep staying with her mate...keep ploughing on with hee

[@PowerofRock24]

@Random Geezer Hand her the divorce papers moments before climax, refuse to elaborate, and leave. Would be a kingly move

[@VaronPlateando]

and… the thing really is as suggested (addressing xx.s): refrain from all disrespect. usually, that doesn’t imply any need to bend over backwards in cognitive dissonance (of pretending, even).

[@dojocho1894]

People who expect others do to all the work have a long list of things they want. But the list is very short for those who have to work for all those things themselves. Growing up as a kid I remember my father telling me....what you want...and what you get ....are two different things.......

[@JamesEdwardTracy]

Interesting conflict is that I watched another KZbin video that stressed that being kind was the main thing that women wanted. Great channel and highly informative.

[@MaxIronsThird]

watch his video about kind vs nice.

[@_PJW_]

Kind or nice, women want that **on top** of other requirements.

[@JamesEdwardTracy]

@@MaxIronsThird Will do, thanks!

[@JamesEdwardTracy]

@@_PJW_ Exactly correct.

[@kennethwood6439]

@James Tracy, yes women do want kindness but only from chads. I've watched a video explaining this and it makes sense. Many women leave toxic chads but not kind chads. Chads aren't that kind but kind enough because otherwise they're not chads.

[@milicamarshastefanovich3312]

The 3 things women don't want are exactly what I'm looking for and are literally at the top of my list. Toss in a good sense of humor, a healthy amount of sarcasm to me, equals a dream partner.

[@braindingbeer3922]

i really wonder whether you guys actually watch the video or not. The research shows what the most attractive women (according to men) want, NOT the average women. The title itself is misleading, even the research's title is ATTRACTIVE Women Want it All.

[@gagadonim3354]

You are definitely connecting the dots.

[@ACEnBEAKY]

Wow. The lowest 3 attributes on the totem pole were intelligence, kindness, and loyalty. I totally understand why they want fitness and money, but I would've expected it to be closer. It's not the fact that kindness, loyalty, and intelligence aren't on top, it's the fact that they are on the very bottom, the most disposable. Humanity pretends it's more idealistic than it claims to be. Again, I don't blame people for wanting what they want. It's just the fact that something based on morals is the least important says something about our world. And women carry themselves like they're more moral than men. They don't deserve that assumption.

[@ura9390]

holy crap, intelligence, loyalty and kindness are all I've got!

[@marcinros2390]

When the researchers asked the men what they want in a woman: a beautiful , intelligent, kind, loyal , understanding etc. they said YES

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

It's sad maybe the reason I've been struggling in relationships. Those three things used to be my high priority along with personality but I noticed the world didn't value what I valued and people will ask me when they saw my ex why are your standards so low? I think most people (men and women) would rather get good-looking people (rich, good-looking with status for women) on their arms they can show off to the world and people can envy them with than settle with an average kind person. Most naturally kind people who are timid or not good-looking are more likely to be courted by predators.

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

Attraction is first physical. You can’t have sex if you’re not turned on, and you can’t be turned on if you’re not physically attracted to your partner.

[@Robinson8491]

​@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001 good thing money is the biggest aphrodisiac, you can have it all when your rich

[@Ikaros23]

Healthy people can only truly love somebody they respect. Beeing kind alone is not enough if the person lacks " self respect" skills. The reason for this is that nature is in it`s basics " Darwinian", and the people who lack the abillith to set firm boundary`s are most often exploited in both the work place, and personal as you say by " predators". It`s not their fault that they lack the skills to survive, but it`s their responsibility to learn these skills. The world is a beautiful place, but it`s also fucking savage .

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Correct

[@Tgogators]

Why not look at is this way (from a guy POV): The innocent mistake many men ("nice guys" make) is that they think women value in men what guys value in women..Not exactly true. So, do the best you can with the areas you can control & improve: looks (hairstyle, weight, clothes); money/security (do you have a job or a career going?, do you make enough to be fully independent?); status (this is where it's subjective, but a lot of room for your unique personality: do you have a passion? what kind of lifestyle do you live?? look for things that appeal to coeds,, if you like history- plenty of lectures and meet ups on that...anime? big female fan base too, lots of women at CON events).... Now have strength in those 3 traits combine those with the kindness (not ass kidding)..intelligence..loyalty (extra bonus if you are child-free)..You will be irresistible.

[@dhui777]

If Intelligence, loyalty and kindness are the least wanted by women, it says a lot about the current state of morality in the society, unless the women surveyed are not representative of the general population.

[@kaikrist]

I'm definitely the last three things, but I won't change in order to get a good-looking gold digger. I will rather be alone. ;-) I treat people the way I want to be treated.

[@slydog7131]

I suspect men would also want most everything but would be willing to let go of certain things, though those things indeed might be different for men than women. I rejected the game of trying to mold myself into something different to appeal to women, and I've probably had less success than many, but I've had my share too. I'd rather be me and find someone who is good with that than be something I'm not and be at odds with my true self.

[@kaikrist]

Exactly my thinking ;-).

[@ararune3734]

Wanting it "ALL" is very limited for men, because our lists are so short. I'll give you an example from studies about height in regards to dating, men on average prefer women to be 7cm shorter than themselves, but they are very unlikely to make their choice by such criteria, they're much more willing to expand their range than women. Women on the other hand ideally wanted men 25 cm taller than themselves (notice the huge difference as opposed to men's), and they were extremely unlikely to compromise on their height criteria. Their acceptable range is much more narrow, and they're less likely to compromise. So when you say men might want it all, sure I might want a long-legged, slim, angelic blonde with thick thighs and perfect tits and all that, but in reality I will find most women attractive enough and the prettiest one won't necessarily win. It works like this, if she's attractive enough, which to most men, most women are, then everything else is up to personality.

[@SahvonEdwards]

Thank you for a 4 minute video! 🙌🏾

[@patrickmarr7076]

Men need to realize that women see them as an accessory. Like their shoes, bags, outfits, clothes, car, education etc, our function is primarily to make other women envious. The traits women preferred least in the study are all things that aren't obvious at a social event, and therefore unlikely to incite envy. Good looks, ostentatious show of wealth etc are obvious to everybody in attendance, so they have more of an effect on audience envy. In another study women were asked how likely they were to leave an unfaithful partner. Likelihood increased dramatically if everybody knew about the infidelity, and declined dramatically if nobody knew. This suggests that it's largely based on how the man functions as an accessory to her reputation. Which also explains the real function of divorce. It enables women to spin a "failed marriage" into a bad bitch victory... as the envy of other women.

[@MyDestinyIsInYourHands]

That is some Incel shit right there.

[@bradc7002]

I think It would be interesting to have men answer the same question and I'm pretty sure Loyalty and Kindness would be at the top of the list, it's interesting that these things were not as important to the women.

[@ctfireinsky9554]

The issue your seeing here a thing called "Attraction Symmetry" People tend to assume that what they would find attractive in the opposite sex is what the opposite sex would find attractive in them. It's the reason you hear women say "Don't you think a confident and ambitious woman is attractive?" In short NO!! Don't have panic attacks around people and at least have a job but NO those things in no way contributing to your sexual allure. You also hear some men go on about "kindness, honesty and being nice". Don't be a complete bastard but never in the course of history have panties ever dropped by being "Nice".

[@Tgogators]

@@ctfireinsky9554 You hit the nail on the head... Men tend to think women want what men want, and some think that's how it should be...And Women tend to think men what what women want, and that's how it should be (that's the thesis of many of Kevin Samuels arguments). Making yourself look the best with what you have (being in shape, clothes, hairstyle)...making enough money to support your desired lifestyle. Sene of independence. A man should do that for his own long-term well being. However, if a man hits those 3 traits, and is intelligence, loyalty, and kindness (not being kind for selfish reasons)..He will be irresistible.

[@ctfireinsky9554]

@Tyler L You've never lost women pursuing money but you'll always lose money pursuing women. Women can smell alterior motives from a mile away.

[@angelg3642]

​@@ctfireinsky9554 Absolute but we don't lie when we say that we want "kindness, honesty and being nice".. Men usually try to deserve such girl by at least having the same qualities and striving to become better for her. Women often think they deserve better because they exist. We as men (the non feminized men with some masculinity) have way more strict morals and ideals than women would ever have. That's why we put more weight into such things. Men were always willing to change in order to attract women, we always tried to do something in order to attract a woman. The issue comes again from women... Have you heard what women say when being asked for advice ? "Just be confident", "believe in yourself", "buy me flowers and ask me for a drink", "just be honest with your feelings", "be nice to me" etc. etc.. These women have always told men that those were the most important qualities. Not even one mentioned height, confidence, status and competence (aka money or dominating in certain area in life).

[@ctfireinsky9554]

@AngelG when women say that they want nice, kind, ect, ect. They are absolutely telling the TRUTH. The problem is that women are failing to include 1 absolutely vital detail that eternally frustrates men. Women HAVE TO be viscerally physically attracted to the man in the first place for ANY of those other qualities to mean a thing. That is why I've had to hear untold men that I've known who are orbiting a girl gripe "I'm all those things! Why doesn't she want me? " I've occasionally told them the truth. "She doesn't want to Fuck you so all the niceness in the world won't help you."

[@ramamdss8037]

How I wish I met a person like you when I was young, some 40 years ago. However, never it is too late for a dose of wisdom. Thanks.

[@slayer7682]

the 3 things they care less about, that's harsh, especially them not caring about loyalty. So, they really don't care if he is sleeping around? I guess if its high a value guy, they are willing to share. they never see what they have, they only see what they don't have.

[@yacovmitchenko1490]

Yes, that pretty much confirms thoughts I've entertained for quite some time. However, anyone with that type of mindset will only wind up being deeply unhappy. What a lot of people don't understand is that the more wants they have, the deeper will be their unhappiness. If you expect a man or woman to make you happy, that only confirms that you're unhappy. Don't blame the man or woman if something goes wrong. The larger point is that so long as you have a selfish mindset something will ALWAYS go wrong; you'll just go on creating more and more problems for yourself. You can leave others out of it. Should some desire be satisfied, you find it isn't enough - or you find that you're afraid of losing what you managed to attain. Should some prospective partner check off all the criteria on your wish list, and you're fortunate enough that he's a quality man and reciprocates your feelings, then you'll still be unhappy. The situation will change - especially after the honeymoon phase. Or maybe you'll grow apart. Of course, you have the option of separating, but that doesn't solve anything really - unless the partner is abusive. It doesn't solve anything since the core selfishness remains with you, and you carry it wherever you go. One pernicious factor in this all-consuming, widespread selfishness is that the person who "wants it all" is actually the LEAST fit for a relationship. The person will know nothing about love, and will be quite adept at spreading misery - to the partner as well as the kids. The paradox is that someone without many expectations from other people, or one who doesn't depend on others for his/her happiness, is the one who is most capable of loving other people. If what this guy says about women is true, then it's a horrific statement about them and their chances of happiness. Someone once approached the Buddha and said: "I want happiness". The latter recommended to him that he remove the first 2 words. Then, yes, happiness remains. Socrates himself once said that those with the fewest wants are closest to the gods.

[@libertycaps97211]

“Women want it all.” is the most honest reply to the cliche.

[@mrrogers4591]

Women want it all and once they get all, they want more. Younger women are constantly dissatisfied with what they have now and just want more.

[@toony3000]

The best way to make female unhappy and angry... . . . . ... Give her everything she wants! 😂

[@Tgogators]

I've never understood the logic, but it's so true. I've heard women be like "If he won't stand up to me, then how can he ever protect me??!" in other words, she tests him. I recall a story of a couple (within 6 months of monogamy) she would openly flirt with guys when they went out (even in front of him). he just stood there and took it...Then one day, he said if she did it again, he'd leave immediately and not talk to her again for some days. She did it and he kept to his word. As she said it to me "For the first time, I had respect for him." and never did it again, nor had the desire to. She treats him like a King now.

[@OrwellsHousecat]

Wmn can't be happy

[@americusdeville865]

They know they are unworthy.

[@larion2336]

So much of what women do, say, think, is to test your mental fortitude, to reassure themselves that you are still strong. It's a brutally cold realization when you understand that. And the irony of it is their way of understanding that you are strong, is to ignore their weak feelings, ideas, beliefs, etc. and tell them what to do. It's as if subconsciously they recognize how stupid they actually are and lose respect for you if you take them seriously. Quite a conundrum coming from the sex who campaigned for equality for so long (but this and feminism as a whole can be seen as a societal sh*t test as well; one men as a whole failed by giving in to them. It's why women have gotten increasingly unbearable ever since).

[@rgj8044]

What I have noticed in my life is how women can be totally delusional about their attractiveness and worth.

[@danbaltic9678]

The reality is too hard to handle for them so they stay delusional.

[@legatemichael]

What an interesting study. Amusing too.

[@johnmcmanus6719]

The three traits seem to push for the indifference to cheating Intelligence: the caveat to this is he won't be making a 6 figure salary but be easier to manipulate and gaslight Loyalty: if he's indifferent about cheating it gives them a free pass for paternity fraud Kindness: they can be absolutely ruthless in family court when you find out it's not yours If that is the majority that's frightening although they might have put some forethought into it before starting the survey

[@edheldude]

They want a gullible man to raise kids, and a competent arousing man she shares with other women to father the kids.

[@marnycoggins4535]

I would argue that ALL PEOPLE WANT IT ALL!!! And it is just not fair say that only women want it all.

[@ignac1996]

Research like this is one of the reasons why, as a person interested in philosophy, it's hard for me to treat psychology as a reliable science. Treating self-reports as a reliable source of knowledge is absurd. How often do we actually want what we think we want? In my country there is a saying "Wine is always sweetest between the mouth and the cup". I always wanted to date mostly beautiful women, and when I entered into a relationship with them, it turned out that I didn't even like them, and I was only charmed by their appearance. Now I choose completely different women, paying attention to completely different features, such as, for example, objectivity, responsibility, zeal. Please redefine and question your values ​​when choosing partners instead of continuing to follow your glandular vanity instincts.

[@pigknickers2975]

As someone with a degree in psychology, you are quite right - self-reporting hinders psych all the way in its quest to be a real science. It is not one and probably never will be. It's mainly group think and some of the experiments are so poorly designed.

[@maxdawg]

this video was not about YOU... but instead about women. exactly WTF are you disclosing all this info? no one cares about the women YOU'VE chosen; this is about what WOMEN want.

[@planetary-rendez-vous]

Wanted : Mercenary warrior with experience with low INT, CHA. My build : Mage with high INT, CHA and has never been in a party before. Yoohoo

[@kliljkip3184]

Wanted: Stone age baboon. My build - a goddamn intellectual. Results can easily be guessed, lol.